I'm an 19-year old boy. I'm spending quarantine at my parent's house in New York, where my sister (16) lives. She's been dating this boy in her class who's parents are from Chile. Now quarantine has eased he comes over quite a bit.  Yesterday, and my sister was alone with this boy in the house when I came home. I just wanted him gone, so I was a little unpleasant to him, but instead he just gave me a couple of dirty looks. At one point he said to her, 'My so-and-so course is so hard, I don't wanna study for it.' And I just responded, 'Cool, you can go back to begging on the streets of Chile like your parents.' Out of nowhere his hand came and flew across my face, slapping me so hard I lost my senses for a moment. He then actually pulled me up by the collar and dragged me to my room IN MY OWN HOUSE, threw me inside and locked the door. My sister fully supported him. A little later, he came in, put a hand under my chin to make me look at him, and said I had gotten off easy since I was his gf's brother. I apologized because I was terrified he would slap me again, my face was still bright red from the first one.He ruffled my hair and patted me on the cheek and said 'good boy'. But today I'm feeling so embarrassed, this was a 16-year old kid, and I'm nearly 20, and he made me his complete *****. What is worse is my sister seems to love him even more because of what he did, and doesn't care how hard he smacked my face. Can I do something like tell my mother or is that pathetic?

My great grandma recently moved in with my mom and I, but I feel like I haven't been being the best grandchild I can. It's hard as she's not the grandma I used to know; she needs a lot of help with day-to-day tasks. The roles of when I knew her completely reversed. She was the one taking care of me when my mom was out at work. Anyway, I feel I can't have a real conversation with her, she's at the point where she forgets most things but also brings up a lot of stories about the past, which are mostly things she's mixed up (says my mom). I feel guilty as I just nod and smile, not really putting anything in the conversation. I feel guilty for not helping her with all the things she needs, and most of all feel guilty for getting impatient with her since she was never one to do the same to me when I was younger. How do I grow closer to her? How do I add to the conversation without interrupting or getting impatient with her? How do I become more patient and not put her care on just my mom?

Hello everyone, my name is Ben and I am 20 years old. I love my mom and dad more then anything but there are problems and I would like to move out more then anythig but can't do to funds. Where do I start? First there is my sister, who treats my mom and dad, and me very poorly. Contstantly insults me and puts me down, and ignores and disobeys my parents getting into trouble and doing whatever she wants, I do not like her to be honest. Next there is my dad. My dad has a big heart, he does a lot for me. But the problem with him is all he does is gets drunk and passes out all day not knowing what is going on a lot. He does nothing around the house because my mom divorced him and he lives in her house still and can't afford to move out, and this is causing problems as it is between him and my mom but that is another story, nothing at all physical but just too many arguments. So because he was always either working or drunk I really have never had a father figure. Though I love him very much. Then there is my mom who I also love very much. But she has lost her mind after she divorced him. She just bitches at both me and my dad for a lot of things. I get along with my mom well too and I still do, kind of just ignore whenever the bitching starts. But other times I can not ignore it so sometimes we get in arguments including one today. It was pouring and she asked me to bring her up the umbrealla inside the restaurant from her car. So I ran out there in the rain and kept looking and  Never found it. So I called her and told her. She dame out to the car swearing at me and how I could not find it. So I told her screw you, you piss me off. Silent the whole car ride home. I do not plan on talking to her for a bit. But I still love her. I have no friends so family is all i have but sometimes it does not work out. Ther eis nothing I can do. Makes me so angry.

So im 17 and my cousins are a few years younger then me and im seeing them for the first time in like 10 years tomorrow because of family issues and they are finally resolved now and one of them i used to stalk and harass on social media when i was in middle school trying to reach out and talk again and im worried its going to be awkward because ik she still remembers

I work alot and want to buy my own place. My boyfriend wants me to move in with him. He has a temper and is difficult but id like to date him but live at my own place. His mother just died and his siblings stole alot of money and threw him out. He doesnt speak to them. He went on a long speech on how he has nothing or no one. He lost his mom and sibilings and has no children. He has no one. He has no one. He wanted to win the lottery to gelp his whole family but now it would not matter because he has no one. I didnt say anything except im sorry your going through this. Then he kept repeating that he has no one. Wow..am i no one?

I've mentioned before about how my family seems to think I'm the only one they can call when they need something done. From installing light fixtures, to plumbing work to car repair. Most times I don't mind but there are times when it honestly bothers me. I'm sitting here and today working from home and my sister who lives a mile down the road sends me this text, "Can you come up here after you get off. I need you to move my internet monitor." I read the text and nearly hit the floor. She;s only got a 15 inch monitor and it's a flat screen. I understand that some people are not computer savvy but if you unplug a cord here just plug it back in when you move the monitor. And the monitor only weighs about 5 lbs if that much. Also, her husband and 35 year old son live there with her but she didn't ask them to help her move it, she wants me to come move it. There's a limit to some things and I think I've hit my limit. Short of telling her no, I don;t know what it's going to take to get some people to understand that sometimes you need to figure things out for yourself, especially this. That's like my mom calling me to ask me to come turn on her kitchen faucet because she's about to wash dishes. HELP!!!

My dad and mom split when I was 5 my mom remarried my step dad and my dad remarried my stepmom how ever my dad is the most bitter man I have ever had as a father my dad blames my step father for the divorce my step dad and my mom are happily married and I am happy my step dad treats me like his own and we have a very special father and daughter bond which my father was very jealous of he even tried to turn me against my mom by telling me that my mom loves her husband more than me not true my mom did cheat on my dad with my step father but last year I got married my dad told me not to invite my mom and step dad to the wedding but I invited them anyway my dad threw a fit once he saw my mother and step father I yelled "you want to know why mother left you because you are an evil selfish bitter ***** get over yourself" and I asked the security guard to kick him and my stepmother out of the wedding which he did my dad also ruined my step dad and my moms wedding  Continue: my dad also has done everything he could do to end the relationship I have with my step father and he would refuse to attend events if my mom and her husband would come  My step dad and mom have been happily married for 2 decades and my dad is still bitter he even tried to turn me against my mom by telling me that my step dad is a whore who sleeps with my mother for money not true he drove all his family and friends away and my dad even got fired from his job for his behavior. Continue: the only person that is with him is his wife I even had to cut him out of my life for being so bitter my dad is also happily remarried but he is still bitter  What do I do about this 

My mother is always anxious so this makes it even worse. My Dad is really Coronavirus-Phobic though all of a sudden and that is weird as he has never worried and it causes his arrogance. Here he is worried. So my siblings and I have not left the home since March 14th. It will stay this way I saw on the Internet until at least January. 

She obviously won't live and she is not nice so how do we allow it to just happen so we don't have to deal with her anymore. No one will shed a tear other then our Mom and no one likes her so how do we speed it all up?

I am 29 years old whenever I go out or travel my parent gets sooo upset. She says stuff like " why are you so crazy to travel" or " whenever you go out you need to tell us even if it's for an hour you have to tell us. So now I went to go get my nails done and went to do my laundry and I came home and she's yelling saying that I'm a irresponsible fool because I go out too much mind you I don't go out at night only on the weekends. I wanted to move out last year and before that and she said I shouldn't because it's a waste of money but keeps controlling me!!!!!!! What should I do please no stupid answers or I will report you 

my parents divorced when I was a baby way back in the 90s my dad got sole custody of me and tried to  hide me from my mom. because my parents couldn't get along then in may of 2010 after I graduated highschool   my mom contacted me on myspace and facebook. I tried to keep it hidden from my dad,. but in late September I told my dad id been talking to my mom and that I was going to meet up with her eventually and see her

I'm being quarantined with my parents and so far it's not going well. I go to college in Boston. My parents live in Kentucky. When I went to college I pretty much lost all my hometown friends, so it's not like I have anyone else to hang out with in the area.  Also, please don't tell me to "move out" I'll literally report you. I'm not from a blue-collar household where you just "move out." They pay for my college and no, there is literally no way I could pay it on my own for at least 20 years. I was supposed to have an internship this summer in Boston where I would have been away all summer, and arguably, never been back for an extended period. I'm completely miserable with my parents. I was oblivious to how much they sucked until I went to a therapy group for people with bad childhoods and realized mine also sucked. I just came to the conclusion that when I was little I hated going to our beach house because it reminded me of how dysfunctional we were and I would always end up on the beach alone, and sad. My mom's mood is extremely unpredictable. Today I asked to go pick up paint from the store (I'm not on their insurance, they have to drive me everywhere) and she screamed at me at the top of her lungs because I had "other things to do" whatever that means. My parents both constantly criticize how I look, what I wear, literally anything.  I feel like my mom is jealous of my relationship with my bf. She has degraded him for going to MED SCHOOL, and keeps trying to make me about our relationship and his family, who she has never met. She lies all the time, like when I was a kid she used to say I "kicked her" when I was sleeping with her which was just a complete lie. Another time I took my phone out of its case and she screamed at me that I was stupid and needed to go to a mental hospital.  Another time they took my phone away and both made fun of how many guys were texting me and what a whore I was. Which to be fair, I was being a whore, but all sexual activity I had before I was 18 wasn't consensual, so I Was going through a hard time. I never told them about that obviously. My parents have a really miserable marriage and my mom definitely feels trapped, as my dad keeps threatening to kill himself every time she tries to leave. They definitely rely on me for happiness but it seems the happier they are the more miserable I am 

My parents in law is staying in another country and mother in law calls my husband everyday and speak at least 15 minutes with him.  On weekends she calls in the morning and speak to him for 30 mins to maybe up to an hour. Again, she contacts him evening before her sleep and speak to him another 30 mins to 1 hour . Now this sort of bothers me because i feel she is having unhealthy level of dependency on her son. If she cannot get hold of him , she will call me. And she will repeatedly call both of us 2 to 3 times until one of us picks. This sort of desperation sometimes annoys me because shes behaving as if the whole world revolves around her son. One day, we were outside and somehow forgot to take the phone with us. We came back by evening and saw many miscalls both on my phone and my hus's phone. There were few miscalls from my parents as well. We instantly figured what had happened. Husband immediately called mother in law back and she almost burst into tears. She said she couldn't sleep without hearing his voice!  I was so frustrated but my husband keeps asking me to be compassionate because of her age (she's 65). But  i'm concerned because we might live with her in the future and this unhealthy attachment needs to be nipped from bud.  Am i being dramatic? or should I be more compassionate to her feelings?

hi im sophia and im 13 years old. my mom doesnt know that im always sad, i use weed and nicotine to cope with my sadness, she doesnt know it rlly helps me cope. like 2 weeks ago, she found a puff bar in my room, and to this day she bullies me for it. she always takes my phone until i finish my online school work, today i asked her for my phone back and she goes "why? so u can meet up with ur friends and buy drugs? do u think its cool to smoke?" yesterday it was 3 am and i cldnt sleep so i go up to her and i say "mom i cant sleep" and she says "go get a vape honey maybe that will help u sleep" but she said it in such an evil way and it hurt my feelings. then i was drawing and some ink got on my lips, she comes up to me and smells my lips and goes "whats on ur lips?" i say "idk its probably the ink from the pen im using" she takes the pen, smells it and puts it into a ziploc bag and says "oh so now ur making vapes with a pen" and im like "wtf im litterally drawing" she goes "whatever u drug addict". she wont stop, all she does is bully me abt it. its sad..

I know not a lot of people use yahoo answers but I need advice. my parents abuse me physically and sometimes emotionally. up until the age 11 I thought it was normal because I am African but it keeps on getting worse. it can be normal things like lying about some thing or hitting my brothers then it can be simple things like taking something in their room or leaving the light on. they beat me with a big stick that is like a thick spatula that's half a metre long. the beating a gone so bad that social workers came in because my brothers said that they beat him a lot then the had to interview every one in the family but they left when they couldn't find everything. and a while after they went back to beating us I got marks all over my body now and I've tried everything from talking to arguing but I just get beat anyways. the only thing I haven't tried was call ChildLine but I think it just better to run away from home if anyone knows what I can do please message me thank you    

Me casé hace 5 años. Mi esposo me trajo a USA. Cuando vine a vivir a USA acepte vivir con sus padres y su hermano la relación con ellos no era buena, pero tampoco mala, teníamos altas y bajas. Tuve muchos problemas con mi esposo porque el me agredia físicamente y verbalmente . Sus padres estando ahí casi no intervenían. Luego de 3 años Cometí el error de comprar casa con el le pedí que no trajera a vivir a sus familia con nosotros y no me hizo caso algunos. Aquí en la casa vivimos nuevamente con su familia. El punto es que su mamá se cree la señora de la casa que con tanto esfuerzo compramos. Cuando hago limpieza y muevo sus cosas se enoja, hace poco compro muchos huevos y mi esposo le dijo que no iba a caber en la nevera y se enojo de tal manera que no entendí el porque. Todo le molesta y es tanto que las dos tenemos nuestras propias cosas en la cocina o sea no veo esa unidad familiar. Lo que me molesta es que yo me tengo que aguantar los genios de sus padres conmigo y yo siempre soy buena con ellos y respetuoso. Ella me deja de hablar y yo siempre termino hablándole pero me siento cansada. Mi esposo no me deja ayudar a mi familia, me dice que i puedo traer a nadie a USA que el no me trajo para yo estar pidiendo a mi familia y yo he trabajado mucho aquí y ni un regalo puedo hacerle a ellos todo tiene que ser escondido. Y el le regala a sus hermanos y sobrinos en navidad y cuando cumple años y yo no puedo. Me quiero separar por egoísta y por hacer mi vida tan miserable. 

I have a cousin that's 11 years old that gets angry and annoyed easily and I can tell it's not a normal behavior for someone his age. For example he's always glued to either a phone or his video games and when he's playing games he always seems to be yelling at his friends or calling them names and when he's on a phone watch videos and what not if if his mom or grandma tell him to put down the phone he starts yelling at them and sometimes when they tell him something he mocks them for some reason. He also seems to have trouble focusing in school like right now with the quarantine and all he has classes online and my aunt has to keep telling him to focus on what the teacher is saying because he just wants to be on the phone and if my aunt threatening to take the phone away he starts yelling again. It's something that as his cousin worries me because he doesn't act like a normal kid. My mom has tried telling my aunt to get him checked out for that but she refuses to believe that there might be something wrong with him 

My cousin by marriage cousin just died and like I'm like I'm sorry for your lost but I don't have want to use the "word "I don't care . But, it's not that I can't relate I had that  cousins died. Like her dad had died and I had I knew that she wasn't close to him but, I cared because my dad passed away I can feel her pain . Then she goes and say oh she was my blood cousin. I'm like okay... I don't want to seem like I'm evil because I'm not. I just don't care. I'm sorry that you going through pain... I had people closed to me that passed... like my grandma on my dad side had passed and we wasn't close and that she blames things on me and I felt bad but I really didn't have a feeling.

My mom has been very unpleasant to be around lately. Last night she got into a fight with me and my dad saying that we always make her out to be the bad guy. Lately though she's just gotten into this thing where she talks to my dad in a you're dumb kind of tone or it's very sarcastic. She raises her voice/yells at my grandpa a lot. I don't think she was expecting my grandpa to yell back but he finally did. My dad snapped back at her yesterday too and she got pissed off about it. She said they can never have a conversation because my dad is always so negative and she said she's tired of it.  She got mad at me too because I defend my dad. But I just hear the tone she uses when she talks to them and I just think it's only a matter of time before someone snaps back because who is gonna tolerate being spoken to like that for very long. So now my mom and dad and fighting and it's gonna be this awkward tension for the next 5 days until my mom gets over it. How do I deal with a mom like this. It feels like walking on egg shells with her. I never know what's gonna piss her off.  I live at home with them and I want to move out and get away from it but I only make 48k a year before taxes and deductions, around 37k for the year after taxes and deductions. I don't see a house purchasse being in my reach any time soon because most houses in the town are like 200k+. And I can't see myself throwing away money to rent with the kind of apartments you get.

My heart is racing right now I don't know what to do I live with my parents two brothers and sister and my uncle and cousins (a girl and boy) I just went to have a shower and found a very small camera tucked in our medicine cabinet I feel sick but don't want to bring chaos into the family, what on earth do I do? Please help 

How do you deal with your parents playing favoritism, siding with your siblings more than you (we are all grown adults)? My mom always claims that she sees me as the best child as I help out the most and knows more than my older siblings. But then she criticizes me the most with every little thing. She tries to control what I do and the decisions I make. Like dating, she has an issue with me going out with my bf or staying a few days over at his place. All the normal things a couple does, she makes an issue out of it. Whereas, my brother would do the same thing with his gf and my mom would be totally ok with it. Mind you, is not that she hates my bf or have something against him personally. She even said she can see he is a good guy. Also, no matter how much she complains about my brother, in the end, she'll help him and let him do what he wants, and make excuses for him. But if is me, she'll just yell at me and say negative things, and she never admits she's wrong or apologize for anything. Any decisions I make, if she doesn't like it, she would keep bringing it up, criticize about it and try to make me go with her decisions. She never respects me decisions and just be happy for me unless I do what she says.

Because surely when confronting them, you can set things right instead of, say, withdrawing out of cowardice and hating them in place of action. Ps when I say 'afford', this would be relative to the costs of losing the confrontation, such as losing your job or losing your loved ones or losing your life etc

I am 11 years old

As a kid I was in trouble for lying. Now as an adult I am in trouble for not lying.

He lies about where he goes, what he does in the day and things hes bought with his own money. He never smokes or does drugs. I dont understand why he lies as there's no need, as the things he does are perfectly fine. He taunts us about the fact he lies and says we deserve a liar for a son. He says he doesnt feel bad at all for lying to us, as it gets him "freedom", and gets us "off his back". He brags about it too to his friends and cousins, who are disgusted at him, and they think he does it to hurt us. Some have alienated him. My son says it's his rep, so he needs to lie so he's seen as cool and not as a "good son". Instead he wants to be known as a terrible son. He never lies outside the house.Recently he hasn't lied, but says it's just because he can't go out due to lockdown. 

My dad doesn't live with my family and me because he is an alcoholic . Right now he is trying to get his life together and stop trying to drink all the time . I'm really proud of him but the pain he caused my whole family is really bad . He made my family go broke and much more I won't go into detail . Is it bad that I don't want him to get back with my mom and move back in with us it really stressing me out ): (Sorry for my grammar English isn't my first language)

My daughter is turning 12 next week and constantly portrays herself as a h*e. I believe it is because of the people her father brings around. Our marriage is so broken and he makes me share a boyfriend with him and it's stressful to say the least! I hate it. This is my safe space. My life is falling apart and I need advice desperately. Please help.  Where can I acquire a nice pair of sandals to beat her with. The longer she's out the better. She needs to learn her lesson. Thanks in advance!

Tonight, I bought a book that my mom and I wanted. My mom was going to pay but I offered to instead. My mom thought it was expensive but still within budget. I ended up purchasing it and I always say the total out loud just to confirm the price. Is this rude to mention a total out loud? Even when my mom is going to buy something and I help her on the computer, I even say the total and she asks me to tell her the total just out of curiosity. I always say the price before I click on submit order, I don't know why.

So first, let me explain what is causing me to write this. After a long day spent taking my friend to the hospital and buying her some candy after a blood draw, I arrive home at 7pm, a good time. He isn't mad about that, he doesn't mention it. However, I hang out around him a little trying to gain enough courage to tell him I'm going to the lake on Thursday, something I feel I shouldn't be terrified of asking. I finally tell him and his response is an exasperated "Why??" I am confused because I don't really have a reason aside from me wanting to and I thought that would be obvious - there isn't much merit to going to the Lake other than wanting to unless you just want to get sun burnt. So, I voice that and that throws him into a fit of aggression, asserting that "[I] will get hurt and [he] won't know where [I am]." However, I just told him I was going to the Lake? Apparently he wanted me to tell him in graphic detail why I could possibly want to be anywhere other than my house. I'm 21 years old and moving out very soon, but he still acts like he needs to know every detail. Even non-existent details. It's for these reasons that I hold back on doing things with my friends and have become a hermit. Depression is a familiar thing now that wasn't there before, but he doesn't care. I don't want our last months together to be brutal...but I will not put his happiness before mine anymore and I don't understand why he can't accept that.

I was about to leave to get food today. My dad suddenly started talking to me and kept talking to me. I was patient and did talk but I was starving. He then said we'll see, like he was winding down the conversation. As I opened my mouth again to say I was going to get food, he went on and kept talking. I then listened more but I was so hungry. I then said I am going to get something to eat. Was I being rude?

Since he refuses to give it how do I give it to myself. He is a very arrogant person and also very ignorant. When I was a kid he was not like this though I think always a little arrogant by choice.

Right now my sister will not speak to me and so I find it exciting. It seems like a right of passage and I have always disliked my sister anyway (she hates me but I refuse to hate). She is a bad person.

Some of my relatives they cry for hours and they scream if they very upset. They say they keep getting teased or they get insulted. The thing is it not a big deal for me because everyone get insulted or teased once in while including me. I do get upset but I dont resort to crying tantrums. Is there any reason for this or is there a way to soothe them? 

I plan on coming out to my parents today, but how can i ask for a flag?

My mom has always a had a dark side. It never took much to trigger her my whole life. Now she's been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer and needs care. I could never be with her for more than 3 days before and now I have to be with her for at least a week. She's worse now than ever before. I get she's dying, but I'm literally shaking inside due to her emotional abuse. Nothing I do to help makes her happy. She lives in a tiny town away from all civilization, so finding things for her to do is out of the question. Home care is out, again because of her location and also because she is low income. She doesn't have any friends due to her explosive behavior. I don't know what to do at this point. I didn't want to leave her alone for long periods, but at this point I don't care if I never see her again. I know that's terrible to say, but it's just how I feel. Suggestions?

She lives 6,000 kilometers away and we meet every day via Skype or WhatsApp.

One parent keeps getting arrested. Is it ok for a child's social worker to discuss details with the other parent?

I am 30 years old and after this coronavirus is over. I plan on legally changing my name from Travis to Marquise. but the thing is do you think. that I should still let people who knew me all of my life like my siblings. and cousins and family members still call me Travis or not. ?

We are 5 years apart. She is allowed to hit me hard enough to leave bruises and  a couple of times bleed,  throw heavy things at me and be incredibly destructive (ex- dumping the kitchen trash can on the living room carpet because I asked her to take out the trash).  I can't push her off even when she is hitting me because our parents will consider that violent.  Our parents instruct me to give in to whatever she wants any time she starts to get enraged.  This has been going on since she was 5 or 6 and now she is 20.  After moving out of our parents house she insisted on moving in with me and things just got worse. 

Growing up I always raised my voice at my mother because I didnt like to be told what to do. Now as an adult, my mother is over 60 years old and if I did what I did to her when I was younger, I would feel very remorseful and sad because your parents are not gonna be around forever so I think we all should respect them if you still have them around.

Here is a little background information about my parents: My parents are both Chinese and have grew up poor. They came to the States in their early 20s and opened up several small restaurants. Most time, the business was not successful so they sold it and reopen another one. my mom currently manages her own small restaurant that is about an hour away from home. My dad, on the other hand, decides to just find another job and work for the people. My dad does not really stay at a certain job very long. He would work for about 6 months and then quit and find another one. Well, right now he has given up and is just staying home to take care of my siblings. I am a 20 year old college student. A year ago, I found a serving job and I make really good money. Ever since school ended, I have been working 6 days a week, 60 hours a week and I make over $1,000 a week. I pay my own car and bills, but I still live with my parents. However, my parents have been asking me to give the $500 a month and when I said no, my dad got angry and asked to put his name under my bank account. My sister who is 19 also works, and I just think its unfair that they only ask me for money and not her. every time I come home and put a plate in the dish, my mom will say how it will cost me $20 a plate if I put it in the dish. Am I being selfish for not giving my parents money? Is this only a Chinese thing because Americans don't seem to do this.

My mom had me at 19 and my dad was 21 at the time. This was in 2003 so it was really young to have a child at 19 back then.  My mom used to call me a "curtain crawler" or "crumb cruncher" when I was 5. She used to tell me that I was a mistake and that I should be happy that she kept me. My dad wasn't really that loving but he never said such stuff. Nowadays 10 years later at age 34 she is such a great mom. She tells me that she loves me and wouldn't trade me for anything and that I am her little baby. I remembered all of this after one of my friends used the words "curtain crawler" today.

So my boyfriend and I have a one month and half old. Because his ex wife is spiteful and evil she kept his 2 daughters away from him for 3 months, when she found out I was pregnant. Just yesterday he finally got back custody when.  But during that time he was away from them he was very rude and unsupportive. I would have to break up with him for him to change and then after a few days he goes right back to being useless. He rarely ever helped me with my son. Since my sons been born he's prob held him for at least 15 minutes. He has not helped out even with buying anything. Crib, car seat, clothing, wipes etc were all bought by my mother and I. He claims because of covid 19 he couldn't help... but covid 19 just started I've been pregnant for a whole 9 months.  He has shown not much interest in my son. I asked him once if he can paint my nursery because I moved and he said he would but never did. He said he'd build a crib but never did. He said he'd build a changing table but we never saw it.  Now he got his daughters (and they love me) he's talking about marriage, he held my son for way longer than 15 min. He took me out to eat. He actually volunteered to change his diaper. It makes me think that he never cared for us he's just using us for his daughters. Now he's talking about being a family... and I'm like we were always a family, you just treated me, my son and my home as a stop by.

i've played soccer my whole life and the past few years i've hated it. Im a freshman in high school now and I'm only good at practice and at games I get anxious and do terrible. I have no real friends on my team and playing is overall really stressful for me. I'd prefer to do things on my own which is what i've been doing from March to now. I run 4-7 miles 4 times a week and do core everyday. I eat healthy and do well in school. I've told my mom and grandparents all these years i dont like it and everyone says i do and i truly dont. i tried talking to my mom about it right now and she went on a rampage saying im a terrible daughter, threw things at me, is taking my phone, and is not letting me see my friends. what do i do?

As long as I can remember there were always issues in my family. Gossip about each other. Jealousy, selfishness. I grew up a very insecure person and today at 30 years old I understand why. I never received that support and encouragement from my own family. I got my own apartment after graduating from college. My dad lost his job and moved in with me until he gets a job. He stayed with me for 5 yrs and never worked. I asked him to leave many times and he wouldn't. He used his own daughter for his own benefits until I finally bought my house and moved. Instead of being happy for me he talked trash behind my back. Saying that I "abandoned him". My middle sister called me selfish for not bringing him to live with me. Funny considering that she never did anything for me. I wasn't honest at first about my house. I told people I was moving out with my boyfriend because I was afraid that my dad would follow me. I told my youngest sister recently and now she is upset because I didn't trust her enough to tell her sooner. It is one issue after another. Can they just be happy for me? Can they just celebrate that I did something for me? Why does everything have to be a problem? I have decided to keep my own family away because their relationship and the way they treat each other is becoming very toxic and I just want to enjoy my new house in piece. Why is there so much drama and resentment? Have you experienced something similar in your family?

Ever again My mom has custody  Can I force my dad and stepmom to let me go back to my moms or I will make their lives he'll  Hell I mean 

Theres this guy and his brother in my neighborhood who i talk to and am friends with but not great great friends. The other day the guy made gross comments/jokes to me about being a chicken rapist. And theres an old guy four houses down from his on my block with a lot of chickens.

enough is enough if you ain't with us you are against us. I don't see how any decent person is not for the cause. I won't even visit my granny in nursing home until she changes her archaic views. It's that important

I have always been protecting my brother from everything. Parents, bullies etc. but things don't seeming right. I'll start from beginning.. He had been a bedwetter up until grade 7-8. We used to have pet birds and chicks, he'd tell me to hit them, I wouldn't. Tell me to drown the chicks into water. I'd tell him they will die. One day I come back, one bird is dead, chicks soaked in water, few disappeared. They all were inside the house. Parents threw the dead ones, I set living bird free. Then moving forward, he stole credit cards to pay for online games and parents thought it's me, but I didn't say anything cuz my parents temper was and is very very bad. To the point of physical abuse. Not just spanking. I have been kicked furiously and punched ending up with bruises, many times. So for some reason, whenever my mom would go crazy, he is always just behind her, watching with straight face. All of this never really bothered me up until recently. My brother took my car, got into accident twice, did not give his drivers licence but gave my insurance info, and ran a red light which I have hearing for and somehow convinced my parents for me to pay for both the accidents. I told my parents this is not right, but I get a response, he's your younger brother. So I started saying no to my brother for things. And then he started trying to sabotage me. I told parents, they said I'm imagining things. Now he acts like a victim in front of parents and acts tough in front of me. I'm ignoring.

So I spoke my mind to my cousin. He blew up for no reason at all. Kept saying rude disrespectful things to my brother and I. I said calm down and stop saying things that aren't true. He got more made started punching wall. So my brother and I left and went home. Later that day I told him you gotta stop getting violent and so aggressive. He said shut up and don't mess with me. Saying if you piss me off more I'll knock you out. So I don't know if he wants to fight or not. He's like 2x my size and has experience. I'm small and got experience.

was in a bad position financially (it's a long story I rather not elaborate on) and decided to go stay at my baby mama mother house to live with the baby that I have custody of. My baby mama wasn't aware I was coming but her mom did, since the lease is in her mom name I asked her mom if me and her granddaughter could stay temporarily. So it would be me, our baby, the baby mom and grandma living in the household for a short period of time. I drove two hours only for the grandmother not to open the door (on the phone she said it was ok but once I got there she said for me contact my baby mama) when I pulled up to the house my baby mama (who hasn't seen our baby in 3 months) didn't get out the car to see our baby she drove off and she has tints so I couldn't see who was in the car. I drove off and she came back to the house but once again pulled off when she seen my car, keep in mind our baby was in the car. She didn't pick up her phone and her mother didn't either. Days later she called and said she didn't know I was at her house and that her friend was in her car and was holding her car for a few days. Do you think she was in the car with another man??

Was sexually abused sometime between 7&9 for a period of time by my teenage cousin I didn't realize I was sexually abused until I was about 12. I decided to stay quiet mainly for the reason that I was scared of the reaction I would get & was scared to break up the family. Now that I'm older I realized how ridiculous that was and told my mom. She was shocked and did not offer much support and headed off to bed. Growing up I still had to face my abuser as we are a "close" family and my cousin would still come around, I always tried my best to avoid him and felt nervous around his presence. I don't know what to expect from her or how I should feel. It has now been one year and all she did was tell me that we can sit down with him and "talk" to each other. I don't know how she expects me to look at my abusers eyes and talk about that misfortune event. In front of my family he's a "nice" guy and everyone likes him even now my mom still brags about him and will hug him in front of me. I just don't know what to do and would be nice to get some answers I have not told anyone this besides my mother, I don't trust many people and I am very closed up and timid. I'm starting to believe she doesn't even believe me and me telling her was embarrassing and all for nothing