I am a 25 year old female. At first my decision to stay a virgin was purely based on religion and the fear that my father pounded into my head about how terrible I would feel the moment I had sex outside of marriage. How men sleep with woman only for themselves and don't respect them if they sleep around. My whole life I placed my value and self worth on my virginity. Sometimes I have dreams that I had sex before marriage and I wake up crying and feel so empty like I had made a huge mistake.  But I hate waiting! No one gets married young anymore. It's harder to expect a man to wait at this age. Is it even worth it anymore. I'm tired! This is so difficult.  ( and no I'm not a hideously ugly involuntary virgin, trust, I've had my chances)

My wife's friends are passing through town for a weekend and plan to stay at our house. My wife has previous plans that she cannot cancel but her friends want to stay any way ( free hotel) . My wife wants me to entertain them. I have told her, without question, no. She has been silent on the matter except to remind me they are coming. I remind her that I have reports due and then have other plans.   What are my odds this ends in divorce?

You can't force someone to sign any paper. It's wrong to try to force someone to sign it. You should ask only once. The divorce will still happen so it's not a big deal.

Me and my wife have been married for 2 years our anniversary is coming up this month. What should I get for her ?

We are in counseling because last year I was going to file for divorce. He is making efforts huge efforts but the old him comes back a lot. I know the counselor said it won't be easy to unlearn certain bad habits, so I give it time. Starting two weeks ago I noticed a decrease in our intimate time. I didn't Make too much of it because there is work(heavy manual job), there is him helping with the kids, there is him going to the gym everyday before work, there is also football season and everything else. We usually get intimate after the kids go to sleep. these last two weeks he was not interested, if anything he was acting like he didn't want me at all. He cheated in the past so when he acts this way that is what comes to mind. we lately found out we were pregnant again. And yesterday when I brought up the sex he made it seem like he was not interested at all. but then tried to act like he was joking when he realized I was serious. When we got intimate later on he couldn't keep an erection so we had to stop. thoughts started racing my mind. He brought up all kinds of excuses. He looked up and he thought he needed testosterone for erectile disfunction. Mind you he is only 36. Today he comes back telling me he has been researching and he might have diabetes. he says he will now go to bed early. Like 9pm. And he will start taking some pills. it felt like he was trying to mask the fact that he had sex already and he didn't expect me to engage anything with him

2 years into this marriage, I don't recognize myself anymore. Wake up, take the girl to preschool, go to work, 8 tedious hours, fetch her from preschool. Go back home then repeat next day. I am sick of this life. 

I don't mean the freedom to screw around. It's not my style. I mean the freedom to travel and explore alone. On my own. I don't need to take my wife everywhere. Do I?

I see so many women in their low to mid 20's who are looking for a relationship and possible marriage in the future dating men who lack the right characteristics for a possible good future husband. They seem to flock towards "fun guys" instead of guys who are focused on building their futures and careers and financial freedom and are extremely intelligent (Masters Degree/PhD/medical school/law/etc). They see the guy who has a cool car and likes to party and think he's boyfriend and husband material. Instead of the guy who works for Google at 25 and is studying his PhD in Computer Science and works out and stays healthy and is focused on making himself into a better person each and every day so he can be a good father and husband. A guy who is sacrificing his own personal happiness for the future of his family and financial freedom, not some guy who works at the car shop and gave up on college and never exercises, eats unhealthy, drinks, smokes, has unhealthy habits, lives in the moment, etc. I feel like younger women only date men like this.

My husband and I relocated for his job in August. I've been unable to find work and I absolutely hate it here. We now found out he's going to be on the road from October 31 - January 31 except for a week at Christmas, I knew his job would require a lot of traveling but I'm still taking it hard.  He leaves tomorrow to be out in California by Monday. (He drives trucks for a company) I'm struggling to get out of bed, take a shower and do anything. I'm going to counseling starting next week. I'm not a depressed person and its actually making me angry that I can't push myself to do things. We are very far from any family too so it's just basically me and our 3 dogs.  Any advice? I'm honestly afraid and frustrated. I've never been truly depressed before in my life. 

I know that 21 is legally an adult, and I know that maturity depends on the individual. But generally speaking, would you consider 21 a kid (in terms of maturity)? The reason why I'm asking is because I wasted my teen years and never got to be carefree and be a kid. When I graduated high school at 18, I thought that my carefree days were over and that I was old, but now looking back I see how young I was. I don't want to waste any more years. I want to be carefree before I get married, have kids, etc. Not that marriage and kids take all the fun out of life, but, when you get married and have kids you have a whole new level of responsibility. Before I get to that point, I want to enjoy being young and carefree. Am I too old to do that?

My husband was outside watering plants and decided out of the blue to wash the maid's car while she was inside..cleaning our house of course! He didn't say a word about it and then had the nerve to be annoyed at me for not recognizing what he felt was just a good deed. I don't want to be jealous but I'm just not buying the whole story about how he was watering the flowers and suddenly decided to do 30 minutes of additional work for someone we pay to clean! Should I be mad? Thoughts?

I have a friend. Reminds me of Elliot Roger. Remember that guy who thought he was so good looking and yes, he was a pretty boy but also deranged. Anyway, I have a friend like that who seems to have this thinking and he's lonely and kind of a hater. Sometimes he talks to me as a friend like shares whats on his mind... and I can see that he's very confused about why he can't get a girlfriend while other "ugly" men always seem to get the girl. Lol. Other times I can just feel the hate towards me because I am not as fit as him yet I always seem to able to attract a mate and get laid. I wonder if he's gonna shoot up a school or something sometimes.

My husband and I have been together for 8 years. We sometimes argue and he immediately begins asking for a divorce and says he doesn't want me. This can be sparked by small things that I feel normal people would not argue over or take so seriously. I dont think those arguements are worth getting divorced over.  We get along well and will go weeks without arguing until something small and pointless causes and argument. My husband never apologizes, I always have to apologize otherwise he will never end the argument.  I love him and we have a good time together exept when we argue.  We got into an argument a few days ago over a language misunderstanding and we have not spoke to each other since. I don't feel like I did something wrong but I know this will go on forever unless I apologize like usual.  I dont know what to do. Should I divorce him?  I do love him but I think this isn't how a marriage should work. I dont think a person should ask for a divorce and say mean things for small arguments. I think being divorced would be difficult for me. I dislike being alone.

We have 3 kids all under 6. Life is busy and we enjoy it. However we never get alone time and my wife doesn't ever indicate she wants to. Since having kids she is all about it if she's away and kid free. But that is rare. Now with 3 it might be impossible. How do others pull this off? Also, is it normal to not have sex almost ever when having small children? 

my wife passed away a year ago last August 20, 2018. my daughter is really close to my her mother and she loves hre so much. I wasn't a good husband and  father I admit that I cheated on my wife so many times and never acknowledged that it was wrong.  my daughter was deeply affected by me cheating on her mother since she was just a little kid she would see us fighting. now that my wife is gone I regret everything I did but I want to be happy and I want to get married again but my daughter doesn't want and she just exploded to me. i got mad at her yesterday and I think I scared her when I was banging her door and was shouting. she doesn't want to speak to me again. whats houd I do? 

My husband passed away 3/9/2014 and we had a up down marriage but i had a dream the other night that he was chesting on me and not careing that i new he was and would like come on to this girl right in front of me and not caring if it bothered me or not . just acting as if i didnt matter to him anymore and i keep just remembering how it made me feel like he didnt care that he hurt me and that they that it was funny that he was doing this right in my face and that how i could feel nothing from him for me anymore . i just cant shake this i very rarely remember my dreams like i am 39 and i think i remember a total of 20 dreams mt whole life and another thing everytime i would up to get a drink or becaues of my cats or something at least 10 different times as soom as i would go back to sleep i would start right back at where i left off when i woke up. so can I help me figure what this could me ? If he was trying to give me a message or get my attention why was it to make me feel sad and angry and hurt please help Thanks megan scott

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A man who has just bought a 3.2 million dollar home and is ceo of a large company? No wife, no ex wife , no kids