Family: Question: I'm picking a career to make my parents happy?

Question: I'm picking a career to make my parents happy?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 02:15 PM PDT

So this might not be the best place to put this question but f!ck it. I'm the second child, female to my semi-traditional parents. They basically prefer my brother to me.

Question: How do I quit caring about what my mom says?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 02:12 PM PDT

Okay, I'm 25 years old and in alot of respects, I'm behind in alot of ways in my social life (no women, no car, last kiss was like 5 years ago I'm well aware I'm a loser...I do have a shitty dead end job though.) I believe my mom is holding me back, she's told me so.  I'm  in a situation where I have to help take care of my family... But I'm tired of living here. Anything normal adults do, I don't/can't because my mother won't let me... Going out, bringing a girl over, drinking beer, just anything an adult would be able or want to do...I'm not allowed. Its horrible and I have no idea what to do. I feel like my time is completely slipping away from me and my time to have fun is gonna be gone before I know it.  We've gotten in fights about it in the past and every time I get pissed off, it just seems she doesn't care about my feelings and just wants to insinuate that I'm calling her a ***** or something, I'm not. But I wish she would let me live my life. Help me please.

Question: My Dad, 7 year old sister and 5 year old brother found my Dildo in front of me?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 02:10 PM PDT

I was on my bed with my two siblings and my dad (he was brushing their teeth) playing a game on the I Pad, when it happened. It was all chill and everything, when suddenly my younger sister said "what is that?", pink dildo in hand. (I usually keep it in a locked drawer but I, that day, put it in my unlocked nightstand)  Anyway, my dad immediately grabbed it from her and threw it behind my bed.. (AWKWARD)My sister wouldn't stop asking me and my dad what that "pink rubber thing" was.Luckily my dad was chill about it. (but I still felt like dying)Now I have to come up with some kind of explanation to tell my sister.  What the heck should I tell her? She knows it isn't just some massager because of the way I, and especially my dad reacted. Any recommendations?

Question: What to when your family is straight garbage?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 02:00 PM PDT

I'm a 18 year old man  w a physco evil older sister who isn't going anywhere, another sister who is probably isn't going anywhere either and is always causing drama. My moms a nutty and has anger issues she's not violent but is just a overall cancer and my dad is a scratch ticket addicted immigrant who doesn't know anything and is too dumb to help or do anything about it?  What should I do move or any other options please help me no physical abuse all mental 

Question: At Christmas or Thanksgiving We all go around The table and say what we love about the person whose we drew. What if I draw my sisters name?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 01:45 PM PDT

My sister is a bully with no good qualities. She bullies me and picks on me.

Question: My uncle and his wife are getting a divorce. Will this likely make his alcoholism better or worse?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 01:43 PM PDT

Question: I'm 22 and pregnant and my boyfriend wants to leave me. ?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 01:30 PM PDT

Hi, I'm a 22 year old student who is graduating next semester, I make about 50k a year because I got lucky and got a head start on my career. It's not a lot but I live a decent life. I'm 3 months pregnant and my BF of 6 years doesn't care at all. I'm trying to get him involved and to care but he's expressed to me that he wants to leave. He pretends like he at least wants to be in the childs life but doesn't care about appointments, my physical health, my mental health...none of it. He doesn't show up and ghosts me constantly. I want my baby to have a dad even if we're not gonna work it out...but should I just cut him off and do this own my own for mine and my childs stability? I feel so lost and I don't know what to do. I have no support from my family. Can I even do this on my own with 50k/year and NO help what so ever?

Question: Odd question, bare with me?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 01:21 PM PDT

I am a 13 year old girl. Due to abuse from my dad, half the time I stay at my friend's house. We think of each other as sister. While we don't literally get in the shower with each other, sometimes we walk in on eachother to do makeup, adjust clothes, or just use the toilet. We share no romantic feelings, but her brother threatned to tell her mom and I don't know if he's actually right to do so. Btw, she is 15 so she is a bit older than me.

Question: Is my mother pushing me too hard?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 11:47 AM PDT

My mother is great and all, but she really wants me to succeed a little too much. I'm only 9, so I understand this but it feels upsetting. I have to do two lessons of each of three subjects each day, plus two more of a varying subject. Mind you, I work online with K12, but I do have books and tests. I also have to do this boring math game called Istation. She also sometimes controls my diet a lot. I ask for some musubi, and she forces salad on me. She always feeds me, and really loves me, but how can I tell her to listen to me a little? Like, I hate jeans because they're uncomfortable and I sleep in them sometimes. If I tell her I would like to wear leggings, she berates me about how "Women suffer for beauty"... It's all too much!

Question: How do I accept my parents are not perfect.?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 11:27 AM PDT

My Dad is ignorant and a habitual liar and my mother is incredibly critical and sees people as either all good or all bad. They are not abusive or evil though.

Question: My chronic lying Dad promised to take me to see this person. How do I remind him since it’s on Saturday and my Dad presumably was just lying?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 11:24 AM PDT

Question: My parents control my life i cant do anything I'm home 247 and thay wont let go get a job wont let me live my life on my own terms I'm 18 ?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 10:56 AM PDT

Question: Am I wrong to not let my sister borrow my laptop?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 09:59 AM PDT

For a few months now my oldest sister has been hounding me about doing her taxes. She hasn't filed in a few years and I guess is now under the gun to get them done. I use to do her taxes years ago with the Turbo Tax software but due to some money issues I stopped. She's been trying to sucker me into doing them now because she's way behind. Even though I keep telling her I'm not going to do them several days will go by and then she'll send me a text to say, "can you come by this weekend and get the stuff to do my taxes?" I'll ignore her because I've already told her she needs to take them to a professional. Well, this morning she sends me a text asking can she borrow my laptop. I'm very protective of the stuff I have on my laptop and I rarely even let my wife use it unless I'm sitting right there next to her. My wife and I are going out of town this weekend and I definitely will not be letting her take my laptop. My sister has 2 grandkids who, for lack of a better work, aren't the most well behaved. I think my sister thinks I'm going to do her taxes and she give me $30 or $40 to do them. Any professional tax person will probably charge her $300 or $400 easily to get all her back filings done. Am I wrong to not want to loan my laptop out to my sister? I have a lot of personal things on there that no one needs to just have access to. Plus, if something happens to it I feel like my sister will not help pay to fix it.

Question: Do these 2 look ok together?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 09:38 AM PDT

https://imgur.com/a/dqQbwQ3

Question: Please tell me what is the best thing to do here.?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 09:27 AM PDT

I have a 14 year old step sister Nancy, my stepmother's daughter that is my best friend. I really like her. I am a 19 year old guy. We are very close. I try to be very protective of her. She has developed into a beautiful girl. She recently ask me to tell her about boys and sex. I think it is VERY IMPORTANT that she know the facts especially about sex. I don't want her pregnant. I told her I would prefer she talk to her mom about this. She said it would be to embarrassing to talk to her mom and she wants me to educate her about these subjects. Should I tell our mom about here asking about this and ask her to talk to Nancy or should I tell Nancy the facts about her body and how to prevent pregnancy. Nancy trust me completely and feels she can talk to me about anything without embarrassment. Mom and teenage girls, PLEASE give me some advice her. I only what is best for Nancy.

Question: Is it bad to be embarrassed of family? ?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 09:09 AM PDT

I'm very embarrassed and ashamed of my family and I hate where I live because where I live there's houses close together so there's no privacy. See my mom is very loud ghetto and obnoxious she's always yelling, I can't stand it . So I ether hide in my car and disappear or I'm never home. And whenever I am it's the worst thing..the other day my embarrassing grandma came over loud and ghetto as ever.  some how this guy that likes me found out where I stay so every now and then I see him next to my home and I always hope that he doesn't see my family.. overal is this bad? 

Question: What is like to have stepsiblings that are significantly younger than you are?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 07:44 AM PDT

Question: Should my sister try spicy food??

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 06:31 AM PDT

Im lifting in a family that eat a lot of spicy food. Mu sister is 16 months old and everytime we war something live that, się want to try. Should I lot Her try?(in Small amount and lightly spicy)

Question: How do you deal with a compelx 17 year old boy, or straight to the point, are all 17 year olds complex, especially toward their mom?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 05:50 AM PDT

I meant "complex", sorry, my bad.

Question: How do I get my sister to see I did not choke her and simply grabbed her by the shoulder to get her attention?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 04:50 AM PDT

She keeps swearing I choked her and she is being a little LIAR. Either she is sick in the head and really thinks I did or she is lying out of anger and thus an evil person. How do I get her to see I DID NOT CHOKE HER? I don't want her telling people I did that when I never would choke somebody. My parents have both said I did the right thing and they know I did not choke her. My grandfather noted I did nothing wrong and not to feel bad. My sister is 26 going on 9 years old.

Question: Why is my 5 year younger sister trying to compete with me?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 04:23 AM PDT

Like throughout her childhood I did almost anything for her, but ever since she got to her teenage period she suddenly changed out of nowhere and started to do things just to irritate me. This started when she was 13 or so today she's 21 and I am 26. But it still continues, i've confronted her about it 1000x times but she never listens.

Question: Is there a time in every family where the baby sibling grow up into adulthood and now wants to try and be the bigger sibling?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 04:06 AM PDT

Is this common in other families or just mine? I've put her in her place numerous times but she still dont listen.

Question: What's the point of quitting drugs if you're not happy when you're not getting high?

Posted: 16 Oct 2019 12:26 AM PDT

Since nothing else makes you feel good or even normal, what's the point of quitting? What's the point of living if you're not happy then? 

Question: How can I be more assertive and confident online?

Posted: 15 Oct 2019 10:50 PM PDT

Whenever I comment on a friends post I get nervous and start second guessing the comment then delete it after a couple minutes because I think they'll think it's lame.

Question: Is it normal to have a granddaughter call her grandpa “da da”? And the grandpa say “come to da da” even though she has a very good father?

Posted: 15 Oct 2019 10:37 PM PDT

Question: I recently got to a new foster home, and this foster mom is super nice, and I wanna stay with her. How do I get her to like me more?

Posted: 15 Oct 2019 10:26 PM PDT

Question: I think I might have traumatized myself sexually on accident and I'm unsure how to fix it?

Posted: 15 Oct 2019 08:51 PM PDT

I had a dream that my dad molested me, and this was probably around a year or so ago when it started happening, and it makes me so uncomfortable. I've always been uncomfortable around my dad. He makes weird sexual jokes to me all the time. Like my fingers got sticky when I was cooking and he said, "What have you been doing with those fingers?" and then he winked. And now I just can't have sex. I think about my dad constantly, I can't stand to be around him because he just says gross things and accuses me of being a sex addict. I'm really tired of it, because I don't have sex often, and now I can't have sex ever because me and my boyfriend start to get romancey and stuff, and I just get so grossed out. I always remember my dad midway through sex and it makes me feel so awful. I can't sleep without something pressed against my back and my butt and my front, either, because I'm scared someone will come in the middle of the night and try to touch me. I don't even really like to be touched anymore. I don't know what to do but it stresses me out because I don't wanna see my dad touching me in my dreams. It's gotten to the point where I just loathe him. ): 

Question: Dad doesn't care about me. Advice?

Posted: 15 Oct 2019 08:40 PM PDT

My dad constantly makes me cry & feel bad for no reason. He's always putting me down & telling me how evil I am. I tried talking to him about it but he told me to quit being so sensitive & to move out. I'm still a minor & i dont know what to do, i can't take this anymore. He makes me feel so unloved, like i dont matter. Any advice, talking to him is definitely out of the picture & i doubt any relatives would take my side, they don't know him, like i do

Question: My dad is marrying and I feel like he is making a mistake, how do I tell him?

Posted: 15 Oct 2019 08:30 PM PDT

So I am 25 now, my parents split about 8 years ago. At that time my dad kicked my siblings and my mom out of the house, he immediately started dating someone who also immediately moved into the house which we all once lived in. I did live  with my dad and his gf for a couple years.  A little background on my dad: he's in his early 50's, he is a very smart guy, works in IT, makes good money, is usually financially smart.  A little background about his girlfriend: late 40s, hasn't had a job for the past 12 years, moved her children (mid-20 yr olds who are unemployed and also have children) into the house, makes a scene every time my dad buys me something (even a candy bar), she will literally have a fit if my dad buys me anything without buying her something as well, she is very childish, trying to control my dads money, she asks and asks for expensive things. She trashed the brand new car my dad bought her (simply did not maintain it) then he bought her another brand new one, yet he is driving a car that is hanging by a thread, and he drives about 40 miles to work everyday, while she drives to the stores to spend money on unnecessary things. She gets mad when my dad and I have inside jokes that she doesn't understand or when my dad and I hangout just the two of us (I live about 3 hours away from them because I work farther now, and see him about once every 2 months). I understand my dad is an adult, but can't I tell him how I feel? If so, how should I tell him? 

Question: What should I do when my wife puts her siblings before me?

Posted: 15 Oct 2019 08:04 PM PDT

I understand, and welcome, that my wife and children are first before me. I put  them first for the benefit of our family and I am grateful to be able to do it! It's my job as a husband and father. I also do not mind when my wife puts her elderly parents before me because she extended me the same courtesy when the last of my parents passed away within the last five years. I will extend her the same courtesy as well and will do all that I can to help. But I have to draw the line with my wife's siblings. She has an older sister who is a control freak, despite what my wife says, and tries to control the world. She has a younger brother who thinks the world revolves around him and his family. My wife is in the middle, I understand that. But I don't like it because I feel like we are playing second fiddle to the both of them and I do not want to be in that role. We are always defering to them or changing something that we planned to accomodate them and I do not get the sense that they would do the same for us. I get the impression that her sister thinks that her sibling' s spouses are superfluous and her siblings must control their spouses in order for her to achieve her aims. Her brother just wants things his way when he wants them and expects us to worship his family. What should I do about this? 

Question: If you could change your relationship with a family member, would you? If so, with whom?

Posted: 15 Oct 2019 07:59 PM PDT

Question: What if one parent doesn’t want to sign early decision form?

Posted: 15 Oct 2019 07:03 PM PDT

my mom wants me to apply early decision for college and is willing to pay for it, my dad however does not want this. is it still possible to apply with only one parent signature? would this mean my dad wouldn't have to pay and just my mom would? btw they are divorced and my mom is who i live with more.

Question: My girlfriend hits me hard a lot? My hobby covers it up?

Posted: 15 Oct 2019 06:45 PM PDT

My girlfriend beats me sometime I kick box so I can dip and clinch but when she yells get off I ALWAYS let her go and step back and she ALWAYS keeps swinging why do I ALWAYS let go knowing she's gonna hit me? It's like a reflex when she yells get off me I get sick to my stomach and follow by let go step back freeze up get hit. (Kick boxing also keep people from asking about bruises). Should I try talking to her family or friends to maybe get her help she's close with her sister and she KNOWS how bad she gets from history? What should I do

Question: Am i overreacting or is my dad insensitive?

Posted: 15 Oct 2019 05:46 PM PDT

Since I was little I've always been alittle sensitive, my dad would constantly criticize me & yell at me over small things & would constantly make me cry (like everyday) & then he would mock me for it. Everything I liked was deemed stupid. Once i politely told asked my dad to not be so mean & he started telling me to move out for like a week straight. I never talk to my dad cause everytime I talk to him It feels like im walking on eggshells & i get the urge to cry when im around him. My dad has no empathy & only cares about himself. My dad refuses to take me places or buy me anything & because he told me he doesn't benefit from it. He's always like "what's in it for me". He always calls me cold hearted & evil, when i haven't done anything. He always makes it seem like there's something wrong with me & I deserve his put downs. I personally don't think im an emotional person, because my dad is the only person who can make me cry. I just feel like my dad is insensitive but he always just tells me I'm the problem, I just wanna know if this is normal or is my dad narcissistic or abusive? Maybe im just to sensitive, idk im just trying to understand why my dad is the way he is Update: I can't move out cause I'm still underaged

Question: My mom wants to move in the middle of the school year. How do i convince her to let me stay at least till dec.? (10 points and 2-3 level plz?

Posted: 15 Oct 2019 05:17 PM PDT

My mom and i just moved from a rich area to a not so rich area. She doesn't want me to stay there... But i want to stay with my friends. i love them so much. I don't want to start all over. This is all new to me. I stayed in the same house for 10 years before this. I'm already having anxiety about being the new girl. And getting lost. i have this big fear of getting lost. I want to stay at least till the end of the semester. which ends in dec. How do i get her to say yes to that. She also got a house the closing date is November 14th. I don't know what to do!

Question: What is wrong with people giving him grief for this amazing dad who was present for a birth of his kid?

Posted: 15 Oct 2019 05:04 PM PDT

Family should be number one priority over any thing.

Question: My dad told me he was going to make me uncomfortable living at home he's much older than my mom he's bitter what should I do?

Posted: 15 Oct 2019 04:55 PM PDT

I'm 19 going to school living with my granny right now and my mom and step dad are moving into an new home. My step dad said he was going to make me feel uncomfortable living there he's known to be mean bitter and overall hateful he's sick. 

Question: How does it help a British mother?

Posted: 15 Oct 2019 04:39 PM PDT

How does it help a British mother, that she will allow her children to live with there father (instead of making him pay child support to the mother), if she can see her children anytime she wants to?

Question: Should I tell my sister I’m moving out ?

Posted: 15 Oct 2019 04:29 PM PDT

My twin sister is 27, diagnosed bipolar, and can't hold down a job. We live together and my parents financially support her. its always something with her.  The other day I came home from work and some women I've never met in my life came outside screaming at me (over a trash can) from my understanding things became physical between my neighbor and my sister apparently my sister was throwing out every curse word in the book at this women. (Again I wasn't there so I don't know what really took place.)! Anyway, the women accused me of being a liar and that I didn't have a twin sister and threatened to hit me. It got to the point I had to show her my drivers license to calm this lady down. I  love my sister and we actually get along quite well (shockingly) and I do look out for her and feel bad because of her mental health issues but I'm so tired of getting dragged into her drama. I've never met ANYONE with as much drama as her and somehow I'm always dragged into it. I  want to move out because of all her drama with other people but I really worry about her being by herself. I sometimes wish I was the one with the mental issues so she wouldn't have to suffer so severely.  Does anyone have advice for me?

Question: How do you cope with a narcissist sister who doesn't respect your wishes and blames you when you get angry?

Posted: 15 Oct 2019 04:06 PM PDT

Question: How do I make my family understand that I will not be at annual Thanksgiving dinner?

Posted: 15 Oct 2019 03:55 PM PDT

My mother recently informed me that Thanksgiving festiatiedties will be held at my older sister's house this year. My sister do not have a good relationship, in fact, we really don't have any relationship. We were close growing up but when I got pregnant at 17 my older sister decided I was an embarrasment and wanted nothing to do with me. Even now, 9 years later, she treats like I am unworthy of being in her presence despite the fact I have a degree, a good job, and a nice home just like she does. The only time I see her is for the holidays and it is an exercise in misery. She only stops talking about herself long enough to insult me. This year I decided enough is enough. I'm not going. My sister doesn't even care. Our other sister and our dad understand why I won't be there, but my mom is furious with me. She doesn't understand that my decision has nothing to do with her and is taking it as a personal offence. I have tried to explain it but she just doesn't get it. Any ideas how to explain to her that I can't be at Thanksgiving this year because of my sister, and not my mom? 

Question: Am I allowed to be upset over this?

Posted: 15 Oct 2019 03:39 PM PDT

So my mom gets mad over the smallest things and it's gotten to the point where I've developed some kind of anxiety. Like for example, she'll ask me to get something from the fridge and if I tell her that I don't see it she'll scream at me for not being observant enough and never paying attention to anything. Maybe it's because I'm kind of sensitive, but whenever something like this happens I end up crying over it. I've become overly analytical of my actions out of fear of being yelled at and degraded. I have to think twice when I talk to her because I'm afraid of saying the wrong thing.

Question: How do I fix a toxic relationship?

Posted: 15 Oct 2019 03:26 PM PDT

For years, my grandmother has promoted a toxicity in our household. Now, I do appreciate everything she's done for me such as take care of me, raise me, has bought me stuff, taken me on trips, etc. But even with that I just feel a toxicity around her. My mom has been separated from my dad ever since I was born. Ever since I was little I've learned that my dad is a bad person, and on a matter of terms I agree. There are a lot of defects with him, but everyday she keeps talking about how much of a bad person he is and it's tiring. Even when I went on a trip with her for a month she kept talking about how much she hates him.  Not only that, but she keeps insulting my mom for getting married with my dad although they have been separated for 17 years. My mom has told her to stop a bunch of times but she keeps going. I tell my own grandma that she should stop, defending my own mother. But again my mother yells at me because I shouldn't act like that towards her.  We also have very distinct thoughts but I guess that's a generational thing. She's been through some tough times but I am just tired of her nagging about the same thing all the time. I get angry because.. I don't want her to insult my mom! Neither my dad although he's a bad person. Whenever I comeback at her she tells me that I'm a bad person and should go with my dad. I'm just tired of her. How can I withstand her?? How do I fix my relationship? Will it get better?