Family: Question: My dad hit my mom?

Question: My dad hit my mom?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 12:46 PM PST

So my dad likes to play around too much pysically and i dont like when he does it nor does my mother. so my mom was cooking for christmas and we were all joking around with family sitting in the living room and my dad like hurt my mom so my mom hit him back cause her glasses flew and then my dad slapped my mom infront of everyone. and now im started to tear up because my mom just left crying into the bathroom. what should i do?

Question: My sister is unhealthy and I want her to feel better?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 12:12 PM PST

She's 22 years old, and she weighs 82 pounds. She eats SO much but she's just naturally so tiny. How can I help her? This constantly bothers her and I want to help her.

Question: I'm so mad at my mom?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 11:31 AM PST

My mom make me want to move to another neighborhood all because she thinks black people be doing bad things (I live in a black neighborhood and it not bad) Im so sick her racist stuff. I keep trying to tell her I like it here but she wont listen and dont care. Im really pissed off here. All i see is kids playing around their private but my mom always be overreacting stuff. Please help me. BTW I'm 15 and were both black.

Question: Mom s affection makes me uncomfortable?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 11:24 AM PST

It gives me this uncomfortable feeling whenever my mom says she loves me all of a sudden, she rarely says it but when there s a special occasion for example; my birthday, she would hug me and tell me she loves me so much but it just makes me want to hide from her, and another example, she would text me I love you my daughtger and It makes me so uncomfortable! And I would choke as I force myself to text her an i love you too back! Don t get me wrong, I love my mother and care about her so much more than anyone, but I am not used to her sudden affections, it gets to the point where I actually prefer her violent and always-angry persona, whenever my mother gives me her affections I just don t know how to respond! And at the end she just gets disappointed at me for my lack of reaction, Any advice?

Question: Why Does My Family Think I Like Like My 1st Cousin Once Removed?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 11:24 AM PST

Okay I Have a Cousin Who Is My Dads 1st Cousin Which Makes Her My 1st Cousin Once Removed And She Is The Same Age As Me Although We are Like 4 Months Apart And My Parents Think I Like Like Her Due To The Fact That I Always Want To Have Conversations With Her At All Family Gatherings My Dad Says Hes So Nervous With My Behaviors and Actions So Why Do My Parents Think I Like Like My 1st Cousin Once Removed Please Tell Me In Your Answers Asap Thank You

Question: Abusive dad?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 11:09 AM PST

so it's Christmas Day! How Fun!!! not for me. i thought for once it was going to be a nice christmas with my DAD. but of course, he finds some exuse to completely make a good memory of a christmas dat to a horrible day. i'm 12, we were eating and i forgot to get vegetables bc they were in the other side of the table. i was GOING to eat some but my dad starts screaming to go to my room, i said no and that i would eat them, he picked me up, swung me around in like 2 complete circles, and threw me. then shoved me into my room and threw me on the floor hitting my head on the corner of my very sharp dresser. then i got up (bc all that just happened i was screaming and crying) then i said that i would brake the door so i put my back to it and started kicking it as hard as i can (i've broke a few doors doing this) so he SWUNG the door open hitting me then pinning me against the wall, then he grabs me and throws me (again with the dresser sharp corner) and that happens a few times. i tried to hit him to get him off me a few times but he smacked my hands away really hard. now i'm still extremely shook up bc it just happened. this happens pretty often but every time there is a holiday or birthday or vacation or something like that he will find something that i did to do this. he has me in my room with the door closed and won't let my mom in. he says he "was calm" and i say he WAS NOT but she thinks i'm lying even though she's seen it happen a few times. (look in comments)

Question: Who was wrong here?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 10:44 AM PST

So my dad is mad at me. So I'm 15 and my sister is 22. Me, her, and our parents are going to our Grandma's today for Christmas. While my sister was getting ready, my parents and I went to put some Christmas presents in her trunk. Her trunk was filled with clutter, and my dad took two books out of it and threw them away to make room. I immediately went and told my sister this, and she asked mom what dad threw away. My dad heard this and yelled at me for telling her. He left alone and now we're still getting ready. My sister later got the books and put them back. My sister said after that it was right of me to tell her because those two books belonged to her friend and she could've been in big trouble if she lost them. Who was wrong here? I think my dad is being a moron. Not that it's unusual for him.

Question: My Dad is drunk, how do I sober him up before the extended family comes for dinner tonight?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 10:22 AM PST

He has been binging all day

Question: My aunt won't come to family events cause of a feud where she likes to play victim. How do we reach out to her children?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 10:21 AM PST

Her children miss out on extended family ties now.

Question: My Dad is very arrogant. How do I correct this so we can have a relationship?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 10:20 AM PST

Question: Does my computer have a virus? What do I do?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 10:15 AM PST

So basically I was playing computer games then The game suddenly exited out and a cmd window popped up saying "I can see you ahah" and then a picture of me from the computer camera popped up and my background on computer was changed to a baby with no eyes then it shut down

Question: What to do...I got the same Christmas gift from my mom and mother in law. Now everyone’s mad.?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 10:00 AM PST

We spend half of Christmas at my moms and the other at my in laws. We went to moms first and she got me a kitchen aid mixer. I was so excited about it, didn't expect to get one either! Then my husband tells me later that is what his mom got me as well. He let his mom know, now she's mad bc she said about a month ago she told my mom that's what she got me for xmas. My mom is not a vindictive person by no means. I think she just didn't hear her correctly bc we were at a loud restaurant when she told her. My mom has no idea about anything, we are driving to my in laws right now. How do I handle this and not hurt anyone's feelings?

Question: Does this person need jail time , or are they mentally ill and need help of a different kind?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 09:35 AM PST

An adult male who physically assaults and batters his senior aged mother. She provokes him and pushes him to his limits though.

Question: I love my boyfriend but he never has money and he wakes up at 2pm everyday and we have to rely on his mom for everything?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 09:07 AM PST

I love him and now I'm pregnant and my mom kicked me out even though I'm 28 because she doesn't want to raise another person's kid. My boyfriend stays up all night with his friends then sleeps till 2 and tells me to go hang out with his mom for everything while he sleeps or chills with his friends. My time is running out to have kids I just want to know is this normal behavior or I'm being selfish? He works at warehouse on and off seasons but basically rely on his mom for food, beer, and now the babys stuff. I get bored when I wake up so early we have different schedules and I used to love hanging out with my mom bit now she's angry I'm having a baby by him so now I have his mom but she's not as cool as my mom and tells me to just sit around and let my boyfriend sleep. What can I do I hate relying and asking his mom for anything I rather ask him for it but he is either sleeping or not wanting to hang out in the house with me

Question: Am I wrong for disliking my family?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 08:53 AM PST

I'm a 16 year old junior in high school and i can't stand any of my family. I live with two older sisters (24&29) and my mom. My oldest sister is schizophrenic, fake, and gross. She's unhygienic, refuses to clean, hasn't graduated college or made any accomplishments, always is asking my mom for money, doesnt know how to cook and throws a fit any time my mom asks her to do even one little thing. My second sister (24) is the worst. She's condescending as she's always talking down on me and judging me, she admitted to thinking she was above me because she's an adult and I'm not, shes inconsiderate, has a shitty Attitude and is always budding into other people's business. Her and my mom are a team and basically bully me together. I'm repeatedly told my feelings don't matter and that whatever I'm upset about it isn't that serious. I have anger issues but I've noticed I only blow things out of proportion and escalate things with my family, as my feelings are never considered and I get hit for vocalizing the way I feel. We've already been to counseling and my mom still doesn't try to improve the relationship even though I've already fixed the things I could on my part. Nobody cares about how I feel in this family so my goal is to graduate next year and cut off all contact when I go to a diff state. Am I wrong for hating them and feeling this way?

Question: My mom really hurts me...?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 08:51 AM PST

this is just to get out my emotions.. I have been doing whatever makes my mom happy for days. I don't talk back, I get what she wants. However... she really hates me. I opened a soda pop and she yelled at me. I get it if shes doing it for my good. But to yell at me for something she didn't say not to do is... scary. She keeps talking about how she hates me and how bad of a person I am. she never takes the time to talk to me.. she is never nice to me. And tbh. I'm hurting. She takes my phone away all the time.

Question: Signed property papers over to my daughter by mistake?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 08:47 AM PST

So my daughter told me to sign something and i was busy today because its christmas and i was making dinner and i signed my house over to my daughter by mistake my daughter tricked me i didnt read the property papers and she was laughing at me saying now this house is mine she is pure evil what do i do now it's Christmas and my husband just recovered from all his stress and worries i dont want to destroy the good vibes Is there anyway i can get my house back? She hid the papers i cant find them anywhere round the house I looked all over the house she is laughing family is round at my house i cant do anything

Question: At a Loss?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 08:26 AM PST

Its Christmas and My husband would rather sit in our room and watch pokemon then spend time with me and out daughter. He had a major fit when we went to my grandmothers for gifts. He then when we got home decided to say he is going to trash what he got; then proceed to tell me not to bother him at all today, or he will leave. He was a complete Jerk and now My daughter is extremely temperamental and flipping out.. Which he claims she needs put in her room and left there to scream it out.. He just doesn t want bothered. :-( I m exhausted.. I m at a loss.. I don t even know anymore and just want today to be ove

Question: My parents fought cause of me. My dad left?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 08:12 AM PST

So today (Dec. 25), I had to go to church in the noon then go to my cousin who is currently in the hospital with cancer. Me and my mom stayed there for 3 hours. So I got tired. It's been almost everyday since we've been going out. Then we went back home and mom said that my dad wants us to go out to buy gifts. I didn't wanna go cause I was really tired. So when my dad got home from work, he asked me if I wanted to come buy gifts, I said no. Then he left. Little did I know, that my mom and dad got into some fight. After dad left, mom came to my room with a sad aura, she said that she felt like dad wanted to have divorce. She FELT like. She asked if I wanted them to divorce, ofcourse I said no. Then mom said that when dad left, he said "Bahala kayong dalawa.", which is Filipino's language which means "I don't care, do what you want.". I felt devastated cause apparently this is all my fault for not coming. Mom walked out of my room and left. It's been 3 hours we haven't talked and it's been 3 hours and my dad hasn't come home yet. I'm really worried. I was always a child who was quite snobbish to their parents but still loved them with all my heart. As i grew older, talking to them became less, less and lesser. Now i'm really scared that they might divorce. Asides that, through my pre-teen years, i was closer to dad than my mom. So im really scared. I dont know what to do.

Question: Is it possible for 9-year old to feel suicidal?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 07:10 AM PST

My sister is panicking because her 9-year old daughter was trying to jump out the window. My sister has a tendency to catastrophize so I wanted to check.

Question: Am I Wrong for disliking/hating my family?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 06:14 AM PST

I'm 16 & live with my two older sisters (29 and 24) and my mom. The 29 y/o is schizophrenic and obnoxious and annoying. Extremely loud, she's fake. She'll hang out with you and be in your face but **** talk you when you're not around which is what all of my family does. Because of this I feel like they're not genuine. The 29 year old is lazy, refuses to clean, doesn't pay rent, doesn't know how to cook and constantly asks my mom for money but if my mom asks her to do one little favor she throws a fit . My other sister (24) is condescending. She's always judging me and talking down on me and has admitted that she's above me because she's an adult. She doesn't care about my feelings and teams up with my mom. She tells my mom to stop internalizing my feelings and they basically bully me. They tell me they don't care about what I have to say and hit me if I try to vocalize the way I feel. I hate them . I want to move away for college and cut off all contact. I do have anger issues and tend to escalate things but this only happens when I have to deal with them because I can never be understood . Am I wrong for feeling this way

Question: Are these good reasons to hate my family?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 04:11 AM PST

I'm 23, and thankfully I left for school to one of the best schools in the country for several years. My family life was always chaotic, with arguments between everyone. I would just visit for summers. My older sister was never supportive and seemed jealous she went to the local state school while I went away. Things became horrible when my dad passed away, and I had to move in with my mom and stepdad. Here is the thing that got me the most: My older sister took over the house we grew up in with rent control (my mom moved out), so she gets cheap rate because my mother's name is still on the lease. However, I found out when I came home for break, that I was not allowed to live there in my old room, unless I was paying rent (which I could not do while in school). Last summer, I was told I need to pay 1/3 of the rent, even though I was still in school and finishing up. Also, there was a ton of extra space in the house. Now that I've graduated, I found out that our random foreign cousin is living there for free. My friends all think this is unbelievable, yet my mother and sister can't come up with a good reason with sabotaging my living situation last summer, and my mom and I experienced huge arguments. I really do not want a relationship with my older sister because of this. Somehow everyone else I know think this is f*cked up..why is it a random relative can live there for free, but I had to live arguing with my mom constantly and demanded rent when I was in school?

Question: How to deal with bratty kid constantly calling me ugly?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 02:49 AM PST

Staying with family for Christmas. My 11 year old cousin has been calling me ugly nonstop since I got here. I've had enough. I've asked him nicely to stop, told him it's mean, told him he wouldn't like it if I did it to him so he shouldn't do it to me, got mad, he won't f*cking stop. It's really hurtful because I already have no self esteem and he says it CONSTANTLY. If I hear that f*cking word one more time I'm going to punch the disgusting little bully right in the face. His parents don't care, they just sit there and don't say anything. He's a spoilt brat. Someone please help before I do something bad. If I could go home I would.

Question: How can I open a present i hate but still be polite?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 02:18 AM PST

My aunt asked me to grab her purse out of her car so when i was out there i saw my present sitting on the seat and i was hoping no one would get me that. I know its for me because it was a remote control car and im the only boy in the house but i HATE those stupid fall apart in 5 minute piles of junk. So how can i be polite about it but NEVER USE IT? Thanks

Question: Have you ever lost a close family member?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 02:05 AM PST

I know it's not the best time to ask on Christmas but it just isn't the same when someone in your family is no longer here. In fact, to me, it makes Christmas sadder. I lost my older brother at the age of 21 just two weeks ago. He came home one night and it was normal, then the next day, he got really sick, had a fit and died in hospital. Of course, we were really baffled. It turned out that the day before, he slipped and hit his head. He obviously thought nothing of it because he was fine that day apparently, and that was a big mistake. I wasn't really close to him but it's sad that this could have been prevented. Anything like this happen in your family?

Question: How do you deal with a jealous older sister? its very clear that she is and she always makes comments under her breath about me or at family?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 01:13 AM PST

parties she talks super loudly about me. my mom already knows too but doesnt do anything about it. i dont think talking to her would do anything or she continue even more

Question: Why are my parents so f@#$ing annoying and overly-dramatic and smothering?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 12:19 AM PST

I'm an only child. The son of a College professor in Mathematics and a nurse at a general hospital. I'm 20 years old. I'm a College student and a part-time associate at a Rite Aid Distribution Center. My parents were always so loving, especially my mother. She spoiled me rotten. But as I grew older, I wanted less and less to do with my parents. I didn't want to go to BBQ cookouts, birthday parties, holiday specials, family reunions, NOTHING. I didn't even want to celebrate holidays at home with my own family. I wanted NOTHING to do with them at all. I just wanted them to vanish out of my life. I once asked why my parents even had me. And they said that they wanted a child to love. They loved eachother and they had much more love to give and thus wanted to bring new life into the world to share that extra love with. I've decided to have NO involvement with my parents. I don't want any part of their lives and I don't want them to be a part of my life. I told them this, but yet and still, they made daily contacts with me. So I came over to their house and finally screamed at them to buzz off. And my mother finally said, with a hint of sadness in her voice, "Okay. We won't force you into our lives. If you want to cut us out of your life, that is your choice." As I closed the front door behind me as I left the house, I could hear my mother breaking down, crying immensely. And I just scoffed, thinking "what a drama queen!" What's her f#$@ing problem?

Question: How can I stand up to my father s terrifying tantrums over the holidays?

Posted: 25 Dec 2017 12:17 AM PST

I am an adult woman returning home for the holidays, and I m struggling to deal with my father s temper tantrums. He has an unpredictable temper and situations can devolve from perfectly pleasant to him screaming and swearing at my family, especially my mother, in a very short amount of time. Tonight, it was while we put the angel on top of the Christmas tree — my mother asked him to move, and he responded by shouting, "**** you. You re acting like my ******* mom, and you re not." She told him he was being rude, and he shouted back that /she/ was the rude one. He has had unpredictable mood swings and outbursts throughout my life, but they have never been this bad, and it s especially shocking/upsetting to deal with now that I live away from home and they are no longer a feature of my daily life. Being in the same house as him, everyone is on edge — we are constantly anxious and unable to tell when the next outburst might come. He does not drink and has never physically lashed out at us — he just gets very angry, very suddenly. He is relatively isolated from us otherwise and spends time alone watching TV when we are, for instance, wrapping presents. This is horrible behavior and completely unacceptable in a grown man, but I am usually too stunned and scared to say anything when it happens. How do I stand up to him and let him know I think he s behaving like (or maybe just is) a terrible person?

Question: How to Ignore My Annoying Sister?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 11:44 PM PST

I have an older sister who's 17 and really irritating. Here is a list of the things she does: -she tries to open my Christmas gifts when I tell her not to and she also tries to apply the makeup I received on her face even though I didn't give her permission. -whenever she's grumpy she always says it's because of me when I didn't even do anything. -if she doesn't get the thing she wants she starts ignoring everyone and acting b*tchy. -I think she's jealous of my hair. My hair is very long and changed color by itself so my aunt asked me "how did your hair change to that color? It looks good" and my sister replies "it's probably because she damaged it." She also pesters me to cut it even though it's none of her business. -whenever I buy a clothing item she doesn't like she criticizes it and tells me I should return it even though I didn't ask for her opinion. -so she added a classmate of mines who I know but she doesn't know on Facebook, but she didn't know that the girl had s*x with her boyfriend in the school bathroom, and after I told her that, she freaked out and deleted her off her friends list and vowed to delete her Facebook because she was traumatized that people were having s*x at this age. She's really naive. She probably thought highschoolers were perfect angels or something. -just now, she stole a few of my makeup items and walked off. She also adds random people she doesn't know on Facebook to look more popular.

Question: Mother talks badly bend everyones backs, what should I do?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 10:34 PM PST

My mother talks badly behind everyones backs (her sons(my brothers), My brothers wifes, her husbands, mine, etc) She has done this forever and I am sick of it. Im a grown adult now and thinking of cutting ties. I even caught her bad talking me to my roommate the other day. She denies doing it but it is hurtful. She has done this all of our lives but Im starting to grow tired of it now that Im out of the house. What should I do?

Question: Girls mature question?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 09:37 PM PST

I was once 18. My year long gf had to leave to college. We didn't break up until she was 3 months deep into college then she broke up with me. Then out of nowhere a year later she tried to get back into my life. We went on a date after a year break up. On this date i asked her if she dated anyone? she said "nothing serious". Since we never had sex since she said she was a virgin i was curious. She then wouldn't answer it and kept quite/hush mode. She then began to speed walk to get away from me/ignore my question. After this day she broke up with me completely. A year later today after this breakup fight we just started talking all over again. Right away off the bat she said "you just want to bang me be honest but your not so don't bother". Could she still be a virgin today? we are 21 today.

Question: Am I an abusive person?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 09:31 PM PST

I remember my parents being lovable with me and I also remember some things that hurt. Mostly from my dad, I remember him calling me a ***** because I dated someone I met online from school, druggie every time he saw me taking a pill for cramps, he blamed me for "the divorce" because I got sick. "Crohns disease" btw, they never got divorced, Or that time he told I was going to end up in the streets asking for money because I didn't got accepted at the same university my sisters got in. They said they where very proud of them, but they never said anything about me because I got into a different university. I also remember my sister telling me constantly she didn't love me. Plus bullying at school, pretty long story if I am going to say everything bad that happened.

Question: I am so lonely?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 09:03 PM PST

I m so lonely. My cousins hate me, the cousins on my dad s side hate me for being "stupid". My cousins on my mom s side hate me for my dad s wealth and for being biracial. I have friends but I can t hang out with them unless I m in school since I live so far away from them. The kids in my town hate me for being biracial. My sister lives all the way across the country. My brother has autism and he really doesn t like to do anything but eat or play on his ipad. I have to turn to internet friends but I have really bad trust issues due to getting cyberbullied.

Question: My parents are drunk?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 08:53 PM PST

They aren't alcoholics but they're drunk and it's honestly scary but they aren't violent they just scare me what the **** do I do?

Question: What are you going to do for Christmas tomorrow?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 08:49 PM PST

Question: Is having a daughter instead of a son one of the worst feelings in the world?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 08:36 PM PST

Question: My father is absuive?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 08:16 PM PST

When i was about 4 years old i remeber my father making me do my abc s and he was so rude to me he yelled at me if i didnt get one right and when my dad left the room my mom asked me "do you want to take a break" i said yes and then my dad apparently heard it and pushed my mom against the fridge and choked her. And when we moved i was about 8-9 years of age and he got mad at my mom for some reason i dont kbow specifically but i look down lstairs and my dad and mom started gist fighting and when they were done my mom had bruises on her arms and my dad obvisouly has anger issues and now im 17 and my dad is still being the abusive asshole he is when i was young my mother died in 2015 and now im stuck here alone with the asshole i call father he verbally abuses me he calls me retarded,stuipd, and ugly because i have acne he told me a while ago i looked like a monster he aslo threatend to kill me a couple times my mother was thw obky one i loved and the only one that was nice and loving to me and now i dont know what to do anymore now that she is gone my dad yells at me for the stuipdest thungs like if he is at the store and im home he will call me and ask what we need i tell him what i see and if i forget to tell him one thing he will come hoke screaming like he is about to murder me. And im afraid to call the cops because he hasnt done anything physical except push me against a wall a little while back. Can someone please tell me what to do i dont know what llto do

Question: My dad has depression and is my mom is working barely making any money we live in a place with no friends or family what do we do?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 08:12 PM PST

Question: Should I tell my mom about how insecure I feel around my dad?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 08:05 PM PST

I haven't known my dad for the half of my life but these years sometimes he ignores me but now he spoils me. I feel insecure bc whenever i visit his house to stay over, he always walks around in a towel when before showering and after showering. When he kisses me, sometimes he sucks a bit from my skin and I feel really uncomfortable. Sometimes when he hugs me, he puts his arms around me and kind of touches my breasts a little. Idk if he realizes that but i feel really insecure.

Question: Is it bad to have failure to launch syndrome?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 07:55 PM PST

Question: In order to be successful in life, do you need to know a lot of math and science?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 07:00 PM PST

I was at a family gathering today and my relatives asked me what I was taking at school and what colleges I was thinking of. My response was that I was enrolled in a couple of AP classes and that I was devoting my time to my studies so that I could get accepted into the local state university. My parents and relatives share the same values on education: you need to have all A's in math and science in order to do well in life. I am in the 10th grade and enrolled in Chemistry Honors and Precalculus. My parents monitor my progress very carefully, especially my mom. I don't think my mom is a normal parent. She called my chemistry instructor before break asking why I got an 88 on my midterm and how this was going to affect my A. She wants to know my I'm not #1 in class. I told her that I don't want to be #1 and then she said that successful people never settle for #2. She then talked about how prodigies who wasted their talent and go nowhere in life. I told her that I'm not a prodigy. I think my mom is being too overbearing. I believe it has something to do with her upbringing. She does have bachelor's in electrical engineering from Sonoma State U and wants all of my siblings to be like her and my dad. When I talked to other people, they don't have these strange convos with their parents.

Question: Who is wrong in this situation, me or my family?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 06:54 PM PST

I am 19 years old and I still live with my mom and step dad. I'm a server and I have worked the past 4 days 10 hours each day so I was pretty tired and wore out and finally having a day off today. After I woke up my mom asked me if I could go to the groshrie store and get crab legs and shrimp so she could make the Christmas Eve dinner for us 3. I said sure, but then I got really tired so I laid down on the couch and fell asleep, she kept waking me up but honestly I was just exhausted. I told her I would go at 5 to get everything needed, or she could just go by her self since she's been off for the past two days and I've been working a lot. And I told her this at 4. She said forget it that she will just go get it her self and that after she does I can't have a bite of it. After a while her and my step dad just went and got take out and got a lot of food. After they ate I went downstairs and took a bite out of a steak that was there and took a roll. My step dad came up stairs yelling at me to stop touching his food and laughing at me. And my mom said to me it's all my fault I didn't get to have a Christmas dinner because I wouldn't go to the groshrie store for her at the time that she needed. Who's in the wrong here?

Question: I'm looking for suggestions for things to do with my grandma who can't really walk around a lot?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 06:42 PM PST

My grandma is old and weak and her cancer mess make her lose her breath easily. But I really want to take her out of the nursing home to do something with my sister and I while we still have her. My grandma never relaxes when she's at the home, because she's always worrying about my handicapped grandpa. He can't even take a poop on his own and doesn't understand much that's happening around him. But my grandma's still got it :) So what can I do with an elderly woman who can't walk anywhere but is too proud for a wheel chair. I can only think of going out to eat and going to the movies. Any other suggestions are welcome :)

Question: I am rejected by my Mom's family for Christmas tomorrow. How do I get my mind off of it and just enjoy my time with my Dad and his family?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 06:30 PM PST

I've written several times about this during the holidays this year. My Mom committed suicide and her family has rejected me ever since mainly cause they resent my Dad who I live with (parents were divorced). So my Mom's family made vague excuses as to why they couldn't see me and yet I know they are getting together cause of my cousin's Facebook post. How do I get my mind off of the hurt and sadness that her family rejects me? I miss my Mom and it hurts so much more that her family rejects me. My Dad says they might soften over time but it has been several years since my Mom's suicide. Any thoughts? Please advise.

Question: When my Mom gets angry tomorrow if she discovers that I am going by to see my step-Mom how do I respond?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 06:27 PM PST

I will be with my Mom most the day but my Dad died 4 years ago and his widow asks me by and in the afternoon I am going to go see her for an hour. My mother despises my step-mother and guilts me whenever she learns I am seeing her. I am going to try and keep it a secret but my mother usually knows when I am keeping something a secret. So what do I say when she starts in with the guilt trip?

Question: My uncle whose a recovering alcoholic looked awful at Christmas last night. Would it hurt his family if I say "was your Dad okay" to cousin?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 06:24 PM PST

Would it be okay to ask my cousin this? The uncle can be a mean and moody person but is still family and of course his kids (young adults now) can't help it. The uncle behaved fine last night though his wife was lit, he just looked awful. It was an early Christmas as he is divorced from his 1st wife and his kids are with their mother Christmas Day.

Question: What should I get my family for Christmas this year?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 05:59 PM PST

Question: What s the right thing to do?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 05:49 PM PST

My grandma handed me an envelope with almost 200 dollars to give to my boyfriend of Four years as a Christmas present. He has never given her anything and I m going to break up with him ASAP (we live together, so I need to find a new place first) because he treats me poorly. If my grandma new the truth she would never give him money. He doesn t deserve it. So I don t really want to give it to him. But we re seeing her in two days, so I need to give him some money, so he knows to thank her. But I m afraid that he ll find out if I just give him a smaller amount, as my sisters boyfriend also got almost 200. He ll be coming when we all se my grandma in two days. But I don t want my grandmas money going to waste on an abusive dirtbag. What to do?

Question: Is my sister mental?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 04:59 PM PST

my sister stands up to anyone who bullies me or calls me rude names. If someone would say something about me she would try to make me feel better but later when im happy she constantly walks past me she brings up what happened and teases me with the same remarks said about me.

Question: Mom wants to kick me out for not sleeping at 10 PM sharp?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 04:19 PM PST

I'm 17, it was 11 pm and my mother was going crazy complaining about how abusive her household was when she suddenly switched to being angry at me for not turning the lights off at 9 so I could be asleep at 10. It is obviously Christmas break, so I don't see harm in staying up a little later than usual. She also told me that I can just go and spread my legs for money because some of her old classmates did that. All that for not sleeping at 10? Is that normal?

Question: Why do relatives act bossy to family member/caregivers?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 04:09 PM PST

So my husband is sick and I as his wife cares for him. However his sister often tells me how to care for him and what she wants done for him. When I ask for help she refuses and when I look tired to her she tells me it's not about you its about her brother. Another example she has a car and came by the hospital, I had to take two bus to home and two buses back to get a Christmas gift left at home because the little girl he bought it for was going out of town and my husband's sister wanted her to have it. She didn't offer to drive me and said its was too cold and raining outside. The drive which would have taken less than 45 minutes round trip. However she in turned called me on my cell phone while I was trying to make my way back to the hospiral and asked why is it taking me so long on the bus to get back.I didn't make it back in time with the gift, so I asked his sister to give it to the little girl, she stated it's cold and raining outside to catch up to them at the family house.. Someone please explain this behavior.

Question: What is a baser?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 03:55 PM PST

Me and my sister were arguing about something and she said "Looking like a F***** Baser " can someone please tell me what that means

Question: PLEASE READ my mother won't let me date an American man that I love?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 02:33 PM PST

I take care of my whole family, i send money to my dad, my mom lives with me, I pay my brother's bills who happen to be married and older than me But the only person that is against me dating Americans is my mother... She's pain in the A$$ She wants the guy to convert to Islam, note that I'm not religious and I drink and even eat pork and she knows, yet she says she won't approve if I marry him unless he becomes a Muslim? I tried everything with her but nothing worked... And finally, she gave me an ultimatum that if I marry him she will disown me? Like my father and brothers don't care who I marry why does she want me to be miserable? I lived all my life trying to please her and not once did she do anything for me! I've been on my own all my life taking care of her and my brothers and dad But when I try to marry someone I love she stands in my way?

Question: How do you deal with a parent emotionally abusing you and always putting you down and making you feel like **** about yourself ?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 02:06 PM PST

Family and Relationships Please give me some advice on how to deal with this , because honestly lately all it does is honestly hurt .