I just got home from picking up my kids at school. Since it was warm out and I did not go in anyplace and came right back home I drove barefoot and did not bring my shoes.

I'm almost 14 and my (single) mom passed away in Sept. It has been difficult, but I've had a lot of emotional help and I am doing reasonably well. But I need to make a decision of where to live, and it is really difficult. My dad and I have next to no relationship. He left when I was 2 and we have barely had any contact since. He is offering to take me, but I think it would be really awkward, he's never really been in my life, he is remarried with kids of his own, and he hardly sounds excited about me now, more like he is "willing" because it is the right thing to do. The other option is my aunt, who is married to a wonderful man and has 2 daughters I am very close with. She loves me, wants to adopt me, wants to make me part of the family. And I want that too. But she has also been very clear that if I want to live here, that means her treating me the same as she does them, and her discipline does include spankings......only as a last resort, not common, but they do happen, and she isn't willing to negotiate. And right or wrong she is steadfast on this, and my age does not change her opinion. I've never really been spanked (like maybe once when I was little), I'm a total wimp about pain, and this really scares me. I'm a good kid and rarely in trouble, but I'm not crazy enough to think I'll NEVER get in trouble, especially because she is fairly strict (reasonable, but strict). So it really scares me. But so does living with a "father" I don't really know.... Advice???

I'm f13 and my dad was abused as a child and starved and he also went to war for 2 years and he was in combat so he has very severe PTSD he doesn't know how to control his anger and he lashes out almost everyday. And what I mean by that is that if he doesn't get his way he'll scream at the top of his lungs, threatens to beat us, breaks things, etc. He'll punch us and hit us. He used to be an alcoholic but he got over it but he's been drinking every so often and we he does he often hurts me and my mom saying we deserve it. He smashed my brand new iPhone 7 because I didn't clean my room, and don't even feel safe in my own house, he calls us names and says we're worthless and we don't deserve this life. (He makes good money, meaning he says we don't deserve to live a privileged life) and a few year back he once brought a knife to my moms neck. I don't know what to do, it's affecting my everyday life and he's only getting worst please help

So at my school alot of people's parents work for my dad. So alot them tease me saying stuff like "Oh wow what arr you going to do about it? Have your dad fire my mom/dad". How do i stop this. And sometimes they tell their parents that i insulted them or slapped them and then the paternity tell my dad. Then my dad will smack my butt like 3 times. The only good thing about it is that all the people that insult me are unpopular so it doesnt really effect me (exceot for the spanking) but it is just really annoying. Some of my other friends said just beat them up so they actually have something to tell on but i am small and skiny and alot of them are really big. What is wierd is I go to a private school and I thought that the teachers would be strict but they aren't. What do I do?

My mom's family does not like her for understandable reasons so I'm just thought of as her kid and nothing else and therefore bad. She died last year so I'd like to get to know her family more but my dad never tells me when they send us invitations he just throws them away I've talked to him about this but he keeps doing it. He said since I worry a lot about what they think about it's not healthy for me to see them. I'm old enough to see them as I made 20 but still being controlled indirectly. Plus the alcoholic in the family died so that's not even an issue anymore.

I m 18 and my parents have recently moved into separate houses. I live mainly with my mum as we get on really well and she is home more often. On Wednesdays I go to dance which my Dad has always picked me up from. Now he is in his new house he takes me back to his house as that makes sense for him so he can see me sometime in the week. Honestly, I hate it at my dads; my parents split mainly because of his temper. I can deal with it but he easily gets on your nerves and I just don t enjoy his company. I feel bad for not wanting to spend time with him as I know he wants to spend time with me but I count the hours until I get to go home (back to mums). Someone please help! Thank you! X

He even did it once to the severely Autistic nephew who bit him in response. My uncle doesn't do it to his own kids though them he shouts at and hits. He also barks at his wife and his first marriage ended because of it. He isn't as mean to his 2nd wife but still barks at this wife also.

Hello, I'm from India and my son who has turned 22 is literally going crazy with all these modern fashion trends. When he started college, he was descent looking, well dressed, fat & chubby (top left pic). But over the 4 years he started all this nonsense styles he sees on the TV.Doing all these undercut hairstyles, thick beards, wearing thick frame no power glasses, magnet ear rings, lost so much weight.He lately didn t go to the salon for like several months & has long hair (like in the down right pic) & his beard is quiet thick.I was shocked by the way he looks. He keeps telling me he is continuing to grow out his hair and is later going to get tattoos over certain parts of his body,real ear piercings and lighter eye lenses and hair highlights.I clearly am disturbed to the thought of him doing that.The body is the temple of God & he is spoiling it with all this fashion. We are a simple Christian family, but my son now a days considers himself as agnostic. I'm not against fashion,but I feel he is going way over board. He has even started this thing he calls 'face contouring' by applying make up to his face (as in the black and white pic, but Isn't this what girls do ?) what would others think ? I feel embarrassed and like a failure. I've had my neighbours and relatives who have seen him through social media ask me what he's been up to. How do I make him understand that he is spoiling his image & is getting too carried away with the media, but he rather be himself ?

so i'm an 18 year old girl, my mom lives with my step dad! the past 2 years they've been fighting a lot mostly him because he has a black anger.. so he gets mad at almost everything, its never gotten to the point where he hits her, but about a few days ago he grabed her arm so bad he left blue marks that only went away a week after now like i said i'm only 18 i have a job but it doesn't pay much, i really want to get my mom out of this hell hole she doesn't deserve it! yes it effects me but my mom comes first! is there anyway I can somehow make extra money to help my mom move out and get our own place? i was thinking of youtube videos but its not really my thing! can anyone give me some advice? :)

Ok so before I start, I am 15 years old and a sophomore in high school and I just want to say that I know I was wrong to do these things and they were big mistakes that I will never make again. But a couple of weeks ago I got caught vaping with an e-cig because my friends gave me one to try and my parents somehow found it in my house. They were yelling at me nonstop and I felt really bad and told them I would never do it again. On top of that, to make things worse the other day I got caught plagiarizing my friends essay from last year and I was forced to tell my parents because the vice principal was going to call them anyways. So when I got home from school I told my parents and they seemed to have lost faith in me and I feel like a disappointment to the family because cause of how mad they were. To make things even worse, my current grades aren't good compared to what I normally get and my parents think that I don't talk to them enough which is true but I am extremely nervous and worried. I don't know what to do next. Can anyone please help?

I know this sounds harsh but I honestly can't stand my boyfriend's younger brother. For his college spring break he came on a ski trip with my boyfriend and I, spent an absurd amount of our money ordering room service and didn't so much as thank us. He spent the whole trip on his phone. Last year he ruined our carpet and couches by having a party and spilling vodka and tomorrow juice all over. We spoke to him about this but he didn't acknowledge us. When he's home, he lays in bed all day making a mess. He talks down to us and treats us with contempt. He's arrogwnt and thinks he's entitled to everything. Is it bad that I don't really like him?

I'm a girl

My dad has been binging for as long as I can remember but it seems like it only gets worse each time especially after my mom died a few years ago. Now he is older (52) and i'm so worried he will kill himself with this awful habit. He drinks non-stop for about one month all day and all night. When he finally stops after the month he goes through severe withdrawals he gets very sick and has the shakes and dangerously high blood pressure. There was a time I had to take him to the emergency room because I was so worried the withdrawals would kill him. He can stay sober for a few months, but always goes back to binging. My dad has a successful business that can luckily run itself, but his alcohol problem seems to be like the elephant in the room. When he is not drinking he acts like everything is perfectly fine and will deny having a problem. He will swear he won't ever drink again, but it always happens. What can I do to stop this never ending cycle? I've thought about rehab, but I'm not sure it would stop it from happening again and again even if it takes him a few months to return to his habit. I just want my dad to get better and I can't bare to lose another parent at only 21.

my sister is 20 years old and finishing college. She met this man awhile ago about 2 years ago at an art museum where he displays his works of art. He is 35. I'm 34 and married with children. He even goes to the same health club as my sister and both parties are very fit. He is 35 i remind you!!! Even though they have a lot in common, he is 35 and she is 20!!! He owns his own business and whatnot and is a virgin from what i found out. Why can't he get a woman his own age? Whats going on here? They are about to get married in 6 months. How do I stop this? She wants to move up in Alaska where he has a home there in the middle of nowhere. Hes a nice guy and all and has nerd hobbies but he is a year older than me and is about to marry my sister!!!!

For example they tell me if someone makes me nervous avoid them yet people who make me nervous are people I like. If I avoid everyone who makes me nervous then I lose everyone. People I don't like or am neutral to I don't get anxious around.

I like what their doing but it's for Women's Day as their off. My school closed so I am off also but a boy. The aunt is intoxicated but my mother is not.

My narcissistic brother lives in a different city due to college but whenever he comes home(quite often and for long periods) he loves to act like a very wise intellectual being and quotes stuff off of the internet. He makes himself look like a good emphatic person so that everyone finds him charming when in reality he is far from it. Whenever I do something e.g. cleaning he will thank me for it as if I did it exclusively for him. He smiles after that and I guess it makes him feel powerful to have said that. Whenever my friends or strangers in general come over he puts on a show. When I watch TV and comment on their behavior he scolds me and says stupid things like 'I sense that you have very bad energy' or 'You are attracting bad karma'. WTH is wrong with him. He makes me go insane! What can I do to handle the situation better and not get furious anymore - because as said he just laughs when I do so. Actually, ignoring him won't work. I don't really know but it just doesn't get to him. I have tried multiple times and he thinks that I am showing friendly behavior towards him despite not saying a thing. He then proceeds to talk with me and recites his dumb quotes or anything else some smart guy has said.

This morning she said "Now that you are older, I think it's OK for younto know about certain things. I sleep in the nude. I just wanted you to know it's OK"?

I'm crying right now I swear I can't handle this anymore, I can't live with her! I have a sister who is an idiot who I can't live with her anymore, we are twins but not identical twins and she is so crazy and stupid! While I'm working, printing out papers and doing my work she would keep throwing at me pencils and water bottles. She would fight with me for no reason everyday and the worst thing is that she hits me everyday, like just now she threw on me stuff and a chair and many things and I got really hurt, she took the key of the room with her and left. At first when all this happened I kept ignoring her, I told my parents. I did everything but they still think that it is me who starts fighting it is just because I am angry in front of them. Now I decided to hit her back if she hits me and throw things at me, I do it but if she did it too much and nothing works. Whenever I tell my mother she gets angry and now I don't tell her because I don't want her to get tired of us. But I'm just really tired of this, really tired! Every single day, I suffer because of her, she is just like a child, no worst. She is like a devil! She even says bad things about me to my friends and make me look bad in front of them. Please I don't have anyone to talk to so I need an advice from you, what should I do?

I do get anxious when the aunt tries to suck us into her anger at her daughter but she doesn't do it a lot. I feel for the daughter but don't think it is my job to cut the aunt out of the picture or her other kids. It is a situation of a mother with some narcissistic traits and a daughter with issues a sex abuse survivor has.

When one parent says no to me, I go to the other one and they usually say yes. It works out great until they start arguing. I feel partially responsible for my parents splitting up.

My Dad and I have been fighting ever since I can remember. It was always either about him throwing a hissy-fit because something wasn't clean, or I did something he hated, or my little brother did something and I got blamed for it. I'm pretty sure part of the reason I get angry quickly is because it was HIS brothers that abused me. HIS brothers. HIS relatives. HE let them live in my mom's house and she had no power to stop them. I think she felt that if she said something, he would leave her. This was 10-11 years ago. I don't blame mom. I have a much better relationship with her than I do with him. And he acts as if i'm his sister. Pushing, shoving, teasing, emotionally abusing, and acting as if I'm not worth anything. Now my brother on the other hand, is loved so much! Everyone in this family loves him so much more than me. Especially my dad. He likes my brother more because he's a boy. He's gonna be the man of the house. he's gonna be important. But me? Oh no, I should stay in the kitchen and cook. Stay at home and clean. Be insecure. Let a man take care of me. I'm sick of it. I have 5 years until I can move out. As soon as I can, I'm moving in with my friend in her apartment. My dad and I even fight about makeup. he thinks I look like a slut with a nude lip and mascara. wtf?? someone please just help me figure out what to do. Don't be an asshole.

Hi. thanks in advance for reading. My mom is 75 years old, lives out of state, which she chose to do. I live up north, and do my best to visit her every year, and I went twice last year to help after her surgery. I have a teeenage son with severe autism (non verbal). He is extremely challenging, and I don't have a lot of support here, except for respite workers a few hours a day. It's very hard for me to travel away from him for more than 3 or 4 days a year. He cannot fly, and I cannot drive with him for 24 hours, as he doesn't sleep at night, and I will be exhausted..anyway, my mom has not been feeling very well lately. It's not serious, but she worries herself sick, making it worse. I call her almost every day, send her money every week, and like I stated, visit at least once a year. I do have a sibling that lives near her, but she's a busy professional, and also does what she can.problem is, it's never enough. Every phone call is toxic..she tells me "no one cares" , No one puts her first, she feels all alone, that she's very sad and lonely, no one has time for her, etc...It makes me feel terrible!! I do my best to be supportive, but I am so exhausted from my son, and I still give her attention and show my concern, but she still tries to upset me. I have to add that she's been like this my entire life, even as a child. She has no friends, and fights with all her neighbors. I invited her her, but she refuses. I don't know what else to do. She refuses an aide She has told me on several occasions to "put my son away"...I cannot do that...She hasn't been up here to help me even once...even though she knows how difficult it is. I don't complain to her, I just support HER...since I was a little kid. It's like I'm the parent...She was a very difficult mother...did a lot of good things, but also made very poor choices, which affected our relationship

see, I live with my parents who are both strict and working and I am the eldest of 5 girls,when they are too busy I help in taking care of them ( my sister s) which I Love doing but lately I ve been feeling down. I don t want to go for classes and when I do go I come home right after classes finish and then I feel even more down?. I want to learn, my extended family are all counting on me to succeed but i feel like I am lost. what do i do?

I know my parents would never admit it but they like my older sister and younger sister much more than me (I am a boy). I'm not the jealous type, just wondering what I can do differently? We all try equally academically and are all play sports. Maybe parents like daughters more? Any suggestions please and thanks.

see, I live with my parents who are both strict and working and I am the eldest of 5 girls,when they are too busy I help in taking care of them ( my sister s) which I Love doing but lately I ve been feeling down. I don t want to go for classes and when I do go I come home right after classes finish and then I feel even more down?. I want to learn, my extended family are all counting on me to succeed but i feel like I am lost. what do i do?

I love my fiancé and his child. I treat her as if she is my own. it's just his family that upsets me. We live an hour away from his child and when school starts we agreed that getting her every weekend would be best for her and us due to her having a structured life, not having to wake up at 5am for me to drive her to school which we would both not be pleased with. It hurts my feelings because they all say I'm great to him and his child but they won't ever consider me into anything. I gave up a lot to be with him and I'm happy with my decision but they keep doing things like expect me to keep our house spotless, make dinner, take care of my now stepchild (a lot of work but I enjoy it) go to college (premed classes) but that isn't enough they want me to have a job too even though they don't know our financial situation and we are completely fine without me having a job & that would take away any of the little time I have left And now they are saying they want us to try and get week on week off custody. So I wouldn't be able to pursue my career I would just be driving her around and that would just make her dread coming over, ruin her structure, ware me and her both out. Well we know what is best for us and her and know that isn't an option for us but it just upsets me his family doesn't take me into consideration on anything it's just about what I can do for them. How do I change this? It's making me feel bitter towards them

Im 16 + obviously very unhappy @home. Although Im not being abused I cant handle it there. My parents expect me 2 do everything + I don t mean just a couple chores around the house. I mean everything. My brother has some serious issues hes15 + he has trouble understanding what s right + wrong he has ADHD and learning issues. Hes very violent 2wards me + my parents cant handle him so they don t bother controlling the issue. I m always brought in2 my parents arguments 2t. No1 talks in R family either anymore it s just constant arguing and shouting. I had to start work @ 13 because my parents would not financially support me. They bye food they all like but not for me so I have to go and bye my own food for school + home. They take my younger sister out + do things sometimes with my brother but not me. If I even ask to spend time with them it causes a argument. Its like they enjoy arguing. I started selfharming @12 nd developed a eating dosoeder as well. I was very depressed and became suicide. My parents hated me more then. Instead of helping they made me stop going counceling + would have a go @ me if they ever noticed I cut again or wasnt in a happy cheerful mood. We ve previously had CHAMS + checkpoint involved 2 do some work with the family + 2 allow me have counceling. I don t want to live in that house anymore it just brings me down +I have nobody I can move in with so want to go into care but I don t think I will be allowed..has anybody got any advice? Thanks

so me and one of my best friends have been together for about 9 months now. I have a big Catholic family, 10 siblings. I m the Second oldest. I m 16, 17 in a few months. I left my phone out yesterday without thinking and my parents know my password but only go on my phone if they think they need to. So I ve been keeping it from them and been trying to act like I m not hiding anything. My dad checked it after seeing a text from my girlfriend and shouted for me. He started shouting and asking questions. I eventually told him everything. He told my mom and they both agreed I have 24 hours to get my stuff out and find somewhere else to go. I don t really have anywhere and I don t think I can change their minds now

I know my parents would never admit it but they like my older sister and younger sister much more than me (I am a boy). I'm not the jealous type, just wondering what I can do differently? We all try equally academically and are all play sports. Maybe parents like daughters more? Any suggestions please and thanks.

I am 30 & I had came back to live w/ them to help them. Out of 4 siblings I am the nicest, caring & loving one! They take advantage of me for that! I am always accused for everything! Not once have I been told "thanks." We grew up super poor & so I started working since I was 17 to help. I recently argued w/ my mom for trying

They have always been verbally abusive toward me I have always helped them in every way I can. Recently, my mom told my boyfriend (behind my back) that I don't respect him. He told me this when we were arguing and when I saw my mom, I confronted her about this, calling her a snake (which I shouldn't have) but I was so angry at the fact that she has always talked very badly about me to people! My boyfriend is the best boyfriend I have ever had & I couldn't believe she was hating on me! She got aggressive & started hitting me! I tried walking away from her but she would follow me & continued pushing me & getting in my face & cursing at me! My dad was just telling me to shut up but I was crying wih rage at the fact that my mom always gets away with being mean! It got to the point where I cussed back at her & she hit me again so I pushed her off me & my dad punched me so hard on my back as I was walking away! I literally flew accross the living room & fell face down from the impact! He punched me right on my spine and HARD!!! That is horribly unfair bcus my mom was the one who provoked all of this! She is super nosy & likes to talk badly about her only daughter (me)! I was fed up so I decided to confront her! I have been in pain for 3 days now but the sadness is what is killing me! I am filled with anger/guilt/resentment/disappointment just all bad! My parents want me to worship them! They play the "guilt" game with me! My mom has always hated me for NO reason whatsoever!

My dad's an army veteran and drinks every single day. The only other thing he drinks is diet coke. He's too aggressive to try to talk some sense into him. Help