I don't know if the sex offender my mother let us around as kids will be there or not. He doesn't come around as often as he used to. However, the alcoholic aunt and uncle will be there. I don't mind them but my mother always said "careful, don't get near an alcoholic" when it was her brother-in-law and step-father-in-law. Now that it is her own sister and sister's husband my Mom is fine with it (hypocrite). Meanwhile my cousin who pleads with me for money every time she sees me will be there I think. Her father and step-mother won't come cause she (the daughter) is there and they hate her. However, I fear they may show up and make a scene like they did at another wedding. It is my cousin getting married and her husband to be has a father who will be there who once attacked my grandfather. Also a womanizer sister of the groom's who I have never met will be there and I fear she will hit on me (I am a guy). Lastly, my cousin has a grandmother on the other side of her family who is dying. I am scared she will drop over dead in the middle of the ceremony. Also the cousin getting married doesn't like me because I was friendly to him on Facebook. His parents made him ask me since they were asking my mother. His sister doesn't like me either cause I smile too much like her step-mother who she hates with a burning passion. She came from a VERY dysfunctional family with multiple step-parents. This marriage will never last. Also, I should add the bride is pregnant which is why she is getting married. She is 5 months along. What if she goes into labor during the ceremony? Her last baby she had with some other guy was born premature and died. What if that happens here in front of all of us? She is nice though my cousin was arrested for putting marks on her (with a marker). I am scared. g---I was hoping someone would notice that.

My fiancé and I both are at the point in our lives where we don't really want a big wedding and don't feel like a lot of money has to go into getting married. I come from a family where I have my parents and step parents and 4 siblings between the two. He also has parents and step parents as well as 3 siblings. We originally were going to do a small wedding on my mother's farm with just our parents and siblings since I really wanted my dad and step dad to walk me and give me away since they both have been a huge part of my life, my dad also has two other daughters with his wife and my step dad and mom have 2 sons. So I wanted my step dad to be part of the experience of giving me away since he thinks of me as a daughter and he raised me while I lived with my mom growing up. My fiancé and I both struggle with anxiety and don't like big crowds. So we were thinking about just going to a courthouse. Has anyone had a courthouse wedding before? How long does the ceremony take? Is there a way I could honor both my step father and my dad without hurting their feelings of not being able to walk me down the isle? We have two witnesses that we can ask to be at the courthouse. I just don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. Any insight or advice is appreciated.

I got engaged about a month ago and we recently started wedding planning. My fiancé set a $10,000 budget for the wedding because he is the only one with a career because I am working on my masters. We had our first two venue tours today and I fell in love with this venue that would pretty much take the whole budget. Then we saw a venue that was well within our budget but it was outdated and looked tacky and I couldn't picture myself being married there and it made me realize that maybe all the venues within this small budget would look this way. We wanted to get married November of 2018 because I love fall and the weather is optimal because summer and spring here are too hot. I would like to push the wedding until November of 2019 because I would hopefully be graduated and have a job by December 2018 , which would allow for two incomes to contribute to the wedding. I just don't want my fiancé to feel as though what he is doing is not enough though and I don't want him to think that I am ungrateful, but I always envisioned a beautiful wedding and I don't want to be disappointed with the wedding. What do you think I should do ? I love my fiancé and it pains me to push it back because I want to start my life with him alread (and I don't believe in living with someone before marriage) but I do want a nice wedding and if we do get married next year , we may not be able to go on a honeymoon either. Am I being selfish in this request ? Am I wrong for feeling this way?

My fiancé just finished her PhD over the summer. I've lived in the same town my whole life. My entire family is here. I'm not willing to relocate. She wants to teach at a university but there are only two in the local area. She can't get a job at either she's been trying for awhile now. She refuses to take any job until she can get in at either institution. She's been offered a position at a university 4 hours away. My company has a branch there so I could transfer there but I'm not comfortable with it. I do not want to be far from my family. I've asked her again if she'd reconsider and just stay here and try to find a different job. She feels like I'm holding her back. Should I end things? I'm not willing to move that far from family.

I live in Fresno and don't want to travel today far. Central and Northern CA are preferred :)