Family: Question: My uncle is in his 40's but can't count. Is this common for some adults?

Question: My uncle is in his 40's but can't count. Is this common for some adults?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 01:42 PM PST

Like he referred to an event as July as "last month". He is not disabled or anything and even went to UNC for college.

Question: How do I get over my anxiety between now and Christmas and enjoy the weekend?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 01:40 PM PST

In childhood Christmas was a bad time of year. My mother shut us out from seeing our father and our father failed to fight for the right to see us. It was a classic case of parental alienation. As an adult I have moved on except at Christmas. At Christmas now that my Dad has died it is 50-50 that I see any of his family. This year I likely will not be as the only sibling in town has cancer. When I am with my Mom and her family I feel that void from having no Dad as a kid. I reconnected with him as a teenager but the memory of that void is so raw and especially at Christmas cause that is when it hurt the most as a kid and when my mother pushed the most hatred towards him onto us kids. So how do I get over my anxiety this weekend and just enjoy the weekend? The anxiety is knowing that the void is going to be there Monday and for a few weeks after Christmas.

Question: Is it weird that I rather hang out with my sister than my friends?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 01:39 PM PST

Question: My sister is mean. How do I rationalize with her so we don't have a fight at Christmas?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 01:37 PM PST

She is 23 but 9 in her maturity level.

Question: How do i control my insane sister!!?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 12:19 PM PST

My sister is 13 currently and this year 2017 she has been out of control. She's been caught with marijuana 3 times (once at school). has attendance issues, verbally abusive, threatens to kill herself, has been suspended multiple times and hits her own mother. I don't know what to do I've tried to help my parents out and talk to and contain my sister but she just wont listen. What can i do to bring her back to reality... this isn't just a phase it's more serious. Also to add my parents are not abusive at all they have showed me and my 2 sister nothing but love, they have sent my sister to counseling for 4 months a while back but that hasn't done much. I will go to the extremes if i have to whether it's calling the cops on her or kicking her out.

Question: Is my brother being petty?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 12:13 PM PST

A little background. So my brother is 9 years older than me and has two kids with his wife. He uses my family to no end and we help him and his family as much as we can, we babysit (they have 2 under 2) help around the house painting, remodeling, digging ditches, etc. you name it and we have helped him do it. Meanwhile if we need help with anything at all, he dodges the request at all costs. He won't do anything with our family and will do anything for his wife's at the drop of a hat. We went on a family camping trip this summer and they couldn't go longer than one night because she didn't have any vacation days to spare, yet I was helping them paint and she used a vacation day to takes the kids to the park. Oh and her family goes on vacations all the time, but they can't manage to go on one for longer than a day with ours. I could go on and on, but my original point was that he's throwing a huge fit over the fact that not all of my family can make it to my nieces first birthday party tomorrow. Her birthday is on the 23rd of December and my family was just going to celebrate aall of my siblings, my mother's, and my nieces birthday at my parents house tomorrow so we didn't have to drive two hours have the party and then drive two hours home and be miserable cooking for Christmas Eve. He is so mad that he cancelled the entire party for her since we couldn't make it. Am I just mad or is he really petty and one whipped by his wife?

Question: My mother is mentally sound but she likes to pull on my blackheads and squeeze till they burst. Is this healthy to do?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 12:10 PM PST

She is not mentally ill or anything but she has this obsession with popping blackheads. I can never see if she is squeezing them or scratching at them or both. I put in my will that she can drain my blackheads when I die before they do the funeral. So my question is if this is healthy or does it make the blackheads worse? It hurts sometimes. My brother is mentally ill but my mother is not. Yet I have never heard of this obsession before.

Question: I love him but he is pushing me too far.?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 11:57 AM PST

I don't know what to do. My husband and I live with his grandparents and honestly, I am fed up with the way I am treated by his whole family. First, I have to cook my own meals for myself and my little sister, (I have custody of her and her younger brother) because we are both gluten intolerant. Then when we ask them to cook something we can eat, we get treated like we are silly and we are making gluten intolerance up. On top of that nobody can understand our need for space and alone time. My fiance never defends me in any disputes either. The moment I said I wanted to move out, he told me he wasn't going to because he wanted the house when his grandparents die. I honestly could care less. I would rather not be absolutely miserable for years and years until they finally die. I already feel like an aweful person for just waiting for them to die... I just don't want to live here anymore but I don't want to break up with my fiance. I will if my sanity depends on it... And it is beginning to get there.

Question: Why does my mom hate my family?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 11:31 AM PST

she says she hates this house because everything is so stressful. my mom pisses me off so much :( also im 13

Question: Why do I always get the short-end of the stick in family fights?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 11:16 AM PST

So I have a real prick of a little brother. (I'm 16, he's 14). He likes to think that because he is athletic and I am academic, he is better than me and can boss me around. Most of the time he is okay, but always gives off that condescending aura that drives us all insane. Whenever their is an argument going on in the house, he is one of the arguers. My older brother, 18, agrees on this. My little sister used to get the worst of it. Now its me who does. Whenever we are arguing, my parents side with him. No matter what it is. Today, it was a half-day at school, so our older brother drove us all home, little brother decides he is going to arrange how the PS4 will be handled. He says that he will play during the afternoon and OB can play in evening. I said "Well screw me, I guess." This is an utter lie. But my dad always sides with him. At my mom's, SHE always takes his side. A great example is this. Our parents always say "If they hit you and you don't fight back, they will be the ones getting in trouble." So one time he shoves me and punches me. I don't do anything, then he runs and lies to mom about what happened. She grounds me, not even listening to my side of the story, and LB gets off SCOTT-*******-FREE. The next day she listens to me, but still sides with him. Today that whole PS4 thing happened. He was being an ASSHOLE, and mocking me to the point that I punch him in the arm over and over. Now I'M IN TROUBLE! WHAT THE ****! WHAT THE HELL AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?!

Question: The in-laws choose to exclude wife from a holiday event... thoughts??!!?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 10:31 AM PST

The in-laws apparently invited my husband to a Christmas Eve gathering weeks in advance; but decide to act as though I am invited ONLY AFTER I happened to hear about about it a couple days prior to the event. (They barely ever talk to me: most of the time I am ignored.) Since they have betrayed me several times in the past, I don t trust the in-laws or see them as my own personal family. However I m not upset at them, nor am I holding a grudge; I do believe in forgiveness, and I still of course aim to be polite & respectful toward them. Since I had no knowledge of any plan for Christmas Eve, I offered to invite them to our house for dinner because my husband s happiness is my first priority! I have never known these folks to be the type to plan anything more than 20 seconds in advance, but since they apparently have a plan I wouldn t want anyone to change it now: I only wanted to be polite in offering to invite them. My husband should have time with his family, and I don t really NEED to be included... maybe I just don t like being a total afterthought! Whether or not a relationship exists among people should not have any impact on showing love & compassion & mutual respect for everyone! Perhaps I m old-school, but I don t think that folks even have to like each other but can still be kind & nice ...I guess I m just tired of seeing so much self-centered-ness among the in-laws. Whatever happened to ALWAYS putting others lives & feelings before one s own?! I don t really care about going to this event, so I m honestly not that worried about this ~ But I just think it s rather weird & rude to intentionally exclude someone! Especially since as a married couple, I think of my husband & I as ONE person now: not two individuals! I can t be the only one who faces this type of odd situation from time to time ~ Thoughts...??!!

Question: So I had this bet with my brother?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 09:51 AM PST

My brother was throwing something into a trashcan, had three tries. If he got it in the trashcan (2-3 times) I would owe him 5 bucks. If he missed (2-3 times) he would owe me 5 bucks. he did three tries and missed twice, meaning he owed me. But he then said he only threw twice and missed (wouldve owed me anyway) But because i told him he would still not do another turn he called me greedy and selfish, is that true?

Question: My mom got mad for no reason?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 09:47 AM PST

I'm 15 and my parents are divorced. I started using netflix and my dad is paying for my account. Of course I let my mom, stepdad and siblings use it because they are close. I gave the pass to my aunt because she was the only one that wanted it but she signed in on her tv which resulted in my other aunt and grandpa using it too. Yes I know big mistake. Ive changed pass numerous times but they keep spamming me. I asked my mom why they can't get their own netflix account because if they can spoil my aunt they can get their own account and i said "my dad pays for it" my mom got mad and called me an egoist. I don't see the problem because it's the truth? Would she want my dads family to use her account if it was vice versa?? How do i fix this

Question: Should I ask for Presents even though I dont want to?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 09:28 AM PST

On Christmas many kids get presents my parents dont really celebrate X-Mas but hang up a tree.They buy me presents throughout the year,this year I got a Macbook Air.I dont want anything for Christmas but should do I ask ?

Question: I hate it!?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 09:19 AM PST

So , my mum calls me by a nickname that I don't like. She's been calling me that since I was a kid. A lot of people shorten my name as apparently it is 'too long'. My name is Gloria but friends shorten it to 'Glo' 'Gloglo' or 'G'. I don't like any of these nicknames. Whereas my mother calls me 'Glory', it pisses me off but I don't want to be rude & tell her I don't like it. Should I just ignore & suck it up?

Question: My stepsister is annoying?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 09:15 AM PST

My stepsister is 10 years old but she acts as if she's 5. I honestly don't really like her. She's really immature and too hyperactive. I really want to yell at her but she's probably gonna snitch and then i will be in trouble. Before you say "what, she's 10 years old what did you expect" I never acted like this. Yes everyones different but she's way too immature for her age. I literally got in trouble all because she fell and cried like a little b*tch. What to do???

Question: How to isolate from your family ?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 09:09 AM PST

Hi I'm turning 18 in 8 months although I may not move out the house until I'm 19-20 but when I do how Can I cut off my family for good ( no calls , no texts , no visiting etc ) but still communicate with my mom ( which tells all my bussniess )

Question: My mom is being a snob and cringey?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 08:54 AM PST

So I lived in Croatia and like a year ago we moved to Switzerland. My mom married a man who lives there and we live in this really pretty townhouse. But ever since we started to live here my mom has been acting like she's 20 (she's 38), super snobby and she acts as if she's swiss but she's clearly not?? It feels like she feels superior to my family in croatia. Also she always posts retarded things on her instagram stories which makes me feel really embarrassed. Her husband is also a pain in the a$$, always forcing me to go outside and decides when i'm going to sleep. This makes me want to go back to Croatia and live with my dad. Sigh what do I do?

Question: In-laws excluding wife from a holiday event... thoughts??!!?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 08:13 AM PST

In-laws invite husband to a holiday event weeks in advance; but decide to act as though I'm invited ONLY after I found out about it a couple days prior to the event. (They barely ever talk to me.) My husband should have time with his family, and I don't really care about going, so I'm not that worried about this ~ But I just think it's rather weird & rude! ...Thoughts...??!!

Question: Im 16 and my parents are getting a divorce. both scared and glad. but ill have to live with my dad and i really hate him. what should I do?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 07:42 AM PST

Question: Am I wrong to not want my son to be a seasonal dad?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 07:37 AM PST

My husband had a meeting with me, my son, his daughter's mom and her parents a few weeks ago because he wanted them to sit down and come up with a visitation arrangement between them when it comes to their child. My husband was given full custody of his daughter when she was about a year and a half or 2 years old and they have everything spelled out in their agreement. Visitation, holidays, birthdays, weekends, etc. He feels that my son and his baby momma need to come up with something similar before the "you know what" hits the fan when his baby momma finds out that he's gotten another girl pregnant. My son isn't paying any child support and my husband and I are basically supporting our grandchild on his behalf. Last night my son was on the phone with his baby momma and he feels that he should get her every weekend. I told her that he's out of line to think that he should get her every weekend and he's not paying anything in child support. I told him I didn't want my son to be a seasonal dad only seeing his daughter when she feels like it. And I don't think that him getting her every weekend is out of the question. Am I wrong? My husband said that typical arrangements are every other weekend and maybe one night or afternoon during the week. Who's right here?

Question: Should I say something about her giving my clothes away?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 07:28 AM PST

My Aunt is more like a mom to me, but she can sometimes be very difficult and set in her ways. She watches my daughter a few times a week, so I have some clothes and supplies there so I don't have to transport items back and forth. Recently, my aunt asked me to give a bag of clothes to my nanny, which I did. I didn't dig through the bag, but thankfully my nanny noticed some of the items would still fit my daughter, and she returned them. I also noticed a bunch of my daughter's clothes were missing, and I think my aunt gave them away without asking me. It upsets me because I buy nice clothes (Macy's, Gap, Nordstrom) to resell on eBay, not to just give away without my permission. My husband passed away, so any extra income besides my career really helps. I feel really betrayed and hurt she would do this... Should I confront her about this, or am I making a big deal out of nothing? Thank you in advance.

Question: I need advice...what should I do?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 07:13 AM PST

I'm living with an emotionally abusive mom and I don't know what to do! I'm 16 and going to be in college in two years. Everyday she does/says something that makes me want to just die. It may sound dumb to whoever is reading this but I can assure you I'm not overreacting. My mom has told me she hates me among many other things. I've been contemplating maybe talking to my grandparents about it all but I feel too embarrassed and ashamed. And I know my mom will find out and get so mad. In an incident today, I was studying for the SAT (I just got my terribly low PSAT score) and my mom told my sister to turn on the cartoons & watch our baby brother. I have no problem doing that, but she does this everyday! She makes us watch him while she's in her bedroom with her husband. We have to babysit him even during school (I do online school). Like just yesterday, she went out with my step-dad and told us to watch my brother. Anyways, today I told her if he could just watch cartoons on my phone because I was studying (my mom moved my desk downstairs for reasons I'm not sure of) and the noise was very loud. She said I am "a mess" and "crazy" for wanting to study. I asked in a polite way and everything! I never disrespect her so I don't know why she treats me so terrible. I just want to do good in school and it's like she doesn't want me to. I've been striving to get into a good college and make a good life for myself and not end up like her (very lazy, chooses not to work, etc). :/

Question: Is there anything more I could've done to prevent this parental tragedy?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 07:07 AM PST

We raise our children to be like us - to obey us, act like us, and mimic our traits. That is why this is such a heartbreaking situation. I've spent many years trying to instill moral principles into my children since they were in the womb. Now I'm faced with something I never expected to happen. On Tuesday night, I caught my 17-year-old daughter in the process of intercourse with a boy. Prior to this point, I was aware of her relationships, but I always told her to cherish purity. I never realized the signs of peer pressure she experienced until it was too late. Even worse, due to the disconnect, I was unaware of the creature who lusted after her purity - a "black" boy. As I type this, she is getting dressed and ready because I am taking her to be screened for HIV and syphilis. I'm no longer angry, just disappointed. When my children were young, they had excellent racial instincts and understood that races were not to intersect. But, unfortunately, adolescence and leftist propaganda has caused my beautiful and pale little girl to rebel against nature itself. If this is what the elites really want for America, then we are doomed to see a generation of mongrel thugs walking around and spewing crime everywhere unless we show the Zionists that our children are more precious than some sick agenda about "multiculturalism."

Question: My stepdad is trash?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 07:05 AM PST

He's trying to "man" me up or whatever. He also treats me as if I'm 8 (tells me when to go to bed), forces me to go outside even if it's raining and hang with his annoying daughter. Yells at me for little things. He is not my dad and I don't think he has the right to treat me like that. I am afraid to speak up though, my girlfriend has told me to a lot of times but I brush it off. What to do?

Question: Should I really worry about feeding grown adults in my house?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 06:48 AM PST

Recently, my wife's oldest son, now 23, moved back in with us against my wishes and her other 21 year old son is there periodically, when he's not spending 3, 4 or 5 nights a week with his girlfriend at her parent's house. My wife and I alternate cooking nights and this sunday is my turn to cook. We have a big event at church where a lot of people are bringing food and we plan to eat after church. My daughter is home from college on winter break and she'll be going with us because I've asked her to help. My wife just sent me an email asking do I plan to cook once we get home from church since her sons aren't going with us. My thinking is this. They are more than welcomed to go with us and eat at church but I'm sure the 21 year old will be with his girlfriend and the 23 year old will be running the streets with his friends then will come home once he gets hungry. No, I'm not planning to come home from church and cooking anything for them. I look at it this way. 21 and 23 are old enough to fend for themselves. The 21 year old works so he should have some money to go get him a burger or something and the 23 year old can go in the kitchen and fix him a sandwich. My wife thinks that because it's Sunday you've gotta have a massive meal. Again, they are more than welcomed to come to church with us and eat there but they most likely won't. Should I really worry about feeding grown adults in my house? Let me simplify the question. At what point do you stop being responsible for feeding grown folks who live in your house? Does it matter that they're your kids? Say they live there till they're 25 or 30, do you still cook for them or tell them to buy their own groceries and fix it themselves?

Question: I am an only child with an ageing mother. No money, no support.?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 05:47 AM PST

I am a 31 year old only child, unfortunately still living at home. Not that i never left, i have several times, but always find myself coming back home to help my mother. A little back story on her: divorced, father is not in the picture for all my life & she was let go from her job about 12 years ago, only received a pension, and they took all of her 401K. Needless to say, at the age of 65 shes still working and living pay check to pay check. So at this point (since noting has changed) i find myself back home for many years now. My main concern is this: what exactly am i suppose to do with my own life? I have no siblings, no close family, and my mother has no one either. So ive taken on the roll of helping my mother pay for things and living with her. The trouble is that i cant get a job with high enough pay to support her fully, so we kind of just do things together. But i m scared that my entire life is over now. How do i get a relationship? How do i start my own life, my own family? She will always need me because there is no one else there. But at the same time she s trapping me here. Why doest she have money saved? Why is she not retired? Well, she has NEVER saved her entire life. So what do i do? Is this my responsibility? Should i seek aid? I am tired of being controlled and treated like i m 16 when in reality its all her fault. I m just trying to live my own simple life.

Question: I dislike my boyfriends parents?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 04:58 AM PST

Yeah so I just dislike them. His mom acts like she's some 20 year old and she's super cringe and snobby ew. His stepdad treats him like an 8 year old and he just simply pisses me off. He's really mean to my boyfriend. His stepdad also has this daughter, she's 10 years old but acts ******* 3. I love the rest of his family though, they are really sweet. But his parents and stepsister are just a ******* no. How do I control this hatred

Question: With what the surname can there be any problems? 1. Damon Moss 2. Damon Keen?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 04:44 AM PST

For exsample when registring tickets at the airport, with mails at th post office, phone conversations, spelling, pronunciation...

Question: How do I tell my Grandparents I want to move in with them?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 04:05 AM PST

For a while now I ve been having thoughts on moving away from where I currently live. It s so depressing where I live and I hate living here. Nobody at school likes me, and I m serious when I say that. I was just diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety along with OCD symptoms. The doctor has me on Celexa 10mg. It s my second day of having it and I get my blood drawn today but that s not the issue. My dad drinks alot and I m constantly stressed out and I feel like I do all the work around the house. Like I m not happy and I have thoughts of suicide but I don t want to kill myself. I hate having to watch my parents see me go through this because I know they love me and care about me but it s so hard living here. Also I would maybe want to move in with my mom but my dad won t let me which I understand. I know it would be good to have a change and that s living with my grandparents. They re more supportive and I ve lived with them before but I ll feel bad because I know my parents are trying really hard. What should I do?

Question: How do I bring my parents back?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 03:04 AM PST

There was a car accident and they've been dead for 4 hours and I don't remember what to do?

Question: How many of u are introverts and have experienced non support/ nurture from family?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 02:23 AM PST

I'm an artiste, always known i am meant to be. But all of the ppl around me don't bother to support me when i'm promoting my stuff, don't affirm my dreams. And i've to work **** jobs which i hate, **** bosses to make money. As sensitive person, I get criticisms as well about so called advice about real world. extremely unfair/ disappointing. As if that wasn bad enough father increasingly Ocd and selfish, how to be positive? (and i cant get a good job impossible to move out) Parents always fighting

Question: At a loss for what to do with my MIL?

Posted: 22 Dec 2017 12:58 AM PST

She was always nice to me before we got married, but now that we are married she makes continuous passive aggressive comments, finds the tiniest things to criticize (like I don't put veggies in plastic bags at the grocery store...as if it matters since I wash them anyways) and then bad mouths me to her relatives when I've literally never done anything to her. I also hate the way she speaks to my husband, she's just mean to him and doesn't seem to care. Her husband was an alcoholic that she stayed with for 20+ years, she truly doesn't think it was an abusive environment which boggles my mind. My husband used to be the one helping her with all the little things she needed help with, and now he spends a majority of time doing those things for me, though he still helps her too. We tried sitting down with her to tell her what we find hurtful, but she's still miserable. Any suggestions?

Question: Is this weird orrrrr?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 11:05 PM PST

i'm 12 and i got my period recently. the other day i started my period and needed clean pants so i yelled at my mom (while i was in the bathroom) to get me clean pants. so she brought them to me. well, i suppose that was a giveaway that i had started my 3rd period SO she wrote it down on the family calendar. i already keep track of it. WHY does she have to do this. it's quite embarrassing. she doesn't write my sisters down. i HATE how she always talks about it. she acts so weird. she tells my grandma EVERYTHING and she tells her stuff. idk it's just so weird. she tells her a lot of my very personal stuff, so then my grandma talks to me abt it. i really wish she wouldn't tell the entire family about me getting my period. i try to hide it as much as possible. what should i say to her?!??

Question: What should i do?? i’m so sick of my parents!!!?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 10:56 PM PST

my parents have always been extremely strict over me. my classmates who are my age or younger all got their permits and licenses way earlier than i did. my parents dont trust me, they think im going to run away from home or crash the car. now i'm almost 17. i get my license soon and my parents are pushing off my road test. they're getting me a crappy, old car that i have no say in if i like or not because they once again don't trust me and keep thinking im going to turn against them. im not allowed to move out of the area for uni. i'm not allowed to date. my parents dont trust me with anything and think i'm going to screw everything up. my mom yelled at me today telling me she won't buy me a car if i dont do my laundry because this meant i don't care about the things i have and i wont take care of anything i have. my parents think i'm going to go out to drink, do drugs, etc if i get a car. they dont realize how much they've impacted me and now i actually cant wait to get a car because i can finally leave. i never thought these things before until after my mom told me the reasons why i can't have a car, why i can't do the things i can't do, etc. the reason why i wanted a car was so i wouldn't be late to anything anymore, i could actually leave on time from school, and i could drive myself to places i have to go to bc my mom is always complaining about how she has to drive me. maybe one day i will actually drive away because of what my parents have done to me. what should i do?

Question: How to cope with death of loved ones?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 10:46 PM PST

My grandma has recently been diminishing physical wise and she's had problems with her lungs and etc. A few days ago we took her to the hospital and she had water in her lungs. After that the doctor told us that her lungs are basically getting taken over by the cancer she's had a few years ago and she doesn't have much time left on Earth. She came home today all joyful and I asked her if she was feeling fine and she said she was feeling great and healthy but in reality she's going to pass away soon. How do I get over this because I couldn't stop crying when she said that.

Question: How much will I need my parents in college?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 09:52 PM PST

I'm a senior who has taken AP and Honors for four years. I have been accepted to a university six hours from home, and was wondering how much will I need my parents when I'm off. My parents never pays attention to me, and they always curse at me or hit me when I tell them simple things like " You guys never keep the house decent" or " I'm tired of you talking bad about me to your friends or family". I am the only child in the family who has exceeded academically, and plans on going to college. I'm tired of my dad calling me stupid and threatening to bust my teeth in whenever my mom tells him I told her that I won't need her during college( never told her that but I'm regretting I didn't). My mom hasn't worked in 30 years, and does nothing but hang out with her friends, ignore me and my sister, and sleep for the entire day. To be honest, my parents cares more for my adult brothers who are 25 and 27. They sell and do drugs and hop house to house for a place to sleep. I feel discouraged everyday. I try to do excellent in school, I tutor, and I come home to this. So, I am wondering if I need my parents when I'm in college?

Question: My sisters constantly gang up on me?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 09:47 PM PST

Hi, I'm the youngest sister and when my sister who's 20 comes back from College she and my other sister who's 17 gang up on me. They constantly judge me, pick on me and my parents do nothing. They always make fun of me and they don't let me spend time with them. My father asked us to set up the christmas tree at his house and my two sisters didn't let me go. I'm always left in my room by myself. It really sucks and I actually hate having my sister home. What can I do to stop this?

Question: How to deal with control freak dad?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 09:11 PM PST

my dad is a total control freak and im really tired of it. I'm a 17 year old son going on 18 and i have a sister that's 19 and still living with us. basically our dad takes our phone at night because he wants to ensure we have a "good night's rest" but it's not like im 8 and it's very frustrating to talk to him about this because he thinks he's right and he starts yelling and says that as long as we live under his roof, we have to follow the rules. this honestly makes me want to move out but my anxiety prevents me from getting a job and my bank account is going down from not working and spending sometimes. also i can't move in with a friend because i'm not about to pay bills since i don't have a job and plus i feel bad especially for my mom because i don't wanna just leave and not help them out with stuff. what can i do to help my situation and my control freak dad?

Question: Is it ok to not to consider my dad as a father?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 08:50 PM PST

well heres the background :/ my dad is ill tempered and has strong personality. He can be very two faced and treated my mom like dirt. my big sister is underdeveloped mental so my dad doesnt give her the attention she deserves and my big sis talks back to him since shes basically a failer since shes trying to be a lawyer instead of a doctor. he was a great father in my childhood but he slowly was becoming less fatherly as a i grew up. he become cheap and stingy with us even though he would give our cousins 2000 dollar cameras,iphones etc. and all we ever got it 5 dollar burgers from burger king. hes been trying to get close to me after my mom and him divorced but i cant hate or love him i just feel nuetral like i hve no feelings towards him. its honestly sufficating to be with him when its his turn to live with him. i honestly feel like i have no right to love him because i feel like i stole his love from my sisters. i just feel disgusting like i dont deserve it. im angry for what he did to my sisters and mom and it hurts to be with him sometimes. my friends all say i should hve a relationship with him since hes my only father but im just soo confused like it doesnt feel right to but i feel obligated......like i have to or im being ungrateful..

Question: My daughter at her job doesn t get requested days off?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 08:18 PM PST

My daughter is in high school and she doesn t get days off that she requested like every Sunday for holy day and holidays what do I do

Question: Sister keeps borrowing my present?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 08:06 PM PST

So I got something for my birthday and my older sister keeps using it without permission. And when i ask her to ask for my permission, she says "why do I have to ask for permission? we're family". i'm just very fond of it and she uses it all day. i have to keep holding onto my present so she won't take it away. the moment i put it down, she grabs it. how can i convince her to stop stealing it? it's like it's not even mine, it's like it's ours. it's like I have to ask her permission to give it back to me. Why?? And she's so stingy when it comes to borrowing her stuff. I borrowed her running shoes ONCE because I didn't have any and she got really pissed~! she got angry and said they're precious to her but she won't have it with me! and she's 19! i'm 17! come ON!

Question: Have you ever overheard someone talking bad about you and they don t know you heard?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 07:35 PM PST

Have you ever over heard someone in your family talking to another family member about so close to the holidays still expecting you to be a part of it? Well I overheard my own grandmother talking to my aunt saying that I was lying a bunch of things and that my father couldn't afford to do something even though they have no clue about my finical situation nor is it any of their business. I was just asking if anyone's own family talks bad about them even though they did nothing wrong nor lying?

Question: I really want to move out of my verbal abusive/toxic household by this summer i will be 18 soon. my mom always makes it seem like?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 07:32 PM PST

its my fault, she says stuff like you bring the worst out of me, or one time the bathroom sink was clogged so she told me that i should just start using the toliet to brush my hair. these are just a few examples. anything i tell she gets super defensive or questions everything i say and i get scared. i try to be nice to her, like when me, my sister and her re having a group convo she will totally ignore me and laugh at everything my sister says and acts like im not there. plz i need help

Question: I don t know what to do my parents are putting me in a situation where I have to choose between them...?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 07:32 PM PST

Hi so my parents are divorced. I m totally used to that because they ve been fighting since I was in the second grade and I m a junior now. My mom has sole custody but I get to see my dad a lot cuz he takes me to basketball practice and some of my games. But whenever I m with them they decide to trash about the other parent to me and tell me flaws and **** I just don t want to know. They make it so hard. Like the other day my dad called me and my mom wouldn t let me answer the phone because she thought he was drunk. But know he is pissed at me and I called him and he keeps saying **** like I don t love him and I don t need to listen to my mother. My dad tells me he thinks my mom has problems. And my mom tells me that my dad ***** one of his friends (a woman whose kids used to be on my brothers hockey team) and tells me that he was ******* her when they are married and all this stuff about my dad being a nasty pig and that he ll always be an alcoholic (which I don t deny but I don t want to talk about it). I just don t know what to do they are forcing me into a really hard situation. They both are trying to manipulate me into picking one of them and I don t know what to do.

Question: Should I tell my sister and her husband?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 07:21 PM PST

My sisters husband used to work for a company owned by my father (my sister also still works there). I wont go into details, but he more or less made a complete mess of his employment there, and ended up throwing the keys to his work van at the general manager and quitting after being told to provide some very simple paperwork that is part of his job description. Needless to say this was infuriating to my father the owner who had given him a chance to work there, just to have it turn into a complete mess. Anyway, fast forward about a year and a half to the present day, and the relationship between my father and sister's husband is not going well. Today, my father told me that one of the employees at the office has a video on his phone of my sister's husband literally vomiting out the side of his work van and crying about it while they were on a job together. I don't know who this video has been shown to, but I know that my sister and her husband are unaware that it exists. Should I tell my sister and her husband about this video? Part of my thinks I should tell them because I know my sister doesn't want an embarrassing video of her husband floating around the office. But the other half knows that my father was telling me this in confidence. What should I do?

Question: I’m a 16 y/o girl I live with my 38 y/o brother (he’s my legal guardian, my parents aren’t in the picture) Read question in details.?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 05:48 PM PST

I never ever swear but we got in a argument about my grades and I walked away and he was following me to my room and I was getting madder and I slammed my door and he got the key and opened it and at this point I was pissed and he kept going on and he was like "never slam your door in my face again young lady" and I said will you just get the fu*k out of here. And he was so mad that he slapped me across the face. I actually started crying IS THIS ABUSE?????? And I'm going to be 16 in like a week and my birthday party was next Saturday. And he now is making me hand write all the invitations saying "I'm sorry but my party is off. Bc I was backtalking my brother and acting like a brat" like I invited 20 people and some were boys so I don't want to give them that. He won't give m yohone bacm ungil I give them out. What should I do? Is this abuse? Can I call the police????

Question: Should I break up with my girlfriend?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 05:28 PM PST

During our 10 month relationship, there has been multiple times when she has told me of guys hitting on her. I have never done that bc there was no need to bc I love her. When she found out about my ex, she flipped out bc she thought she looked like her. When a girl was trying to dance with me in a bar, she threw water on her and pulled me in for a really deep kiss. She also told me of nightmare she had where we were at a party and she saw me kissing another girl. She was so sweet thought, but after the six month mark, she started to change. She got more volatile towards me. Whenever we have fights, I always briing up that a relationship is 50/50 and compromise, but every argument ends up withme having to change or things I need to do more or less of; she NEVER apolgizes. She thinks I'm oblivious, we were in a restaurant and the waiter said do you want to pay, I didn't hear and said credit card, she got mad and said I'm frustrating her. She's an extremely busy person and we can only hang out on her time, I asked her to hang out on her busy days, because some of those days, she's free and we would hang out. However she began to say things like do you ever listen/how many times have I told you and would get made whenever I asked to hang out. One of her guy friends has been becoming overly flirty with her and her friends told me she doesn't stop him, she also got a body snap from a guy from her hometown and she said he was just a friend. I love her but have serious doubts

Question: My parents make me cry, ehat do i do?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 05:22 PM PST

When i say my parents i mostly meam my step dad. But its my mother sometimes too. My step dad says things to me that my mam just sitd there and lets him say things to me when she can tell itd upsetting me. Recently (day of writing this) i said i wasn't hungry and he sat there telling me im going to starve to death and ill be dead in 5 years. 10 if im lucky. He said that while my mother judt watched as i started to tear up to then run into my room crying my eyes out. Yeah im a little under weight but not much that its going to cause serious damage. He has threatened me st times too. Im constantly gettimg offensive comments from him about the music i like and the way i dress(im emo, and he hates it) Im too afraid to say anything to anyone about it, and even if i did say something, anyone i tell will probably believe him because i cant get proof of him saying this. Evem my girlfriend said he is very mean and understands why i cry at some of the stuff he says. I cry a lot when i remember im too weak to speak up about it. Its been happening since i was a kid and im 20 now(yes still living at home for college reasons) What can i do? He constantly puts me down and i feel terrible and useless. Thanks for the help.

Question: How can I handle this?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 05:06 PM PST

Currently share a lease with my fiancé, and his younger sister, all in our late 20's. It has not gone well. She doesn't clean up after herself, and will wait days before washing a pan, causing tension. We all switch off every week ie. taking out trash/recycling, vacuuming. She doesn't do them until we have to remind her, and take it as us ganging up on her. She'll complain to her mom that we're being mean. Growing up her mom wound up doing her chores for her because she got tired of waiting/asking. Recently I suffered a miscarriage on my birthday. My fiance's sister told me how sorry she was, and if there was anything I needed to let her know. Then two days later she accused me of opening, and drinking some of her wine. Instead of saying, "Did you open my wine?" I was met with, "Can you replace the bottle of wine that you opened?" in a very annoyed/rude tone. The bottle was in fact a bottle I had bought for my mom when she stayed over night. The accusation, and the fact that I had just lost my baby really upsetted me. Days later I told her how how I felt, and then found out that she had forgotten that her, and a friend had drank the bottle of her wine. Never did she apologize to me when she came to that realization, and only said sorry when I expressed to her how she had made me feel. It didn't seem genuine, and I'm still quite upset that she would do that after everything I had been through that week. I just don't want to be around her, and don't know if I even like her.

Question: My Granny was run over by a reindeer last Christmas, how do we prevent this from happening this year?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 04:53 PM PST

Question: Would it be awkward for your daughter (early 20s) to share a hotel room with her biological father with two separate beds?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 04:40 PM PST

Optional: are you male or female? do you have a daughter?

Question: I am a college student and my parents still gave me a bedtime. Is this wrong?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 04:06 PM PST

I just came home for winter break and they told me that my bedtime is at 12 AM no later, and they shut off the house wifi at that time. Am I the only 19 year old in the world that has a bed time? Are my parents crazy/mentally unstable?

Question: Invited to an event ONLY after finding out about it ~ thoughts?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 03:21 PM PST

Question: Do I back out of a family Christmas vacation?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 02:57 PM PST

Months ago my mother decided that instead of doing gifts this year we would go to a nice cabin for 4 days. Her, her boyfriend, my brother, myself and my daughter. I'm 36 btw. My step-dad has been trying to help me buy a house, his one nice thing he wants to do for me before he dies he says. Around November we found the perfect house. It's a fixer-upped (BIG TIME) but its mine and I just today got moved in. Well, in two days we're supposed to leave for our vacation. I am currently working two jobs, my new house is a disaster, my apartment still needs to be cleaned (I have to have it done by the 31st) and I have a 16 year old cat that I don't want to leave alone in a new weird home for 4 days. I have been mentioning as time went on closing in on vacation day, that it might be difficult for me to go. She just ignores me (my mother). I'm kinda pissed she hasn't given me the out. She said she realized I'm stressed and said I could arrive 1 day later...so a 3 day vacation. I know its Christmas but I want to say NO! I can't go! I'm completely exhausted. As soon as I get back to town on Tuesday I have to go to my second job then turn around and go back to my full time job on Wednesday...plus, my cat. They did spend the money on the cabin but they are still all going (maybe not my kid if I don't) My mother is very intimidating and can make me feel like **** but I want to know...............do I back out of a family vacation? And, am I a total ***** for doing so?

Question: I hate my cousin ?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 02:52 PM PST

I really hate my wife's cousin he's so annoying even before we were married or knew each other I still hated him he's just a few years younger than me. We don't get along well at all. I hate that I have to love him since he's family. He really annoys me. What should I do about it ?

Question: 18 year old in bad spot with mom. I need help?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 02:41 PM PST

I turn 18 in a week. My mom and I have had issues for years. It got worse when my dad died when I was 15. Not going into a lot of detail but both my mother and me have been through a lot of abuse in our separate childhoods. She s a diagnosed bipolar. She keeps saying she will through my out but then says she wants me to stay. She says I m a stupid ***** but then says she thinks I m very smart. She says I m a failure because I couldn t dual enroll anymore due to a hospitalization but then brags about my bright future. I have no idea what to do. She degrades me, but then says she loves me If I address her abuse she makes it about her because she and her boyfriend broke up. She says she is only human. I want a relationship with her but I don t know how. She attacks me so much I feel on edge 24/7...