Ok I just want to make this point before anyone starts that I am NOT the type of mother to ever come between my daughter and her fathers bond, I have always let him have access whenever he wants. However he has always had his visits coming to us we live with my Gran at the moment he sees our daughter every Saturday unless he is going out and will come to Ours to visit. Our daughter is 8 months old and recently he has asked for his next visit to take our daughter to where he lives his mothers house over night however I really am worried about this as he isn't very responsible as much as we are now close friends I don't think he is responsible enough for looking after our child over night last time I left her with him which was when we was in a relationship and he was staying at my Grans with us he got drunk when he was meant to be taking care of her , also his mothers house is infested with rats and she would have to sleep on the sofa because he sleeps there I don't even want her to visit there as the house is so dirty it has bed bugs mice and roaches ants u name it they Don't clean I know this as I used to live there what can I do as I'm only concerned about my daughters health but don't want want him thinking I'm being bitter for saying no. He's on birth certificate also so he has rights but the place is disgusting I had to move out when I was pregnant with her because the house was so disgusting I don't want to seem spiteful but it's not a place my child should be crawling

When I was a teenager, I gained like 20 pounds and my mom and my relatives all yell and insult at me until I lost the weight again and became thin. I used to fight with my mom and I cried from the negative attention when I was fat, but now Im thin I get more male attention and compliments from people. My mom and relatives just ignore me, but why my mom was so mean to me in the first place?  

Those that love me or people like friends of my parents so I don't care about (their friends I mean). I am my mom's favorite of her three kids now that my two brothers are married and so she dislikes their wives and that's them. But this could change at any time and she disliked me seven years. I am my mom's favorite of her three kids now that my two brothers are married and so she dislikes their wives and that's them. But this could change at any time as she disliked me seven years ago

My parents and my mom's parents own millions of dollars. My mom's aunt has always been extremely jealous of this as her sister married a wealthy man. My mom is aunt is not wealthy at all though very sweet. My parents have so much money they own two properties and move every five years. My grandmother, great aunt's sister, married one of the wealthiest man in Ohio. She owns millions and hundreds of millions in his estate. He died four years ago.

My mother and my sister drive me crazy. Everytime I'm around them I feel drained of my energy and everything is ALL ABOUT DRAMA and judging people and hurt feelings for no reason. Or name calling. My mother is a lit fuse and constantly degrading me ... why are woman so damn catty and mean? They invite me places and get upset when I don't go but the thoughts of having to be around my mother drives me insane I have to watch everything I say because she's manipulative and uses everything against me, or tries to put other people against me ..... so tired of it . Why is it always so freaking drama filled with these woman?

my parents split up a few months ago My mum gets annoyed easily and moans about everything i do she yells a lot and i hate being at her house if she's not yelling at me it's someone else, it's not a happy place to be. she tells me i should just go live with my dad if i hate her which i don't and i tell her that all the time the same things happen with my dad. i cry a lot because of it and i'm generally just not very happy in either places i've turned myself into such a shitty daughter that neither of my parents enjoy having me. it makes me feel like **** because i make them unhappy but i never start the arguments. but because neither like having me around they want to send me to live with my gran who is horrible, she treats me like **** and says everything i do is wrong. i never argue with her because there is no point. i don't know what to do at this point because neither of my parents want me around and i don't want to stay at my grans. she lives two hours away from me so i'd need to move schools. i don't know what to do not even my mum and dad want me around anymore i really want to kms but i don't know how. i don't know what to do please help i just want to live with my other gran because she always wants me around and we get on really well and i'm happy with her but i'm not allowed to stay with her. i'm 14 if that means anything and i have 3 siblings who my parents don't say this to. please help me.

I met a friend online from a dating app. We really clicked and got to know each other fast. She later admitted that her father physically and sexually abuses her and physically accuses other people in her family. She told me he has touched her and even made her suck him once. She has not told the police because she still loves her abuser. She is mad at her mother who doesn't abuse her and has told her about the sexual abuse but her mother doesn't believe her. I do not know where they live except what state they're in. Her mom is aware of the physical abuse and he does use a belt. I want to make her safe but don't know what to do. She is only a young teenager and so am I. 

I was not able to make it to a family wedding, due to a last minute illness. I texted and let them know that I could not make it - none of my family checked back with me. This happened last Saturday.

Or does one have to invest time in getting to like all family members even if some are easier to like then others. By family I mean parents, grandparents, any great-grandparents, siblings, aunts, uncles, and 1st cousins. Also nephews and nieces if it applies. Once you get to like 2nd cousin once removed then it is not really family but just a distant relative.

My little brother is 14 and he has epilepsy (he was diagnosed late last year so we're still learning). When he has a seizure it usually hard to tell because he gets quiet and just stares. Sometimes he might fall over or collapse but not always. This morning he had 2 (he only usually has 1 once every 2-3months). The 1st one was his normal kind but he just had another one that was different than usual. He was convulsing a lot like they do in movies. He's never had a seizure like that and never had 2 in one day. It lasted longer than his usual ones too but it did stop. He's been asleep since. (Like 2.5hrs). We didnt go to school today bc he wasnt feeling well and now I'm a bit worried that something might be seriously wrong. I dont want to overreact either, but the whole morning has been weird and that 2nd seizure was probably the scariest thing I've ever witnessed. I was just trying to stay calm but as soon as he was ok, I went I the bathroom and cried my eyes out. I'm just wondering if this is ok and happens sometimes with epileptics or if I should just call my parents home. I didnt want to freak them out or have them rush back over nothing. I opted to stay home today a) bc I offered to stay home and to make sure he was ok and b) bc I actually didnt feel like going today.

So my mom hates it whenever the bathroom floor is wet . She wants me to dry off my whole body before I step out of the shower because she's scared that the tiles will get wet. We also have huge rug in the bathroom (don't ask me why, I know it's weird) and she doesn't want the rug to get wet either because then her socks will get wet. When I do make the tiles or rug wet and she notices she'll start screaming in the bathroom (I mentally prepare myself at this point for the **** storm that's gonna come over me), run to my bedroom and then she screams at me. It makes me very upset and I try to dry off the tiles as best as I can after every shower. One time she got mad at me when there was (and I quote my mother) a footprint sized spot of water on the floor. Am I the bad kid for making the bathroom floor wet or is my mother just mentally insane?

Our parents did this to their families so I don't feel bad but I'm just wondering if this hurts the parents. I have two siblings I like and then the sister that I don't like and she now won't speak to me. I refuse to concede anything.

BB gun, 22? Yes, I know, all kids are different.

To make a very long and controlling story short.. my mom is very possessive. I wasn't allowed to go outside not even when I was 18. I can't use the car because she has it all the time. I can't get my drivers license or go to work because I don't have a car and since I've never been to school I don't really know what to do. I feel like rapunzel sometimes and it makes me sad. She loves me she's just super controlling, possessive, and sometimes manipulative. What should I do?

He hates everyone.

Do i tell him or not

So my boyfriend and I are about to have a part time job. We are both students and 19 years old. His mother suggested we open a joint bank account. Do you think it's a good idea? And does that mean she really likes me? Thank you in advance! Have a nice day! Additionally, they are far wealthier than my family sooo... yeaa. She also said that if my boyfriend and I started it earlier, the better.

My Dad just lost his fiancé. He was with her for almost 10 years. We had family events where my dads side and her side would meet up on holidays. He is happy she is no longer in pain but he misses her a lot. I feel bad that he is now alone. Her side of the family had a lot of young kids for my kids to play with as well. It's sad and awkward at the same time.  I guess my question is how do I help my dad through this and what should I expect going forward? Thx 

I know it sounds crazy, but I'm a 26 year old female who has never had a boyfriend or kissed a guy.  Certain things in my life pushed good guys away. I was poor, and honestly my parents had nerve having kids. Money was tight, and it was obviously to other kids we were poor. My Mom tried to make it up to us, but my Dad wouldn't work a real job, and he felt he was a great father for just being there.  I wasn't allowed to do a lot of things. My Dad is abusive and mentally ill. I couldn't have people over because it wasn't safe. My Dad was really crazy then. I couldn't do normal things with people I connected with. No sleepovers, which really got in the way. That meant no church youth group retreats. I didn't get to go on one of those until senior year of high school. No water guns, scooters, or rollerskating. I was finally allowed to have a skateboard when I was 12.  My Dad holding me back made it hard for me to socialize well. I feel this has spilled over into adulthood.    

i worked so hard to adopt a kitten and i raised him for 3 years all on my own. i specifically told my parents that he is NEVER allowed outside. i came home one day mid july after summer school and he was gone. my dad let him out to go "play" without my permission, and my baby never came home😔i'm angry and extremely hurt but my parents are treating me like i'm crazy and overreacting. what do i do?

My mom is in California with my dad.

My nephew and my grandma

She claims I choked her last summer but I DID NOT and rather I grabbed her shoulders and said "will you grow the hell up" as she was refusing to allow me access to the restroom on the family vacation. I didn't want to yell cause my other sister had her two kids sleeping in the house and I didn't want to wake them up. So come holidays my sister (the bad one) is going to see our cousins and claim I rage and choked her when nothing is further from the truth. I don't want to get our parents involved since I am an adult (and my sister is supposed to be one also). What do I do when she starts lying about me to our cousins and others? My sister is a very hurtful person.

Would you help them if you knew you weren't named in the will? There is trouble in my immediate family so I won't leave anything to my siblings. I gave other relatives, like cousin's, an opportunity to get closer to me, but it didn't work out. I had a cousin visit from out of state, offered her my home for as long as she wanted. I was planning to take her to an upscale restaurant in NYC by limo (it was going to be my surprise), but she decided to stay with another relative and only saw me for one hour for coffee. Anyway, my money is going to charity, none of my family members made an attempt to get close to me so I would name them in my will, their loss.  Don't be so eager to deny help to family members, they might be planning to name you in their will if you pay a little attention to them.

My brother was playing Xbox with his friends. Some random guy wanted to play with them. My brother and his friends refused and my brother kicked him from the chat. Once my brother kicked him, the player shut off my family's wifi. Does that mean he has my family's IP address? If so, has our personal information been hacked?

I feel like she does anything and everything to get me mad. We rarely talk and when I do talk to her she ignores me. Whenever we have conversations, we are deprecating towards each other. We share a bathroom, and it is the source of most of our fights. Today I found out she had been sweeping all HER fallen hairs onto my side of the bathroom. It turned into a fight and we tossed all the epithets we could think of towards each other. She has resentment towards me because I call her names and she responds by doing stuff like above to constantly annoy me. It has turned into a vicious cycle. Now I feel kinda bad. Can someone please help?

so this summer i went to greece and my cousins from australia went too and they met up with us in karpathos. my cousins from australia there is 4 of them 2 daughters and dad and mom and i really didnt talk to them at all the first day when we met them at the hotel i really just played on my phone until we left. Then the rest of the days they were in greece with us they went out to the beach and all that with my mom and sister but not me i stayed at our house in greece but ever since then my mom has been showing me one of cousins from australias picture and told me dont you think shes beautiful and i told her thats weird cause she is my cousin and whats wrong with her. Then yesterday she showed me another picture of her and i am now starting to wonder why she keeps showing me pictures of one of my girl cousins from australia its so weird its almost like she is trying to hook me up with her or something which i obviously know is not true and knew right away thats not what it was but does anyone know why she keeps showing me pictures of my cousin from australia

my 13 year old sister is absolutely annoying! she keeps saying "sksksksks" and she always eats all the snacks and desserts my mom buys, even though it's for everyone in the family. she never cleans up after herself, and she always talks back to everyone. it's driving me crazy right now! i think that if my parents put her back in diapers, make her sleep in a crib and crawl around, and put her in preschool then she might actually start to behave again. so how do i convince my parents to put her back in diapers and treat her like a baby? they should also change her diaper, bathe her, and feed her baby food.

Despite one parent having legal custody of a child, can the child(of legal age of course) abruptly choose to live with the other parent and ultimately switch custody in the process? Im not one to say I've had the best life, but I'm tired of my biological father looking at my biological mom like shes some sort of money machine. My mom is in no way financially stable and it's no surprise since shes already paying childsupport for 3 other kids of whom she cant even see (step-fathers choice). My dad has been nice lately, allowing me to live with him without my mother giving him a single dime, but that's only because he doesnt need the extra cash. Compared to my mom, my dad is quite comfortable with the money he already makes - especially with the extra money my step-mom makes with him. I'm asking this question in a serious sense because of personal reasons. You, the answerer, may come up with your own reasons as to why my mom is in this position, but I'm telling you, she in no way deserves this. At this point shes working 2 jobs for free, and I'm not going to stand idly by.

 after i turned 18 my mom admitted to me that i was actually born in beginning of  april even though on my birth certificate it says i was born in february which is what i believed my whole life, then she told me that she did it because the man who i thought was my real dad that she was madly in love with him before i was born and he broke up with her and she got him back by lying shes pregnant.but he said he would make sure she isnt lying so she slept with another man who is my real biological father to pretend it was this other guys baby, then she pretended she had depression and didnt want to be around him and then proceeded to register my birth date few months back she managed this by giving birth at home.she wrote the date to be as  if it was his baby and he never suspected that im not his real daughter.im pretty shocked by this i have my own life by now so i cant say im too traumatized but i do feel like i can never trust my mother again and feel differently about her and disturbed ive been celebrating the wrong birth date my whole life, how would you feel in my shoes

I was wondering if there could be something wrong with having her at my place because I have 2 brothers (one is 12, the other is 20). I am 21, she is 17. I know she's a minor etc... but she's going through a lot and her parents don't care anymore. She cries the whole afternoon and her mom comes home and doesn't even ask her what's wrong. I just don't understand it. It would have been better if I had some sister to befriend her but I just have brothers. My parents agree with me taking her to our home except for the fact that they forbid sex (which is completely understandable for me, we haven't had relationships in that sense anyway). She will stay in the guest room. But I think it will be better if I can have a bed next to her, just in case she cries at night (which happens reallt often) so I can hold her hand. My brothers are good people and they will just, be like brothers to her. She has actually anyone, not even close relatives, she grew up alone. I have a humble but really tight family. My parents are worried about her and they haven't asked her questions at all. They have already let her stay with me, but this time she will stay for some days, and even sleep, which never happened before. Her parents are against but they gave the permission, even because they saw she needs me so bad, and she needs people who can love her. I am judt afraid about my brothers, how will they react with her being with us. I have a dog too, and she loves the puppy, won't stop cuddling him. Her face lights up when she holds the dog in her arms. If looks like she'll heal... I will do whatever I can to help her, my family, the dog, I'll give her all the warmth she needs. I am just afraid about the fact that it's all a new thing, a change and that can scare her. I am constantly worried about her being in a house full of men (me and my brothers). At the end it will always be better than being alone

It's like I was estranged from myself. We had sex while she was in my house. She kept asking why I treated her that way (grabbing her arm really tight) after she kissed me and I told her that it was because I wasn't ready for that in that moment (I was not in the mood) and told her the truth, that I was abused by my stepfather as a child. She started crying and sobbing after I showed her where and when he did that. I hugged her tight, the roles had inverted. Then we started to kiss and it just happened. Like a normal thing this time. Not traumatic or mind confusing and destroying like I used to know it. She told me it will always be like this, that it will always happen with someone I love, from now on, she promised. Then she said 'I'm so sorry, I didn't know, please forgive me'. I said there's nothing to forgive it's not your fault'. And she broke down crying, with a red face, naked she couldn't even breathe because of her breath going too fast and tears. At some point her crying sounded more like a mourning of some death and I hugged her, she hugged me back and kept crying, leaving her tears and everything from her nose on my chest, dhe couldn't stop crying until I was so afraid she would have choked because of the way she was crying. She calmed down only after I said it's alright, it's long gone (I lied, it never goes away) and she kept on hugging me so tight I can never forget that. She didn't want to let go of that embrace and we stayed like that for whole minutes.  I honestly cannot say if I was happy or sad at her reaction. It was just... emotional. She didn't want to let go of me, she kept holding me tight. Like she could make me forget everything. But it's always there at the back of my mind. I can't be neither happy or sad, it was a strange feeling. Not even relieve. I just felt a bit more alive than I usually was but still... cant figure it out. She acted like devastated by the whole thing. She told me I'll never be alone. But still,it changes nothing