My "friend" and I have been "friends" for 15+ years. All our lives we've had a rocky friendship where one day she wants to be my friend and the next day she's too good to be my friend and ignores me to hangout with the "cool" kids. She basically picks and chooses the days she wants to be my friend. I haven't talked to her in a long time or hung out with her and noticed she's been taking lots of pictures with this other friend of hers. So when she's with other people she totally ignores me and reads my messages and doesn't respond. But when she isnt around her other "cool" friends THEN she wants to be my friend when she's bored and there's nobody else around. I'll admit that she's my only friend and even though she's a jerk that if I lose her I'll have nobody... but right now she's totally ignoring me and isnt responding to my messages because she's too good to talk to me

She doesn't shower and wears the same clothing everyday, she doesn't brush her teeth or hair and obviously doesn't bother with deodorant. She stinks up my hole room everyday and it's a huge distraction! She has no friends and naturally gets bullied, but still doesn't care to change!

It was a week ago, we were close. spent most of summer together and the day he passed away..we were together. I am debating going back to my hometown (across country) for a couple weeks to be near family for support. Or should i deal with the emotions and stay strong in my current city where i have been living for 10 years now? i am 39 yrs old

I spent most of summer with him and the day he passed..it was sudden and tragic and its only been a week but i go through waves of such sadness. Any advice on this?

I work for a company that owns 2 other companies and I want to be switched to another company that's closer to my house. I already talked to them about switching but it fell through when they had already hired everyone and I didn't get it on time. I want to try to go to the other company and already talked to them and they said they'll take me if the company I already worked for said it's okay. I'm kinda embarrassed because I talked to them before and now I have to talk to them about switching to ANOTHER company. How should I talk to them? Should I call them or go in person and talk to them?

She's like REALLY stupid.... send help.

I play this tabletop rpg with some friends I've played with for a year now. But I'm just not having fun anymore, I was good at faking it before but they've started to catch on. One of them gets mad at me for 'being upset for no reason' or that it's my fault that I'm not having fun. My best friend (not in the group) has been telling me to leave the game for weeks because they aren't being very fair. I've been hanging on but the list of grievances just keeps getting longer. I tried bringing it up with the ST (story teller) but all he did was vaguely refute my points... and I'm not sure what's going to happen next game. I guess my question is a bit complicated, because I don't want my disappearance messing with the group or the game because I want the others to continue to enjoy it, so I need advice on how to pretend to be engaged and entertained for the 4-8 hour games we play. (I'm only playing/participating for an hour and a half tops)  I know it's a weird situation and a long question, but I really could use advice from others right now. I'm not entirely sure if I should leave the game, I'm not usually a pushover but theses guys have been my only friends for the past year other than my best friend who I met through the group.  I'm a senior in HS and their ages range to 22-36... which might be why they disregard my rare 'complaints' Best case I'd like to stay in the group either pretending to have fun, or finally getting them to listen to me (one is more likely than the other)

I got a call from my friend Alice who wanted to meet me for lunch. She had a problem she wanted my advice on. At lunch, she told me her son in law (her daughter's husband) wanted her to loan him some money. She had already made him 3 loans and he had not paid any of those 3 loans back. She wanted to know if she should make him a 4th loan. I told her this is a VERY TOUGH situation. She should probably consider the 3 pervious loans as gifts as the odds are VERY LOW they will be paid back. I told her I think the best approach would be to tell him that after he paid back the previous loans, she would consider making him a new loan. I told her to be prepared from a bad reaction from him and also possibly from her daughter. If there are grand children involved, be prepared to hear you will not see your grand children again. I told Alice to think very carefully what she wanted to do. I predict if she made another loan, there will be a request for a 5th loan in the future. I hope I gave her good advice. Do you think I did?

I am the only woman in a office of 17 people. I really like the people I work with and they like me. My 10 year anniversary is coming up soon and my fellow employees are planning a small lunch to celebrate it. They plan for each employee to give a small speech about working with me and to present a small gift and to give me a kiss. Former employees I worked with are also invited. The human resources guy is worried that people will think what they plan to do is a bad idea because the employees would not do that for a man. I think it is a great idea. I am looking forward to it. Do you think it is a bad idea? Your thoughts please.

I'm in my 20s and don't  have many friends since I woke all the time, but for 5 years I have spoken to this person on and off. I only think of him as a friend but I don't  want to be an annoying person. I wrote him on ig where we only communicate.We live VERY far apart, never met, more then likely never will. Please give me the cold hard truth so I won't try and bother him anymore. I wrote him this on ig:"I remember when we used to talk everyday. It was fun for me, I know that we never met in person but you became important to me. I don't know if you remember what I went through, I don't know if you even care but it meant so much to me. I was so alone and stressed, I felt like I wasn't in control of my life.Here's a photo of what he wrote me back.

I can use a little bit of advice.  I have a really good friend who recently came into a great deal of money.  The problem is that they refuse to save anything.  They want to blow it on things that they don't need or think they do need.  Instead of trying to put a little aside.  I have told them that if they don't invest a little, it's going to be gone.  Their attitude is that they are years away from retirement and they are in good health.  Meanwhile they also have two kids going to college in a few years.  How do you nicely tell them that if they don't save they won't have it.  

I work around women all day. This one older lady that I've always been kind to, picks on me, is rude and talks to me like I'm a child. In return I check up on her health, family, buy her birthday gifts, etc.  The lead teacher has been a ***** to me during my first year for no absolute reason. Had me walking on eggshells because she was explosive. As the years progressed she has calmed down and gained social skills needed for the job. I've forgiven her without a formal apology and treat her as nice as I treat everyone else. I bought her a Christmas gift, didn't get one back which is fine. I don't know how to deal with these women, as I like to live my life in harmony. I feel that they are mean to me, especially the older lady. I'm always very nice actually maybe too nice. What to do? I thought of finding a new job but there's fake people everywhere. I don't know how to take this. 

A friend Linda who works in the same large office building as I do ask if I could drive her home as her car would not start. At her home, we were met by her teenage daughter Cindy who I had met previously. Linda ask me to stay for a dinner she would cook for me. As Linda was cooking dinner Cindy ask me if I would help her with her homework which I did. After we finished her homework, Cindy ask me if I thought her mom was cute. I told the truth, her mom was cute. Then Cindy ask me if there were guys that would want to date her mom. I told her with her mom's great beauty, yes there were lots of guys that would want to date her. That is as far as I wanted to take this conversation. However Cindy wanted to go farther. She said she wanted a dad and asked me to encourage her mom to start dating. I told her this was a conversation she should be having with her mom not me. Even though I was her mom's friend, the subject of her mom dating is none of my business. Cindy told me she would be the happiest girl in the world to call me dad. Would I ask her mom for a date? I told her that her mom was 10 years older than I was and probably would want to date someone her age. I again urged Cindy to talk to her mom about this. Mothers (and others) did I handle this situation correctly and should I tell Linda about this conversation

It was Sunday morning and I was having a group of women over at my home for lunch. All of a sudden I had no electricity in the house. I started calling electricians in the phone book. None of them would come out on a Sunday. In a desperate move, I tried something VERY bold for me. I called my ex husband Jason. I had not talked to him in over a year. I explained my problem and he said I will be right over and fix that for you. He came over and finished fixing the problem just in time for lunch. He would not take any money for his help so I thought the least I could do was invite him to join us for lunch. He was VERY charming at lunch to me and all the other women. He told me how great the lunch was and how beautiful I still looked. ALL the single women at the lunch wanted to talk to him and be with him. All of us had a great time at lunch and great conversation. After Jason left, the women told me that was the best lunch for the group I ever had. I am scheduled to have a lunch for these women in to 3 months. Several of the single women ask me it I would invite Jason to join us for that lunch. I understand their point of view. Jason is a great looking guy. I know they would enjoy the lunch more if he was there but would it be wrong of me to invite him just to make the single gals happy. It seems kind of kinky to me. I would appreciate your advice. Thanks.

what do i do if i have a friend who i really never hit it off with (at least i think that) in senior high school because of his involvment in everything as well as several friend groups, and my anxieties prevented me from doing so. and now he hes in another school i got denied to but will transfer next year. what do you think my options are?

Allowing women to wear revealing clothing is no different than allowing people to watch porn. It tempts men to rape and think sexually about women instead of looking at women as humans, not sex objects. Many people like to call Muslims backwards for requiring women to cover up, but Muslims are completely correct. It s People should support covering up women. That s the only way women will gain respect.

A friend of mine promised two attorneys that he wouldn't talk dirty online again and then once he promised he did it again so does he need to wrote them and apologize again 

I've always been hearing my friends saying something like "omg, u and that Phoebe are so alike, u guys should be friends." And I asked them whos that and they told me it's from a TV show called Friends, i mean i've heard of the show, but i never watched it. So what is Phoebe like? Why are my friends keep saying that? They alwys say i am one thin line between normal and abnormal........... Are they trying to diss me?

This is a long story, but I'll try to make it as simple as possible.  My best friend and I have been best friends for over six years. We met in high school and did everything together. This past summer, I asked her to go on a trip with me. She said yes and was super excited because her boyfriend doesn't really like travelling. We picked Peru and she planned out our whole itinerary. She works at a hotel and gets incredible discounts on hotels, so she put all of the accommodation under her name and credit card. When we got to Peru, things immediately went sideways. She was complaining about everything and anything, was constantly on her phone, and never left the hotel (except for once to see Machu Picchu). On our fourth day she started crying- she said she missed her family and boyfriend, was tired of having motion sickness, and felt sick from the altitude (although I believe her symptoms were just anxiety). You could tell she was disappointed with Peru. I told her we could talk about leaving early, and she said she wanted to leave ASAP. Her mom said she'd pay for her ticket, and my friend said that she'd cover mine. She later retracted that and said she'd pay for half of it, and then later said she'd pay for half and I'd have to pay her back for it.  The whole time we were at Machu Picchu she talked about going home. It was hard for me to enjoy myself (I told her this). Long story short, I ended up staying in Peru and she left. She cancelled all of the accommodation and  (continued...) left me without a cellphone plan (we agreed she'd get the plan and we'd share it). After she left she didn't ask how I was or what I was up to. She didn't ask about my flight (our flight had a connection in Miami, where there was a hurricane) or about my food poisoning (it was on my Instagram). Shortly after I got home she started asking me for all the money I owed her from Peru (the hotels we stayed in) because "Christmas was coming up" (even though it was only September) I've spoken to my friends and family and everyone's divided. Some people are upset that she felt fine leaving me without making sure I was ok, and the others think it's fine because I didn't stop her + she clearly wasn't feeling well. That being said, I'd love an outside perspective. If this has happened to you, what did you do? What would you do in my situation?

Im besfriends with this dude David.,  Me and David have been friends with this girl From work named Erica.   We been friends with her for the past 8 months,    Lately ive been having feelings for Erica and she likes me too.    Me and Erica always flirt, and we we doo is talk about Us.    But apperantly she has told My friend David everything about her life.   She has told him about all her baggage,  apperantly she's been through sooo much in her life.   But why has she never mentioned anything to me.   Does she not trust me????? I know for a fact they don't have interest in each other