I've been stuck at home since March and I live with my parents for now because of student loan debt. I haven't been able to go anywhere without a threat of being kicked out, even though I have bills in my name here. My parents are bothhigh risk for death from covid 19. They won't even allow me to have a job because they said its too risky. And when I went to my boyfriend's house for two days, they flipped out and didn't talk to me for two weeks. I didn't get my simulus check nor did I qualify for unemployment. I need money for clothes and I think its only fair if they give me what I need if they expect my to stay home. I was also adopted and my parents are in their late 60's.

I want to take my nephews to the lake to celebrate my birthday.  Their parents would not let them go if I ask for permission because they say they rather be present if I take them anywhere with water. The parents would not go because they do not go anywhere.They spend time with me all the time and I am a responsible adult/mom/aunt/teacher. My husband says not to risk it but I am sure the kids would love to go. They never go anywhere. Two teenagers would go as well and I plan for each of the kids to have a swimming buddy so everyone is aware of everyone while swimming. I need someone's advice, should I take them or not? I'm very indecisive now since my husband says not to. Help!

I overheard my dad saying that bareback is the best thing ever with mom so now I'm curious to how it feels.

I am a 16 year old (17 in about 2 weeks) female and my parents are pretty old fashion about certain things, and one of those things is piercings. I was allowed to get my ears pierced at 12 then a second piercing for my 16th birthday, I had to let the second piercing close because it was constantly infected no matter what. I will be getting my second piercing redone soon and I really want to also get either a third lobe piercing or a helix piercing, but my parents absolutely hate them and have said I can't get any more piercings (other than redoing second) until I am 25.  I don't wear over the top earrings and I wouldn't wear anything that looks trashy but they refuse to even think about letting me. And I know that when I turn 18 I could just do it but they have told me if I do they will refuse to pay for my education or anything else.  The way I see it. Piercings aren't permanent and if when I am doing something where it wouldn't be appropriate I could take it out. There are also a lot worse things I could be choosing to do to my body then getting another ear piercing.  Any advice to get my parents to consider letting me get another piercing?

So I don't get along with my brother to the point I don't even like calling him my brother. He moved out a year ago and was so egotistic by moving out and how he's "better" than me and I'm a loser even though I work a finance job lol. He's gay and calls me a ****** when I'm a straight man, calls me ugly multiple times. I can tell he's insecure obviously. So he moved back 2 months ago because his boyfriend crashed his car and left him in the car. so I get a call from him so he can stay here and I felt bad and said sure but only 3 weeks. He also lost his job and got unemployment. So slowly 2 weeks him being here he returned to his old ego self and started disrespecting me. He got his job back and bought a new car and I told him to move out and he overstayed his welcome and still here. he said final day will be June 5th and just tonight he randomly stared at me and called me ugly for no reason and I called him out. He is now extending his stay until his next check next week. Im tired and need my privacy. our apartment policy is to have guests up to 2 weeks maximum and he's not listening to get out so he can live rent free here the past 2 months. My dad isn't letting me kick him out even he disrespects me and I'm paying rent. he's not on the lease and says "Try" when I state that I'm gonna kick him out. He's using his power to disrespect me. He also comes home super late 4 am from hooking up with men. I need to keep the doors lock. He seems to be letting ego change him. Cycle.

Or is it just a myth. like jus fake porn thing?

I haven't left the house in years. My mom never tried to make me leave the house. She just let me stay in the house. She didn't care. I try to ask her why she never tried to make me leave the house and she said because she didn't care and wanted me to waste my life. I have so much anger and hatred towards her because of this. I don't even want to go on living.  I'm so depressed and suicidal from staying in the house for years. I just wish I had a mom who cared and isn't neglectful.  When I ask her why she never tried to make me leave the house she gets mad and blames me when it's really her fault. What parent lets their child not leave the house for years?

I live with my family in a crowded house. I don't mind so much that it's crowded. My sis has asked me to move out a few times in the past because she plans to grow her family while I'm not really planning for that in the near future. At least I'm not in a big hurry for that.  Since I'm not sure on my near future plans she gave me an ultimatum although it's not her house. It's my father's home. He too is worried as he understands her plans but not sure what to do. What should I do? I think moving out would help but is it fair that I'm helping to my sister's wishes?  One of my concerns is that my rent is going to go up very high due to this move.  To add** in regards to my sis' ultimatums. She wasn't exactly specific but I assume it's about convincing my father to be on her side as I don't have plans and she does. She does consider me an obstacle. 

So, my son was born on July 29th 2012. I spent a good three or so years solid raising him with his mother. But sadly we had a falling out due to (hidden) drug use, and betrayal (cheating on me). So we split up for what was supposed to be a somewhat short break. Well that turned into the end of our romantic relationship for ever. She got with another guy, and I thus became homeless while her and my son and him moved a couple hours away. He took over raising him alongside her, eventually inevitably my son started calling him "dad" and "daddy". Man that hurt, a lot. But the mother begged me not to say anything to him so it wouldn't confuse him blah blah blah. During the next year's to come i would come see my son as much as possible, his birthday, holidays, just regular visits.. He always just called me by my first name.. And still does to this day.. Well fast forward to about 2 years ago or so ago.  My son's mom has a kid with this new guy.. They raise him til he's about one (the kid is absolutely adorable)..  Well the father was very depressed.. And wasn't very good at reaching out to people. So he ended up hanging himself on a door knob (in their very own apartment bathroom) and dying.. Leaving my son's mom to find his body one day after work. That was about a year almost ago.. My son seems to be coping pretty well (at least it looks like it. Can't read his mind though). I want to tell him I'm his real father.But I don't know what kind of affect this could have on his mind.

I (a 27 year old female) no longer want a relationship with my 25 year old brother after he put his hands on me.  He threw a massive temper tantrum after I (unintentionally) interrupted his job interview by banging on a door.  This led to him banging on doors, stomping everywhere, and him hitting me first??. To be fair, that was inconsiderate. I don't even care that he feels bad about what he did, simply because he's not the only man who has hit me without me hitting first.  The thing is, I hate how domestic violence is normalized in Nigeria. My mom is just as bad for not finding it disturbing. She didn't find it disturbing that he slammed me against a glass microwave and even choked me. Although I fought back in self defense, it doesn't make me feel any better about being a physical/verbal punishing bag for insecure men/men with anger issues. I think this is one of the reasons why I hate men, because they not only bully me, but they stay hitting me when I don't hit them first. Unless a woman hits a man first, then I think men have no business hitting women.

I've been taking testosterone shots in my legs for over a year now and they're starting to hurt all the times. Not just after the shot. There's also a lump on the leg that I gave the injection but it's way farther down from where I injected the needle. 

So I don't get along with my brother to the point I don't even like calling him my brother. He moved out a year ago and was so egotistic by moving out and how he's "better" than me and I'm a loser even though I work a finance job lol. He's gay and calls me a ****** when I'm a straight man, calls me ugly multiple times. I can tell he's insecure obviously. So he moved back 2 months ago because his boyfriend crashed his car and left him in the car. so I get a call from him so he can stay here and I felt bad and said sure but only 3 weeks. He also lost his job and got unemployment. So slowly 2 weeks him being here he returned to his old ego self and started disrespecting me. He got his job back and bought a new car and I told him to move out and he overstayed his welcome and still here. he said final day will be June 5th and just tonight he randomly stared at me and called me ugly for no reason and I called him out. He is now extending his stay until his next check next week. Im tired and need my privacy. our apartment policy is to have guests up to 2 weeks maximum and he's not listening to get out so he can live rent free here the past 2 months. My dad isn't letting me kick him out even he disrespects me and I'm paying rent. he's not on the lease and says "Try" when I state that I'm gonna kick him out. He's using his power to disrespect me. He also comes home super late 4 am from hooking up with men. I need to keep the doors lock. He seems to be letting ego change him. Cycle.

I've heard the only way to tell if a guy is good is by seeing his relationship with his mother, I had in my mom in my life from sometimes, but she was really abusive when i was younger dating a drug dealer, making sure we didn't say anything to the social workers cause her and her boyfriend were listening right through the wall of the closet so when they leave they already know what we said. i was the only one who graduated high school, out of my four siblings one year older and the other 2 one year younger all of them dropouts. promising her i'll get her a big house, but during my year in college i was still living with my dad since my mom didn't have space, my sisters kept coming home between 12:00-4:00 am waking me up, affecting my school life, i told my mom to tell them to stop. she didn't and ignored me for at 2 weeks. and my dad kicked my sisters out and my mom got mad at me telling me i'm selfish and saying i wasn't getting the house for her, just getting it for myself. i feel like the line from the beginning really affected me, since i don't have my mom anymore, i don't plan on apologizing, i just completely forgot about her, i understand some may say "just talk about your problems and forgive" that doesn't work for some people and have been doing it for years, even through abuse as a kid. 

I know this might sound dumb to some of you, but I am genuinely concerned. She already has four children, they are all happy and healthy and they are in their 20s and teens now. She recently announced to us that she is 5 weeks pregnant, I heard from many doctors that the child will have a much higher chance of it having a birth defect when women get pregnant in their late 30s or 40s. She is excited about the baby, but I am scared for her. Do you think she should get an abortion?

Many times this sibling would lash out at me at random times and will get extremely angry for no reason. They have the same abusive traits as the parent.

My bf and I had a trip to Cuba planned for March 2020. With everything that is going on, we had to cancel/postpone our trip. This was my high school trip that I paid for myself and was my bf graduation gift from his mom. Originally, his mom really wanted to go but couldn't afford it. This worked in our favor as we really just wanted to have our first trip alone, well alone. Now that we are looking at rebooking for later in 2021, his mom thinks this is the perfect opportunity for her and now she can come! My boyfriend and I are torn. We will be together for almost 3 years by the time this trip comes around and we both really want to just have an "us" trip but his mom is so excited. We have lots of partying and drunk naps planned and I just see this being weird with his 50-year-old mom tagging along. I don't know how to tell her we would like to go with just the two of us because I don't want to let her down and I don't know if I'm being reasonable. What would you do? She see's me as her own daughter so I'm super stuck!

They are not as hard on him as they are in me.It comes off like they prefer him over me. They always put me down or make fun of me for something I like but if my dad liked the same thing . They will praise him or not put him down about it

Both of my parents are addicts, my father has been in and out of jail and my mom has been an active user. My only sister values her computer time more than talking to me and I've constantly tried talking to her about it but she doesn't care. I moved out of my moms to my aunts because I couldn't handle my mom but long story short, it didn't last long there, and now I'm back at my moms and I am moving in to my boyfriends house this week but I'm scared I'm going to mess this up. I have to cancel BGE and Comcast because my mom is making no effort in our bills so there's no reason to keep being billed if it's just going to pile up. My mom and dad has stolen my money and I just think my boyfriends family thinks of me as bad too but I'm not, I'm going to school full time and I'm working. I'm just scared that when I move his family is going to look down on me. Sometimes when nobody is available I feel really isolated and down on myself. I'm just not sure why I feel these emotions all the time, could I be a drama queen or do I have a reason to be like this?

She teases me, makes fun of me, laughs at me, mocks me, hits me, pushes me, throws things at me, throws the middle finger up at me, talks about me, talks at me all day, stands over me while I'm sleep and talks in a baby voice, purposely annoys me, picks fights with me, threatens me. She knows it hurts, but she won't stop. Not even when my mom or people who witness it tell her to stop. It makes me really upset. I've considered suicide.

i'm 17 and he's 20 and we've been together for a few months and he's so hot and i care about him so much and the other day while i was at his house he was in the bathroom and i decided to snoop on his computer and i saw his messages on imessage and i went through them and i saw he was talking to multiple girls telling them he loves them and sending nudes and planning meet ups etc and i was heart broken and i turned off the computer and pretended i didn't see and now i'm home but idk what to do? i can't tell him i looked because he'll get mad i snooped, plus i don't want to hurt him by confronting him

They've treated me like sh*t for years. They don't act like family. They all bully me. If I point it out or defend myself they make it look like it's me or shun me. I have to walk on eggshells. I'm tired of them. I don't want to be around them. I wish I was born into a normal family who accepts me.  Also I want to point out that I'm a girl and a poc. And also that I've considered suicide.

When I was younger, I would share a lot to my family. Like some of my freelance work, connections etc. They started stealing clients asking for money etc. so I stopped sharing lol. I don't share how much I make or any form of connections I have because than they ask for stuff. Is this evil?

Right now this reunion is the event each summer I look forward to and as a result I get terrified of it being robbed from me or that I will be too depressed to enjoy it. Apologies for asking a lot on here about it. How do I decide to have a good summer and make it happen if something awful were to happen like if I had to miss this reunion? Hopefully I will be fine. It will be low key as is due to COVID-19 and Social Distancing but it is still a reunion. 

and brother and sister too. But dad is a great challenge. lol. What are your thoughts? 

Because I do not trust my brother-in-law and I think he is cheating on my sister because he is nervous when he is at home and he is on his cell phone and sometimes he makes excuses to leave