We have been arguing so much lately mostly due to finance and feeling stuck where we are at. It doesn't help much that we argue and blame each other so much either.  I threatened him with divorce and then he went silent and cold and then said "you know what I'm feeling right now? Muder suicide"! I screamed at him and called him crazy and then he said if I ever do leave him, he'll find me. Does this mean he wants to kill me? 

Repeating and Continuing the question(s): Why do couples cheat on another sometimes, be it a boyfriend cheating on a girlfriend, a girl friend, cheating on a boyfriend or a husband cheating on his wife and a wife cheating on her husband, why do they do that? I just don't understand, and this is a message to all of you cheaters out there, be very thankful, I'm not your marriage counselor before you and your significant other, be it man woman or in-between sexes, I will make sure you take a prenup contract before I would even consider granting permission to marry, and the contract would have two punishments. If husband cheats on wife, then wife is allowed to sue him for 1 quadrillion dollars for emotional turmoil or the husband has to get a physical orchiectomy, or castration. If wife cheats on husband, then husband is allowed to sue her for 1 quadrillion dollars for emotional turmoil or the wife has to get a hysterectomy. If both cheats on one another and they want to rekindle their marriage at any time, they both have to get a hysterectomy (if lesbian) or Orchiectomy(if gays), or if straight then they both have to get the separate surgeries in question. or pay the 1 quadrillion ollar fine or throw themselves straight into a lava pit. in order to be forgiven for the cheating problematics. That is or will be my prenuptial contract before I even try to get married at all. Just so you know. or am I being too strict? Or unforgiving.

Like when she says if you think she's the most beautiful. Obviously not. There are plenty of women more beautiful than she is. I didn't marry her for her looks anyway. Somethings are more important. 

And he cries, "Please, Ashley, no!"

Hi everyone I hate having to post this but feel like I am all out of options.  I am not interested in my husband. The person he is appauls me. He's a lovely man but I just don't like him. I don't like the way he handles situations, I don't like how cold and harsh he is, I don't like anything about him. He is just not my cup of tea! And I have been so unhappy since I've been with him but stayed because I felt some sort of obligation for some dumb reason. I am now so upset that I ever married him but I do not agree with divorce.  Initially I started dating him because he appeared to me someone completely different to the man I know. I fell in love with his innocent eyes and calm demeanour. Now nothing about him seems innocent and his demeanour is actually just indifferent to anyone other than himself.  What can I do to start liking this man? 

My husband and I just got married this past summer. We dated for a year and he would tell me some things about his father. It wasn't until 3 days before our wedding he came out with everything, his father's mental, physical, sexual and spiritual abuse to him and his mother. It effects him daily, one example is we have an electric stove in our apartment so we are both getting used to it. Well one night he put the tea kettle on but he didn't realize he turned the wrong burner on and it ruined one of our pans. (I did not care, everyone makes mistakes and I've done this myself) anyways he got really upset with himself and went into this depression and yelling at himself. I told him it's not a big deal it's a $7 pan. Then a few days later he told me that his dad used to hit him if he did "stupid" things/mistakes. Another time he was making us dinner and got upset that he didn't think it was the way I wanted it. Which I repeatedly told him it was really good. He told me that if he wouldn't get first place in track his dad would scream at him and tell him he didn't try hard enough. I have seen his dad abuse people in their house first hand. How do I help my husband? Also my husband doesn't want to see his dad ever again.

If a man owns a 3.5 million dollar home in London, and is single with no children or wife (he's 50) would you consider him wealthy? 

I know I'm still young (18) but when I picture my ideal life in the future, my heart is set on marrying a man I deeply love and us both raising our kids together. Of every goal I have for myself, that's the main thing I prioritize. But the more I spend time around my parents, the more I see how miserable my mom is with my dad. I know in my heart that the only reason she stays with him is because she is not financially independent and because my siblings and I still rely on our dad financially as well. (For reference, I'm 19). It seems like all of the marriages in my family are generally unhappy or have grown to become that way. I'm scared that one day I'll marry someone who I believe is the love of my life only to have us fall out of love and eventually resent each other. I know how my parents' relationship made my siblings and I suffer growing up (and even now) and I wouldn't want to put my potential kids through that either. I'm just feeling very lost at the moment and I guess I was looking for some feedback with this. Am I thinking rationally? ***edit: typo in question, I'm 18. not 19

He says they have nothing because she cheated. Common lie? 

I know a husband who looks at "hook-up; fXck in his area" websites and has been doing this for over 2 years! He has hacked HER email accounts, when he has 7 different email accounts of his own, and he has several,different "CONNECT" phone numbers, and uses Google calendars to meet or hook up with these chicks, there's no actual proof he's cheated on her but WHY is he doing this? She thinks he's screwing chicks in the area he works at in South Bay, since she also saw the same hook-up sites choosing that area, the first time she saw the site he chose the area they live in, East County. Maybe he wants out of the marriage, but doesn't know how to tell her? they have NO kids, but he says the sex is still great after YEARS of marriage. She is older than he is, maybe he's been cheating and found "the one" for him he wants to leave her for?  She thinks he cheated with a female friend of theirs. What advice can a friend give her? What should she do? Is he obsessed with these websites? It sounds crazy to me, but she's showed me proof.

My father is mentally ill and has been emailing people on craigslist for sexual favors for several years. These people have contacted my work email asking me to make him stop. He does not work or support my mom financially. How can my mom get him to leave? She has told him numerous times but he won't leave. Last time he threatened to get a gun and shoot.

My ex proposed to me after 3 years. I gave him an ultimatum saying he had to do it by our 3rd year together or we break up as he was hesitant to commit. At first, he seemed happy about our engagement. Then he called off the wedding a couple weeks before it was to take place. I saw he got a new girlfriend a year after this happened. I figured he would show her commitment issues too. About 1.5 years after they were dating, they were engaged. I figured he would call it off with her too but it didnt happen. I see now they had their 1 year anniversery of marriage not long ago. Even though I am with someone else and happy with him, I cant help but to feel sad about this situation. He clearly felt better and stronger about her more than me. My old friends from the church he and I used to attend together stated to me that she did not give him an ultimatum and that he began planning his proposal a year after they got together, but he didn't do that with me. I guess I feel I wasnt good enough for him, and this new girl must have something I dont, like she is more respectful and a better partner or something.

My Sister was served with divorce papers because she never filed for the divorce herself even though she was the one who was cheated on my ex-BIL. They agreed to some of the terms for temp. child custody. The guy she is dating was an ex she saw in hs but it's been nearly 8-10 years since they dated (they broke up because she was cheating on him too). Now, their back together. She comes home at a decent hour, because she allows him to "stay over". She says he isn't living there. She works part time at a school and part time as a waitress. She has two boys who recieve SSI and child support. So, her BF comes and goes when he wants (doesn't pay any of the bills). Why does she have to meet up with him every other evening for dinner all the while having my Mom take care of the kids until she gets home (DRUNK)! The they left to the movies (they seemed happy). She comes home alone with a cut on her forehead, cuts on her knees and it looked like her face was swollen. She doesn't explain herself other than crying saying "things were so much easier when Andrew was here". The BF comes into the apt (while the kids were asleep) and takes his Xbox, does ask her how she is doing or why she's upset and leaves but SHE TAKES HIM BACK THE NEXT DAY. I tell her, why does he have to be here... our Mom watches the kids while she works in the evening but we can't put the kids to sleep because he is there (playing xbox). Theyre both 27 y/o, they NEED to STOP playing these games.

They have had the most dysfunctional marriage in America and yet I still feel devastated. My mother is the one to always kick my father out in these separations. Yet at the same time I still feel devastated. They even have grandchildren so it is not just parents divorcing but grandparents divorcing. I have never even heard of that even though I know lots of parents who divorce. Everyone in my Mom's side of the family gets divorced with the exception of my grandfather as even my grandmother even got divorced from her 1st husband before my grandfather came into her life (my uncle is from her first marriage). I also even have set of great-grandparents who were divorced. My Dad's side has better marriages with only 1 divorce. So my question is why do I still feel devastated?

I got married to my high school sweetheart (together since 2011) in August of 2018. 2 weeks after our wedding, He changed. He quit his job and has bounced job to job since then. So far this year we are looking at 13 W-2s for him. In November, we met up with one of his old coworkers (T) During this time, my husband (D) brought up our sex life and how it was lacking even though I tried so many times. After this, D's coworker added me on FB. He was dealing with a breakup from July with his gf after 4 years. We were talking completely innocent and then somehow it turned into a **** buddy situation. This has been going on since December. In May, I found out that D had been talking to someone Since October. October my grandma passed away unexpectedly and he really wasn't there for me through that. D is always rude to me and always has a negative attitude. I told D in July that I wasn't happy and didn't care what happened between us anymore and he still didn't change how he acts towards me. I honestly like T more than just a **** buddy but I don't know how he feels and I don't know how to bring it up to see if he would want more than just a **** buddy. T has his own place and is very independent and has been at the same job for 5 years. He is a couple years older than me. I'm kind of at my last straw with D and I don't know if I should just end it between us and get a divorce or what I should do? I also don't know how I would flip it to a relationship with T. 

I got married to my high school sweetheart in August of 2018. In November, we met up with one of his old coworkers (we are going to refer to him as T) During this time, my husband, (referring as D) brought up our sex life and how it was lacking even though I tried so many times to have sex. After this, D's coworker added me on FB. He was dealing with a breakup from July with his gf after 4 years. We were talking completely innocent and then somehow it turned into a **** buddy situation. This has been going on since December 2018. I found out that D had been talking to someone from October until May when I found out. I obviously can't get mad since I'm having sex with T. Sex just isn't good with D. He is always rude to me and always has a negative attitude. I honestly like T more than just a **** buddy but I don't know how he feels and I don't know how to bring it up to see if he would want more than just a **** buddy. T has his own place and is very independent but sometimes he ignores me for a few days after sex. I'm kind of at my last straw with D and I don't know if I should just end it between us and get a divorce or what I should do. Please help me! D and I have been together since August of 2011. I just want to say, this has never happened before and I am really not sure how this happened. I know once my grandmother passed in October I changed a lot. I have added to this in a separate question on here. I know this wasn't a good thing to happen but it did and now I have no idea what to do. D calls me names, is negative all the time, doesn't have the same goals anymore, and constantly lies. He changed once we got married. He wasn't like this before. I didn't find out he cheated until after

Recently found out that my wife and brother had a child 6 years ago (before my wife and I were together). Me and my wife have 2 kids already and I don't know how to wrap my head around the fact my wife's daughter is half-siblings/cousins to my kids, and how this little girl who I've considered my daughter for the past 4 years is actually my niece. I don't know how to handle this situation or how to feel about it. Advice would be greatly appreciated!

Esp to younger girls ?  I've been married since a few years and i noticed how my stocks sky rocketed in the women's department. Is there a reason for that ? 

My MIL and her sisters (mostly single or divorced shrews in their 60s) are needy and demanding. They also make implications about my mom to me BECAUSE my mom has tried to defend me to them in the past. But they do it in such a way that I can't say much. For example, they might say, oh your mom is so funny..." about something or other. My MIL is so "defenseless" that she retired 10 years early after not starting to work until the age of 40. She manipulated my husband into letting her stay at our income property for free while her husband was sick (cost is $20k, no acknowledgement). She let us pay for her hotel while her husband was sick ($10k) and suggested we pay her husbands car loan when he died but didn't feel emotionally ready to sell the car ($400/month).I want to say that my mom isn't so funny that she manipulates $15k out of her son or gets him to pay $400/month to rent a car from you. Can I say anything? Do I need to keep my month shut out of respect? This manipulative ***** gets away with a lot because she isnt overt.

He tried to reach out in email and social media. He rejected me badly when I confessed, and made me feel like complete **** back then. Never spoke or was in touch with him since. But I heard from a mutual friend he is married.  Would you reply? What would he want?