So my mother in law likes to play favorites with all of the grandchildren and i don't know how to address it anymore because it just leads to arguing making the situation hostile. We do live in the same house so this is part of the problem. Another thing is she is constantly complaining about every little thing. How do you deal with a person that is constantly complaining and they play favorites?

So the other day, I gave my parents a presentation on why I feel like I'm ready to babysit. I know exactly what to do in every single situation, and I know how to preform CPR and the Heimlich. I love kids. My mom says that it's fine for me to babysit, but me dad says it's not! How can I convince him otherwise?

My parents will never speak to him again.

She is bitter towards her aunt cause her aunt's son had an affair the aunt didn't disown him like my Mom wanted her to do. I say all that is none of my business.

Im a stay at home mom and i cant work until my daughter gets into daycare. Sometimes it drives me crazy bc when the chores are all done and i have nothing else to do i get bored. There are ppl i know that dont wanna work at all and they still live with their parents. I just dont get it.

I just don't understand. Okay she is a stripper but when I went to college and graduate and found a job, she throw shade. She got dreams of becoming a famous actress and I'm with her for that. She went to acting school in los Angeles but she never finish through, she not making any moves towards her dreams that much. But when I accomplished my goals in school to be in the medical field, she throw shades and being salty about not coming to my graduation because I didn't come to her birthday party which was the day before my graduation.

Does anyone have any funny stories about getting caught doing something stupid? I was just in my room watching porn with my headphones on and didn't hear her walk up to the room (light feet) lol please share your story's

So basically, I had a hw assignment that I stayed up until 11 pm working on last night, and now my mom's upset because she thinks that it's too late (which it is). But the thing is, that it was graded and I really wanted to get a good grade on it, which was why I worked on it so much. Now she's saying how she doesn't know anyone else that's my age that spends that much time on hw, and I'm really mad. Is it just because I'm a teenager, or because I have to talk to her? Sorry for typing so much. Ok, just realized that the last part didn't make sense. I meant to say: Am I mad at her because I'm a teenager or is it because we have some communication problems?

My brother hates everything about life he complains and rants about life all the time he never has a nice word to say about anyone! He gets depressed all the time he looks up to celebrities and takes on the persona of Denis Reynolds from it's always sunny in Philadelphia sometimes it was funny at the start but now it's a bit weird. He is so mean to my parents who are really nice and cute and I confronted him about it and he said he can't be nice to them he's tried! After that I told him he needed help and to go see someone and he cried and told me that I'm blaming all our problems on him and hasn't talked to me in a month

He seems hell bent on marrying her, or better yet this woman he's been going with really wants him to marry her. I have a sneaky feeling she wants to get married to my brother because he gets a nice pension from the city job he had & free healthcare for life. I think that's what she's really after. She plays the grieving widow but wasn't married very long this last time before he died. I saw on her deceased husband's face book page he had listed it's complicated in the relationship part. Why would he put that if he was happily married to this woman? This woman has caused a lot of problems with our mother & other siblings. She is trying to completely take over. She is even calling my brothers grand children her grand children now. She has pictures of his grand children on her face book page saying it. I can't believe my brother allows her to refer to herself this way. They broke up once last year but then unfortunately got back together. I would say since they broke up once it could for sure happen again. What do you think?

My son says that his sister has made him addicted to her, and that he cannot be with any other woman. And my daughter just takes advantage of the whole situation cuz he's giving her money. He's had issues of conciousnes, but her not. How to make them understand that what they're doing is wrong?

Let's say your 18 years old. Your dad always told you, your stupid, you look like crap and he can't stand looking at your ugly *** face. After arguing with you he spit in your face. What would you do?

My Mom always rants about her brother who she says enabled her father to be an alcoholic. Yet, my Mom enables my sister to be a 24 year old with the maturity of a 12 year old. She also enabled and covered up for my brother when he was doing drugs though she stopped giving him money. My Mom is a hypocrite. But are we all hypocrites for the most part even if my Mom is a severe one?

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Years ago my wife and I had the rule that as long as you're in school (college) you don't have to pay rent. that worked great till her 21 year old son decided to graduate with only an associate's degree whereas my 21 year old daughter decided to get her bachelors. Her son graduated last Dec and when he did his rent was assessed at $200 a month. My wife thought that was too much. Since last year he's only given me $100 but my wife said that every month she'd go into his account and get the money out. This is a boy who can get anywhere in town on public transportation but he can't seem to go to a bank or ATM on his paydays. Recently, he bought his first car and now my wife wants me to cut his rent down to $100. I told her no because we can go buy a big ticket item then tell our landlord to cut us a break. Whenever I bring up the subject to him he'll go to him mom and then she'll hit me up saying that it's not fair that he has to pay and my daughter doesn't. My daughter is 2.5 hours away in a 4 year college and is only home for breaks and the summer. Her son is there using water, lights, cable, internet, we're cooking his food, and washing his clothes. Most of the time he'll go stay 3 or 4 nights a week with his girlfriend at her parent's house. I'm fed up with him coming and going as he pleases. When he got his car I told him that he could use my supplies to wash it as long as he replaced them. He's yet to replace anything he's used up. My wife thinks I'm wrong to make him replace stuff that's already there. But what can I do? He's an adult in every sense of the word. He's graduated college with no plans to go back. He's working and has bought a car. Has his own insurance policy and pays that. BUT, he can't seem to pay rent because he doesn't make enough, according to his mom. Should I go the route of evicting this adult or let mommy have her way and let him live with us for free? I told her I'm trying to teach him some responsibilities but she just wants to keep him her little boy. I just text him and his reply was "I can only do $50 today."

I hate them both and they are the only two people I hate.

I'm turning 16 tomorrow and my dad told me not to have any high expectations. I asked him what the budget was and he said it was the same as all 4 other kids, about 70 each. I am the only one of us "Kids" who live with him, the others are his girlfriends children who live far away in another city and all of them except one are adults. Is it really right that you spend as much money on a sweet 16 as adults who don't even live near you? It's not even his kids it's his girlfriends? This includes my birthday cake and I'm not gonna have a party or anything like that... He gets more tax money for me and my mom (cause I only live with him) each month than my birthday will even cost, I don't get any allowance or anything so he literally spends nothing at all on me?

He isn't really my dad but he has been with my mum since I was 4 (I'm 19 now). I've hated him ever since I can remember. He keeps me in the house like a prisoner and every time I go outside, which is literally once a week, he will get mad about it. I'm scared to ask him anything because he always yells and gets angry over the simplest things. Lately I finished school and now I'm forced to sit home and clean. If I don't he tells me he will cut off the internet and not feed me. I have no money and no job because he's doing everything he can to stop me from getting one. I'm not in college because he won't let me go. I am only allowed to go to college if I go to the course he wants. I watch my friends having the time of their life while I sit home and clean like a damn cinderella or something. He loves putting me down and making me feel bad about myself and my mum doesn't give a f***. It's like he has her wrapped around his finger. My life is so boring and useless and that makes him happy. I don't know what to do anymore, I'd love to just run away but I've no where to go and no money. My town is also really small and it's very hard to get a job around here. I don't know what to do anymore, I feel like just killing myself.

Long but please read :) Okay so my stepdad has been around for about 6 years, him and my mum aren't married but had my little brother together and he's now 4. When they first got together he was nice and welcoming but for the past few years that hasn't been the case. Basically half way through the pregnancy of my brother, he turned bad. Got angry at mum for getting crumbs on the bed when she was pregnant and getting angry at me and my sister all the time. There's also been so many arguements at the wrong times, like one christmas he was being a complete idiot towards me & I stood up for once and told him how it makes me feel when he calls me names & he went off!! Now today I had ice cream for desert and he got angry at me for eating it, when I bought it with my money from work. He never says hello to me either when I get home. Me & my siblings do play up abit, we aren't perfect and have learning to do, but I feel like the way he acts still isn't needed, no matter what we do. It makes me feel horrible. All I want is for me to be behaved but also for him to stop being so angry, at all of us. Is it my fault or? What do I do? Because I hate it

so I have anxiety and a lot of it and I have told my mom and she thinks I can just get rid of it by being social which obviously isn't the solution but she complains on how I'm not social just because I do online school, online school helps me be focused. The thing is that she complained about all my friends when I had a whole lot of them but as soon as I stop being friends with these so called friends she get mad over me not having a lot of friends anymore and it's tiring.

I know a mother who is very old-fashioned and is in denial that her 11 year old daughter reached puberty. She refuses to provide her daughter the materials that are for personal hygiene (e.g deodorant, face wash, tampons, undergarments such as bras). This child shows severe problems with hygiene because of this. It is a form of neglect if one does not provide the children some basic needs. I've spoken to the parent that her daughter is struggling emotionally and physically, but she thinks that kids don't reach puberty until 14-15 years of age. Meanwhile, I notice that the same girl is dealing with peer pressure. Kids in her grade are exposed to sex, drugs, world issues, and whatever the media shows - which is something that her parents DON'T educate her about when it comes to right and wrong. They still believe that she will not know about this soon enough. CPS may not care about the parenting issues - but the health issue is something that I'm very concerned about. I've heard other adults complain about the lack of personal care.

Dad and I have never seen eye to eye or been good with each other but he needs friends now and I feel it is my job to help. He is going through a lot of therapy and Mum is staying close by as his friend.

My mom has been really depressed lately and she has been randomly crying all the time. Her and my dad argue all the time over us kids ( there is 7 but only 4 live at home now) and they also argue over not giving each other enough "attention". The youngest in the house is about to be 4 and then there is a 9 year old, and then me and my brother, we are 14 and 15. My mom and me are close so we talk about everything together but lately she hesitates when i ask her about her and my dad, she says she wants to make it work but its not. She doesnt want me to stress so whenever they argue i take the little kids away...i dont know what to do any more. They have been married 28 years nut they are going to end up getting a divorce soon. Its killing me to see her like this.

Basically: she quit college after 1.5 years (freshmen then summer classes), in hopes of becoming insta famous with her photography/ travels (didn't happen and she abandoned that idea anyway *facepalm*), she now wants to start YouTube to make some money later (beauty guru or vlogger whatever, she says she expects 1 year at least to make "any" money.. okay well at least she doesn't have outrageous plans like the insta thing before). She's 20 now. She doesn't have a job, and right after leaving college she spent several months overseas with her bf, and plans on going back later (not anytime soon but doesn't matter for the question) and Living there forever eventually getting her residency there. She wants to eventually make enough money off of YouTube and sponsors from insta and etc in the LONG run, not now. When she was in college she was working as a vet tech, attending a smaller campus of a great school, and she planned on transferring to the mother campus the start of year 2 (the mother campus is very popular and well respected). She has no job now, stays home and sleeps till the PM... lives with our parents. The only good thing is she cleans the place up nicely when alone and cleans up after herself. That's it. She says she wants to get started on this and that but doesn't do any of that!! Ever! (Read the update for the rest of the question below) back to the question: my parents aren't any help, they ask her sometimes what she plans on doing but other than that dont bother. they either feel guilty or gave up. because she left for college my father would constantly degrade her saying she was stupid, useless, would never do anything in life etc. my mom is really nice and supportive but always made her feel guilty for living away from home.. and now we have a totally opposite problem.. normal? does she just need time to sort herself out? btw to the person who said to buy her a camera: she wants to be self employed through social media hence allowing her to live anywhere and not be compromised on a commuter job. the thing is we DID buy her a VERY expensive camera and lens and equipment all amounting to at least 4k. this was before our extreme financial problems that happened suddenly and she barely uses it but claims shes "going to" "wants to" but she never does, and shes been home since the beginning of this year....

im 33 years old and have never met my biological father. my mom and step dad on vacation seen him working in a mall they were at and talked to him and he gave my mom his number saying that I could call an talk to him if I wanted to. Im 33 now and my step dad has been my dad all my life. I've been mentally unstable since I was about 8 years old but Im working to change that now. I have severe ocd and scrupulosity. its made it hard for me to get good jobs, hold fulfilling relationships, and got to a point where I've contemplated suicide. Im doing a lot better now with self helps books and loving myself but i just want to know if you think it would benefit me at all to meet my biological father and see what he's all about. i feel like he's never been around so why should I meet him now.? Why should I give him the liberty and what would I gain or not gain from doing this. Just want the world opinion. Thanks in advance

I'm so heartbroken she was always my biggest fan she always supported me and defended me she always would do everything for me even tho she didn't have alot of money i loved her so much and i know she loved me with everything i miss her so much ive cried so much today i cant sleep or eat i wish i could take back anything nasty i ever said to her because she was my biggest fan how do i deal with this im crying while writing this i miss her so ******* much

I'm 18 and sick of my mother's controlling personality. Now I only work at McDonald's, I get a paycheck every week but some weeks it's $20 and some weeks it's $100 so my paychecks are very unsteady. How can I make this work in a way that I can live on my own?

I'm 18 and still in highschool. I know I am still living under her roof but she still treats my bedtimes and friend times as though I'm still 16. Am I suppose to just sit back and let her control me? I'm an adult! I wish I could move out but I only work at McDonalds and don't have a steady paycheck, sometimes I get $100 and sometimes I get $20. So paying rent on an apartment isn't an option. I feel trapped in this house because I should be able to be more free considering I'm 18. Help.

Because my dad would tell at me for making the smallest mistake or just because he wanted to take his anger out on someone. Both my parents are like that actually. Now that my mom is divorced she takes her anger out on me for no reason. I'm an adult woman. But still it hurts and I can see how that can really make your self esteem be low regardless of if you try to think better about yourself. If you get called untrue things your whole life like that you're ungrateful, lazy, dumb, useless eater, and so on... How can you not believe it on some level? Thankfully I have God in my life and I know His Word is the ONLY truth in this fallen world. But as I go through everyday life the effects of the parental abuse dont just disappear. I waa also verbally harassed at school growing up and I never provoked any of this..I was scared of my peers and my parents...i never "provoked" either of them to abuse me. So it makes you feel like you just deserve it for existing...

My dad explodes over the littlest things and it's honestly terrifying. We were at the drive through the other day and I almost started crying because he was screaming that they messed up his order, and he drives like a dann psycho. He was yelling that he wanted to kill and shoot the people working there. One time we almost got into a car accident because he got posses at a car that was going the regular speed limit. And another he didn't talk to be for a week because I had screwed up on something. I was nine years old and couldn't understand why my mom was yelling at him. Then he gets super petty when my mom doesn't want to talk about what he wants to talk about and goes into their room all pissy and refuses to eat dinner. There's a lot more examples, but I really don't want to get into it. We're already going through a lot of ****. My mom is the one who has an actual job and pays all of the large bills. And I'm working on high school and going through depression, and sometimes it just gets too much. We cant say anything. He's not physically abusive, but it's stressful. What can I do to try to stop this?

My dad is so controlling over her... He doesn't let her work, go out, etc. He makes her cook for him everyday (no matter how late it is, and he gets mad when she doesn't), lashes out at her, calls her names (like fat, etc.) and when he realizes he's in the wrong he'll just try to joke it off and my mom lets him. She doesn't want to divorce him. She doesn't want to sacrifice our family, so she keeps us together at the cost of her happiness. My mom also does not want to divorce my dad because then we'd be left with nothing, no house, no car, etc. And she doesn't want that type of life for us. My mom does not speak english. She wants to learn, but because my dad refuses to pay for her to get English classes, she cannot. It prevents her from going back to school and get a job like she desires. She had ambitions but they're slowly fading away. She told me she feels useless at times. She says her life feels like a routine and she's so sick and bored of it. It truly breaks my heart to see my mom laying in bed, asleep almost all day. I want her to do more with her life. I want to see her happy. What can I do to help her?

She starts being nasty with me and abusing me verbally. Theres no excuse for it. Speciaily since I don't so anything to hurt her. And I do my chores and stuff. Peoples don't realize how hurtful their words can be to others. Its sickening how horribly abisive people are to one another and it makes me want to lwave this earth but k have God on my side so I wont sin by committing usicide

My stepmother is one of the nicest people ever to me and my brother. She helps me with homework, never calls me names or yells at me, cares about me, buys me nice things, takes me to the movies and is very nice. My mom and dad have never been married. My dad did cheat on my mom with my stepmother but I was not affected by it as I thought I would be. I know they ended up together in a way that's not morally acceptable, but they have been married almost six years. So my mom is even more bitter about that. My mom has a new boyfriend too. Well my mom kicked my brother and I out because her boyfriend doesn't like us. My dad and stepmother welcomed us of course. My mom started calling me horrible names, blaming us for the breakup with my dad, hitting me, telling me that she needs space and being mean. I was really hurt by it. I am a bit sensitive and I do love my mom. When I come back in from school, my stepmother always cooks and asks us how our day was. My mom never cooked much and fed us quick cooked or frozen, unhealthy food. My mom doesn't work and receives public assistance. When she does work, she quits after a few months. My dad still pays her child support but she gives us a small portion to spend for allowance and uses the rest on her loser boyfriend. At a point, she stopped giving us an allowance. My stepmother is a police officer and gave my brother and I much more than my mom does. My dad shares joint custody with my mom, so we split in btwn homes. Am I wrong?

In the essay I'm writing I'm supposed to describe the role I play as a daughter in my household, but I cannot think of anythings in particular daughters do that are specific to their role. Could anyone give me some examples?

I'm 16 and I have this b*tch sister who is 18 and she has a daughter who will turn 2 later this month. I can't stand either of them. Sometimes when i'm gone my sister or mom will put my niece in my room and it pi$$es me off. They know it pi$$es me off. I've had my license for a month but I still don't have a f*cking car and we only have 2 cars right now and one of them is broken. My mom won't f*cking put me on the insurance but she keeps saying "I will tomorrow" but never does. It really f*cking sucks having a license and not being able to drive. My sister and her annoying a$$ friends will come downstairs (my room is downstairs) and they go into my weight room and f*ck around with my stuff. If I come upstairs and my niece says hi to me (she's just starting to talk) and I don't respond then my parents give me sh*t and turn it into some kind of guilt trip. Now my mom is saying "you better get a job soon" but my sister just got a job about she turned 18 and I literally turned 16 last month. Why do I have to get a job right away and she didn't have to? And she's the one who had a f*cking kid! It's ridiculous. She was too stupid to not use a condom but gets rewarded. She gets special privileges to drive the car even though she's a total b*tch and I'm still not on the insurance because my mom keeps putting it off until later.

I'm a 20 year old full time college student with 2 jobs. I currently want to move to a different state but my mom doesn't support my decision. She haven't even asked me why do I want to move two hours away. Everytime I bring up anything dealing with my life she takes it as a joke. I want her approval but I'm so sick of being told what I can and can't do. She always telling me I'm not ready for this step and that step but I am.

I think very offensive come backs to her insults that I can't write on here or the question would be reported. However, I know it would just make things worse. I was bullied relentlessly in school so have PTSD like reactions to it now. However I am 31 and my sister 24 so it is not I am going to run to Mom and Dad and complain like if a kid. I avoid my sister when I can but family functions like a wedding two weeks ago I was stuck seeing her. She is 24 with the maturity of a 12 year old. My parents unfortunately enable her by giving her what she wants so she will stop arguing since she is the youngest child of 4 total. How do I avoid snapping at her and saying something offensive?

Her adopted Mom resents that she hasn't changed and criticizes her to the rest of the family.

well we moved to Texas about a month ago and I'm going to visit my aunt in California and my friend lives nearby there and I want to go stay the night. but I'm not too sure how to get past my aunt and my mom. I have an excuse for being gone for the day but when it comes to the night I'm completely stuck! plus I'm going alone, and the friend is a guy, I can't say I was with a girl friend she'll call the parents to confirm, it can't be anyone she doesn't know she won't be okay with it...

so let me start off by saying I m only 17, im paying my moms bills, she s not disabled or anything she has a job also. I want to start saying no to paying my moms bills but how do I do it? I don t want any negative tension but I need a car she never gives me a ride, I can never depend on her for anything I live with my friend right now actually. I ve been paying her bills since I was 15, I have to pay for everything I own shoes undergarments (EVERYTHING) im a senior too so I have things to pay I don t want to keep paying her bills because she doesn t deserve it. She says if I don t pay it we re going to be homeless my brother lives there too and her boyfriend they all have jobs my sister has a job too but she never asks anyone but me. She never drives me to work I ride the bus anywhere when I ask her to do stuff for me it s a problem. She doesn t want me to drive nor get my i.d. Or anything just how do I start saying no? Thanks.

I notice that there's more "popular" children who are allowed to have too much freedom that they cannot handle and grow up too fast. Children who receive more guidance generally don't seem to become one of those kids in exclusive crowds. They often have smaller groups of CLOSE friends or are well-known for being a kind person instead. A child or teen with huge crowds of "friends" that are less close are more likely to be the one with parents who let them attend a college party at 14 or let them have the latest social media at 9.

My dad bought my sister a brand new Honda Civic but he told me I have to work for my car. I do more around the house and don't get into trouble so it's not like she deserves to be treated better.

The mother alienates her from her family cause the daughter doesn't make her look good.

There are auditions for child acting in our city. My daughter has wanted to be famous since she was 4 or 5. I explained that it's best to have a childhood out of the public eye. I even showed her that some parents force their children to become famous just to exploit them and how MANY celebrities turned out so badly. These celebrities usually started out as children as well. If she likes being well-known, then she can do that by having lots of friends and perform in school-related extracurriculars instead. My daughter isn't talking to me, and she's been crying a lot. She pointed out that lots of kids her age are in the entertainment industry. She doesn't understand that those boys and girls don't have parents who thought twice before letting them appear on TV, Internet, or the radio. The Kardashians aren't good role models for their kids, are they? They are likely to turn out like their parents! This isn't some kind of temporary interest in being a celeb. She's been wanting to do so since BEFORE kindergarten, and I always imagined the horrible things that could happen if her wish came true someday.

OK me and my family was in a bad requester in the case of settling now. And it was me my mom my brother-in-law and sister. They sent the checks out a week ago and my sister and brother-in-law got theirs in the mail at their house five days ago. In my name my moms has not come yet. I'm getting so frustrated why isn't he coming

Things got pretty bad between me and my ex girlfriend. She told the police I assaulted her and my son saw me getting arrested and handcuffed by the police and was really upset. I am not allowed see my ex or my son while the case is going on. He knows I went to jail and I missed his birthday. I used to see him every weekend but now only get to speak to him on the phone. He keeps asking me if I am still in jail because I don't see him and asks me why I am a bad man. It kills me that I can't see him and what my ex is telling him but I know i would be in more trouble if I tried to visit him. Any advise on what I should do?

My mom is a single mother with 4 kids including me. I'm 20 years old and everytime I get paid she tries to control how I spent it. I used her car and fill up the tank. If she needs grocery money or anything else I give her the money if I have it. She works as a T.A. At a school and I even use to give her my checks during the summer to help her out. Today I told her I'm going to get a haircut and she said how much money do you have left. I told her and she asked how much is the haircut. Then i told her $10 she said " you better have the same money and don't spend it on anything else or stupid" . She says all I spend my checks on are food cigarettes and stupid stuff(weed). I understand she wants the best but wtf I'm 20 you can't control what I do. How do I come at her and tell her to back off because everytime I do she spazzes and gets mad. I tell my friends and they say it's wrong and she had to understand your a adult now.