There is a long legacy in her family, I am 15 and know this, of "my enemy must be your enemy". My Mom divorced my Dad cause he is an alcoholic and brags about dreams she has had of pushing him in front of a truck. She bans me from seeing him and says it is for my protection. Yet, she happily lets me see my uncle who is also an alcoholic. She lets me see his son who had drug problems (is getting help) and she has let me go to Thanksgiving there with his in-laws there. I just learned his brother-in-law who we see at Thanksgiving and 4th of July had a rape or attempted rape conviction 16 years ago. So I am allowed around an alcoholic uncle, drug addicted cousin, and convicted rapist in-law of an uncle's, but not my own Dad who is like the uncle. I don't want to live with the Dad but I want to know him. Everyone says "wait until your 18" but my Mom says as long as I am under her roof I cannot speak to him. My Dad would be 62 and I fear he will be dead before I can meet him. His other kids from his 1st marriage see him and my Mom seldom lets me see those half-siblings cause she says they are enablers. How do I get my Mom to see the hypocrisy of her letting me around a rapist, alcoholic, and drug addict but not my own Dad? It really hurts and makes me miserable especially at family holidays. This weekend my Dad's nephew is getting married and I am banned by my Mom from going cause my Dad will be there. So I am in mourning all weekend.

I forgot to lock my bedroom door and my brother walked in as I was changing clothes. He said "You are the most beautiful hot and sexy woman ever". "If you were not my sister I would have a b0ner the size of Texas 24/7". Is that a compliment and/or not something appropriate to say to your sister? How about my saying "In your dreams "shorty"?

Back when I was a teenager my dad has abused me a couple of times before (i.e throwing me outside the house with no clothes on, Slapped me across the face and had to go to school with a red face the next day.) I am an adult and it is still going on but pretty worse than it has been. My step mom is so controlling, she is defiant, she is mean, she is so horrible, that i hate her so much. Eventually, I will not want her or my dad in my house all because of whats going on at this point. I am at my breaking point and my whitts end. She does not let me live the life I want to live, so out of the blue I have to basically be thrown under the bus saying "Your going to live the way I tell you to live, and if you don't like it, oh well" So shes basically saying I am dumb and stupid and i try telling my dad of whats going on and he basically refuses to listen to what I have to say, which is like him forgetting about me and not allowing me to live the life I want to live. I cannot have this happen any longer than it has to be, meaning I have gave her so many chances to trust her and I cannot trust her and eventually I would not be able to trust my own father as well. I just want to have my own space which is why i dont like talking to my father nor my step mother because of how they take my responses is not so well whether its getting a job, finding a job, etc.

My mom came into my room saying I can t have my door closed because she heard people at work talking about how their households have no closed door policies. This is just stupid because I don t like people to just come into my room like they always do and just annoy me. I hate it when they listen to what I m doing too. I m not doing anything weird though, but still I like privacy. We have other rooms in our house so maybe I can just sneak to one of them and stay in there lol

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Our 4 kids have mental illness and will never be able to fend for themselves or care for a home. What can I plan for their adulthood, especially for when we are no longer around?

My family has no work at all. I work full time and study online. We're immigrants living in Canada and I am the only one with a purpose in life. All my family does is tell me what to do. Whatever I am doing in life they just want to convince me to do the opposite. They get angry that i work saying I am too young ( I'm 20) and if that does not work they start crying or tell me that you swear on my life that do this do that. I've become immune to all this by now. Just today i decided to move out. I packed up all my stuff and as I was leaving without saying anything, my grandma hid my keys and started the emotional blackmail game again. I got angry and then my mom started teaching me morals and stuff again. They have nothing to do in their life and wants me to be a loser like them too I am their opposite. Very motivated and big thinker. All my people I hang out with are very positive except my family members. Everything i do is wrong. They dont take responsibility for anything and constantly blame me for whatever goes wrong in their life( i have nothing to do in their life but they"ll claim that because i was working i day they got bored at home so i am very bad, etc) What should I do Update i meant to write ( they tell me to swear on their life that I'll stop working, that I wont leave them etc) They constantly with full force try to make me feel guilty. Howevrr they are the ones who should. Although i dont say anything to them. Every morning either of them will start knocking my door constantly . I like to start my day with happiness and peace but i have no opyiom but to scream "stop" and then they come back again and i have to get out and yell at them again. I sometimes feel like alll of them like to seee people in pain, in anger etc My dad still lives in india and its just my mom, my sister and I here. My grandpa and grandpa are visiting us for 2 months to torture me. My dad constantly emotionaly blackmail me to stay with my mom because they dont want them to live by themselves but he lives in India. It's like I am the dad and hes the son. He should be responsible for it. I like to travel and learn and theyre trying to stop me with full force. Now i know myself and ill get thru it and become very succesful eventually. These are just small obsstacles but problem is its family and they constantly make me feel guilty about everything and theyre the toxic one and i know theyre my enemies and i wanna leave them and never see them again but theyre family, what should i do My grandma literally said that she'll kill herself if i was to move out

My mother never listens. NEVER. She constantly cuts me off or straight up ignores me. She acts like it's a chore to even hear me. Because of this I hardly ever talk. It's gotten to the point where actual conversations cause my throat to become sore and they're not even long conversations, just short ones. The only one in my family to sit down and hear me out is my aunt but she's always gone working and I never know what to say in fear of saying something stupid that'd lead to her also ignoring me. Our relationship used to be decent but after I outed her husband for sexually abusing me for four years, she became distant. I don't think she ever believed I was telling the truth. And yet she wonders why I never tell her anything about when I'm sick or hurting – she never believes me. It took my uncle, who I'm not even close to, two minutes to realize I have back pain from the way I was standing. My mother never noticed or asked. She doesn't think I can become an archaeologist. In fact, she used to actively try to persuade me into not pursuing my dream career. She only stopped when my aunt stepped in. Is it normal that she never listens or believes me in anything I do? I kind of doubt she's feeling ashamed. A good mother would have taken me to therapy, which was something Child Protective Services told her to do. Instead, she never took me, even though she kept saying she would. In the end, I never had anyone to help me through it. I had to heal myself. I'm still healing myself.

Goes to Mexico to visit my dad's family every year. My mom is always nagging me about my clothes and anything that I don't want to put aside for my cousins ( we're not that far apart in age) I hate it when she's always telling me about how poor they are down there and to be grateful for what you have here in the US. She won't really gets on my nerves! I understand that they're having it hard down there and I hate it for them, I really do. However, it's not my fault that they're in that situation. She's always lecturing me about be grateful for what you have and everything. I don't know what to say to her to get her off my case without sounding disrespectful but it really is annoying when she talks to me about them all the time. What do I do? I mean like I said I know their situation sucks down there but that's not my fault I always feel like I have to be reminded about their situation down there and it gets really annoying. Any suggestions?

Ok one minute she will want me on vacation to swim with her then the next min she doesnt want me anywhere near her ? I am really confused ,why does she want mw around her one min and then hardly speak the next ,she is very moody

If my brother sends his girls, (8 & 9 y.o.), to their room as punishment he removes EVERYTHING of theirs, except books. If he says go to your room for the rest of the day, he MEANS it; they're in there for the day!

My mom sometimes comes to visit but she smokes a pack a day and I hate the smell of cigarette smoke. She thinks I am hateful for doing that and she also is a methadone addict and is on disability. I am 23 and do not want her empty cigarette buts on my porch. I don't want my apartment neighbors to see it and judge me.

She told me to go to hell just because I said good morning and told her to get started on her school work by 745am and it was 8am before she started. She is homeschooled and I am tired of her being disrespectful but she was bullied in public school. She keeps giving me an attitude, yelling, and crying about everything. I told her that she has lost her phone, tv, ipad, and bedroom door privileges until October 27,2017. She is suppose to be up by 630am every Monday through Friday and this morning she was defiant and did not wake up until 726am. I understand sleeping in but she is so rude and even hits her 4 year old brother.

When I was 16 I used to have problems with my brother and we fought a lot. One time we got into it and grabbed the closest thing to me and threw it at him. It happens to be a pair of scissors. It was a stupid mistake but I never had a violent history with anyone other than my brother. My mom used that to send me to a mental home but she used more as a vacation to get rid of me for a while. After she dropped me off she didn't return for 3 days I had no cloths tooth brush shampoo etc. She said she wasn't able to make it because she promised my sister to get her belly button pierced. After I got out I did a outpatient program for about 2 weeks my mom took it upon her self to discontinue the program because it inconvenienced her life to much. Now I'm 24 years old and it's preventing me from Obtaining my Foid card in Illinois. Now this will effect my life forever and limit me to certain government jobs. My mom also has a history fraudulently using the system. When I was younger she whipped out all mine my brothers and sisters bank account also stole about 100k from my dad and we almost lost everything. She also committed social security fraud on my dads father. She then falsely claimed a drug abuse problem and years later openly admits she used the program to take a couple month vacation from my father.

I'm 16 almost 17, my moms 37. My parents were married for 15 years and my dad was abusive to my mom physically and emotionally. He never let her work or finish college or anything. They finally got divorced almost 2 years ago and my moms been working and she started college again too while my dad is arrested. I understand that she didn't have a lot of time to live her life since she was stuck with my dad most of her life but she goes out almost every single night and gets drunk and then has me drive to where she is and pick her up and bring her home at least twice a week. I have two younger sisters who I'm watching every second they aren't at school literally. My mom has school and work and whenever she has free time she's out getting drunk so I'm always watching them and they're really irritating. My friends all live 3 hours away since we had to move when my parents got divorced cause my dad was a little crazy. The thing is when I go to visit my friends and I can finally have a few hours to myself my mom gets mad when I don't want her to be there with me and my friends. And then when she's drunk she tells me I'm a control freak for not letting her hang out with me and my friends. I feel like she's being the teenager and I'm being the parent. Do you guys think I'm wrong for feeling like this

I have three kids, two daughters and a son. My daughter was a bad student who constantly lied at school. After high school she got a job and we were hopeful and then she got pregnant, quit her job, and then miscarried. I sometimes wonder if she really was pregnant or if it was one of her lies. So at age 21 she was an adult we told her she could not come to the family holidays until she got her act together. Since then she has done the following. 1. Convinced my siblings that we have abandoned her. 2. Convinced my siblings that we make no contact with her. 3. Made it so we can't attend family events since we don't want to deal with our daughter's drama and yet my family keeps having her. 4. Caused my one sister to totally enable my daughter and thus causing that sister to lie for our daughter. 5. Caused my brother's kids to turn against me and ignore me when I am in town other then one son of his who is good about staying in touch. 6. Made my other sister lecture me and block me on social media. 7. And she has made absolutely no progress, gained 100 pounds, and continue her lies. How do I get my family back as right now they think I am a mean mother and believe the lies of my daughter. My one sister who is a hypocrite has led the movement to back my daughter. As my son said "we don't have family on Mom's side anymore except Granny". My Mom is the only one who is still family to us.

She is a fun drunk but an alcoholic. So would it be fun to film her talking with me and have it for the archives or would this be inappropriate. I am not at all looking to embarrass her as I like her and she is a fun drunk. not a moody one like her brother. I would not film her brother when he gets this way as he can be mean and he is not coming.

I live at home with my 2 parents I give them £50 every week (yes I know it's not much but it's half of what I earn every week) and I'm not allowed to stay out later than 9 pm. It causes a lot of problems for my social life my friends have stopped inviting me to parties and to go out for a drink because I have to be home early. I don't drink or do drugs and I honestly feel like a child my friend's little sister who is almost 16 is allowed out until 11 pm. They also still threaten to ground me and take my phone. I don't understand why my parents are like this so if you're a parent please try to explain from a parent's point of view because I have tried calmly asking them about it and they keep saying if I don't like it I can leave but I can't afford to do that right now.

We know the want is going to be two tranpolines, one for our house and one to take back to their mothers. The wear and read are pretty obvious to. Nust trying to figure out the need... Girls ages 6 and 8. TIA

That s all they do, and when I ask to go anywhere they don t want to except stay Home and clean and do things which I never see them do. They take frequent naps and then go to bed at night too. Is this a problem? Because I always want to go do stuff

My single mother, (3 children), neighbour, a few days ago, irritated; "I have to make dinner for them and they will all want something different; in front of the T.V." My Father, (I was born in 1960), to 5 children; "Get to the table for your dinner, (one selection - meat and fresh vegetables)." Any one child; "But, Dad, I don't want that!" Father; "Your Mother cooked it; you're eating it. You even have a choice...eat it while it's hot, or wait until it's cold and you're still eating it. No! None of you leave the table until the last one has finished." This could be anything up to a couple of hours if the reluctant child held out as long as possible. Ergo - Disciplined children; either by the Father or by those who had been made to suffer by the actions of one.

I'm thinking of leaving my city I want to live in the wilderness I just love nature, but still go to town once a month to get groceries. I want to live in a cabin by myself isolated by the world just training and lifting weights and smoking weed. and I also want to wear a sinester looking mask 24/7 I know this is weird but I don't trust the air and it'll look badass I have long hair . What's wrong with me. As for sex I'm going to buy prostitutes I don't believe in love. I want to grow fields of weed and just smoke my life away. I'm not kidding this is how I want to live my life. Now the question is should I seek medical mental attention or should I follow my dreams:) as for money my major is computer engineering so I'll probably be working independently.

So this morning my cousin told me her list of baby names. Her top two are Anna Marie -if its a girl- and August -if it is a boy. These are the exact names that I always wanted for my babies. We're currently 3 months and would love to use one of these names. Anna Marie is my mother's name, and August is my grandfather's name. I have never been one to "dips" a baby name, so she has no idea. But what I don't understand is why she wouldn't guess that I would want to name my children after the two most important people in my life? She has never been close to my mother or grandfather. They don't hate each other by any means, they just aren't close. But my mom and grandfather have always been my "nuclear" family. I lived with them until college, and I'm still very close to them. I really don't want to unset my cousin, and I usually just go along with whatever she tells me to do. But now I'm nearly in tears that she wants to use these names. I'm hoping to get some alternatives (or even advice on how to go about keeping my original choices.)

When I was maybe 8 or 9 I had a younger step-cousin... we would kinda... fool around and dry hump each other. I didn't quite understand what he was doing but it felt good so I let it keep happening. He told me he wanted to try it with our clothes off and I felt really weird about it, but before it came to that, we were caught by my grandmother. I don't really know if this was molestation or not. I feel really conflicted about the whole thing... I'm 19 now and I haven't spoken with him since about it. I have a lot of shame about it. Does this sound like I was molested or was this consensual? Was I the one molesting him since I was older? I feel lost

My dad hit me with a belt repeatedly until i had bruises and whip marks on my legs. He has always been verbally abusive towards me and my sister, calling us ****** lovers, dumbasses and he called my sister a whore. He said he would never hit me again, but if he is ever yelling at me and i yell back he threatens to "Slap the **** out of me" I cant stand to be around him and he tries to be all buddy buddy with me. I cant look him in the eyes anymore without panicing. He does not allow me to date black people or have any of the friends i want to have. The only bad thing i do is smoke weed because it helps with my anxiety disorder as well as my trichotillomania. I only smoke at my sisters house with my own money. I am a little young to be smoking (17) but i am out of high school and i have my own job. He makes all of my texts go to his phone also and he will take my phone and go through everything.

We just found out that my little brother - 1 years old has cerebral palsy. Since we've found out my mum hasn't been paying any attention to me or my other siblings. We used to be really really close, it was like we were sisters I've always been there for her through everything. She used to always tell me I'd always have a special place in her heart but now she's practiclly admitted my brother is her favourite. I know this sounds so so selfish it's just so hard for me to adjust to everything. And now I just sit in my room and watch YouTube videos because I feel unwanted. I've tried comforting her about my brother and playing with him but I feel this anger that he's making me and my siblings not have a mother anymore. Is this bad? Am I an evil person?

My stepfather has been in my life since I was little and has never been much of a father to me, in fact, I wish my biological father was still in the picture. My stepfather has made passes at me and had confessed to wanting to pay me to see my breasts when I was 16 because my mother doesn t have much of boobs. He s even commented on my body before. Him and my mother are extremely sexual and he s the type to watch porn in front of her and have naked women posters in their room. When I cut my hair short like a boy he d make comments about how he doesn t like women with boy hair and that it doesn t look attractive. The same when I curse too much- that it s not "lady like" I m a trans make btw and have even discovered I don t really want to have sex anymore because of him unless it s a really special person that makes me comfortable with my body. He doesn t even know I m trans and treats me differently than my brother. If my brother does something or speaks loud or blares his music- nothing, but if I do it I ll get yelled at. My friend has even said that it could be because I m a female in the house he can t **** and has a curvy body unlike my mother. I want to tell my mom, but he brings in money and even with his money we ve been close to losing our house several times. Without it we wouldn t have enough to pay the bills.

So my ex and I have been seperated 2 1/2 years. We share 2 daughters 3 and 4. I am in TX with family and he still lives in FL. the girls often visit for holidays and summers. So naturally of course I've always known we would evntually have new people in our life which is just life, we have both accepted.they have been together about 8 months and live together. She also has 2 children of her own. So here's my thing. The first time she met the girls she instantly put pictures of them on her fb. I thought it was odd, talked to him about it...they both kind of blew me off. She met them during a 4 wk span. especially if my girls will now be staying at her house with their dad when they visit. Another thing that bothers me She is constantly expressing on social media what a great father he is to her children, what a amazing man he is to her, how he makes her and her children so happy Because he goes over and beyond to ensure they are taken care of. It is starting to make me feel sad for my daughters.I never want them to feel like they are an outsider to his new found family life. She always post pics of him with her children and I often wonder if he will grow a closer bond to her daughter instead of his own She hasnt mentioned my daughter's not once since they left florida and I can only hope the love she expresses she has for him..would be the same for his children.... Everything has been about "her kids" everything is "my family" "my spouse" our kids Am I just in my feelings?

My sister leads the perfect life. She is 27, married her high school sweet heart who treats her like a queen. She's beautiful, and one of the smartest people I've known my whole life. She went to university and finished up in community college and is now a pediatric nurse. She had a beautiful wedding, owns a very nice apartment, and is very successful, along with her husband. While I'm in high school, my life has been a train wreck. I have OCD, I've had it since early childhood, and it controls my life. I contemplate whether I should live every single day. My siblings are all older and have moved out now, and I don't have many friends, so I spent most of my time alone when I'm not visiting my family. I have become very depressed over this, even to the point where I stopped eating and cried straight for hours. My sister never went through what I did. She has no mental illnesses, she's perfectly healthy, she was a star athlete in high school with amazing grades, plenty of friends and parties to attend, and a wonderful boyfriend. Guys have told me they liked me, but all turned to be lies, as I was constantly traded in for a prettier, better girl. I'm so terrified for my future. The #1 thing I wnat in my life is to end up just like my sister. I feel I'll never have that, my sanity is driven through walls every day and it's hard for me to get through most days. I'm scared I'll never be happy, no guy will ever want me, and I'd die alone. What can I do? Thank you in advance.

My parents love to take walks after dinner, but for some reason I hate them sooooo much. I'd do anything to get out of going on walks, but I have no idea why. When they force me to go on walks with them, I can't even make myself smile. I suffer the whole time. I don't know why I hate walks, can someone please give me insight?

Is it weird that I'm okay with starting my own life away from my family before I even graduate high school? I'm a sophomore and honestly I like being alone and doing my own thing. I don't know if it's just a hormone-y teenage thing, but my family has such a big emphasis on togetherness and stuff while I like being alone.

So my son is now a home owner. He is only 28 years old and is moving into a very nice place all on his own (the home is worth about 500k). He is single, and I'm kind of worried that a lot of woman might cling onto him just because he has such a nice home. Is that realistic to worry about that? Or am I overthinking it?

Hi I'm a 17 years old and I love to play video games but my dad takes my PlayStation power cords and my gaming pc power cords just so I can't play during the weeks I can only play on the weekends and so i have an extra power cord for my gaming pc and I play as much as I can before my dad gets home from work and today he found out that i have another power cord for my pc and he got mad and left to his girl friends house for the night and he took my extra power cord with him but I told him I'm go getting straight A's in school but he seems to not care and I'm scared what will happen tommorow once he comes home from his girlfriends house is their anything I can say to make him be love I wasn't playing video games cause i love games and now he probably won't let me play them ever again I don't want that to happen I know it was a bad decision to play it but I get really bored after I'm done with my homework and all I have is just tv to watch and that gets boring after a while anyways what should I do or say I'm actually really scated?????????

Ok so I work in a grocery store and this kid who looks about 15 came through my register asking me if we sold a certain lighter and I told him we didn't and he was the most disrespectful little **** I've ever seen at my job. He backed out of the register even though he could've just went on through and this nice man was waiting in line and he made him move and I rung the man up. And while he was looking at the lighters this Mexican family was waiting in line and he disrespectfully moved his arms in a fashion for them to move and I felt like telling him to stop disrespecting the customers or else I would make him leave the store. I don't get it. Why do kids feel like they have the power to be so disrespectful. Luckily he didn't get his little ***** *** beat. But why would he disrespect people much older than him and especially my customers?

So I just finished school and brought a 5 bedroom home. I have no kids but took in my nephew. My Mom has great ways about her, but she's done alot of damage to my self esteem and mentality and emotionally abused me. She just brings me down so much and she seems to be in competition, wants to run n my life, and never want me to be happy. I love her but she's not sensible with money. The only time she calls me is if she needs money. See he's married. Haven't worked in forever and she's only 45. She wants me to let her stay with me. Her and her husband, who are currently living hotel to hotel. What should I do?

Me and my friend were doing homework together and i asked her whats the answer for one of the questions because we a;alternate and my mom came in and took my phone and she said all you do ask for answers and im not getting my phone back for a while and that makes me mad because my sister does it and she is in 9th grade while im in 8th so whats the difference ?

So, I just turned 18 and I plan on moving out next year and getting my first job. I'll be out of state and the first time I'll be away from my family for months and living with different people. If I get accepted she'll help pay for my plane ticket there. For the last few weeks she's been acting funny. She's married yet she flirts a lot with a guy that used to live next door to us and she always says how amazing and sexy this man is while saying that our dad is slow and stupid. She never acted like this before, I'd think if she knew I might be moving out she'd treat me better. She also started to tell me that I look horrible and how strange and crazy I am. I just noticed that she's more negative and putting me down more often. A few years ago she'd never act like this, now she's judgement and rude to me for no reason. Even my dad said she's changed. She doesn't even want to talk to me anymore and after seeing her texts with this other man. I feel like I'm drifting away from my parents. She always gets defensive like I'm attacking her. I don't know what has happened to my family but I ******* hate it. Sometimes I wish I had different parents. What should I do now?

My mom was checking through my iPad and told her I didn't like that, to stop doing that, but she keeps reading my messages and disconnecting me whenever I try to talk to someone or she sees me typing "too much". She also looks at my screen and yells at me if I talk to a guy even if it's just a friend. We got into a heated argument and I cursed saying this was bullshit that what she does to me was bullshit and she hit me on my head and slapped me... I'm 20 and I haven't been hit since I was a child but she slapped me hard so out of instinct right after she slapped me I punched her.. I feel bad but I'm feeling extremely angry and depressed ATM. This whole thing is making me wanna bury myself 8ft under. Does anyone know of a program that can help me find a place? I'm sure she's going to kick me out(she's threatened kicking me out if I call people "I shouldn't talk to aka friends of not the same religion, a boy) I also need a referral to an anger management program please. Thanks

Our 4 kids have mental illness and will never be able to fend for themselves or care for a home. They have severe social phobia, anxiety, & depression. What can I plan for their adulthood? I especially would like ideas for when we are no longer around. What kind of plan can I have in place for them?

I know a poor family who is giving their children the basic needs (food, shelter, clothes, and school) - but they are putting their toddler in beauty pageants. It's VERY likely that they're doing it for money due to their financial instability. These pageants are highly exploitive. It's NOT the same as having a child who loves acting/singing so they became famous at a young age. These small children compete by wearing heavy makeup, provocative clothing, and acting in a certain manner. CPS generally gets involved if a child is exploited in a way (e.g sex trafficking, slavery, child labour). I'm not sure about child beauty pageants since that wasn't mentioned on their website. Besides, they're not considered illegal and some other kids probably do it. It would be harder to tell if it's exploitation or not.

so my grandma continuously takes my phone for no reason, my grandpa pays for the phone and bought it so he should have control but he doesn't want to get in to argument with her so he remains neutral while my grandma continues to take my phone also she says its because I am disrespectful and i make the worst grades and I am going to grow up to be a terrible person even though none of those things are true. And before you say "why dont you ask her why she taking it" ive tried and it fails each and every time. also she likes to talk over me being even more rude than she claims I am. and ignores me and before you ask "why dont you try talking to her" she acts very hostile towards me so there you go, what can I do? sorry for any spelling mistakes I was in a hurry to write this...

Ok im sorry this is long! My daughter is 8 yrs old & her dad hasn't really been in the pic since she was a toddler, so you can imagine that i also never received support in any shape or form from his side. His family on the other hand, although they really weren't around either.. they've loved my child, and every birthday and Christmas (both fall on same day) they bring her presents. They all live out of town so we never really gets to see them. Whenever i take her to them, her father is never around, the first time he went with us to take my kid out, he seemed uncomfortable and wanted to leave with his friends. The 2nd and last time was the last time i took her and he came with his new little family and did not really acknowledge my daughter much which really hurt me, but he swears he loves her and as per his family, he's cried over her for the past 6 years. Anyway, my child (also) does not feel love nor a bond for him, she hasn't said it but i can see it because she has always felt uncomfortable around him.. but she is well aware he is her dad. Now with that being said, should i keep taking her over to see her aunts and little cousins? I really want her to have a good relationship with them because i know its not none of their fault for how my ex is. My daughter will agree to go visit them because she knows she has a good time but I just don't want her feelings getting hurt :( what should i do? Please no rude comments and thank you so much for your help! <3

Hello! If you are still reading, awesome, thanks! Just please answer my question! So. my mother is kind of strict. I'm 14 and I don't have a cell phone, even though I need one as I have practices and rehearsals. Money isn't a problem, and she claims to get me one soon, but nope. She also doesn't let me go to sleep overs. My one friend is having a sleep over, and she comes from a good family, nice neighbourhood. She has two younger SISTERS, and the door will be locked while us girls are hanging out. The funny thing is, no matter what, my mother always says "Np. you can't sleep over", no matter what the situation. But of course, she'll let me sleep over at our annoying family friends house, while the only person there is their DAD little siblings. So much for trying to protect me?! Even worse, she said she has to be there along with my three year old twin siblings if I get to go at ALL. I tried staying calm. but I eventually got sick of how stubborn she was being. I love my mom a lot, she does everything for me, but what can I do? She says I'm very precious to her, but I'm y independent and can do everything myself I'm not five. I told her she was abusing her rights as my mother and simply saying no because she could. She claims she doesn't have to give me a reason.. Any advice?? Please help <3 Also, Its illegal for me to drive, I'm 14. I'm in 8th grade so you have to ask permission and the parents have to confirm everything blah blah blah, so I can't sneak out.

My mom is going to pick up my brother out of state by car. So my grandma had the bad idea for my dad to follow my mom to pick up my brother. I'm not going to see my brother for about 5 years because of his job. Both me and my brother don't like our dad. My dad is a complete narcissist, emotionless and a deadbeat. I admit I feel uncomfortable being near him. He's almost like a stranger that you don't like but forced to talk to. I've tried forgiving and being nice to him since I was a teenager in hopes that his personality would change but it didn't. I can clearly see why my mother divorced him.

I recently got a check from a lawsuit three years ago and my mom forced me to give her $2,000 out of the $8,000 and continued to say that I'm selfish with my money whenever I get a refund check from school. I'm currently a freshman in college and I'll be transferring to a different school after this school year and until May im stuck living with her. I have been doing my best managing my responsibilities and 26 credit hours worth of classes but she continues to get mad over every little thing and distracts me from my work. She's been forcing me to clean up the house every week(for 6 years) without actually doing anything to contribute. I also have to take Lyft's to school everyday because she refused to allow me to take my driving exam after I got my learners permit 2-3 years ago. Now she's forcing me to pay $400 for driving lessons because she refuses to ask any family members to teach me since she won't do it herself. I also managed to get a driving exam appt. after I had practiced with a friend and she told me she wouldn't allow me to do it because I didn't fold her laundry. LONG STORY SHORT: I'm trying to manage having to live with her for 7 more months but she continues to bring down negative energy and she holds me back from being an actual adult because she wants to control what I'm doing with my life. Update: She just told me I have to give her $500 because she feels like I disrespected her because I proved that my bill for the next semesters has yet to come

My mother is currently having a surgery and I understand she needs my help but I'm 22 with two small siblings, one 9 and one 4. I love them but it's not fair that she wants to me take care of them For two full weeks. Morning and night it's driving me crazy already. I have my own life too. My grandmother takes them for the one day I'm at work, btw my mom expected me to even quit my job or she will kick me out to commit to babysitting. But I refused and she asked my grandmother. Also the kids father lives about 2 hours away and he owns a company so he's always busy working. Idk what to do anymore

He thinks he's very important and much better than me but I feel like if I tell him that's he's actually adopted it'll shut him right up and he'll realize he isn't important because his real parents didn't even want him.

If she were 12 I'd say she will grow up but now that she is 23 should I just assume she will be mean for life? I am 32. Our mother was done disciplining when our sister came around so she got whatever she wanted. This may have contributed to her being an adult bully.

They expect me to boycott her since they are boycotting her. I like her though I don't agree with all her behavior and her kids are with her though they are much younger then me. I am an adult living on my own but they live right near me and will notice my car is gone. They also (my mother) check Facebook for signs of what I am doing. How do I keep it a secret or if I just am honest what do I say when they say "don't you dare see her after how she has treated your mother"? I am nervous about the weekend. As a kid I was banned from anyone my mother was currently holding a grudge against. Now I am 24 and living on my own so starting to break free of my parents' toxic behavior. My Dad enables my Mom's grudges. This aunt is just like my Mom so both are twins seeing their own weaknesses in the other. It is not this upcoming weekend but the following ( a week from now).

He got a DUI but it is up to me whether to charge him with damage to my car.