Family: Question: Serious question..?

Question: Serious question..?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 02:11 PM PST

Moms divorced, I'm 19, I live with my mom and brother, my mom doesn't have a job, but I do and she forces me to pay rent and gets ahold of my money that I work hard for. I'm unable to do anything and my father who occasionally visits threatens to beat me up. What should I do? Please help.

Question: My Dad lied to my Mom and told her he filed his taxes when he hadn't in 6 years. Does this mean he is a con-man?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 02:07 PM PST

Question: My aunt is a narcissist. How am I best to behave around a narcissist or should I avoid all family events she is at?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 02:05 PM PST

She has no thoughts for anyone but herself and can be very compassionate when it makes her look and feel good and brutal when someone is not kissing her ***. Her mother is the only family member who likes her and maybe her daughter. Her autistic son fears her and her other daughter does not like her. Her father fears her and her siblings despise her. We nieces and her nephews don't like her. She exploits others and even lied about another aunt of mine accusing her of adultery falsely.

Question: How do I survive the stress of being around my toxic mother and enabling father and the rest of the family this weekend?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 02:02 PM PST

It is Christmas, I hate this time of the year.

Question: My parents treat me like I m a burden/nuisance?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 02:01 PM PST

Whenever I try to talk with my parents or join in on their conversations on the sofa / at dinner they roll their eyes or glare at me and tell me to go away / be quiet. It makes me feel really self-conscious and annoying, and like my opinion doesn t matter. If I show that I m upset they make fun of me and mock me. What can I do to get them to stop?

Question: Not enough money for Christmas gifts???

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 01:44 PM PST

Soo this Sunday I'm spending Christmas eve with my family and everyone always buys gifts. But I don't have enough money to buy everyone something, but at the same time I don't want to be awkward and come with nothing. I have a really big family but I cant afford it right now, any advice please????

Question: My Mom and Grandparents always Yell at me?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 01:36 PM PST

Ok so a few years ago my Parents got Divorced and my Grandparents got me and my mom new House 500,000 dollars I have a reason for telling you that listen. So they get me nice clothes. Nice things. New iPhone everything. My grandpa had a really good job BTW him and my grandma live in a huge house. They have nice cars. They Got my Mom two Cars A BMW X5 and a Acura Tlx about a year ago. They get me all these Bikes and things. BUTTTTTTTT HERE IS THE THING I don't just care about all that stuff because it's not Love they also always make fun of my dad and my other side of my family they say bad things about them and stuff they always yell at me for not talking when we go out and I don't talk only because I'm so nerves around them. My dad is only one who is nice to me. And they always make fun of him and say he's bad guy BTW I see them A lot my Mom never tells them to Stop. ALSO MY MOM LIES TO ME ALOT AND WHEN I CONFRONT HER ABOUT IT SHE CALLS MY GRANDPARENTS THEY START SAYING THINGS LIKE WE'RE NOT GONNA GET HIM STUFF ANYMORE. MY MOM ALWAYS YELLS AT ME SOMETIMES I JUST SIT IN MY OFFICE IN MY HOUSE AND CRY. Any help thanks.

Question: How to handle this?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 01:22 PM PST

Currently in a lease with my fiancé, and his younger sister, all in our late 20's. It has not gone well. She doesn't clean up after herself, and will wait days before washing a pan, causing tension. We all switch off every week ie. taking out trash/recycling, vacuuming. She doesn't do them until we have to remind her, and take it as us ganging up on her. She'll complain to her mom that we're being mean. Growing up her mom wound up doing her chores for her because she got tired of waiting/asking. Recently I suffered a miscarriage on my birthday. My fiance's sister told me how sorry she was, and if there was anything I needed to let her know. Then two days later she accused me of opening, and drinking some of her wine. Instead of saying, "Did you open my wine?" I was met with, "Can you replace the bottle of wine that you opened?" in a very annoyed/rude tone. The bottle was in fact a bottle I had bought for my mom when she stayed over night. The accusation, and the fact that I had just lost my baby really upsetted me. Days later I told her how how I felt, and then found out that she had forgotten that her, and a friend had drank the bottle of her wine. Never did she apologize to me when she came to that realization, and only said sorry when I expressed to her how she had made me feel. It didn't seem genuine, and I'm still quite upset that she would do that after everything I had been through that week. I just don't want to be around her, and don't know if I even like her.

Question: I don’t think my son likes his father.?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 12:53 PM PST

My son grew up to be very successful he is a CPA and has his own firm. However, he doesn't talk to his father much, I don't think he likes him. It might have to do something with the fact that growing up the father was a little bit alcoholic and just sat on the couch and drank. What could be the problem?

Question: My brothers wife is always putting me down for attention. How can I stop this?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 12:51 PM PST

I recently got into a dispute with my brothers wife but to avoid tension at family gatherings were I know I will come face to face with her I just do everything to ignore her. But I've noticed to gain my attention she indirectly puts me down & brings up topics that she knows I am insecure about ie my weight etc. How do I stop this behaviour of hers as it's making my time with my family difficult to enjoy knowing she is trying her every effort to upset me.

Question: How can I stop my mother in law to stop pressuring me to have a baby?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 12:39 PM PST

My love and I made our expectations of our relationship very clear when we first started dating. Neither of us want to have any children. We both have a multitude of reasons as to why, some in common, others not. It's not safe for me medically to become pregnant and it never will be. I also just really don't want to raise a child, it's not for me and it's not for him either. That said, his mother is unrelenting when it comes to this subject. She brings it up almost every day. Then, when both me and him try to tell her that it's never going to happen, she starts throwing a fit and starts screaming. She turns it into a fight if we say that it will never happen. This just has to stop. I can't take this pressure and nagging anymore. What can I do? How do I get this to stop?

Question: Can you ground an adult?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 11:45 AM PST

He just turned thirty and is trying to be a doctor even though my husband think he is too stupid.My son evan got very angry and emotional because my husband kept criticizing how he did his own laundry. And my husband kept demanding he add more soap.Because my husband doesn't think he know how to do laundry. He is sure my son's clothes still stink, but they smell okay. Also, my husband expressed concern about how Evan is pouring himself a glass of tea. Evan got very loud, screaming at the top of his lungs to leave him alone,because he said this is annoying and refuse to calm down because my husband kept following him around bugging him about clothes and how his hair is parted even after they were washed dried and folded.I am grounding him from buying food and having his Christmas and birthday cards. He said that is mail theft and he will have his mail held. Why can't evan add more soap even though he doesn't need to. You have to do everything his way that is why his father and and I our so happy. I guess O should of let evan go to the laundrymat like he wanted . His gf parent's washer broke. I thin he is still seeing her even though my hsband is demanding they break up.

Question: Please help me get my brother back from my narcissistic mother!?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 11:37 AM PST

I have recently realised that my mother is a narcissist. Growing up my brother and I were very close.he is 10 years my senior so when my mother was belittling us he was my rock. When he finally couldn't take my mother any more he left in the middle of the night leaving me alone with her. I resented him for the longest time but I forgave him and used the same tactic for my own escape from this horrible woman. Two years ago, my brother fell on hard times and had to move back in with my mother. She promised him she would be moving in with my aunt and would let him have the house . That never happened. I rarely visit him there because I can't stand to bed around my mother. I found out through my brothers wife that my mother is alwause telling him what a waste of life he is because he had to move back home and she is always comparing him to me because I'm successful and didn't have to move back home. I tried to talk to him and tell him that's she's always calling me a waste of life for not helping more like my brother is helping her but he won't take my calls. His wife refuses to relay my message. What can I do?

Question: How do I get my dad not to be so ignorant about my anxiety?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 11:33 AM PST

Question: My sister told me she was gonna give me the keys to her Mercedes for Christmas but...?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 10:12 AM PST

I don't wanna be rude but what am I gonna do with some car keys? And how is she supposed to drive if she gives me her keys?

Question: I can't let go of this pure disgust I have for my dad?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 10:06 AM PST

My mom wound up in the hospital with third degree burns. I had to live with my dad at the time. He became an alcoholic and became verbally abusive. It's not two years later and I just can't forgive him for everything he's ever done. He never even apologized for it. He paid for my college tuition so I should be grateful, I feel. And I am but I just can't stand the sight of him at all. Am I wrong?

Question: My mother wrecked my childhood by how she handled her divorce. How can I go about forgiving her so I don't hate her the rest of my life?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 09:49 AM PST

She handled her divorce by excluding me from my Dad whenever she could and even hid Christmas gifts he gave us. He eventually took her to court and at that point she had to let us see him but she told us how bad he was and poisoned our minds against him. I believed everything she said about how he didn't love us. I feel guilty for that now cause I resented him for 5 years as a kid. So now as an adult I hate my Mom. She finally remarried and softened towards him though she will to speak to him but she still gives us grief if we see him instead of her on a given time like this weekend (Christmas) I am given grief for seeing him Christmas Day instead of going the week after. I'll be seeing her and him at different times on Christmas. So how do I stop hating my Mom for this and forgive her when she is still offending me though not nearly as severely as when I was a kid. She says she thought she was protecting us as kids because, in her defense, the woman my Dad left her for had a mood disorder that made her unfriendly for kids to be around. That woman and he have since broken up which is when my Dad took my mother to court.

Question: This will be the first Christmas without my grandmother. How do I feel her presence as no one is talking about her which makes me sad?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 08:58 AM PST

Question: My sister is very immature for her age (25) but it's because our mother has given her all she demands. At what age does one like this mature?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 08:58 AM PST

At what age will she mature if she does?

Question: How should I tell my parents?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 08:49 AM PST

I have recently decided that I want to move in with my boyfriend, with whom I've dated for over six months. My parents are moving about three hours away and they think it's time I've left the nest. They keep telling me that I should go out on my own into the world and that if I go live with someone, then I'll never know how to live by myself, even if I have my own full time job, car, and pay half of the bills while I live with my boyfriend. I know that it's important to be independent, but there's no reason to just jump into the fire. I've already decided what I want to do, I just don't know how to break it to them. For example, earlier this year, I wanted to live on campus in a dorm and they didn't. At first, they disagreed and told me that it was a bad idea because I didn't do so well last semester and being home would be a better idea. I told them that I had already filled out all the paper work and picked up my key. Then they called me and told me I was completely on my own; no support from them, no keeping my stuff at their home, nothing. It was stressful for me, but I agreed. Then, when I came to pick up my stuff, they practically begged me to stay. I don't want them to swing me back and forth like that, and I don't want us to stop talking to each other. What should I do?

Question: Can I sue my dad for being ugly?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 08:28 AM PST

Question: Please help with my brothers wife! Family issues?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 08:26 AM PST

Growing up my brother and I were very close and I would say he was my best friend. When I was 16 (he was 22) he began dating a girl who completely changed him for the worst. Since day one that she was introduced to my family she done nothing but start arguments, divide people and plays the victim each and every time. After my mom past away that is when she really took control of him and took him away from us. She would start even worse fights and really get under all of our skin. I have spoken to my brother so many times about this I lost all hope. In his eye s, I am the bad one, I am the one who starts problems etc. and she can do no wrong. She talks poorly of all my family members and is currently riding my brothers coattail. She is very mean and cruel and I don t understand why a smart guy like him can t see it. He has become so mean and heartless like her. I feel like I lost my best friend I believe I lost him forever. Any advice on what I can do? or how I should look at this situation? Please help me : (

Question: Should I get married to escape a broken family?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 08:10 AM PST

My dad is verbally abusive and my mom does alcohol/drugs and doesn't give a crap about me either. I am only 17 and I need to move out but I need somewhere to be. I just need to get married so I will have somewhere to stay.

Question: Is anybody else’s mom like this?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 07:59 AM PST

So we have relatives from Florida who come to our home in Texas for Christmas every year. Before they come she cleans and/or gets the house cleaned which makes sense. But in the days leading up to their arrival she gets very touchy. Any tiny thing my brother and I do wrong leads to yelling. It's like this every year and it seems to get worse every year. Then when the relatives get here she acts completely nice around them but is still touchy around my brother and I. She is also always in a rush which annoys my aunt and anytime someone tries to talk to her about it, she just gets more mad. I really just asked this question to vent but if anyone has suggestions on how I'll make it through this week without pulling every strand of hair on my body out, please don't hesitate to let me know.

Question: My 11 year old daughter will not let me into her bedroom and every time I try to come in she tries to block me from coming in. Help?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 07:21 AM PST

I am her mother. I have the legal right to come in her room and see what she is doing. She stands in the doorway and prevents that. I believe that she must be doing drugs since she won't let me in there. I am removing her bedroom door this morning so that way she won't do this again. She needs to leave her door open except when she is changing clothes but now she is going to have to do that in the bathroom. I think it is very suspicious that she won't let me in there. What kind of drugs could my daughter be on?

Question: How do I spend the next week with my children so that it's fun and stimulating?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 06:36 AM PST

How do I spend the next week with my children so that it's fun and stimulating? Winter holidays begin on Monday. My 8 year old daughter and 4 year old son have a week off from school. I plan to take the mornings off from work and spend that time exclusively with them. I'll have a good 4 hours with them everyday for 6 to 7 days. Any ideas for fun activities that I can do so that they have a blast and also have a great learning / stimulating experience? Winter holidays begin on Monday. My 8 year old daughter and 4 year old son have a week off from school. I plan to take the mornings off from work and spend that time exclusively with them. I'll have a good 4 hours with them everyday for 6 to 7 days. Any ideas for fun activities that I can do so that they have a blast and also have a great learning / stimulating experience? Looking forward to make some cherished memories with them during this time. Cheerio!

Question: Parents sure let their child be rude nowadays?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 06:35 AM PST

I was at the hospital with my brother he was getting ready to go in for Tuberculosis. While in the waiting room some lady and get child. "Momma what's wrong with that man why is he here because he is too fat." I wanted to go over and tell the kid that was rude, mind your own business and tell the mother off. The kid was around 8 or 9 years old.

Question: My kids refuse to walk on the highway?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 06:14 AM PST

They refuse to go anywhere because they won't walk on the highway. I hate being a father and do not want to teach them to drive or drive them

Question: I'm 24 year old guy, Now I'm abroad for higher education,But I found it very hard to adjust, my fellow foreign students (continue in detail)?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 06:03 AM PST

Are adjusting well and have basically no major issue, This is my first time living without my family (I have studied in boarding/residential school back home) My parents pampered me too much and most of the time I get what I want, and my parents wallet is always open for me, but out here I feel lonely, insecure and have problem with everything, Nothing bring happiness to me, I'm even tired or having sex, drinking or going out for fun, Now my parents told me if I don't want to stay here, book a ticket and come back home, But back in home before leaving for the foreign country, my parents paid the fees for 2 University, and I refused to study there after spending a week at both University, Now a part of me want to go back home desperately, but another part tells me, 'your parents ain't gonna be there forever,this is life and life is not a bed of roses, put on your big boy panties, stop throwing tantrum' Now what should I do? PS, they don't speak English here and I became lazy beyond belief, moreover I started drinking a lot lately. Please share your wisdom and guide me.

Question: I've got a big problem.?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 06:03 AM PST

So , one year ago my brother met this girl over facebook . Her name is Monica , she lives in the same city like us but she works in Germany . My brother bought us to our home for my parents to met her . My mom is just crazy about her and treats her like her second daughter . Since she's moved to us , my parents don't even pay attention to me . I tried talking and she talks over me ALL.THE.TIME . Today I told her I'm going to the gym , she's said "Why? You're still fat." and laughed . Of course I told her I am just bulky and she continued to laugh . I asked her if she can put my green shirt in the laundry , she did and the shirt came out with white stains because she "accidentally" poured bleach on it . We had a family dinner and she asked my mother if she "really wanted to have a child like me" , of course I ***** stared at her for like 1 minute , like how she could ask that INFRONT OF MY DAD AND BROTHER ??! They had no reaction and just laughed it off , thinking it was a joke . Anyways , there are many other things she's done to me , too many to count . I don't really know what to do , my family clearly doesn't see she's affecting me . If I try to talk to my parents about her , they will say I'm paranoid . I really need some help or advice :( In "My brother bought us to our home for my parents to met her" I meant , he bought HER to our home .

Question: My aunt continues to gossip to the family about people. How do I break up the gossip if we see her over Christmas?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 05:52 AM PST

Question: Is it wrong to love my mother-in-law like a mother?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 05:43 AM PST

Ok so I attended the university of Edinburgh and married the love of my life. I know I'm a little young, 22, but I do love him very much. I thought his mother was going to hate me because I do feel I'm unlovable at times. Over the past year that I've been in Scotland, she's treated me as if I were her own daughter, despite her busy schedule of being a doctor. She's helped me with my own medical issues and she gives me lots of tender and caring love. This means a lot to me because I've never had a mother - she died when I was 2 and I don't remember her. I adore my mother-in-law and she loves me. She also knows I don't have a mother. Is it normal to love her this way?

Question: Why does my dad confuse me as being jealous?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 01:19 AM PST

It's really irritating when I make a comment about someone and my dad says I'm jealous. Example, I was watching this girl on t.v. do a performance on silk ropes, and, in my opinion, I didn't like it because I wasn't entertained watching her perform. I'm not saying she isn't talented, it just didn't appeal to me. So of course he tells me I'm jealous because she has more talent than me. Or like my sister and I were talking about how this girl at our church always get to sing more than the others in our youth group praise band and my dad forced us to stop talking, saying we were just showing jealously and being ugly, when I reality we love that girl, but just thought it was unfair how she always got to sing more than other praise members. He thinks that just because someone has more success or talent I'm automatically jealous. How do I deal with my dad when he says I'm jealous. Is it because he has jealousy problems or something. I love my self and what I'll become, but things like this piss me off.

Question: Adult Child is paranoid?

Posted: 21 Dec 2017 01:09 AM PST

My adult child and I live together and share living expenses. I can no longer sleep in the bedroom (she sleeps on the floor in the living room because it's a one bedroom) so I moved into the living room too and use the sofa to sleep on/hold all my stuff. She is extremely paranoid and doesn't see it. Every night she sits up for hours because she claims she 'can't sleep' because I'm up here. She thinks I'm 'in her business' and 'looking at her' when I wake up before her and sit on the sofa on my telephone. What should I tell her to make her get over this? She needs to get over it because I'm tired of the disrespectful statements she makes like telling I'm 'invading her privacy' and that I should 'go back into the bedroom'. She inevitably falls asleep anyway for about 2-3 hours and then gets mad when I point that out and says that I was watching her!! She should just sleep and get over it. I'm here and she should be grateful.

Question: Never met my granddaughters?

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 11:40 PM PST

My sons girlfriend will not let me see my granddaughters. They have been together for 4 years and things have changed so much, my son doesn't come to family functions anymore, I barely hear from him and he doesn't even speak to his only brother. My family has never got to meet the only grandchildren of the family. I've tried to reach out to them and they both just ignore me. My heart is in so much pain it causes my so much anxiety. I just want to be able to see and spend time with my son again. I want to be able to be a grandmother to my granddaughters, life is too short tomorrow isn't promised she's depriving my family and my granddaughters of so much. She controls his life and I wish he would just open his eyes and realize it. Im hoping someone has answers, I've been suffering for so long. What can i do to get passed the evil in my sons girlfriend and see my granddaughters

Question: Was i sexually assaulted?

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 11:23 PM PST

While i was dancing just randomly cause i was happy my sister just randomly slapped my butt. We are both 17 year old girls. She thought it was funny but it made me extremely uncomfortable. What do i do, Was this assault?

Question: How do I help my parents in a financial decrease?

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 11:01 PM PST

So my parents both work at Amports (BMW Distribution Center) and it's currently getting outsourced by another company. Well my parents together make about $40 an hour. They new company said that they (if rehired as a permanant) will get paid $17 (together they would make $34) an hour. Well as the year is ending, they "all of a sudden" changed it to (if rehired) $13 an hour. My mom currently makes $21 an hour. Now to us, that's a huge pay cut. My parents have three kids, a mortgage to pay, water, gas, electric, phone, we currently bought a new car (before they knew about the outsource) etc. They might not even get rehired. My mom has been w/ Amports for 15 years (I'm 16), my dad like 10 or 12 years. My dad also has a baccalaureate degree in Cyber Security where he tried to apply for jobs, but he "doesn't have enough experience " like hello! Then give him some. Smh. I'm thinking about getting a job, but I have so much on my plate. I'm in AP classes, I clean, cook dinner bc they don't come out of work until 5 or 6 sometimes and even dont ever get a day-of-rest (which is against the Labor Code) i.e they worked 12 days straight so far. Once my mom worked 20 days straight. That's not right, but that's all she knows how to do. She knows that facility inside out. And she might not get hired. So idk what to do. Plz help!

Question: Help I need some ideas.?

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 10:18 PM PST

I need some ideas on how to get out of attending my family's xmas get together on Saturday. My reasoning behind that is I do not want to see my brother. Because for years my brother drug me through psychological barbwire and was not there for me when I was at my most vulnerable. I feel like he turned people against me (including my now former best friend who is now really close to him), and he uses people for his personal gain (me included). Because of this I have gained a immense resentment of him and because we are both adults had decided that i did not want to ever see him again. But naturally 5 months after I decided this and bid him goodbye he will be at our family Xmas dinner. But I just can't say that I'm not coming because I don't want to see him. That would cause a $hit-show of an argument between my dad, step-mom and I. So please give me some ideas that don't state "Be the bigger person and go" or any variation of that.

Question: I feel like my mom doesn't care about me?

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 09:48 PM PST

I'm currently 15, living with my dad and step mom. My real mom lives hours away since my step mom forced me to move so she could be with her family.. My mom didn't really take care of me when I was little, she did drugs, and would have creepy people over. When I was little my brothers and I lived with her. My big brother was underweight and looked sick, I was also very thin, but not as bad as he was. My little brother who was just a baby at the time was adopted by a girl who won't let him speak with his real family. My older brother got sexually abused by a girl who babysat us, I was little so can't remember too much, but I remember watching her friend overdose. I didnt understand what happened at the time though. My older brother did go to be with his real dad and I left to be with mine. My mom would go years without contacting me at a time. Whenever she says she stopped the drugs I don't believe her. It doesn't even feel like she's my mom, she just seems like a stranger I see every so often. I don't want to have a step mom, I want my real mom to be there and not lie to me about everything being ok when it's not. I sometimes wonder, does she care about me honestly? Or is her saying she loves me another lie? What do you think? Be honest, please.

Question: Can I ask my parents to stop having sex until I move out?

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 09:40 PM PST

I am 23 and living at home with parents--I graduated from college but was diagnosed with a few difficult chronic illnesses. And I am not yet well enough to move out. I hear my parents having sex every once in awhile (I m glad they re in love still) but I can t sleep when they do (and sleep is really important in helping me feel better). I also get really tense and anxious that I will hear them when I go bed too, which also doesn t help my symptoms. I obviously don t want to hear them-- talk about scaring! I am an adult and I am willing suck up how uncomfortable it would be to talk to them. But I am very worries that asking them to not have sex (in the house or while I am home) might back-fire and they might get angry that I invaded such a personal topic. Help!

Question: My mom yells at me when im talking on the phone?

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 09:31 PM PST

its so embarrassing and my friends always seem concerned. My mom is usually good except when I talk on the phone she always has something to yell at me for. I've explained this to her before that it makes us look bad and she doesn't stop she doesn't act like this in private so why embarrass me

Question: Will my grandma be okay?

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 08:49 PM PST

I'm so worried for her she's going to the Czech Republic by plane and she was supposed to leave at 10 PM but it was delayed because they had to fix the plane because the engine broke and I'm scared the plane won't be fixed and it will crash

Question: My brother coming home after over a year for Xmas,but you're being dragged off to Wisconsin for Xmas w/ ur husband?

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 08:33 PM PST

My brother who was finally found not guilty (Praise the Lord) who was supposed to serve 5 years in prison who we havent seen in 21 months since I was still preg with my son is coming home Fri but my husband and I are going to Milwaukee for xmas with our 1 yr old son. Right after my brother was locked up back in mid Mar '16 my husband started spazing out on me and seems like he started doing so b/c he knew my brother was nowhere around to lay hands on him and my parents would only tell me to come home to them. I have a lot of guy cousins and my brother has a lot of friends that r like big brother's to me, but nothing like ur big bro standing in ur corner. He told me to get the **** out back in March of 2016 at 2:45 am and tried to throw a bar stool at me. I was 36 wks pregnant and I swiped my keys and phone and waddled down 3 flights of stairs to my car barefoot in my pjs and went home to my parents, then after pur son was born, 3days after bringing him home he told me he had anger issues and he didn't like my parents and that he wouldn't go to counseling as long as i don't make him mad.so last Oct he threatened to kill my parents. This past july he threaten to shoot himself in the head if i took my son w/ me to my parents house for the evening. His fam all lives in wi except his Aunt and cousins who live down here. He and his mom and gma are very stoic ppl. His parents r divorced, both ex crack addicts, beat his sisters.i jus had teeth pulled and in stitches. #Dontwannago

Question: Why does this keep happening to me? Is it a sign of some sort of trauma?

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 07:24 PM PST

I live in a gated community with my step-dad and my mom. I go to a nice school in long island and have lots of friends. I do smoke weed and some other substances every once in a while however the other substances have been purely experimental and aren't frequent. The marijuana is frequent. My father is in prison for drug traficking but it has never had an emotonal impact on me I tend to surpress it. I love my step father he basically raised me however he is verbally abusive sometimes he loves me but he will say things like "im going to bash your head through a wall" the worst beatng he probably has given me was when he threw me down my steps by my hair and stuck a wrench in my mouth and threatened to pull my teeth out this was because i had snuck out i was in 8th grade. He doesnt get physical unless im in trouble but he will constantly threaten me with stuff like "im going to knock your teeth out" most of the time uncalled for whenever he says things like this i get the chills even when i get a phone call i get the chills or when he says something in a certain tone why does this happen? is it possible i have trauma from the beatings? UPDATE: I meant to say that whenever i get a phone call i get th chills because whenever he calls me on the phone it isn't usually positive so even hearing the ring tone can in a sense "trigger" me another update: by chills i mean more like shaking like my whole body j starts shaking

Question: Why does she attack me and not others?

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 06:15 PM PST

so my cousin constantly picks on me almost everyday but she doesnt do it to other relatives. Someone said a joke about something and i added something to it and she starts yelling at me attacking me but she didnt say anything to the person who started the joke. She made me seem like a bully when shes a bully herself. me and my sister would make the same mistake and she'll attack me and not my sister at all. She yells all in my face and isnt afraid to stand up to me but she backs down to everyone else.i even stand up to her but she just gets worse and worse.

Question: Should I address it or just get over it?

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 05:56 PM PST

Long story short I left to go away to college and the next day after I left, my parents moved (into my bedroom) a German foreign exchange student. They literally decided to host a foreign exchange student 2 weeks before she came. My mom was the only one who was on board with the decision. My dad said nothing even though I knew he wasn't completely for it. They were only supposed to be the welcome family (host family for a month) and then decided to host her the whole year. It wasn't until last month when my mom again decided that they should have stayed just the welcome family, due to personality clashing. The exchange student left today but my mom didn't even wait for the host coordinator to pick her up. I know my mom knows that it probably wasn't the best decision to host her, but for some reason the whole situation bothers me (even after she left). I don't want to make my mom feel bad but I don't want to harbor negative feelings towards her. Should I just let it go, or tell her that it bothered me?

Question: Should i be embarassed of my moms age?

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 05:49 PM PST

My mom is 27 and i am 13. I think she is way too young to be my mom, i mean come on. She isn't even a fully grown adult yet. All of my friends make fun of me because they thought she was my sister. She was born in 1990 and i was born in 2004 and that is literally not even 2 decades a part. isn't that embarassing? Do you think i am right to feel embarassed? I really hate this.

Question: Should I live for what makes me happy or For my Parents Praise?

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 05:45 PM PST

Ive met a man who Ive completely clicked with, Im laughing all day and I think I've truly found someone who could actually work for me. The only issue is my parents dont support it because he's been in a serious relationship before and I haven't. He's 28 and I'm 19. My parents aren't fond of the Age gap, but they are happy he's White???? I don't understand, If he makes me happy then whats the issue? All of my friends are saying to just do what makes me happy but Im worried my parents will Disown me or get super mad. Ive been very close to my family, and I even had a Down to earth totally honest conversation with my mother about him, and how happy he makes me. and my mom just keeps telling me it's a Mistake..What should I do?

Question: Should a father charge his son rent?

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 04:55 PM PST

A little background. I am almost 19. I just got my first job at Shoney's restaurant. I didn't start work earlier because I suffer from anxiety really bad and had a fight with depression from age 16-17 after my mom passed. I still live at home. The other day my dad said "I'm going to start charging you rent next month.. it's going to be $200 and if you don't pay it, I'll evict you.. I'm serious" I told him that was cruel and unfair. He said "the world is cruel and unfair" and he said "if you don't pay watch and see what happens... I want it the 4th of every month.. $200" and he made me sign a 2 page agreement stating I was a tenant. I'm his son!! Not a tenant. I feel so bad about this and I don't have any friends here that I can live with.. I only have a friend in New York who said I could go there and move in with them for free as long as I found a job and was working. But that's New York. I want to stay here where I'm from in Ohio. Should I try to talk to my dad about this and reason with him? Could someone tell me how to talk to him?

Question: How do I convince my parents to get me a phone?

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 04:48 PM PST

Hi! I'm in high school and I'm a really good student/child. I do my chores (my parent's don't give me allowance) and I get good grades. I'm really responsible too because I have four younger siblings (I'm the oldest) and I always have to babysit or watch them. I currently have a GPA of 4.1 and since seventh grade, my GPA's have always been 3.9 or higher. I'm in lots of extra-school stuff (student council, volleyball, basketball, band, cheerleading, etc.) and I'm always busy and my dad always has to pick me up! I think that I'm a decent student compared to the others in my grade (smoking, drinking, sex, etc.) and I really want/need a phone! I have a laptop and an IPad that's like four years old, LOL. Anyways, I really want a phone to call/message and stuff. Also, my friends always want to hang out or text me, but I only have Instagram and Snapchat, and usually the group chats are on text, so they have to bother using SC or IG just to include me (which is really nice!) I've been trying to convince my parents for over two years to get me a phone :(( I simply just want an IPhone 6, at least. Sorry for my literal life story, but any tips on how to convince my parents to get me a phone? Thanks for reading. Oops, spelled a few things wrong in there, but whatever, I guess!! :)) I don't have a job because I can't drive yet @Star_of_Darkness and there's really no places near (walking distance) for me to work at.

Question: Why don't women value a hard working faithful smart man until they are older?

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 04:24 PM PST

In college many women laughed at me and mocked me when I told them I wanted to be a father and that I had a full time job and was conservative Christian. Yet as I've gotten older into my 30s, many women appreciate it a lot that I'm a good father to my son and I have a good job and go to church with my son every week

Question: Why are they still trying to get me to talk to my racist mother? (Sorry it's so long)?

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 04:09 PM PST

My boyfriend and his son are African American and I'm Asian. When we began dating in '16 my mom told me that she was okay with it because according to her 'it was a phase I was going through' when she met his son and realized how serious we were getting she told me that I should end it, because "African Americans and Asians don't belong together romantically" After telling her how racist she was being we left. My mom and I haven't spoken to one another since that convo, we blocked my mom from everything and since we have done that my sister is now telling me that since I chose love over family that I'm no longer apart of the family (I could care less though) My other brother tells me that I didn't do the right thing by blocking her from my life, and that since my bf is black "he'll leave me as soon as I'm pregnant" which I find stereotypical and racist & my other brother is telling me that I shouldn't be so stupid and in love with someone outside of my race and that I should reconnect with our mother because "she knows best" Even my father is trying to get me talk to her again and they're divorced! According to him I should honor my mother's wishes and leave my boyfriend which is so not happening because I love him and he loves me. I'm scared to announce that I'm pregnant to my friends because they know my brothers and sister and I have no desire to tell my family I'm pregnant because they'll want me to abort the baby because of who I'm pregnant by. Nivera. - I'm not going to ever let her be a part of my life again, why would I want someone like her in my life again? Just because she's my mom doesn't mean that she deserves to be in my life

Question: Should I take my son to see his dad ? Answers please !?

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 03:43 PM PST

My sons dad is wanted and marked as armed and dangerous. He was charged with armed robbery & assult . The car he was driving during the crime was in my name so I am being sued by the car delarship for the damages. Police officers , private investigators &a U.S marshalls have come to my parents house and mine questioning me about his whereabouts . Since the incident he has seen his son maybe 3 times (our son is 1) today he asked me could I bring him our son and says that he has Christmas gifts for him and gifts for me too. He even asked me to get him something for Christmas . Earlier this week we made an agreement that he will see his son on Christmas Day . I told him I don't think it's safe to bring him to him twice so closely like that because he is still marked as armed and dangerous and not only that I'm taking risk anyway by allowing him to still see his son . He got upset and say I'm a selfish dumb ***** for not making it so his son can see his son as much as possible before he turns himself in but I told him other parent wouldn't have their child around him at all during this time and I feel like I'm being as nice as possible . Do you guys think I'm being unreasonable?

Question: Do I have a right to not communicate with my in-laws?

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 03:30 PM PST

20 years ago I moved here from another country. I have a happy family - my husband and 2 kids. The rest of my family is overseas. My in-laws attended our wedding and chose to keep a very big distance. They lived only 100km from us, but NEVER came for a visit even when the grandkids were born. For a good 5-7 years we couldn't afford a second car so I couldn't drive to them. And my hubby works out of town and has his car with him. There was NEVER any help whatsoever. Not financial, not physical, not even a phone call. My kids don't know their grandparents. Last year they suddenly invited us for Christmas. We went... and regretted it very quickly. There were a few neighbours there as well to whom they paid a lot more attention than to their son. They were so boasting about giving neighbours kids iPhones for Christmas and their own grandchildren got a pat on a head. Each... Last week we got the news that the in-laws split up and the mother wants to come to stay with us for a few weeks while her new house is getting built. I say not a chance! Do you feel I have a right to do so?

Question: I got a C on two of my finals and my mom is so mad at me. Its my very first time doing finals and she knows! Do my parents hate me??

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 03:20 PM PST

Theres no way to fix it!!! It the end of semester 1 and they choose to punish me instead of help me

Question: I don't like my birthday gifts?

Posted: 20 Dec 2017 02:46 PM PST

Please hear me out. I'm 14 (recently had my 14th birthday). I just feel that whenever I get a gift its not actually my gift. What I mean by that is that my parents only buy something if they can use it. I ended up getting an amazon echo but the only thing is, I am not allowed to use it in case I "break it." So they only get things if it is useful for them or benefits them. I've never gotten a christmas present ever. I feel kind of frustrated though because most of my friends' parents earn around 80k (£) per year and they manage to get presents but my parents earn 500k per year and they are always complaining that I am spoilt and I always get expensive things. NONE of the expensive things I own are from my parents. My phone? A used iphone 4 which I earned with my own money. My laptop? My auntie got me it? Headphones? My friends. I just feel so jealous when my friends always go on about the presents they've got whilst I am stuck with one "present" which I am not allowed to use and I'm not even allowed to play games with the alexa. We are going to disneyland paris this christmas but guess who saved up for ALL the tickets and parks and rides and plane journeys? Me. And apparently disney is my christmas present but technically I'm paying for the whole trip. I can only afford it because I have saved a bunch of money from odd jobs since I was around 7. But I just want one present which is actually meant for me.