My father works in another country. He works hard, very hard in order to earn money for our family. My family sees him once in 3-4 months. He's the type of person who says that "he's fine", but if you know him, you can clearly see that he's not. Several times in the last 12 years that he's working there he mentioned such things to me: "I can't wait for the moment when I can finally leave this place" or "Ok, only 8 years left to work there and I can retire." It breaks me. Completely breaks. I constantly think about how can I help him to leave that place. I'm struggling at my job (I work as a developer) because I constantly think that sitting and working 9/5 won't help him. I always imagine the day when I say to him: "Here it is. You don't have to go there anymore. Now you can be with us." It seems that the only thing I truly want right now is to help him as he helped us all over these years.  But at the same time, I feel completely lost on what should I do.  Thanks for any kind of advice. Appreciate it.

I spent about 15 days total over the course of a month with my parents during the Covid-19 lockdown.  I was really busy at work and didn't want to go, but my mother called me, nearly in tears, demanding that I stay with them.  At the time, their town was less affected by Covid-19 than mine was.  We live 600 miles away from each other. Then after the visits, I received the following email: "We enjoyed your last visit as we always do and you're welcome to come anytime.  But I don't want to take advantage of your kindness .  We don't need anything and will order food from the grocery store.  Why don't you take a break, save your money and enjoy your new home?" Now I received the following email today: "We miss you.  Hope you can come for a nice visit soon." WTF- which is it?  Come or stay away?  I'm tired of being yanked around like this.  If you want me to come, say it, and be consistent.  If you don't want me to come, then be consistent.

My mom had me at 20 so that means she got creampied at 19, as a teen. My friend said that she is such a ***** for doing that. She is 36 now and we are 16

Here's a little story about me. I'm 33 year old woman who has never moved out or anything like that. After much consideration I decided to get an apartment for myself. While living at home I helped out with bill, chores, groceries and gave them money for stuff they need. My parents are in their 60s and probably going to need more help along the way. My mom is getting unemployment for now and my dad is on social security. I told my mom about moving out my own and was very supportive of me. My dad is different story. He got furious about it. He said I was abandoning him and my mom. That I have no reason to move out. I don't need wasting money on rent. He told me that I move out he was going to either kill himself or start doing drugs again. He still very angry at me and won't talk to me about it. He says that he needs me in house so I can basically take care of them when they are old and sick. I don't what to think. I already told my landlord I have to break the lease before moving in. I don't have his approval so I just gave up. I'm done with everything.

so he's 20 and i'm 17 and we're together and he's SO HOT and athletic and fit and when we're walking at the mall for example holding hands, other girls will stare at him and even try to talk to him and i get angry!!!! why do they do that!! i don't want them to steal him!

My family bullied me and abused me my whole life but lie and say they did nothing to me and turn it around on me and makes me look bad. I'm still expected to be nice to them. If I'm not nice to them they punish me like I committed a crime.

My fiancé (28) and I (26) have been together for a total of 4 years. The last 3 years I don't come around his family anymore because various reasons. His family is very small and includes his now 60 yo mother, brother that's my age and his sister who's 20. Over the years the sister has brainwashed her mother into thinking I'm the worst person. How I'm a family ruiner, sneaky, how I love having their oldest brother all to myself. The list goes on and on. I've even found my belongings on the floor after visiting. Just horrible. No matter what I do, somebody is complaining or making me feel completely unwanted. My fiancé knows I've done nothing but try to have a relationship and I've been giving.  The icing on the cake was the other day I read my fiancé's mother text saying how she doesn't understand why he puts me before them. (As in her family) it really bothers me. Now because I feel a tug and pull war from his family vs me I don't want to come to family gatherings anymore. Whether I show up or not, I'm always hearing about how I'm not this or that. How should I handle this without putting my fiance in middle? 

Every time she farts, she pees her pants

Ok, so my entire life I can't remember a time where my mom didn't get upset and start yelling and screaming about things. Everything could be fine one day but the next day very wrong. As soon as I could move out, I did, but anytime I came back to visit, there was always something that happened. Recently, I had to come back to my parents house because my grandpa died and then the pandemic broke out and I couldn't travel back to my home because it was in another state far away. It was fine at first but within a matter of time, my mom starts with her raging ways. Recently, she was screaming and raging at me for not organizing my bathroom cabinets properly. Like I said, I have my own place and I'm only staying there temporarily due to the circumstances. My mom has always been this way but I'm a grown woman and keep everything clean while I'm here. She also makes comments like this is my house and I pay the bills/my house, me rules etc. Would you say yelling and raging at your child, (big or small), is acceptable and normal behavior? I dealt with this my entire life and really did think it was normal until I told a friend recently about that incident and they seemed concerned. She's not physically abusive but has always frightened me and given me anxiety because her moods and behavior are so erratic and loud. I'm just wanting to know if this is normal or if something else is going on here. 

My parents abused me as a child they never told me that they love me and I was treated like trash I was told that I am a worthless brat and was told that I could do nothing in life I was reminded of this daily and my parents yelled at me everything I have done wrong My brother would hit me slap me yell at me and belittle me and bully me my sister would talk bad about me to her friends and laugh at me I was desperate for attention desperate for love I did everything that my sister wanted me to do I covered and lied to her at the end she called me an ugly stupid ***** and laughed about me with her friends I was 11 years old when I told my parents that my brother started hitting me when I didn't do something that they didn't like they threatened me to get my brother to hit me and to yell at me when I was 12 my parents got me a bike and expected me to know how to ride it they got angry at me for not using it so I asked my bff to know how to ride a bike when I was 13 I started choking on water I looked at my mom and begged her to help when I stoped I looked at my mom and asked her why she didn't help me she yelled at me and asked "how do you expected me To help you" I told her that she could have held me and then she stormed off later that night she told my father I was disobedient and rude he yelled at me too I tried to explain myself but he took it as me talking back and pushed me to the floor and beat me with a wire coat hanger and told me that I should learn from talking back  Continue: on the outside world we looked and acted like the perfect family but no one knew how things were behind the scenes as soon as I turned 25 it was the first time I ever stood up for myself and I packed my bags and I told my parents brother and sister " I am moving out you guys ruined my childhood and I am never going to see you ever again you can kiss me goodbye" and I left I moved 10000 miles away and started a new life far away from my family and filed a restraining order against them  Continue: I haven't spoken to my family since then I am 69 years old I have a wonderful husband and two children and 3 grandchildren my husband treats me better than my parents brother and sister ever did and he treats me like a queen and he loves me spoils me cuddles me and he has been there for me he helped me heal from the abuse I was going through in my childhood  Continue: My parents never held me when I used to cry but my husband has my parents never complemented me and told me that I was beautiful but my husband has my parents never held me in their arms but my husband has Continue my husband is my rock he is my everything he saved me and we have an exiting married life and it was nothing but love I am great ful for that  Continue: my mother called me last Friday  and told me that she was sorry for treating me badly and begged me to let her meet her grandchildren and great grandchildren I told her that I will think about it and hanged up I discussed this with my husband and he told me to forgive her but I am not so sure I told my children about their grandmother and told them about my childhood and they don't know if they want her to meet them  Continue: I received text messages from my mom begging me to meet to forgive her she kept on saying sorry throughout voice mails and has been crying about it  Continue: I haven't spoken to my mom ever since I moved out my dad died from cancer and my sister died from old age and my brother died from leukemia and I never let them see their nieces and nephews and I never let them see their grand nieces and nephews when they were alive  Continue: I love my husband children and grandchildren and my son in law and my daughter in law they are my world I gave them the love I never had and they helped filled that void for me but I don't know if I should forgive my mom for mistreating me she called me again today and she said ever since I left she has been thinking about her behavior and she tried contacting me when I was 27 but she heard I filed a restraining order against her and my family  Continue: she started thinking about her behavior  I haven't forgiven my mother for doing this to me she also told me that she changed 

My mom had me at 20 so that means she got creampied at 19, as a teen. My friend said that she is such a ***** for doing that. She is 36 now and we are 16

 ... with a partner before - I had a child with serious mental illness, long story, left home now. He has a child from a previous relationship who comes and stays with us every 2nd weekend. We have no actual space for her so she has to make camp on the bedroom floor. She's almost 8. I don't sleep well at the best of times. I can't sleep at all when she's here. I don't enjoy spending time with the 2 of them together. I would like to go out and do something else when she's here. Sleep at someone else's house. That way the kid could have my spot in the bed, AND I could potentially get some sleep. My partner won't have it. Insists that I am present for family activities, BBQs, visiting aunties, walking dogs. Ergh I hate it. I could be shopping for clothes, or seeing friends, working out at the gym, or sat in a bar! You know, the things you look forward to doing after your kids leave home. Why do I have to be there?! I've done my time:I had a child &took my punishment.18 years of not being able to do anything cos of a kid. Yes he knows this, I've not shied away from sharing it. Can anyone explain why I can't do my thing whilst he's doing his? Why I always have to be there even though it makes me want to gouge out my own eyes with a rusty spoon?  Why even though he knows I can't sleep  and his own child has to sleep on the floor, he won't allow me to pop down the road and sleep at my mother's, or a friends place once a fortnight?

My buddy and I are in disagreement.  This girl is my father's first cousin's wife's niece.  I'm not blood related to her whatsoever. In fact the wife was adopted so her niece isn't even blood related to her. My friend thinks its weird. What do you think? and I had never met her until I got to college and we found out we had mutual relatives 

I'm 19 I was sent home early from college due to COVID and I am stuck with an agoraphobic family mother that keeps me locked in the house. She owns the house and shee made me quit / lose my job so I wouldn't bring the virus home to her or her dog. I applied for a new job & on the day of my interview she locked me in my room so I would miss it. She believes leaving the house in any form, stepping out the door etc will spread the virus (thinking its airborne) she go as far as to not accepting mail anymore. The mailbox is overflowing... too scared to see a doctor in person, go the bank, or even the grocery store...we've been living off off canned foods from the basement that were stocked up over the past year. She is also glued to the tv, when every I tell her there's problems with my life or issues i have with my school being remote she brushes it off, goes on a tantrum, or talk about something unrelated to REAL LIFE and go on about the movie she's watching instead. She used to take meds that the pharmacy delivered but started flushing them worried they were contaminated. Whenever I sneeze she asks if it's COVID and makes it clear if she suspects im positive i will be kicked out of the house. Even with everything reopening she refuses to leave the house or let me leave. How can I overcome this? I have no other family or nowhere else to go. I feel trapped even when everything is reopened again its like she has CABIN FEVER.  She's more worried about ME infecting her than ME being infected. 

I'm 19 I was sent home early from college due to COVID and I am stuck with an agoraphobic family mother that keeps me locked in the house. She owns the house and shee made me quit / lose my job so I wouldn't bring the virus home to her or her dog. I applied for a new job & on the day of my interview she locked me in my room so I would miss it. She believes leaving the house in any form, stepping out the door etc will spread the virus (thinking its airborne) she go as far as to not accepting mail anymore. The mailbox is overflowing... too scared to see a doctor in person, go the bank, or even the grocery store...we've been living off off canned foods from the basement that were stocked up over the past year. She is also glued to the tv, when every I tell her there's problems with my life or issues i have with my school being remote she brushes it off, goes on a tantrum, or talk about something unrelated to REAL LIFE and go on about the movie she's watching instead. She used to take meds that the pharmacy delivered but started flushing them worried they were contaminated. Whenever I sneeze she asks if it's COVID and makes it clear if she suspects im positive i will be kicked out of the house. Even with everything reopening she refuses to leave the house or let me leave. How can I overcome this? I have no other family or nowhere else to go. I feel trapped even when everything is reopened again its like she has CABIN FEVER. 

My parents abused me as a child they never told me that they love me and I was treated like trash I was told that I am a worthless brat and was told that I could do nothing in life I was reminded of this daily and my parents yelled at me everything I have done wrong My brother would hit me slap me yell at me and belittle me and bully me my sister would talk bad about me to her friends and laugh at me I was desperate for attention desperate for love I did everything that my sister wanted me to do I covered and lied to her at the end she called me an ugly stupid ***** and laughed about me with her friends I was 11 years old when I told my parents that my brother started hitting me when I didn't do something that they didn't like they threatened me to get my brother to hit me and to yell at me when I was 12 my parents got me a bike and expected me to know how to ride it they got angry at me for not using it so I asked my bff to know how to ride a bike when I was 13 I started choking on water I looked at my mom and begged her to help when I stoped I looked at my mom and asked her why she didn't help me she yelled at me and asked "how do you expected me To help you" I told her that she could have held me and then she stormed off later that night she told my father I was disobedient and rude he yelled at me too I tried to explain myself but he took it as me talking back and pushed me to the floor and beat me with a wire coat hanger and told me that I should learn from talking back  Continue: on the outside world we looked and acted like the perfect family but no one knew how things were behind the scenes as soon as I turned 25 it was the first time I ever stood up for myself and I packed my bags and I told my parents brother and sister " I am moving out you guys ruined my childhood and I am never going to see you ever again you can kiss me goodbye" and I left I moved 10000 miles away and started a new life far away from my family  Continue: I am 69 years old I have a wonderful husband and two children and 3 grandchildren my husband treats me better than my parents brother and sister ever did and he treats me like a queen and he loves me spoils me cuddles me and he has been there for me he helped me heal from the abuse I was going through in my childhood Continue: My mother is still alive and is living in a trailer in Florida alone a lonely old miserable women I will never let her meet her grandchildren and great grandchildren My brother died from lukiemia and my sister died from old age i never let them meet their niece and nephew and Great niece and nephew my dad is dead as well from cancer 

I have been with my spouse for 17 years now and we have 4 children. Since the day I meet my in laws I have felt like they completely hated me and dont know why. My spouse is very close to them and everyone lives very close by. I have caught my in laws talking about me and running me down. When I go to Birthday partys his dad will barely speak to me and I feel like his sisters are judging me all the time. I have told my spouse this and he doesn't believe it. We went to the bar the other night for his sister's birthday and at the end of the night I had to sit there for an hour while his drunk sister ran me down whispering things in my ear. I  am the type of person that does not judge people and I treat everyone extremely nice and I consider to be a great fun mom. His sisters will not visit me and they treat my kids like they are outcasts too. They will hug and spoil each other's kids in front of mine and my 8 year old daughter asked me why they dont treat her like her cousins. My oldest is disabled and they act like they dont want him around. Now his grandmother just got put in a nursing home because of Ms and his father moved his sister into her house right across from me and they are completely destroying it and his grandmother wants to go home and have someone help her but they wont let her. I feel like since they moved just about across the street it's just getting worse and I want to move but my spouse doesn't want to. Idk what I'm doing wrong and feel really depressed.

My mum has always been very strict and controlling. I am 26 years old and to this day my mum will snoop around my room and go through my personal things. Sometimes when I wake up, I will see her trying to check my phone. When I catch her doing this, she just laughs. Up until a year ago, she would call 20 times (not an exaggeration) to see where I was and with whom. Since I got into a relationship (a year ago), she has become even worse with name calling (saying I am a prostitute and a slut) when I would have a night away with my boyfriend. She always asks me how much money I have and to show bank statements - she justifies this by saying that she thinks I spend all my money on him (I don't).  With my sister, we were close as kids and always had each other's back. We would travel together and party a lot. I realised after cutting ties with her that she was toxic too. She would call me horrible names such as "c***" and she would always start a big argument if she didn't get her way i.e. if I just wanted to stay in and not go out, or on holiday when a guy showed her interest and invited us to meet but I would not want to go because I didn't feel it was safe. More has happened but although I have stopped caring as much about them as I did and focus on my friends & boyfriend who actually appreciate me and always show me love, I do still love my family. I am in a process of moving out soon (hopefully) but a part of me feels bad even though I can't wait to leave the house. Why? 

What are the best ages when you enjoy your child and being their father. I know the teen years are the worst but which years are the best

Long history of family estrangement. I'm in my 40's now. Never grew up with my maternal family. My father had custody of me at age 2....only saw my mother a few times a month. When I was 19, I went to live with her for a while. She beat me up, left over 50+ bruises on my body. I didn't do anything to provoke her when she attacked me, my mother has serious issues of anger and chooses to not get it resolved. I never hit her back that day but after that happened, I didn't speak to her for many years. I choose to forgive her, but she continued to hurt me. Many years later, I started becoming very I'll with some serious autoimmune diseases. As a matter of coincidence, my mother is a nurse practitioner, so she knew how sick I was. Even though I lived far away, I was always the one who called her, reached out to her. But when I became ill, she just continued to not contact me even during hospitalizations. It's not only her, my grandmother ( her mother) has never called me once in my whole life. After confronting my mother, asking why she never calls ( nor texts....she just doesn't reach out to me) she didn't have an answer and said she is just busy charting patients. Yep, that's what she said lol. I'm like...ok....I'm 43 now, so you have been charting patients my whole life I guess and to busy to call me even on my birthday.  A part of me hangs on....but a part of me wants to disconnect from this entire family. I have tried to be in their life, but they just don't reciprocate. 

So today my sister knocked my mom out, we called 911 and my sister went to the hospital. My mom got cleared by the EMT and I was told to watch her. Since the EMT's left my mom has been crying and acting weird, IDK if it's the fact that my sister had to go to the hospital, or if something is wrong. What do I do?

My mom rencetly past (bless her) i was up all night and i finally dozed off for a few,   i started to wake up but i just could fully open my eyelids as if i was struggling to keep them open when i saw a younger version of my mom walking towards me (she was about 40) she past in her 60's, but she had a shadowy presence about her, as she was walking toward me i instinctively said go away then i woke up

Me and my dad aren't close but there's also no hate between us guess we just never bonded like that..Every year I text and tell him happy Father's Day..Here's my thing ive been a father myself for 5yrs now my dad has never texted or called and told me happy Father's Day unless he was responding to me telling him happy Father's Day..Of course today is Father's Day and I'm hesitating about telling him here it is 10:56pm and he hasn't reached out to me I'd just like to get the happy Father's Day first for once would it be wrong if I didn't text him??

Let's say a mother is living comfortably with a great nest egg, thanks to her son who stayed out of trouble and has a steady job.  His faults: he's sassy to his mother. Meanwhile, a mother is broke, putting her home up for foreclosure, and borrowing money from several relatives and friends.  Her son has been in and out of jail, has five children by five women, and has no job.  But he's not sassy to his mother. Why is the disrespectful man hated more?

My sister was always bullying me since i could remember we are in our 20s but she still provokes me til this day. Me and my brother were close but as we got older he started hanging put with my sister. My mom was my bff when i was little but now we always disagree. Im schizophrenic so its hard for me to function at times and make wise decisions. My mom doesn't support my dreams she always says what i have isnt bad when i say i want something better. My dad is supportive sometimes but idk if my mom aunt grandmother and sister are. It seems like they tale my stuff away so ill have an episode and they want me to beg them to. Love m. My sister is a lesbian she always having fun with my brother. All the women in my family were saying i was jealous of my brother like once my mom brought home some candy and i asked if i could have some. She only bought one box for my brother i felt left out. And my grandmother said why cant he have anything. And i said i just wanted some too. I am not the jealous type especially of a man. I do get jealous of others sometime but i dont try to sabatodge their lives. My brother mom dad and sis were trying to get me to go back to the psychiatric hospital cause I argued with my mom. Like how is everything wrong about my schizophrenia? Even my case manager said i wasnt having an episode because i would be hearing and seeing things.and have delusions wich i didnt. My family treats me however they want the want me angry and mad

I like hanging out with my dad. I'm a girl and 17. I know lots of teens who don't like being seen with their parents. Don't get me wrong I love hanging out with friends, although I don't have many. Whenever we go somewhere and I see people I know they are usually with other friends. Most of the time I also get a "look" from them if I'm with my dad. What is embarrassing about parents?

My sisters boyfriend went on a drunken rampage with insults towards my sister. He targeted me too after standing up for her, even shoved me. Didn't matter to her though, she locked me out of her house and went to the beach with him the next day. Mean while I went home crying to my parents. Most my parents said they would do is give him a stern talking to for shoving me. That never even happened, they smiled and waved at him the next time they saw him. I know I'm not my parents favorite, but I'm tired of this treatment. 

This one is a complete head the ball. Foul-mouthed, rude, forward and completely without regard to the feelings of others. It's a miracle her partner hasn't either left her for another woman or even killed himself. She stuck her nose in my family affairs during the time of my father's illness. Even had the cheek to walk into the hospital room where my father lay dying. She had absolutely no business to be there. She didnt know my father personally; her mother and father did. She really gets off on seeing others suffer. Her own father has cancer; that comes as no surprise him having such a looney bin like her for a daughter. Has anyone ever met anyone like this and how do you deal with them?

I remember my mom telling her sister when my grandpa was alive who was in his early 80s and falling down a lot to just pick him up like she had done it a lot. Can fully grown woman lift and carry elderly men? My mom must've done it and she told her sister to do it like she could.

My father abused me in every way shape, and form, the most traumatic was the sexual abuse. It's Father's Day today and my family knows about the abuse, I disclosed 4 weeks ago. I'm not ok today, I don't want to see family members or be around anyone. I know they'll try to make me feel guilty for not acknowledging my father. I can't fake it today. Am I wrong? He has apologized several times but it's not enough 

She is 22, I'm 20 and my little sister is 17.

I am a 15 year old girl with somewhat conservative parents. They're argue every, single day. There's not ONE day where they don't argue. My mother is toxic due to her narsisst and anger issues. My dad NEVER STOPS YELLING. My dad is the only one working so he is getting old and can't work anymore. My dad put our into family into homelessness. We're in debt, and can't get out homelessness. My mother is a better parent, but she can't work due to disablities. Not only does this occur, I've been dealing with this for YEARS. I cry everyday about this stuff. I can't take it anymore. I have depression and so does my sister. My childhood was wasted on these people. My only escape route is the internet, and that isn't even enough. My dad has money and good job. The only thing he pays for is money and other stuff occasionally. I'm in a nightmare and I don't how to escape it

My husband and I went over for Fathers Day but he was acting grumpy all day. I don't understand. I got him a nice gift (a roku stick for his tv at his house, i feel bad all he watches is tv from an antenna. He keeps talking about getting cable but never really did it. I know a few apps where he can watch tv for free. Anyways, i found out from my mom they had an disagreement yesterday and when my dad went to buy soda my mom tells my husband and I "oh wow he said more than 2 words to mw today" but said it laughing. (My parents dont live in the same house but my dad comes over daily and they are still married. Whatever works for them i guess) Would he be mad at me because of the gift? Or was he still upset at my mom? I tried telling him I would help him set the roku stick up on Tuesday when we were in the car going to my inlaws but he just shut me off and when I asked him about last night (asked about where he ordered dinner from as i heard they ordered restaurant food) he shut me off again as if he didn't want to show he was mad in front of my husband.  :/