I am a 23 year old male and my mother drinks Vodka every night. I try my best to deal with her but she doesn't want help. In fact, in her eyes she does not have a problem. I have a job, go to school full time and help out with rent. My sister and dad are tired of this too. She has been drinking for 11 years hard liquor. What can I do to help her? I am feeling really confused and suffering. I am seeing a therapist.

He had his birthday in february and is now 18, im 16. I would never ever smoke, drink too much, use chewing tobacco or anything that can hurt my body like that. My mom noticed some days ago that my brothers overlip was a little bit bigger and his breath smelled bad but I just brushed it off like nothing because HE IS THE LAST PERSON WHO I WOULD EVER BELIEVE WOULD DO THIS! I was going out and no one was going to be home when I got home later that day, he said the keys was in his inner pocket in the jacket he had and I went in there and checked, he didn't hide the tracks. It was one left in the box when I opened and checked it and it smelled really bad, why would he ever do this? I have not told mom, he is 18 and a legal adult. I have not told mom yet because I know she will kick his *** and probably even not let him live here anymore (she tends to be really dramatic), I told my little sister because I was shocked and I know she wont tell anything. I just don't know what to do, obviously I want him to stop

He stated yelling at me because of my grades. It was getting heated quickly I eventually screamed in his face thet I hope he rots in hell. He got so mad that he hit me. Like wtf he hit me. Then I stated crying 1 because he's strong and it hurt and two because I was so mad at him. I understnad i shoudnt have yelled that but I was mad. What should I do? IS THIS ABUSE?

My mother has died recently and bc of this, my sister and I are getting money. The thing is though, my dad want's it to pay off all the bills and get a new house. (i'm okay with that) but 5 other adults stay with us. My other 2 older sisters, older brother, and my sister boyfriend and my brother's girlfriend. I wouldn't care but 4 out of those people do nothing to help with the house at all! They eat and dirty everything and do nothing when we ask. My dad does nothing about it and that's the part that I hate! They don't try to get jobs or anything. My older brother has 2 kids who has to care of but he still does nothing about it. My mom's death has been hard on them but they were still like this even before her death. My sister and I told my dad that we don't want to pay for adults who do nothing to support the household and we don't want to but a house that's just going to destroyed by them AGAIN. My dad keeps saying he is all they have no that shes gone. I wouldn't care but they do nothing and I can't live like this anymore. They have been with us for 6 months and they haven't done one thing in those 6 months!!!!!!!!! Is my dad allowed to spend the money even though my sister and I dont want to pay for them? Or am I just being a bad human being?

I have no similarities of neither parent except for me looking like my mother. everyone in my family is different than me. I have nothing in common with absolutely nobody and don't do the same things. There's no common ground on anything

I am a 47 year old mother of three grown children. My youngest just got married. We have spent so much time over the years fighting over things that we should not have been. First off, I left my three children with my abusive mother because I had thought she had changed, and I had received a death threat from my husband whom I had been running from for five years. As soon as I was far enough away, my mother sued for custody of my children saying I had abandoned them. Then she cut off all communication with my children, and proceeded to abuse them as she had abused me and my siblings. After seven long years, I was finally able to communicate with my children through a teacher at the school they had attended, and with their help was able to prove the abuse, and I was granted custody. When I got them back, my two youngest went completely wild. I didn't know my youngest was already a drug addict by the age of 12. I got her into rehab at the age of 15, after which she was in and out of rehab. During this time a large sum of money was stolen, as well as a gun. I accused her of this. She denied it, and our already strained relationship went down hill fast. Recently, my daughter was exonerated of the allegations. We are working on things now. I have apologized to all three of my babies for the decisions I made that put them in harms way, and nearly cost me my relationship with them. They have forgiven me. But I can't forgive myself for the mistakes I made. How can I do this?

So basically I was in oz for a year and came home because my family missed me and I missed them. Since I've been home I'm not happy it's so hard to save in Ireland and the weather is always bad upon other things I miss the freedom and fun I had. My sisters live in other countries but act like their only there for work so my parents think I'm stupid for wanting to go away again and I get constant lectures about leaving and no one is happy for me and I feel bad for even thinking about living my life! Also my brother is the most spoiled person I've ever met as in he gets his dinner dropped to his room everyday and he acts out all the time treats my parents like **** screams at them demands lifts everywhere. He has no motivation in life he's looking for a job but because he's too spoiled to build up experience by working for free he can't find one and is now threatening to kill himself all the time and treating everyone like **** and wallowing in self pity constantly! How do I leave them with him I feel my whole life revolves around him everyone's life does he appreciates nothing and is a spoiled person. I've gotten him jobs he won't ring the people so the jobs are gone and he complains about that what do you do with someone who won't help themselves how do you even start? We can't even tell him what he's doing and how it's affecting us because he says he will kill himself, we can't get him taken to a psych place because he will never get a job again

I m a model student and I basically do whatever they tell me to do, but in return they don t let me hang out with my friends outside of school, they don t let me go to school trips and parties, and every time I make the tiniest mistake they make a huge deal out of it. They have such high expectations for me and its too much pressure because I can t possibly do everything perfectly but they don t understand that. I don t know what more they want from me and all I want is for them to be proud of me but they never are. Please help! btw I m 13 years old

i recently blocked my cousins and some aunts on facebook. now i love and adore them but since high school graduation, they took the high road to college and living fruitfully, while i was forced to take the low road, (for the record, i tried 6-7 times to re attain my GCSE's) but nothing when i work in hard labor work. (ive had a very hard childhood too) at family reunions, our conversations become more and more little, they choose to stick to their phones limiting actual conversations. if i send them messages, to keep up with them or just to say hello, they keep it very brief. it felt like a relief. im wondering if i made the bad move?'' messaging on facebook isnt the only way, to contact me they can try make an attempt. heres what its like: cousin came for a visit: saw a new expensive video game, i just bought it havent played it, willingly let them borrow it, months passed never even mentioned it. another cousin: "i saw u at the cinema, i didnt even bother to say hello" infront of everyone, with this show off attitude. a cousin from abroad came: hey lets add you to the cousins group and i was like 3ft away, just getting left out, the same guy who stole my game. the others say, im lazy, and bashes me, i heard them for myself. i told them, do u sleep in my bed? do u do my hard work? which all of them have sentry desk office jobs. all i wanted is just to talk, laugh, and keep up. but it looks i have to just abandon them & move on with my life.

I know this isn't really a question but I need some advice and have no one to talk to I'm a 22 year old female live with my mom and brother whI can be emotionally abusive, I have no job can't drive yet I'm tired of being g in bed all day my mom has tried helping me but it's slow sometimes I'd wonder if I'd get a job faster if I left, so I'm thinking of just leaving but I'd have no where to go I don't know anyone here just one person down the road but I don't trust her and I have no money so I'd have to think about food only reason that keeps me here.

I figured I'd ask this question again because I forgot to add in a few deatils. I'm 17, my mother is very religious. She often emotionality abuses me, because I don't believe the same things she does. It got to the point where I almost got away with committing suicude, but she caught me. I was in the hospital for a few weeks. After that she threw me in a psychiatric hospital for three months. It was the most miserable time of my life. Every time I try to respectfully talk to her she takes me stuff. My phone, Clothes, shoes, etc. She has not let me go back to school, she gives me books. It's been two years. I'm literally locked inside my home. My mom and my father are divorced, my brother moved in with my dad a couple months ago. I tried talking to my dad repeatedly about moving in with him, but my brother told my mom and she got angry forcing me to stay with her. I talked to my brother and begged him to let me stay with him and my father but my brother shunned me. And I'm afraid my dad doesn't have room for me because of my little sister. My boyfriends mom wants me to move in with her and her family. None of my relatives know where they live. They have an extra room in their basement and I have a job, so does he. We'd be to support ourselves. I have budget , and a car. I know in my mind it won't be all fun and games, but I'm willing to take this chance. I've done everything I could to find a relative to stay with, with no success. What are your opinions?

I figured I'd ask this again because I forgot to give some details. I'm 17, my mother is very religious. She often emotionality abuses me, because I don't believe the same things she does. It got to the point where I almost got away with committing suicude. When she caught me, she threw me in a psychiatric hospital for three months. It was miserable. I love her dispite all the pain she causes me, but every time I respectfully try to talk to her, she takes my stuff. Clothes, Phone, Shoes. She hasn't let me go back to school. She gives me books. I haven't been in school for about 2 years. I'm literally locked inside. My mom and my father are divorced, my brother moved in with my dad a couple months ago. I tried talking to my dad about moving in with him, but my brother told my mom and she got angry forcing me to stay with her. My boyfriends mother wants me to move in with her and her family. They have an extra Room in their basement and I have a job, so does he. None of my relatives knows where they live, I'd be completely gone. We'd be to support ourselves. I have budget , and a car. What are your opinions?

Last night when I'm falling asleep my brother knocks on my door and asks me if he can use my truck to move some furniture from his old house to his new house. I say yes, if you pay for gas. I get in my car about to head off to work and I'm on empty. I manage to make it to the gas station, but it just irritated me he wouldn't out a little money into gas.

So I got my license almost two months ago and I haven't driven very much and never on my own. It's partially my parents doing but also mine. I do not feel comfortable driving to school and from there by myself because it's a very busy area and lots of things could go wrong. I know I could and I'd be fine but I still don't feel good about it. Well recently people have started asking me about it and when I explain my reasoning they act like I'm stupid. It makes me feel like crap and I get embarrassed. Especially when I see other people who get their licenses like three days ago already driving to school and to the city. All my friends make fun of me and even my cousin. My parents are now started to nag.

He has heard all the gossip and is asking questions. I don't want to insult his aunt (my husband's sister) but I don't want him to think she is right. She left her husband for some guy she met when vacationing who works at a bar. She has three kids two of whom have autism. So obviously the family is shocked and feels for the husband she is cheating on even if he is not perfect. However, my son ends up hearing all this gossip and I don't want him to hate his aunt (she is not a bad person) but I surely don't want him to grow up to copy her behavior or even worse the behavior of the lover she has who didn't see she was married and back the hell away. He is the one we hate. So looking for ideas of how to explain this to my son.

He left my Mom when I was 4 and occasionally saw me when my grandparents were still alive. It would be the grandparents keeping me for the day and him stopping by for ten minutes. I remember hearing my grandmother on the phone saying "your son is here, can you spend at least an hour with him, he needs you". Twenty minutes was the longest he came by. It was less and less when the grandparents got older and when I was eleven my grandmother died. The funeral was the last time I saw my father. The grandfather had died two years earlier. I am 23 now. I know on one hand it is my Dad that has the problem but I only think that cause people tell me that. I feel in my heart it is me that is not good enough. He has three kids from his new marriage and he is with them all the time based on his Facebook photos though I know those always look more cheery then real life. He won't even accept me as a Facebook friend. He coaches the soccer team of his two sons. He has no time for me and only once replied to an email. That was five years ago and it just said "Merry Christmas to you to, hope to cross paths sometime". Then he didn't reply when I tried to arrange something. His wife I have only met once and never met two of his kids. So how do I stop feeling I am not good enough for him? I gave up emailing him about three years ago as I was told it might seem stalkish and turn him off. I sent a Christmas Card each year and hear nothing back. What do I do to get over my shame?

She constantly babies me and texts me during the day "my baby! 😍" and it's really gay and annoying. She won't stop calling me when I'm out with my friends and she freaks out if I don't answer on the first ring or she'll lose her mind. And her response is I just want to make sure you're ok. And I'm tired of it. One time i was by myself at home in the shower and she called me 9 times and yelled at me because I made her worried sick and I'm like I was in the shower and she was like oh sorry. I'm sick of her babying me and treating me like a child. What should I do? She calls me ungrateful when I tell her to stop

I'm 17, my mother is very religious. She often emotionality abuses me, because I don't believe the same things she does. It got to the point where I almost got away with committing suicude . My mom and my father are devorced, my brother move in with my dad a couple months ago. I tried talking to my dad about moving in with him, but my brother told my mom and she got angry forcing me to stay with her. My boyfriends mom wants me to move in with her and her family. They have an extra Room in their basement and I have a job, so does he. We'd be to support ourselves. I have budget , and a car. What are your opinions?

So I am the eldest brother of 3 siblings. I'm 15. My younger twin brothers are 7 and they play with kids at the park. But there are two brothers who are there all day and it seems like they really do what ever they want. So, we let them come over once and now they are over almost every single day. I get so annoyed because my brothers and them are very loud and I have to rest, do homework, or study and my room is right in the front where you can hear them if they are in the frontyard. They come over for hours at a time. And they also wait for us to get home from school to play with them, they will wait in the driveway a few times. Even on the weekends they will ring the doorbell at 8:30 in the morning. I need my sleep after a long week at school and I can't get it if they are over being loud that early. I try to tell my mom to cut it down the time they are over but she just keeps on saying that if I had friends like that when I was that age she would let them over. I'm just super stressed out!! Please help!!!

Ever since we were younger, we have always gotten along. We liked the same things, we did everything together. Now, at the age of thirteen, she never talks to me. She, just today, said that she didn't want me to go to a haunted house, with her friends. She never talks and when we do talk, it's always about the same exact thing. Yeah, I become a mild emo in the past few years. I became anti-social and have only one friend that knows me better than my sis. The most recent case was just now. Our dad had told her to ask me if I wanted to come to a haunted house that she was invited to. Out of curiosity, I agreed. She then said, and I quote, " Now there isn't going to be enough room in Mackenzie's mom's car now. I didn't even want you to come." She didn't want me to come. Then why did she even bother in the first place?! I usually didn't really care when someone didn't want me to come, as it happens often, but this was the third time, this year, from my sister. I had taken enough. I got mad and we got into a fight. I'm now going to go on a trip around town on Friday with our dad, instead of going to that stupid haunted house with that jerk. I want to fix our relationship, but I also don't want to. Yeah, she said some stupid things that hit me. Hard. I said only minor things that didn't really affect her. The reason I don't want to is because, maybe if I stop talking, I won't say any stupid things or hurt anybody, like she did. Sorry for the lengthy question. What do I do???

So months ago me and my sisters were sharing the room with our parents (I'm 17 and my sisters are 8 & 6) my sister we're sharing the bed with my parents and I was on the floor. One night I heard my mom whispering in my dads ear and then by morning she got up and I woke up at the same time with stomach pains, when I follow her downstairs she wasn't all the nice and when I walk into the living room there was my pillow and blanket and she locked the door with my sisters in there and I'm pretty sure they had sex. It was so out there I later asked my sisters if they woke up and they said no, my mom made she had a bad migraine and needed to rest, I was having such bad stomach pains and she wasn't even coming I had my grandfather call her It upsets me to think she had sex with my sisters in the same room I actually can't believe it, my mom is the one that really doesn't want to shoe sexual stuff in front of the kids even though my dad slaps her *** in front

Alzheimer's doesn't run in my family. My grandmother died a 102 without it. My grandmother is 90, and she mind is sharp as anyone's It never hit me what Alzheimer's was like until I saw my mother's best friend. Ever since I was a kid, my mother had a best friend. She would babysit me, I saw her every Sunday at church. She was a friend of the family, she was like an aunt. It was really sad when I saw, and see she didn't even recognize her own daughter. This woman is 65 just like mother. My mother is also 65. My mom is starting to get wrinkled skin, but her mind is as sharp as it has always been. We still see this woman in Church. My mom still says hello to her, and her daughter, but sadly she has no idea who my mom is. Is Alzheimer's like death?

My mother has changed over the past few years, especially with our move away from her family. A year ago I started training at a job and stopped doing the daily chore of taking my siblings to the bus stop. She started doing it her self, but since then she started having a lot of problems with the people who come to the bus stop. She keeps complaining about how they never say hello to her or have a good day, they don't talk to her, and if they do they just want to know information about her. She says they are so insensitive when she told them how my dad almost died and they never said a thing to her, yet one laughed because she never thought a pet can cause disease that could kill someone. She keeps thinking that our neighbors are watching our every move. She is also going to school, and when something happened, she started saying how much she feels that everyone is against her. Which they really aren't, at least most of them. For example, she told her professor that she hates Friday classes, and no all her classes are on Friday. She is so confident that the professor to her student adviser and now they teamed up against her and won't give her but Friday classes. The reason she only had Friday classes, is because of all the other classes on other days, are classes she either already took, needs a requirement before she can take them, or she doesn't need. What should I do??????!!! She thinks everyone is targeting her, and want to harm her, and I can't take it anymore because I don't seem to see what she sees. People say hello and goodbye to me occasionally, not every day. I think that many things are out of her control, yet I don't think that everything is happening because they want to her hurt her at all

I have a parent living across the country while living with my bipolar mom. She physically and verbally abuses me and I don't know what to do anymore. I have no one and I can't move out cause I'm still in high school and I feel lost and just can't deal with anything anymore what do I do?

Here's an overview of the situation: I'm 18, in college, and I want to move out of my parents' house and get an apartment so I can start a YouTube channel and make gaming videos and some animations, which I'm trying to make a living off of. I've done my research with how to make YouTube money, and even found an online course I want to enroll in. I have enough money to move out, get equipment, and pay for college (can't tell you how, though). My parents have set restrictions on my computer (which I paid them back for). I could get a new one, but they're keeping track of what money I spend. I can't play games or download any software. Before they set restrictions, I downloaded a video editor, but when I record and then go to edit, the videos are out of sync b/c of the software (I recorded on my phone btw). I have a 3d animation software, but if I only put animations on my channel, I won't grow b/c they take forever to make. Worst of all, my parents won't even let me move out once summer comes. Summer is when I can devote my full attention to my channel, and during the summer, they make me read stuff and do work (about the stuff in school that almost no one ever uses in life). At first, they were fine with it, but all of a sudden, they turned against it for some reason. I'm not certain I'll succeed, but if there's a chance to make a living doing what I enjoy, I want to take it. I haven't told them I want to start a channel, b/c I know they'll freak out and control me even more. Also, I don't mind getting a part-time job. I have one now, but it's in my college. I'll be just fine with getting another one. Yes, I know there is risk and luck involved, but would you give up the chance to enjoy your life just to be "safe" doing something you hate for someone you don't even like? Also, I don't mind telling my parents after succeeding. In case you're wondering, I know exactly what kind of videos and animations I want to create. I just can't get the games or equipment because of said reasons. If I wasn't being controlled, I would've bought everything and already started the channel (making about a video per week b/c college takes time).

My dads never been in the picture and i feel like shes nad about him leaving her and takes it out on me, ie tried talking to her a million time and i always end up getting yelled at about nothing and when i was 7 she had my half brother which just added on to it just the stress of her new baby and his psycho father nade her mad and stressed and at one point just moved out and left me when i was 8 and all i had were grandparents, i remember crying everynight alone and i would act out in school to get the attention i didnt get at home which actually led to bullying and that caused suicidal thoughts at the age of 8 and in my opinion is was to young i remember her coming back and i would have to put up with jer bullshit and i started having anxiety and panick attacks. Food was another thing, that woman was so manipulative and when it came to food i would have to eat what she wanted even if it made me feel sick and she would tell me i was selfish because i wouldn t want to eat it and because i was so naive i would eat it then later on just throw it all back up because it would make me sick like ovacodo for example i can t eat it with out projectile vomiting everywhere and she forced me to eat it and i would sometimes go home early from school because i felt sick because i never ate breakfast because i couldn t cook and she was too busy doing her makeup to acknowledge my existence. I just need help and i dont know what to do

I'm of age, 20, and even then if I was it shouldn't matter.

My sister is 19, I'm 14 should I tell my parents, I mean she was WASTED

They are starting to ask questions. We leave early when my father-in-law is drunk. My father died before I had kids. My husband and I actually met at Al-Anon

I forgive her as she surely did not intend to hurt me. However I learned things from her like that if someone gets mad at me it means they dislike me. I learned that people are dangerous and reject us left and right. I learned that anything I say is inappropriate unless I am with Mom alone in which case I can be myself. As a result I have terrible social anxiety and only feel safe if alone with Mom. She was also bitter about her divorce and taught me that my Dad did not love me. That part is much harder to forgive her for. I feel so nervous now that maybe my Dad is just faking to be nice and doesn't really love me. I worry maybe I am 2nd rate in his eyes to his other kids from his 2nd marriage and maybe my half-siblings dislike me or see me as 2nd rate. My Mom always cuts them down though she doesn't know them. Lastly, my Mom was super loyal to her Mom and her family. As a result I feel I might be seen as unfaithful by my Dad's side of the family cause I see them a couple times a year but not weekly. My Mom's siblings got together weekly when their parents were alive and do monthly now. My Mom even told me that my Dad's family thinks we (my Mom and I) are unfaithful cause my Mom divorced my Dad. I took that very personal and it hurt. She now says she meant they thought she was unfaithful, not me. But the fear is in me now. My Dad's family has never liked my Mom and for understandable reasons. I fear they might dislike me as her kid. I obsess about all of this So how do I overcome all this? Can I? The anxiety stuff my Mom couldn't help passing down to me at all. The divorce stuff she had choice over telling me my Dad didn't love me cause he didn't love anyone and stuff like that. Both items led to my anxiety.

So we don't have work at my house, my family just used to hot spots on our phones. Mine is super slow and won't load literally anything. I've been super frusterated about it and I told my mom and she said we could get real WiFi the next day. So today when my mom got off work, she picked me up and we went to dinner and she said after we can get WiFi. On our way to get WiFi she randomly changed her mind and said "never mind, I have a hard time believing that your hot spot is too slow to work, and you can pay for WiFi yourself if you need it" I told her I want lying and it's super unfair to throw the offer out to me and be on our way there to get it even and she just said that people are allowed to change their minds. I was trying to tell her that my feelings were really hurt and she said I was being ridiculous about it and didn't wanna talk about it. Is this unfair? I feel like this was really unfair of her.

My dad has been controlling my mom since they both got married. About two summers ago i saw him on top of her choking her. He has hit her pretty bad, not often but once is enough. He threatens her that he will kill her and her family, he is out the house but still wants her to text him her every move. My mom owns a few houses, but my dad saays its his, even though thier under her name. She has a warrent for her arrest becuase he has not taken care of "his" houses. She owes so much money on them all becuase of him. Now my mom does not know english and is afraid he will kill her just like his threats. so my question is what legal actions can i make against him? can i sue him? what can i do to get him away far away as possible forever?

The perfect one has always been perfect. She has never done wrong since about age 5. Both kids are adopted. Perfect child was a newborn when adopted. The one who is harder was adopted at a later age and had trauma. She was adopted at age 6. My aunt stopped loving that child when the child finished high school. She reaches out once or twice a year and that is all. She cuts the daughter down daily so the daughter is now rejected again. Is this abnormal parenting or is this how it is for an adult child if they are difficult sometimes? The bad daughter is not bad, she just pulls away and does not reciprocate love. The other daughter is perfect in every way and reciprocates times 10. There is also a son but he is biological and also very easy going and much older. The father died 10 years ago.

Because my Mom had a fight with her family we are not welcome at holidays. All the family will gather yet again and share pictures on Facebook. I will be in the only group not there and I will feel the shame of rejection. I dread Christmas and Thanksgiving and last year contemplated suicide at the holidays I was so upset. Family means a lot to me as my learning disabilities keep me from having many friends. It hurts so much to be rejected by family. My Mom likes it as she is bitter at them but I don't like it, it hurts. We see my Granny still on the day after Christmas but my Mom won't speak to her siblings or their families and they don't want to talk to us. My Granny is unable to help, I have spoken to her about it. This hurts so much and ever since Labor Day I have been dreading the pain of another Christmas rejection and Thanksgiving rejection. How do I get over this pain? Christina: My Dad is out of the picture since I was a baby. I have two siblings but no Dad.

He is the only cousin who dislikes me along with his sister. His sister dislikes me only cause of whose womb I came out of but this cousin getting married seems to dislike me for reasons other then hatred of my Mom.

John: Wow, I don't know what the **** says but if it is what I think it is then I like it.

I grew up with mom in a small town where everybody knows each other. My parents divorced when i was 6 he left us and never asked about me,he moved to west coast to live with his brother who i dislike and had very big influence on the divorce.A year ago when i started studying medicine he showed up from nowhere willing to help me with my education.I started hating him in my own mind i mean i have never felt hate toward anybody but this isnt just a temorary anger it is hate that i feel.He never send me a singe penny or made a phoncall,sent a message.Oh i wish he didnt exist.

I am seeing her in two weeks though my mother is trying to stop me (she is slightly narcissistic also).

I did nothing inappropriate and she has one of my sisters and my brother. This woman is cold but never mean though she only married the uncle for money is the rumor (he is a doctor). So why might she have done this when I have always liked her. Her two daughters did the same and though one is bitchy the other is very nice. Her sons both have me as Facebook friends. Even the aunt's mother and nephew have me on Facebook and both aren't related since it is an aunt by marriage but know is from family functions.

I am 16 years old and i feel like my mom treats me very unfair compared to my sister and other family members. My mom always calls me a ***** and complains about my attitude, how bitchy i am and that i always ruin everything from my attitude. I have politely pulled her aside and told her i would like to be respected and treated like my obviously favored sister. Sometimes I understand I can be disrespectful and I usually apologize once i have cooled off if i think i was being unreasonable. However, my mothers husband and i have never had issues and he has always talked to me in a respectful way and we have never once had an issue in the 3 years we've known each other. I get good grades in school and i don't think it is an unreasonable request to ask her if she can please be nicer/ respect me more. However every time i confront her, she is always right and claims," As a parent who pays the bills (even though her husband provides EVERYTHING from food to clothes and the roof over our head) i can treat you however i want" What should i do and how should i cope ?

I'm introducing my boyfriend of 9 months to my extended family on my dad's side. His side has a tendency to be pretty stuck up about the whole 4 year degree thing and he hasn't finished his four year degree even though my dad's brother and aunts husband both dropped out of college. I am out of the house and I am 26 and he is 25. He has an associates, is a published writer, works in the electrical field, and plans on going back to school to get his PHD in English/psychology. My dad doesn't like that my boyfriend told him directly that he plans on going back to school but isn't taking classes now and thinks that he shouldn't tell my extended relatives his plans. To an extent I agree with my dad but what should I tell my boyfriend. Should I advise him that he should just tell my relatives about what he has accomplished and not his future plans to my extended family? Or should I Just see how it goes?

When we were kids he abused me. He was 11/12 and I was 5/6. It was kissing, masturbation and oral. He left Home at 13 then I didn't see him much. I left Home at 16 and there was no contact at all until a few years ago at a funeral and now. He's now moved to my town. I've never told a soul and we have much younger siblings who thing he's lovely. Family here think he's great. Do I forgive him because he was a child himself? I've had to act normal around him but I've carried this shame and guilt yet managed to bury it. Now it's surfaced and I don't want to deal with it. Please help someone. I never wanted to talk about it. 30 years I've kept it to myself.

I will admit that I am abusive towards her. Whenever she back talks me, does something I don't like, or gets and attitude and yells at me I hit her or slap her or even worse. I always make accuses for it though because I can't stand to be wrong in any situation. Growing up I was the only child, I always got what I wanted and when I say always I mean ALWAYS. I guess that's why I get so angry when she says no to something. I mentally abuse her and tell her that's she worthless and nothing but another warm hole to me. Yet she still stays with me and treats me like a king. I don't know why she hasn't left me yet but I use it to my advantage. I take every single one of my frustrations out on her and she will still lay up and cuddle with me and tell me she loves me. I have a problem and I've been to anger management but it hasn't worked and it never will. I want to stop being so aggressive with her but I don't know how.