So recently my friends have been going behind my back and doing things which has made me feel very crappy. But today I was asked if I wanted to come to one of their birthday parties and I said yes because it's her 16th and a big deal. i now regret it. As soon as I said yes they all grouped up and we're talking and laughing. I could hear them say "she has no idea." and "she's clueless" then they'd laugh. I'm worried about what I'm walking into and though I know they wouldn't do anything to physically hurt me I wonder if they'd do something that would make me emotionally upset. I'm worried they'll take me to an are I don't feel comfortable in or an inappropriate store. They've also been known to ditch me in a store or somewhere to be funny. I really don't want to go now but I feel like I should be there for my friend. I've talked to my mom about it and she said I shouldn't let them win and should just go. What should I do?

I have been playing on a coed soccer team for about 3 months now and there is a guy on the team that is a nice person but shy too. At first, he wouldn't talk to me at all, but he interacted with everyone else on the team. He would and still does glance over at me and will watch me interact with others, but still would avoid me. I thought he didn't like me as a person even though I get along with everyone on the team. Just recently, he has started to come up to talk to me about the game or make small talk. I have noticed when he brings a girl that he is dating, he avoids me completely, but will still talk to everyone else. I'm just a teammate, so I don't understand why it is so awkward. It is awkward because it is very noticeable that he is trying to avoid me. I get more awkward in awkward situations so I feel this whole dynamic is awkward without any reason! He is never flirty/inappropriate which is a good thing and I would never say anything since he isn't available, I just find his behavior odd. Anyone know why he is acting like this? We are both 19.

with someone "cooler" then me she looks me straight into the eyes and doesn't say anything and just walks right past. Should i say something?

I'm alone in highschool and I tried making new friends, but they seem so uninterested in making friends. When someone does talk to me: my voice sounds so bored and uninterested in what they're saying and they don't talk to me anymore. I try to think positive and tried to start conversations, but I can't and I have failed so many times - maybe because I look too "unfriendly" and intimidating. How do I make friends when people are so uninterested?!

Even though we're frinds as children Friends

My two friends are constantly leaving me out. It happens all the time, to the point where I was prepared to just end the friendship because I felt like they just weren't being good friends to me. But, then they started including me so I let myself believe that they were finally changing and I wasn't going to be left out anymore. But, im back at square one again where they're leaving me out, but I don't want to stop being friends with them because I'll have nobody to hang out with, and this is sixth form. I feel like I'm an unnecessary member of the group and I never contribute to conversation because they're always talking about things I'm not interested in, like boys, they talk about BOYS a lot, majority of the time that's what they're talking about and it gets really annoying. Give me some advice please x

I have a friend who has too strong a personality. She always wants her friends to do her favors and she thinks they should because they are her friends. She can't handle people telling her no. She doesn't do anything for anyone unless it fits her schedule or her whims. I'm tired of this one sided relationship and want out. Should I let it die gradually. I don't want to just quit answering texts or calls without explanation, but she gets hostile when you disagree with her.

I only remember this scene... 2 girlfriends paired up together for a singing competition, but the judges only accepted one of the 2 girls to go through, one girl said they won't go through unless it's together, friendship is important...bla bla, while the other girl was selfish and decided to ditch her friend for her own success...however the judge decided to pick the girl who wasn't selfish and put her friend first. The selfish one got upset that's all I remember from this show...anyone know the name?

i just got real suspicous of my friend when i saw a sticker on the back windows of his car and it says So and So law association and it kind of looks like a badge and its updated

because I deleted him from my fb... but he is not a close friend at all (he was my tutor for a semester) and I barely talk to him...We met today and when we were talking, he realized that I deleted him from fb. He said that I hurt his feeling. I am not sure how should i have responded?

My friend is embarrassed to be seen with me in public because of the way I look. She doesn't think im attractive or pretty. When we are in the public like school, or anywhere around people. She covers her face with the jacket on her hoody or puts her head down on a desk or something. When we sit together she tells me to scoot over far away from her and not to talk to her when others are around and act like I don't know her. Should I find a new friend????

I'm an American, and I recently moved with our parents to Mexico. I'm a 17-year old boy My mother is Mexican, so I speak Spanish fluently and enrolled in a local high school in Mexico City. It's all great, except for our math teacher. He doesn't accept any mistakes, and has no problems calling the boys who scored poorly to the front, and smacking their faces in front of everyone. It's legal for teachers to do this in Mexico, btw, so that sucks. But my issue is that when he slaps some boys, he seems to genuinely enjoy it more, making comments like "Are you enjoying seeing my fingerprints on your cheek?" Like he slapped me today three or four times, and then made me stand there looking at him, burning with humiliation. And said "I love faces like yours. Your hair's all perfectly in place, you've put cologne on, you think you're here to impress girls. And then I stand here, slapping that face left and right in front of all these girls you wanted to impress. Your face is red, your hair looks terrible, your eyes are tearing up, and I did that to you in 10 seconds. How does that make you feel?" This sort of creepy talk is worse than even the slaps, which I can bear. I don't get why he enjoys HUMILIATING some of us students. I even spoke to the principal, and she said, "If he didn't leave a mark, and didn't use an object to strike you, then he's following the rules." Coming from America, this is a HUGE change for me. What can I do?

I would like advice on how to overcome the fear of new friendships. I am 31 years old. I haven t had many long term friendships in my life, due to moving around a ton. I have one friend thst has been my friend for 16 years and another thst has been a friend for 10 years. They bring girls around and I shy away. Yesterday I was told that this person feels as if they don t measure up. They said it s hard to be friends with me because I put up walls. And I agree, I don t know how to put my guard down. I really dislike failure and fear it so much. Any advice?

This is quite hard for me to explain but i'll try. Recently I switched schools and everything kind of change (in my perspective) like everuthing i thought to be me changed. I thought i was a social person with lots of friends but that was just me being very comfortable with my classmates and i realized after i never really hung out with any of them. I thought my fashin style was this casual and chill style. Turns out that was just cause i was a bit lazy and knew that my classmates recognized this particular style so i kept it. I used to think i didnt have time with hobbies cause of schools but turns out i just dont have any.one positive thing tho is with this new school my grades have never been better but somehow im lost. Idk who i am. And because im so lost in who i am i dont know where to start so i dont start at all. I want to have my personal sense of style but dont know what it is or have any money. I wanna click with people that get me but i simply socialize to "please" other people as in im always just saying what they expect to hear. Im just really lost and dont know how to fix it, please help

I've been friends with her for 10 years. She's been a nice friend (there have been worse) but I feel like I've outgrown her in the last 5 years. I know her very well and she's done a good job of hiding certain traits about her. For one, imitation. I don't care if we have the same shirt, shoes, whatever but I do notice that she imitates my life choices and I almost feel like my identity is her security blanket. If I do and it's successful, she does it too. When I got a job at the hospital, she found one a month later. I work on a cardio floor and 2 years later, she suddenly has the urge to work on a cardio floor. I would understand if she job-shadowed and found an interest in it but no. I get into graduate school and she says, "oh wow, now you're making me think of going back to school." I try to think positive - maybe I inspire her? I'm inspired by cool women too and change my game plan sometimes but not like her. Other things like if I went to travel and watched my favorite musician, she would do that too, even though she's not really a fan of that musician. She has no identity. She also said she wouldn't mind if we got married the same year (which I think is CRAZY - how can I be there for her and my wedding?) Through the years, she tends to self-project. She would say how much I shouldn't be with a rich man bc that's what I wanted (NOT TRUE). I came to realize that it was all her. Also, she lied to everyone saying that her boyfriend was an engineer but he wasn't. He just worked as a level entry job at an engineering company. When my partner (surprise, surprise happens to be an engineer) and when she found out, was not a fan. She always tries to get me to admit that I'm not really in love with him and she believes I'm not happy - I'm starting to think maybe this is her projection too? Anyway, when I got into grad school she said, "you know you're better than everyone now? EVERYONE used to judge you but you just beat them." I resent that bc I don't see myself as "better". I'm much more humbled after going through so many struggles. Also, I didn't "beat" anyone. I was gonna respond with, "so you're one of those people?" I don't know why she would say something like that now or where that even comes from. I'm aware there may have been people judging me but I tried hard not to pay attention to it. Why would she say something like that? Was that supposed to be a compliment?

I'm 14 years old, and I want it to stay that way! Not going to lie but I can't wait for collag because I don't like my school but I don't want to grow old. I don't like the fact that my parents are going to grow old and die and it won't be like old days when I was young and playing around, I don't want to be mature. I don't like the fact that it's scary with all houses and jobs and moving out and quite frankly I just am scared to death, of death. Could someone please give me some advice, it would be a big help! I don't know if I'm overreacting because I'm on my period lol but still I have been thinking of this for ages now☹️

We spoke this morning and he said he'd be over around 4pm. Then I said "call me when you get up". He works 3rd shift and lives 57 miles from my house. Closest answers get B. A. Points

This girl that i dont know always says thing like "no one likes you" to me every time i come in the room. She says it EVERY TIME. She either says "youre so ugly no one likes you" or "no one likes you" for no reason at all but it seems like everyone likes me and doesnt have a problem but her.

Been dating for about 2 months and we decided to make it exclusive, we say we love each other, we're both 24. He says "he cant promise me anything but he'll try his best" he says he 100% committed to this and hes serious. he went ballistic once when he thought i was cheating on him

Whenever I share something new about myself, he always says you have never told me this before..we have only been friends for a month...why does he think that I should have already told him everything

I work in an office with 9 other women. Our boss is a 27 year old single guy who is the best boss ever. We just adore him as a boss and as a good friend. He has a great sense of humor that makes working for him a pleasure. We had our annual party where he gives out our yearly bonus checks. We have a tradition at these annual parties that when he gives us our bonus check, we give him a kiss. We think the kiss is great fun and so does he. However our co workers in other departments tell us it is just "not right" that we kiss our boss. They say that is sexual harassment by US. To us, it is just a way of saying thank you for being a great boss. We want to tell our co workers to mind there own business and f— off. If we were sexually harassing our boss, he would fire us. Do you think we did anything wrong when we kissed our boss? The yearly bonus this year in our department was $7,000. Does anyone reading this get a $7,000 bonus at work? We think our co workers are jealous? What do you think? Are they?

My friend said something that I think was funny but when I texted her about it, she said: " I don't try to be funny when we are dealing with serious issues"..What did she mean?

So me and another guy have strengthened our relationship and friendship after our mutual interests that we both don't like the same people. But I can tell he keeps an eye on me and I keep an eye on him as well.

I'm a male who is reserved when it comes to girls. I'm nervous around them all the time. Growing up I've been teased at by relatives and people in school. Often I would just think about girls I like when stressed over homework or home life. Whenever a Victoria's Secret magazine came into the mail, I'd get nervous about being caught glancing at it for a second. Never am I allowed to have posters on my wall in my room. One day I snapped and began to loosen up and not care. I started flipping through the pages of the vs mag and then leaving it elsewhere in the house. Kinda like I'm saying that I notice these girls. They in malls at the vs store and on tv being seen by everyone. I use the main pc a lot but it belongs to my mom. One night I was surfing the net for this one vs model candice swaenpole. She is my dream girl. I right clicked to save the picture but instead I accidentally set it as the screen wallpaper and turned the computer off without realizing whay happened. I was tired. Nothing ever came of it So then began to put picks of this girl. Unlike Victorias secret, she is a playboy model. My heart raced like crazy but however I was not spoken to about it. Why? http://cdn1.pmatehunter.com/content/130503/tiffany-ryan-gorgeous-amateur-01.jpg http://cdn1.pmatehunter.com/content/130503/tiffany-ryan-gorgeous-amateur-10.jpg http://cdn1.pmatehunter.com/content/130503/tiffany-ryan-gorgeous-amateur-15.jpg

Thanks after reading your answer I just went to class because who gives. I did say sorry to that person which was awkward but they just said whatever. That was awkward but it's ok I'm just going to forget them in like 2 or 3 months anyway.

I don't really see anything wrong with it but. Why are they telling me what I should do with my life

Today in school I was in my gym class talking to my friends and later on one of them told me that some girl I don't even know was mocking me, talking bad about me and just being two-faced. She one of those girls that uses people so she can get away with her two-face acts. So later on I approached her and said that she's a two faced ***** and that she should slit her wrists, drink bleach and die and she was crying. Some other girl that wasn't even apart of the situation butted in and called me disrespectful and yelled at me instead of the two-faced *****

Regrets...things i should of done to protect myself... ive been scared all my life... ive been threatened that i was getting kidnapped and killed and the messenger was my own family... I was framed... I was just in middle school. Never knew how to defend myself. Never had friends.. well real friends... never was spoken to seriously about how dirty life can be. I was never challenged at school so i feel dumb like i didnt learn anything... Nobody understands having to live in the same place, same streets of my past bad memories... i used to cry everynight and act like everything was ok during the day... now i feel like the more im knowing how horrible it can be..who were fake with me . I dont have friends....i know people say they dont either but in reality they do they have their family aswell.

Minus plus positive = positive

My friend unfriended me so I couldn't contact them after a very small fight about something insignificant. Never thought that something so small would make them cut me off like that. I was pretty shocked. It appears as though they've made it so i can contact them though, since they've opened their communication to people other than friends. So I probably couldn't get a message through. Almost think they want me too because of some stuff they've posted since then. however, they're the one who cut me off like that. I don't want to start a process of them doing this when they're mad and then waiting for me to make up. This actually happened once before, but without the unfriending. They just said some hurtful things including that they didn't care about being my friend, and ignored me. A couple days later, they came back and acted like I was the one who didn't want to talk to them, and didn't apologize at all. I feel like if I send a message, it'll be me crawling again. they'll keep manipulating me this way if they get angry. They need to fess up and apologize and talk to me first because they cut me off over a little fight even tho we're supposed to be good friends. But am I letting *my* pride stop me from being willing to try to reach out and talk? We don't live near each other so seeing each other somewhere isn't an option, and also i would like to talk on the phone about it of course if they were to message me first. what do you think i should do? It's been 4 days. EDIT - second paragraph should say "so i could probably get a message through."

I've had this "friend" since middle school. In college, I got suspended for theft because I got taken advantage of while drunk, and I later found out someone this girl doesn't even like, knew about it! AKA my "friend" is a huge gossip. In the past year or so, she has gotten into cocaine, and has done it in public multiple times, plus before running a marathon with me. She has offered it to me before. More recently, I hooked up with one of her co-workers for 3 days, and my friend threw a huge fit about it, when he and I were into each other. Additionally, I've had drama with my mom, and I feel that she barely did anything about it, except buy me drinks for her own fun! Lastly, my last straw was when I was with her co-worker, she said I encouraged him to skip work, I should pay him half of the money he spent on me, and she started gossiping about my mom. also, when i texted him angry, she went and texted one of my friends, that i "texted someone at work 50 times in a row and it was insane" I'm done with this b*tch! I can't believe she interfered with my relationship with him.

Since the first day of school shes been attack me for no reason. When she first walked in the class and looked at me she goes "ew shes so ugly" and stood and stared at me. And In this class we work in groups or partners and me and this other girl and her were in the group and she said she didn't wanna be in the group, the other girl asked why didnt she wanna be in the group and she pointed at me when i wasnt looking and goes "too ugly" and sneaked and worked with someone else. Another time me were assigned partners just me and her and she tells me not to talk to her at all and to scoot over far away from her. She put her head on her desk the whole time with her jacket hood over her head. She seems so embarrassed to work with me becauase she thinks im too ugly to a point she doesnt wanna talk to me so i cant ask her anything.

So my friend I pushed but not too hard and she asked me who did it and I said it was the girl that was by me at the time and that was third period. And then lunch came I was eating them when I was done I heard there just was a fight with my friend, it was that girl and my friend. she said she didn't like her but I didn't know that if I did then I wouldn't even said it was her the pushed her because as kids you joke around and hit each other and always blame it on someone

I was speaking with another guy about something we have covered in class and when he saw me he said are you cheating on me b/c i was talking to the other kid. -he also said that my boyfriend is lucky to have me... then I said that I don't have one. - He compliments my hair and how I look. - He blows me kisses in middle of conversations... Is he just flirting and he is being friendly? or does he like me... I can't tell

Litterally my wish right now is for a friend, that's all I need to be able to smile. I'm not even picky, they don't need to be perfect, we don't need to travel the world together I just want someone to text to ask what the homework is, to sit by in class but I can't even have that. The worst part is I don't even know why I don't, i may be insecure about what I have interest and the things I say to the point I do t say them ever. I know I'm very pretty, I have beautiful hair and a nice body with a cute face but I know I'm not the prettiest and Ik I'm not ugly. I THINK I'm normal but for some reason I'm invisible, I've talked to everyone in my class by saying "I like your outfit" TRYING to get someone to like me but I'm still feeling hopeless. I have no one to text to ask what that homework was and I have no ones shoulder to cry on either. I cry a lot because of this I SWEAR ALLL I NEED IN LIFE IS A FRIEND I HAVENT HAD ONE IN YEARS on my 16 birthday I cried cause I had no one to spend it with. I'm still 17 and I'm a young, normal girl what's wrong with me?

So I'm friends with this girl for about 5 Years now and we're now both in high school.she's sometimes the most nicest person who you could be around with, and just talk about anything. Or she could be the most bitchest person like Regina Gorge. Lately she's been insulting me and some other other friends. I remember there was one time when we were getting ready for marching band,and we have to put our hair up in a bun, and she doesn't know how so she went to me for help. One of our friend jokingly said " Wow! you don't know how to do your hair?Come on girl! I'll give you a hair tutorial one day." I guess She got offended and said"at least I know simple math unlike you," Lately she's been calling me and idiot or stupid bc I don't know some of the thing we learn in class together. She's also been calling names to 2 of our other friends. When she need to do something. She would make me do it instead and she's really needy. This one time,me and one of my friends were chilling out at table outside of school waiting for band to start. When she got at school she texted me where I'm at bc she's at the front door, I told her I'm at the table outside with one of our friends kinda near the front door. She texted me that she wanted me to come and walk her there and I told her that she can do it herself. It's not that long of a walk and it'll only take like 10sec for u to get there, and I had all my school stuff out on the table. She got mad and called me a ***** for ditching her.

So one of my friends invinted me to "study" for a upcoming test. I told her I would go but she didn't tell me I would be 5th wheeling. She invited her boyfriend (they're not offical but still gf and bf) who is in our friend group and another friend as well someone who she also has a "thing" with. My entire purpose of going was to ask questions and learn but all they did was flirt and talk. I texted my friend (she told me not to go) and said I regret coming because I couldn't get any work done. I ended up texting her the entire time because I didn't know what else to do. It looked like I was the only one trying to study. At one point, my friend got up and called my other friend so they could talk secretly in the bathroom. I was left with the boys and I knew something was a bit off. I trusted them so I didn't think too much about it but still thought it was very rude of them. When they came back, I felt my friend was trying to snoop at my phone when I was texting my other friend about the entire situation. She would look at my phone every time I got a message and act like she was looking at what song I was listening to. So basically at this point, I felt they invited me on purpose but I knew they wouldn't do that because we were really close. Not only this, they even asked if I wanted to come to their double date... like who does that? I don't know how to feel about this situation... is this a warning that they possibly might be fake?

so i have no friends at all even people who are nice to me kinda just float away or straight up tell me i cant be ur friend anymore this happens a lot!!!! i have no friends i do not live in a neighborhood. and im homeschooled...... all i want is a friend can i have some tips on how to make friends in my situation

So long story short me and my best friend have been friends for 5 years so far we haven't talked in 4 months I miss her a lot I keep think back to all the memories we use to have it hurst me a lot. it was during summer when we our friendship broke this year we aren't going to the same school we separated. our friend ship broke by us 'hating' each other but i know she doesn't hate me and I don't hate her but it was just at that moment. I wish I could hit her up but I feel lke she's gonna be like oh leave me alone what do you want who's this again.i miss going places after school even tho we get in trouble like we always use to go by YOLO we only live once type of stuff because our parents wouldn't let us do anything. we promised that if I get in trouble she would get in trouble. (HERE COME THE TEARS)we use to see stuff on social media like "nothing hurts more than a broken friendship". we always use to say that if we ever fight we make up under any circumstances but I never knew it would come down like this she was like my sister we even got arrested together ughhh. We would always put each other first we would always do the craziest stuff together if anything happen she would call me first. Well this year I tried making new friends but it's just so hard acaue nun of them are like me they are so basic don't understand nothing don't wanna do nothing they're just boring not to be rude or anything. I just miss my best friend and it hurts man like crazy.

We didn't have mutual friends. He dumped me. Messaged me saying "don't talk to my friends again b*tch. I know you messaged (his friends name)" ex never called me names. I think he was jealous. I said "I messaged him ONE TIME and it was A WHILE AGO" then ex blocked me. Said sorry like an hour later. He said "I'm sorry I said that. But I'm serious though please don't message me or my friends." I said "I wouldn't do it again. Bye" the next day I wanted to ask what his friend said to him. He said "nothing. Don't worry about it" and we exchanged a few words. In the middle he said "don't message my friends that's crossing the line" I said I wouldn't. Why did he say "don't message my friends" a lot, like more than once?

I suffer from mild depression, it started last year. I try so hard to be friends with people and they always end up leaving me. I don't do anything wrong, at least I don't think I do. But I find it hard in my case to make friends. I will develop a friendship with someone at work, we will hang out "once" and then I never hear from them again. I don't understand it. I will try to stay in contact with them and try to make plans again but they end up distancing themselves from me and we just stop being friends. So a couple days ago a "friend" of mine hung out for the first time and I thought "this is it, this is going to be someone who actually stays" and then nope. Hasn't talked to me. I sent her a text and she was very vague unlike all her other text messages that she has sent. She acted like she wanted to be friends, always texted me first and wanted to hang out with me. She was very open about her life and now I don't get it!! Help! If you have been through this too let me know because I feel like I fail at making friends by the way I'm 30 as well :( And no since I last texted her I haven't texted her again it's been 2 days.

I used to be able to talk alot but now I don't have anything to say anymore and it's awkward and I hate being lonely at school,I look like a loser and alot of people annoy me all the time and I always hear people say about me 'She can't talk,'She can't speak'.I should of said I can talk to stick up for myself but I feel embarassed.How do i can back to my normal self of being talkative? i'm not scared

I am best friends with 2 girls. They are best friends too and have been friends longer then I have. My one friend is turning 16 on Saturday and so she will be getting her drivers license. I know that on that day and really any day se will take the opportunity to drive with other people and yea I know that's fun but she will obviously pick my other friend to drive with her first and to take pictures to run in my face (unittentionally) how do I not get jealous for always being picked 2nd and not being her best friend?

I recently started 9th grade a few months ago and I'm already ready to quite. I'm a 14 year old girl and since 3rd grade I haven't had any friends... I suffer from extreme social anxiety which is why, I think, i don't have any friends. I can't talk to people with out freaking out. I'm getting really tired of this because everyday I just go to school, come home, sleep, wake up, do homework then go to bed. Every morning I just want to cry. I'm too afraid to go to lunch at school so I just sit in the bathroom now. I feel like no one notices me. Nobody talks to me except teachers, my parents, and my sisters. And this one girl tried to be my friend but she stopped talking to me cause I wouldn't respond. I would just smile and nod my head cause I didn't know what to freaking say. I know I need to put effort into life but I don't know how I'm too afraid. I'm just tired of feeling alone and out casted. It's really just like I'm not even there. I really want to die because I can't see a future for myself. How am I supposed to get a job or a husband if I can't talk? Going through middle school and elementary school alone was hard enough, now I just feel it's getting ridiculous and I'm missing out on so much. What do I do?

don't get me wrong am not shy i do have friends but i don't chill with them in school just fist bumps