Let's say his paycheck kept coming in, and other things he does kept getting done, how much sideass could he be getting before you'd notice?

Should a couple be married after four years of dating? Should a couple wait until they're financially stable, or does that matter. If a person says they want to be with you forever but is not ready for marriage is that contradictory? Thoughts on marriage!

Ex- parents and their adult children who suddenly never speak or see each other for years 

We repeate split up almost 2 years ago. We have both moved on with significant others.  He tells me he wants a divorce but refused to file so I filed. He wouldn't respond when I told him I filed ago He didn't have to nor would he respond when I asked him when a good time wouldbe to have someone serve him and now  He refuses to sign the divorce papers! Why

I'm not sure how to deal with my in laws anymore, particularly my father in law and sister in law. For almost the whole time I've been with my husband, his sister has made rude comments to me (about my weight, saying I'm controlling, etc.). I have never defended myself to her because I've been trying to keep the peace. She also screams at my husband and treats him like crap. When my husband tries to defend himself to her she literally calls their dad and tells on him (He's 26 his sister is 23). Shortly after she does that his dad will call him and tell him off for offending his sister. His dad also insists as well as his sister that he has to talk to her and hangout with her whenever she wants. My husband also got told off by his dad the other week for not taking her to go buy food when she was drunk at 10 pm. She was already at home and we were already in bed. I don't think I can stand to be around them anymore even for holidays because I don't want to deal with being insulted constantly and seeing my husband be told off all the time for not doing exactly what his sister wants. I tried to tell my husband he needs to stick up for himself to his dad but he said he doesn't want to because he doesn't want to cause problems. I don't want to keep avoiding family gatherings and having my husband get in trouble all the time as a grown man but I don't know a good way going about getting her to stop making comments everytime I see her and get my husband to stand up for himself.

do you think he loves his wife? Or actually is looking for something else when he sleeps or talks with other woman?

Is it ok that my husband constantly talks about all the stuff he wants to buy for himself but then when he gets payed the day before he tells me not to spend alot on groceries cause his check wont be that big well now our oldest daughter needs new clothes and he either doesnt hear me or doesnt even bother to text back when I bring it up I havent even gone christmas shopping for our kids yet because he keeps saying we dont have much I'll add he brings home 1500 every 2 weeks I stay at home and only spend 250 on groceries every 2 weeks but is it normal for him to do this every time hes done it the last 5 pay periods should I just put my foot done or just live with it ?

I work in an office for a large company. Recently I got assigned to a new project. Much to my surprise my ex husband's girlfriend got assigned to the same project. We work together on the project. I am using my maiden name and she does not know her boyfriend was my ex husband. We had a friendly divorce. I am trying to decide whether to tell her that her boyfriend is my ex husband. I don't want to cause either of them or me any problems. I have to work with her for a few months so I don't want any problems between us. As you know, good jobs are VERY HARD TO FIND, so I don't want to do ANYTHING that would cause me a problem at my job. Please help me decide what to do. Thanks for any advice.

We have a 2 year old son who is autistic. He is very timid around people he doesn't know and freaks out if I try to leave the room when someone he doesn't really know is around. I can only leave him with my parents, my husband's parents, or my husband. I have stayed home with him since he was born, because daycare is expensive. (We make too much to qualify for title 20 but not enough to where we can afford it.) Well, I am at a point where I need to get a job even if it's just a few days a week, so that I can have some money for myself and help out with bills. However, I can't seem to find a job that would work with the schedule I have to work around. My husband works from 6am (he leaves around 5/5:30am) and doesn't usually get home until 6pm, Monday-Friday. I've looked into 3rd shift jobs, but they typically don't end until 7am so I can't do that. Most evening jobs start around 4 or 5, so I can't do that either. I can't leave him with our parents that often, because my mom lives 45 minutes away and my mother in law works 3 jobs and doesn't have time.  Are there any places out there that I could try and get a job at, that would start around 7 or 8pm and end by like 2 or 3am? This is really the only time I have. I've tried to look into babysitting in my home, with no success. I've called nursing homes, and they don't have any positions that late unless you're a nurse or an STNA. (I am in school, but for social work) I've tried gas stations, etc. with no luck. Ideas welcome.

I'm 33 years old. I live alone, yet my parents are always blending in, telling me what I'm doing wrong and that I'm not yet married and so on. It's all happening by phone, messages or any other time that we meet on occasions. You can't really get rid of them, because they're literally always somehow in your ear. It's tougher for me to end this because I don't come from a western civilization where every man is for himself. I have to take care of them for the rest of life. Any help?

I recently started a small business that does decent, and when I did my dad started screaming like crazy that that I something he has always wanted to do. He also annoys me about my relationship like you guys might break up what will you do? I been with my wife for 12 years that is the last thing I think about. He doesn't let me live my life have a happy business and happy marriage. What do I do about this?

If a husband can accept her for sleeping with them before marriage thinking its just sex, then why should he mind it after marriage as its still sex even then?

My husband, mom and friend all see it but I'm wanting general feedback on it. Thanks!

A friend of mine keeps asking me to date his ex wife. He says he will set me up with a date with her. I wonder how he could do that? He says "She is beautiful (this is true because I have met her) and she is great in bed and has a wonderful personality". I thought that is odd. Why should a guy try to get his ex wife a date. If she is that great, why isn't he still married to her. Then I saw the light. He is paying alimony and if his ex wife remarries he will not longer have to pay alimony. Guys, would you go on a date under these circumstances?

My husband has a single female friend that he met at work... My husband told me that he trusts her completely and that he has opened up to her about very personal stuff... things I don't even know...I told him that he needs to distance himself from her and he says I'm acting crazy... he said they are friends and that her being single shouldn't be an issue... I think that my husband shouldn't have such a close single female friend... i feel like it could lead to other stuff...Do you have similar situations? Am I wrong to think like this?

My wife is literally the only person who rarely insults me,  and I rarely insult anyone.  Even on those rare occasions I'm adamant about seeking forgiveness, and understanding. It isn't like I believe I'm going to help someone grow and become stronger by insulting them,  but it's that why most people do it? 

This is embarrassing, but I am a very observant person, and I don't feel like I am just seeing something that isn't really happening. Our son is almost 13-getting muscles, hairy pits, etc. He is a very good boy. He is innocent and simply walks around in boxers in the evening before bed. I feel like his mother's (my wife's) eyes get overly fixated on him lately, especially in comparison to our younger son, who is not developed. Heres the thing, my wife and I started dating when I was 16 and she was 14. He looks very close to what I looked like at that age. It reminds me of how she looked at me when we were dating in high school. Not sure if this is relevant or not. My wife was sexually abused by her stepfather when she was at the age my son is now. Not sure if that is relevant or not either. What should I say or do? I don't want to embarrass her. She is such a good wife and mother. I don't even know if she is aware. At the same time it is embarrassing to me. It makes me feel uncomfortable for all of us. Maybe this is more normal than I realize. Please only respond if you have good advice and are educated/experienced with something like this. Please don't respond by laughing at the situation either. This is not a troll or whatever. Someone said this earlier-smh Thanks

This is embarrassing, but I am a very observant person, and I don't feel like I am just seeing something that isn't really happening. Our son is almost 13-getting muscles, hairy pits, etc. He is a very good boy. He is innocent and simply walks around in boxers in the evening before bed. I feel like his mother's (my wife's) eyes get overly fixated on him lately, especially in comparison to our younger son, who is not developed. Heres the thing, my wife and I started dating when I was 16 and she was 14. He looks very close to what I looked like at that age. It reminds me of how she looked at me when we were dating in high school. Not sure if this is relevant or not. My wife was sexually abused by her stepfather when she was at the age my son is now. Not sure if that is relevant or not either. What should I say or do? I don't want to embarrass her. She is such a good wife and mother. I don't even know if she is aware. At the same time it is embarrassing to me. It makes me feel uncomfortable for all of us. Maybe this is more normal than I realize. Please only respond if you have good advice and are educated/experienced with something like this. Please don't respond by laughing at the situation either. Thanks!

Not even LinkedIn; he also didn't smile in the engagement/wedding pictures. No pics of her or the wedding 

My wife and I have been married for almost 11 years and have 2 children together. One is in school and one is 6 months old. I am highly focused on making sure I make enough money to be able to pay all the bills( I work 55+60 hours a week) and "hopefully" save enough extra to be able to annually go on family vacations, which we have done most of the time. I also recently received my real estate license and became a part time agent with the intention of going full time within a few years . I spend a lot of time listening to podcasts and reading new things to try to better myself and learn more because my goal is to eventually build a life with passive real estate investments etc.. On the other hand, my wife likes the sound of all that as well, but does nothing to learn, educate herself on any of it. She is not currently employed and doesn't even like discussing or talking about going back to work or what she wants to do. We have a 6 month old and I realize it's a full time job but to me, discussing the future goals of one another in a marriage is important. All she ever says is I watch the kids. We live in a nice house in the suburbs and I've always bought her new cars off the showroom floor since I started making descent money to afford them and they just sit in the driveway . I drive a 12 year old SUV. I love her so much and we've built a long history together but I feel like it's at a standstill and it's very hard to talk to her. What can I do ? I am lost  

no affairs on either side. just a long history of arguing.

Brief intro of what lead up to the situation: Hubby was a little mad about my trip to Bahamas.. I was leaving just hours after the incident happened. He did say he was okay with me going since it was for my cousins wedding.  Anyways, I was upstairs packing and he was downstairs with the kids: 6 & 1. Apparently, our 1 year old son started choking in his car seat and my husband panicked. I heard my name being called but didn't know why, so I didn't come downstairs. My daughter, 6, ran upstairs and told me our son is choking so I ran downstairs to find my husband holding my son and he was fine, aside from a lot of drool from coughing whatever it was up. I walked down and he shoved me the baby. While holding the baby he got in my face hard putting his hands balled up under my chin. Then pinched my nose and pushed me face to the left side. I called him out on this behavior and mentioned I should call the cops for abuse. He belittled the actions then started throwing pieces of cooked eggs at me. And said, "Is this abuse?" Both kids witnessed this. I went upstairs to avoid conflict and finish feeding our 1 year old.  He has grabbed my face twice in the past and once my neck/throat. We went to counseling (one session) but haven't been back yet. My counselor encouraged me to set a boundary of calling the cops if he puts his hands on me, but I was leaving that day and panicked. I asked my counselor and one other lady for advice and none was given!  The "one other lady" is another counselor. Not a "random" person. My kids were not left alone with my husband. I am asking what do if this happens again. I have no money, a lot of debt, no family/support in or out of state. If he went to jail I could not pay any bills, Should I leave if this happens again or what? Please give realistic advice. I am broke and only can work a few hours every day with VIPKID.