I get home, drop my bag by the door, call them, no answer, i keep calling, then I go to my neighbors to see if they know whats up, how do I calm my feelings when they don't pick up, i don't want to be that dependent, but i cant help it. please help.

My sister is sad because her boyfriend is getting a job here soon. She's worried she won't get to see him very much they live on different ends of town they're both on disabilities so they don't drive. They go to an art class for disabled adults they see each other there only on Monday. She's been really worried about this so she decided to go see her SSA and talk about getting a job too that's been 2 weeks she still hasn't heard nothing. She said maybe they can work in the same place together. Her SSA said maybe that would be possible. He's more upset about this than her I don't know why he be I think he be happy.  She's gonna see him on Thursday he's coming over he's gonna talk to her about it. This is the first real long relationship either one of them has ever had. I can tell those two are meant for each other he's a really sweet boy he always brings her gifts or love letters. She's really attached to him. How can I help her feel better ? 

We had a huge argument on the phone and we dont get along. She keeps bringing up negative stuff from the past like its al my fault. She pushes my buttons, provokes me, and doesnt respect me. It's taken a couple years for me to get some self esteem back. I dont want to visit anymore because it's just back and forth arguing.  I tried being civil many times but she starts saying things to trigger me and is not happy for me at all. Should I just text? Or dont feel bad. I dont want anything either.

Me and my cousin Taylor very close Growing up, i've heard from multiple that Taylor's mom used claim that I wasn't as pretty as everyone said & tried 2 see who would get the most compliments.She has a history of comparing us even though all of the cousins love each other. My cousin Taylor has always had bad manners& shares too much information but would be in complete denial if approached while I am a very PASSIVE aggressive person A few months ago, we were all hanging out with Tay's coworkers and she was trying to convince them to stop by on a holiday dinner and mentioned "my grandpa is a pastor but he likes pain pills& my grandma's last son isn't really our uncle" but she was drunk and ...I SHOULDVE corrected her there but I let it slide because she was being silly She also tells me whenever her mom talks about my family such as "My mom thinks our family is full of it"& MANY more.I had a talk with her then about not sharing her family's private thoughts about me & my family, because she wouldn't like if I did the same.. BUT she did it again while with her friends,..she was drunk & also said "My mom had a nice body I know she slept with a lot of men" and looked to me & said "but i just KNOW YOUR MOM WAS A H*E..look at her..I KNOW SHE WAS A HOE", it was so unneeded. Therefore I told her the next day how her mother acted when we were babies, and Taylor LOST IT..and was appalled that I would share something like that about her mother to her, but she continues to do it

She would complain that he was too controlling when he got mad that she maxed out a card.  She would even apply for and hide credit cards from him.  Then my brother passed and she doesn't have the income to pay them off.  She has now been hounding me to help her.  I do feel bad for my niece.  How should I help my niece without funding her mother's spending habits?  

So I've seen my sister's birth records and her father was African-American and her mother a white teen of German ancestry. My sister is narcissistic, loves throwing out insults, rowdy, and comes across as a white girl in physical appearance. My sister has no desire to do the DNA test or contact the birth family despite us knowing the birth mothers name. My parents even met the birth mother and her mother. My sister does not like African-American like the guy who's claim to be her father who my parents have a picture of. He was a teenager just like the birth mother. So what my question is is this, how can I convince my sister to give me a DNA test so I can find out if she has Donald Trump's daughter? My sister looks too white to be the daughter of the guy photo does the birth father but she's very narcissistic like our president. Please excuse any spelling errors as I'm talking into my iPhone.  

The weather was spectacular and the trip would've been perfect. He backed off because of a last-minute plan at a stupid beach house that I hate.

And if I do notify her how do I introduce myself when she hasn't seen me in years? My uncle and his ex-wife split in 1999 and I never saw this cousin of the exes mother again except at a funeral in 2002. I remember she went to this high school though. This sign is incredibly disturbing as my taxpayer dollars go to the school.  

My parents made nothing but excuses for him because he's mentally ill. I keep having the nightmares.

I'm a senior in high school and I'll be turning 18 in November. My boyfriend has offered to share half the rent of an apartment with me. I want to move out because my parents (especially my Mom) have been controlling my entire life. The constant criticism has always worn me down and makes me feel beaten down and stupid. I won't go into the details - I know a lot of people have it worse off than me. I'll just say I love them more than anything as people, but as parents they're not so great. My Mom doesn't want me to move out when I'm 18, and she'd be embarrassed and heartbroken if I did. I don't know what to do - I'll be a legal adult and I'd have the capability to move out and live with my boyfriend or on my own, but I also know it'll be incredibly difficult on me and it'll be hard on my family. What do I do?

I have a nephew who is academically poor and is flunking.He is not good at anything.He just keeps lying down and uses his phone all the time. So one day when they were at my house i told him that he's good for nothing except for using his phone when i saw him use his phone. Then he was offended and he told his dad and my brother.Then my brother told me that ive got no right to talk to his son like that and his grades are none of my business and I'm not his parent and i musnt put my nose where it doesn't belong.

My brother wanted me to watch his son, not my mom. I mean why are they saying my mom was a good mom and I wasn't a good mom. My brother did not have my mom watch his son, he had me.

My mother's cousin calls his ex "the *****" but I don't want to use profanity around elders even though I am 32. My sister is an enemy of the whole family. She is a cancer on our family. What is a good nickname for someone who is a bully, cruel, a narcissist, and an all around cancer on all? I want to get out of the habit of calling her by her real name since she is officially the enemy now. Anonymous: The answer to your question is MY SISTER IS

Even though I beg her to stop those stories, because I have someone else. Both myself and my fiancee are richer than the other couple, respectively. On their wedding day, I was trying to make an excuse to avoid all the silliness, but my mother told me when I told her to leave me alone that I am so upset and jealous! I had to live with my mother who abandoned me at 6 months and who has issues with family and society because my stepmother kicked me out and I was still not financially independent.

My dad was driving me to school. I didn t want to go to school since everyone hates me including my teachers. I told my dad to take me home he refused after i  kept yelling at him to take me home. He told me to shut my mouth. I told him I was gonna pull the reverse switch in the car he responded by tell me I better not or I ll get spanked. I pulled it and it crashed into another car. The people's car who we crashed into we're very angry with my dad. The police were called and the car had to be towed. Luckily our car was still able to drive despite it being damaged.  After it was all over my dad then tells me" were going home now your not going to school today". I was glad to hear that him say that. He didn't feel like taking me to school immediately after the incident was over. After we got home he scolded and told me to get upstairs to my room for my punishment. 30 mintues later he came to my with a belt and gave me multiple licks on my backside. I'm grounded until late November and I can't leave the house except for school. Is this punishment fair? I'm sneaking to the computer since my parents are asleep. Its currently nighttime in my area. I forgot to add that my mad scolded me saying it will take him ages to pay off the damages. All my games and phone has been taken away

Over the summer my cousin and I got into a huge fight over her smoking (she is 13 btw,& in middle school) I'm in high school and I don't do that stuff. Yeah, sure, looks cool. But always had a fear or health conditions. Anyways.  She had been smoking since April and I had proof bc she sent me videos of her doing it with her friends. I sweared to her I'd keep her secret. Until July it slipped out of me and told my family members. My grandma called my cousins dad that she was smoking.  My cousins sisters/brother were attacking me blocked me on everything. They were mad bc I told the truth. I felt horrible at first, but then I didn't bc she could been doing other things in the future. Her parents don't care what they do. Even tho they are the pastors of the church.  We haven't talked since July. & now it's very awkward in the family. Now I'm not gonna be spending any holiday bc of that event & also bc her dad kick us off the church.  Should I keep ignoring her or wait till she comes to me? She hasn't deleted any pictures of her and I on her insta. Does she miss me? But her captions on insta make it obvious she's pointing it at me. Like, "spend days with people you can count on" I don't know. And that caption was a pictures with her "best friends" even though she talks bad about them 

Okay so my mom left us when I was 5. I've been waiting every night asking when is mommy coming home. My dad told me the truth about her a couple years ago that mom left because she didn't want to be a mother, she can't handle motherhood and decided that she wanted her own life. Plus she did drugs and abuse. My dad said he told my mom either she gets cleaned up or he is gone. So she got her act up and cleaned up. But then two months later she left us. My nom and I have been texting each other. I haven't seen her since I was 5. My dad found out and yelled at me. He took my phone away. I told him I want to see her for the holidays but he quickly said no and he doesn't want me near mom. We have a huge fight and I said, "You just don't want me to have a loving mother and daughter relationship!" He said to me brutally, "SHE DOESN'T WANT YOU! The fact that your mom left us to have her own life proved that she doesn't want you! I want you to stop texting her. You're doing all the texting. You don't need her. Move on!" I was shocked and hurt that my dad would said that to me. I'm 16 now. I remember on Mothers Day I hated it because I was the only kid in the class that didn't have a mother around and didn't make a gift. I haven't spoken to her in a month...well that's what they thing. My brother found out and he isn't speaking to me. Me was like, "I thought you weren't going to speak to her and now you've been meeting up with her?! How could you! Don't talk to me! I didn't know what his problem was. My dad called me out for lying too. He and my oldest brother are siding with him. He refuses to speak to me now. He hasn't spoken to me since Friday evening. I went after him but he was furious and slammed the door in my face. My dad grounded me for a month and took my electronics and things away. Now I can't go to the Halloween bash. 😟😟💔💔💔 I meant "Why" not My. Sorry.

It's nearly impossible to find decent work here or in neighboring towns. Almost everything here is low-wage and there are very few employers to choose from. Every employer I've had has treated me like dirt and I've literally had to quit jobs because I was being worked to death for almost nothing. The people here also have backwards ways of thinking and try to enforce their beliefs on everyone else, even if you make it clear that you are not a Christian or a conservative. And ever since Hastings closed, there's basically nothing to do past seven in the afternoon or on the weekends because almost everything is closed. I'm literally finding myself hanging out in stores like Ross and TJ Maxx just to get out of the house, and its driving me crazy. I don't have many good friends and even my own family hates me. All I want to do is get out of this town and move somewhere better. I feel like I'm trapped.

I was close to several kids of divorced families as a teenager. It was noticeable how they got away with more things. The common scenario is — one parent is responsible, but the other parent doesn't care and lets the kid do whatever they want. Or they just have completely different values. The kid manages to manipulate their parents to get what they want. Before you know it, they're getting away with things while the parents are too busy fighting. I wonder if this is more likely in split custody families, or is it just me?

So a lot has happened in the past 5 months. My older sister always treated my parents bad, never helped around the house, usually hanged out with her friend the whole day, etc... like even when she broke up with her girlfriend, my mother was always by her side comforting her, those sleepless nights she had with her. She still went out to hang out with her friends while my mom always waited for her to come. (she's usually back after 11pm at night) even thought my mom had to wake up early to work. 2 weeks ago my parents had to pick her up from who knows where at 2 in the morning and they had this argument that it even woke me up. The next day after that she left the house on her own will. No goodbyes to my parents or anything. My mom cried and cried, I was there to comfort her. I always help her out the most since I'm the second oldest. I clean the house everyday so she won't have to do it. I pick up my little brother from school. Go to university myself, etc.. When she returned to get her things, my parents were kind enough to give her the old car that I drove and gave me her car instead. Today she came to visit. Mom always favored her out of all of us siblings but my younger siblings don't notice. It really hurts me. Mom was like go greet your sister, but I just went into my room. I don't have anything to say to her after making my mother cry like that, that day. I always try my best into helping mom but she just brushes me off. I don't ask for anything like but just a ily.

My Mom is covering up for him as is my step-father.

You are scaring my family and my wife is just about ready to leave us so just knock it off man

My boss is out on leave and left my peer in charge of the department. She informed me today the peer informed her that recently I had been late alot. I know it is my responsible to be to work on time, however i believe she created an uncomfortable working environment by making my peer spy on me. Now I feel like my every move is watch. Plus I am being coached on things that I see the same peer who is spying on me get away with. I feel like I am being treated like an assistant. Also we have an assistant, but i feel she was created to only assist my peer. I have no help and feel it is unfair.

We have a sibling in our home who refuses to share groceries. They never chip in for stuff in our fridge and are always taking stuff from the pantry or food that we cook. When we ask them to chip in for food they get offended. They always promise to bring some food but then they act as if we are the greedy ones. Is there anything we can do? I feel like hiding food is a bit ridiculous, not to mention the rats will probably come to our room or we will get cockroaches.

I absolutely hate when my parents are home..it's like for the past few weeks when I needed my space the most my parents kept being off from work..I couldn't even enjoy my birthday since my grandma came over and was yelling and loud the whole time.. whenever I'm off from work my mom is home yelling it's just super irritating I'm just really not in the mood for my family..I just wish I could be alone and have the house to myself for some hours or days is this bad? I wish I had my own place I'm so depressed.. 

I had my headphones in, so I couldn't hear her. Do you guys know what she said?

I'm 16 and for some reason, I get really down in the winter months, like from early November until March or April. I live in New Jersey btw which isn't terribly far north but I still have problems in winter with this. It started about 3 years ago and basically in winter I'm always just having a lot less energy, my grades clearly drop as winter approaches, and I get kinda upset for no good reason and just think about how bad I want to move to Florida, but I can't yet and waiting several years feels too long to deal with this. I use light therapy which helps to an extent but it still doesn't go away for real. I want to go to college in Florida but it's more expensive to do that and my parents probably won't let me because they want me to go to a 'good' school. And my gpa is a 3.4 which makes it hard to get into those top schools in the state. I don't even know what to do with this because I'm not happy with living here because of this. I know that may sound ridiculous but I hope someone knows what I mean. And I can't go on vacation in winter either, I'm literally stuck here no matter what. 

My boyfriend is a super sweet guy, he has some of the best grades in school, he's the captain of the football team, he loves me and treats me right and is fully devoted to me as I am to him. The relationship is absolutely perfect. But his parents are crazy.He is never allowed to go out. I only see him at school or when he sneaks out. (He jumps off a 2 story building then climbs back up) cause his house has security cameras. He has to walk 6 km home everyday after football cause his step mom forbid his dad to pick him up after practice. His dad will even go to games, talk to him when it's over then leave him to find his own ride home. He is 17 with a driver's liscense but it's from another province so he can only driver certain registered vehicles. He tried to change it but he needs permission from his parents and they said no. He has a job, and he wasn't allowed to apply for it but he did anyway. He takes a 2 hour bus ride and pays for a cab on the way home . But his step mom shows up at every shift to make sure he isn't lying about it and not hanging with friends. Same goes for his siblings. Even his sister gets patted down searched when going homeHe says coming over to my house is worth getting yelled at because he always gets used for manual labour and yelled at anyway. We only hang at school, but we are in different grades so we have no classes together and we can't hang at lunch breaks because he has football game film. What should I do?

I hate being around my mom and try to avoid her as much as possible and when I don't it always feels like a thousand years that I was around her instead of a couple of hours. She's always angry always has an attitude if you try to ask her a simple question she'll raise her voice and say it so smart. She's always calling the next person ugly or just saying something disgusting and ignorant. I think that she's secretly jealous that I became more independent because it's like the moment that she gets the chance to be around me she can't wait to yell and put me down.  It just seems like build up anger. I never hang out with my mom never..some people have close relationships with there mom but I don't.. I do want that but at the same time I rather  be alone than having someone bully me in public constantly and treat me like trash.. overal is this bad? 

Hello I am a 37 year old man living in the United States. I want to die a natural death at my age but I always wake up? Why can't I die a natural death at my age?

Throughout the week I don't spend as much on my phone but on the weekend my family is not productive at all and I pretty much lay in bed all day. We do nothing and I get really bored so I scroll on my phone. I've heard you're only supposed to spend 2 hours of screen time but even on the weekdays I spend at least 4. Is this affecting my health (I'm a teenager)? I wish I could be more active but all my family wants to do is stay home and I hate it.