my mom told me she wouldn't care if i killed myself and even told me to do it. she threw a razor at my older sister and told her to cut herself up in her room. she blames everything on me and my sister and when we try to confront her about it she plays the victim and says we're stressing her out. she says we can talk to her about anything but if we try to she flips out and says we're too much to deal with. and if we don't say anything when we're sad she yells at us for not talking to her. me and my sister are very nice to her but i'm getting tired of her being narcissistic and i've been planning on running away for a while. she's very verbally abusive and insults me and my sister and belittles us.what's wrong with her, do normal mothers act like this? what should i do? she's always taking my sister's side no matter who's right or wrong. she calls me emotionally weak and threatens to hurt me. but she doesn't act this way with my sister. i've never cried in front of her because i'm scared she'll say something about it. i feel like everyone would be happier if i were gone.

My husband s family has a favorite card game called Rook. I had never heard of before I started dating him. He taught me to play and apparently hubs is a very good player. But when we play his dad and brother are partners and he and I are partners. When I make a bad play, he won t say anything but he winces, or rubs his face, or lets out a big puff of breath. To me it's like he's saying "Stupid, stupid, stupid." He says it's just a card game and while he wants to win every trick and every hand and every hand, it's just a card game. After I talked to him about it, I can tell he's making a concerted effort not to wince or rub his face or blow a puff of breath. My sister-in-law, his brother's wife, said that they are very competitive and his brother was better at football and hunting but he's better at singing and Rook. So an I taking it to personally? At this point I never want to play ever again, but when he's with his family they play a lot. I asked him why he doesn't just pay with his mother it one of his nephews and he said I am his partner in life and in Rook and I'll get better.

My daughter has a classmate who's pregnant. Before the pregnancy, this young girl had other issues. CPS was involved throughout her whole life. Her parents are drug addicts so CPS took her away. The girl ran away from all her foster homes. She started engaging in sexual activities that are illegal. She has recently been around people who are dangerous too. And worse - this is a 12 year old CHILD. I didn't know anything about this "friend" until my daughter told me today. She gave me all this information (combined with other parents telling me it's true, she has a baby bump). I probably don't know the full story but my first instinct is to protect my daughter. Most 12 year olds are very impressionable and easily influenced by their friends, just like teenagers. I worry that it's not healthy to have this kid around my daughter because she is dysfunctional.

So I'm 14 years old ... I live with my mom and my dad and I hate me father. I don't know what to do at this point. He's so rude and mean to me, he's never really hit me or physically abused me but he says so many harsh things that I feel like a father should never say to his kid. My mom and I almost moved out a few months ago but he convinced her to stay. I wish we would have moved out and I just hate my life living with him. What should I do? 

I'm 17 and I came to Canada from China last year. In China I've lost count of how many times I saw my friends get their faces slapped at school. It was a standard punishment and it happened to me to. Both at school and home. I never thought it was an overly harsh punishment.  But here it's completely different, and even if a parent hits their son in his face it is frowned upon. My mother slapped my face in a Walmart yesterday and another parent actually told her she should not. I swore at her so I think maybe it was not such a bad thing that she did. But a friend here said slapping the face is considered dehumanising and degrading. But what about the face gives it this special value that you can't slap someone there. FOr example, here if parents spank a kid that's fine, but if the smack is on the face it's wrong? Even a slap on the back of the head is usually fine, so what about the FACE is so taboo?

I was walking home from school today and a car drove by and stopped and the male driver asked if I needed a ride and I declined and he told he he would give me candy if I got in and I went home and he's been waiting outside for me all this time

It is all I think about. I was bullied and belittled in school growing up so that's what makes it so hurtful. Plus my dad was an only child so we have no cousins or aunts and uncles and his family.

My 16y.o has had a history of self-harming since he was very young. Back then he would often pinch or scratch himself in protest or anger. That progressed to banging him arms/legs on stuff and gradually got worst. Now he's escalated to more serious methods and has scars all over he body, especially his arms.  We've put him through therapy more times than we can count. His school is aware and we've been trying to break the habit for years. He knows what he's doing is wrong and we're quite sure he's doing it for attention. Simply ignoring him works for a little while but then he gets bolder and does something worst. Nothing else that dr.s have suggested works so I'm hoping for advice from other parents on discipline.

Eariler this year, my husband and I had a pretty heated argument and were separated for 2 months. The fight wasn't anything major. During that time, his younger brother, who is also an old friend was visiting during his college break. We went out (as friends) just hanging out a few times. One of those times his brother had got into a big fight with the family and as a result got completely hammered. Admittedly, I knew I should've cut him off but chose not to bc I felt like he needed to let loose. He got really bad and could barely walk or form a sentence so the bartender cut him off. In a lapse of judgment, I took him back to my place and we were intimate. We both instantly regretted it and kinda split ways. Since then, my husband and I have gotten back together and his brother was meant to be coming to visit but cancelled after a guilty confession. He and my husband have stopped talking to each other and my husband has even apologized to me saying that his brother took advantage, when in reality I was borderline sober and let him get stupid drunk so if anything I took advantage. Still, I feel bad that my BIL is getting all the heat from the family but at the same time my relationship is in a good place.  I dont know if I should come clean or leave things as they are since the family has already been at odds with him and were quick to blame him. Idt me admitting fault would help anything at this point and would just make things worst but I do still feel bad. Idk what to do

I am a guy in high school. My step mom Lisa is just 5 years older than I am. Dad married a much younger woman. She is also VERY beautiful and has a great figure. I guess dad just likes beautiful young women. Lisa is a great step mom and I really like her. She will sometimes tell me "I am going skinny dipping in the pool". "Don't watch me out the window". Every guy reading this knows what I did when she does this. Something will come up and I have to take care of it. Does this make me a terrible son?

When I was 14, one month we got a high water bill and my father gathered my sister my mother and me in the living room and he starter to yell at us that we are using too much water and that he must take some measures. He told my mother that she will do the dishes only with cold water and he told my sister that she will use lesser water for brushing her teeth. Then he yelled at me that I am taking showers too long and that he will control a water flow when I take a shower. Tomorrow morning a I got up and I went to a bathroom to take a shower, but my dad entered with me and he told me that I have 30 seconds to wet myself then after putting a soap on I have one minute to wash myself. I removed my clothes and I entered the shower and he used a stopwatch and ordered me to start and stop. When I washed myself he told me that I have adittional 30 seconds time to wash my privates. When I did that he told me to wipe myself and to get dressed. This was his type of punishment and control and it went on for a year until a water bill returned to normal.

Can I go to the beach with my cousin if we both use sunscreen?

My whole life my life my father has been verbally abusive and I always had a desire to be like better than him. For example, I started a small business behind his back because I knew if I told him along the way he would want to copy me. I also got my BA and than invited him to my graduation. He got mad because he also wanted one. I don't want him to succeed is this bad? He bullied me.

Our community orchestra was previously part of a sponsorship for 75 years. Over the years, that sponsorship deteriorated and we had to leave to be part of our town and their activities. However, it has been difficult communicating properly with them. We often get no response and are left in the dark on the simplest things, such as start and end time for events. We go to performances and it is chaos because of their non-communication. The orchestra is small (15 members) and we were hoping (per their initial word) that they would reach out to the Town residents/students for help. That has not happened, nor have any of their other promises. We have been there for 2 years now. Should we leave and find a different sponsorship. Or, should we stick it out and hope it gets better?

My Mom and her sister were estranged and still dislike one another but in that case they just avoided each other at all costs, I don't want to go to that extreme. My Dad enabled it. I kind of learned from my parents that family estrangement is a right of passage. My sister bullies people which is why we are estranged.

I guess distance is what made his heart grow for my brother. He sees me more frequently and so he does not like me as much. He also lies to me a lot. David B: I never, ever confront him about this. That is why it hurts so much. My flaw is I am too nice sometimes in trying to please.

Hi so I jus had a baby 5 months ago and his father hasn't really been around because he doesn't have a vehicle or job and he stay in a small town with lack of jobs and now we are living 2 hours away right now but soon we'll get an apartment he just waiting for me to get it first then he would move up here and over this past weekend I took my baby to see him 2 hours away and my mom went crazy and started yelling at me and telling me how dumb I am for letting him see our child when he hasn't been much of a father to him and hasn't contributed to him in any kind of way and I just don't want my son to not see his father even though I know he's a crappy father and bf honestly I don't know what to do this is my first kid any advice? And out of all honesty most of the time I don't want to stay together because everytime I'm with him and visit for not even 3 days everything has to go his way he never just spend time with me and our child he has to always call a friend and everytime I come around he's either putting his phone face down or taking it to the bathroom with him all the time and he's always disrespecting me online with an ex or other girls and I'm honestly just tired and he belittles me everytime I say something about it and I've been dealing with this since before I got pregnant and I'm honestly just tired..that's all I can say,

Is there a way to calm people who are to high strong and fat? Like exercise? Or is that not possible.? Edit Is it ok to want space from them?  Like when I'm relaxed or just woke up I can't deal with high strung people anymore Is there a way to force a person to exercise? Or be calm?

 Is she a  narcissist? She does everything to try to hurt me. She calls me a black baby breeding *****, Despite her googling how to get pregnant at the age of 43. She went to jail for knocking my tooth out of my mouth when I was eight. She told me that she hated my guts and wished that I was dead when I was six. She told me that she wish she had of aborted me or dumped me in a dumpster when I was born.  She constantly tells lies on me and stalks me and harasses my friends. She cursed my grandmother out through text acting like it was me.  She tells me that my sister is better than me and is way more further in life than me.

I think it's pretty crappy for a couple to deny their kid a sibling unless there's a medical reason or infertility What do you think

My mom and dad got divorced when I was like 2 and after that, she got married to my stepdad. He turned out to be an alcoholic and abusive. Since then he drinks not as much but still does it. He has become more verbally and physically abusive when he started to drink less, and now he has cheated on my mom like 5 times and he always makes her believe that if he leaves her that we won't be able to make it. And one time I tried to tell my mom and she asked him and then he came up to me and threatened me that I need to stop lying and if I don't then I won't like what happens next. I am tired of him controlling my mom and my family and I just want him to be out of my life. 

I have a very close family, and she doesn't, her family have abandoned her and she doesn't see much of her dad because his wife doesn't like him seeing her. She only really sees her mum and her cousin. Anyway, as I was saying I'm close to all my family and have quite a big family, but every time I go and see them and ask if she wants to come she always says no, or she just happens to be "busy" on that day. She never comes to parties or events and I understand she has anxiety and doesn't like parties and I'm ok with that, but we've been together for a year now and don't understand why she won't come and see my family with me. She won't tell me why. She has met them and gone round a few times but that's not a lot considering how long we've been together.  I want her to get on well with my family. I've been to her mums a few times.  Any advice? Can anyone think of a reason ? 

I know it's disrespectful but I feel I've had to take care of her so many times when she was drunk that I felt I had to parent her. I'm a teenager and I know others have been through worse I'm trying to fix this but how do I do that

A little context: I currently live with my boyfriend and our 8month old daughter. My boyfriend works nights 6pm to 4:30 am I barely get to sleep at 1am due to chores and our baby. When he gets home I am asleep and very tired so when he tries to wake me up for sex I turn him done bc I constantly wake up at night to feed our daughter and have to wake up in about an hour so I'm trying to get as much sleep as I can. Lately he's been working 6hr days and we don't get a chance to have sex. He's been very angry and resentful towards me. I try to help him every way I can. Making his food doing all the chores in the house and taking care of our daughter. I give him money all the time and try to have sex with him when ever we get the chance. But we can only do so when our baby is asleep. Well today we were at target and he pulled into the parking behind the store and asked me if I would do anything for him. I said of course and he said to have sex with him in the behind target. Mind you it was broad daylight and I didn't feel comfortable doing that. I told him I was uncomfortable having sex in public and he lashed out on me and told me I never do anything for him and hesdone. I tried to tell him we could when we get home since his mom was babysitting and hetold me no and to not talk to him. He always makes me feel like I'm not doing enough. I always give him any money I get even tho I am not working and I try to please him whenever we get the chance. I am just tired of feelinglike this

Last time I saw my in laws his father talked to me in a way I wont do to anyone before his brother/sisterinlaw/andmother about something that wasnt my fault at all. My spouse stand next to me and said No **** to his father. I mean I can expect at least a 'dad it wasn't her fault' Am I wrong??

Its sort of annoying, I have this sister who always acts like she is always right and is going to get something even though she can't. Its even sad how our whole family has to pretend that she is lucky, smart, and clever when she knows that I gave her the suggestions to begin with. Its beginning to get annoying and I don't know how to tell her that she needs to stop being such an alcoholic. Everyone in the house is supposedly annoyed by this. I don't even know why they just don't tell her to pay more bills since she is so irresponsible.