Family: Question: My mom picks my dad over me?

Question: My mom picks my dad over me?

Posted: 19 Oct 2017 02:09 PM PDT

So i was like mom can you go get me something to eat for dinner there's nothing here and she was like NO THERE"S RAMEN PIZZA ROLLS CHICKEN PADDIES AND MAC AND CHEESE DEAL WITH IT I AIN"T GONE OUT and i was like ight whatever ho nnnnn my dad ws lik yo lemme get that spaghetti from seasons and my mom was like RIGHT AWAYYY

Question: Did I do the right thing about my daughter smoking marijuana?

Posted: 19 Oct 2017 12:55 PM PDT

I found out my 16 year old daughter has been smoking pot so I grounded her for one month.

Question: My two 15 year old brothers still act like kids. How can I encourage them to grow up and be more trustworthy and responsible?

Posted: 19 Oct 2017 12:22 PM PDT

I have two 15 year old brothers (adopted, not twins) who just don't seem to be growing up, at least not fast enough. They fight about the most stupidest things that little kids argue about. You can't ever get them to be quiet, it's pretty much a breath of relief when they're both out of the house. When I had turned 15, I had already started looking for a job, and by 16, I had gotten one. I can't see this any time in the near future because we STILL can't trust them by themselves. And don't get me wrong, the family has given them chances to show we can trust them but they either fail, or pass only later to find out they weren't actually trust worth in the first place. They also either can't read moods, or ignore the signs because after all these years of living with our mom, they can't tell when she's under the weather or mildly annoyed and will continue to pester her until she's actually mad. The same goes with others as well, we'll try to show them that "Hey, I don't want to be talked to right now" by giving short, half hearted answers but they refuse to stop bugging until I or whoever the person, is actually mad. I feel like I'm ranting but I've been thinking about it for quite some time and it really gets me annoyed always having to hear them bickering with each other.

Question: Having two receptions for baptism, mom not happy?

Posted: 19 Oct 2017 12:02 PM PDT

It's gonna be long, sorry! My husband and I eloped so our parents have never offically met, our mothers met when our daughter was born, but my mom gave her the cold shoulder. My parents think they're superior and not fond of my husband, they ridicule him, my mother to my face, my father behind my back, so I never cared to have them meet. Now, my daughter is being baptised, and my husband I decided seperate receptions would be best. Since her Godmother is my sister in law, after the baptism we would take his family out for brunch, and later take my family our for dinner. I told my mother this and she went off on me stating, "youre going to let him (my husband) control the reception just to screw us over" and "we'll probably just go to eat on our own then" Now I dont know what to do, ignore and let my parents throw, in what my opinion is, a temper tantrum or try to do something else? Advice?

Question: All the Girls want my D***... ?

Posted: 19 Oct 2017 10:38 AM PDT

So I usually grow my hair out and get a clean shave every month or so. But this time I grew my beard out for the first time and had it lined up with a fresh cut. I come back to work and every girl is talking to me now, is this normal ? I usually only talk to a few people at work, also I'm an attractive guy by the way but I tend to keep to myself most of the time at work.

Question: Am i wasting my parents money?

Posted: 19 Oct 2017 10:22 AM PDT

I feel so bad about my parents...i got good results in my final ordinary exams and it was with much difficulty as i had no proper school unlike my brothers and had to do everything myself! But then after my results came.as it was so good my parents wanted me to continue my advanced studies in a proper school thats an hour or two far from home because they knew i could have done better if i had an oppurtunity to go to a good school.i started studying..but now im feeling as im wasting their money because of the school..its a good school with standard.we belong to the middle class..they arent so rich but they manage to keep me happy..and my parents while having financial issues have to spend alot fir my school and travelling expenses..then i got my braces..they had to spend for that..and i always get sick..so i have to consult the doctor frequently.and whenever i ask my parents money for some important educational stuff.they get frustrated at times but still give.is it my fault? I dont want them to face problems because of me! I know they love me alot but it feels so bad to see them like that! What am i supposed to do?

Question: I just can´t with family and love?

Posted: 19 Oct 2017 09:15 AM PDT

Hey im 17 and live in Denmark. My whole life i haven´t known love. Non from my parents neither from my siblings. I am the second child in a family of ten. Yes, ten. Through out my life i have been a very happy boy with great great potential in every thing i do. I am this amazing singer, excellent athlete, and good soccer player. My parents have always been nay-sayers telling me no every time i wanted to do anything with my friends. My childhood hasn´t been the best and therefore i believed that if i choose a passion i could go all the way to the top. My teachers at school believed that too. Thay had tons of talks with my parent, but my parent just didn´t want to be part of society. It´s ike they ve come to Europe just to ask everyone to leave them alone. Anyway everything collapsed when in 2015 me as a 15 yr old. My parents tricked me into flying to Africa with the promise that i would return a week later. When i arrived there my passport was taken from me my phone everything. i was alone. And my parents did everything they could to break me down mentally. Eventually i got contact with my teacher through facebook. And the danish goverment got me back after 3 months in hell. I lost 11 kg (24) pounds and was nearly killed many times there. . There is a lot of details that i have to leave out. This incident has a huge effect on my life now 2 years later and so i have to ask How am i supposed to love if i dont know anything about love?

Question: My parents want a child?

Posted: 19 Oct 2017 09:14 AM PDT

My parents want a child but there's one problem there my mom is 50 and my dad is 57 ok but I am 30 with 2 kids imagine having a baby brother at 30 and I have 4 other siblings and 2 nieces And nephews I Am a bit sad because having a baby brother at 30 I know I should mind my own business but my mom and dad leave on their own and my dad doesn't even work and they can't even keep my kid without even complaining I am just worried for them and their to old to

Question: Does my mom hate me?

Posted: 19 Oct 2017 08:53 AM PDT

I'm 19 with 2 kids. I know I'm stupid I hate myself for getting pregnant the second time everyday. Anyway I was an honors student always intended to go to school after my first but then I got pregnant with number 2. Right away I said okay adoption I called the agency picked out couples I was going to contact but then everyday my mom said you can't do adoption. No one will raise your baby better than you and she said my baby and my oldest would hate me and I wouldn't be able to live with myself and she said I could still go to school because she help me by taking the baby out whenever I had work. And then during my pregnancy I tried moving out and every time she would say you're gonna fail school I'm not going to help you and you owe me this money(I didn't) so how can you afford to move out and you're not going to be able to last. So I stayed and I'm in school she doesn't help at all is always telling me I owe her money I buy all my own food and she eats it and I don't eat her food so she complains that food goes bad so I eat it and she complains how I owe her money for her food everytime I try to leave she tells me why I shouldn't. I just feel like she hates me and I hate my life right now I love my baby but I wish I gave him up for adoption because now I'm failing because no one will help me and I never get time with my oldest I'm suicidal because of my situation and my boyfriend the father hates my mom and my mom hates him so they always complain about each other

Question: Would you sabotage your child's dream in order for him or her to get a normal regular job?

Posted: 19 Oct 2017 08:52 AM PDT

Question: Why does my dad act like this towards me?

Posted: 19 Oct 2017 08:42 AM PDT

My dad says I have bad behavior but it is because of him he never let me go to my friends party and never let me have that many friends he swears at me and I swear at him back he says my behavior is bad but it is because of him he treats me like **** calling me mentally ill screaming at my for no reason saying robber thief to me then he calls this random guy saying fix my sons behavior but it is because of him I am acting like this if he treats me nicely I treat him nicely like he can't even speak to me nicely always taunting me always my sister says me dad is doing nothing but she can't see the truth she is blind she can't see the truth my mom says leave it he was always this way I don't know what to do now I am sick of this?

Question: Why do my kids mentally abuse me? They call me worthless just because I have been saying I have not wanted them in 15 years Iam their father?

Posted: 19 Oct 2017 07:18 AM PDT

Their punishment from me is I am only allowing them to eat once a day and under 800 calories My kids abuse me they call me worthless They call me that just because of the way I treat them I do not want to be a father I have not wanted them for 15 years I never taught my kids(18, 19) how to drive or how to finance a place to live and have had them homeschooled for 9 years. We do not live near public trNsportation but I plan on kicking them out with nothing. The counsellor I see for myself said she is ok with my decision :] I am 55! Both of them refuse to work as neither will walk 30 miles to get to public transportation or 15 miles to get to town and 15 back everyday. I want them homeless. What is so wrong with having to walk 15 miles(5 hours) twice a day and working 10 hours a day? Neither have birth certificate or ssn's as I ripped them up years ago.

Question: If a woman beats her son because his overweight friend accidentally broke her swivel chair, is she overreacting?

Posted: 19 Oct 2017 07:15 AM PDT

I am 17 years old. While my two friends (one of whom is overweight) and I were using my mother's computer, the backrest of the swivel chair (which my overweight friend was sitting in) snapped off. I phoned my mom and told her what happened. She was mad, but did not yell or lose her temper. After I hung up and told my two friends that it's okay, one of them said, "What?! You mean you're not gonna get a whooping?!" I can understand if I was running rambunctious in the house and accidentally broke my mother's vase, but why should a child get a whooping for the fact that his friend broke something of hers AND without being rambunctious, i.e. all he did was sit in the chair, not knowing his weight would cause damage. Is it possible that the other friend (the one who was shocked that I'm not getting a whooping) was traumatized by his upbringing? I'm starting to get the feeling that his mother whooped him just for breathing, so-to-speak, and that is mother's views on child-rearing are misconstrued.

Question: Am i in the wrong help?

Posted: 19 Oct 2017 06:59 AM PDT

I have a cousin who is 23 and has been unemployed forever. He's in college don't get me wrong but has no job!. Moral of the story is i live next to him. I have a bar in my house and i got all the drinks/bottles you can think off due to my hardwork. Lately my cousin has been going like "can i get a drink" or "let's drink". This has been going on for years. All he does is get high/drunk and he expects to get drunk off my sh1t since he has no money. If i get a txt/call i already know what he wants and he wants alcohol so i don't answer. Moral of the story is i told him already a million times to get a job. He just ignores and later again starts to ask for drinks. Am i being cheap here?????? i mean i had gave sh1t loads of free drinks in the past over thousands for sure but now i'm starting to see he knows where to get free drinks at.

Question: My Mom has a friend that tells mean gossip about her family. Should I get her family to confront her about this?

Posted: 19 Oct 2017 04:39 AM PDT

She is friends with a bad lady.

Question: My aunt says she will never come to family events again if her brother is there. Is this just punishing her own kids who now miss out?

Posted: 19 Oct 2017 04:38 AM PDT

Her own kids now miss out on things like Christmas, Thanksgiving, a wedding on Labor Day weekend this year, etc..... Is this just her punishing her own kids to get her brother back? Her brother poses no threat, he is just sometimes a jerk.

Question: My mother is a narcissist. My Dad and my sisters enable her. How do I get over the pain of being second to my Mom's own glory?

Posted: 19 Oct 2017 04:32 AM PDT

Question: My mom is making me crazy. Help!?

Posted: 19 Oct 2017 02:17 AM PDT

I'm a 20 year old male. I'm my whole body is paralysed excepting my neck, features and my hand fingers (I can't lift my hands up). Right now, I'm using keyboards ready words to be able to type as fast as I can. Well, my mom always comes and makes me completely nude and she checks if I've peed in my bed or not. I don't feel comfortable while she does this to me. I've asked her to hire a nurse for me, but she says that she doesn't have enough money to do this for me. I'm not a baby anymore. I need some privacy. What should I do?

Question: I don't wish to stay connected to my family ever?

Posted: 19 Oct 2017 02:06 AM PDT

My mother is a sweet lady but she never really supports me . She does favoritism and criticizes me all the time. I have grown up feeling bitter. I don't want to stay connected with my family. I also don't care if she stays alive or not because over the years I have grown hating her. Am I doing wrong to think this way about my mother?

Question: Does this guy look like his mom?

Posted: 19 Oct 2017 01:33 AM PDT

Question: Why did my mother do that?

Posted: 19 Oct 2017 12:51 AM PDT

My mother is just a disgusting person. When I was a kid she was cheating, and parents broke up when I was four years old. I watched my mother walk out the door when I was four years old and it was heartbreaking and unbearably painful, I was crying almost every day, and the feeling was the pure pain. I remember mother telling me that she would be back and she visited, but I thoroughly hated visiting her. Once, when she was bringing me back to my fathers home I was in so much pain that I held tears back until we were almost at the doorsteps and I started crying and mother had the nerve to ask why I was crying. Another time she brought me back to my fathers home and was about to hand me into my father's arms and she asked me not to cry, and I couldn't take it, I cried a lot that night. I visited her as a teenager and I fckin hated it. Later on I was told she brought the man she was sleeping with to my fathers place, at the time, to gather her stuff, with my father watching. Like, wtf mom! I was told she didn't want me when the divorce happened, and hate swelled up in me, the kind that burns inside. She did not want me, and deep down I already felt it. When I needed her the most she wasn't there for me. I asked her why she did what she did, and the ***** didn't say anything at first. And later in life I asked her again and she made things up that were not true, talked Sh*t , and disrespected and insulted my family. I ended our relationship and I thoroughly hate her.

Question: Am I a bad daughter? Complicated situation...?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 11:18 PM PDT

My mom has been in hospice 4 months now with cancer, isn't expected to live much longer, completely bedridden, needs 24 hour care. She and I used to live in the same town until she was first put on hospice care and my grandmother paid to have her flown across the country to stay in her house and have her cared for there. I have been to visit twice, stayed a month each time, and helped as much as I could but I have a 5 year old and have to be a mother too. Now I am back home and confused with all the mixed feelings I'm having. Another issue in our lives is that my stepdad molested me for 6 years growing up and my family kind of swept it under the rug and my mom decided to stay with him. I'm an only child and not in contact with my real dad, always have had social anxiety, never had a large support system and I was also kind of brainwashed by my family at the time that it wasn't a big deal what my stepdad did, I need to forgive him and move on, etc. So my mom and I have remained close over the years despite this. I never realized how screwed up it really was and how much it affected me (despite my husband telling me) until I was away from my mom for all this time. I have come to realize that I most likely have borderline personality disorder that was brought on by the abuse. Everyone in my family has always acknowledged that I had "issues" but never connected them to this huge problem that was never correctly dealt with. I now don't want to visit her again, is that wrong? I feel like I should forgive my mom, maybe I mostly have because she has suffered enough, with the disease and also the way she was treated by my stepdad, but I still don't really want to visit again for multiple reasons...it's expensive, I have to uproot my and my child's life, it's traumatizing to see my mom that way, she sleeps most of the time anyways, isn't very clear mentally, and also I feel a bit like she didn't protect me as a child too well...insome ways she did but not in a major way

Question: My fiancé’s family thinks I hate them. What do I do?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 11:18 PM PDT

I've been with my fiancé for almost 6 years. He is the absolute love of my life. The only issue we face is me vs his family. I have generalized anxiety. Large groups, loud noises, people I do not know, etc make me want to bolt out the nearest exit. Now, the fact I avoid gatherings like the plague has my fiancé's family under the impression that I 1. Hate them all and 2. Am a snob. Last get together there was about 50+ people in this small house, most of which I've never met and after 10 minutes I sat on the porch hyperventilating alone. There's a family get together about 4 hours away due to my fiancé's uncle is suffering from cancer so everyone wants to see him before he goes. I know I NEED to be there for my fiancé and if I don't, I'll NEVER hear the end of it from his family. I'm just wondering how I should handle this situation now and I'm the future.

Question: Why is suicide due to bullying a lot more common these days?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 11:05 PM PDT

A few decades ago, it was rare to hear about children dying due to bullies. There were no laws against it, and not very many kids considered self-harm. There were always bullies, physical fights, and verbal threats. Bullying became one of the biggest factors to suicide. Technology plays a major role in this, but kids have been writing horrible things about people and verbally threatening others as long as I can recall. We had a notebook in the class where the kids would write cruel remarks about other kids. The schoolyard bullies physically fought others and even followed someone home once. But nobody at our middle school ever committed suicide. Why is it increasingly common?

Question: Does this show that I'm too selfish?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 10:40 PM PDT

I'm an 18 year old female. Next year, I'll be at university. I'm planning to move to another city in order to become independent. I also want to get a job besides my studies to save up some money. I don't want to get money from my parents anymore. So, is it selfish to leave my parents alone?

Question: Should I let her do this?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 10:17 PM PDT

My daughter is 18 years old. She's going to go to university next year. She's studying hard and she plans to become a dentist. She's really talented. She writes novels and she paints alongside her lessons and everyone around her love her art. She plans to be an artist besides her dentistry career, but she doesn't only want to paint or write, but she also wants to join a theatre group and start preforming as an actress. I know that she's talented, but I think actors and directors are all corrupted people who want to abuse the young actresses. In my country, actors don't even kiss eachother in front of the audience or the camera, but I still doubt if they convince my daughter to sleep with them in order to offer her a better role. As a mom, I always want to protect my daughter. Look, in my country artists don't have much income to live very well. Even the most famous actors in my country live a poor life, so my daughter has to become a dentist in order to have a good life.

Question: My dad keeps saying "I'm just a nígga with a rocket launcher" over and over again how to make him stop it's an old meme?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 10:05 PM PDT

Question: Inlaws and son problems anyone?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 09:32 PM PDT

Okay so I live with my inlaws & I have a 9 month old son, my inlaws are very nice but they seem to be way to judge mental with what I do with my son what I feed him, at what time I get home with him, what he's wearing. It's just really annoying. Lately I've been going to my parents house everyday because I just feel so depressed at their house (like I don't belong) . Today as I got home my son had fallen asleep on the car ride when I took him out he sort of woke up a little and my father in law told me to give him to him, I told him I was taking him to sleep already and he started screaming my sons name so he would wake up. After that he told me you need to come home earlier so I can play with him, I felt sort of like he was giving me a curfew. They go ahead and feed him things even after I've told them I already fed him. I just don't know what to do every time I try and talk to my bf he tells me that I'm talking **** it's just really hard for me to adapt to this new life, I love my baby and sometimes I just feel like moving out I'm so lost.

Question: How do I tell my dad I don’t want to live with him anymore ?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 09:05 PM PDT

I am 16 and I heard that I am allowed to decide which parent I live with. My dad is not abusive whatsoever. He's actually a great father, but he can be very minipulating and a pain to live with. How do I approach the situation?

Question: Could bad behaviors also be influenced by society thinking it's wrong to discipline someone else's child?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 08:44 PM PDT

Parents can't see what their children are doing 24/7. I agree that lazy parents and workaholic parents play huge role. Could it also be that the "village" disappeared? Someone can easily be labelled a busybody or snoop for correcting someone else's offspring. No matter how wrong the child's actions are, it's considered that way to get involved. Adults should be protecting children from huge dangers. Plenty of children do things that they shouldn't be doing, and some parents don't stop them. If nobody is there to teach them, they may start looking up to the Kardashians and possibly a criminal as their ROLE models. Could some behavioral issues be influenced by not having other adults helping them?

Question: My sister won't help me pay my speeding ticket and now I can't get a job?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 08:41 PM PDT

So 5 months ago I got a speeding ticket and she helped me pay and now she doesn't want to help me. Why should I pay my own speeding ticket? Its not my fault. I'm 22 btw

Question: Can My ROOMATE have me do THE chores?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 08:32 PM PDT

Okay, so I have a roommate that we each pay half rent and she pays a little more because she has 2 bedrooms of the house and a private bathroom and besides that point she tries to have me do all her chores. The TRASH which is HERS, not MINE. Her extra food, her beer bottles, this and that, and her response is YOU'RE A CHILD YOU DO AS YOU'RE TOLD YOU OBEDIENT because this roommate is my aunt but that doesn't matter because we pay half rent and buy our stuff and she buys hers and all I said was next time you're helping me with something If I need it and than she tried to go off saying you need more chores this and that like what can I say to my ROOMMATE that we EQUALLY PAY rent with about this? I don't feel its right to do me and my moms chores AND HER AND HER CHILDS CHORES

Question: I need help with my family?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 08:24 PM PDT

I think my mom and my dad are going to get a divorce but I don't want them to. I heard my mom saying she is going to get a layer, but I don't want them to do it. I'm only 12 and I don't know what I would do if they did it. What do you think I could do to stop them.

Question: First Christmas after death of older sister. Should I force my family to celebrate it or forget it this year?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 08:21 PM PDT

I am a 37yo man and my older sister died unexpectedly in April. Christmas is coming up and I want the family to celebrate it like always with presents and everything. My oldest sister isn't sure we should celebrate it at all this year. My mom told me that I need to think about how hard this is for my oldest sister like my feelings don't matter because I'm so much younger than both sisters. I don't know what to do. Should I respect my family and forget Christmas this year? I was looking forward to sending out my Christmas present list to my family members and to being able to buy them presents as well. Is this the wrong year to celebrate Christmas? Am I being as selfish as they are making me feel? Do I have the right to celebrate with my family like I want to? I don't know what to do. I don't have anyone else to celebrate Christmas with.

Question: I need to move out, I’m currently 17 but 18 I’m 5 months anyone know about the Texas laws?? I can’t have my mom know tho..?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 08:15 PM PDT

So I'm sill in high school and my big sister wants to become roomies in Austin she already has an apartment down there waiting for me but I'm a junior in high school still so I'm not going to move until I finish junior year and then could I legally do senior year in Austin as a 18 year old adult? My home life is just really bad and so there's another thing I can't tell me mother until the day of. She works as a flight attendant and so I was just gonna write her a note and then go with all of my stuff as bad as that sounds, she's abusive verbally and physically and I cannot take the emotional stress and anxiety she gives me. I have over 2 grand saved for this and I'm ready to work harder than ever.. is it a good idea? I mean I'm going to do it but any tips? I cannot tell my mom if she found out she would probably kill me.. she doesn't even allow me to talk to my sister Bc she's overprotective and doesn't want me to even get the idea.. it's a really long story I just can't this is not my home this is like jail

Question: My “ dad” makes me feel uncomfortable?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 08:11 PM PDT

He use to touch me when I was little and now after 20 years I've just told my mom about this she said she had always felt like he would do this but didn't wanna believe it and now the whole family knows and they don't believe me! It makes me angry and upset. Why would I make this up!

Question: Do you ever get that creepy feeling when your with your dad?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 08:04 PM PDT

Question: My aunt thinks that my mother hates her because she’s jealous of her?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 08:02 PM PDT

My aunt (not blood related) married my uncle (my mom's brother) about 10 years ago. My aunt is like 10 years younger than my Uncle. From the very start, my mom and her sister never liked my aunt. They think she's lazy, and all she does is eat and never work. My mother cares about my uncle and wants my Uncle to marry someone who's hardworking. Me, on the other hand is very close to my aunt. So I always try to stay in the middle. My aunt and my uncle haven't been living together due to work, but recently my uncle bought a restuarnt and my aunt came back to live with him. When she came back, she brought home a son. She tries telling me that the son is my uncles, but everyone knows it's not. She thinks the reason my mom hates her is because my aunt is much taller, younger, and "educated". She told me that she wishes my mom and my mom's sister would die and that they are short, ugly, old and uneducated. I was shocked. I didn't know what to say. I know the real reason why my uncle side of family doesn't like her. They think she's lazy. She never goes to work and uses her son as an excuse to stay home. She doesn't wash her dishes and she always have to have my uncle cook for her. I don't know what to tell her. She doesn't know the real reason why they don't like her. Would you be mad if someone talked to your mother like that?

Question: Why did my crush just start liking my fb posts again?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 07:54 PM PDT

Did he take a break from me on fb? He used to comment on my posts quite a lot. He stopped cold a few months ago and then he started up again a couple weeks ago.

Question: My father is abusive but I still love him. What should I do?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 07:50 PM PDT

My father has always been abusive to me (physically and emotionally). He has given me numerous black eyes, bloody noses and sore ribs. Through it all I still loved him. I'm 20 and up until a month ago it hadn't happened for years. Last month he came home drunk. I was visiting and staying in my room that I had as a child. I told him that we couldn't talk that night as I had no interest in fighting with someone who was intoxicated. He flipped out. I think that he was really stressed and my rejection just pushed him over the edge. He hit me and busted my lip up pretty badly. I left and haven't seen him since. I went to get my stuff from the house and he wasn't there but refused to let me inside (changed the locks). I had to break a window to get it but I fear that only made things worse. I have been completely isolated from my whole family (my sisters asked "but what did you do to dad???" , "why did you provoke him?"). I have moved across the country out of fear and just a longing to be at peace. I was abused for many years by someone I dated and I only recently have come to realize why I put up with it/ thought it was all okay: because that's the type of example that my father set for me. I have been brainwashed into thinking that that is acceptable behavior. It's all very confusing and, despite everything, I love my father dearly. I want a relationship with him but don't want to put myself in danger. Any suggestions? Am I crazy for the way I think?

Question: Should I ask my step dad to adopt me?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 07:20 PM PDT

My step dad has been there for me since the start, and I thought it would be kinda cool if he adopted me. My real dad left me when I was young, and I rarely see him but he isn't the best person in the world. He has a wife and the *golden child* and I always feel left out when I visit him.. My step dad acknowledges my success and mistakes and helped me become to be the girl I am today. I'm scared my step dad won't adopt me because my future relies on my dad. He was in the military and he says I can get free tuition, but I don't know if I want to do that because my stepdad deserves more credit than my dad. (Due to abandonment, almost leaving me irl over a game, never there for me)

Question: I'm raising my little brother, should I act as a parent or as a big brother?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 07:02 PM PDT

Earlier this year, my parents passed away within 32 days of each other (my mother had breast cancer and my father was in a car accident barely a month after her death). I'm a 24 year old male and I'm now taking care of my 8 year old brother. We are still adjusting to the new situation, but I still don't know if I should act as a parent or as the big bro who is here for him. Like I still don't feel comfortable disciplining him. Today for instance he wanted to go play with the neighbor's kid, but I said no because they just moved in and we don't know this people, he got really angry, cursed at me, went to his room and slammed the door. I know he is dealing with a lot, but so am I, and managing between my job, my responsibilities at home and, of course, the loss of my parents which still upset me quite a lot. I had a girlfriend who was helping me handle things, but she left about 2 months ago because she wasn't ready to deal with things. Sorry, I'm missing my point… My question is, should I act as a parent or as an older brother to him?

Question: 16 year old forced name change?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 07:01 PM PDT

My mom and dad recently divorced, I'm living with my mom and she wants for me to change my name (because its the exact same thing as my fathers) can she make do that????!!!!! I really don't wanna name change and she seems to not understand that.

Question: What do I do if my aunt confronts me about me being nice to her daughter?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 06:44 PM PDT

She and her daughter are estranged and I am nice to both but lean on the daughter's side.

Question: Parent issues? Help?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 06:21 PM PDT

Okay so I'm not sure how to categorize how my parents are treating me. My parents talk enough **** about the rest of the family to write a novel, anytime I defend family members my dad yells at me telling me I'm wrong and threatens to hit me. My mom backs him up and later tells me to apologize for my desrespectful behavior even though I didn't threaten to hit anyone let alone yell at anyone. They then pretend like nothing has happened almost as if their living in like 2 reality's. In my opinion my mom is clearly to blind, me and my dad often get into yelling matches over the same thing so your telling me I'm always wrong? How is that possible? I'm 17 so I can't leave home for another year, I'm starting to wonder though If this is normal or even okay behavior? If you've read this far thanks I just need advice

Question: My Mom would make me promises when I was a kid and then break them. Some of her lies really hurt me. How do I get over the hurt of her lies?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 06:08 PM PDT

Some where just little things but others were big promises she broke. It really hurt.

Question: Do you find this creepy?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 05:53 PM PDT

Everytime my mom is out for the night ( church event) Her husband ALWAYS sits in pitch black darkness in his room (door half open) on his favorite chair and is just glued to the phone. No TV on, no sound, thing. Just sitting there in silence and darkness, probably watching porn on mute. Every now and again he does something weird. And ofcourse I don't trust him already. He's done a number of disrespectfully lewd things towards me (plenty) since I was 12 years old, and we thought he'd changed and became a better person after his divorce with my mom (and remarriage) but now he's been acting weird again lately. One time, I had a bad feeling when I noticed that my window leading up to the balcony (where he sits for hours doing supposedly nothing in the darkness as well) was tampered with ( the curtains; they were flipped in a way where you could see everything in my room from outside) so I fixed it and placed some stickers and posters on one side (blocking the view) just in case. That night, he came home, glanced at the stickers/posters, and started fuming off and said (with a cold attitude) "oh, STICKERS and POSTERS huh?" and he was pissed off for the rest of that night and the next day for no apparent reason! So any who, is it abnormal for a 50 something yr old guy to just sit in his room in complete darkness and silence for hours when I'm in my bedroom next door? I don't even know what he does when none of us are home..

Question: My mom favors my teenage sister?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 05:50 PM PDT

My mom favors my 16 year old sister. She buys her everything even when she can just get a job. She used to have a job, but she quit because she didn't like doing any work. She bought her an iPhone 6 and pays the bill, but then says that I have to ask my dad for new running shoes for gym. I'm 12, so I can't get a job but if I could, I would. She always throws her the most extreme parties. For her 13th birthday when I was 9, she threw her an underwater themed birthday party with a 3 later cake and all, but I've never even got a birthday party. This wouldn't be a problem because she might just gave it up, but this isn't the case because she still does it for her. She always says me and my 11 year old sister need to stop being "mean" to her but she does it even worse. We were joking about her crying because her phone died mom told us to be nice and lectured us, but when she called me a butt ugly animal she just laughed. I'm so sick of this. She should treat is the same. She also shows her more affection and treats me like crap. She always curses and rants about me all the time over silly stuff. I'm really at my breaking point. She gets very aggressive and defensive when I bring it up to her.

Question: How to do I convince my parents to let me listen to music with swearing freely?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 05:47 PM PDT

So my parents don't like swearing and I don't really swear unless it's around my friends. I love rap and hip hop but it has a lot of swearing and it talks about drugs and stuff in the songs but I love to listen to it. I listen to it anyway in my headphones because I have Spotify but my parents don't know. I just wanna be able to play it through my speaker and have my parents fine with it. I'm 14 and all my friends parents are fine with it. ☆ Sent from iOS Dr. Know! 1.0.03 Also the book I read for school says the N word and all that stuff.

Question: Why do my parents not care what I want,?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 05:36 PM PDT

I wanted to go for a bicycle ride but my tires were flat, I asked if my dad would take me to the gas station rote by our house to use the air compressor, he said no, even though he was just whatching tv that was RECORDED, he said he would take me tonight, when it's DARK and I can't ride, so I asked my mom to take me to target, like 2 minutes from our house, so I could buy a bicycle pump but she as well said no, it's like they were just whatching tv and either of them wouldn't take 10 minutes out of their day to help me, why?!?!?!?

Question: I have an aunt who is a narcissist. She loves her two daughters but hates her son. Does a narcissist really love anyone but themself though?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 05:34 PM PDT

She acts as though she loves her two daughters even though she hates her son. One of her daughters she really loves where she builds her up and worships her and her social media is all about this amazing daughter. Another daughter she treats normal. Her son loves his Dad (her ex-husband) and sometimes acted up in school as a kid. Thus, she hates him and fights the whole extended family to try and get us to hate him. As a result we haven't spoken to her in 3 years except once at a funeral but are close to him. So my question is this. To a narcissist do they love anyone other then themselves or does she just put on an act like she loves these daughters but only does cause it makes her look good and is incapable of loving anyone? Can a narcissist love other anyone besides themself?

Question: How come people think that I am such a selfish brat for being jealous of my cousin getting married?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 05:32 PM PDT

So my cousin peter is getting married very soon to a beautiful vietnamese woman he met in canada. I am jealous of him because he is younger than me and he is already getting married. He is like 21 and I am 26 and it is unfair that someone like him is getting married. He is a doctor and is a psychiatrist. He told my relatives that I don't have bipolar disorder and that I am just a spoiled selfish brat who throws temper tandrums. He says that he thinks that I am abusing the system by trying to get SSI. I am so angry at him. He gets to find someone here and I am having to go all the way to vietnam just to meet and marry someone. I am glad that vietnam is an option because I want to get married and I am sick of idiots like him getting a better life than me when I did nothing to deserve it. Why do people think that I am a selfish brat ?? Why is everyone says that I am being a jerk for being jealous of him ??

Question: What do you think you think is wrong with my mom?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 05:30 PM PDT

So lately my mom has been yelling at me for many things,and also blaming me for many things. She does usually yell a lot,but now its more and she yells louder than usual. And its for some things that I dont think I should be yelled at for. Shes going through menopause,and has been showing other symptoms. Do you think that's the problem?

Question: My parents want a kid at 60?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 05:22 PM PDT

What's wrong with my parents they have 5 children and 4 grandchildren it's sick they want children at 60 my mom is 51 and my dad is 60 my mom told me and I was sickened I told her no it is impossible what do I do?

Question: Should I hate my father for lying to me?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 05:04 PM PDT

My dumbass dad told me that he has Asian on his side of the family. I don't believe him. This is me btw.

Question: After my parents divorced my Mom banned me from ever seeing my Dad again and I never did. How do I forgive her all these years later?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 04:56 PM PDT

I am 81 and still have not forgiven my Mom. She died 19 years ago and I was glad. She banned me from my Dad and he tried to find us and she did not tell us. I grew up mad at him but learned when he died (I was 22 then) that he had been mailing us gifts and she hid them or threw them away. She had no remorse and told me he deserved it and that I was disrespectful to want to know him. I never forgave her. How do I forgive her. I am still so mad 75 years later. There were no parental alienation laws back then.

Question: Am I being too involved with my son's education?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 04:55 PM PDT

He is 24 and a senior in college. I have told him that before he submits an assignment to send it to me first to go over it with him. He keeps saying things like "If i need help i will just ask". But we just don't want him to do bad in school. For instance whenever he is taking an online class i make him watch the lectures with me and do the readings with me. i make him take notes on the readings and then show them to me so i know he is doing it. are we being too involved? For instance I will usually Face time him and he just seems cranky all the time or more annoyed every other time.

Question: Since my parents are divorced will people think less of me?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 04:54 PM PDT

I feel like they do.

Question: My Mom is bad. How do I avoid becoming bad like her when I grow up?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 04:54 PM PDT

She is a bad and mad person. She is all bad.

Question: My father is out of my life. Next June on Father's Day how do I get over the agony of the day of no father?

Posted: 18 Oct 2017 04:45 PM PDT

It is a painful reminder and I wish they would abolish the holiday and just make a parents day where Mother's Day falls. Andrew: He is still alive, he left my Mom when I was three for another woman and never has searched for me or wanted me in his life.