How do you cope with the shock? How do you move on? How do you keep the conversation going when they won't talk to you about important stuff? How do you know if they cheated? How do you know to give up completely--as in, rest assured that they are never coming back?

 I'm so embarrassed! I lost my son a little over a year ago, my job last month, and my mother just passed away last week and I'm also going through a tough divorce. I've been gone for the past week making arrangements for my mother etc. My neighbor accused me of breaking her trash can or some nonsense (I have been home). She started calling me white trash and it's a wonder my husband left me and saying my so. was better off dead so he  wouldn't have to be m as a mother. She said she wanted to fight me. I've NEVER in my life gotten violent with anyone. I'm not sure what caused me to flip out so much but I ended up punching her in the face pretty badly. The cops were called and now I'm being charged with simple assault. I'm not sure if this is a felony or misdemeanor. I'm so embarrassed as I've NEVER done anything like this in my LIFE. I think it's just the stress of everything I just exploded. I've been so shaken up since it happened I haven't eaten and I keep vomiting up bile. 

Like no matter what u and ur kids (even shared ones) will ALWAYS be 2nd place to him. It disgust and depress me..we always come after them on EVERYTHING. My son, our daughter, ECT...we have to change and adjust for his 1st 2. I want be a fam and equal but I think never gonna happen. Anyone else been here?

I always ask for a peak down there on the first date.....

He's never jealous of me. So my husband cheated on me and I was heartbroken. I was devastated for months and then after I put myself back together after the heartbreak.. I decided to lose weight. I recently started working out and losing so much weight and staying fit. There is this guy at the gym who I'm talking to. I'm crushing on him a little finding his admiration for me quite flattering. He came and add me on fb and my husband wants me to block him. My husband also deleted him off my phone contact. Is my husband overreacting? Is he jealous? 

I'm a stay at home mom.  At 2am this morning noticed my phone unplugged from the charger and the power was out. My husband works at a pet resort and his boss told him last week to put his phone up front because he is on it waaaaay too much... hubby had 100 percent battery I had 1 percent and no way of charging it. He takes our only car to work at 4am. We have a toddler so I had no heat, no lights, no stove, no vehicle and he left me with no phone. I asked him to trade phones for the day and he could use the work landline or charge my phone at work when power returns if it was even off at work. (Which it was for 10 min.) He refused to leave his phone with me. Said he needed it for work, even though he could have used my fb messenger to message any co worker and his boss if needed. Am I wrong to find this selfish? 

My husband works at a dog daycare. Theres a landline there. Last night there were over 28,000 outages in our area. At 3am woke up to no power and a dead phone. I asked my husband to take my phone for the day and a charger and let me use his that was charged 100 percent battery.. he refused. He takes our only vehicle to work at 430 am. So I'm a stay at home mom with a toddler, no power, no heat, no car and he left me with no phone... he said he needed his phone for his job, but his boss told him last week to put his phone up front because hes on it too much.... he could have charged my phone at his work. And reached any employee or his boss via my messenger. I'm wondering if he refused to leave the phone bcuz hes hiding something, otherwise hes just selfish imo. Am I wrong here? If roles were reversed I would leave my husband at home my phone.  In a heartbeat

My cousin, their son, wanted me to ask. They have a fair but of property as they are wealthy through the wife's father and his law firm.

Okay so I'm looking for some kinda closure, or healing in some sort..or maybe just a stranger advice to tell me how they think it could really be. Someone to just break it down to me . So my husband and I have been together 6yrs now ...we share two beautiful children together  and also I have an amazing step daughter which he shares with another woman....at the beginning  of our relationship  he cheated on me with my step daughter mother ...when he did so we broke up for a week and then he started messaging me telling me he was sorry and he was wrong and it was me he really wanted to be with..that he was just confused because he had known her for so long . So we got back together  that was the one and only time he had ever done anything like that  ..we got back together  had a son, got married and here we are six yrs later ....and this past summer his daughter told me this cold soul crushing thing that happened...she said her dad try to get back with her mom.  Now may I remind u we are married and this is 6yrs later.  I called my stepdaughters mother just to hear her confirm that it was the truth....nothing happened between them because my step daughters mom told him no but he still tried!...I'm confused and hurt and broken deep inside . But he denied  it and still denies  it ...says he doesnt want her or love her and that he only wants me and loves me ..but I cant seem to quit thinking about it .  I just want to know why? Why do u think he tried? 

I was at a meeting of a women's social organization and they were introducing new members. They introduced Mrs John Doe. At the table I was at one of the women said "Didn't you use to be Ms. John Doe". Then it hit me. The new member was my ex husbands new wife. I talked to her briefly and she seemed to be a very nice person. She did not know I was her husbands ex wife but I am sure someone in the group will tell her if I remain a member of the organization. I DON'T WANT TO CAUSE HER ANY EMBARRASSMENT in the future so I think I will not go to any future meetings. Please give me some advice if this is the right thing to do. Even though I had a friendly divorce I don't want to cause my ex husband or his new wife any problems.

Your mother accuses your spouse of something illegally wrong. Your spouse realized their mistake, found out what happened & was doing everything possible to fix the wrong. Then, your mother verbally  attacks your spouse, calling them dirty names, threatening to call the cops. Your spouse remains calm,ks to be spoke to like an adult and states that they would be more than willing to sit down, talk about it &  fix it. Your mother refuses & openly disrespect your spouse, screaming, yelling at them, pointing their finger in their face & trying to pull them out of the car. Your spouse having scratches on their arm. All while you are standing there, watching & not intervening much, allowing this disrespect to happen. Cops are called & your spouse advises the cop of their wrong doing, how it happened & what they were going to do to fix it. Then, tells them about the verbal and physical attack. Your spouse requests that your stand up for them and not allow the disrespect and requests that the children not go over there until your mother has cooled down. Not once do you hug your spouse and tell them that it will be okay. You just tell them that you're not going to get in the middle of the situation & that it is between you two. And that your spouse is just being petty for wanting to keep the children away. So, when it comes to taking the children over there to ride fourwheelers, Sunday dinners, holidays. You get to go with your children, while your spouse has to stay home. 

I live in Myrtle Beach SC. The job market here is TERRIBLE. I cannot find work anywhere especially in the off season. My husband has a good job but travels frequently.  I've been looking for work since August with absolutely no luck. I went to the grocery store and they had over 400 applicants just to work at the local grocery store. I've went to temp agencies all over town there is absolutely nothing.  My husband is now leaving for work from  October 15 - December 20. I'm so lonely here as is and I'm concerned I'm falling into a depression. My family is out in California and I'm considering going out there and staying with them through the next 2 months. My husband and I are planning to relocate but unfortunately we have to wait until June to move. I am working on possibly volunteering but I know that's not going to pay the bills. ANY ADVICE?  Should I just move home?

I ran into my ex mother in law Lisa at the mall. We talked briefly and as it was lunch time I invited her to go to join me for lunch. We went to a nice restaurant in the mall. We had great food, great conversation, and a lot of fun. I did not think any more about it until I get a text message from my former wife Pam, that she did not want me dating her mom anymore. She said it would be to weird to call her ex husband dad? I thought she must be joking as how could anyone think that having lunch one time with anyone would mean they were going to get married so going along with the joke, I said "Does that mean you will not be a brides maid at the wedding"? It turns out she was not joking and now she is mad at me. Do you think I did something wrong here?

We're already getting a divorce to be finalized in December (Merry Christmas). 

Ok so quick question my finace and I are wanting to get married. He is from another country and his divorce will be final on the 17th which in his country he has to wait 6 months to remarry. So my question is can he come over here to the US and get married before the 6 months is up? Please no judgemental comments. 

6 months ago me and my wife looking to spice up our marriage tried cuckolding. I thought it was fun and all but never again as I was not that Comfortable watching her with another man. Since then she has had sex with 8 other men (that I know of). She has completely ignored, disrespected, and bullied me since then. Last week she said she was staying late to work then walked in at 2:00 AM and showed me a video of her having sex with another man. She also has stopped helping in the household, such as making food for me and the kids, cleaning, and being supportive. She also yells at me in front of the kids. I was asking her something then she interrupted me by yelling "CUCK". Are their special legal proceeding I should be following or should I let her pass through this phase??

We have been married for 16 yrs. I was  sexually abused by 5 men from 3-13. I think I'm pretty adjusted considering. Husband has sex with me while I sleep and I have repeatedly asked him to make sure I'm awake because I dont like it. This has been going on our entire relationship.  Sometimes I would wake up and participate, sometimes in KNOW I would say the same things i did as a kid which was a sleepy mumbly no. The fact that it takes me a day or two to remember on my own or he mentions it, I feel violated. For the last month I have been sleeping on the couch or in the spare bedroom because the bed is too firm for me, I agreed because he works I dont and his sleep and comfort was more important than mine. I know, I've been dumb. I'm realizing a lot lately.  Anyway, tonight laying on the couch with this on my mind for a couple weeks now I'm not sure what to think anymore. I've read people ask this same question and see answers or comments that you cant rape your spouse because you agreed with your vows. Today we were texting while he was at work and he said I am breaking his heart not being in bed with him. We are getting a new mattress soon and i told him he needed to promise me he will not have sex with me while I am sleeping. He said that I've made it clear I dont want sex and that he wont even try. I dont believe him. He acted like what he does isn't wrong. It FEELS wrong. It makes me feel gross and used and no better than I did when I was young. I don't know how to feel.

Both are beautiful, intelligent, and have stable lucrative careers. My wife is tried, tested and true. She will never leave me. She will always take care of me. She cooks, cleans, and manages our finances. She also lets me sleep with other women so long as I let her know. However, sometimes she gets extremely negative and she blows small issues into huge ordeals. She also knows I am sensitive to sound but still often speaks very loudly even though she is right next to me. Finally, I don't feel tremendous compatibility when we are together in terms of conversations, and mutual growth. My mistress however, stimulates my creative side and we have a ton of shared interests such as soccer, making music together, video games, board games and much more. She is also more excited about our sexual life, but is the jealous type and would never allow me to sleep with any woman other than her. Both women are equally attractive and intelligent.  My wife says she doesn't want to have kids and would never allow me to have a dog. My mistress wants at least 2 kids and a dog. My wife never even looks or thinks about any other men. My mistress has many male friends and hangs out with male musicians and makes music with them, which bothers me. But lately, I much prefer my mistress' company. I am unsure as to whether I want children or even a dog. Would you leave your wife for your mistress? How would you approach this situation?

I am married and my spouse keeps talking to other ppl. I mean sending pics and videos. This is the 4th time now, and I know we aren't really there for each other because of unfortunate events in the past two years. One being our daughter passing and two house burning down. I keep finding more stuff that has been done behind my back. I'm lost!!

 this is prbs weird but i just think about them being my 'daddy' like sexually. Halp.