Family: Question: I want to kill myself bc i want to die before my dad does?

Question: I want to kill myself bc i want to die before my dad does?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 02:52 PM PST

He is the only family i have, everyone else passed away. I wouldn't be able to handle losing my dad...i want to die before that happens :(

Question: I kissed my twin sister. Do i need to seek therapy?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 02:37 PM PST

Before anything, i know that this was terribly wrong. Me and my twin sister are 14, we both look the same, and we have an older brother who is 18. Today he brought his girlfriend over and we saw them making out, so we just ran to our room because we didnt want to disturb them. we both never kissed or dated anyone. I just out of curiosity said i wonder what kissing feels like and then we were discussing with my sister, like when we saw it in a movie, or so. And i dont know how this happened, but we just kissed each other, and it felt really good. I know what lesbian is and i dont think im one, but the kiss felt really good, thats why im so scared. I feel so bad, it was my first kiss. What if my future boyfriend asks me who did i give my first kiss, and i will have to tell him that it was to my twin sister. I didnt talk to my sister about it, i have no clue how does she feel about it. But we are very similiar in almost every way so im sure she also regrets it and feels bad. Am i a lesbian? do i need to seek therapy? Thank you all, i feel a bit relieved now. Yea we only kissed because we were both very curious how it feels to be kissed or to kiss someone. I was just scared because the kiss felt good, i was afraid it means im a lesbian or something. I dont want to offend lesbians, but i was scared that i was one. Thanks you all for your kind answers <3

Question: Is it weird if my two half siblings date?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 02:31 PM PST

I have a half brother and half sister. I share the same dad as my brother and share the same mother as my sister. They have no relation other than me being their sister. I'm older but they're the same age and go to the same school and hang out a lot. They haven't brought up dating but I know they like each other. Is this weird? I know there's no blood relation I guess but Im just confused cause they're both my siblings.

Question: Why does my mum put her boyfriend before her own children?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 02:17 PM PST

My mum has been dating this man since June and since then, she has always been putting him before me and my two siblings. I'm the eldest one at 17, my sister is 11 and my brother is 8. They go on dates nearly every night and she never hires any babysitters - she always makes me babysit them because "I don't have to pay you a penny". I'm in my second year of A-Levels and I've been offered 4 out of 5 of my university options. I need really good grades to get into uni, but I can't concentrate when all my siblings do is run around the house like nobody's business. On top of that, I always have to do the cooking, the cleaning, and other chores as well such as cleaning my siblings' rooms, the bathroom, and even mowing the garden and trimming the hedges. My mum has even got me decorating the whole house this year without any help. I need help. I'm just on stress overload. I can't sleep every night because I'm that stressed. I've asked my mum several times why she puts her bf first, but she shrugs her shoulders and says "I don't know". Why does my mum put her boyfriend before her own children?

Question: I seriously hate my little sister?!?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 01:49 PM PST

I don't know what to do anymore. She's cute when she wants to be... I mean, she is six years old... but seriously, everyone thinks she's a perfect little angel, when she's just a demon in disguise. She used to be cute, but then she got extremely stupid and idiotic and nosy. My parents used to love me, but now... I don't know. They constantly tell me I have no right to get annoyed if she is being a fussy jerk, because it's their house, and I should just move out if I'm that bad at tolerating the little... never mind. I try so hard to love her and tolerate her, but she's taking advantage of it now. She knows that if she cries, she can tell on me to my parents all she wants, and the worst part? THEY BELIEVE HER. She has a terrible annoying voice, and they think it's cute; I'm a neat freak, and she is disgusting. I have to pick her up from school everyday. She never cooperates. And today, she was singing, and I already had enough today (another story) and all I said was "ugh..." Guess what? SHE TOLD ON ME, CRIED, AND NOW I HAVE NO DINNER BECAUSE MY MOM THOUGHT I WAS BULLYING HER. ITS THE EXACT OPPOSITE. I get all her punishment even when she is at fault. I hate her. Sometimes I wish she would die, because I wouldn't miss her.

Question: How do I respond to my mother when she is so hard to be around?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 01:34 PM PST

Question: My mother yells at my father if he doesn't talk loud enough. Is this unfair like I feel?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 01:10 PM PST

Question: How can I get away from my irritating father?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 12:57 PM PST

He's has had a mental disorder for as long as I've lived. He use to beat me with a belt from age 5 to 15 years old and he doesn't care about what I have to say. If I don't do what he asks then he screams at me and starts talking bad about me and my flaws. I can't believe he changed at one point but turns out he's the same and always will be. I'm now 19 and I do online college because my father is overprotective and has anxiety. He won't even let me go to the store by myself. He won't let me do anything by myself or he gets really mad to the point he starts throwing things and punching his girlfriend. I just started to get eyelid twitching from all the stress. I went to the doctor and my doctor even told him what the cause is. Stress. But he didn't listen and started fighting with his girlfriend.

Question: Annoying grandparents?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 12:56 PM PST

I have the most annoying grandparents ever! They always force me to eat and basically over feed me. When they ask if I want anything to eat and I say no they will literally keep asking me 10 times over and over again. They do it every single freaking day and I'm done with them. After every attempt they always say something rude to me like how I'm an ungrateful brat. They always think their right when really they don't have a clue what their talking about. I'm so sick and tried of them. Any advice on how to deal with them?

Question: My mother is mean to her family, how do I convince her to forgive and move on for once?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 12:51 PM PST

Question: How do I help my nephews?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 12:35 PM PST

My nephews are wonderful boys, but lately, they have both been acting out and I don't know how to help them. The younger gets upset about little things and screams and hits and talks about killing himself.. The older one is so sweet and sensitive.. He got in trouble at school for telling his friend at his new school to beat up a kid who was bullying him. Their father is blaming himself for moving them, but I worry it has to do with their mother getting in and out of a relationship with an abusive women. Emotionally and physically. It kills me knowing the ones I love are hurting and there is nothing I can do about it..

Question: I want to Go to Reno to see my Dad?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 12:25 PM PST

My dad lives there and I haven't seen him in about five years. I always talk to him on the phone every Mondays, but it doesn't stop the pain. I really want to go see him in January or February. So he is working on whether he should come here or if I should go there instead. My grandma made a suggestion on him picking my up from the airport and he flies back with me. However, my mother prefers if Dad comes with me, but I want to know what more traveling would be like. I want to spend my money to go over there, but my mom won't allow it. Not only that, but my brother has severe autism and mom doesn't trust my dad to take care of him. I always tell my mom that I can watch him, but she says it's the parents job and not mine, and she worries about me too much at times, and it suffocates me. I don't care what my mom says, I might disown her if she denies me my wish and call her by her first name for the rest of her life until she dies. I want to know what Flying is like again, because I am still learning the ropes, and it involves which line or the name tags on the suitcases and all, and which planes I go on. I mean, a father son relationship is complicated. He is like a hero to me. I would appreciate some help and advice for if I go over there. And I think it would be nice to see my aunt Danielle and Pop-pop again after all these years.

Question: My deaf brother got punched and bullied at school?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 12:20 PM PST

Hey. So my brother is 18. I'm 17. His the only deaf person in my wholeee family. We don't use sign language so his always struggling and upset about keeping up and his speech isn't very good and to make things worse, his type 1 diabetic. Also the only 1 in the fam. So lll tell you what happened exactly....--- , so the other day I saw him get bullied. I saw a video (some 1 recorded it) and apparently this guys girlfriend was helping my bro during class becuase the teacher wasnt facing him so he was falling behind and she was flirting a little (the boyfriend is in the same class) my brother is actually quite good looking so HGTB lol. Anyway so this punk comes up to him at recess and pushed him to the floor and ripped his hearing aids out and yelled 'why u been talking to my girl?!' And my brother couldn't hear so he didn't know what was going on. So he punched him in the face and tried to mimic his deaf accent. My brother covered his face and the punk ripped him up from the ground by his coller and grabbed his cheeks so my brother could read his lips and he said right in his face "if you talk to her I'll fk you up you stupid retarded deaf ****" then by brother said somthing but you can't understand it really because he was scared and almost crying, guy said shut up retard and left, my brother had a blood nose and bruise and one of his hearing aids are broken and now his having really high blood sugars for like the last 2 days... I feel so bad what do i do?

Question: Friends laugh at me for addressing adults as Sir/M'am?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 11:58 AM PST

My parents like me to address adults as sir/M'am. I'm an 18 year old girl and My friends laugh at me for it? I know it's not very common where I'm from (England) but should I stop saying it?

Question: Should I leave husband for these 4 things?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 11:44 AM PST

1. We barley get by each month. I can't even by the foods I like (fruit,veggies,meat). We eat soup and pasta which is ok for him but not for me. He always eats out and always has money for beer He bought a 2k dog. I didn't want it but he convinced me to get it. 2. I work 3 jobs. He works 1. He says its because I make less money than him. He complains about being bored. 3.Dog chewed a hole in my side of bed. He doesn't offer his side to me or fix it. I asked if we could switch sides; he said no bc the right is his side. Its been months since i started sleeping in the hole. 4.We both lease cars. It was my turn for the new lease.He convinced me to take his old car & he take the new car. I asked my grandma to use emergency fund $ she said we could have.

Question: What is the best and positive thing I can do if my siblings give me so much stress?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 11:39 AM PST

I am a Christian, 13 years old and have 2 older sisters and one younger brother. They cuss, they bully, they re very disrespectful to their parents, me and each other. I want to be positive about my life but everytime I try they always have a way to ruin it. I am to my kness Fed Up with them but I can t do anything about it because I m only 13 and I have no say so for anything. Yes I do try telling my mom and step dad but the only one that really wants to do anything about it is my step dad and he can t because he has no custody of us. And my mom dose try her best to control them but they never seem to listen. The kids just treat her and everyone else in the house like their own personal slave. I honestly don t know what to do.

Question: Should I go through with a last name change?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 11:21 AM PST

For over a year, I've been contemplating going through with a last name change. I have a very uncommon Italian last name, but the associations it has with my family, and how they've treated me throughout my life has made me want to redefine myself. I'm the family "black sheep" and have never allowed myself to follow my families wishes and advice because I know deep down, I'm my own person. I'm majoring in Russian linguistics and have decided on a new last name which more reflects the person I am/ the person I've become. Throughout my life, my family has tried to shape me into the man they wish I was. They tried very hard to try and get me to be not gay, through medications and therapy. They've always stated how learning languages wasn't going to get me far in life. Every step of the way, they've tried to shape me into the person they wish I would be, and they still do. I finally hit my breaking point, moved out, dropped out of the college program they wanted me to graduate in and found my own job to get me by. I feel strongly toward changing my last name. While it would just be a simple name change petition for personal reasons, not through marriage or "traditional" reasons, I'm trying to weigh the pros, cons and possible problems that could arise. What were your parents/ family reactions? Did it complicate your life? Looking back, do you wish you hadn't done it?

Question: What should I do about my nephews behavior?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 11:18 AM PST

When I babysit my nephew (he is 7) he will grab his sister(who is 3) and kiss her on the lips for a long period of time. He will sometimes hold her down on the floor and force her to do this. I don't like this behavior and have told him to stop and he will throw a tantrum when I tell him to stop it. Am I over reacting? How should I deal with him doing this or should I ignore it?

Question: Is it wrong for me not to want to spend xmas with my family anymore?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 11:16 AM PST

My family are very selfish and always have been. They are also jerks. Ive tried so many times to see my nieces and nephews and my brother flakes out on plans all the time because it doesnt fit in his schedule or cancels at the last minute if someone else comes up. My brother and his wife have never been to my house (not once) and I have live there for over 8 years. I have been to their place many times. My mother is also a drama queen and trouble maker. She is always talking bad about people behind their backs and trying to cause problems. She also told me my gf wasnt welcome at her house for xmas because she has a child and feels it was too crowded not to mention my mother married a very abusive man years ago and forced me to be around him for many years. I am an adult now and have distanced myself from them and now feel so much better about myself and my life and have less depression and anxiety. All I get from them is stress and criticism and my mother is not happy unless my brother and I are fighting and tries to turn us against one another. This year Ive decided to work during xmas then spend time with my gfs family, My brother got mad at me and went off saying I should be there for xmas. This is coming form a family who has never supported me once but is there to criticize everything I do. Is it wrong for me to not spend xmas with them?

Question: My Mother passed away.I'am 72 yrs. old and lone survivor. Do I qualify for the $255 death benefit?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 11:07 AM PST

Question: Is getting married early a mistake?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 10:37 AM PST

i was wondering, has anyone regretted getting married early? like a girl at 21 for instance? does it mean your gunna miss out on alot of things? has anyone experienced a life as such? or seen someone go through this and regretting it?

Question: Couples Romantic Trip, Intimacy Complications?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 10:22 AM PST

I'm 25 years old and married. My husband, our best couple friends, and myself, are going to take a 2 week romantic trip spending a week in Paris and a week in Madrid. We are going together so that we can cut costs by renting 2 bedroom apartments, staying longer, cooking in, etc. This is our first big romantic trip since our honeymoon, we are away from work, etc, so we definately plan to be intimate a good bit. The problem is privacy. In France, our bedroom is a loft bedroom that is visually out of sight (a loft) but is open air to the rest of the apartment (so no sound protection). Madrid is better (a normal bedroom) but in a tiny, old building that I'm sure has pretty thin walls. I'm naturally fairly loud. I obvi will try to watch myself, and wont go breaking sound barriers, but it also isnt easy to be TOTALLY focused on not making sounds (when you are naturally loud) while also relaxing... I don't "necessarily" care if they hear (I mean, we are all married, and all obvi have sex), though it isn't ideal. But I'm not really sure what the social norms are. To what lengths do we need to go to hide it? HOW do we hide it? Never really traveled with another couple before......

Question: What do you think of my family name?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 10:17 AM PST

I have no father . I am brought by my mother in Britain and moved for America Two years ago My MOTHER FAMILY Great grand mother : Emily Katherine Jade Grande Mother : Jessica Diane Marie Mother : Kate Florence Mae Aunt 1 : Haley Lucinda Jade Aunt 2 : Vanessa Diane Rose Aunt 3 : Ivy Nicole Ann Uncle 1 : Robert James Drew Uncle 2 : Nicolas Raymond Clark me : Evangeline Kristina Louisa

Question: I have the worst father?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 10:17 AM PST

Look basically we moved to France and we ve been living here for 5years and he goes to a school to learn French and he knows nothing at all ,all he says is BONJOOOUR CEST BON but with a big accent he keeps embarrassing infront of the school and if i don t know to translate a complicated word he will expose me he will say to people I know nothing at all and I m stupid and he abuses me he says I wish you died in an accident or that I m bad at history and saying that I have no friends and I m stupid and when I say you are stupid he will slap until its red and when I talk to my mom she will say that he is your father and you should respect him I mean I hate him and he want to ruin my life just for fun..what should I do?

Question: Surprised with a trampoline.... Should we keep it? Young kids?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 10:14 AM PST

My MIL dropped off be kids Xmas gifts a few days ago. First she shows up no call at 8:15pm our kids were in bed. (Ages 2 and 4) She wakes them. Gives them a trampoline. (Better then the unwanted cat 2 months ago) I'm not thrilled about the idea think it could be fun. My husband is totally against the idea is this trampoline. I called our homeowners, well it will raise our homeowners plus they suggested we re do our whole policy and add more to it since we also above a pool. We have only owned our house 4 months. My father is having a bird!!! He has called me atleast 4 times to beat my ear about this thing. His boss's son fell off one (before nets) & broke his back. Messed himself up bad! Lost a scholarship etc etc etc! So my dad doesn't want it up. What can I do?? My kids are in love again. I already took the cat away. So now this?

Question: I'm agnostic and my parents make me go to church?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 10:07 AM PST

I'm 15 and have openly stated that I'd rather not go to church because I'm agnostic. Yesterday I was forced to go to church, even though I said I'm not going, my mother screamed at me and said I have to go. Later that day, I told her how it's wrong to force me to go and it makes me upset, she responded with something along the lines of "sometimes doing the right thing isn't easy but we still have to do it", seems she has her head so far up her *** she can't see past her own beliefs and realize I have different ones. I know she's probably upset about me "straying from the faith" cause I'm the 3rd child of hers that has, but if she thinks forcing me to go will make me believe, she's a dumbass. Does anyone know any ways I can convince her to let me stay home instead if going to mass? I had an anxiety attack there after she forced me to go and I never wanna set foot in there again.

Question: Do I let something totally silly determine where I go to college?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 10:01 AM PST

I'm a senior in high school and an all-state swimmer. I have multiple D-1 athletic scholarships, including some to some great schools I couldn't otherwise get into (I'm a good student, but these schools are even better). One of those schools is my first choice. I like the academics, the location, the coach, and the atomosphere of the swim team there. It's a great fit for me. The best fit. But when I took my on-campus visit I realized that they all shower together before and after practice, and that the showers are completely wide open (poles in the middle of the room). I don't have any sisters, have never really been nude around anyone, and my high school team had shower stalls with curtains. I know this "shouldn't" be a big deal, but it is freaking me out and making me consider other schools I have offers from. Some of them I noticed had private showers, others had open ones but the team went to great lengths for privacy. But it also feels like a silly thing to make a decision on. If the team is comfortable, its all girls, why shouldn't I be comfortable too? But I'm not comfortable, I'm really nervous. And if you do think I should go, what can I do ahead of time to get more comfortable with the idea?

Question: Is my sister being reasonable?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 09:59 AM PST

My sister keeps track in a journal of everything that she feels I've done wrong to hurt her. She doesn't tell me what I've done when I'm doing what is bothering her instead she brings it up months later when it's already passed or tells other people which makes it hard to adjust my behavior. I recently tried to resolve our issues by bringing in a neutral family member as a third party to listen and help, but she ended up hanging up before anything could be resolved and I feel like it is something that can be resolved. Currently she is ignoring me because she me to be all positive and never say anything bad and I told her that I can't be a yes man and sometimes I might have an opinion she doesn't like, but that doesn't mean I'm trying to hurt her. Is ignoring me an appropriate reaction or do I deserve it? Even though we may not get along sometimes I would never cut her out of my life, and I don't feel I've done anything major enough to deserve being ignored.

Question: My brothers are so over protective of me?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 09:58 AM PST

Before I begin I know my brothers care about me. I'm the baby of the family so my older siblings don't take me as seriously. I have two big brothers and one older sister. We are all really close except they don't stop interfering with my love life! I'm 21 and living on my own now. Last week my boyfriend arranged a romantic dinner in a cozy quaint restraint in town. Here my boyfriend and I are just enjoying our meal and a glass of wine when my brothers grab a table right next to us😑 . We lasted five minutes. My boyfriend was a trooper about it I was the one who was too mad to be in the same room as them. They don't get this protective of my older sister. How do I get them to stop being so over protective?

Question: Do I tell? What do I say? I hate being in the middle.?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 09:17 AM PST

My grandma told me that she just finished chemo for stage 3 cancer. She did not tell my dad and she didn t tell me because she was afraid I would tell my dad. She is 85. Her reason for not telling my dad is because she did not want my mom around. My mom and her fight and it stresses her out. 3 out of 5 of her children knew about this and didn t say anything to anyone else. My dad has not spoken with her in about 2 years because of a disagreement with my mom and grandma. Do I tell him? What should I say? Should I tell him in person?

Question: My stuffed animal eeyore always says "hi dayu" to me and forces me to say hi eeyore back.?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 09:01 AM PST

Question: WHAT DO i do about my girlfriend?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 08:52 AM PST

we have been together for four years and this past one year to two years there have been problems with her and i am just not happy anymore but I dont know what to do. She has gained alot of weight sits on the couch and eats junk food alot. She has gained around 35-40 pounds and she blames it on birth control but her doctor told her she needed to workout to maintain her weight and she didnt. Anytime something is hard or causes her pain, she gives up. She says she dosnt like running so she doesnt do it. She doent do any cleaning unless I ask her to, nothing will get done unless I bring it up. I am currently full time working and full time in college and it is hard to keep up with everything and she does not help and she does not work to better herself like I do. She has quit jobs so many times because people are too "mean" to her or her job makes her body hurt. The thing that bothers me is anything that is hard for her to do or causes her pain or anything she has to work for, she avoids it. She doesnt seem to care about losing weight even though she complains about it, she does nothing about it She wants to take the easy way out in everything in life or find the easiest way possible. And she doesnt see it. When I bring it up to her she says youre just trying to make me feel like crap and youre hurting my feelings, she doesnt take responsibility, shes like those people you see on tv who have weight problems or hoarding problems they see the excat same things. what do i do? AND she keeps pushing for an engagement ring and marraige and its like i want to say if you want to get married so bad you need to change because this isnt right but at the same time what good would it do

Question: My brother saw me half naked in a weird way what should I do?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 08:48 AM PST

my brother saw me in the toilet when i was a kid he always wanted me to touch his dick n suck it. but i always refuse n i tried to stop thinking about that :/ but now he always look at me in a weird way. and when i was home alone he opened the toilet s door and saw my pussy * half naked* I m too embarrassed and shy and i felt ashamed. what should i do .I m thinking about leaving the house cuz of him...

Question: I have a helicopter step mother an i m 23 years old what the hell?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 08:02 AM PST

so how the he'll do I stop her interfering I'm 22 going on 23 year old male I have a 2 year old son she's physically calling potential jobs I have been applying. she isnt telling me places have been calling me with potential offers an interviews. she's even started calling my job to ask when I'm working. this is driving me bat **** crazy. she's already ruined 2 jobs already I'm independent I used to live on my own i made my own resume i conduct my own interviews i can do everything on my own. i have just moved in with my father an his wife since I just moved into a new state just getting back on my feet an she won't leave me alone. I understand she's trying to help but there is a big difference on helping me an trying to do everything for me. I'm pretty sure she's trying to ruin everything for me as she's had a huge grudge against me for years. I'm getting to the point the stress is making me want to pack my **** an physically live on the street where she can't bother me. she tries being all in my sons business when he's visiting. won't leave him alone either she's trying to know every detail about my life. even if I leave the house she has to know what where who why. I'm litrially going insane somebody help me in this crisis

Question: Where can I find a resource to help me prepare healthy meals for kids for someone who has NO clue in the kitchen?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 07:41 AM PST

Due to a sudden tragedy, I am now the sole living relative and guardian of my niece (age 5) and my nephew (age 7). I ve always been single and lived on my own. I make tv dinners for myself. All of a sudden I am now playing a mother role, and I am determined to do right by my late sister and take the best care possible of these kids. My nephew has autism, and my sister had been trying some various diets with him, but I don t have the slightest clue what she found worked and didn t work, so I have to start from the very basics. So, after a few weeks of mourning and doing fast food every night, it s time to hanker down and feed these kids right, but I don t have the slightest clue where and how to start! I don t cook at all yet. Is there a website or and app or something that can walk me through this, step by step, from the very beginning? Thanks!

Question: Opinions and advices. I just want to vent.?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 06:50 AM PST

My sister is 19 years old, and she has the kind of mouth, that make you want to just, hit her in it. The thing is, she doesn't have that mouth with no one, but family. MOST DEFINITELY, she has it with my mom. I hate to visit my mom, because of the way my sister talk to her. My sister threatens my mom, curse at her, yell at her, call her name's. I don't say nothing, because it'll only lead into an argument, then my mom will go running to her aid, which would make it two on one. My sister works and in college. And that's all she brag about. But I'm the one doing her work, causing her to get good grades. Well I play at big part of that. We just, got into our first argument, since she's been an adult. I know, I should've been the mature one, since I'm older. But, I'm not going to allow her, to talk to me any kind of way. It's gotten to the point, where I'm sick of her, tired of her and wash my hands with her. She can easily, go off on us (family), and try to bully my kids. But, she can't calmly talk to her boss and coworkers, about disrespecting her. Not even to the one female at her school, that been disrespecting her.

Question: How can I comfort my sister ?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 06:49 AM PST

My little sister is really scared of the dark. Me her and our friends live in the same house she's not really little she's 18 im 29 but she's little to me. She was staying in her friends room last week her friend was watching something on tv that scared her. She thinks she sees things in her closet she dreams about a man breaking in her room with an axe. She said she sees shadows in the corner of her room. I feel really bad for her she wants me to sleep with her. She has a night light she even leaves her tv on it doesn't really help. How can I comfort her ? Is it ok to sleep with her ?

Question: My mom calls me ugly!?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 05:14 AM PST

Im 18 years old, im sick of hearing that im not pretty from my mom, she thinks that "I USED TO BE PRETTY" before 17yo.. And now im not bcuz my hair became thin and my face has few pimples, she always claim that my appearance has changed and i became ugly and too skinny but i dont know what happened its just me .. And sometimes it hurts, i act like i dont give a damn but seriously i do..

Question: How do I get my Mom to count her in-laws as family? It effects me when she does not?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 04:02 AM PST

She is not real close to her in-laws but they are my extended family and I am close to them. Long story but they did nothing wrong but one or two of them at a few points might have been critical of a mistake my Mom made (especially before she was an in-law). So my Mom treats her family with great loyalty and great respect. Even when her family messes up like her brother who is an alcoholic or a niece that has drug issues, she always forgives them. Yet, if someone on my Dad's side of the family messes up it takes my Mom years to forgive. Worst of all every holiday we only see my Mom's family though as a young adult I've started making the rounds on my Dad's side. She never has done a holiday with my Dad's side other then one year when my grandfather was dying (and even there she refused to do Christmas with them but did Thanksgiving). Lastly, when my Mom's grandmother was alive we saw her once a week on average but when my Dad's grandmothers were alive we saw them once or twice a year. One of my Dad's grandmothers was just as social and outgoing as my Mom's if not more. My Mom got mad when my Dad had his grandmother over. So how do I get my mother to count in-laws as equals? She treats them more like acquaintances. She didn't even go with us to the funeral when my Dad's out of town grandmother died in 2004. It would make things so much less anxious if my mother could do this one day though I know she has feelings also.

Question: My Dad is an alcoholic and I worry people will be mad at me if I don't contain him, what do I do?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 03:49 AM PST

Yesterday we went to a funeral and he was drunk and I am worried people think poorly of me for bringing him. He was okay during the service but somehow found Vodka at the reception (it was not served there) and was drunk as a skunk. I go to Al Anon and find additional advise on here.

Question: Is my father normal or does he have issues?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 03:45 AM PST

I know he loved me. He spends thousands of money on my brothers and I for our development but here are things which make me consider his character. = He loves attention. He recently threw himself a 60th birthday and once put an article about me and my achievments in the paper without telling me. He spoke about his dissapointment towards my family when we did not throw him a 50th party. = He has anger issues. He has hit me in the past and he even hit my mother a few times. = He keeps secrets away from us. For instance, I found out not too long ago that he used to smoke. He never mentioned this to my brothers or I and we are in our twenties. He also always tells us not to smoke. = He has used my brothers and my Facebook in the past. When we forget to log off, he uses it to read as much info as he can. Despite us telling him we are unhappy about this. He also researches us often on Google to see if there is anything we are doing. = He will read our personal info if he gets a chance to. If he finds my diary he will probably read it even if I tell him not to. = He is still unhappy about my cousins wedding last year. My aunt told him me must speak but in the end they did not let him speak. He is still unhappy about that today.

Question: Apparently,1 in 5 people this world is Chinese?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 03:45 AM PST

And there are 5 people in my family, so it must be one of them. It's either my mum or my dad. Or my older brother Colin. Or my younger brother Ho-Chan-Chu. But I think it's Colin.

Question: After mom s death can t save my siblings.?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 03:06 AM PST

We are 3 brothers and a sister, she is 8. I m oldest of all, 18 years old. I m Studying and do not earn. Our family lived In a rented house in X city. My mother died a year ago. There was no one in home to take care of us later. So We, with my father shifted to city Y And started living with my aunt (sister of my mom) with my father temporarily till we build our own house and father marries another woman to take care of us. We agreed on that but now he is always on phone talking silently with someone and is not much interested in us. He can bearly pay my university fee. He is not a rich man and i feel sorry for not being able to help. Now without own home, care and financial support my siblings badly disturbed. I can t figure out how to overcome the situation.

Question: What does it mean when a loved one says "Aw poor baby" in a serious way?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 02:40 AM PST

Question: I'm 17 and I wanted children of my own?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 01:45 AM PST

Hi I'm 17 and I really wanted children of my own even though a couple years ago I'm like, hell know, i don't hate them i just don't want to go near them. But now whenever i saw kids, they are like, the cutest ceature in this world and i just can't stop thinking of when will I'm gonna have my own but consider my history with things going on in my head and all, like, I'm scared, and I'm not intresting in any kind of relationship right now and i don't think even into it but I wanted children, any advice?

Question: "Aw poor baby" meaning?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 12:57 AM PST

Question: Where would be my best option to move?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 12:46 AM PST

In the city where I currently live, I ve been here for nearly nine years. I live alone, but I keep my son (2yrs old)anywhere from 2-5days per week depending on which weekend his mother and I agree on. Both my son and his mom live in the same city as I, but i am considering moving closer to where my eldest son (9yrsold) stays, which is about an hour and a half drive away from my youngest. I m undecided on where to move. Especially since I am so close to my baby boy. Am I wrong for wanting to get a home away from him, but closer to the eldest? Would it be okay to move?

Question: 13f and I saw my first mans private or stick?I saw my cousin he got back from the gym nude& it was big what is it?what did i see please help?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 12:09 AM PST

Question: Which is more important? Financial security and family, or peace of mind?

Posted: 08 Dec 2016 12:07 AM PST

My mother is a narcissist, and my older sister(my mother's golden child) has bipolar disorder. I and my younger sister has been emotionally and verbally abused for as long as we can remember. My younger sister even physically abused by my older sis. I'm 26 years old and I don't think I can take it anymore. My father is out of the country working his *** off to support my mother's luxuries, and he cannot do anything whenever I tell him what my sister and mom does to me. I want to runaway but my dad is currently paying for my Masters degree. They forced me to study abroad so I can help them migrate. Should I just tolerate them in hopes for a better future, or runaway now and forever let go of the stress they are giving me? If I run away, I cannot finance my masters anymore, but I can find a decent paying job in my home country. Which is more important? Btw, my younger sister wants to come with me if I run away because she, too, cannot take the abuse anymore.

Question: What does it mean when loved ones say "pooor baby" ?

Posted: 07 Dec 2016 11:54 PM PST

Like when you are sick

Question: Why don't hypocrites ever correct their behavior?

Posted: 07 Dec 2016 11:42 PM PST

My sister is the biggest hypocrite and gets defensive and yells when I call her out on her hypocritical ways. She'll tell my other sister to shut up when she sings but whenever the hypocrite sister sings and we ask her to politely stop she gets all annoying and keeps singing anyway.

Question: Parents don't trust me?

Posted: 07 Dec 2016 11:38 PM PST

Hello, I'm 18 years old and my parents have a trip to Mexico planned. The tickets have been bought already, bought I have a part-time job I don't want to lose (College student) and was only given a week maximum, even though the trip was for 2.5 weeks. My parents don't trust me to stay home for 2 weeks. I'm aware that it's their house so it's their rules, but I also have y own obligations. Plus, I feel like this would be a good challenge for me to learn how to live on my own since I will be moving out next fall. Any advice?

Question: What does it mean when someone says "pooor baby" ?

Posted: 07 Dec 2016 11:38 PM PST

Like when someone's sick

Question: Why am I being so outcasted now?

Posted: 07 Dec 2016 11:10 PM PST

Been with my bf for about 6 years. All his siblings are now parents and soon to be parents. His siblings and the sister in law and my bf have a group chat going on for a long time now and I never get invited. Should I say something? I feel like I am even more outcasted now.

Question: What can you stuff a man's stocking with?

Posted: 07 Dec 2016 10:12 PM PST

He is 18, about to be 19, very mature and dates my cousin. We always do a stocking thing in my family so I am not sure what I should buy for him beings I am not close to him, but the rules are the rules so please help.

Question: What does it mean when someone says "pooor baby" ?

Posted: 07 Dec 2016 10:01 PM PST

When I got out of surgery that's all p ole kept telling me,

Question: What do you do when you hate your step-mom?

Posted: 07 Dec 2016 10:50 AM PST

My step-mom is the most annoying person I've ever meet. She never talks to you always at you. When I was 9 and slept with my 15 year old brother, she forced me to stop because she thought my brother was sexually harassing me in my sleep. What the ****. And a while ago her son lost his razor and said someone took it. (Why would anyone want his razor) and my step-mom thought that instead of him loosing it, I probably stole it because I have a crush on him. First of all he's my brother. Second he's fugly. And she read my sisters diary and a bunch of her letters. Also once I didn't eat nasty ice cream, so now she thinks I'm anotexic. Plus my dad doesn't even like hey.

Question: At my baby shower, my mother ridiculed my baby, should my child even be involved with my side of the family now?

Posted: 07 Dec 2016 10:45 AM PST

At my baby shower, my mother expressed, in front of my friend, family, and my husband's family, that my child was going to be "funny, retarded, and disgusting looking" because it was going to be mixed races. My parents had never been fond of me marrying outside of my race and are extremely racist. They calmed down after the wedding and I wanted to at least them know they were going to be grandparents. Anyways, I feel like I am too hormonal to function but if my parents are already acting this way, should I just keep my child away from them in the future?

Question: How can I deal with parents who control every part of my life and use that to manipulate me?

Posted: 07 Dec 2016 10:31 AM PST

Long story short, I come from a typical traditional, religious family. Went to a Christian school during my primary and secondary education and I'm currently 18 attending my first semester at a public university. I work to pay for all my bills but my parents control all my money, phone, and car. They use these things to manipulate my life and prevent me from doing things like going out with friends or past curfew. They monitor all my conversations, social media, check the location of my phone, make me respond to their texts, etc. I have managed to deal with all those things but now they want to use their control to send me to Bible College and it doesn't seem like I have much of a choice because they are holding hostage every aspect of my life. Does anybody have any advise or experience that can help me because I just can't live like this anymore. I've considered moving out but I would have to cut ties with my family and find somebody to temporarily support me. What other options do I have?

Question: Issue with family?

Posted: 07 Dec 2016 10:18 AM PST

i am 30 years indian women single staying in usa doing job.now as i grew up i realize that dad has a lot of love for my brother than me . they did lot of things for him and they made him doc while for me they just dream to get a degree and get married, he bought him nice flat in india about 1 crore but when i told i want to invest some money to property he just replied me that all depends on your husband when u get marry.my brother after he got engage, he just changed, but i was really sick last year and went for treatment in india as a doc he come with to hospital and then he told me he is now tired from mehe left me and my mom in a sick condition and went with his fiancée . now my elder sister she is here, but when i was really sick she just took me home and everyday she was shouting on me , she was not even ready to take me to doc. i didnt have choice to stay there, and she jut shouted on me coz i was not able to household work in her house.all this time the only person that was supporting me was my mom i am thankful to god that he jut gave me world's bet momi would not have been alive without her. m now my brother's marriage my sister wants to come with her just coz she has 2 small kids and nobody is with her to take care in plane. and my brother wants some stuff to buy for him from.i just want to know if i am really being selfish here by saying them no for both the things. my sister just left me in a house whole night where nobody was there and i was shivering .