I have been told that if you lose your virginity before marriage, it's a sin and the woman is no longer "pure" and as a result, loses her value? What do you think about this?

I wanna divorce my husband because I feel he puts his family first n me (his wife) second. He cares note about pleasinh them and making them happy even if it makes me miserable.his family is very needy controlling and has you be involved in everything he do n show little respect for out home marriage My husband tonight just told me no woman is gonna walk into his life n break up his relationship with his parents I feel like he accusing me of this even though I never said anything about him breaking a relationship up or for them to not socialize and it really hurt me that he made that comment the most I do is compkain about how needy n controlling they r n its ruining our life ! I dont know what to do anymore neef advice

Husband has A.D.D since childhood, was on meds until the age of 17 and quit. He recently got back on his medication and things were going wonderful. We are also newly married. Before he got on his meds again and before we were married, he would impulsively get up and go back to his hometown. Block me from everything and told me it was done. His hometown is Louisiana - I live in Florida. 408 miles apart. About a week later, he'd always call me crying, telling me the mistake he'd made. Well, we've been arguing a bit lately, he stopped taking his meds for about 2-3 days, and he left on impulse AGAIN. Said we were done, he wasn't coming back; same old talk from the past. Only difference now is that we're married. He hasn't talked about plans for a divorce or anything similar. I know this isn't okay and I shouldn't have to deal with this, so please don't say that, because ultimately that is my decision. But what I am asking here is do you think he will come back? And also, how to work past this? Is this behavior normal with A.D.D? How can he end impulsivity? Kind answers only, please...

philosophy. ethics.

My husbands family live in another state and are coming to see him but I knew something was wrong with him when he came home from the doctor and started crying and couldn't stop crying so I just held him and cried with him. After we,had our break down when just took a bath and shower together and I washed him. We talked about our future together and watched a couple of movies and didn't go to bed until 4:00 am. I let him sleep in but I'm afraid to lose him. He confessed to me when We were crying that he was going to propose and he showed me the ring. Now I don't know the status of us but I know I love him and I will stick by him through thick and thin but I don't know what to tell him other than I love him amd I won't go anywhere. We're scheduled to go get treatment options. My husband estranged dad who lives in state offered financial help to his son but his son my husband doesn't want help from his dad who abused him as a child. I know this is a lot but I need advice. I bought him some bubble bath and some books to read to get his mind off it. I love him and our families are devastated. His mom is flying down and my family has surrounded us in love.

why does my wife beat me? need answers

She keeps rolling over in stuff and the smell is awful. I caught her when I got home and had the get the rolled up newspaper out and smack her on the nose. I also caught her getting in the car box. It's horrible being married to such a disgusting human being. What should I do?

I moved with my family to North Carolina after my Husband Jon got out of the service. His siblings live close by and he grew up there. I am close with Jon's sister Carol and her family. They have a daughter a few years older then our daughter Sierra who is eight. They are very strict on modesty with their daughter. Carol offered "help" or advice with disciplining Sierra The weekend before last Carol came by for a visit. Sierra had misbehaved earlier and I was in the process of giving her a spanking. I was sitting with her dress raised. My Husband Jon was in the house at the time. Carol told me that instead of sitting and spanking panties I should use a paddle. She later stopped over and tried to give me a small paddle for future use. For the record a spanking is a minute or so of lightly done spanks with my hand. When I told her I am fine with how I spank. Carol said well it is not healthy for Sierra to be undressed in front of Daddy with the type of underpants she wears. "Her white nylon briefs are so thin that you can see her butt cheeks". My Husband is NOT interested in looking at his daughter's bottom or sheer panties when she is being spanked or anyother time!. Yet at night it is not forbidden that she be in a short nightgown around us. Is it alright if I don't use their paddle and tell my sister in law to mind her own business? Is there anything wrong with how I spank or her Father even seeing her in that "type of underpants"???

I just got home form picking husband up at work. Since it was nice out and I did not have to go in anyplace I just drove in my bare feet and left my shoes at home.

Both my husband and I are 28 years old (we've been together since we were 16). And I can't believe that at 28, I have to admit: my sex life sucks. My husband never wants sex anymore and I'm honestly at the point that I don't know what to do (FYI: I'm 40 weeks preggers right now, but this has been an issue for about 4 years). About 4 years ago, (sex life was starting to suck) I found porn on my now husband's phone. At the time was I hurt? Yes, but I didn't REALLY know how bad the addiction was. I told him I didn't care for it. But as months went on, I truly found out how extremely addicted to porn he was. WOW that almost ruined our relationship. I'm a tall gal (5'9", weigh about 160) physically active, natural red head.. I'm attractive. My husband (I find him super attractive regardless) 6'1", weighs 320, cannot keep his weight under control. I'm constantly buying outfits, trying to encourage new things, etc. Is this his problem or mine? When I approach the subject with him he says "I don't feel sexy. I'm so fat, look at me.. blah blah." But something tells me he's back into his porn addiction. I am truly at a point where I don't know what else to do.

In the 1950s most women married before 20. Nowadays people many people are pushing marriage past 30.

All I will say is we love each other and cant stand being apart. We can talk for hours. We have tested each other. Been through bad experiences and exs that cheated. We have also endured thick and thin times and are we think alike. Only problem is an age gap and no possiblity of kids. Her mom and my mom dont approve but we both feel our diseased Fathers would approve. We also have endured haters but real friends are happy. Im only asking because my mom is a toxic parent and I moved out. We liv together also and share the same views. My concern is kids thats all. Also the huge age gap. But even though all the horrible ppl I chased. This one is jot what ai expected. Or the fairy tale I was brought uo ti bekieve but home is where you make it. I find the girls I used to chase discusting. Emasculating and into status and money. Controlling too. I dont want to cheat. I live her. Shes good to me and if I wanted a trophy wife or kids I would not have moved in together. Peoplexare jealous of us also or resentful. Not all though Shes supports my career is not always outting me on trial or looking to upgrade or use me. We've been through thick and thin that would separate most people and tested each other that would drive away most too. Or is this a psychology question and not a marriage question? No one is answering. Ive had to reduce text for y/a

I'm 29 and not married. I've been seeing someone since May. I really like him I think we are great together but I'm not sure if I want to marry him. My cousin brought up us getting engaged. She told me she knew right away she wanted to marry her now husband after 3 dates. Is this true? Are you supposed to know right away? I just feel like being together 6 months is too soon for me to know for sure.

While we were laying in bed after having sex I asked her if she had a good sex life with her ex. She seemed to get uncomfortable and didn't answer me. Should I be worried?

I moved from WV to Fl 10 months ago with my two children. My ex moved down here as well but we went separate ways. He since then has moved back to WV and filed for a divorce - which I don t contest but he is also asking the court for custody of my two children - one is his the other is from my first marriage. He hasn t had a stable home of his own In the past 10 months until now. HIs health is very poor and he is a heavy marijuana user. He doesn t even reach out to his son to call. I always have to reach out to him for his child to be able to talk to him. He harasses me all the time and makes threats of what he will do if I don t do things the way he wants me to. I have read that because I have lived in FL for over 6 months that this is now considered to be my home state and that the WV courts can t rule on custody issues. They can grant me my divorce but all custody issues will have to go through FL courts. I just need some advice or if anyone knows what legal rights I have in this case. I go to court in 6 days in WV.

I feel like traditional American family life is so stressful. I just want to take it easy.

My whole life I have been a penny pincher. I was an only child and my parents always taught me to save. I grew up helping my mom clip coupons, getting all my clothes at thrift stores, and riding around in a beat up ford tempo that had engine problems even though my parents were millionaires. Now that I'm 24 I am the same exact way as my parents. My clothes are all second hand, I do most of my shopping at yard sales, and I've been wearing the same pair of sneakers for three years. I also am a coupon fanatic, always looking for deals and have no debt other than mine and my husband's mortgage which should be paid off soon. I have an old, cheap cell phone and mine and my husband's cars are old but still running. I have $60,000 in the bank and no intention of spending it. I have always been a tightwad but my husband thinks I need to stop being so tight. He's noticing that I don't even go out to eat anymore because I hate to leave a tip. Honestly all I spend money on is food, bills, and gas. Is there anything wrong with being this way? Getting a good deal on something generally puts me in a good mood for the whole day.

I've been married for five years going on 6 . I love my husband dearly he is a good guy but I dont like how close he is with his family. They are a little to close . everything my husband does in his life they have to be apart of it or know about it. He runs around multiple times a week running errands for his family and he is there for them through the beck and call. It got so bad that our plans would get ruined because he has to run and do things for his family I'm getting tired of it I talk to him about it but he thinks ita normal. We know moved away 40 mins from his parents and his father expects him to pick him up every day from work which is 30 mins from our house then dropped him off to his house which is another 30 mins then fron his dad house to our house which is 40 mins everyday ! It is so annoying because I feel his parents dont have any consideration that he has his own life now. On our days off during the weekday we have to schedule our plans surrounded by his father work schedule and its to much for me because I shouldnt have to revolve my life around his fathers . what makes me more mad he doesn't even have to work he just works to work. I want to know is this normal? Fo any in laws interrupted your life ? His mom and dad has each other and they still have an adult child living at home with them but still rely on my husband for everything !

My ex girlfriend hides her relationship from me and i would like to understand what her reasons could be. We share my six year old daughter together. When i went to drop her off at her cousins house everything was fine, but there was someone inside one of the bedrooms with the door closed. However, i just ignored it and did comment on it for i knew that would just make me look jealous. We have been broken up for over three years and to be honest it was nasty. We dont talk anymore, so if she doesnt care then why hid it..Any feedback is appreciated whether negative or positive.

Have your husband stick up for you or just act like it doesnt happen ?

Hi I m married white man to a wonderful black women but recently I have gotten to know another beautiful black women and I m starting to have strong feelings for her but I also still love my wife any advice would be nice

I've been with my husband since I was 15. Yes I lost it to him. I have always been chubby and shy about my body ever since. As the years have past I have gained some weight. SPECIALLY after we got married 😩😭 During sex i get extremely shy out of nowhere I haaate it! Idk what to do to just let it go. Even after almost 7 yrs together he's still crazy over me. It's just me that make things difficult cause I get shy.

How do I make him understand that it's not that at all and this is purely about avenging the wrong done to my children?

Long story short, we are in are early 30's, and we've been married for 12 years with a 2 year old boy. My husband cheated earlier this year, I kicked him out, I let him back in slowly due to our child and now he is here. He is sorry for hurting me and his son. This is also the lowest I've ever seen him in his life. After the affair happened, I feel as though I lost myself and I am broken after what happened (he knows that) i did many things to hurt him that I wouldn't normally do, (I did not cheat) I think after the affair we both realized that we have a lot of growing to do individually before we can make this work, but it's hard as we have to raise our son and we don't have a lot of space for ourselves. And while all this...we've had very special intimate moments where we felt each other as before and then we had moments where we weren't sure and we strayed away from each other.... I am afraid to love him again fearing he may repeat his mistakes in a few years....I believe he is not in the relationship sometimes, as he chooses to sleeps in a different room most nights. (he says it's because he needs space, which is something we both agreed we both need). Has anyone ever been in this position and how did you get through it? Note: we are going through some financial hardships an cannot afford counselling at the moment.

MY WIFE GIVE ME DIVORCE AND CHEAT ME THIS IS VERY PAINFUL FOR ME

MY WIFE GIVE ME DIVORCE AND CHEAT ME

So, my husband is Dominican, me being American. He doesn't fully understand how special Christmas can be! I just bought my sister a customized necklace for $45 and he yelled st me for spending too much. I work at a Walmart in the next state, don't ask long story, so I have to take a train and bus to go To Work so my paychecks seem to come and go within those two weeks. He's been focusing more on saving money than the special side of Christmas. How can I make him see that it's okay to spend a reasonable amount of money for Christmas if it's sonething special and thoughtful?

We had a few beers together and he said that my mother in law had gone completely off sex after the change. He uses an escort once a month now, I was shocked, but do I tell my wife? Don't know what to do for the best.