Obviously, she never confronted me about looking at her breasts.  But the fact that I can't make eye contact, which makes my eyes drift down in panic, makes her "half hugs" seem too coincidental.  I honestly can't help it, and I've even looked at my great-aunt's chest (she's 88 and in very bad shape).  Regardless, my great-aunt and all my female loved ones who are my age and older, give me full hugs.  I think this is because they're mature enough to understand what's wrong with me.  My niece is 21, so she is still at that stage where I'm that creepy uncle.  She's actually my best friend's daughters who I call my niece.  He, too, obviously knows I'm just nervous.  So I assume if his daughter complained to him about me, he knows I wasn't being a perv.  But I still feel bad.  I hate being so awkward, even though the most important person, my mom, knows I'm harmless and not a perv, as well as my loved ones in my age group and older.  But I hate how I'm perceived to my niece and her generation, as well as strangers on the train.   It hurts.

I turned 18 a week ago. I've been moved out of my mothers house for 8 months living with my grandparents and my child support is still being sent to my mother. My dad lives 3 hours away or I would be living with him. Anyway my dad called child enforcement and told them the problem. They called my mom and she lied to them saying I lived there. Apparently they took her word over mine and my dads.  My grandparents won't get in the middle of it. If I did get my child support money would go Towards paying for my college which is very expensive. She uses the money to go out and on vacations  What do I do? Also I live in Louisiana. 

I dread the flashbacks I'll get around my family but equally dread the grief I'll get if I don't go. What do I do? I still feel pain from my parents divorce and the tug of war I got brought into post-divorce. My parents both get mad at me for still feeling this way 25 years later and I agree but can't turn it off, even with therapy. My parents kept me involved in their divorce for many years after the divorce itself 25 years ago. It's not that I have a bad family or abuse or anything. It's just this trauma I can't rid myself of, especially on holidays.

I dread this so much. My Dad is so cool. I send him a message and he is fine. But my mother...she will not rest unless I give her a voice call, and sometimes even the voicecall isn't enough if I literally don't visit her she will guilt trip me and get my whole immediate family to guilt trip me... It's like it never occurs to her that some days I just want to come from work... and be in my zone.

In the mid 1960's, my father spent $10 a week. We had plenty - from NY Steaks to breakfast cereals. From fruits to veggies. Movies ere a quarter. Gasoline was 22 cents a gallon. My dad's take home was$150 per week. Utilities were about $12.00 a month. House payment was $62.50

What are places you usually meet a lover at? I'm clueless. Where are people first acquainted with their significant other?

I am very very scared of war movies. Why? My mom forced me to watch the soap party scene in Full Metal Jacket at age six. Yep. Recently my dad got drunk and I was pmsing. Not good together at all. I did something wtong and he got mad and screamed at me about it and proceeded to shame me for overreacting to everything all because I was a weak girl. He knows I hate war movies and decided he was going to force me to watch full metal jacket and then made me watch several scenes like the soap scene and when the drill sergeant got killed over and over again while I cried. Was he right to do so? Btw, didnt know he was drinking and had just gotten home from school and nobody told me to tread carefully.

My mon and I both received an inheritance last year. We both decided to save this money and invest it for our future. It was too small an amount to pay for professional management. On the one year anniversary of our inheritance we compared notes to see how our investments were doing. My mom had made 3 times the amount of money I had made on my investments. I asked her how she did it. She said she had a great investment advisor that did not charge her anything because they were friends. When I ask her who it was, she said she preferred not to tell me. I thought that was really odd. Why would she not want to tell her daughter. I finally got it out of her. It was my ex husband. She said she did not want to cause me any trouble. I told her my ex husband and I are still on friendly terms and this is business not personal. I want the higher returns she is getting on her investments. I am going to ask him to help me with my investments. Mom said, "I understand that you want you to make as much money from your inheritance as possible. However I am afraid your current husband is going to have a BIG problem with you asking our ex for advice". Guys, is my mom right. Would you have a problem if your wife was getting free investment advice from her former husband that was making us both a lot of money? How do I explain to my current husband that this has nothing to do with him. It is just a business relationship that will benefit BOTH of us.

I got home from work and my folks were on a date, so I make some dinner and watch a tv episode. they walk in the door, and I say out loud at some point that I'm gonna watch one more episodes, both of them hear me say it. Seconds later my dad comes down with his guitar and starts playin music before I manage to start the next episode. I talked to my mom later upstairs about , who proceeds to say out of the blue that I'm not payin the full goin rate for rent (whatever that has to do with anythin), and how it's their house so he could do what he wants. last I checked it was their call to decide what to charge me, and even then, I feel entitled to respect and consideration of my own whether I pay goin rate or not. I've been tryin to discuss things like them for the better part of a year where I feel as though I'm not bein respect or treated fairly, but they just say it's "too stressful to talk about." What do I do?

I've had it. I waited 18 years of my life in hopes that maybe she would change but she never did. I begged and pleaded but nothing ever happened. She ruined my prom, my friendships, and potential university offers, because it would reflect on her mothering skills. I never got to have a real childhood experience because she deemed every mother as "inferior" to her standards. I was never allowed to do sleepovers or even go over to a friend's house. And now, all I want is a damn 10 minute drive to school and she tells me "No, you're always doing things your way. You're so inconsiderate. I wanna sleep in." I'm getting desperate and I always feel the need to yell and cry for help but I can't. I always compare my family to my boyfriend's family, and although they're imperfect, they at least respect their son and value him as a person and also make logical decisions that don't rely on "just because." I was only ever a reflection of my mother, and if it became distorted, I was yelled at, beat, told I should just get pregnant and die. I want to leave so badly, my boyfriend's parents want to take me in, but I feel so scared, like maybe I don't deserve happiness. Please help me... I have an abusive, narcissistic mother. I want to move out, but how can I without feeling scared?

My grandma also treats me like sh*t all the time. And I can't tell DEFAX or Child Protective Services bc I have no where else to go. I moved in with her back in 2016 to get out of my abusive and neglecting household, but to be honest, there really is no difference in living with her. Yeah she may not beat me, but she mentally and emotionally abuses me. She calls me fat, so much to the point where I have ordered diet pills without her knowing in attempt to lose weight. She yells at me for really dumb things that I can't help. She also doesn't understand the full extent of what I went through for over 10 years. She doesn't understand that little things make me upset very quickly. And she thinks that I'm "Just going through a phase" NO. I have been abused mentally,emotionally and physically by my other family and that's why I moved in with her. My self esteem is so low sometimes. I really don't know what to do anymore, and I sit in my room in the dark all the time, and cry. I really wish I was dead sometimes, but I'm to scared to do anything. I really REALLY don't know what to do anymore. 

She called our younger cousin sexy. He's in high school 

I am banned from seeing him by my Mom and her parents. As a result his family does not want to see me either. I have lots of cousins I don't even know because of this. At Christmas they all have a big celebration and I am banned by my mother from going and not asked by the aunt that hosts it. I am the only grandchild not there. I feel so awful. I am 14 and the holidays are still a ways off but when they come how do I handle this pain? I know my Mom is just being protective but she won't change her position even when I told her how sad it makes me. She says he needs to learn and puts it all on him and his drinking. She has a small family and I have no cousins or anything. Just a mother, aunt, and a grandmother. I am the only guy and I am a kid I admit. I even cry at Christmas and Thanksgiving each year. It has been like this since I was ten when Dad left.

First off. I've asked a few similar questions about this, so if your gonna be a smart ***, then dont answer. So I'm 25, and I live with my mom, for reasons I'd rather not discuss. She has a 15 year old outdoor cat. I hardly ever saw it growing up. It's never been to the vet, except to be spayed when it was a kitten. She was looking a little on the skinny side, so I told my mom she should probably take her to the vet. She said "no, she looks healthy" she did look, and act very healthy even for her age. Even the vet thought that, when I eventually broke down, and took her in a couple days later. They ended up doing a senior wellness blood panel, and she was diagnosed with hyperthyroidism, she she needs to take meds for thr rest of her life. My mom voluntarily is paying for them, but heres the problem. I found a place to move to. I asked her if she is going to make sure her cat gets the meds. She said "I told you, I'm not doing it" she wants me to drive up to her house every morning before I go to work, and every evening. Thay means i would have to drive about 6 miles out of my way in the morning. And almost 12 in the evening. It's so simple to administer. I just break the pill in half, cover it with a little canned, food, and then she just eats it. She said I need to do it, because I'm the one who wanted to take her to the vet. But if I didnt, than she would have died an agonizing death. I forget this cat isnt even mine most of the time.

I'm 26 and just recently moved into an apartment, got a new car, and a new job in my states capital. I'm very happy where I am now but I fear enjoying it to the fullest because of one thing; My family. Life out on my own, abandoned by my family was hard, they said I wasn't doing right in life and they could do nothing for me, yet constantly called me to belittle me and critique all my decisions in life while I struggled for a place to stay and had a boyfriend at the time who became more and more clingy with each family member I cut off. I feel like dying now though solely because these same people, leeches as I call them now won't leave me the hell alone. I left my hometown because they wouldn't stop calling me, my ex would stalk me at my job trying to get back into my good graces and I would run into family I wanted to avoid. They tell me I have to keep my family around, yet I want nothing to do with them, I don't call or text for birthdays or holidays, I just want to act like they don't exist anymore. My family who is blocked now call my mother trying to see what the **** I'm doing, masking it under 'just making sure she's ok' when they abandoned me when I first left home. My father who choked and tried to drag me from my car has popped up at my job before and it has been hell on earth trying to get rid of him. How can I fully get rid of these people who don't mean me any good?

Since we are living with them, I feel like I have to follow what they want? I'm kind of pressured and upset. My father in law wants me to study Nursing..though my husband said I don't really have to listen to them.. I listen to him instead of them which is true. He said, you don't have to do everything that they ask for or what they want from you. You should just do what makes you happy.. I always tell him what if they get upset and kick me out of the house for not studying Nursing because I know his dad is like that. I have my Pharmacy Technician and I want to use my license so that I can have a career by now.. I just think that they expect too much from me since my husband is the only child.. I feel like moving far away from them because I can't give them what they want.. What do you guys think?

My mother's brother kiddnaped me while I was playing with a girl twenty years ago and I also had memory problems. He left the state not to end up in the prison If I kill him now how many years of prison i take?

I'm a fairly good engineer. Over the years I have invented a few tech ideas, but lacked capital to finance them. Later I watched others do them and make lots of money. My brother knows this and has lamented to me a few times how sad this is. (I never complained). He has an in law with VC connections and he and his wife have made millions with his help. I never asked for help and mistakenly thought I could do it myself and got to thinking this is why i failed. So, this time I asked for their input. No money just their advice on a business plan. He said he would get right on it and get back to me after the weekend. It's been months and I never heard from him. Was I wrong to ask for advice (maybe they thought I was looking for money) or was he wrong to ghost me on it?

It is too long to post here so here is the link:  https://www.reddit.com/r/narcissisticparents/comments/dj0pdj/how_do_i_respond_to_my_nmom/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x

Is it OK to take the money from their wallets if you have every intention of repaying them when you're in a better financial position? Does it make it worse when you'd spend that money on drugs....since you know they wouldn't give you any money? But you promise you'd give them back that money???

Let's say he not only has a reckless mouth, but NO job. His girlfriend typed up his résumé and sent him on several interviews. He then quit and/or got fired from every job he got from the interviews, so she gave up and let him stay home (HER house, mind you) while she works. Meanwhile, he demonstrates the following behavior in front of her 25-year-old son:  1. Referred to his mother's "titty" while talking to her son (yes, he used that word instead of "breast").  2. Called himself "daddy" in front of her son and mother, while expressing how he hates when she has to get up for work in the morning when they're cuddling, "Nooo, stay with Daddy."  3. Did a stroking (masturbation) gesture in front of his girlfriend while telling her son he needs to find a nice woman and that he can't just be doing "this" all the time.  4. Played a porno DVD in the living room (instead of privately in bedroom) as his girlfriend was on her way home from work (while her son was presently in the house). When she got home, she walked in the living room and saw him watching that, as her son was awkwardly aware of this (this being the fact that he watched a porno while his girlfriend and her son were both home, like it's a family film, instead of watching it when just ONE of them are in the house).    Is this acceptable? Is it no biggie since the son is grown?

My sister faces his wrath more then my brother and I but we all face it. It is terrifying and I don't even live with him anymore and I still tremble.

If so, how do learn to become a better person ?

He likes to yell for attention 

Let's say he not only has a reckless mouth, but NO job.  His girlfriend typed up his résumé and sent him on several interviews.  He then quit and/or got fired from every job he got from the interviews, so she gave up and let him stay home (HER house, mind you) while she works.  Meanwhile, he demonstrates the following behavior in front of her 25-year-old son: 1.  Referred to his mother's "titty" while talking to her son (yes, he used that word instead of "breast"). 2.  Called himself "daddy" in front of her son  and mother, while expressing how he hates when she has to get up for work in the morning when they're cuddling, "Nooo, stay with Daddy." 3.  Did a stroking (masturbation) gesture in front of his girlfriend while telling her son he needs to find a nice woman and that he can't just be doing "this" all the time. 4.  Played a porno DVD in the living room (instead of privately in bedroom) as his girlfriend was on her way home from work (while her son was presently in the house).  When she got home, she walked in the living room and saw him watching that, as her son was awkwardly aware of this (this being the fact that he watched a porno while his girlfriend and her son were both home, like it's a family film, instead of watching it when just ONE of them are in the house).   Is this acceptable?  Is it no biggie since the son is grown?

It started entry in the wall with crackling and crawling noises last week or so and now its spitting at the bottom of the drains. (Sink) its made me afraid to use or touch the sink because i can always hear it moving and see its silhouette at the bottom. I dont know what the hell it is! Lately ive been covering the drain with a big pot but my family keeps moving it and gets mad when i put it back. Today i was home alone. I took it off the pot to drain the sink for a minute but when water started to go down it made a psycho sounding angry noise ive never heard from it and like launched toward the top but didnt make it out and fell back down. I threw the pot back down and my chest started hurting from fear. I ran to the bathroom and made a ball of toilet paper and plugged the drain and threw glue and apoxie clay from my craft **** on top. Now im fighting with my stepdad about the s hit stuck in the drain. Hes very angry and calling me names. He didnt believe me and now im crying in my room

A lot of people say that I am an ungrateful, pampered, rude, and whiny teen. I think that is unfair. I may do these things, but it does' always make me a spoiled little brat.

So i am getting married Friday. My sibilings wanted to take me to a certain spa but the spa had outdoor pools and it was raining so it was closed. Anyways we decided to go out to dinner. I had a great time but my mom is now texting me like crazy saying that shes upset with them and was telling them for weeks that they had to do something special for me. They promised to take me when it wasnt raining when I come back from my honeymoon. I told my mom and she wrote "i guess". Then she askes if they paid for me and when i said "yeah" she goes "yay" like in a sarcasric tone. Mom says shes angry with my sibilings. I really didnt have a bad time and i actually didnt want to be out all night. Is she wrong to be upset? My fiancés brother actually took my fiancé along with his cousins to a resturant and a bar after so I was thinking my mom was expecting the same thing. I dont understand why shes upset if I am not. Help?