My wife and I were at her mother's (Linda) house. My wife was showing me the family photo album. In it was Linda's pictures as a swim suit model. Wow, was Linda great looking and had a figure to die for. I told my wife "I see where you get your good looks. Your mother is gorgeous ". Linda heard me and came over and hugged me and said "You made my day". My wife asked her mother if she could still get in the bathing suit she had on in the pictures. Linda said "Yes, they still fit". My wife ask her mother to put one on so she could get a picture of her now in the swim suit. Linda said she did not think she should do that as the swim suit was too revealing. Linda turned to me and said "You would not like to see me in a micro bikini would you"? Every guy reading this knows what the truthful answer is but I can not say that. Wives, I would like your opinion on how I should have answered without making my wife mad.

There's a lot of money that my grandma left in trust for me. I was supposed to get access to it when I was 21, but my parents made it so they have control over it and won't give me any of it. This is beyond frustrating because they're emotionally abusive and living at home is making me insane. Is there any way at all that I can go around my parents and get access to that money? I'm 27 years old, by the way. 

i'm 15 and can't stand living with my family for multiple reasons. it gets to a point where they don't even trust me anymore and we argue all the time. i have no one to live with so my only way out of this place is jail. is that bad?

I would like to see your point of view on this matter.

My dad has done absolutely nothing for me growing up, he left my mother and I to go sell and do drugs. He calls me to tell me that everything my mother and I have is because of him and he calls me a selfish B**** for not wanting to talk to him. I am very close to my dads side of the family here in my city and now they also started to call me selfish for not wanting to talk to him or visit him in Mexico. My father is toxic and won't leave me alone and I love my family but they keep bugging me to visit him. What can I do or say to keep my family and have nothing to do with him? 

My family has always been loving, yet there was alot of dysfuctional behaviors that I saw as a kid, to where now as an adult I'm realizing how bad i truly was. I feel that my parents didn't really truly love one another. My sister tries to excuse my Dad's behaviors. The only thing that they ever said when things got bad is 'let it go', 'it already happened'. For me being an American, I do not have that mindset, and this has lead me to have a different relationship with all of them. I have always had anxiety, depression, and now I'm trying to gain my happiness back. I feel that it was sucked out of me over the years. I love them, but I just want to stop being angry at them. My parents are also from the baby boomer generation, and I was born in 1994.

I am 15 and my mom just told me she is getting rid of my toys because I'm growing older. She doesn't understand I still love them (I mean, they're not like "baby toys," they are plushies and action figures). I have not lost interest in them and still play with them all the time but she's getting rid of them because she wants me to "grow up." This is so stupid! She also doesn't want me watching cartoons anymore! She's being mean and is demanding that I start acting like an adult (she plans to force me out of her house when I'm 18). I am not even an adult yet and she keeps yelling at me saying I need to act like one! She's also working me harder and harder (and I mean, until I'm covered in sweat), she makes me do so many more chores for longer periods of time and refuses to let me have free/play time! How do I get her to stop being so mean and to let me keep my toys? For goodness sake she's like a drill sergeant!

So my dad lives 3 hours away. I call him every other weekend to check up on him. We usually talk for an hour. Anyways hes always asking for me to visit him. Based on my experiences it's been bad. Hes very religious. Nothing against anyone that's religious but it changed him. Everytime I visit it's hard to be around him. We cant listen to certain types of music, can't watch boxing, ufc, play billiards, cant watch certain types of movies. Anyways sometimes he makes me feel uncomfortable because he always asks why I'm an atheist. I honestly respect his beliefs but he doesnt respect mine. It's a 3 hour drive. I've told him how I've felt and he says that's his religion. Anyways I'm getting to the point where I dont want go out of my way to see him. What should I do? 

I'll be with my Dad this weekend and don't know if I should bring up his rotten daughter who he obviously still loves and he definitely enables.

I feel weird being the favorite. I feel pressure. I feel really disappointed in my mother for her dislike for her daughter in law and her complaints about her son in law to some degree though those are more valid. I also don't like how she has favorites with her own 3 children. I fear I will fall off the favorites list. Her mother was similar and I was the favorite grandchild by far, this pressure made me very anxious around her also and even more there cause I was the best of 12 grandkids (actually tied with one other older cousin who was the 1st born grandkid). My Dad and step-mother like us equally. I should ad as a teen my Mom and I clashed cause she insulted my Dad so much and tried to brainwash me and my siblings against him. She softened by the time I was in my mid-20's and so now she likes me the most cause we are not clashing over my father.

My husband and I are expecting our first child in December. We're all super excited, and naturally nervous. We currently live in an apartment that is older, could use some updating, and isn't the most glamorous place but it's livable and there's nothing outright that's wrong with it. However, my parents while trying to be generous and "thoughtful" they keep trying to push us to move. They have offered to get us a nicer place, with more space, closer to family, and has more amenities. They said there would be no strings attached, just to "help us" and they just don't like where we live. I've had several discussions with my husband and he's just not for it. He doesn't see the need for it, and doesn't want to accept money from my family, and says that he doesn't just want to move to another apartment, unless it's a house. With him being the only income right now I just worry about him handling all of this new responsibility solo, and my parents offered to help pay for this new apartment. My mom in particular keeps bugging me constantly, and while I would be okay with moving, (I don't necessarily see the downside) he is not. I just don't know how to handle this back and forth.

My mother is a great grandmother to my children and my wife but still treats me like a little kids and  is rude and disrespects me. For example, she had the tendency to slap my face whenever I am persistent about something she disagrees with.  This was always an issue and nothing new but she recently slapped me in front of my 4y.o. who recognized something was off and asked my wife abt it. We have had dozens of conversations about boundaries and behavior and she always swears that she'll do better. Nothing changes. I'm trying to set boundaries with consequences but I feel guilty using the kids as punishment but that's the only thing that seems to work with her.

I would never let my son do so. What if the other boy turned out to be gay? They might start performing sexual acts and the thought of that bothers me.

He thinks it's all bad habits that I choose. He also doesn't get the pain that I feel when my mother's family leaves us out because they don't like my mother. I am all alone in this pain. I get therapy, but no one else understands and my dad gives me grief for paying money on therapy and medication.

I don't wanna say how bad she turned out or just makes me look bad. I see you're on rare occasions but that's that as I try to avoid her. I see her on rare occasions I meant to say. 

My mom is a very toxic person in my life so I'm trying to limit how much time I spend with her and her negativity but I also know one day she will be gone so I wanna see her. What I do? 

My daughter is going to start college soon. The college is 100 miles away. She will be sharing an apartment with 3 other girls. She ask me how I thought she should get around and go the grocery store and other places as there is no public transportation where she is staying. I ask her if any of the other girls at the apartment had a car and she checked and none did. They told her they will use a bike to get around. She wanted me to buy her a bike. I told her with the high cost of tuition, books, and her apartment, it might be a used bike. She visited my dad and mom last weekend and she talked to them about the problem she would have getting around at college and that I planned to buy her a bike. My dad told her that he used to be an ambulance driver and he had picked up MANY people that had be hit on their bike by a car. He said the bike driver was usually DEAD or severely injured in a car bike accident. He was going to get her something safer than a bike to use at college. He then took her to a car dealer and bought her a new Kia Soul so she would be safe. She thinks she has the greatest grandpa in the world now. I am not sure how I feel about this. Dad did not buy me a new car when I went to college. Is dad trying to make me look bad to my daughter because I could not afford to buy her any car let alone a new one or his he concerned about her safety on a bike. How should I feel about what my dad did?

I used to see him at Christmas as he was casual and would say "just stop by". His wife is reserved, seldom replies to emails, and with his death will likely be even more reserved. He has three kids, two still at home. So at Christmas he is deceased and the other uncle travels with his family each year to in-laws. My mother therefore is the only one in her family I will be seeing. How do I reach out so I have some connection to her family? Grandparents have died. Christopher: his family I want to reach out to, the only one who is dead is him and my grandparents.  

My dad returned from my school today and he find out that I havent been to school for a week and a half. When he returned home he wasnt furious as I expected but he calmly told me that I will get punished in a way I choose. So he told me to choose if I want to be grounded for a month without going out, phone, TV and computer or I will get a *** whooping with a belt. He gave me a time until tomorrow to choose my punishment. I am afraid of *** whooping but I think it is a better option then a month in my room without anything. What should I do? 

My Dad's cousin had messy divorces. I have only met that cousin once or twice but they think my Dad ran around with women and was a big player. It was this distant cousin of his they have him mixed up with. They both live in the same area though we've only met the distant cousin on two occasions. My Dad is not living anymore and how do I get people to stop mixing him up with this womanizing cousin of his who also is not living anymore.

I want to have fun and enjoy myself as I will be getting to see a lot of family I like. However, I get sad whenever I want to be happy and enjoy myself. It is a curse.

She has she has abandoned our family, I am no longer working and she will not help out financially. We really need her help out with the bills of the household but she wont help me and my wife out, She is ungrateful for not helping us. I need shoulder surgery and she wants to move out Shes is very crazy and ungrateful. Children are supposed to help the parents no matter what. WHAT TO i NEED TO TO. WE NEED OUR DAUGHTER TO STAY HOME,,

I (23) have been with my boyfriend (25) for 2 years and he is the most loving, funny, caring and compassionate man I have ever met. We have similar goals in life about the type of life we want, number of kids, travel even the pets we want to own. Hence why I was very eager to introduce him to my parents. However, my mother dislikes him because he did not come from the rich family she expected and she has since stated multiple times that I should be just friends with him and that she will not idly stand by while she watches me ruin my life. this saddens me a great deal as I do love and cherish my boyfriend and he is hardworking and always working overtime to get a promotion. My mom dislikes the fact that he does not own his business and that his mother is a housewife and father runs a small company but nowhere near millionaire level. I have shared this with him and he has assured me that in time he will make her see how much he loves me and wants me to be happy and successful as well. i do understand that every mother, especially me coming from an Asian family, want their daughters marrying rich so we can live comfortably. But i do not think it is fair to cut people who are hardworking and honest out of the equation just because they happened to be born into the wrong family. i am worried that one day my boyfriend will get up and think this is too much and leave, while I know I cannot do anything should it happen, I do believe that we can achieve success together. 

I've been working as a caregiver for a 51yo woman with cerebral paulsy since July while I'm in university. She's in and out of the hospital all the time and just went again this morning for another UTI. I'm the only person whose consistently on staff as she regularly scares others away. It's starting to really interfere with my personal and professional life and I want to quit. I think if I do though she will either end up dead or in a nursing home before to long (which she said she would rather die then do). If I hadn't come back this afternoon to check on her she probably would have laid in bed until her evening help showed up (she's probably going to quit now). Am I just delaying the inevitable by enabling her delusions that she can live on her own? Most importantly should I quit for my sake and hers?

My relatives keep taking in my personal life and grades.They aren't impressed by my grades and keep commenting on it all the time.They remind me how bad my grades are and keep taunting me every chance they get. At one point i told them that it's my grades are none of their business and they have no right to know them or comment on them or give me any advice or suggestion until i asked for it. Then they felt insulted and told me that it is their business because they are older to me and that I'm obligated to share my grades.They said that everything i do must go through them.That i must work hard and prove my worth to them and seek their approval because they think that their approval is extremely important.Then i told them that i know what i am and i don't have to prove anything to them. Then they were how dare I say such a thing......i will have to prove myself to them and I've got no choice.I must prove that i deserve to be treated better and earn their kindness.

So my mom has been seeing this guy for close to 10 years now and he's horrible. He's mentally abusive. He wants her to spend all of her time with him, to put him in front of everything (friends, work, family, me and my sibling). He calls obsessively calls when my mom doesn't pick up (she was comforting me for about 10 minutes and he called 10 times before my mom answered only to find he only wanted to say hi). He is constantly telling her she cares too much and no one actually cares how she looks. They are always fighting and pissed at each other. As I'm typing this rn they are outside fighting and my mother is crying. We are trying to get the money to leave but we just don't have it yet. I have no clue what to do though. Living here hurts. It hurts me, it hurts my mother, it hurts my siblings (and they don't even live here). I'm scared and I don't know what to do. Please help me. 

Every dollar helps. If you put in just one dollar every single day for 18 years, you will have 6624 dollars which is enough to pay for a full year at community college.

You go to a restaurant and they order a sandwich that the cook cuts in half. The kid eats half, leaves the other half, but always seems to have room for dessert and gets it cause their parents are rich and spoil them rotten.

He has ptsd from witnessing a suicide of a girl in his country many years ago during war. He was 6 when it happened and he never really recovered. He was also beated up from the girl's mother for not being able to speak and crying all the time because he saw the girl dead on the ground. Other neighbour women used to make him all kinds of questions involving the issue cause he was the last one to see her on the staircase. It's been years that we will sleep together and once in some weeks or months he has nightmares about me (most of the time), in which I am dying, there's blood on me, or the town is being bombed and he is not able to find me. Sometimes the nightmares are so frightening that he is not able to explain them to me, he just starts crying while trying to explain. He wakes up in the middle of the night mourning and wakes me up asking me if I am alright. I hug him immediately so that he calms down. This thing has been going on for at least two years and cant seem to get better. Sometimes he says he wants to go back to his homeland for a trip to find out the truth. I could even tell him yes, but I'm just afraid it will make him worse and that he will be disappointed. He has no one there. How long will the nightmares last? Why is he so affected by what happened in his childhood? It's really scary to see the person you love the most crying at night in his sleep ans having to wake him up because he is traumatized.