We were going to get married in April but I found out some things about my SO and realized how abusive my SO is. We live together and I am looking into moving to somewhere else. My friend agreed to be my roommate but I have to get a job closer to where my friend is Furst. *first

I have a friend who I've completely fallen for, but he's married. I respect his marriage and family. He and I have always flirted, but nothing too crazy or inappropriate. I've started calling him "bro" and referring to him as "the big brother I've never had" (my actual brothers treat me like crap), just to make sure that nor he or his wife suspect my feelings for him. Is that weird to bro-zone your crush? Do you think they'll start buying that I see him as a brother? Plus, I like or comment on almost all of his posts so I am sure somebody has noticed and been like "does she have a crush on you or something?" lol so gotta prevent rumors and such!

One of the sweetest women in the world happens to be my almost mother in law. She also happens to be getting a divorce from a man who has lied, deceived, and controlled her for 35++ years. They were high school sweethearts and he finally did something that put the kids in jeopardy and she formed the strength to tell him to get out. She truly is one of the strongest and most caring women I have ever met. Because he controlled her for so long she missed out on so much. Prom, parties, family events, and he even kept her from going to college and furthering and bettering her life. He instead convinced her that she was choosing love. Now that she actually is choosing love, we want to get her something that reminds her it isn t her fault. Something to offer reassurance and guidance. Nothing can make up for that lost time, but we want her to know it wasn t all a waste. Anyone have any advice of books or anything that would help us achieve this?

In Nevada or Wisconsin can I enter into marriage. Or do I have to wait till Feb 2018 to do so..

I needed a beautician and was not having any luck finding one. Ishared this with my husband who referred me to a client of his. He is a tax preparer. I went to this young lady with healthy long hair and 1 month later my hair is damaged and short. I explained to the beautician my dissatisfaction with her work in a dignified matter, and the ghetto fool became upset with me. She then began to harass me since I left an honest bad review on her page by having her ghetto friends contact me, posting my number online & posting my pictures that I did not give her permission to do. I have nothing else to say to her but told my husband to tell her to take my number and pictures down. He refuses. Instead he is trying to mediate and remain neutral but admits my hair looks awful after she tried to repair it with a horrible cut. His lack of protection saddens me.I do not want him to be rude, but to tell that woman she is out of line & take my personal things down. He refuses. Instead he is arguing with me saying she is not going to be his client anymore if he tells her to stop. So what?? Lose a client. She s not worth having if she is an irrational idiot. I would NEVER allow anyone to disrespect him and I have stepped in plenty of his disputes and defended him. He is pathetic and spineless. I really am disgusted with him. A big part of me wishes he would meet with an unfortunate accident and die.

My ex brought so much joy and excitement to my life (quality) she made me feel like a new man. I knew she loved me for who I am but I married the woman I have been with for years just because we had history (quantity). I'm miserable with my wife and I want my ex back.

In the United States, is it legal to marry your sister or cousin? My sister and I want to get married. How do they proof you?

She was my best friend but she did not tell me she was getting married. I heard it from other people. I know her and the boyfriend have been together for more than 12 years

My husband has been seeing his mistress for over a year, he doesn't know that I know. I don't know anything about her because she's saved under a guy's name in his phone, but I do know that they talk every single day and they obviously have strong feelings for each other because they talk so romantically and sexually. He's told her that he loves her and she is apparently "head over heels" in love with him too. We went on a 7 day vacation with our two daughters (19 & 23) and he told his mistress that he missed her.....While he's supposed to be spending quality time with us. They usually send 30+ messages to each other every day but while on vacation they only said good morning and goodnight, and a message here and there. We had so much fun, he kept kissing me and holding my hand and smiling with our daughters. I know he had a good time but it breaks my heart that he was missing her while he was with us. I'm just ranting here because I can't rant anywhere else... like I said he doesn't know that I know about the affair. I won't divorce him, I know he loves us (he even tells his mistress that he could never leave me and our daughters and home) so it just hurts that he's doing this. I'm making myself anonymous because I contribute to this section often and I don't want anyone to know who I am now.

Marrying a guy who expects you to full-fill the duties of a house wife, which include cooking for him, cleaning after him, taking care of his laundry and sexual needs and on top of that, expects you to pay half of the household expenses. Or do you rather a roommate/ fuckbudy who only expects you to pay half the bills.

He has waited for me a long time because he knows I've had past sexual abuse. I think I'm at a point where I want to give myself to him completely. Do you think I should tell him in advance and ask him to set up a romantic setting with candles, rose petals, etc so it can be special, or would that be too much pressure? You think next time we're cuddling and getting close I should just tell him I'm ready and start taking it further?

My husband snores like a train when were both in the same bed. When we sleep separately he doesn t snore at all. I m OK with separate beds but he demands that we sleep together. I think he s getting better rest when he sleeps alone and that s why he doesn t snore, I definitely get better rest sleeping away from the snoring. Is it wrong for me to want separate beds?

Is it safe to say "he will never change, accept him for who he is" or is it totally unexceptable to keep things/forget to tell your wife things?

I'm 24 & my husband is 26. We dated for 8 years and I've been married for 2 years. I was very in love with him before but Marriage was more of a convenience. I'm almost certain that I don't want to be with him. I feel as if I can't be myself around him. We have the same conversations and he's boring and judgmental. I'm a professional but when I have fun I like to let loose and he always throws it my face and calls me names. I'd like to go out with my husband and tell him everything but he makes it hard. He doesn't like any of my friends and makes It so obvious. He doesn't even give them a chance. There is no sexual connection. I tell him to date other women but he doesn't. I am not sexually attracted to him. We haven't had sex in 3 years. I told him that I didn't want to share bedrooms about 2 years ago. I told him that I'm looking for a new apartment and he seemed very upset. It's like he's waiting for me to come around. I just don't understand him. I love him very much more than anyone but I'm not in love with him. We can legally divorce after 2 years but I'd like to separate now. I don't know why he's not getting it. I've told him before that I don't want to be with him. What should I do?

He has a Masters degree, I helped him earn it. He works for $11/hr substituting. His wages are always low or he is unemployed. I find clothing outside of donation bins and fix/sell them for money to support my family. I am gifting my children with trash finds for Christmas and we have to live on government programs. Our cars usually get repossessed after he loses his job or gets cut back. He has a K-3 teaching license but now wants me to pay for him to become a CNA and he just passed tests to add on a special education teaching endorsement. He will get interviews, he had 30 interviews, but blew each one. I have been living like this for years just scrambled to support my family as I can support us even when it comes to selling trash finds to keep us alive. I just cannot do it anymore. I am not an ugly woman by any means in personality and in looks. I am very giving and kind. I want that out of a man. I don't want to be a gold digger but I also don't want to be used and not cared for equally. I am thinking about taking our young children ages 5 and 2 and leaving the relationship. I don't want to do it, but I just cannot stress anymore about him and his lack of work. I feel I could support them better getting TANF to stabilize us while I get daycare assistance to move into a full time position. I would also go to the courts for child support, but I know given that he doesn't want to work how much of a joke that would be. I really don't know what to do. Any advice? I held out for so long because he kept promising once he had this teaching license he'd get a better job teaching. He got the license, nothing. Then he needed the SPED endorsement because he likes subbing in ESE rooms, nothing. Now he thinks he would do better in nursing and complains it is because of this factor or that factor that he cannot get a job outside of the temp. agency he subs for. I have held on for years and now he crossed the finish line and it is still the same game! And it isn't location. Over the past decade of him earning this degree and license we have lived in various areas. He went jobless for half of our relationship and the other half has all been low wage earning jobs like fast food, paraeducating, or temp. agency work. He never goes above and beyond it is always low skill work. I know he isn't this much of a loser he just wants easy jobs. It is a lazy preference factor. He always says "work smart not hard" and I think he believes eeking is ok.

My husband ALWAYS neglects to tell me things that end up coming up later and making me question his honesty. I can name 10 different scenarios where we keep running into this problem because he didn't feel like it was necessary to fill me in or just forgot. I told him I am his wife and there shouldn't be any secrets and nothing but a good line of communication between us, especially now that we have our son. Just recently I found out he has been smoking cigarettes from time to time at work throughout our whole relationship and I had NO idea (even during my entire pregnancy). He even would even make comments saying how cigarettes are gross and he's glad he doesn't smoke anymore. I'm at my wits end as I feel he is a habitual liar! We have only been married 8 months but together for almost two years. Should I stick it out and try to work it out or is it obvious "he is who he is?" He is 35, I am 25...

I do everything he wants to make him happy. Cook for him, bake, go see movies he wants to see, watch TV shows he wants to watch. IT doesn't bother me because I love him and enjoy doing things to make him happy. I will point out the positives in my husband, before the negatives. He is hardworking, will do anything to provide and we are looking to start a family soon. Weve been married only a few months so far. Can be loving and cuddly at times ( when he's in the mood). Very loyal, never cheated and i have faith he would never. However, he is very selfish when it comes to doing things i want to do. I am a star wars fan, and the new movie came out this weekend. I want to go see it and he refuses to go see it with me. He says he hates star wars and can't sit through it. I never ask him to do much that i want , but whenever its something he doesn't want to do I'm shot down. He's like going with another friend or ask you're dad. all my friends are recently married with little kids, its hard for me to make plans with them to see a movie, and most aren't into star wars like me. Also, when we were in italy for our honeymoon , i wanted to do go see the coliseum while we were in Rome and he didn't want to , so we argued over that. I said we have to , were in Rome, and he's like no i hate crowds, finally he gave in, but was cranky the whole time. I just feel he should give in more , as i would for him , and do some things to make me happy.

We have been married 24 years I am 46 he is 49. Our sex life had become less exciting after all these years. So when a friend of mine mentioned that they were into swinging for the last 5 years and how it revitalized there sex life it sound like just the thing. Did not go for it immediately spoke with her offer a few months about it and decided to bring it up to my husband. He was against it but over another couple months got him to at least agree to attend a party my friend was having. Well one thing led to another at that party and I thought my husband was onboard so while he was chatting with another women and look like they might be heading off to have sex I went off with another gentlemen. Well I had misread he was just being nice and when had not seen him or women he was talking to figure they had retired to a room. But what actually had happened is he had went to bathroom. Once he came back and started looking for me and found me I was in the middle of having sex with two guys and another women. He blew up and left before I could even get dressed to catch him. Since than he has moved into guest room. I told him it was mistake explained my thought process and apologized. Am at wits end do not have clue how to fix this. We still have 2 kids at home 16 and 12 year old. They know something is not right obviously.

Wife has taken shower every 2 or 3 days and now after being married 30 years starts showering every day. should I think something is going on.

We've been married for 3 years, together for 7, we have a 16 month old son and I thought we were going to be together forever. Last week he decided that apparently I'm boring so he went and had unprotected sex with a girl he just met. Then had the gall to ask me if I would be okay with sharing him with her. So I'm done, but I have SEVERE anxiety, Severe abandonment issues and I'm Terrified of being alone for the rest of my life. So I'm scared that when he gets home tomorrow I'm going to clam up and cry instead of asking for a divorce. I need help and support if possible. He's my first real boyfriend, first kiss, first everything. He stood by my side when I was raped and while I had to watch my mom die of cancer and I'm terrified of what life will be like without him. But staying isn't an option anymore. I want this to be civil for our son.

When discussing money problems, he hit the bed and said to me, "I will break your freaking phone and laptop if I have to. I will get a gun and shoot them." When I asked him later why he said those things, he said that he was just frustrated and that he wouldn't do them. Another time he bent a pen out of frustration. I usually have to do what he wants to do instead of what I want to do. Things are mostly "me, me, me" with him. Now I love my husband dearly, but I'm honestly kind of worried that he might actually start abusing me... BQ: Is a marriage counselor in dire need?

My company does its holiday party in style. We have offices in Portland, Oregon, the SF Bay Area, and Denver. We have 1 holiday party for all 3 offices, and we rotate the location each year. This year, it's in Portland, which is where we live. My wife and I had a baby in April. Normally my wife comes to these, but this time she's not, even though it's local. My wife doesn't want to hire a babysitter, and her parents are out of town. My wife wants me to drive to the party (10 miles away), and come back right after dinner. Our holiday parties entail free food, and free drinks. Everyone gets drunk and has a great time, even senior management and the president of the firm. It would be kind of a waste if I left early. The Uber ride will be covered too. I asked my wife "What about next year, when we will be gone the full weekend when it's in Denver?" She said "Uhhhh, we ain't going to a holiday party in another city. You have responsibilities now." I said "Uhhh, others in the company have kids too. They still come. It's a free weekend getaway, it's stupid to turn it down." How can I get my wife to stop being such a grouch?

He has opened up about not loving himself & couldn't love anyone else, how I felt like home, sends sexts & hasn't been with anyone since me. He quit his job & has become unhealthy. What should I do I still love him although he is not good for me

I'm a very patient husband, but this is getting old..

Why don't I want to have sex with my husband? I am 22 and married at 20. He is the first person I ever slept with. I used to have a large sex drive and was in love with one guy for years but when things didn't work out I was really depressed and lost my urge for sex altogether. I married 2 years after that breakup to my now husband out of fear I would never find someone. I do love my husband for the person he is, I just never really have had a longing to sleep with him and do so to satisfy him. He is extremely caring, great looking and a wonderful guy. I just try to avoid sex whenever i can. I pretty much think I got over my first love, I think about him no and then, I assume the situation was quite a traumatic situation and I never regained my lust back and that scares me.