Family: Question: My Dad is an alcoholic, my Mom has left. How do I get my own place and move out (I am 24)?

Question: My Dad is an alcoholic, my Mom has left. How do I get my own place and move out (I am 24)?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 02:28 PM PDT

She left me with him but all he does it get me to make calls to cover up that he is drunk. I was beaten as a kid by my other Dad so this Dad of mine adopted me when he married my Mom. My real Dad I saw at age 5 last when he went to jail for rape. My mother has left and is also an alcoholic and she hasn't returned any calls from me in over a year. My sister died of an overdose in March and my Mom didn't even come to the funeral. I do have a brother but he doesn't want anything to do with the family and I can't say I blame him.

Question: My Mom is a bitter person who likes to hold grudges. It is a cancer on our family. How do I act that might get her to change and forgive?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 02:24 PM PDT

I can't come out and confront her or she will get mad. I even think she may be a little but of a narcissist though not extreme. Narcissism runs in her family (her sister is one). My Mom holds grudges against numerous family members. As a result if I see those family members I'd better keep it a secret or I am dead meat. She expects us to share her hate. Family holidays are wrecked because we have to boycott numerous events and so overtime the extended family has just stopped asking us over. I pay the price for this by feeling loss and rejection. It really hurts. I do set up a party at a lake in August but the rest of the year I miss out. It really hurts. My Mom is a cancer on the family with these grudges and I don't think she even realizes she does it anymore. It is like an addiction. How might I behave that would motivate her to forgive and become a part of her family again? Her grudges are all things worth a few days of anger but no more then that. Her father was an alcoholic and she felt betrayed that only she was doing "tough love" but he died long ago in 2006 and my Mom still has this grudge. Please advise. I put in psychology thinking there might be a psychological trick. My Dad is of no help as he just goes along with whoever my Mom wants him to hate even if his hate is not as strong as hers.

Question: My Dad won't work on my teeth (he is a dentist) because he says it makes him uncomfortable. He is estranged from us. How do I get through it?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 02:15 PM PDT

This really hurts to have a Dad I only see at reunions in his family every other summer. He lives 20 minutes away. I drive past his house hoping to at least be able to wave hi and one time he was in his yard I was thrilled. He said "what the hell brings you here". I said I was driving by and he said "well, good to see you, I got to go to the airport to get Vicky. Maybe will hook up sometime" and it has been over a year and I haven't heard a thing. I love him and I want him but I am SO MAD at him for abandoning me. I hate myself for it also. Worst part is when people say "oh your Dr. ......'s son, you are so lucky as he is so nice". So it is not like I am not missing out. He even coaches his step-son's basketball team. I left his last name anonymous so he wouldn't see it. Sadly I have his last name which is why people realize whose son I am. He is wonderful to everyone but his own two kids.

Question: How do I show my mother I am in charge and not her?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 02:13 PM PDT

She sets rules in the house but I am 14 and can do what I want. I am not a kid anymore. Notice the teen in fourteen. How do I show her I am in charge and to put her foot in her a.s.s

Question: I feel so desolate, I don't have many friends or family, no siblings, and I'm only a teenager. Nobody cares, my life's a complete mess? :/?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 01:56 PM PDT

Question: Help!!!! My daughter is getting to close to her boyfriend?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 01:46 PM PDT

My daughter is 15, and he's 16. They've been together for a few months now, and today he came over to our house and they went to my daughter's room. I went up to ask if they wanted any snacks and I wanted to check up on them and there she was being held in his arms like they were snuggling together in bed. I freaked out and I told him to leave. Thank his they both had clothes on. My daughter got mad at me after I made him leave. And now I'm writing this.

Question: I will be going away...?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 01:42 PM PDT

To see my Aunt and Uncle for the first time in years... with out my mom. This will be the first time EVER that I will be away from my mom because she NEVER wants to do much for the Holidays. Every time I bring up going to see my Aunt/Uncle or them coming to see us- my mom will change the subject and Im sick of it. I would like to see my Aunt and Uncle. My Mom is a REAL DRAG to be around because she is : Controlling Manipulative Talks about herself all the time and never asks about how you are doing. Thinks she is more superior and talks down to others Instigates with others and gossips a lot-starts crap and does not know how to mind her own business Obsessive Aggressive (in some ways) overall.....NARCISSISTIC! Would you STILL want some one like that in your life? Yes? No? My mom is like this and for a long time now, I have wanted her out of my life for a while now and I have not seen her in over 3 weeks. Yea we chat sometimes- but I don't like talking to her. Unfortunately for me, she is my mom and I'm 35 years old- I think I'm too old to tolerate this mess from her. She has physically, mentally, emotionally, verbally and financially abused me.....A LOT. How would you handle this? Yeah I am a 35 y.o. responsible adult and should make my own decision and I have decided to fly to see my family, but this will be the first time ever WITH OUT my mom. Please let me know your thoughts. Thank you!

Question: Brother committed suicide (11)and my mom and younger sister (13) found him now my step dad is at it again with his temper?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 01:36 PM PDT

im 3rd oldest(21)there was several factors to which i have concluded 2 why my brother left us.^My parents cheated on each other ,my step dad found out & would mentally abuse my mom (mom didn't see it that way) she would just work to not be home while she was away, he would brain wash the 3 kids at home. my sister(13) my brother (11RIP) and my brother(9). ^my brother was also bullied and when he came to tell his dad he called him a pussy, my mom went to the school and took action resulting my brother to get embarrassed& not tell us anything! month passed and now hes getting bullied to sell drugs at school and to come home to my stepdads bs of "u guys arent my kids" and well my brother took that to heart because even b4 the affair came 2 light he said it 2 him as well.i stopped going to my moms house bcuz the negativity was just bad,i only would go to my mom & well siblings. i believe my brother getting bullied2 sell drugs was the last straw, my step dad put up a fake persona after my brothers passing of course he felt guilty my sister(13) is depressed and everyone thinks she is doing for attention she is more on the rebellious side but her dad is bac 2 his same old ways stressing out my mom and my little sister is legit goin crazy, I want2 fight for custody of her because i need to do something about it before its 2 late. my mom is honestly not even in her right mind my brother was a mommas boy. wat can i do sorry for the spelling i needed writing space i put most details

Question: Is my son a hero or not?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 01:33 PM PDT

My son got in trouble for fighting at school against this very large boy that hit him in the face. He went down and fat boy went to get on him and slug him so my son grabbed his balls as hard as he could until he cried then found a small rock and threw it as his face. The porker had to get medical attention and stiches while they both are suspended. Is what my son did brave or was is cowardly?

Question: How would these two be related?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 01:32 PM PDT

Let's say there's two cousins, both descended from direct brothers. The male cousin has a female child with a woman. His female cousin is from his dad's brother. What would the girl cousin be to his daughter?

Question: I don't want to live with my mom anymore.?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 01:26 PM PDT

I am 14, I don't have a father, I live with my mom. Over the last 2yrs she got into a serious drinking problem. She drinks almost every day off she has. Sometimes she even drinks during work days. At first she only drank during the weekends, so it didn't cause any problems. I was fed, I had clothes to wear, had the latest phone, but now she barely cooks, she doesn't give me money to buy new clothes. My step dad passed away 6 months ago and after that my mental health got really bad, I asked my mom to get me a therapist, at least few visits, she agreed, but never did that. Now it's only getting worse, I've talked to people in my school, but I never mentioned her drinking, because they would suddenly take me away, which seems like a good thing, but my cousin been in the foster home and when I saw the way they treat kids there I thought, Nope I am staying here. Mom says if I don't like living here I should move to my grandma's house, but every time I do, she calls me every 5 minutes begging to come back. She says she's never going to change and I believe that. We often get into stupid fights over dreams she had when she was drunk and mixed it with reality. Sometimes even a simple 'no' pisses her off and she starts shouting. She never hits me. But seeing her drunk and shouting at me because of her imagination is way worse. Especially when she doesn't remember a thing when she's sober and gets mad when I tell her what she did, calls me a liar and goes drinking. What should I do?

Question: Should I move back to my parents' home before pursuing a teaching credential?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 01:24 PM PDT

I moved to another state last year for my first full time job out of college. I've really liked the move. The weather in this state is great, and the cost of living is a lot lower, and I've loved my independence, because even when I was in college, my parents only lived an hour away, and they'd constantly come up for "surprise visits," so it was difficult to really be independent and do my own thing. Sometimes I do miss my parents, now, though, and wish I could just go home for dinner or something like that. I'm planning on going back to school for a teaching credential in the next year, and I don't know if I should stay where I am and go to school here, or go to a school closer to home. No matter which school I go to, I will end up having to quit my job eventually to go full time since student teaching is full time. If I stay here, though, I can stay in my job for the first year while taking classes at night, whereas if I move back home, I'd have to quit my job before moving. However, if I move back home, I'd be able to live in my parents' house, which means I wouldn't have to pay as much in rent as I do here, but then I'd lose a lot of my independence, living at home again. The school back near my parent's house does have higher tuition, too. I still have time to decide, but I just wanted some input. Any advice would be helpful! Thanks in advance!

Question: How do I get over my jealousy of my sister?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 01:18 PM PDT

I am jealous because everyone likes her more then me. On her birthday our grandmother gathered the whole family to her house (aunts, cousins, and an uncle) to celebrate. On my birthday my grandmother sent a text and my Mom let me have two friends over. My sister's 8th grade graduation was like a wedding and every relative including cousins wrote a congratulations card to put in a scrap book for her to have the rest of her life and pass down to her future children. My 8th grade graduation my Dad and paternal grandfather came and that was all. My Mom was at a funeral or likely would have come but my Mom's parents didn't even acknowledge it other then wishing me well for my first day of high school when they saw me Labor Day. Grant it my grandmother's brother-in-law had just died so they were traveling with my Mom and aunt to Ohio for his funeral the day of my graduation but still it could have been acknowledged. At Christmas each year my mother sends a letter to people and there are two paragraphs about both my sisters (one is much younger) and only a sentence or two about me. I understand my younger sister having bigger birthdays and stuff since she is only 8 years old. My older sister is a high school senior and I am a high school freshman. There is already talk of a feast for her graduation come June, I suspect mine will just be my Dad and grandfather again and maybe my Mom. So how do I get over my jealousy here? Another example is my sister has been taken on many trips by my Mom and grandparents even when she was my age and even to Europe. Only trip I was taken on was my Dad and paternal grandfather took me to the Yellowstone. My Dad, grandfather, and I do spend a lot of time together. it is my Mom's family where the favoritism shows more. My Dad is an only child with only one living parent whereas my Mom is one of 5 kids.

Question: Can my dad keep me from staying with my mom?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 01:18 PM PDT

Im 15 and I'll be 16 in two months. My dad has only let my mom see me ever other weekend since I was little. It says in the court papers that once my mom has a house and a stable job that they are to split me 50/50 but that's never happened Bc of him.He was letting me see her more, then I got grounded and he kept me from her for about a month or two. Now he lets me see her twice a month. Am I allowed to just ride the bus to my moms house? Is there anything he can do. Btw I live once West Virginia and at age 14 I'm pretty sure the court is to consider my preference

Question: I dread Thanksgiving when the whole family gathers but me. I am stuck with my Mom and her friends. How do I get over the constant dread?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 01:15 PM PDT

My Mom won't go to Thanksgiving because her alcoholic brother is there. As a result the extended family doesn't ask me. I feel rejected, ashamed, and mad at my Mom. It hurts so much. At Christmas my Mom's brothers travel to in-laws so there is no risk of us being different and so I enjoy myself more. Thanksgiving is shame filled. I am an adult so I can travel alone if I want and I might do that but she shame follows me. I have no Dad so my Mom's family is the only extended family I have. My two siblings don't care but I do. It adds to the shame that we spend it with friends of my Moms instead of family. Friends are for 4th of July or New Years Eve, not a family holiday like Thanksgiving. Plus one of the friends likes to gossip about my Mom's family with her. The weirdest part is one friend drinks too much but still comes over whereas my Mom is bitter towards her brother because he drinks too much. So how do I get over my constant dread about the dark holiday of Thanksgiving that comes in a month and a half.

Question: Help! About friend?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 12:45 PM PDT

Hello, I need a help from you people, as I'm getting fed up with argument with me dad in number of times over a woman who live in the neighbours as he think she flirting with me as I know we are not doing anything like that. just playing as calling names each other. I'm 30s and she's nearly 50. We have been texting few days as weeks about movies and stuffs. I admit that I like her but as a good friend and she say same thing. When we were playing attack each other like touching but my dad say he's not happy with it as I shouldnt be playing with her like that as she's old which is right but its just playing. not like we are going to next step etc Dad was saying like he are gonna tell her off and tell my mum about it as she's old and that etc but I told dad many times that we are a friend as I know she got a boyfriend and I'm not planning to break their relationship or something like that. She like to talk to me about anything even she mentioned about her boyfriend. But Dad think its wrong that she tell me about it and she's nearly old enough to be my mum. I don't like argument with my dad as I'm getting fed up with it. I want to tell mum about it but don't want to make it causes trouble with dad and mum. And plus mum doesn't know about a woman as my parents doesnt live together anymore. Sorry about grammars and these doesn't matter make sense. What can I do? Thanks for your time. @ Chris Thanks for your time, I would never do that, and I totally agreed with you. By the way Dad are not happy with me texting her as he think there are something but its nothing like that as we are being silly as make us having a laugh. As Dad don't want me to care about her or lent her some movies to watch even dont want me to sit next to her.

Question: How to live as a girl for a week?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 12:33 PM PDT

im a guy and im exploring my gender and i deiced to try living as a girl for a week. what should do? i bought makeup a few bras and panties and other clothes. anything else i need? im 16 and homeschooled, my parents are ok with this. my mom wont really help me with makeup and clothes, but shes ok with me wearing them.

Question: My mom doesn't seem to care when I'm upset?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 11:59 AM PDT

I've noticed lately that when I get upset my mother avoids me. I'm 21 years old and I'm agoraphobic. I've been agoraphobic since I was 11. Last year my anxiety has gotten so bad that I can barely leave the house. I used to be able to go to school and I did very well but unfortunately my anxiety got bad again last year. I was in therapy for a few years too, but I had to stop going because of how bad my agoraphobia has gotten. I still do talk to my therapist every month or so on the phone. For the past year my mom has been taking for rides in the car to help me get further away from the house to help with my agoraphobia. For the past few weeks I've also been able to go into a dollar store that is a minute away from our house. Sometimes I go in and stay and other times I walk in and walk right out.But there are some days where I have a hard time leaving the house and start to panic when I get so far from it. Whenever I have those days, it makes me upset and makes me feel like I didn't try hard enough and that I won't ever get better. I'll even spend hours crying about it and she won't talk to me and it seems like she just tries to avoid me. I've even told her that I feel like no matter how hard I try, it doesn't feel good enough. It's been like this for a while and it feels like she just doesn't anymore. Even when I have my good days and I'm able to travel further away from my house I'll ask her how well she think I did, but again she doesn't seem to care. I know I might sound like I'm being too sensitive, but it hurts when it feels like your mom doesn't care. I'm not anywhere near as close to my mom as I was when I was younger. I don't have any friends that I can talk to about this either and I hardly ever see or talk to my dad and he doesn't understand my agoraphobia anyways. I feel like now I just shouldn't bother telling people about my accomplishments or failures with my anxiety because no one seems to care. What can I do?

Question: My sister uses me to make herself better?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 11:16 AM PDT

My sis is insecure but at the same time self centered. She always brings me down by saying I'm ugly and calls herself pretty. She says I'm the ugly one and she's the pretty one. Even her friends agreed with her. When we go out I'll see someone look at us and I'll point it out and she always says "he's not looking at you, he's looking at me. Nobody wants to look at you."she makes fun of me and says rude things about me but when I say something hurtful back she gets mad and hits me.

Question: How can someone smoke a pack of cigarettes a day, be a methadone addict and not be ashamed of themselves?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 10:57 AM PDT

My mom is like that. How can someone be a drug addict and not be embarrassed? She gets disability and spends it on cigarettes and fast food. I have struggled to get a pell Grant for school because of what my dad makes. I moved away from home because I can't stand drug addicts who refuse to get help.

Question: My parents forgot my birthday. How should I feel?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 10:53 AM PDT

My parents forgot 17th birthday and I feel really hurt. It was a Sunday and that morning one of our family friends was in the hospital for heart problems I believe. I'm not trying to sound selfish or say that they should've been focused on me but they didn't even text me happy birthday.

Question: I don't want to be a Jehovahs Witness. Teen?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 10:53 AM PDT

My grandparents raised my sister and I because my mother was mentally unstable, I really am grateful so please don't think that I'm not. I do not enjoy this religion or agree with it. I have crippling anxiety and I am forced to go knock on strangers doors, answer at meetings, and stand on a stage and give talks. I really don't want to but I will be kicked out if I don't do any of these things. My grandfather died in 2016 so it's just my sister and I, along with my grandmother. It's been hell, to be completely honest. She claims she's depressed but it really seems like she just brings it up for attention and pity, (that sounds mean but you just have to see it to understand) I am the black sheep of the household and everyone gangs up on me a lot because I have opinions. This used to happen to my sister, I have seen scars on her arms from where she cut herself, she just has changed her personality completely to make my grandmother happy, but I don't want to lose myself. I am afraid of being kicked out but I really dislike this religion and the people in it. Everyone is a hypocrite and fake. I don't want to let my family down, my grandfather was an elder so I'm expected to be a "perfect child" My grandmother has yelled at me saying "I have mental problems", "I'm a sick person", and other hurtful things because I have different outlooks then her. She is the main reason I have anxiety, I have been secluded my whole life and won't know how to take care of myself alone.

Question: My aunt says she feels bad my Dad has to live with her sister (my Mom). Why did it hurt my feelings when it was an insult to my Mom, not me?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 10:50 AM PDT

My aunt resents my Mom.

Question: How do I get over my jealousy of my sister?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 10:45 AM PDT

I am jealous because everyone likes her more then me. On her birthday our grandmother gathered the whole family to her house (aunts, cousins, and an uncle) to celebrate. On my birthday my grandmother sent a text and my Mom let me have two friends over. My sister's 8th grade graduation was like a wedding and every relative including cousins wrote a congratulations card to put in a scrap book for her to have the rest of her life and pass down to her future children. My 8th grade graduation my Dad and paternal grandfather came and that was all. My Mom was at a funeral or likely would have come but my Mom's parents didn't even acknowledge it other then wishing me well for my first day of high school when they saw me Labor Day. Grant it my grandmother's brother-in-law had just died so they were traveling with my Mom and aunt to Ohio for his funeral the day of my graduation but still it could have been acknowledged. At Christmas each year my mother sends a letter to people and there are two paragraphs about both my sisters (one is much younger) and only a sentence or two about me. I understand my younger sister having bigger birthdays and stuff since she is only 8 years old. My older sister is a high school senior and I am a high school freshman. There is already talk of a feast for her graduation come June, I suspect mine will just be my Dad and grandfather again and maybe my Mom. So how do I get over my jealousy here? Another example is my sister has been taken on many trips by my Mom and grandparents even when she was my age and even to Europe. Only trip I was taken on was my Dad and paternal grandfather took me to the Yellowstone. My Dad, grandfather, and I do spend a lot of time together. it is my Mom's family where the favoritism shows more. My Dad is an only child with only one living parent whereas my Mom is one of 5 kids.

Question: I don’t talk to my family often but do u blame me? Let me explain?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 10:31 AM PDT

My family only fool with me every now n then and when I go to family reunions they work me like a job n I love my mom but she goes threw my mail that I have sent to the family house but only the mail with my bank account and when I ask her to watch my child she say she can't drive that far to watch her but my brothers call her she will drive a hundred miles and watch they child

Question: What are your thoughts on a brother in law who is ALWAYS rude to your folks and you?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 10:16 AM PDT

Yesterday was the birthday celebration of my 4 year old niece. She's the daughter of my second oldest sister. My eldest sister came with her 2 year old daughter and her husband. My eldest sister's husband didn't say anything to anybody except to my eldest sister, his daughter obviously, my 4 year old niece and to my other brother-in-law. She wouldn't bother to say nothing to my mom, my other sister and anybody else there. He kept to himself really but helped himself to food there. He doesn't like to talk to my folks when he does see them (avoids them completely) and has never thanked my folks for babysitting my 2 year old niece on weekdays while he and my eldest sister are at their respective jobs. He has to call/text my sister when he parks outside my folks house to pick them up when my eldest sister and my 2 year old niece are inside my folks house. He won't ring the doorbell at all. He doesn't want my 2 year old niece to know I'm her uncle. My folks aren't interested in having thanksgiving and Christmas celebrations all because of my eldest sister's husband. When my eldest sister gave birth to my 2 year old niece, she was in the hospital for almost 2 weeks because my 2 year old niece was underweight and needed a breathing tube. My eldest sister's husband, wouldn't bother to say, "Hi," to my mom.

Question: Brother having a baby with a woman with whom he had an affair?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 09:52 AM PDT

Long story short, my Brother has been married to this wife for about 5 years. In those 5 years they have had 2 children together and he is also the step father to her 12 year old son. During the course of their marriage there have been ups and downs, as with any relationship. Fast forward to this past year, My brother met a woman, a single mother on the football team he coached for. They were both having issues in their lives, confided in each other, began spending time with each other, and inevitably started sleeping together. His wife finds out about the affair. Then the woman lets him know that she is pregnant. He does the right thing and tells his wife. But the wife basically says that she wants him to have nothing to do with the woman, or the child and has stated on several occasions this child will never be welcomed around her or her kids. So now hes stuck in a quandary. He loves his wife dearly and doesn't want a divorce, but he also wants to be a man and take care of his responsibilities. It seems as if the wife is making him choose. Her and her kids, or taking care of this baby. What does he do? Of course that would be the easy reaction, but the wife doesn't want to leave

Question: What do I do about a Mom who insists I make my birthday about her and her bias' against family?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 08:31 AM PDT

My birthday was yesterday, I turned 22. I have a mother I have posted about on here before. For my birthday she insisted on having a party. She also insisted on being sure she goes out of the way to ban my Dad and his family (they divorced). I said not to worry about a party, I am a big guy now. She got angry. I said I was going to catch my Dad, she acted as though I was betraying her. I asked her to include him and she said no and reminded me of how if he loved me he wouldn't have treated her poorly. Then she got my grandmother (her mom) to arrange something for my birthday and my maternal grandmother hates my Dad with the same passion my Mom does. O can talk back to my Mom but not my grandmother I feel. I caved and we went to dinner at the country club. My Mom brought up her elaborate Christmas plans which always mean me not being able to see my Dad at Christmas also. I am 22 so I can say "tough, I am doing my own thing for Christmas" but I am afraid of my maternal grandmother. Plus my Dad sometimes travels with his wife and her family and her family does not ask me as they have only met me at the wedding and one other time. So my Mom makes my birthday and Christmas and Thanksgiving and summer and any other family celebration about her and her bitterness towards my Dad for being a shitty husband. No doubt he may have sucked as a husband but I don't see why I need to be punished for it 15 years after they divorced. How do I break this toxic chain?

Question: Is it normal that my parents are doing this?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 06:33 AM PDT

So my dad is very controlling and manipulative. I wanted to be free from him so I wanted to move into an apartment. Which he is paying for. The thing is is that I don t have a car or a license. I also just recently got a job but I haven t started working yet. So because I m living there at the apartment I m alone, and I can t go anywhere that I want to because I don t have a car or a license. And no money for right now. Whenever I m at the apt I text my mom that I need groceries or that I d like to go shopping but they always limit what I can get which is not a lot. So when I go to their house I found out that they are eating a ton of food and daily which they are buying things and food daily and I am over at my apt starving because they won t buy me food. So basically they are punishing me for wanting to live in an apt. To be free from my controlling father. Is this in anyway shape or form right that they are doing this to me? They are purposely doing this btw.

Question: My sister is jealous of me?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 05:21 AM PDT

I feel like my sister is jealous of me. She has a kid. I'm 19 and I'm person that definetly do not want kids, and when I told her that, she said that I have never been in love, that I was an "ignorant", even that I was a lesbian. I will get a surgery to not have kids, she told me I will regret lol, regret of what? not ruining my life like she did?, She wants me to be unhappy like her. She literally doesnt pay attetion to the kid when she is back from work, she just sit there and go on facebook, and post how much she loves her kid, she is such a liar. I know her kid ruined her life,, she doesn't have time, she is fat, she is literally a slave. But you gotta pay for your mistakes. I think her boyfriend might be cheating on her and she knows it. But why is she so jealous of me? because I am able to do whatever I want and she don't?, She is also jealous that my dad gives me money because he wants. I mean, she is 24 and jealous because I don't want kids, my dad gives me whatever i want, and can I do whatever the **** I want? But she says I'm an ignorant lol. What can I do?

Question: As long as I am supervising is there anything wrong with letting my kids around my father, at family gatherings, who is an alcoholic?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 04:59 AM PDT

My brother thinks we should all ban are kids from family gatherings if our Dad is there. This is just using them as a pawn I feel. I would never leave them alone with my father and I have explained when he gets nasty it is his disease and not him. We also leave early sometimes. However, am I an idiot here? Should I be banning them from all family activities including Christmas because of my Dad like my brother does to his kids? I think my brother it is his wife pushing him to feel this way though she might just be being protective. So am I an idiot or am I fine? My brother's kids have to miss even Christmas each year though of course they still do other holiday activities and go to their other grandparents. They never see us as a result. Alcoholism is a family disease so am I just being an idiot here? Or am I fine and right that it would be using the kids as a pawn to get him to stop drinking? Interventions have failed and the ultimatum has been that we won't cover up for him anymore. ---Marked anonymous as I am a little embarrassed by it all.

Question: My Mom and Aunt are bullies to their children but nice to the others children. Why is this? Should they just swap kids?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 04:53 AM PDT

Question: My great-uncle died bitter at his ex-wife. Does this mean he was banned from going to heaven since he held a grudge?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 04:52 AM PDT

He called her a ***** when talking about her just a few days before his death and would not go to his two daughters place for holidays since the ex would be there.

Question: Am I same the century as my parents or brothers?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 04:45 AM PDT

I was born in 1999, my parents are from 1978 while my brothers are from 2000, 2001, and 2005.

Question: I was named Sue but I am changing it to Hughes. Now which surname fits it?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 02:07 AM PDT

I have Smith Wesson Barret Starc Gates Drumph

Question: How can you be happy and successful when your orphaned at 18 years old?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 01:55 AM PDT

I m 19 years old now. Last year my mom passed away after longterm sickness. She was almost as bad a few years ago but she got better, so up until the last maybe 3 weeks I though she would still get better but then I woke up one morning and I didn t even check on her because I was late for work, and I get a call from my 87 year old grandpa (who is very weak from old age and has trouble even standing) who tell me I need to come home because she passed away in her sleep.(he stayed with me for a month b4 and after she died) A year before that, when I was 17, I lost my dad due to a surprising heart attack. He had lived a state over for the last 3 years since we moved but we always stayed in touch. When he passed away I couldnt even help my little sister grief because it hurt so much. A year past since I have been without a parent and the pain I feel has only increased. The amount that I hate myself for how much of a bad child i was and caused them pain. And I just feel so unprepared for life and everything along with it. I keep telling myself to just suck it up and keep trying but I just don t want to live this way, so much pain.. I just want to feel better and be happy but it s so hard. I work 2 jobs and have my GED I m trying to further my education and my girlfriend who is staying with me doesn t even know this but most of the time when no one s around I just start crying my eyes out thinking about my parents and my future without them. Any advice would be amazing, thank you.

Question: Does my mom have a right to be mad about this?

Posted: 09 Oct 2017 12:19 AM PDT

( my moms 45 and im the oldest 23) Sometimes we dont have much money for food or shes too tired to run to the store to get anything for dinner. When that happens and we ask what will be for dinner she says its whatever we can find in the fridge. So while we go to the fridge and pick out anything we can find she will just sit and go on facebook or youtube not paying attention to anything around her. We sometimes dont even know what to make so theres times where we either just grab something like a handful of cheese or choose to wait to eat tomorrow. What annoys me is sometimes she doesnt want to eat even if we put it infront of her by the computer ans then theres other times where she tells us to find our own dinner, stares at the computer and then just before heading out to work shell say something like " oh hey everyone. THANKS for the food! It was SO good! I work hard and make sacrifices for you kids and this is the thanks i get!?" I get it shes our mother but should we really have to serve her food especially when no one knows what to eat or is this just bad behavior from her? At least my dad will let us know when hes hungry and if we tell him we dont know what to make hell ask whats in the fridge and tell us what he wants us to make for him to eat.

Question: Do you think I have a disorder or mental illness?

Posted: 08 Oct 2017 11:58 PM PDT

I always have family problems let me tell you a background my mom and dad separated when I was a child because they would always fight and hit each other my dad would hit my siblings with the belt and sometimes even like burn their backs and he was such a violent man he also hit my mom and treated her like **** but he went to jail took anger management and he would still hit me with the belt to discipline me him and my mom started living together again after 5 years but weren't together because he had changed but 2 years ago he hit her again and I was here to witness I kicked my dad because I was tired of him being violent and almost called the cops on him we moved out the next day and by a year later my mom forgave him and this time got back together and moved in together at first I didn't like the fact they did and I would cry that they were together I didn't trust my dad even if he's a better person than he was before I would also get jealous my mom still to this day pays too much attention to him and not us anymore anyways my point every time me or any of my siblings fight no matter if I'm right or wrong my dad always takes the opposite side and it's only me I guess I do have an attitude problem but that's because of him but literally my older siblings(22 and 25 still live with me) gang up on me (16) and try to beat I l

Question: Que segundo nombre me recomendarían ponerle a mis hijos, se llamaran Mia y Liam, apellido Hoffman, que nombres me recomendarían?

Posted: 08 Oct 2017 11:10 PM PDT

Estamos debatiendo los nombres para ellos, tenemos un ejemplo de llamar a la niña Mia Alaia y Liam aun no sabemos

Question: How to deal with a bitchy roommate/sister in law?

Posted: 08 Oct 2017 09:31 PM PDT

So I live with my fiance and his family. His sister-in-law is constantly trying to make me feel like a **** and get the rest of family to hate me. I m not very confrontational, and I don t want to start drama in the house but apparently she does. For example: telling ma(in-law) that I m a threat to children and later asking me to babysit her toddler for free so she can go drinking. Or her taking the shower and when I tell my fiance "oh I gotta wait for her to take my shower" she busts through my door saying I m bitching and gossiping about her. She doesn t clean because "I pay rent and I m not a housewife" but destroys the house. No body really says anything about it because they don t want drama. But she s going after me and it s getting harder to deal with her. I don t know what to do anymore.

Question: How do I explain incest to my niece?

Posted: 08 Oct 2017 08:35 PM PDT

Question: My Dad is a liar, how do I stop putting my trust in him?

Posted: 08 Oct 2017 08:17 PM PDT

He lies so much even lies to my Mom about finances. He lies to me whenever he promises me something its a lie.

Question: At what age did you first start feeling old?

Posted: 08 Oct 2017 08:15 PM PDT

Question: A Dad that disrespect his daughter.?

Posted: 08 Oct 2017 08:08 PM PDT

My dad is 60 year old. He has never has gotten his prostate check. I'm his only child. So everyone keeps coming to me to convince him to go to the doctor. Today I spoke to him about it. He made such a huge show on the street. Such a huge scene he raised his voice at me. In the street everyone was looking at me. I felt so embarrassed and humiliated. He was cursing me out in front of everyone. He said **** you to me a bunch of bad words and stuff. He was acting like he wanted to hit me. I still don't understand the reason for this behavior. When going to the doctor and getting checked is for his own good. But I know for sure I won't forget this. It was just to much. my question is what are things a parent should never tell their child during a argument. Also was I wrong for asking him to go get checked by a doctor.

Question: Can I marry my cousin (1st cousin) since she is adopted and not biological?

Posted: 08 Oct 2017 07:30 PM PDT

She was adopted as a baby, Her mother is a narcissist. Her mother criticizes her daily and has taught her other kids (the other cousins) to hate her. she also has tried to teach her siblings (aunts and uncles of my cousin) to hate her. Yet the cousin is normal and has not done anything that wrong other then normal behavior for someone who has Bipolar and some learning disabilities as a kid (functions normal). So can I marry her. I love her and feel for her and won't speak to my aunt because of how she treats her. We were born the same month and same year. I have been spending time with her since her mother professed her hatred of the daughter. At Thanksgiving this November I refuse to go since my cousin is not welcomed and thus she and I will be alone for Thanksgiving. I want to purpose there. We are both 26 years old. Can I marry her since she is not a biological relative?

Question: My parents are fighting, what should I do?

Posted: 08 Oct 2017 07:23 PM PDT

My parents are fighting today and my mom just went to sleep in the guest bedroom without my dad. Do you think this is serious or will it fade away eventually. It really scares me because, they are pretty good most of the time, but when the fight it's scary. They don't physically hurt each other, but they yell and slam doors. I don't want them to divorce. Thanks for your answers.

Question: Would it be wrong if I said this to my mom?

Posted: 08 Oct 2017 07:13 PM PDT

The other day, my mom said "I'm tired of kids". And that really made me mad, but I just walked away. This is what I wanted to say;"Well I didn't ask to be here, and I certainly don't want to. YOU are the reason I'm here, it's your fault, I don't want to hear your crap. Maybe you should've done both of us a favour and terminated the pregnancy".

Question: What would you do? (in-law issues)?

Posted: 08 Oct 2017 07:07 PM PDT

I really dislike my fiancé's family. We have been together for 6 years and since he moved a couple hours away with me 4 years ago to my hometown, they are so incredibly judgmental and rude towards me. They used to like me. Worst of all, my fiancé allows it and doesn't say anything because he doesn't want to start drama. I can defend myself but I also don't want the drama. However, I can't deal with this. My fiancé and some members of his family are traveling a few hours to see other family and I just don't think I can stomach it. My fiancé knows how I feel about them and doesn't want me to go if I'll just be upset. Part of my issue is that his family is incredibly fake. Nobody calls or lets him know of family events unless he gets upset when he finds out it happened. It's so obvious they don't genuinely care and it breaks my heart that he can't see it. Anyway, What would you do?

Question: Grandpa caught me "sneaking out"?

Posted: 08 Oct 2017 06:56 PM PDT

today i went to the movies to see IT with my friend (she invited two boys, i didn't know she would but one of them is my crush) and when the movie finished, my friend and one of the guys left and it was just me and my crush. i went to his car because he was telling me he got a new horn (he loves his car) and my grandpa saw me get out of his car and figured we went somewhere else. he won't listen to my side of the story and really believes we did something inappropriate and started calling me a whore. now he wants to kick me out tomorrow to live with my dad (i have no problem with that) but he just won't listen to my side of the story of what happened. do you think its fair or that he's overreacting? (i have no problem with getting kicked out i just think him ignoring what really happened isn't fair to me)

Question: Girls, how often did you fight with your brothers?

Posted: 08 Oct 2017 06:39 PM PDT

If they were older and/or bigger than you, did you have trouble defending yourself? If not, how did you?

Question: Why does my mom treat me like this?

Posted: 08 Oct 2017 06:34 PM PDT

I'm legally an adult where I live (18) but my mom treats me like a child, yet she expects me to be an adult. I work part time, and I'm a full time college student (I go to community college right now, so I'm stuck at home.) My mom expects me to give her my entire paycheck, I'm not allowed to have any money. I'm expected to get myself to and from schoo/workl without a car or taking the bus. (There's nobody that can give me rides unless I pay them.) I'm expected to keep up with all the house work (Laundry, dishes, taking out the trash, vacuuming, cleaning etc.) which I really don't have time to do everything. I'm have to be serious all the time, I can't make jokes, laugh, cry etc. I'm not allowed to see my friends outside of class, I'm not allowed to date, I can't go out of the house unless it's for school and work. I'm limited on how much time I can spend on the computer to 30 minuted a week unless its for school. I'm not allowed to close the door to my room, and my mom constantly goes through my stuff. I'm frustrated with this, and I have no way out as I have no money or close friends. All I want is a little freedom and privacy, but because I live under her roof I have to follow her strict rules. I can't talk to her about this since I'm not allowed to argue with what she tells me I can and can't do. I've never done anything to make her act this way, growing up I always stayed out of trouble, got really good grades and was overall a good kid. I don't know what to do anymore.

Question: Is there ABSOLUTELY anything that I can do to get my family back? Is ther programs that I can attend that’ll allow to live with them again?

Posted: 08 Oct 2017 05:37 PM PDT

Question: Brother and family spend only a few hours visiting Mother when around for 5 days: bad form?

Posted: 08 Oct 2017 05:28 PM PDT

My brother (and sister in law, niece and nephew) live 500 miles away from my mother. My sister in law apparently dislikes my mother (although my mother has no idea), and so my brother lets my mother come visit them only a few times a year. My mother is crazy about her grandchildren and jumps at every chance she gets to see them. My brother and his family took a 5-day vacation around the town where my mother lives (both in the town and within a 1-2 hour drive of the town). They spent the night with her one night, from 7pm until 8am the next morning, and from 7:30pm until 10pm, my brother and SIL visited a college friend nearby. They did not invite my mother to tour around with them, as they did touristy things the rest of the 5 days. They did not see my mother except for a few hours during their overnight stay. Isn't that rude of my brother? Yes, SIL doesn't like my mother, but to travel 500 miles, spend 5 days around town and not even spend an evening with mother is a slap in the face, in my view. I'm staying out of this, but I find brother's behavior very rude. Thanks. To add: my brother is in his mid-40s and is retired. My sister in law does not work. My mother is retired. They all have plenty of money to travel (they all fly first class only). When my mother visits my brother, it's for a weekend or a long weekend, maybe 4x per year.

Question: How does one go on living life when rejected totally by their family?

Posted: 08 Oct 2017 04:59 PM PDT

How do you deal with the loneliness?

Question: My Mom is mad I am going to my great-uncle's funeral next Saturday instead of my cousins' wedding. How do I calm her down?

Posted: 08 Oct 2017 04:56 PM PDT

My Dad's uncle died and I figured that is more important then the wedding of my Mom's nephew (my cousin). I was very apologetic to my cousin and offered to reimburse him for my seat if no one is found to replace me. He understood it seemed though I suspect his mother is annoyed. How do I calm my Mom down? She especially is mad cause it is my Dad's side of the family and family politics of them not backing her when she divorced my Dad 22 years ago (all should be ancient history).

Question: My sister-in-law is loud and so my mother dislikes her strongly. Is this a right reason to dislike someone?

Posted: 08 Oct 2017 04:53 PM PDT

Question: My great grandpa owned slaves?

Posted: 08 Oct 2017 04:43 PM PDT

So today I was over at my grandpas house were talking about family stuff I saw a picture of some guy I never seen before with a bunch of African American males I said whose those people and that guy in front of them? My grandpa said oh my dad and some nigers he owned I said what do you mean ? He said yep them some niger slaves that my dad owned I said did he ever tell you stories ? He said yep all the time them nigers are good at everything that they barely need to eat and they work like a damn animal my dad used to feed them so much he loved those nigers he treated them like family I said I want a niger he said your too young to own a niger your 11 years old now a days nigers aren't slaves their people I said oh okay and we stared talking about other stuff but is it possible to still own a niger? Like my grandpa said he treats them nice why can't I have one ?

Question: What to do about dad?

Posted: 08 Oct 2017 04:26 PM PDT

I'm an adult guy and i'm not perfect. Dad hates me though he claim he doesn't. He treats me like crap but treats my sister like she like she is the only child. Something might not be my fault, but if i was to apologize he wan't. He left Family at a point, and didn't apologize and i'm the bad person if i say something about it. I also deal with depression and anxiety, and he has never been there for me like i feel he should. I don't feel comfortable around him, and he acts as if he doesn't want my as his son. I am blamed for everything. what to do about a dad that hates his son? In an argument i told him i would kill myself. And he said to kill myself.