She has OCDs that make her an even more control freak. She nags quite a bit. Acts like a baby. High maintenance. We have sex once a week, if that. I know she's a good person. She's smart. She is sweet. Good family. At the same time, i'm a nice guy, work hard, money is not an issue, no kids. I have done so much. Changed a lot. I do a lot of what she wants, but there's always more issues somehow. I find myself resentful after 7 years of being together. I feel trapped, controlled and I act out by yelling loud and losing my cool. Why is this and what can be done? We have started seeing a marriage counselor but I can tell it may not help much.

My wife is excited that one of her favorite bands Montgomery Gentry are coming to one of our fairs next year she wants to go but in a way she's kind of upset because this year the lead singer Troy died in a helicopter crash she cried about him for 2 weeks after he died she hasn't even stopped listening to their CD since then. She's loved them since she was a kid she's been wanting to see them forever but she said it won't be the same without Troy. Even though she's never seen them she thinks it's sad what happened to him also he was her favorite she's not sure if she wants to go or not. It might be her only chance she and her mom have been trying to see them for years her mom loves them too. They were big for a while then they weren't now that Troy died they're back again. She wishes she could have seen him. She said when she was a kid she had a dream that if she ever saw them she was gonna give him a big hug telling him he was her favorite now that she can see them she can't do that to him. She wants to go but she's afraid it'll make her sad especially if they play her favorite song My Town she use to sing that all the time when she was little she said that's her song. She loves country music she said it's sad when a country singer dies also if she goes to see them it's gonna be to the week before the 1 year anniversary of his death. How can I help her feel better ?

I am 27 and my husband is 36. We both want kids. I am going back to school to get a better job, and its going to take at least 4 years, and i want to get through school before having kids. However by then my husband will be at least 40. So by the time the kid is 18 he will be 58. Anyone with experiance or knows anyone with experiance that can give adive with this?

He is 12 years older than me and 13 years younger than my dad. He is the best husband in the world! He loves me very much. He is always very kind and helpful to me. I had a crush on him when I saw for the first time. He also liked me. When we got married, I was 19, and he was 31. I was a virgin until I married him. The sex is out of this world. I am very happy with him. We have been married for ten years now. We have five kids, 3 boys and 2 girls. He is a wonderful father! People often find it weird that he is my dad's best friend!

My now husband is very angry that my son wants to talk to his dad and feels he shouldn't have the privilege. I see it otherwise. I had this child before my husband and my son does want to talk to him. Help: am I wrong for letting him form a relationship with his real dad?

He told me that he just got off from work, and went to a bar, to have a beer, and they put the tv, and they had the 5 o clock news on, and they were reporting a mass shooting, and all my husband said outloud, hes thinks the guy who did it was ex military, and some of the guys in there beat him up. this happened about 4 hours ago

I got a job as a financial consultant 6 months ago. I used to work in the finance depart of a manufacturing firm. My salary now is higher, but I also work a good 10-12 hours per week more than I used to. My wife works as a pre-school teacher. Needless to say, I am the main breadwinner. We are expecting a baby in March, so my wife will be a SAHM. There is a complication... I have been slacking on working out over the past 5 years, and as I've gotten into my 30s, I'm not as in shape as I used to be. I want my body back. So I will need to be spending more time at the gym. I will also need to get weekly massages due to the added stress I'm going through. Additionally, I would like to take a trip each year with the guys....just 1 week each year. My new job requires frequent travel, so I will be gone at least 1 week every month. During the weeks I'm not traveling, I will need to go to the gym every day, and even on some days that I am traveling. This means I won't be home until 9 or 10 PM on many days of the week, except on Fridays. I am going to need my wife to really step it up. She has expressed ire toward my new schedule, even though she has benefited greatly from the added income. I get that being a SAHM is the hardest job in the world, but she has help from her parents and sister, and keep in mind she would never have the comforts she has if she weren't married to me. Ergo there has to be some reciprocity on her end. How do I motivate her to be helpful?

Find a better man? SURE. She smells like crap.

Long story short, I found out he was after her for about a year (she finally gave him a chance after a year)and she knew nothing about me because he did not tell her. They spoke for a couple of weeks until she grew suspicious and he finally told her the truth. He didn't want her to know and didn't want to let her go (I saw the texts going around her questions and he told her if she needed anything to let him know.) He told her that if he was single, he would be with her. She didn't want to talk to him anymore & they haven't. He told me that she didn't mean anything to him and that if he really wanted her he would have been with her & easily left me (i.e. no kids, no nothing). That he only did it for attention and loved me. Flash forward a couple of months, she's now training at one of his boss' offices. My friend who works with him said that when he first saw her he froze, his eyes grew big, and he would not keep his eyes off her. She said he then got moody and never talked to her. He ignored her and she didn't attempt to talk to him. I admit she's pretty, but that's not reason enough for any man to like/want her or cheat with [again]. I don't know. Should I be worried that he still likes her based on his reaction when he saw her? Anon: Thank you for your answer. My friend was right that he just kept staring. She may not be interested in him, but what if they start working together, start talking, know each other more, dormant feelings arise and she cracks? She admitted to him that she did have feelings for him, but that she didn't want to talk to him knowing he lied to her. That's why I say that she may crack cuz she was into him.

me and my husband will be married for 7 years this january and have kids and i have never cheated on him and neither has he. we hardly ever fight and if we do its stupid things. it alll started one sunday morning when we woke up from going to a party saturday night. i got all dolled up and everyone would mention how beautiful i loooked but not my husband and no i dont need thim to mention to me everyday but helloooo i never look like that im always bared face with a basic mom look tshirt pant tennis shoes and a bun. i told him that sunday morning that i was kind of upset because i got ready and he didnt even notice me. he doesn't notice when i get ready for him and look good all he says" your going to start again" and he leaves the room and calls that arguing when im trying to simply tell him i dont feel cared for. he tells me i look beautiful when he wants something other than that its never heard... he had mentioned its better to be with a whore than argue all the time but why??? any advice please?? i have never been the same. he says he loves me but why would he say such a thing. i question myself is a whore better than me?? does he want me to be like that type of gal?? does he want to be with someone else?? is he tired of me?? Am i not good enough for him?? i thought i was his whore when wed make love. All these thoughts have been running in my head. i heard him mention this to my sister one morning after me and him argued. he says it wasn't pertaining to me that he was just saying in general like giving advice to my sister about boyfriends etc well what a damm coincidence because it was after he left the room when i was trying to tell him how i felt . he doesnt understand he hurt me i dont know why it affected me so much never has he said such a thing to me but i heard him say that comment out loud and it killed me. especially beacause other thoughts are running in my head like why he would never have sex with me when pregnant and use the excuse of being tired yet he would masturbate to porn. such a comment messed my self esteem up im not that secure woman as i used to be. and i feel like i have a good body being 5 feet 5 inches and weighing 120 even when pregnant i have always been an atractve woman now in my mid twenties. im confused should i forgive him because this is haunting me and bringing old issues into my thoughts and i feel like leaving him. he does not say sorry to me. if he does its not directly its more like well sorry you heard that but it wasnt your converstation. ADVICE PLEASE.

My last relationship was with a Mexican woman. I got sick of the American dating scene. I'm in my 30s work as a mechanical engineer and live in suburbia (since that's where all the engineering jobs are located in the US thanks to oppressive tax policies that drive factories from urban areas). Should I relocate overseas to a cool city where I can find a hot wife and finally have the more creative lifestyle I've always wanted?

my father-in-law passed away suddenly 3 years ago. my wife & i invited her mom to live with us to help her cope. we never thought this would be a permanent situation. she is young, and should be on her own. my wife & i have 2 small children and the family dynamic is very stressed. mom-in-law does not clean, cook, shop, anything. but she expects dinner every night, breakfast on weekends, etc. she often complains when the dishes are not done, yet wont lift a finger to do them. she only rinses off the dinnerware SHE uses. me wife, wants to talk to her & basically ask her to 'go get her own apartment' but does not know how. any ideas?

She has sent me pictures of her kids via text message, Talked about me buying them Christmas presents (in a joking way) and talked about me babysitting them. Is it just me or is that weird? What is she getting at? A long time ago, she said that she will marry me if she gets divorced.

My husband and I live in a bigger city and my work is just 500m away. My family lives like an hour away by car and most off my friends are close by. For my husband it's a bit different. He recently changed jobs and works as a consultant. He is a mechanical engineer. Right now he has an assignment almost 2 hours away. So with traffic he commutes almost 4 hours. He says he won't be able to do it for much longer because he feels like he gets home, eats and goes to bed. His job can offer him other assignments and he wants to take an assignment that is in another city and commute weekly. He wants us to move to this city in the future so he would go there to see what it's like. It would halfway between our families and if we have children it would be easier living close to his parents. And it is a lot cheaper there than it is here. But for me it's not just about moving. I grew up here, have my family here, my friends, my job, everything I know is here. Moving, even if it is just 2 hours away is a big deal for me. I feel like he doesn't understand that. I understand perfectly well why he wants to move. But he acts like it's nothing. Would you move away from everything? How do you do it and how would you reason in this issue?

My wife and I have been married since my son was 2. He's 7 now and I have primary custody. My wife took son to his annual appointment bc she was taking our 2-year-old daughter (son's half sister) to her annual appt too. Their birthdays are in the same month. My ex was aware of son's appointment time/date/place and did not show up. She is threatening court bc I mentioned that my wife took him when I gave her an update on how the appointment went. I've previously signed permission forms for wife to take him to doctor and my wife carries 7 year old son on her medical insurance (which my ex agreed to in court; ex no longer has to pay for coverage). My wife has taken him to doc appts before, but ex is angry now because she thought I was taking him. Ex mentioned concerns about private areas with him getting older. My wife changed son's diapers when he was a baby. And she sometimes shuts the water off in the shower for him still when he asks for help. This is all very weird that ex is so upset. I think she's creating drama because she and her boyfriend split. I can't change the circumstances, but I can make sure I am not doing something wrong. Is my wife taking son to the doc illegal/something I can get in trouble for in court? It doesn't say anything in our order about dr appointments. It does say both parents (since we are joint legal custody) need to work together on major decisions, including health needs, religious upbringing, schooling choices, etc. I wouldn't classify annual appointments in that category. It was my parenting time, so I didn't think I was doing anything wrong.

At the time, our marriage was failing and I had asked My husband to go to counseling numerous times. He told me he rather get divorced than see a counselor. After a while, I made the mistake of making a connection with an old friend and ended up getting pregnant in a matter of weeks, even though I was on birth control. My husband and I were going to get divorced, I was positive it was over and decided to keep the baby...fast forward 7 months and my husband tells me he's willing to do anything to fix our marriage. I am now 2 weeks from my due date and he has moved out, but still wants to fix things and has no idea I am pregnant. We started the divorce process but he has told me over and over again he doesn't want it and is only doing it because he feels like he has to. The guilt is eating me alive, I cry every day and honestly miss my husband and want to fix things but I know if he knew he would never forgive me. He does know I was seeing someone but doesn't know of the baby, and has said he could forgive me for that. I worry if I tell him about the baby he will lash out and I will lose my home and security I have for my child, but losing him and divorcing someone that I really don't want to is killing me emotionally. The baby's father wants to be with me and wants to be a part of the baby's life... I have been conflicted for months and still am, and I am running out of time. Please, no judgement posts, I already know I messed up.

We aren't married yet but I will force him into it. We fight nonstop. He says he works three jobs,does romantic things for me, takes care of the kids and tries to clean the house, but I think he is lazy and doesn't try hard enough to please me. He actually cried when I said that. He also me wants to bond with his kids but it is hard because they act like normal kids not geniuses like the tiger parenting kids.Everything they do bugs me. So I tried to bond with his kids by making homemade Christmas cards at the mall with other mothers, but their Christmas cards they made themselves looked like ****. I ended up screaming , because I have ocd and everything has to be perfect. So I started grabbing their arm and trying to force them to color the way I wanted them to draw and they started crying. And I got kicked out of the class and all of the mothers came to kids rescue.And now everyone is very mad at me again. Everyone esp the slow redneck uncle and the grandma has fun with these kids and says all she has to do is give them the look and they behave. I have to make this work, because I have been married and divorced twice and this is my last chance. I demanded the kids draw me a picture and they me a bag of coal in the picture and laughed the whole time. I am so insulted. My day is so ruined. He said he needs to sleep because he fell asleep driving the car the other day, But who is gonna wait on me when he is sleeping. He is really mad because I demanded the kids eat burgers with everything on it when they wanted plain. I purposely put extra extra ketchup on it because that is how I want them to eat it. They must obey me.Because the kids shouldn't be allowed to decide what they want and I got kicked out of mcdonalds because I was acting hysterical. How am I tormenting the kids? They torment me by not scraping and bowing to my every whim and not performing to my high standards.

My wife lost her gob on hopes of getting another but that didn t happen so she s on the job hunt. I have the ability to work 40 to 60 hours a week I know she misses me but we have 2 kids and bills and responsibility do I stop working so much to spend time with her?

Should I tell my husband?

I run myself ragged, stay up til 4am just trying to keep up with the basics like dishes, laundry, cooking (I make big freezer batches to save time later). We have a 1 year old. I want more kids. Husband doubts we should because house is always a mess, and we're always exhausted. He says if I can do more housework it will ease his concerns, but I'm already doing my absolute best, so I'm concerned I should leave him for someone who not only wants more kids but also is willing to do the work it takes to have more kids instead of expecting me to do the impossible. He gets his sleep and relaxing time, even when I take a break I'm mostly googling how to do better, like right now lol, at 2am, when I still have more things to do before bed, hoping to god baby doesn't wake up and waste my night soothing him again. Part of me knows most moms are in the same boat, but hubby has a way of making me feel like, no, it's just me, and I suck at this.

no, trophy wives don't have to be successful in career as they don't need to work

I have 2 kids from my husband I have been married for 4 years my in laws and husband are so abusive to me .he hits me and than he says sorry than he hits me it happens all the time I am tired now I WANa go for divorce but I am scared if he takes my kids from me I really love my kids I can't live without them he earns better and I don't work. If I go for divorce he is gona take coustady and I can't leave my kids to him he loves them too but he is gona leave them to my in laws they are so abusive I don't know what to do?

For my birthday I got a present from my ex wife who I am still friends with. It was a box of 12 condoms. A note with the present said "Do these still work"? "Come by some time and lets find out"? "If I am not there, start with out me". Do you think she would appreciate a little humor in my thank you note. It might say "Thanks for a one day supply" or "can you return them for extra, extra large size"