My maid of honor is going to be my sister.  She is naturally very tan, and I am naturally very pale. Being pale is something I have always been very self-conscious of, but for my wedding, I am planning on getting a tan.  It will probably be the only time in my life I will get a tan.  My sister lays out in the sun every time she goes to an event and then puts self-tanner lotion on afterwards, even though she is already naturally very tan.  So I know that's what she will do if I don't ask her not to.  Even when she hasn't tanned, people often mistake her for being Filipino or Hispanic.  (Btw yes we have the same parents.  I want to ask her not to tan for my wedding, so I don't look as pale.  I don't want her to feel self-conscious or not feel beautiful standing in front of everyone, but I also don't want to go get a tan and risk the damage to my skin and spend the money just to end up still looking super pale compared to her.  In pictures, I always look extra pale standing next to her, and it's usually not a huge deal, but for my wedding, I would really prefer not to.  Is that mean of me to ask her not to tan for my wedding?  I'm not trying to be a total bridezilla, and I know it's such a trivial thing, and on the day of my wedding I probably won't even be thinking about that.  But looking back at pictures, I don't want to look like I have ghost skin, which is how I look in pictures from every other important even she and I have gone to together and gotten pictures together.

My wedding colors are soft pink with greenery and hints of gold (inspiration pic below).  I don't like the idea of pink bridesmaids dresses bc my friend did that, and I was one of her bridesmaids, and it just looked awful.  All the bridesmaids were completely washed out at her wedding, and only my maid of honor has a skin tone that will look good in a pink dress.  It's important to me that my bridesmaids get dresses they are comfortable in, so hopefully they will be able to reuse the dresses again later on.  I'm not a fan of green dresses either because I feel like it's very trendy right now, but I will regret that choice later on.  I thought maybe a light-medium gray dress might work or even a dusty blue with more gray on it.  But will that look okay with the rest of the wedding being pink and green?  Any other ideas? Example of grayish-blue bridesmaids dresses I like in answers bc I couldn't figure out how to upload a second picture :)

Is it on the date that is on the license, or when the officiant says "I now pronounce you..." or sometime after? Just wondering after watching an episode of How I Met Your Mother where Ted gets left at the altar; wondered if there is anything that legally needs to be done in a situation like that where the couple didnt end up actually doing the ceremony.