I'm his mother, and our son is 17. He has recently been pushing the boundaries of bad behaviour, and I've been trying to keep a lid on it. I've taken his phone away when he swore and sent him up to his room, but this hasn't really worked.  Last Saturday, his girlfriend was over and he wanted to take my car to go for dinner with her. I don't know how he thought I'd allow that, since he hasn't passed his driving test yet. I told him no, and offered to pick and drop him instead. He argued about it and I refused, until he finally lost control and spat on the floor in front of me.  With his girlfriend watching, I gave him such a hard slap in the face I could feel my own fingers stinging. He looked at me, humiliated but began to argue once more. Still enraged, I cut him off with another, even harder slap across the same cheek. I could see the bruise and his left cheek had gone scarlet; his face must have been on fire. Tears began to roll down it but I grabbed his ear and marched him to his room even as he cried, and locked him in. I called his girlfriend a taxi home.  Next day, there was a clear mark on his face where I slapped it, and it made me feel bad. He came down, apologised to me and said he deserved the slaps, and that it was a big wake up call. I told him I did not enjoy hitting him, and was proud he had taken it the right way.  But nobody likes being hit in the face, especially not by their mother in front of their girlfriend. So should I say sorry to him?

My son is 22 and he's suffering from major depressive disorder. He's now in the hospital and whenever he's allowed to go home, his father takes care of him. Me and his father got a divorce when our son was 8. He had a closer relationship with his father. I got married after two years and left the country with my husband. I was a horrible mother. All these years I've only visited my son about 4 times and I've had brief conversations with him through the phone and later, through social media. He now hates me and he says that every time he sees me, his mental condition gets worse, as I disgust him. He's in a very bad state right now. What should I do?

We have been told for the past 8 years my niece is my BILs daughter. My BIL is an absent father and not on the birth certificate, but we have done what we can to see her and my in laws see her on a regular basis. There is a language barrier between mother and our family which makes things difficult. There has been a few issues almost involving CPS so in an attempt to make sure we're able to get her in the event she is removed from mothers home, I went digging. You know the old saying "don't go digging because you'll find something you don't want to know"? Well, I have gotten confirmation she is not biologically my BILs daughter.  I am a believer in they have a right to know. I sincerely hope it doesn't change their relationship but I cannot guarantee that.  My husband is unsure if they would want to know. There has always been the question because a DNA test was (obviously) never done. She does look like my BIL and my MIL always accepted that. (BIL and bio dad look a lot a like).  Husband suggested we give MIL and FIL everything they need to find out, without telling them we know. (We came across this, you can call here to find out more info, etc). Should we give my in laws the tools they need to find out the truth or let it be? (Please give your reason why as we are trying to view every angle and there are more concerns that what I've shared intentionally left out to keep this as short as possible). Bonus points if you've been in a similar situation from any angle!! 

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My father is a proud, salt of the earth type of man. Stoic, old school and a man of few words. He would still probably work, if he could have it his way. And he did work, 2 years passed the retirement age. Me and my wife don't have the time to take care of him. He is cooped up in his apartment, doesn't see anyone, doesn't talk to anyone, can barely hear and spends his time mostly being grumpy and difficult. I took him to show him the place we had in mind. It's a great place. They have activities, he can meet people his own age and stay active. But he refuses to see reason. I got my own problems with work, with the family, raising kids and all that. I hoped to God that I would never come to a point where I say that I don't have the time and energy for my father, but it's the truth. One day he is going to injure himself or worse and no one is going to be there to help him. He would probably try to stitch himself up before he calls an ambulance. I don't know what to do with him. How did you do it with your elderly parents?

College sophomore. I have crippling depression and a ADHD. I am barely getting by in school, let alone in everything else. I don't party or waste my time yet I still struggle with deadlines and I fail tests regularly. I have had to repeat so many classes at this point that my major just let me know they won't accept me into the program. I am tired and depressed all the time and I hate being here. I don't have friends anymore, a club I started got shut down by admin for trying something new (nothing illegal though, just somethign they saw as a threat), my family disowned me after a disagreement and my step mom died recently. I went back home for a day and even after buying a $5k casket with my own money, none of them will talk to me let alone let me spend the night with them. I was notified of pending financial aid by my school but they mistakenly took it away quickly after and now they won't correct the mistake and I have to get into thousands of debt to afford this f-ing schoo.To add to that, I have to take ADHD medication and I have become so dependent on it to the point of being addicted. I can't eat or sleep and I have lost so much weight that I can't carry a laundry basket down a flight of stairs to the laundry room. I gave up so much to try to go to school and make my family proud but all I ended up being was a broke, depressed, malnourished, tired, clinically insane adderall addict with no prospects of getting a degree and no home to go back to.

 Hi i just want to say i'm 26 years old and i also want to talk about my dad. my dad loves tooo control me tooo much if lets say i wanna go to a beach and a concert on the same day he said no you're only allowed to go to one place !! like what i'm i 5 years old? He just always loves to ruin someone's happiness its because i guess he was neglected as a child i get it but why do we have to suffer? So i'm thinking i really need a psychologist because lets say if also i dont want to eat my dad will suspect and will think oh no maybe im doing something wrong or if i dont eat he shall punish me or something and i want to freaking lose weight !! Already i cannot cook i cannot make at least a diet coz theyre power are taking over me !! i feel like i have no power whatsoever no confidence in anything and also my dad just love to keep on spying on me with his cameras he even put it in his own home !! If its for the streets okay i get it its for security but inside why? even infront of the TV and now even downstairs because of the ******* maid my friends will think his a psycho freak or something my dad is a BIG TIME STALKER!! Infact u know my dad went to uni but never completed he dropped out so i'm thinking maybe thats why sometimes is acting like his out of his character. Dont get me wrong i do like my dad but just sometimes he can be too much.As well as my stepmom.

Hi i just want to say i'm 26 years old now and i'm a student at the University as freshman and i just want to ask you all a question that Do you think it's better if i go to a psychologist first to ask if i can live in my own apartment now? My parents ARE very CONTROLLING i guess thats normal because theyre parents but what if like lets say my stepmom doesn't allow me to at least cook or clean? So what should i do? Should i protest? i even did that before with my family it did not end well it's just not fair that i'm over 18 and they're just still treating me like i'm a little BABY and that should be illegal even if lets say i want to have a food from a fridge i cant cuz i have to ask her permission first or otherwise she'll start a fight with me she thinks this is only her house and only her kitchen when is she ever gonna decide to let me grow up and actually learn instead of shrinking me even more? 

My mom is a single parent, on disability, and working a part time job. Her annual income is less than $20,000, and she pays about $1,400 a month for rent. I'm in my third year of college, paying tuition by myself, and with the help of financial aid. I work 10 hours a week, but I only make about $69-74 dollars a week (I get paid weekly) because my university takes out $20 per check for my parking pass (the parking pass is $460, and it was a better option for me to have my university take out $20 per check, versus paying $460 in full) plus taxes are taken out. Currently, my mom and I are on the same phone plan, so she's paying $90 a month for that, and she's paying car insurance ($170) on a car that I drive. The car is in her name, but I only use it to get back and forth from work. She expects me to help her pay the car insurance and the phone bill, which I literally cannot do. Then she guilt trips me for not being help to help out, calls me unappreciative, and a bad daughter. I don't know what to do. I honestly don't have to funds to even take care of myself, let alone pay her bills. I don't know what to do. She makes me feel bad for not helping her, but I really can't. 

I wanted to go for a hike but my dad is too lazy to do that so we're eating cake at my grandmothers nursing home.

I want to know if my brother who abused me by choking me has blocked my phone number. I got mad at him for it and our parents blamed me because my brother is mentally ill. I'm hoping he has blocked my number but how do I know?

i wish all parents are supportive to their children. it bothers me alot. even though im adult now and have my own decision i still want my parents blessing. i want everything to be happy. why it can't happen. im so sad :'( please  respect and dont be rude. 

I was my younger siblings roommate last year while she is in college.  I honestly don't want to renew the lease with her because she never washes dishes.  I work 11 hour days plus weekends so I am really fed up with coming home to full sinks of dirty dishes overflowing onto the counter.  I told my family that I will not sign the new lease until she finds a way to do her dishes. They keep saying they will buy her a table top dish washer ($150) but it has been a year now and they haven't gotten it yet.  My birthday is next week.  I told my mom I don't want any gifts or a dinner until after they get my sister her dish washer, and that gifts and dinner are unnecessary. Not having to spend my few hours at home cleaning up after someone else is more valuable to me.  Now my mom is mad and won't talk to me

So It was roughly 6 in the morning and I was fast sleep in my room on the other side of the house from my parents room. Suddenly I'm woken up by screaming. It was my mother; she was screaming at the top of her lungs like she was being murdered, it sent chills through my whole body. I was still in a quasatic mode and half asleep but she continues to scream in small, sporadic bursts while I could hear my dad trying to comfort her and figure out what was going on. The bursts of blood curdling screams continued for about another 4-5 times until I jumped up and ran out into the kitchen. For some reason the only light that was on in the whole house was my sisters room and as I rushed in there my mom was laying in the bed on her side with my dad hovered over her. (My sister is off to college). By the time I got there the screaming was over and she was asleep but my dad and I couldn't figure out what was going on. I do think she suffers from PTSD from her first marriage, it was a pretty rough one filled with abuse and cheating. Also she has been off of her anti depressant medication for 4 days now and this has been going on for the past week but not to this extent. Does anyone have an answer?

At home she's very disrespectful and has a bad attitude towards me for no reason, but when around other people or at events she kinda turns into this little sweet girl who admired her big brother so much. Why isnt she like this all the time? She changed ever since she became a teenager and today she's 21.

I met a 16 year old via social media whom I connect with really well. We're just like normal friends. Is the age difference inappropriate even if nothing sexual? I am not looking to exploit a child, in fact I already have an adult boyfriend 

*(i'm 15)* My 5 year old brother spits on me, calls me names that are very disrespectful and hits me constantly. I let him do this to me and all my parents do is laugh or give him a half-*** warning, then lets him continue bothering me. When I actually tell him to stop or slightly push him away from me, my parents yell, threaten me or take my phone away and tell me that if I continue "bullying" him, they're not going to let me go to x place or they're not going to let me get x things; and make the excuse that "he's only a kid". Today, I was supposed to get a new phone, and my little brother started stabbing me with a pen and spitting at me at the apple store, so I lightly pinched his ear and he made a scene at the store and all my parents did was leave the store and told me that I'm the reason why he's the way he is… I haven't done anything wrong and I always let him step on me and I'm tired of it and how my parents think it's acceptable for him to do this.

My soon to be baby's father other baby mama is denying access to their son  and I'm wondering how can we get him permanently? She will NOT let him see their son at all because I guess he's not paying child support. But, he DID sign the birth certificate. The only reason I think she's really mad is because we've only known each other for 2 month's and I didn't say hi to her. Though, she still is immature. 

We were kissing in my bedroom, alone for hours when my dad came home earlier because it was raining. I must have forgotten to close the door because as soon as he opened it, we froze. My dad just saw him on my side, having his hand on my cheek, got mad and started insulting and screaming at him like crazy, took him by his shirt and started pushing and physically mistreating him. I wanted to defend him but he said 'I'll kill you' and I was so scared. My boyfriend tried to calm him down said 'I didnt do anything I swear to god' my dad kept calling him sick bastard, dirty and then pushed him to go away. I cried and was shocked, I wanted to run after him but my dad stopped me and showed my his hand ready to hit me. I cried the whole afternoon, my bf sent a message with 'are you alright? Please tell me he didn't hit you because  of me. I'm sorry for what happened, it's all my fault. You are too young he is right'. I am 14 and he's 18. I dont care what my dad thinks. He wasnt there when I was hit at school, when I had to face all the bullying by myself because we are not rich etc...he wasnt there when I was crying going home, without friends at all, insulted by all. He didnt even take me to the hospital after I was hit. He was. My boyfriend went to beat up the guy as soon as he was told what happened. He is the one who shows me love and affection. He is not dirty. He is pure and innocent. I wont give up on the only thing that keeps me alive, I'm just scared of my dad hitting me.  I understand but I dont care, I love him! He is the only one who has shown care and affection for me, I need him like air, I love him more than myself. I felt so guilty for bot being able to defend him. I want to get married to him.as soon as possible so that I'll be forever with him. He is my angel, my reason to live and my dad is taking away the only thing that keeps me alive. I dont care about the law or society. If society was that good I wouldn't have been bullied