My son is ten and his father went to prison three years ago. He has always had contact through letters and phone calls but about six months ago he asked to see his dad in prison. His dad won't be out for another four years. I told him then it wasn't a good time. He asked again last week and got the same response. Now he has mentioned it to my mother, and my mother thinks it may be time, before he shows resentment. I just don't think a prison is a place for children.

My Dad was physically, emotionally and possibly sexually abusive to my other siblings. I haven't talked to him in over 2 years. My brother recently reconnected with my dad, and I'm not going to lie for some weird reason i kind of miss him too. I want to reach out but also don't. I'm in emotional limbo any suggestions? 

She's really fat, unmotivated always in my way. I can't let my guard down and have me time. It's very awkward doing my routine around her. I like being g naked when I'm at home, exercise, or hang around. My dogs are very restless. I dont feel comfortable watching even my favorite tv shows, or working out. She eats more than I do. Doesnt clean her room full of roaches and piles of stuff. I feel like I wish I could pack and leave. Plus she's old. I got no friends. I have no life. I feel like a prisoner and stuck here.

We had a falling out since O moved out for good. She was very abusive, controlling and mean to me a lot and it weakened me as a man.  Last time I decided to call after not speaking for 8 months this and she started pushing my buttons and saying nasty things. Its effected my job, relationship, and well being and stress  So I yelled at her a lot and it was just back and forth. So lately it's been these awkward fake texts hi and what you ate for lunch etc. Now she said she wishes she could have been a better mom and sorry. How does that help me now?? I hate my life. I hate my job. I hate this town I moved to desperate to get away from her. But I'm free to be myself. So should I reply giving a lecture on how life is about choices? Or ignore? I feel torn up if I ignore her now. This toxic parents book only helped so much and I was better off blocking her number I wonder? Now she's got me hating my life because it's not up to her standards.  Should I reply saying a few things?  She gets clingy too. And texts like I'm a bf. I really dont want to get into details on her abuse but it was physical and emotional.blaming me for being born and ruining her life a lot it was toxic. Or how that's not how she raised me to think different

So this chick lost custody of her kids and the dad has full custody, he doesn't want the kids so he told her he will let her see kids if she sleeps with him. She can't try for rights back for another year. Is there anything she can do. Ottertail county Minnesota

I need help. My mother is very sweet but when she comes to visit us she smothers everybody. I live out here in the same city as my sis..but we all get annoyed and I feel bad for saying that....but when she comes to visit she wants to stay for a month...a few days okay but a whole month every time you come!! it's hard on all of us because we have our own lives!! But she feels this sense of entitlement like we should accept that she wants to be here and telling her no makes us feel guilty because she will act like oh so you don't want me here and it's not like that..I lose my bed because I live in a one bedroom so I'm stuck on the couch..and I feel like you have a home that no one takes your comfort from you so why do you feel the need to do that to me...she leaves the bedroom door open so I feel like I have no privacy... I just want suggestions on how to approach her with this..is like she is here but all I want to do is leave and not be around because I feel suffocated..she watches every move I make, criticizes almost everything...as soon as I wake up she pops out like I'm here let's just start talking..no give me a moment to breath..I know I'm venting but I swear I'm losing my mind..literally how do you tell your mom to stop without hurting her feelings? 

I am divorced and remarried. My new husband seems to be very insecure. When I ask him to do some task, after he has done it, he asked how he compared doing it to my ex husband Bill doing it. Not wanting to hurt his feelings or his ego, I always tell him he did it better than Bill. Most of the time this is not true. Bill was very good at a lot of things. My current husband has not met Bill and probably will not but they have mutual friends so he might find out sometime that what I have been telling him about his abilities as compared to Bill's is not true. Should I just start telling him the truth or just say I do not want to discuss my ex husband? I don't like to compare him to my ex husband. He has a lot of good qualities that Bill did not have and he should not be wanting me to compare him with my ex. I would like to forget about my ex husband and not think about him again. I NEVER mention my ex to my current husband. It is him that brings it up. Do you think he will ever get over this insecurity?

My husband's son, Joe wants to join the Boy Scouts like most of his friends. My husband will not let him join because the scout master is my ex husband. I am on friendly terms with my ex husband but I rarely see him or communicate with him. This does not seem fair to me. Joe ask me to talk to his dad and explain that there is not a problem with him joining the Boy Scouts. Do you think I should get involved in this or since Joe is my husband's son, he gets to make the decision without any input from me?

My question is if this is unnecessary to carry it on this many years later. My Mom is mad at her aunt cause her aunt's mother was mean to my grandfather, her son. My mother has to be loyal to her father and thus does not want a relationship with the cousin who is a granddaughter of the enemy. All this seems silly to me. Is it silly? Is my Mom in the wrong here?

My brother is working on taking over my dads gutter hanging business. My brother was gonna go to party in a large city several hours away soon. He told my dad about it a couple weeks ago, and my dad seemed fine with it. My brother reminded him, and my dad told him that it wouldnt be a good idea because they are real busy right now, and it's only my brother and 61 year old dad with back issues. My brother called me to ask my opinion of who's rightm I was kind of taking my brothers sides and said its ridiculous that my dad is now saying that he cant go on his trip. But after I thought about it for a while, I texted my brother back, and I said "I know this is the last thing you want to hear, if your going to be running a business, than you have to be willing to make sacrifices, like canceling something you were really looking forward to, but if your really not going to be enjoying like because of that, than maybe you should rethink your career path" I have no experience running a business, but I thought that seemed like a rational thing to tell him.

My daughter told me she was going to have a minor surgical procedure and the doctor had told her she had to have someone stay with her for 48 hours until she was able to care for herself. I ask her who was going to stay with her and being the practical person she is she had ask her ex husband Tom to do it. He works in the medical field and is a very caring person. I guess I should not have been surprised as they had a friendly divorce. I also remained friends with Tom after the divorce. She had the procedure, Tom took very good care of her and she had a full recovery. That was 2 years ago. I found out that I also needed a minor medical procedure that would require someone to be with me for 24 hours before I could take care of myself. I told my daughter that I was going to ask Tom to help me. I knew he would take great care of me. She does not want me to ask him. She said she does not want a single guy spending the night with her mother. I reminded her that even if I wanted to so something with Tom, WHICH I DON'T, I would not be able to do anything with him because of the surgery. She is worried that people will think I am will become a cougar. I plan to ask him anyway. People can think anything they want to. Does her attitude seem like a double standard to you?

I've tried to get close but failed, I failed everything in life.

I especially noticed this when I told her my job (where I work Monday thru Friday from 9 to 5) was relocating.  Since I will be working further downtown and will have a longer commute, my mom advises me that some companies give employees who I have to travel further, the option to work three days a week (more hours per day) so that it will still be full time.  About six months later when my job relocated, my new commute was fortunately not that bad.  I don't even have to wake up earlier than usual.  When I told my mom the good news about the advice she gave me, she said, "I never told you that!  Why would I say that?!"  What especially hurt me about this, was that my mom gave me good advice, but regarded it as something ignorant that she would never say.  You would think I told her, "Mom, remember when you told me there were aliens from outer space coming for us?"  THAT is something utterly ridiculous.  But she told me something factual — that employers give three-day work weeks to employees with long commutes.  Why did she get all defensive as if that's an ignorant statement?  Is it because dementia also includes symptoms of getting mad for no reason?  For her to forget that she said that is possibly common at her age, but for her to deny it like I accused her something incriminating, worries me.  Please help.

She beats me,then  ignores me.She treats my siblings like queens but me.When one of my sibling beat me and I had bruised arms she spent the night with my sister saying she was stressed and needed support I spent the night crying in pain.

I'm 16 I live in Kentucky . My grandpa has always wanted me to live with him . Since I was a baby. My mom passed away recently, I was already depressed but this made it worse. I'm a good kid I mask everything. I make good grades and I work. My dad married this girl with 6 kids and she has been my step mom for awhile we've never gotten along . She treats her kids better than me and different and expects my dad to do whatever she says . Anything she says goes . My dad knows I'm depressed now and know I'm not happy here . He knows she treats me differently but does nothing. I'm tired of walking on eggshells . My grandpa lives in California I'd rather live with him but when I asked my dad he told me no . I know it's his choice but is there something I could say to change his mind? If this doesn't work out I'm gonna end up running away  

When I talk with my mom my brother barges in and interrupts our conversation When watching my own show that I allow watching it only with my mom around to bond and hang out my brother barges in on it and fussed and whines because I'm watching it without him because he got hooked on the show  My brother takes all my moms attention  When he is around my mom doesn't pay attention to me much and almost doesn't hear me My little brother get what he wants when he fusses or whines or cries He gets all my moms support and gets her on his side when we are in an argument  She defends him and never me She thinks his behavior is okay because she doesn't recognize it One time he got upset when we were playing a video game cause I took the healing item and I walked away cause I was done with his bull shirt because he doesn't listen to logic or reason. He kept saying how he has less health but we had around same health in the game and he said nooo look at your health. I kept telling him my health was like that because I had taken the healing item but before I took it out health was almost the same but he didn't seem to understand let me remind you he is 12. And he started crying because I wouldn't play the video game with him thinking I would play if he cried. I feel like I hate him but I'm really not sure if I'm just annoyed or hate him 

I am 17 years old and I live in a small town and my parents are divorced they have been divorced since I was 2 years old I am also a boy I am a single child. My Dad has always been a grumpy person he is 57 years old and he will flip out on everything in sight he will yell and degrade everyone he has ever met off the top of his lungs...for hours straight.He is always telling me once I am 18 I am going to be homeless (he says that everyday since I was about 5 years old) and the thing about that is I have saved all my money working a part time job,I have a bank account and I am on honor roll at my school it really offends me.He will curse me out and belittle me for many hours he will even follow me around the house yelling non-stop even no matter if I am in my room or using the bathroom he wont stop yelling.I have ADHD, Aspergers,Ocd,Ptsd,and I have bipolar disorder.My Dad will try to tell me my Mom is not my Mom and that her parents (my Grandma and Grandpa) should of never existed.My Dad has never layed hands on me but I do know (from people in town...I live in a very small rural town everything gets around by word)that my Dad used to get into huge fights when he was in high school he even got arrested for hurting two kids at once so badly in a fight he has the original police report he gets into arguments with others too easily my Cousin does not even let my Dad on their property and their kids over his temper.I get joint pains and fatigued whenever he starts in.I need help

My dad is a hypocrite. He'll always tell me that I don't know what he's thinking all the while telling me what I'm thinking, he'll put down others just to make it known that he has the moral high ground, and he'll say that the people these days are "too sensitive" while literally ALWAYS portraying himself as a victim. He watches so much freaking Ben Shapiro unironically that he tries and fails to mimic him, he pretends to know everything about politics and the government when literally all he can say is "affirmative action" and repeat whatever he's heard off of the Daily Wire and NPR, and has this v pugnacious and arrogant way of "debating" or just conversing in general in which he is always trying to "win" something to satisfy his ego instead of actually engaging in a productive discussion. I'm really stupid because I was raised by this self-conceited, disconnected asshat, so how do I take his inflated ego down a peg? Also he's one of those people that unironically call themselves an "intelligent atheist." I'm agnostic, too, but like come on

My father keeps getting angry whenever something goes a little wrong. Then he was start complaining and shouting bad words. His anger isn't at us, he just has a few bumps along the way, yet he has to go and make such a fuss over it. The only time it does put us in danger is when we're in the car and he's behind the wheel, he always speeds up and puts us in danger of crashing. Please help me find a way to get him to stop or one of these days, he could a danger to everyone, even himself.

He knows I hate opera, so he'll play it loudly and laugh. He knows I hate road trips, so every Sunday, he makes me go. And he's made me done the slightest ridiculous things, like making our family walk in a blizzard, ride a convertible when it's 60 degrees only, and yells at me if I say anything negative about Trump. How do I get him to stop acting childish near me. I'm OK with his personality, but god it's annoying.

I'm just wondering because my dad mocks me when I cry & I personally think it's messed up, it just makes me cry more. Is this okay?

I'm 24 and I have 4 months to 25. I've had some fun times but not nearly enough for someone my age. I live with my nephew and dad (brother lost custody and my dad isnt the blood grandfather) and they dont get along and they constantly argue and ***** at each other and complain about each other to me EVERY DAY. I dont even want to come home but I'm pretty sure I have depression because I'm always tired. I dont make enough money to move out even though I work full time. I feel like I havent enjoyed my youth to the fullest so far and I dont want to waste what time I have left. But I'm in a rut and it's like I dont know myself. I have no idea what I want or what I want to do or who I want to do things with. I seriously cant even ask myself a question and answer it because I DONT KNOW. 

My aunt wants to take me on a vacation, and my cousins are really hyping for me to come, I'd be out of state for the day, and sleeping in a different state just doesn't seem like a comfortable place. I've never been too far from my mom, and truthfully, never spent an entire day without her. I like being in the comfort of my own home sleeping, and I have difficulties getting to bed already. They've hyped it a ton, and I really, really, really don't wanna sleep in a cabin, away from my mom. What do I do? I don't wanna go, but the hype is huge.

So i adapted my son 18 years ago and I think its time to tell him but i dont know how to so So I adopted him 18 years ago and I have no clue how to tell him, can I get help?