Family: Question: My Mom killed herself when I was 12. Is it normal I blame myself and how do I stop blaming myself?

Question: My Mom killed herself when I was 12. Is it normal I blame myself and how do I stop blaming myself?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 02:13 PM PDT

I was going through a phase of talking back to her when it happened. It has been 22 years but I still blame myself. Today is the anniversary. I was the one to find her when I came back from a Trick or Treating party.

Question: How often do former step parents stay in there former step childrens life, just because they feel obligated?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 02:08 PM PDT

For example, so how would you know if a former step parent stayed in the kids life out of pity or guilt?

Question: How long should I ground my daughter?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 01:57 PM PDT

She's 17 years old. I caught her in some boys car (her crush) after the movies and she told me it was because she was waiting for me and it was cold outside btu I don't believe her. I feel like they went somewhere else. She never goes out, its been almost a year since she's been out and she did this. I wanted to kick her out because of this. How long should I ground her for? No phones, no going out, etc. She has already been 3 weeks without a phone or going out. How long should I keep it up for?

Question: I live by myself, I have a great-paying job, what does it take to get my dad to stop calling me immature?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 01:46 PM PDT

For years, my dad kept telling to grow up. He kept calling me immature. He hated that I did childish thing such as study Japanese. Now, I get paid a lot because I work translating manufacturing processes from Japanese. I get paid more than the engineers who apply my translations. My dad hates seeing me watching anime or reading manga. He calls me immature. Even though my dad knows I make tons of money translating from Japanese, he tells me to quit the 'Chinese cartoon thing', grow up, and get a real job. If having a job that makes more money than the average engineer, what is a real job? What does it take for my dad to stop telling me to mature?

Question: HELP 12 year old step daughter is playing her dad against me!?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 01:26 PM PDT

I have a 12 year old step daughter, who lies a lot about me & her dad & my son to her mom then lies about her mom & her moms BF to us. The worst of it started after she & a friend crashed my dads golf cart damaging it and they lied about it. She tends to blame my son for things she did, and never gets disciplined for negative actions, Also when she lies to her dad its mostly about me, she says I say things and that NEVER come out of my mouth! I do understand that she will come before me in most situations BUT its not fair that im made out to look absolutely horrible person and shes a "angel" when this is not the case. I have been nothing but good to her, her dad used to say I was good for her, I stay out of her and her dads relationship so they can keep it healthy, I do not discipline her I let her dad do all of it & now I can not talk to him about anything shes done or doing wrong with out him getting mad, even if Im trying tell him shes not doing something that HE had told her to do. Shes gotten to a point that HE don't want her around but at the same time he defends her and makes me sound like I do too much complaining! I stopped for over a month, I didn't say anything about her bad or negative behaviors, I didn't cater to any of her needs, I picked up hours at work on the weekend to avoid being with her, but it has gotten worse! there is ZERO discipline for her lies and when she fails to do something! I don't get it!

Question: What is he thinking about the situation?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 01:22 PM PDT

I was staying over at this guy I likes house because our parents are friends. We went on a date and I think things went okay. But when I went to bed at night I woke up at 3am with nausea and a stomach ache then I ran to the bathroom to be sick. When I go back to bed my mom tells me off for being ill at the wrong time and calling me weak (we were sharing a room). I still felt ill so I lay in bed and just cry silently and my mom tells me not to embarrass myself here because they'll hear. The next morning I wake up and have diarrhea (just once) and afterwards I feel dizzy so I sit ignoring him while he stares at me from afar until it's time to go home. Earlier I had walked past him in the hall and ignored him because I felt bad. Now I'm worried he thinks I hate him when really I just had a bad night!

Question: I m not invited to boyfriends grandma s funeral...?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 12:59 PM PDT

We have been together for a year, im close with his family. I have known him and his family for 10 years. I was at his brother and fathers funeral when we were just friends. Now his grandmother passed away. He has not invited me. The funeral is in 4 days. I m not sure what to think. His brother is bringing his girl, they have been together the same amount of time. Also, his sister is bringing her by. They have also been together for same amount of time. I m confused and hurt. I have not said anything to him and I will not.

Question: My mom treats me like a child and constantly feels sorry for me. Also acts super judgmental & fake happy around me all the time. Help?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 12:48 PM PDT

I am recently 22 years old . Still living with my mother, not going to school currently, have a part time job, & have a boyfriend of 5 years. The hard truth i came to realize is that my mom is part of the reason I don't excel in life. she is a narcissist. All my life I was constantly there for my mom when she went through difficult situations. She relied(s) on me for basically everything so never thought of myself growing up. When I try to better myself I get a whole lot of s*** thrown my way. If i talk about moving in w my boyfriend, she goes into a rage that I'm trying to leave her & threatens suicide. When I recently passed a ged test. she went off on me about her day & doesn't tell me congrats like a supporting mom would do. She babies me. For recent ex: today I went to the store to get Halloween candy & she tried to offer me money.. I'm like no? I got it, thanks. I come back & she just went on & on about how good of a heart I have for doing something as little as getting kids candy.. almost as if I gave up a kidney. When we fight she tells me how I am like a child, that I haven't matured. She tells people that at my age I should be way progressed in life than I am (she's right) but at the same time she is the main cause. I feel she gave me my anxiety/ depression bc of how fake/ feel sorry for me/ judgement act she does. It's nice to have a push but an obvious fake proud of you for doing what your suppose to do push isn't cutting it.

Question: Does he still love me?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 12:45 PM PDT

He and I broke up 2 months ago and I started going to church and found him staring at me 2 weeks in a row so I texted him but he said he was offended which is why it wouldn't work and why he wouldn't allow himself to have feelings for me again. I didn't respond. I've been going to church since then it's been almost a month, and he continues to constantly stare at me to the point that my friends and family notice. What does this mean? does he still have feelings? friends and family say he stares i don't look at him and have given him a dirty look twice

Question: My mom physically abuses me badly.?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 12:37 PM PDT

I just turned 16. My mom phsyically and verbally abuses me. The verbal abuse I try to deal with, but the physical abuse is getting out of hand. She has abused me for as long as I can remember. Today, she grabbed my hair and pulled it while punching me in the face multiple times. Then she grabbed a metal baseball bat and hit me with it all over my body. She stopped, realized I wasn't crying, and kept going. I didn't cry because it doesn't hurt me anymore. It's like i've become numb to the pain. My arms and legs were bruised, but I didn't care. I stared at her and she slapped me then walked away. I'm not going to give her the benefit of seeing me cry and knowing she hurt me. I'm not going to call CPS or the police because I only have to wait 2 more years before I can get out of here, if she doesn't end up killing me before that. She doesn't let me go out at all anymore, I don't have a phone, and I only have a computer that she lets me use to study. I don't live with my dad and my family members don't care at all. I have no one at all to talk to and I guess this means that I just have to deal with it until I'm 18? I don't know what to do.

Question: Daughter in law was just rude. Just wonder why people act this way? please give me your opinion ladies?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 11:41 AM PDT

to make the story short, I lost my job of 17 years and now I am making a quarter of what I was making, my son let me stay with him and his wife for a couple of months until I am back in my feet, last night I used the stove to cook cleaned the pan and put it back in the dishwasher well the problem is that I dint know if the dishes were clean or not apparently they were clean It was my bad I was on the phone and I dint look, well his wife started screaming at me telling me that I shouldn't do that dropping F bombs all the way. Any ways I just said I am so sorry and she continue scramming until my son make her stop, I know I have to leave but I do wonder how there is people that act that way, half of what they have was give by me, dishwasher dryer washer TV and I always doing nice things for them, why some people on their early 20's have no respect of other people, just looking for some sense on all this. by the way yes I am paying rent I am not staying for free.

Question: Is it fair? sister is in jail, family doesn't want to celebrate the holidays.?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 11:20 AM PDT

My sister is in jail, about to go to rehab for 45 some days. I'm upset, but my family doesn't want to celebrate holidays without her. In my opinion it's not the other kids' fault she was doing drugs and selling them with her boyfriend. They want to wait until she gets out to celebrate any holiday. Is it fair ?

Question: Why do my in laws turn things around on me when their son abuses me?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 10:50 AM PDT

I am in my 2nd abusive marriage. Not physically, but mentally and emotionally. Whenever I tell them something he does, they automatically call me a liar and accuse me of "making up untruths about their son or their family" and tell me to "quit making things up". I confided in my MIL that their son/my spouse had taken advantage of me sexually and they turned it all around on me and said I lied and could get him in serious trouble (he had relations with me while I was asleep and I call that rape because I did not want it). They are always calling me crazy or an abuser to my own mom even. What is wrong with them? Nobody believes me when I say he is crazy and abusive.

Question: Called annoying when I don't do much??

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 10:39 AM PDT

My mom calls me annoying or says shes tired of me when i ask for one thing or one favor. I barely bother her or talk to her But my other sibling bothers her all the time and even asks her the same favors I ask her, she never calls her annoying or anything. She calls my mom names and yells at her, she blames my mother for everything when its not even her fault. i don't call my mother out of her name or anything but i get treated differently. Is there anything I could do to be "less" annoying???

Question: How do I get over my depression with family?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 10:36 AM PDT

My sister, my cousins, and I are really close. Like we are all siblings. However, my cousin (let s call her A) keeps posting on social media talking about how cousin B is her favorite and yada yada. When we do fun things she never posts it. She never puts us on her media accounts. And I can t help but feel inadequate. Am I ugly? Do I embarrass her? It really hurts. And I can t just go and ask her bc I am scared. I don t want to seem jealous or rude. I am not jealous. I just feel hurt, excluded, and have almost no self esteem now. I do so much for A and she just pisses on everything. I don t know. I m looking for outsider thoughts.

Question: I lied, what should I do?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 10:34 AM PDT

Please understand I already know I was stupid and made a mistake. When I went away to college when I was 17 away from my hometown, I met a guy that I liked. My mom has always been very distant and detached from my life and one day when he was asking me about my family and (for some dumb reason) I lied and told him my birth mother died when I was young and that my "mom" is really my step mom, to explain why I'm not at all close with her. YES this was stupid, I was 17. However, I started to date this guy, which i did not expect and then turned out we were both originally from the same area, so when we left college (we both just did one year and moved home), we continued to see each other and were in a serious relationship. That lie came with us and the more integrated he became into my life, now that lie has spread to his family and my friends. It's now 3 years later and I can't even believe what I've done or how to come clean. Basically as soon as I got back, I was living on my own (because of my detached family), so it never really came up and it's not like I continually lie about it, we just dont mention. This is the only time I have ever done anything like this and it is eating me alive and I'm terrified it's going to come out to everyone. My mom is still not really part of my life, but say we were to get married or anyone ever brought it up to my mom (god forbid), I'd look like a complete psychopath, let alone the people I would hurt. I don't know what to do.

Question: Is it bad to be ticklish? Is it bad to get tickled? Is it ok for older sisters to tickle their little brother if its good fun?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 10:28 AM PDT

Im the baby of my family and the only boy. I have three older sisters who always love to play with me since i was a little kid. The other day they told me that when i was a little kid there favorite game to play was tickle the brother. When i was little they told me that since i was the youngest and there little brother that im the one who gets tickled. Then the game began with them wiggling there fingers before they all started tickling me. They tease me when they tickle my feet. I had no problem with it because the game was fun for me. The other day they all started tickling me again to bring back some memories and they all tickle tortured me. Now everyday when my parents arent home and they watch me they say time for the tickle monster and im still just as ticklish. They told me that big sisters are supposed to tickle their little brothers Why did my siblings tickle me when i was so young? Is it bad to get tickled by my sisters if they are making it fun? Why am I embarrased about it? Is it bad that when my sisters tickle me im having fun? Is it bad to still be ticklish? Is it bad that they tickld me everyday and i cant prevent my laughs? No negative responses please

Question: I feel guilty every time I tell my family I love you?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 10:11 AM PDT

Ok I know I shouldn't feel this way, but the way they always treated me especially when I was young and had no control they were toxic my mom would get mad if I didn't say I loved her back now I do it but it doesn't mean anything I keep saying that I will stop saying it back but I do without realizing it now same for my brother, should I stop? I never said it first to them never will they both can be emotionally abusive. My love is earned not given. To me actions speak louder then words.

Question: Im getting evicted today. What do I do?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 09:31 AM PDT

I have the worst luck on the face of the planet. I've tried moving into THREE different rooms as of the past 2 weeks. the first one called it off 6 days ago, telling me that they need to "decorate" the room and it wont be available in another two months at the last second. The second offered me the room, told me to call back, and then never picked up again, as I called them over and over over a span of 3 days. The last and latest one offered me the room, and as of today, my last day, called it off out of nowhere and told me I have to wait 5 days to move in due to his own personal issues. I cannot crash at a friends home, because I'm a loser and I have no friends. I cannot crash at a hotel because the nearby ones cost HUNDREDS of dollars a day to stay in, and by time i finish waiting, I wont have enough money to buy a room. I cannot move in with my parents because they're out of state. I am completely ******, and I have no idea what to do.

Question: Can kids be taken away for this?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 09:11 AM PDT

Don't ask me why I'm asking this, and no I'm not the mother I'm talking about. But my question is, if a mother has two children and is in a relationship with a new man, because she divorced the father, and the stepfather sexually abuses the eldest child once, without the mother knowing anything about it, she never knew it happened, would the kids be taken away from her? (She isn't together with him anymore though). It was happening in the bedroom where the kids were sleeping, and the mom was in their own bedroom at the other side of the hall. He brought all three of them to his house, and then told the mother he was heading back to the show of their village they were at. But she didn't knew he actually did not go back there but got into the other room.

Question: Can kids be taken away for this?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 08:59 AM PDT

Don't ask me why I'm asking this, and no I'm not the mother I'm talking about. But my question is, if a mother has two children and is in a relationship with a new man, because she divorced the father, and the stepfather sexually abuses the eldest child once, without the mother knowing anything about it, she never knew it happened, would the kids be taken away from her? (She isn't together with him anymore though) Fruth, it's not a soap, this is real life. She wasn't gone though, it was happening in the bedroom where the kids were sleeping, and the mom was in their own bedroom at the other side of the hall. He brought all three of them to his house, and then told the mother he was heading back to the show of their village they were at. But she didn't knew he actually did not go back there but got into the other room

Question: 16 year old son suddenly having nightmares?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 08:56 AM PDT

In the last few months, my 16 year old son has suddenly started having frequent nightmares. The times that I've seen him after they occur, he's panicked, sweating, breathing heavily, and very groggy. He typically wakes himself up from them, but there have been times where he's started yelling in his sleep and had to be woken up. He says he can't remember anything about them. The lack of sleep has caused changes to his mood and behavior—he's become distant, irritable, and uncommunicative with family. Physically, he eats well and is still active, but lacks energy during the day. Despite all of this, he says he's doing fine and assures me not to worry, and to respect his privacy. He has also met with his school's guidance counselor a few times, and she said he's been doing well and showed little concern. What can/should I do as a parent? I don't know whether to push more, or allow him to deal with it and hope it's something he grows out of over time.

Question: Is there a law with a parent interfering with their child's education?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 08:45 AM PDT

I'm a teacher and one of my student's mother works at the school I am at and she's always in my face about her child. He has severe behavior problems and she claims it's because of me. When her son was in Kindergarden at only 4 years old, he never grasped anything and she fought to get him moved up to first grade. He's only 5 years old now and isn't capable of having the necessary social skills to interact. He also refuses to work.

Question: How do I get over my dread of being with my Mom at Thanksgiving?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 08:41 AM PDT

Question: What is the point to life when all my parents have failed me over and over and I have no one at all?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 08:38 AM PDT

I never knew my bio-father. He was an alcoholic and never met me. I'm told he has died and that I met his sister as a little kid. My real Mom lost custody of me due to neglect. I had two siblings put into different homes. In foster care I was raped. Then I was put in a new foster home that was better. Then I was adopted at age 7. I finally had a family. My adopted mother favored her biological kids over me. I have a sister she also adopted. My sister is autistic and would submit to our new mother's commands. I was a normal kid. To our new mother there was no normal. Perfection was expected. The two bio kids were virtually perfect twin girls. There was much favoritism and I was told "why can't you be like the others" when I misbehaved. I was eventually sent away for high school. To some degree I can see why they had to do that but I felt abandoned all over again. Now as an adult my mother (adopted mother) has high demands that I need to give her constant attention. My counselor says she sounds like a narcissist. Since her brother was praised for adopting three kids I wonder if she adopted us to earn praise like him. This really hurts. Now I am an adult. My adopted mother belittles me regularly. I no longer keep in any contact with her. I am 26 and female. I have no one. My bio-sister who has autism has been turned against me by our adopted mother and the two bio children of hers make no contact with me. My surviving grandmother also hates me now. My bio-parents I looked up with the help of a cousin and found that my bio-mother died. I emailed a bio-sibling and did not hear back. After two tries I google searched and found he is in jail. I have no one and I so often want to die but am afraid of suicide as I always hear at churches that it is a sin and those who do it die and go to hell. I have no one. What is the point and what do I do? I am not about to commit suicide as like I said those who do go to hell I am told but I am sad and depressed and truly alone. The holidays are coming and they are the worst. I can't make friends cause I trust no one as everyone has turned on me.

Question: My Dad is always drinking. He is an alcoholic but my Mom says he is fine. Why does she think this when he is drunk every night?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 08:28 AM PDT

Question: How to make someone think you are great? How to make them look up to you as a role model?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 08:14 AM PDT

Question: My dad died what will i do?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 07:58 AM PDT

I'm 14 years old and yesterday my dad died. We are all devastated. I also have siblings who are younger than me and I feel so sorry for them and of course my mom and everyone. I can't even look at my mom without starting to cry. My grandma blames herself because it's spirits day(I don't know if it's a thing in other countries) soon and she talked about what dress she would like to wear at her funeral the day before yesterday. There's a saying ''Don't go into the woods and call the bear and wolf by their real name'' meaning that you shouldn't talk about death before spirits day. The worst part is that home just doesn't feel the same anymore and the people here don't seem the same aswell. I feel really empty and I can't focus on anything but at the same time I want to do something, I feel worse if I just sit around... And then at the same time nothing feels real anymore. It's like I'm dreaming, I literally can't feel anything I just cry.... I'm completely lost and I guess the reason why I wrote this out is because I don't have the courage to talk to my mom about all of my feelings.

Question: Does CPS only deal with abuse and severe neglect?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 07:41 AM PDT

The foster children I've met have only been taken away because they were in immediate danger at home. They don't seem to get involved in other things, like how they're raised or how they dress UNLESS it's abusive (e.g parent not giving them clothes or beating them up is how they're "raised").

Question: Daughter married and gained 200 lbs..help?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 07:31 AM PDT

My daughter has always been fat. My husband and I are big and didn't teach her the best eating habits, so she was first obese at 12. A few years ago, she moved out and got married. My husband and I were abroad after the wedding and went to visit her recently for the first time (she has also had a baby). She is now huge—near 500 lbs I would estimate. I was so shocked and hardly recognized her. She tried but couldn't get off the couch to greet us, and when she saw I was shocked, laughed and said "yeah I've gained a few." I tried to ask some more questions about how this happened but she got annoyed. My husband just joked with her husband about how he's been "feeding her well." He told me later that he always knew she'd balloon up after getting married because it's "in her genes to be heavy." He said she's a grown woman and not to nag. He isn't worried but I am. She can barely walk more than a few feet. Her husband helps her to the couch to eat breakfast with us (she eats meals in the couch/on the bed because she is too heavy for the dining chairs). She eats 3-4 plates and then goes back to bed. She wakes around lunchtime and it's the same routine, except she'll watch tv after and eat greasy or sugary snacks. She eats another full meal before dinner, then a very heavy dinner—half of it on the couch, then husband brings the remainder for her to eat in bed. He waits on her hand and foot and said he's going to keep feeding her whatever she wants. How do I help my daughter?

Question: Please help my parents are so strict,they love my sister more than me and always slap me and lie to me that i go to bed everyday crying.?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 07:16 AM PDT

what should i do?

Question: Do you have to pick which side of the family to spend Thanksgiving with and do you feel sorrowful?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 06:35 AM PDT

My parents are divorced so I do and my Dad's wife is not that comfortable with me asking if I can come so I go to my mother's with her gleeful that my step-Mom is cold. It hurts so much. Christmas I see both but both extended families only do a big get together for Thanksgiving now that the grandparents have died. I do individual visits to my Dad's family at Christmas. How do you pick or are you fortunate enough to have two families you get to see?

Question: I mean this very seriously, if you want, if you are so much as unsure you want her in her life, we should cut her out?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 06:27 AM PDT

I'm cutting my Bosnian parents out. I'm setting them free financially and then they are out of my life. We don't need your parents blood money. Whether we get it or not will make very little difference in our life. We should do what you want to do. You are perfectly capable of earning more than enough for the two of us, and hopefully I won't be financially useless forever. I despise your mother, I also despise my Bosnian mother and father, i think all three of them are pathetic excuses for humans and not fit to have children. I'm sorry I had to leave you with her, and however you want to go about her I will support you. I can pretend i don't despise her i can cut her out completely... It's still not excluded i won't beat her up one time, but if i do that i will wear a mask.

Question: My Mom ruins Thanksgiving each year by making us go to her brother's in-laws. How do I spend the holiday alone now that I'm an adult and can?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 06:11 AM PDT

I have nothing against my Mom's brother and his family. Even some of his in-laws I like. But growing up my Mom banned me from seeing my Dad ever cause he was an alcoholic. She degraded him daily to me and told me he didn't love me or he wouldn't drink. Yet her brother's wife is an alcoholic and my Mom took me over every holiday to his place. His brother-in-law would be there at times and the brother-in-law spent time in prison for child molestation. Plus he has an alcoholic mother-in-law though she has since died. My Mom had no problem at all with me being around this and yet banned me from my Dad saying she was protecting me from his drinking. The hypocrisy of this hurts me. I am not allowed around my Dad but I can see a convicted pedophile? All this hurt me. So I am an adult now and some years I go to Thanksgiving at this uncle's but see my Dad in the morning as I got close to my Dad once I broke free from my Mom's control in my mid-teens. My Dad died in March. All the pain of the holidays I missed him opens wide now as the environment will be the same as it was back when I was banned from seeing him. All the guilt is back. So where would I spend the holiday to get my mind off of all of this if I just leave for Thanksgiving and how do I cope at Christmas? I don't want to be alone at Christmas so I will be with my Mom's family but at Thanksgiving I don't mind being alone. I have no friends as I am mildly autistic (Asperger's) so awkward socially.

Question: Need advice on child father reunion?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 06:03 AM PDT

Father is unaware he has a child mother has hide childs birth from father. Child is now in Junior High. His father has missed out on everything his child has accomplished. Father has other much younger children is a good father. Should I contact the father DNA will prove he is the father. Mother is lying to family member and child.

Question: Why would someone be shy around their own parents?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 06:02 AM PDT

Question: I hate how bitter my parents get towards family. They teach me to forgive my sibs but they always have a sibling they hate. How do I cope?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 06:02 AM PDT

Right now it is my Mom's sister they hate cause she is hostile towards my older cousin, her son. The aunt is way too hostile but that should be their issue and not mine. I am 16 and my parents want it to be mine and I am not allowed to speak to the aunt until she changes. I get tired of my parents using me to get their enemies in the family back. How do I cope with this? Everyone says when I am 18 I can do what I want but my parents will still resent me if I am nice to their enemies. We're having to miss Thanksgiving this year cause the aunt they hate is there. This makes me feel bad about myself. Luckily the aunt will be with her in-laws at Christmas so we can still have Christmas with the family.

Question: My Dad likes to insult mentally ill people as choosing their illness. He is 61. Is this the beliefs of his generation?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 05:50 AM PDT

He is a very ignorant person though he claims to have studied psychology in college. He obviously was not listening in class.

Question: How do I convince my parent to let me go to university and medical school?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 05:04 AM PDT

My mom doesn't want me to go to school longer because she wants me to just get my Banking Certificate and work at a bank. I feel like it's because she FEELS like her years are running out. She's in her 40s. Should I care? I have a passion for medicine sand I want to become a doctor. It will take long but it's worth it. I'm starting to subconsciously despise my mom for getting in the way of my dreams. She says I can also get a Manicurist License and that they make good money. I don't give a damn sour money, it's about passion. Also doctors make more than them anyway. Why does she keep getting on my way? She doesn't need to support me when I go to medical school. I am very resourceful. She wants me to get a full time job soon and build credit to get us a house. But I don't wanna live with my parents all my life even if the house is in my damn name

Question: My parents took away all of my devices...?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 04:56 AM PDT

My parents took away all of my devices since I stay too much on them, no matter how hard I tell them that it's my fault and that I'm sorry, they still won't budge. I am a hard working student and I always get good grades, yet my parents fail to realize that the internet is not a bunch of time wasted. Any tips?

Question: Are my mother's actions reasonable?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 03:32 AM PDT

• When we forget about a task that she asked us to do, she gets extremely irritated and says that we are very disrespectful and making her life harder. On the other hand, when she forgets things, she excuses herself by saying that she's just human and there's nothing wrong with forgetting sometimes. • When I cry, she never comforts me. She tells me to get over it and just do the things that I need to do, so I never cry in front of her anymore. • When she has a problem with our actions, she gets angry & doesn't let us explain ourselves at all. When I have a problem with her, she just laughs about it and takes it lightly. • She tells me that me and my sister are spoiled (which we are). I think she should stop spoiling us so much as well, but she never does and just complains about us. • She doesn't get along with people. She told me that you should choose the people you care about and others don't matter at all. She doesn't mind getting into arguments or making others feel bad, because they're "just strangers". • She is lazy. We have to go from one end of the house to the other just to switch off the light in the room that she is in, or make her tea, or go get stuff for her. • After looking at my passport photo, she told me that I should start wearing makeup. • Her reasoning for all of these things is that "we are just children". • She says that all types of artist don't make money at all. She pretty much crushed my dreams and never encourages me.

Question: Is it wrong to hold huge bad grudges towards your family? Have really true hate towards them to the point you want to verbally explode? Read?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 02:09 AM PDT

Question: What would my great grandfather's granddaughter's husband's great uncle be to me?

Posted: 30 Oct 2017 11:59 PM PDT

Question: Don't Want to go Home?

Posted: 30 Oct 2017 11:10 PM PDT

I'm in college, I come from an abusive home. I'm doing better and better the longer I'm away from them. However, I don't have the means to financially support myself while I'm in school but just thinking about going home gives me nightmares. Over thanksgiving I'm going with friends to avoid my parents. I need a real solution though. Please help me, what steps should I take to get away from this abusive home, it's killing me.

Question: What do child abuse indictments entail?

Posted: 30 Oct 2017 10:24 PM PDT

So before anyone starts bashing, please don't. I know it was wrong, but I got into a fight with my mother while I was holding my daughter and had to defend myself. Now I am found guilty of child abuse through CPS and want to know how much of my life this effects. Could I still potentially adopt? Can I still adopt a pet? Can I still become a nurse? I just want to know what all of this will do to my future. I am absolutely heartbroken and terrified by all of this. Can I fight it? If so, how?

Question: My son told his dad that he doesn't want his sister's boyfriend comming to the baby shower because his sister's boyfriend was makeing?

Posted: 30 Oct 2017 09:59 PM PDT

Racial comments to his wife when they stayed at his dads house for hurricane irma so his father took his daughter's boyfriend side over his own son because he gave him 20.00 to help out with hurricane supplies.do you think my son should apologies to his father or his father should apologies to his son.

Question: Mother in law and I had a fight, who is to blame?

Posted: 30 Oct 2017 09:58 PM PDT

My husband has become even more verbally and mentally abusive since he began working longer hours @ a new job. He has cursed at and talked down to me in front of the kids & my oldest son told my mom who asked me about it. She said she "has no doubt" that his father (also verbally abusive and did the same to him as a child he said and he also said he talked nasty to his mom too) taught him this bad behavior. My MIL and I have been getting along well and even went shopping the other day. I texted her and just asked "hey, did Brad learn this behavior from Todd, his dad? Brad said that his father Todd acted this way towards he, his siblings, and you. So I was just wondering". She became irate/defensive and accused me of lying and saying "stop making things up Helen" and started just making attacks calling me a liar, so I started chewing her out. My mom wasnt gonna tolerate her behavior and texted her defending me. My MIL wouldnt admit she was @ fault and escalated it. My husband Brad refuses to admit his mother caused this and said he wont defend me. Who is wrong here? My family paid cash for our home,he wont pay on the note he is supposed to pay. He started arguing with my momt telling her he never said this was his home (a lie) she told him this was not his house, he told her "try and make me leave, I wont leave"

Question: I need help?

Posted: 30 Oct 2017 09:54 PM PDT

Ok this question might seem a bit taboo, but I really needed to get this off my shoulders. So I'm 17, turning 18 here in a few months. I went to my aunt's house the other day along with my family. We were just hanging out there. I spent most of my time with my cousin that's 15 so everything was good. When it comes time to eat I my aunt take off her blouse and reveal a sports bra underneath. I tried not to look, but you know a small glance won't hurt. Then she came over to the table to hand out the plates, and Jesus Christ she has really nice boobs. I got excited, but then said to myself "she's my aunt, my blood. I can't think of her in such a way." After we finished eating I went over to sit in the living room alongside my cousin, and all of the sudden my aunt comes along and says. "Where are you sweetheart? I forgot to give you a hug!". So I stood there awkwardly and she came up to me. God dude my aunt has the body of a teenage girl. I looked down at her butt which is perfect mmm, and then as she hugged me she looked up to me with the cutest most innocent look in her face. I just wanted to kiss her right then and there, and fug her right on the floor. That's just how aroused I became. Do you think my aunt has the hots for me? Or is it just her sweet personality. I've never seen her treat another nephew the way she's treated me, and trust me we've had several family gatherings.

Question: How do I make my 21yr old sister feel embarrassed about how she cried at a club?

Posted: 30 Oct 2017 09:49 PM PDT

My sister has been going clubbing since she was 19(we're canadians so drinking is earlier). I'm a 13yr old boy and she was crying because she almost fainted at the club. In front of hundreds of people. My parents treated her like a baby when shes a GROWN woman when she got home. I mean, dizziness is a symptom of a cold or a flu. I only know 5yr olds who cry over that stuff. Im surprised that a lot of guys like her. While she looks attractive and shes a part time model, she cries like a baby. I dont think my sister is embarrassed about acting so childish in public. Ahem, she looks "attractive" to some guys but she looks like a child who cries overstupid f*cking reasons to M E!

Question: My mom spends $10-15 dollars on starbucks everyday even though we are struggling with money.?

Posted: 30 Oct 2017 09:44 PM PDT

My mom is having money issues and I have to deal with it as well, since I am 15. My mom used to be so frugal with money, in a good way. We would spend $75-100 on food a month and about $400 on bills leaving us with about 1400 extra to put in savings per month. Then, the court dropped the alimony so we are only getting about $900 a month now. My moms disabled so she cant work but now, she spends 10-15 dollars on starbucks, a day. Sure get it a couple times a month but when we are struggling like this it isn't helpful. This has been going on for four months now, and I've even started making her coffee in the morning homemade. She used to drink it all the time. Anyone give me some advice?

Question: I have a Narcissistic Mother she treats me badly when I look nice cause she's jealous of me she never bought nice stuff for me to look good?

Posted: 30 Oct 2017 09:03 PM PDT

And feels happy when she looks better at me. She's 39 and acts like young College student and tried to dress 19. She judges me like do this and that or else you'll be a 39 year old loser on welfare. I'm only 19 College freshman with STRAIGHT A's and she's trying to make me fail College. Any advice in my horrible mother?

Question: Your second cousin has chronic fatigue & is mentally ill. Would you take them in?

Posted: 30 Oct 2017 08:40 PM PDT

They have no place else to go. If left on their own, they will be homeless. They may or may not receive disability. They need somewhere to live until they are old enough or qualify to live in a nursing home. They don't drink or do drugs. They just can't fend for themselves.

Question: How do I tell my mom to stop being poor?

Posted: 30 Oct 2017 08:23 PM PDT

I don't want to have to do it but I think I have no other option right now.

Question: I want my permit!?

Posted: 30 Oct 2017 08:19 PM PDT

My parents are divorced. I go to my dad s every other weekend so I m at my mom s all but 4 days. I want my permit (I m 16) and I live in Tennessee. My mom refuses to let me get it because I haven t driven on roads in town. I have extremely bad anxiety and I would feel SO much calmer driving with a permit than without one. I ve told her this. How can I convince her and can I have my dad take me to get it? (With proper documents of course)

Question: My Father Says He Will Disown Me If I Continue Dating a Black Woman?

Posted: 30 Oct 2017 07:58 PM PDT

She is a great person, and he even agrees with me that she is nice, but he says that because she is black, he hates her. I told him that he's racist for thinking like this and he said he will disown me if I tell anyone he's a racist or if I continue dating her.

Question: Should I take my childhood toys back?

Posted: 30 Oct 2017 07:13 PM PDT

Ok I was talking to my brother all of a sudden he brought up about his moving he's moving in 3 months he said he's taking the living room tv since he bought it I said ok but I want my beanie babies from childhood, he was saying he thinks how me and my mom forget that he bought the tv. I don't forget I just won't give him credit if he begs for it like that. Should I just take my beanie babies back tomorrow when he's at work? They are in his room cause of my nephew but he doesn't even play with them. I am starting not trust my brother I really don't want him taking them when he moves out, I don't care how much space they will take up when I move out because I might actually collect even more and buy them online it's a hobby of mine. I walked away and didn't say anything because it would just be an argument..

Question: My mom riped open the curtain in the shower while I was showering?

Posted: 30 Oct 2017 07:11 PM PDT

I'm 15 & I was showering and she ripped open the he shower curtain and said "hi!!" And it's very invasive. I told her she can't do that and never to do it again, but she told me to "stop it" and that I'm making a bf deal.

Question: Don’t you feel bad for this girl ?

Posted: 30 Oct 2017 06:38 PM PDT

My cousin had her son when she was 13 she's 17 now. She was with a guy who was older than her. Her sons father was 21 she was 13. She also gave her son a dumb name like a lot of teen moms do. She named him Tex. It reminds me of that serial killer Tex Watson from the Manson Family. She likes that weird and scary stuff that's probably where she came up with the name. I feel sorry for her son having a stupid name. When he stars school next year he's gonna be teased. Yet I've heard worse names than this. Don't you feel bad for her and her son ?