to the wedding reception, so that they people can either take a cab home, or have the hosts arrange for cabs to take them home or to their hotel.... so no one has a chance to drink and drive. So there is no risk of hurting someone or worse. What are your thoughts on this? To me, it could be a good idea. What about you?

she was the maid of honor in your own wedding less than a year ago? She had a BP of 7 people, 1 being her sister and 6 friends, and I was not asked. She also didnt ask me to be involved or anything. I feel our friendship is very one sided.

Groom: Charles/Pekto Bride: Sarah

My cousin is getting married this weekend, and I will be traveling 600 miles for this wedding. I am one of the groomsman and I am the only groomsman who lives 600 miles away. When me and the other groomsman were talking about tux rentals, I mentioned the 99 dollar tux rental since most of us were limited on funds.  Since I was not with them all when they picked out the tuxes, they decided to go with the 200 dollar tux instead, which I of course have to pay for. Now from what I am hearing, the bride's side of the family is very well to do, and they were the ones who wanted this tuxedo wedding.  We are now almost at the wedding deadline, and my cousin has all these last minute plans like pictures etc.  My main complaint, is there is no PAID rehearsal dinner, but my cousin asks my 82 year old grandmother to cater their rehearsal dinner. I was like wow. She lives on a fixed income. Not only that, I come to find out the reception is in the back yard of a restaurant, serving picnic style hamburgers and hot dogs, and not even an open bar of wine or beer.  "Cash bar" only.  My grandmother is also in charge of making sides for this "reception dinner". Am I being petty and selfish for being annoyed I had to pay all this money for a tux and they can't even have catered food or an open bar at the reception? Would I be selfish for not leaving them a cash gift and give my grandmother money instead? If money is limited, I think forcing a tux on us should have been out of the equation.