So lately my mom & granny keeps attacking me, about my Man. He's been with me,  in my family for seven years. This is the first guy my family has  met. And he's the father of my three babies. We've been having a rough of couple years. But he's always kept money coming in, whether it's from a temporary job or a day job. I've been working off and on. This year has been tough, I just had our baby. And he's been on a permanent job this whole year. We are trying for a two bedroom apartment, .... they refer to him as " your man"... "your man needs to do.." , "your man can be.."... these two special women in my life has gotten on my last nerve telling me about what James hasn't done or need to do. They have help us, and we have always appreciated and paid them back. Their view on Men, has always been negative. Plus I believe in Teamwork makes the Dreamwork. For now it's just James doing the money making, while I'm healing. 

I know when someone hits their spouse the first time, they say "I won't do it again" but they almost always do it again and again, beating them up worse and worse. So are they lying when they say it the first time, or do they actually believe they won't do it again but find themselves doing it?