This might happen with cousins where all the other cousins are asked. It's understandable since weddings cost so much but it's still very painful to know that I'm looked at as not very close despite me making years of effort to get close. I try to host things but very few come as there was a fight with my mom and her family years ago and I've suffered the residual affects. It's very painful because weddings are like a family reunion. I do the funerals but obviously weddings are more of a celebration. We go to all the stuff on my dad's side of the family and I feel guilty like I'm disloyal not to be asked to all the ones on my mom's side. This is all very painful as I personalized it as a kid since I was being bullied at school and figured I was at fault for bad things. So how do I cope with the hurt and rejection when this happens? One cousin is engaged now and another is close to getting engaged. This will be the first weddings and the family aside from my sisters. My sister is a lot older and she had all my mom's family to her first wedding, her second wedding was really small and out of town so she asked them but they My sister is a lot older and she had all my mom's family to her first wedding, her second wedding was really small and out of town so she asked them but they declined. Years ago my mom's father also had a fight with his family and that's my mom was never asked any of the weddings of our cousins except one.