I'm 23 and only a few months out of college, and I'm back at home for the time being while I find a full-time job. I met someone last month and we've hit it off very very quick, but he's only in town from Texas a few times a month until he moves out here around Christmas. He wants us to have some quality time together since I live at home and he has a roommate when he stays out here, so he's taking me to Carlsbad down in San Diego for a few days at the end of the month. What I'm struggling with, is how do I tell my mom about these plans? She's a cool mom and very very very accepting of my sexuality but she's also a bit of a worrier and overprotective. I'm almost 24 and when I go out, she tells me to text her once I'm home, even if it's at 1 or 2am. Plus, she's never met a boy that I talk to. To top it off, she might be a little wary when she hears that this guy is 14 years older than I am. What I'm asking is, what do you all think I should do? I don't want to put him in a situation where he's meeting my mom and being all formal as if we're about to get married, but I also can't just pick up my stuff and say "bye mom, my man's here to kidnap me for a couple of days, I'll see you on Monday!" Plus I'm close to being in my mid-20s. By my age, she was married and had me. I'm allowed a bit of freedom, aren't I? Thank you!

I didn't ever buy gifts for anyone except my own children.  I was a single parent and I couldn't afford gifts for anyone else.  One of my sons passed away and I was wondering if I tried buying dollar store or thrift finds would that work.  My family bought me and my children gifts I hope it's not too late for me to do something.  I have six siblings and eleven nieces and two nephews.

Let's just say you (as her brother) are just asking her to make conversation and to show interest. I texted my sister asking her how things are between her and her husband and she didn't respond. I sent the text a week ago.

I was 13 and my sister was 10 when I finally told my school counselor about my father and what he forced me and my sister to do. He admitted what he did and was diagnosed with a sexual disorder and admitted to being molested by his uncle as a child. He received counseling for this while in prison. He is now getting out next week. He wrote me and my sister every year. He apologized repeatedly for what he did to us and the pain that he put us through. Now that he is out he wants to meet us for a meal or just a few hours to talk. My sister has said no. She will not even entertain the idea. That is her decision and I stand beside her on it. But I am conflicted. As a person who has read up on sexual addictions and went through counseling myself a part of me sees this as closing this page in my life for good.. However, I have made it clear he will not be apart of my life and he will never meet my children. My mom and sister and my husband are all kind of against it. I am asking others for advice. People who have a outside perspective on this. Would you meet with your father in this situation? Is my family right to be against it?

I was a kid with almost no noney.They gave me money only to buy chips.My clothes were from flea markets and my mom wore expensive clothes.She beat me and I was crying.

Is it normal to hate your brother so much that you can't contain it? My name is Madeleine and I hate my brother Michael this much.

For example he asked me to go skiing next winter with him and his new wife and her kids. I was so excited. Last weekend he said "oh the place is probably full after all since we're going with her sibs and some of their teens, sorry". I was so disappointed and mad at him. He does this again, and again, and again, and again. I need to stop caring but do not know how to. He has gotten so much worse about being a liar ever since he remarried when I was 13. I am 22 now. My step-mother is nice enough but he is TERRIFIED of displeasing her. He also just says things and then breaks them. He told me he wanted me to pick a country to go to for my high school graduation and he'd take me, just the two of us. I was psyched. Guess what, he said that March, you know I made a big deal about travelling but "we're going to have to do that another year since Linda and I are moving this summer into a smaller house". Guess where we traveled to instead of Europe, a funeral in Macon GA. That was IT !!!! I swore I would never believe him again but 4 years later I am still falling for his lies. How can I get over my anger knowing he may be changing his mind and not intentionally lying? He used to complain about his, now former boss, Bill being deceptive and yet my Dad is a clone of that Bill person.

For the past 3 months, I've been using an iPhone 8. I then decided it was time for a new phone because I think that is an incredibly long time to have an iPhone. I've been saving up for quite some time now and I had enough money to purchase one. I bought myself a new iPhone 11 a couple of days ago. It's amazing! The camera is the best camera yet. However, my mum isn't happy with me due to me getting the new iPhone 11. She thinks that it is a complete waste of money, and that the price of the iPhone 11 is criminal/daylight robbery. She then went onto say that I should've been saving up for things like helping her and my dad pay bills and stuff. Is my mum right to be angry at this?

My mom said she can go to jail and my siblings to dss? I walked off this one time because I'm fed up with this school. I sound like a douchebag but it's whatever. If anyone wants the whole story of this I'll comment it.

My home life has been very bad for a few years and my sister has offered for me to move in with her but i don't want to be a burden because she's newly married and is wanting to start a family. I work a lot and already have lots of bills that i pay myself each month and I buy all of my food, school equipment/camps and anything else I need. I feel like if i make a lot of sacrifices on what i'm spending my money on i'd easily be able to afford just a small studio for myself and my mum will support me if i ever struggle. Although it's lots of responsibility and i'm not sure it's even allowed for 17 year olds to rent a place in Australia? I love my parents very much but living with either one of them is really damaging my mental health. 

Is kissing a siblings butt one time at a young age (pre teen 8 & 11 bad ?) or is it no big deal. ?

About 4 years ago I woke up to the sound of my dad pounding on the floor because he was mad that I left a cheesecake container on the counter in the kitchen and he yelled at me to throw it away so I did and he still complained about it he then proceeded to go in a my bedroom and start beating on my drums complaining about how I hardly ever sleep on my bed anymore big deal after about five minutes of him doing that he went to the bathroom and I got so mad at something he said that I called him an ***-whole he comes running out of the bathroom charges me I don't really remember much anymore but I think he tried to punch me first so I punched him in the face even called the cops on me I got arrested because he had a bruise on his face they didn't believe me which they usually don't unless if you have some kind of proof and I had to spend about a week behind bars I just gotten more hours at work and I wanted to start working more but because of him and his BS I'd to go to jail I'll admit maybe I shouldn't have punched him but he's punched me before and once even hit me with a pillow and cut my face with a zipper on its and other stuff too he's called me names like retard and fat *** and whatever other nasty name you can think of all admit those aren't that big of a deal

I wanted to ask especially women in the same situation as me, how they got over the depression. I was depressed before I met him (I had a terrible time at school), when he came into my life everything changed. He chose me, he was the one who believed in our love, the one that showed me the light. I just couldn't help but love him back. He was enthusiast, happy, always looking on the positive side of the things, and loved me like no one did before. We got married very soon and when I was pregnant, he didn't think about anything except that he would have been a father and just the idea of it made him come home everyday happy although the tiredness, I remember his smile, him wanting to cuddle close to the belly before eating dinner,his hand where the baby kicked. It was all perfect, he was going to be a great dad. There's this picture of him holding our 4 months old baby boy, so tight that our son's cheek was pushed against his. He loved him so much. But he had no time for us. He died in a car accident in winter. The tyres slipped on the ice. I was shocked. I couldn't believe it at first, I cried after minutes they told me. I didn't want to see him. I was afraid I would have gone crazy. I went into deep depression when our child was 7 months old. I remember wanting to die, but my son needed me. I was 26 years old, he was 29. I have overcome that time but still, I am not happy. I think of him every single day. I hate that my son won't know his dad. I hate that I'm alone  And have to do everything by myself. Thank God I have a job that I can do mostly from home. My son looks like him but his personality is exactly like me. I don't want him to inherit my depression. I miss him so much I cry at night, sometimes I have dreams in which he comes back from the door, he is happy and stays with us, it looks so real, we sit at the table and start to talk and then the dream vanishes and I cry when I wake up cause it's not real. He was russian, so I'm planning to teach him The language. (I have never been there) to meet his family and maybe find something there. Do you think that can help him feel a bit closer to his dad? A friend of my husband takes him every sunday with him to a soccer field to train him. I wish he could teach him some russian. His dad's friends treat him like their nephew and love playing with him. But still, they see how sad we are. Once his friend told me I cannot live like this,I have to be happier for my son. I still can't. He was my anchor, my reason to live. He died while going to work, at 5 am. I remember waking up earlier that day to kiss him goodbye and felt asleep again. I never saw him again, alive. Sometimes the mums of his friends will ask about me and when I say that his dad has passed away they look saddened, especially because they see how young I am and that he died too soon. I regret that we didn't have time to enjoy our life together. I miss everything of him. How we was always the optimist, the strongest one, the one to fall at first sight, how he used to say some words in russian while talking to me, even if I didn't understand them. He understood me because I am a migrant too. He loved me and gave me a family. He was my first love, first boyfriend then husband, only reason to live I knew. I try to do everything that he would have done with our son but I just cant replace him. I take him every weekend to short trips in the countryside or in the mountains (his dad loved swimming in lakes, camping and fishing) but still it's not enough. I cant fish, so I cant teach him. I cant play soccer. But ai do try these things because I am sure he would have wanted to do these things with his son, who needs a dad and that was taken away from him. I won't ever marry because I am still destroyed by it.

Actually asking here, not just a rant. My coworker recently brought up that he knows I practice witchcraft and than my dad told him. It really bothers me because that isnt any of his business to know and I think I should be able to choose who knows this very intimate aspect of my life. I haven't confronted him because I think I may be overreacting, its not like I should be able to control who he talks to and what about. What do yall think?

My dad, mom, and sisters and their families destroyed me as a kid. They beat me, told me i would never get any where, and now that im older now past these two years i was in two dramatic situations in where some caused a fight by making up a lie which lead to my aunt kicking me out. my sister would tell me i would have something wrong with me with my anger issues of wanting to hurt them, but they dont remember beating me up or drowning me in the tub multiple times cause my mom would beat me for hitting to stop. Then my dad would beat me and tell me i was a fag for trying to play with my friend when i was younger and that i would end up a big loser. My mom i thought she loved me but she would blame for stuff like not knowing how to drive even through for the past 7 years since i was 11 i would always ask to teach me but she would be spending time with her boyfriend who dealer drugs and hated when i was around. My cousin beat me with sticks as well and when i would defend myself my mom would beat me saying to not hit them. My dads grandma called me a pussy because of the things she went through. Let me tell you something to everyone. Everyone goes through their own problems don't be comparing your problems cause everyone goes through different things. No matter what i'm here for you and you're here for yourself thats all that matters. Just ignore the people who try to top their problems and do you. Hang in there. p.s. i had to let it out. This post is about not giving up its not a question. the first answer was so stupid next time read it at the end.

and been happy about it?

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so my life has been falling downwards. im currently 16 a junior in high school and i dont ******* know what to do with my situation. So since junior year ive been bulimic and continued to be til last year when i started throwing up blood and i knew i should stop like it was a wake up call. My mother and father found about this before and my father only beat me because he's a nurse, he knows this is bad &causes nutritional imbalance and no one in my family offered support so i only had continued to throw up in secret. he believes bulimia disorder is only for white people and beat me asking where i learned it fromRecently, my father sees me obese (im 5 7 146llbs) and my weight before hand had been a issue ive struggled with. my grades though all a's are like some are 91, 93 and yesterday he beat me with a wooden spoon, shoved an orange in my face hollering "if you eat why dont you eat this" hard dragged my hair and held my face in the orange remains so i couldnt breathe for a few seconds and beat me and kicked mepulp went in my right eye, mouthnose, hair i like my mom alot better but she helped beat me. its happened a few times across the last few months immediately after i had a bloody nose, swollen upper lip and bloody eye with pink welts across my butt and arms and i dont really know what to do i thought about calling the police but wasnt sure this warrented the police or i could just waitfall break ends to talk to the schoolconsuelor.idontreallyknowwhattodopepleasehelp I was hoping anyone could give me advice of what to do about the abuse and whether i should talk to my school counselor about it

My mom has an old cat and never takes it to the vet. All animals should be to the vet atleast once a year. Her reason is it looks healthy so it doesnt need a vet. Doesnt mean it is healthy. Its 15. And has never been to the vet. Okay, I took it to the vet about a week ago for a physical. The vet was surprised that it's in good shape, but it's a little underweight. And needed to be tested for hyperthyroidism. I'll get the results soon. If it has hyperthyroidism than it would need to take medication daily. She sounded indifferent about it. I dont know if she would actually do it or not. I would take in the cat, but my dog just died from cancer, and I dont want another ******* animal to worry about. She buys all this stupid **** she doesnt need but wont take her cat to the vet. I'm not going to threaten her, but I'd definitely freak out, and hopefully scare her into taking care of her cat. I'm sick of standing my knowing this cats health is being neglected by such a willfully ignorant human. It makes me want to go through her house and kick in her walls or go and shoot someone. I feel guilty enough about my dogs death. I dont want to feel guilty about this cats which is what will happen if I stand by and do nothing. I know I'm probably being overly dramatic, but this makes me so upset.

Ok...  Im almost 14. i messed up but i still dont think my dads right!  i was supposed to be in the house by 9 last night cuz its a school night and all. Well, I was with my friends and we were having a good time. i decided that it would be ok if I was a little late seeing how my friends didnt need to be home until 10!  so I got in around 1030 and my dad was really pissed. Saying that i have no respect and that he was worried sick blah blah blah.  i got mad cuz ALL my friends didnt need to be home until 10! so when my dad said your grounded I said f@#$ you and ran up to my room.  this morning my dad started in on me again saying that my language is unacceptable etc. i swore at him again and said ill do what i want.  as i was leaving the house for school my dad said I am going to get "a butt tanning" when i get home...  I havent been spanked since I was at the oldest 10!!! help me. I need to find something to say to get him to change his mind he gets home in an hour. i know i was wrong

I'm 18, soon to be turning 19 and I'm currently commuting to college, still living at home. I don't have a job and haven't really worked yet but I'm trying to make it a priority to find a job before my second semester of school. Because I don't have my own money, I still rely on my parents for things like food, clothing, gas money... pretty much everything. In terms of finances, I'd say we live pretty comfortably and money isn't much of an issue but I still feel guilty asking them for so much. I feel that the common thing I've heard from most people is that once you turn 18, you should be on your own and have your life straightened out- the thing is, I'm far from it and I feel like I'm letting them down in a way. Do you think that this is something to be worried about and is there something I can do about it in the meantime?

I lost my husband to cancer in March and my son to a heart attack in July. I'm dreading this holiday season. My 2 daughters want me to put a tree up for the grandkids at Christmas like we do every year. I don't want to do it. I'm not feeling festive or in the mood for anything holiday related. Every year the grandkids come over to trick or treat but this year I told my daughters I just want to be alone. It is just my way of processing the past year. I'm not sure if this is normal or if I'm handling this wrong. What does everyone think?

How would an ten year old girl react? She knows that her step father has sex with her mother and her two older sisters that are 18 years and older. Her step father tells that is is a criminal offense to have sex with a girl under the age of 18. She knows that her mother and her two older sister are pregnant and her step father is the father of there unborn baby. She is told by her mother that he is a very good father and he never abused her.

and that she mumbled under her breath and said that we were under dressed at a high class restaurant (it wasn't) I understand being anger at a family but to here your mom say she doesn't want to ever see her daughter is a bit much. What do you guys think 

My 9 year old son (4th grade) has always been socially immature and loves younger kids. He gets along great with boys who are 2 or 3 years younger than him. Apparently now my son is in trouble for playing with them. His older sister told me that there's a rule where big kids aren't allowed to play with the little kids. They're only allowed to play with kids who are close in age (maximum 1 year below or above). My son is not easily accepted by his peers. They bullied him for years in the past before the school intervened. I don't see a problem with a 9 year old playing with 6 & 7 year olds if he's being appropriate. My son is so kind, honest and fair to these kids. They love him and all of their parents know that he's a few years older. I don't think there's a problem unless the school makes it a problem. He's growing and developing at his own rate.

This is a long story. I'm 25. I'll be 26 in december. A couple years ago I bought a mobile home with my brother. Lived there for about a year. And a half. I didnt get along with his gf. And he refused to kick her out, so i just moved to my moms. I had to quit my full time job, because I wasnt being paid on time. I started working part time mostly because my dog has separation anxiety, and I could afford it, also my anxiety is out of control, and I have difficulty holding a full time job, although I plan on getting one eventually. I'm trying to stay at my part time one for at least a year and a half before I move on, because I'm already a job hopper. Heres the reason i want to move in with my dad. My dog just passed away from cancer. Which made my anxiety worse than ever before. My moms house reminds me of her too much, and it's too overwhelming. Same with my mobile home. Also, I dont get along with my mom very well. My dad told me i could come and stay at his house for a couple days to get my dog off my mind. And he always wants to spend time with me. He also just doesnt like me living with my mom (they dont get along) hes about to retire, and I know he will probably want his privacy, but I was thinking of asking him. I would still plan on moving out on my own once I get a full time job. That's another thing that prevented me from living on my own is because the apartments around here dont eccept pit bulls, even though I loved my dog to death, that was a pain in the ***.