No one is in his room He doesn't have the TV on The nurses at his assisted living think he's going crazy But daddy is a smart man - he was a scientist and digital engineer before he retired 8 years ago 

I am a 26 year old woman who has put my life on pause rightly or wrongly to help be a full time step mum to my fiancé's almost 9 year old daughter. I refer to my step daughter as a "motherless child" because whilst her mother is alive, she is a semi-functioning alcoholic, drug user and now we've just found out prostitute that has never and will never be present in my step daughters life. My fiancé works a lot and very hard to pay for everyone around him including his daughters mother. She's crashed two cars he bought her, she's wrecked the new house he bought her over time and he pays for her bills. At first i didn't understand how bad a state this woman was in, I tried to be compassionate and include her in my step daughters life more as clearly other family members have given up but I can see now that she will never get better and she is having a negative effect on my step daughter. I am the only full time parent in her life. I do everything with her and for her but I have no legal rights. My fiancé is scared to go through family court as they tend to favour the mother. Also is it wrong for us to stop her from seeing her mum entirely? What should we do? I feel like my step daughter is always going to be damaged by this whichever way. It breaks my heart. Please help. I feel so hopeless.

So I'm 20, waiting till the spring of 2020 for my second year of college, and I am currenly looking for a job (my paperwork was messed up for fall 2k19 so i had to skip this semester) Job hunting where i live is difficult because older people, who should have a career already (or a stable job) have most positions. Now this is fine and all i don't really need a job because i get enough financhial aid and i don't care for money but i decided that i would attempt to save a lot of FA by saving up on $ for books.  So the big problem here? My nosy *** family have decided that i DESPERATELY need a job. Well that and they cant wait to use me as their personal piggy bank. I have been woken up multiple times from my aunt knocking on my bedroom door asking me if I've called those people i was interviewed by last week at least eight times a day to ask if i have got the position. My mother has even CALLED (without permission) people to ask for me and it's driving me crazy. I am 20 years old but they treat me like im a three year old leech.  I don't want to be disrespectful and tell them to leave me tf alone but im close to snapping on them. How to i get them to back off without being rude?

My girlfriend is a very thin woman (5'4" 110lb) but she routinely fishes for compliments by calling herself fat, or even obese. The first time she did this I was very concerned because she's clearly not overweight, so I would reassure her that she's very thin and that this is all just low self esteem issues. No matter how much reassurance I give she consistently refers to herself as fat. She doesn't have an eating disorder either, feels like she just does this to get attention and compliments (I'm happy to compliment her but she could just ask.) I finally reached the tipping point when she referred to herself as "hugely fat" in front of my mother, who actually is overweight. My mom didn't appear offended but it was clearly in poor taste. To lighten the mood, I turned to my girlfriend and said "okay Big Chungus" And everyone laughed (including our waiter ) So after that it seemed like playfully calling her "big chungus" or "megachonk " or "on lawd she comin'" was the answer to this issue. When I reassure her, she persisted in calling herself fat, but when I call her "Miss Supreme Heftychonk Her Majesty Big Chungus" (just an example but many similar names to that) she realizes she's not getting compliments and stops complaining. But one of her friends just emailed telling me that I'm emotionally tormenting my girlfriend and "ruining her self esteem." Am I really? I reassured her for months before I lost my nerve and it doesn't feel right to encourage fishing for compliments.

This is the last year that I have to live with her. The stress is enormous as shown up by my medical exams; blood pressure etc.  Another reason I have to live with her relates to business. 

This may be really long so here goes.  My mother suffers from a great deal of anxiety. I recently got married back in May and she has only came to see me once. That was like a week after I got married. She lives 15 min away from me and hasn't since came to my house to see me or my husband. I have 2 beautiful step kids and they don't even know her because she hasn't came by. The only time I ever see her is when I come to HER house. And every time I do, she doesn't ask about my husband or the kids. She never wants them to come when we go out to eat. Lately I told her how I felt about her not coming over and not seeing my husband or kids because every time I try to invite her she says no or makes up excuses. She automatically assumes that I just wanted her to come to make myself feel better and that I must feel really insecure about my marriage. All because I wanted her to come to MY house and spend time with my family and I. I'm giving her her space and I don't even want to come to her house anymore. I'm fed up that she would even think that. The holidays are coming up and I'm not even sure if I should go to her house to see her because things won't be the same. All I want to do is just try and invite her to my house for Christmas. But then I feel bad because I feel like I HAVE to go to her house for Christmas because that's how it's always been but I'm married now so things are different. Any advice on what I should do? I'm just tired of feeling guilty. 

okay so my mom thinks it's okay to give my little brother an iPad he doesn't need any more electronical devices he has three now. One I sold to her the second we got from our mobile provider for free and the third that iPad mini she has have locked away because it got locked. I just fixed it a couple seconds ago and I think my little sister deserves one because she doesn't even have one and she's older

My husband and I have a huge decision to make and we only have till tomorrow to decide. His dad has been in ICU for a week now and we are supposed to fly to Iceland Saturday for a weeks trip. I have had a hell of a year. Lost my step dad to suicide, had to help my mom recover, deal with cutting my dad out of my life for good then I got really sick and had to have surgery. This trip was supposed to be not only way to get away and have fun but also our honey moon. Doctors are hopeful he's going to pull through after having septis and being treated with dialysis my husband is afraid if we go something bad will happen. Right now we just really don't know, he has to stay in the hospital another week minimum regardless to be treated. His dad and step mom both told us to go but we are conflicted on what to do. Do we stay and regret not going or do we go and risk something happening? We don't have insurance on our trip(stupid I know) but if we don't go we will not get any of our money back.

My brother and his wife have been trying for 2 years to have a baby. They both had medical tests to see what the problem was. It turns out my brother has a very low sperm count. The doctors told them they had 1 in 500 chances that he could impregnate his wife. They checked out sperm banks and they were very expensive and it took a long time to finish the paper work. His wife now wants me to be a sperm donor. My brother agrees. They said it is simple, fast, and no costs, no one will know about it except the 3 of us and they will never tell anyone. I am would be happy to help them in their time of need but I am afraid I will have some unexpected trouble in the future if I do this. Should I consult a lawyer about this or am I worried for nothing.

My dad married a much younger woman. I am 18 and my step mom Liz is just 5 years older than I am. She is a great mom and I just adore her. Dad loves to dance but Lis did not know how to dance. She ask me to teach her so she could surprise dad by asking him to go dancing with her. I would practice dancing with her when I got home from school until dad got home from work. It took a while but she became a good dancer. She surprised dad by taking him to a dance and he really enjoyed it. When the got home from the dance, dad told me how pleased he was I taught Liz to dance. He said they had a great time dancing that evening. Liz said I owe you big time for teaching me to dance. It gave your dad so much pleasure. She said "What can I teach you to do that you will really enjoy"? Any suggestions on what I can tell her she can teach me to do?

My question is my parents disown or I say push me leave from the house & right now I'm 18 years old I'm just trying to help that there all day dispute with my family some day they are with each other & someday with me but my mother's brother family come's in & kick me punch me there's bleeding on my nose after that they told me there is nothing is mine here not the house to live or anything I wanna to study & do stuff i don't know what i am gonna do i don't know anything about property & living right's in parent's house stuff there sometimes when I am alone in room i thing maybe I'm wrong or right i don't know i just wanna to live my life just like normal people live & full fill there dreams. I write this post only the words comes out of my heart & my feelings I am victim in this situation but nobody can help me because i don't know how many words can describes my feelings I don't know about me but I know there are boys or girls exact age just like me there can live there life fullest with love maybe in future. 

I am engaged to a girl who is an atheist Jew and comes from a Jewish family. I am also an atheist. We want to start a family together in the future but there is an issue with her family and her mother: circumcision.  I would never dream of forcing that upon a child never mind my own. But it's a big deal with her family because they are religious.  A few days ago it turned out that my fiancées cousin had decided not to circumcise her newborn son, and the family were not happy at all with that.  We have not raised this issue with her mother but a few days ago she was telling my fiancee that "I wish you were more spiritual" and referring to circumcision "you don't know how important it is and what the meaning behind it is" and "please don't ever do that to me it would hurt me more than anything in the world"  This kind of mentality is very frustrating and now she is scared to have a boy or have children now because of this dumb religion.  What can we do? There is absolutely no need to mutilate a baby boys penis without any medical reason just so that her families imaginary friend can be pleased.  It's so frustrating and not normal, what can we do? We feel like we are in a position where we can't start a family because of this.  My fiancee is scared if she doesn't than her family will stop talking to her. 

My husband and I have a huge decision to make and we only have till tomorrow to decide. His dad has been in ICU for a week now and we are supposed to fly to Iceland Saturday for a weeks trip. I have had a hell of a year. Lost my step dad to suicide, had to help my mom recover, deal with cutting my dad out of my life for good then I got really sick and had to have surgery.  This trip was supposed to be not only way to get away and have fun but also our honey moon. Doctors are hopeful he's going to pull through after having septis and being treated with dialysis my husband is afraid if we go something bad will happen. His dad and step mom both told us to go but we are conflicted on what to do. Do we stay and regret not going or do we go and risk something happening? We don't have insurance on our trip(stupid I know) but if we don't go we will not get any of our money back.

So I'm just over 18 and I have a barely over minimum wage full time job until I figure out what the hell I wanna do with my life. I can feed my self so my fridge almost completely empty and money isnt a problem. My mother is a nursing supervisor at one of the best hospitals in Massachusetts. So she make six figures has a car and everything no physical condition stopping her from going to the store. I try to address the issue  respectfully. By saying "mom would you please do a food shopping." I get accuse of being demanding entitled and selfish and then accuses me further of being demanding for just asking. She told me I cant tell her what to do but as you can see by my question I wasnt. So I went out and bought pizza cause I have a little sister that just turned 12 and its just for myself and her and she gave it away to other people when I was at work without my permission on her day off she could of ordered or went to the store. I just dont get it money was never an issue ever but this continues to happen and I fail to understand why. I buy my food at the grocery store and she eat and she probably makes what I make in 4hrs in an hr I've seen her bank statements so I just eat out now and let the fridge stay empty cause this is crazy she even did it to me as a teen growing up but lucky I have a job now.

I always think I'll lose my mom soon...if she had me atleast when she was 30 it would be better.

Hey guys. I graduated high school in 2018 and I've had a job ever since I graduated. I go to college and only take about 3 classes a semester because my work schedule is so messed up. I normally work 4pm-1am so I don't come home until 1:30 most nights and I don't actually fall asleep until 3 or 4am. It doesn't bother me, I just sleep until 10am so I have enough time to go to my classes and do all my work for the classes. Lately they've been throwing everything I was ever passionate about or any ideas I've had like right in my face. They tell me my current major isn't really good because I don't have any experience. Then they tell me I can't do the hobbies I want to because "they're not for people like me". Then they tell me to move out even though it's literally impossible because California prices are ridiculous and when I tell them I can move to a cheaper state they say I can't and that I would never make it on my own.  They tell me I'm lazy because I sleep until ten and when I tell them it's because of my weird schedule they say my life is easy and that I should be up early with them. I feel like I can't do anything right. I go to school and I work. When I'm at home I watch TV and do homework and when they start arguing with me they tell me I don't do ANYTHING.  This entire thing is just resulting in sleepless nights and me changing my major every few months because they tell me what I want "isn't for me". I don't know what to do anymore or where to even start.

She insults everyone from the my sister's in-laws to her own cousin who is ADHD to my brother's wife whose not who my Mom would have chosen to my step-father's family to her ex-husband of 30 years ago who is my father to her sister for not helping to my step-father's redneck friend to her ex-in-laws from 30 years ago to her sister's friends.

Ever since I can remember I've always felt the need to cry when I talk to my dad. We have never been close & he mocks me when I do cry. It's gotten to the point where I always cry when I talk to him which leads to him mocking me. I never cry in other situations, so why do I suddenly become so emotional around him? 

Our families washing machine is making weird noise and not starting. it just makes the water filling noise and then makes a broken sounding noise and does nothing. We can't afford a repair person atm

My mom lost her job and got behind on her mortgage payments and was in danger of losing her home of 30 years. Of all the people she could of asked for help, she asked my ex husband Bill. She really liked Bill when we were married and he really liked her. I guess that friendship did not stop with our friendly divorce like I thought it would. Bill immediately paid the back mortgage payments and also he paid 1 years mortgage payments in advance. He also used his business contacts to get her a new job. That is totally in character with Bill. As long as I have known him, if he finds out someone needs help, he helps them. Mom went from VERY DEPRESSED to VERY HAPPY in one day. I am not sure how I should feel about this. I and my siblings agree that mom should of asked us first for help but we all admit we could not have helped her like Bill did. We just do not have that kind of money. I told Bill we would somehow repay him. He told me he would not accept any repayment. He said mom was great to us when we were married and this was his repayment to her. Am I off base to think mom should of asked us first before going outside the family for help. Is it possible that it would be too embarrassing for mom to ask her family for help?

I am having to see him Sunday. I don't like being around him and people make excuses for him cause he is autistic. I am 24 and don't like being talked to that way. What do I do? Should I skip the party Sunday since he is going to be there? I don't like him. He is 12 and shouldn't talk like that.

My sister suffers from multiple health issues and many times she has to go to the hospital for hours. I always try to help her with her 1 year old son. I always felt sorry for her and her condition but there is something about her that really bothers me. She would tell me things last minute. For instance, she would call in the morning and ask me to babysit in the afternoon. Sometimes she would call me when she is on her way to my house. I felt sorry for her and never said anything but I told her to please let me know ahead of time. 2 weeks ago she called me asking me to get her child because she had a doctor's appointment. She knew about the appoinment 2 weeks ago so why wait until the day. I live in an studio apartment. I have 1 bedroom. My dad lives with me and doesn't work. I work full time and full time student. I left at 7 am and got home at 8 pm. My boyfriend and I planned to watch a movie at home. When I got home my sister was there with her son and a bunch of bags. I was like: what are you doing here? So she asked my dad to babysit my son for a week and didn't even bother to tell me. Again, I live in a studio apartment and I have 1 bedroom.  I pay the rent alone. I think it was very inconsiderate for my dad and her to make plans when it is my house. Now can anyone tell me how do I suppose to watch a movie with my boyfriend ? My plans are ruined. It isn't that I don't want my nephew in my house. What bothered me is that she didn't tell me. Was I wrong for being upset?

My moms side of the family think Ohio is the center of the universe. They're the basic boring *** suburban people and I feel like the black sheep. I don't care about any of their boring lives. All they care about is sports and their kids. My cousins are having babies and I have to pretend like I care and pretend that I think they're cute when I don't. I'm just sitting here like I want to travel the world, move to England, and I hate kids and love cats. I can't relate to my family at all...

single forever with lots of money or poor with a husband / wife

For those whole don't know smule is a singing app where you can sing popular songs with people from around the world .. sorta like Karaoke... you can adjust your voice to sound better and all that jazz.   Well my mom bought the app and she has been singing for the past 6months nonstop. I'm not exaggerating either. It's ruined our relationship, she doesn't want to do anything but that. I go in the room to have a quick chat with her and it turns into her showing me 20 songs she sang & she always expects a crazy reaction from me and praise that she sounds good. It gets real old real fast. I don't know how to explain to her yes she sounds great on the app but in real life she sounds TERRIBLE. She redoes a song 15x over and over again so we hear the same sh*t nonstop.  Like I said she expects a reaction every song she ever does asking me 20 million times if I like the songs. Like... you sound "good" what more do you want from me. Hmmm stepdad doesn't even exist in her life anymore. She is EXTREMELY sensitive. If you don't praise a song she will hold a grudge that you didn't like a song. If you agreed with her that a song wasn't as good it is over with & she'll want to kick me out the house. It does not look like her stopping is anywhere in sight. How do I get this to stop. Obviously I'm going crazy