My husband works long hours and I am a disabled stay @ home mom who has been trying to get a job for a while. When he gets home, he immediately watches tv or plays on his phone and wants us (kids and I) to leave him alone. He goes to bed early, gets home late, goes to work early. On the weekends, he spends nearly all of his time doing the same thing as above or playing gigs with his 2 bands or practicing. When I have asked him to start taking me out he starts blaming my mom saying "your mother wont watch the kids, so I wont take you out". I have found other babysitters and he declines. He never buys me flowers like husbands sometimes do, never buys me gifts, etc. He expects intimacy (mostly when I do not want it) and throws a fit and threatens to cheat if I dont "give it up" and "do my Biblical duties". What can I do? He wont divorce, he wont even allow me to say that word. This is my house my family bought and he claims it is "his" and that he wont leave. I feel stuck.

Is 'Uw volume is te laag. Voltooi het volume alstublieft.' correct?

My husband has recently went through inpatient rehab and is still in outpatient due to an opiate addiction. He does not have issues with alcohol, but made a promise to himself before discharge to go a certain time frame without to not risk triggers causing him to fall backwards. I have went through hell till he confessed this addiction with lies and his carefree attitude towards me. He had a slip up mid September with one pain pill. I told him for the last time if you go against our word again I am leaving you, I was in tears heartbroken and said please don't risk us and our kids having a broken home. I WILL leave you this time. Well he went against our word and had a drink before time in plan. He keeps saying he went against me but not our family. I feel like when he does wrong it's like a kid. Like I didn't lie because you didn't ask. I took off my rings and said I want a separation. He is now saying I told you never to say that again. Saying it's my fault. I gave him 5 days to give me a reason to change my mind. Today I packed his stuff. When he got home he said that's it, I said you're right it is because you chose a drink over your family. His response is I thought it'd be a fight but not this big a deal. What? I told you and still a fight and risk it? But do you agree this was over his family? Like last I checked if it affects your marriage it affects your family/kids. So upset, but proud after threatening a thousand times I did it.

My wife has been acting extremely unhappy/angry for a while. We have 3 kids we took in. I love them with all my heart but they're extremely difficult. It causes constant supervision & constantly thinking of new ways to parent & deal with disobedience. She works graveyard (10-11 hour 6-7 days) & I stay home with kids. It isnt always hard with the kids though & we do have great times & love spending time. The kids like to spend their weekends home rather than with their friends! however I noticed my wife always acts so mad & so irritated with all of our presence and just generally unhappy. I feel like I am constantly trying to make her happy & smile & at the end of the day I'm breaking down because I'm giving all my energy to someone that doesn't seem invested. I CONSTANTLY say how unhappy she seems and angry she acts. she says she will change. 5 minutes later back to her grumpy self. I want her to be how she used to be(the nicest funniest most kind hearted beautiful soul I've ever seen) I'm willing to let her go if its me and the kids making her so miserable. I never want someone to walk around miserable all the time. if I'm causing it shouldn't I just let her find happiness elsewhere? I've told her this & she says she doesn't want to loose me, yet never makes an effort to change her attitude. I don't see how someone could be so unhappy when they asked to marry me, set up the wedding, wanted to take in the kids. It's not like it's anything she got trapped into so why so glum!?

I could whisper it in her ear during hot sex. It can be like asking her to take the next step with our love as we celebrate our love

My husband and I have been married for 2 years and he became disabled shortly after we got married. I love him but I am no longer in love with him being my role changed from wife to caregiver. We are both young and I am a very sexual person. He is unable to satisfy me. I want to leave but I don't want to cause him pain and he's already threatened suicide if I ever leave him. He was at one time very mentally and emotionally abusive and things got a bit physical when I left him when we dated years ago. I also ended up cheating on him recently. Anywho, I am unsure how to break the news to him safely that I want to leave. I fear for him and myself because of his psychological issues. I also don't know how to go about it financially. I pay all the bills and there isn't anything left to stick back.

My parents are getting a divorce, and it just makes my stomach hurt thinkin about them going to court tomorrow. I j is they have to sort stuff out but it's jut really stressful for me

I noticed today at a friend's party, when my wife would chat with the younger men, she would hold her hand by her back like a soldier and use her thumb to cover her wedding ring. But when she would chat with me, the ladies or older gentlemen, she wouldn't do that. Does this mean that she doesn't want these young men to know she is married because she plans to be unfaithful to me?

(BACKGROUND INFO) So my ex left me when I was in my first trimester. I did open a child support case, and he pays when he can, but he has never wanted to see our baby. (His excuses are ridiculous) his mother and his sister both travel to see our daughter. His sister is in San Fran and his mother is in New Hampshire where he is. I am in San diego, CA. When she was one, I got married. She's going on three years old. Her biological dad still has never acknowledged her or requests to see her. I never did a custody plan with court, but I plan to file for full custody this week. What are the chances they will grant it? since he's never replied to messages to see our daughter throughout the years and never even met her yet(again his choice) his mother said he has a lot he's going through but he'll come around when she's able to talk. My husband wants to seek adoption, but I'm not sure what to do yet since I haven't even started a custody plan. Any advice or if you've been through similar.

Here's what happens if I get married and it doesn't work out: I forfeit my house and half it's value that I pay for and she did not earn. I forfeit half of the savings that I compiled that she would have contributed little to nothing to. Half the value of my retirement account gone. Vehicles in jeopardy. Potential alimony so she can "maintain the lifestyle" that she did not earn for herself. Here, on the other hand, is what happens if a girlfreind simply lives with me and we break up: I forfeit the cost of the filing fee to file for eviction papers, and get her out in 30 days. Nothing more to it than that. Now how blatatly stupid would I have to be to get married when the same things can be had just by living together? Not to mention if children are had, I have the advantage in a custody dispute. Ill have the house they grew up in, be able to keep them in their schools, and be able to provide for them, whereas their mom would be dependent on child support which wouldnt begin to afford so much as a roof over their heads. Its an odd kind of judge who rules for the kids to be removed from their homes and school to live with the other parent in the poor house, when there is no cause to consider the father unfit. I have watched multiple male friends in the same situation I describe win full custody of their children. So why are so many men in my situation, with homes and savings, dumb enough to get married? Prenups only tend to cover current assetts, and you never know if it will be fully honored in court until the time comes to hse it. Live in girlfriends on the other hand have no rights to anything. There is no common law marriage here in Virginia. And for those who have religious objections to living with a partner and not being married that's easy. Get married in the eyes of the church. Have a ceremony and be declared man and wife by whichever particular clergy or spiritual advisor applies to you, and be square with your God. The union can be recognized by the church without being recognized by the State.

Women today only want kids for the child support checks and welfare benefits the money NEVER goes toward the kids and I think marriage is a business for women screw that im staying single oh and all women today are drug addicts

Is it that the girls think that getting married should have been enough? Or that guys just like to be fed, and that's enough? I mean that causes near 99% of divorces really, so it must be true, right?

On our anniversary ,birthday they never say anything via text or via facebook . They arent friends wirh me but are my husband . He posts about it all day long ,they are on 24 /7 litteraly and dont say anything on those days . Hiw brothers ex is tbeir friends still and they still make over her even though she cheated . Tey are also friends with his new girl and they say happy whatever to her too . I dont get it ,why can they take time for them but not us, not eveb a text or phone call ?!

That's pretty s'hitty if you ask me.

So no bashing but I'm married and have been cheating in my husband with one of my friends he's 13 years older than me and he's also in a long-term relationship. He's been trying to get with me for a good 10 years. Finally two years ago I gave in. I love my husband but as soon as we got married he changed started treating me as a maid and he let himself go. He has a super low sex drive and we have sex maybe once every 2 weeks. Me and my friend have been getting together at least once an week for two years best sex I've ever had. He's super passionate. We're always texting back and forth and talk about our lives. I like him as a friend but it's nothing more than the great sex because I love my husband. I just don't want him to spring it on me one day that he wants more than this.

I'm married and have been with my husband for four years, and I love him. But. Back in high school I was very close with a best friend of mine and her boyfriend. This was around when my parents took off so this guy's family basically adopted me. I've been friends with them for over seven years. In highschool I ****** up and fell in love with my friends boyfriend, but a lot of her friends had done that, I didn't just want to be one of those so I ate my feelings, moved on, and went on to marry my husband. A year ago my friend left her boyfriend and moved away. I still hang out with her ex (never alone together, I'm not stupid) because I'm still cool with him and his family and he's even friends with my husband. I have now learned that this guy is in love with me and has been for years and not making that decision years ago is one of his biggest regrets and it's ungrounded feelings I still have. Now I'm conflicted. I love my husband, he's a good man but now I feel like I've made a huge mistake and I'm with the wrong man. Im more compatible with this friend and want more of a life like he does. I mean my husband has become a flat-earther recently for instance. It's for real getting hard for me to get past that. I'm on the verge of running away with this guy, but I still care deeply about my husband and don't want to hurt him. To be clear, I've never cheated. Ever. But in starting to think this isn't the life I want but I'm to scared to hurt someone who cares so much about me.

I work at a laboratory and everyone knows each other since the department is quite small. One of my co workers told me that someone was looking for me and I was confused since I have recently started this job and not many people know me or about it. When I saw who was looking for me, it was a former crush and we did have this connection but I haven't spoken to the guy for almost a year. But when I saw him, I asked him why he was here and he proposed to me. I had a major freak out especially since there was a crowd forming. I told him to go back to his hotel and that I'll talk to him later. I finished work earlier than expected and we met at this cafe and I asked him why he would do that and why he is here. He explained to me that he has feelings for me and he apologised that he embarrassed me. We started to talk about life and everything from family to cakes. I don't know why, but I want to marry him but I feel so crazy but I don't think I have felt like this before and I barely know him and all day, I have been thinking about him. I don't know what to do because I don't want to be reckless.

We have young kids and we are tired a lot so I get we won't have it like we used to. She told me she doesn't like the whole process of it as she is tired. She said a quick 10 minutes gets what she wants and it feels good. I'm glad she still likes it, but I'm confused. Thought women like the whole foreplay thing first. She is saying the opposite. Thoughts?

Ok so I researched this too. Its tradition for paper or clock to be given for the first. I'd like to do this but have no clue where to start for paper. For a clock I was thinking just a watch or the echo show for her night stand. Also not against anything else unique.

If a marriage has gotten to the point where either spouse is being physically abused, can marriage counseling correct the issue or is divorce the only path forward?

And they think that women are inefficient and impractical (except for housework and kids). And they want a lady who will cling and faint?

He's 38 years old and we've been married for 6 months. He says he's attracted to me, but he's very tired all the time. He has health issues, including type 1 diabetes. I get very depressed because I have a normal sex drive and we haven't had sex in 6 weeks. He gets upset when I try to talk about the problem, and he said he doesn't need counseling.

He just says he wants to see sexy photos of her but she doesnt want to send anything like that.

My boyfriend took me shopping today but just three days ago we got into a big argument about money him saying hes trying to save so we need to cut back and how i need to start understanding that. Well today we went out and he wants to buy me a 300 coat and I just suggest that we get something cheaper and that it wasn't a big deal to spend that much. He gets mad an tells me if it was any other girl they would jump at this opportunity. I do respect him and understand that since I stay at home with our baby that the one income on him can be hard. I just didn't want him to think I wasn't listening to the talk we just had. He then gets on Facebook to make a statues saying I hate ungrateful bitches. Should I just of shut up and took the coat with out speaking up? When he buys stuff he talks crap all day on how he just spent this money blah blah and how I need to understand no other guy will do this for me. ughhh I feel bad like i should apologize.