I'm trying to be more respectful to my dad. I always argue with my dad. Especially when I was in middle school and highschool. It was a fallout. I'm older now in college and I'm hard working. I can see that my dad is more passive and he is trying. We have a better relationship, but It's just little things I get mad about and once I'm mad I escalate things. I wanna be more respectful towards him but it's like I'm holding so much anger. Sometimes I do keep quiet but it just builds up. So I just wanted advice on how to control outburst. Something more than count to ten would be preferable please thank you. :)

I spent yesterday and today with my family, since it's Christmas and it's been mostly great times. Tonight I asked my sister to make a mobile hotspot on her phone since her plan includes unlimited internet and my internet is running low. My mom said that it's getting late and forbade her to do so. My sister then procedeed to watch youtube videos on her phone and my mom said nothing. I got angry and left the room without a word. Mom later came to my room, believing that I got angry that she didn't want us on the internet and started calling me ungrateful (I did get some very nice Christmas presents) and telling me that I am ruining Christmas with my attitude. I tried explaining what actually made me upset but she started yelling that she doesn't care about what upset me, and that I should listen to what upset her. Now I am just angry about how she blew things out of proportion but I also feel guilty because maybe I AM ungrateful. What do you think?

My brother such an as shole and I honestly want to kill him. We're adults and he still treats me like a kid. He never misses an opportunity to make me look and feel bad and he doesn't care about anything except himself. He's a sociopathic D I C K and I know he'd throw me under the bus to save his own ***. He gets me so angry I feel like just beating the hell out for him. I think the world would be a better place without him. Is it normal to feel this way about your own family?

whenever I get him mad, he goes completely insane and he yells so much and he tries to beat me up.

To begin with, I'm a nursing student. I've been talking to the same guy for about 1 year and met his family a few months ago. His mom happens to be a retired nurse and is currently a college teacher ! For some reason everytime I go over she asks how work is going and what I do at work. I reply with the same sentence each time she asks. For some reason everytime I walk into the same room as hers she changes the subject and starts talking about Medical stuff right away. And asks me unnecessary questions. .. Kinda like a pop quiz LOL for example yesterday i was walking towards the bathroom and she was like "hey! Lets ask toni what the kidney does!" infront of her family. So i kindly answered what the kidney does. And another time she asked me like 10 other medical related questions. And of course i answered. But its so annoying, as if she thinks I'm stupid or something and is trying to embarrass me infront of the rest of the family. I didn't mind the questions at first but now its getting irritating. Sometimes i feel like the spotlight is always on me when I'm around. Which i dislike. I obviously have enough stress with Nursing school, sometimes i just want ONE day without having to think about school. Honestly I feel like cutting things off w this man because of his mom. She seriously annoys the hell out of me. And once I'm done with nursing school I hope she stops giving me "pop quizzes" LOL what would you do in this situation?

She put her hands in my panties. ( I woke up almost instantly cause I'm a light sleeper) she started to play around down there and started whispering things in my ear. I faked like I was sleeping because I didn't want to embarrass her. She then took my panties off and kept them. I try to keep away from her!! Is this normal and is she just curious or just a perv? (I plan on talking to her about it)

I live with my bended family meaning I have a stepmom, stepsister , and stepbrothers. And obviously my dad and sister. We have been living togeheor for 3 years now and I still don't feel home. I miss my mom who passed away and I don't like this change. It's hard for me to get along with them. My dad and sister get along perfectly with them , but I just sit in my room alone. Because I just can't deal with them, they just don't follow the same ethics or standards I do and it's hard for me. They are sometimes mean, shouting a lot and it's too much hate. I don't talk to my dad about it because he's happy, but I'm not happy and I feel so lost and don't like it here. What should I do? I'm feeling so confused and not home. I miss my mom and this is so hard.

This older lady has helped me with a lot, were very close friends. She's always keeping up with me and calls to talk about life or helps me with schools advice, we talk about anything and everything, the other day she called and we talked for an hour! She said she always enjoys talking to me on the phone, why? Is it good that I can get along with someone whose 3x my age? I just find it not weird but odd how she's so much older than I am, yet likes talking to a younger person

My Grandmother is on her death bed and my uncle just called my mother and asked her to come to reconcile. Recently my grandmother evicted my mother from our house in order to pay for medical bills and partially because she didn t agree with my mothers lifestyle choices. I feel nothing about this, but my girlfriend is very upset that I don t care and have no interest in reconciliation considering my grandmother did play a big part in my life. What should I do in this situation?

There's this girl on Facebook I feel so bad for. She has a boyfriend and he's of color. It made her parents angry and they threw her out. All complete bigotry. Well she can't get her cat back. Her parents told her if she even tries they'll have her arrested. She loves both. She loves her cat and her boyfriend. It's her cat. She has tons of pictures of the cat and her. Is there any loophole like getting the vet to put the cat in her name so she can get someone to get her cat so she can have him back? I know how I'd feel. I have a cat I love so much and would be devastated. The cat isn't registered in her name. She's told me she got it as a birthday present a couple years ago so it is in her moms name.

It scares me to death. I have told this family member to call or text before they come instead of banging on windows. Not sure why they do not knock on the door. Any advice?

My brother in law has full custody of his 2 daughters. The girls (ages 9 and 7) were taken away from their mother when they were a bit younger because their mom was on meth and didn t take care of the girls. My brother in law gave his parents temporary custody of the girls and they have been with their grandparents for almost a year and have paid for everything they need and medicine out of their own pocket. Neither my brother in law nor the girls mother paid for anything that the girls needed. They took the girls for Christmas and today the mother came with her father and told my parents in law that they won t be seeing the girls ever again and showed them the paper that says they have custody of them now. They got the custody paper from a county that neither her nor the father live in and the girls also live in a different county. No one lives nor is a resident of that county that granted the custody paper. The mother didn t notify the father that she was going to file for custody and he didn t get any papers that said she was doing that. So my question is, can she legally do this and get away with it? She s an unfit mother in every way possible. I personally would love to take custody of those girls.

Everyday I try to roll my r's and I don't know what I am doing wrong. My mom, dad, and sister can do it so why not me? Is it a genetic thing?

I guess it's not that bad. We didn't get into an argument or a scuffle of sorts but its just that they are new and moved in. When they first got here they were really nice but then after we didn't go to an invitation, they didn't really talk so much anymore. Now it's just hi and bye and it just hurts because we don't talk like we used to. I also see them go to the other neighbors and are friends with them instead. Should we keep trying to be good friends with them or just mind our own business and just realize that not everyone gets along with everyone and not try to force it? But it's the neighbor you know, with people that close to you you want that positive friendly interaction not the ignoring kind...

I'm 18, and my friend and I (he is also 18) went to a cigar shop and bought 2 cigars, and we smoked one driving home. We went back to my house because all of a sudden my friend was feeling sick (he said it s because he ate too many skittles before) and so I vacuumed out the car before walking into the kitchen, and my dad asked me what I have been smoking, so I m assuming he could smell smoke on me. About 8 months before this my parents found some weed on me, so they are now ALWAYS suspicious of me. So I told him the truth, we smoked a cigar, since it was the day after Christmas. I m pretty sure he s angry, but I bought it and smoked it completely legally, and it was a one time thing. I think he s going to tell my mom (she is at work and won t get home till later tonight). My older brother does the same sort of thing frequently, and he drinks a lot, he s a freshman in college, but they are never on his case. So how should I defend myself, and what should I anticipate my dad doing?

Yesterday on Christmas Day me and my hubby were at his family's house. I was talking with his brother's wife about their baby and she asked me if we've been trying We've been married for 2 years and weve been kind of trying. I told her "Yah I wanna have a baby I just keep wondering if I will know how to raise it or if we will **** it up." my MIL was close by and she said "well I can answer that for you" and I said "what?" and she said "until you learn to do things for yourself and stop being lazy and selfish, I doubt you will be a good mother". I got really mad and I dont remember what I said but she replied to me "dont speak stupid things outloud if you're not ready to hear what others have to say" and she walked away. I got mad I left and sat in the car til my hubby came and we went home. We got into a fight I Told him he should have defended me and told his mom off but he said she's sick of me saying stupid things and that I have no filter. Why do I have to filter myself? I'm married to him and I have the right to be myself. I'm really mad that he is siding with his mom. He never sides with her this is the first time he usually sides with me. I told him it was really uncalled for and really rude that she said that to me in front of his family. She belittled me. I'm so mad. How do I make him see my point of view? What should I say to her next time I see her? Should I confront her? If she doesn't apologize I don't think I will speak to her again.

So my stepfather is a bitter, abusive and drunk *** who on occasion threatens to throw me out of the house. I am 18 with no job and I am in my senior year of High-School. The reasons for him wanting me out are unknown to me other than the fact that I stand up for my mother when he abuses her and the fact that I am too big for him to physically abuse me. My mom has told me she wont let him throw me out until I go to college and that she is on my side. They both own the house, however his income is greater than my mothers. Does he have any legal right to kick me out?

I am a person who doesn't like big change. It stresses me out. Now I can deal with the mild stuff like moving to the high school or something like that. But my parents want to move out of the only house I've known. I am 15 so there's a lot happening in my life right now. I'm a new freshman, I've gained and lost friends, I'll be driving soon and more. This is a lot of change for me to deal with and I'm already overwhelmed. Then my parents throw on the fact that I might be moving to a new house. I had a panic/crying attack that night. So far I've had 2 panic attacks and been having a hard time falling asleep. I have tried multiple times to help my parents see it from my view but they won't. What's worse is my younger either is all for it. He is a very restless person so moving is fun to me. Now it's 3 against 1. They say that I'll be fine. That we aren't moving schools just houses. To me id rather move to a totally new area because our house is on a road we'd frequently drive on meaning I'd have to see people moving in. I just don't know what to do. I know that the final decision is up to them but I don't feel like they're considering moving. The reasons they're moving is because 1. They want something new and 2. They want more land. Reasons that for me wouldn't be enough.

So I accidentally found out my brother has been smoking weed every once in a while. . . I don t think he is addicted or anything if I had to guess he is probably smoking around once a month. Is it a big deal? Like is it going to have long term effects on him and should I tell my parents? Thank you for your help :)

My father died in February this year. I am 16, dad was abusive to me and mom. Mom has felt like she lost her husband emotionally almost a decade ago and after 5 or so months she was already interest in this guy who is a good friend of dad. They have been talking and it bothers me because I know her intentions. Please help me.

I don't want to teach my children how to drive. I don't want to get them driving lessons. They have no one else to teach them. I threaten my wife and tell her she is not allowed to, if she mentions it I yell at cuss at her. I do the same to my sister who mentioned teaching them. I am not spending money on getting them a learners permit/license/car/insurance/ or a bike. Public transportation is a 4 hour walk from where we live(13 to 15 miles away) they refuse to walk on the side of the road because cars and it's too narrow. I have had them homeschooled since 6th grade, I stopped buying them the things they needed(work books) in 8th grade. They're supposed to be in 11th grade but have not been doing school for 3 years. I say they're in the wrong. Who do you think is in the wrong? I never celebrate their birthday's either. I punch my wife and sister every time they buy them a gift

My dad irritates me constantly! Although he is a really nice guy and always means well, he always comes off really strong, is always really loud and can be a hypocrite. The things he does that makes me angry are really little which is why it makes me feel so guilty when i get snappy but I really just can't help it. For example: my friend has acne and as he was leaving my house my dad said "you gonna get that checked?" while he's just staring at my friends forehead. He's a doctor so it makes sense that he does that but STILL! Or sometimes i'll say i'm gonna play video games and he decides at that moment he wants to play video games as well which makes me SO ANGRY! I know all this sounds really stupid and it's probably just the hormones but I really want my anger to just stop. It has gotten to the point where everytime he tries to hug me I refuse and he gets upset. Any advice?

He's been saying that for 7+ years. He's one of those people who just can't wrap his head around it. He gives my husband of 5yrs the silent treatment/cold shoulder, meanwhile he embraces my sisters' deadbeat boyfriends. I told him that if he were not honest with himself or at least treated my husband with respect, that he'd become a smaller part of my life. He apparently doesn't understand that either, seeing that I haven't talked to him in over 2yrs because of it, despite him reaching out to me pretending everything is A-OK.

I'm 21, just graduated from my local state college and earned my AA degree. My parents have been annoying me for years to move out, and I told them I would leave as soon as I earned my Associate's degree... The time has come for me to move, I have different places in mind, but I'd really like to stay in-state for a few years. I work Part-time, I have my own car, pay my own car insurance and phone bill, have more than enough money saved for an emergency, but I don't know where to start exactly. I live in Florida and I'd like to move far from my hometown but stay in-state. My job also offers position transfers throughout the country, but I plan on looking for a different job soon. I do not wish to work Part-time any longer... I will work Full-time with my current company or elsewhere in the workforce. I do plan on continuing my education for my Bachelor's degree, but I would like to focus more on actually moving first. I also plan on moving out on my own(no friends, family, partners, etc.) and finding a roommate to live with. Any tips or suggestions on what to do to actually make this work?

My dad doesn't drink heavily ALL of the time, but when he does he gets so drunk it's hard to understand him, he stumbles around, and he yells and fusses a lot. He mainly screams at his girlfriend while she's whispering and crying and it scares us. How could we get him to stop? We plan on all getting a new place, and if his gf moves in I'm afraid for her and her daughter.

I mean, neighbors, strangers, anyone. I tell her we don't talk about her new stepmom this way. I am her bio mom. She calls her "stupid" and "idiot". I have started punishing her for this. Yesterday, she waited for me to leave the room after dinner with over 20+ people in my family and when I walked back in, she had interrupted Christmas dinner to talk about her "stupid stepmom" again. I don't know how much more I can take. I never bash her and I have told my ex. My ex tried to talk to her and our child turned it around on me saying she is mad at me for sharing info of her calling her names. Help?

My grandmother is a nightmare. I have encountered all kinds of people throughout life with mental problems. I have never seen anyone like her. She's 81 now. In her younger years, she somehow managed to halfway raise 3 kids - my mom and two uncles. She never provided them an actual stable place of her own to live in. She constantly shuffled her kids back and forth from place to place every year or two, forcing them to change schools. She did the most ignorant things. I've heard about how she would go and get a car from a car lot, then when it needed a common repair like maintenance or brakes, she'd go turn it in to the car lot and get another. Just purely ignorant, wasteful things like that all throughout her lifetime. I have heard my mother talk about the nightmare childhood that she had. My mother got married sometime in her late teens. We lost my father in '92 and this same grandmother came to live with us. Guess what? A lot of things have changed, but my grandmother is still mooching off from my mom after 23 or 24 years. My grandmother was in nursing school in her younger years. She quit because she claimed that they "told her that she'd probably end up with AIDS" at some kind of hospital job. I think it was sometime around that time that she must have become schizophrenic. But I'm puzzled, because her "stories" of her childhood talk about crazy things that sounds like she was schizo when she was a kid. My mom has said that my grandmother seemed fine in her young years. So that school that my grandmother ran away from and left a bill for...various places have been chasing her for probably over half of her life now. She has had bad credit since. She never owned her own home or actual place that she wasn't just "renting" for a short time. Never saved a 401K, never had a pension and wouldn't keep a job for very long. Now she's old, barely getting $750/month from Social Security and that's it. If not for my mom, my grandmother would be on the street. When my father was around, my grandmother was in fact living in her car in a plaza parking lot. She was in her 40's or 50's then. Then she got this hair-brained idea to spend 20 years after that taking a push lawnmower around in the trunk of her car "cutting grass" for a living. $20 here and $15 there. Now she's, broke and pretty much hates and envies everyone. She spent her life making up dreams of getting a house and land, and hasn't done squat. It just irks a lot of us. She sits around ranting at the tv, is most definitely schizophrenic (and has been for at least half of her life) in that she's paranoid and always looking out of the windows, making up lies about family/neighbors, etc. She thinks everybody "knows our family" and holds us to some high regard. They don't know squat. We're a typical family in a typical neighborhood. Her ability to wash a dish, cup or utensil or gone. She can't open a basic package of anything the "right" way. I'm not kidding, she can't boil an egg in a pot of water without boiling the water all over the stove because she's so anxious that she turns the fire up as high as it can go on a little pot. She could literally eff up getting a cup of water by dumping it across the floor or table. Just seemingly every little thing, she can't get it right. When you tell her something, she says "yeah..." in a blank fashion and turns right around and does the same freaking thing all over again. I don't think even the social security that she gets would be sufficient for most nursing homes to take care of her. Plus, a lot of them can be abusive. She's also "there" enough mentally (somehow...I don't how in the freak that's possible given the stuff she does) to deny a psychiatric evaluation or going into a nursing home. I don't think even a high rise would take her. She wouldn't have enough money to live on. We think she has started going out to various stores begging for money. I feel that my grandmother's situation messed up a lot for my mother now, who is 58 and just got around to starting to save for retirement. It messed up a lot for my whole family, actually. She was trying to take care of my grandmother and neglected herself too much. My grandmother is unappreciative and hateful. Even now, she grudges helping her daughter with anything. For all that my mother has done for her, my grandmother sure has done a lot of mean and hateful things against her.

I'm 16 My stepdad has been in my life for 10 years and has been married to my mom for 8 recently I've been seeing things on his phone from kik and "peoplemeet.com" he's been messaging other girls but I don't know how to tell my mom or what I should do

She gets to live in England with my Dad and relatives and I'm stuck in the U.S. with my Mom and brother. I hate it here but my Dad won't let me come. He chose my sister over me. I hate her

My sister went to college. I (a girl btw) took over her room. And my brother took control fully of our room. She's back for the holidays. And kicked me out. Now I kind of don't have a place to sleep. I slept with my parents for a night but was kicked out. My sister wouldnt let me sleep next to her. So I had slept of the coach in my living room. But I hate sleeping there. Because it really hurts my back. And I had back pain for a few days. I slept next to my brother. I told him I didn't have anywhere else to go. My parents yelled at me for saying that. So what should I do? Should I just stay up all night? PS I'm 17 and a girl if you didn't get the memo

Her dad and I share split joint custody. He just had her for the past 5 days including Christmas. On her days with him, he does not let us talk on the phone. I let her call him once and she hung on my cell phone with him for 2 hours on a school night. She wants to call him again and didn't even ask. She told me flat out "I'm calling dad later". Since we have shared custody, he sees her the same amount as me. She wants to call every night and is making this a habit. Also, when she called last time, she wanted me to go in the attic and I basically had to tell her 2 hours is enough time alone on moms phone. Am I being unreasonable since this is my cuatody, court ordered time to say no?

I've been with my fiancee for 6 years and have a teenage son from my first marriage who lives with me. My family is quite normal and decent, as are my son and myself. We are upstanding good people. For some reason, fiancee's father is always making comments that insinuate that we are low class or stupid or some such thing. My son has chosen to be a vegetarian and he is constantly saying things about how strange or unhealthy it is, when he is obese and dying of congestive heart failure from a lifetime of eating poorly. I was talking about perhaps making some biscuits from scratch for Christmas and he said, "Making them from a box isn't the same as from scratch." As if I was unaware. It is always these sorts of things, not outright calling names or anything; just low key rudeness. I feel like he is putting on airs or something, perhaps he's a bit insecure or (incorrectly) believes our family is wealthier than his and he must make up for it in rudeness. I want to say, "I get you think you're acting posh but that's not how upper crust people act, it's how a feckin bellend acts so before you embarrass yourself further you might want to know." Or something like that.

I hate it. I m 13 btw. On saturday everyone was at my aunts house. My girl cousins were there. They had perfect hair/makeup/clothes and then there was me with my tied hair and naked face. When we went back home, my mom kept saying stuff like "why cant you be like them" they are also social unlike me (im an introvert) which she makes me feel bad about. I really hate this it makes me wanna yell at her or snap and start crying. I am tearing up as i type this. Mothers must tell their kids that they are pretty and give them confidence not make them insecure like mine. Sometimes really hate her

She behaved so well yesterday we had a nice day with her and then this morning she started insulting extended family to me and insulting some groups while making excuses for others and other groups that she likes. With her mind it's your inner you're out. If you're in she will forgive your transgressions and offer more love than anyone can get if you're out she will paint your negatively to others and be a downright mean person. She loves me so I need to give her some credit for that but it makes me feel so uncomfortable when she paints extended family negatively because I get disadvantaged by it. For example she was mad that I went to see her brother yesterday and she's enemies web when her brother invited me over. I tried to keep it from her but she found out from my dad where I was and she claimed I was just barging into his house during his families time when that was not the case he had invited me. Yeutter sister's husband is a prick and a bully my mom is no problem with because she likes her sister. Her brother she's mad at because he can be a grouch sometimes where he works according to my mother's friend was the secretary there. However he is not that way with his family and I have no idea if the stuff where he works is true or not as I do not work there. So how can I get my mother in the new year to stop being such a bully about being mean towards people behind their back? How can I get her to learn with the word forgive means?

He's 1 1/2 and he loves cuddling up to everyone and giving little kisses and rubbing their arms and smiling. But he'll just come up to me and smack me or throw a little toy at me. This happens with no one else. I've never hit him other than smacking his hands whenever he touches things he shouldn't. Does he hate me? Are babies even capable of hate?

My cousin, who s 11 kept asking me to borrow my computer while I was using it to do something (I am looking at some potential colleges now that I know where we re moving to) and I told him multiple times that he can use it when he s done. He ended up crying to his dad and saying I was being a jerk and his dad said "Don t worry son. Your cousin is just useless and won t make it far in life, she thinks she s going to make it anywhere but with how stupid she is, she won t". I was hurt and I asked him to not tell my cousin lies, he laughed and said "it s no lie if it s the truth" Am I wrong for feeling offended? I told my father but he said his brother has a dark sense of humor.

I don't want to teach my children how to drive. I don't want to get them driving lessons. They have no one else to teach them. I threaten my wife and tell her she is not allowed to, if she mentions it I yell at cuss at her. I do the same to my sister who mentioned teaching them. I am not spending money on getting them a learners permit/license/car/insurance/ or a bike. Public transportation is a 4 hour walk from where we live(13 to 15 miles away) they refuse to walk on the side of the road because cars and it's too narrow. I have had them homeschooled since 6th grade, I stopped buying them the things they needed(work books) in 8th grade. They're supposed to be in 11th grade but have not been doing school for 3 years. I say they're in the wrong. Who do you think is in the wrong? I never celebrate their birthday's either. I punch my wife and sister every time they buy them a gift

I'm 17 & my aunt is 35.She's non blooed related to me. She's the mom of 3 kids. Her husband died 4 years ago after 2 year of her husband's death she started saying me that you look like my husband nd you even walk like him. Sometimes she even call me by his name. She sometimes kiss my hand well she never did that before when her husband was alive. One day i wad at her home, i wad with her and with her kids and suddenly she bring some mens underwears for me nd said that if the size is ok to you so you can keep them. After this all i started liking her. I'm the only one who wish her on her birthday. Whenever i praise her she says that you praise me like my husband. I'm in love with her nd i wanna tell her but I'm afraid if she'll tell my parents. How should I tell her??

He is also my cousins cousin.but we arnt blood related he is adopted

Now I'm feeling pretty crappy considering I grew up with this cousin and I don't know how to react. What would you do? Am I overreacting by being upset?

Our son got angry with my husband and I and we never saw or heard from joey for 13 years from his age of 22 . He surfaces and my husband and I try to get to know him again. We find thro channels that he had made the rounds with my family using inflammatory language against us .We invite him and his new family to our home and discover a very dysfunctional family. As he is verbally abusive toward his step son who was 12, I ask his wife if she is purposely allowing joey to abuse her son . She knods in shock with a yes as joey would throw her out . She admits being with joey is merely for survival. .Joey leaves with his family and moves 2,000 miles away. Eight years pass and suddenly he corresponds. His emails are revealing a bully with family and church members. I am beginning to realize that we are not permitted to have any association with his family. He keeps me at bay with mere emails and he calls from time to time;.HE refers to his step children as OUR grandchildren but we wouldn't know them if they passed us on the street and he never allows us to speak to them,. I am finding myself as his penpal and watching carefully what I write. Thanksgiving rolled around and all was silent. No email greeting,no phone call of appreciation for all we had done. My husband and I felt we had done all we could to try to be close to him and told him to go his way. what would you have done.?

My grandma phones me very day sometimes twice a day and even the odd time 3 times a day! I love my grandma very much but this is just too much, I have tried texting her instead but she calls instead, I have tried not answering and saying I'm busy and I will give her a call tomorrow, but I cant do that every day...... I know I should put some healthy boundaries in to place but I know she will take it the wrong way , and end up not talking to me or being really upset, none of which I want to do, But its starting to really get me down, I suffer with anxiety she knows this, she also knows that he shouldn't be phoning this often as she will sometimes say sorry to bother you again !! Do you think I should just tell her and maybe tell the truth and say that sometimes with my anxiety I don't want to talk every day? Is there any other ways I can stop her? I am 35 years old have a teenage son and I know she loves me but treats me like a baby and sometimes criticises me on the way I bring up my son and what I should be doing around the house and stuff like that, Even when I was working she would call me after, please anyone any advice , has anybody been in a similar situation? Thanks :) By the way I see her every week , see her every other sunday, make the effort to visit her So its not like don't see her at all She had a voluntary job that didn't stop her calling, she knits and has friends so its not like she has nothing to do herself I do appreciate my nan and I don't take her for granted , Like someone below said I will miss her calls when she passes, but I still don't think calling multiple times a day is appropriate , I have a life and I should not have to account to her where I am and what I am doing, So yes when shes gone i will miss her but I wont miss the phone calls every day , its draining !!

My mother wants to be in my life but I have not been in touch with her for over a year, because of her childish narcissistic behavior. She took care of me as a child to a decent level yes but as soon as she had a boyfriend suddenly I was on the back burner and she deserved a life. This even went so far as to not show up my wedding because I didn t allow her to be the maid of honor. that s a short description. as an adult I ve kind of lowered contact but she keeps trying to get back in now that I have kids and I try to tell her that this hurt me when you did this and I feel a lack of trust. When I do she doesn t apologize just tells me to stop being childish and refuses to listen. Then tells me I m horrible and then drops me for six more months then tries to reappear. I really want her to either try to mend fences and show some respect or just not contact me. but she won t do either. 😒

I'm a 17 year old guy. As a matter of fact just last week was my 17th birthday and my family had rented a beautiful suite in Atlantic City to stay over night to celebrate. After we went out for dinner, my parents decided to spend a few hours in the casino while my sister and I hung out in the room. Long story short, after a long day and parents weren't around, I decided to take a bath in the really cool, jacuzzi style spa bath tub in the room. My sister also needed a bath, but after I was already in, my 20 year old sister walked into the bathroom. Seeing I had already made the bath and that there was plenty of room, she asked if I would mind if she joined me. I was a bit surprised with the request but I wasn't weirded out. We have had a very open and respectful relationship over the years and have seen each other naked plenty of times. Nudity is no big deal in our house. I said sure and she casually removed her clothes and entered the bath. I couldn't help but look at her as she came in, simply because I hadn't seen her completely nude, up this close in a few years and it was certainly a much different body than I had remembered. However, I remained mature and certainly wasn't aroused, just surprised with the event. Anyway after maybe 20 minutes we got out, rinsed off and changed. Everything went back to normal since then. Is this ok that we did this together? I feel ok, just want some outside input because society is weird about this stuff.

When I was a kid, I used to beat my brother and sister. Also, my cousins and kids at school. But it wasn't hurting them or anything. I was just playing.

is it ok to send messages always explaining what I want?

Its always the most trivial problems. Like today, my younger brother logged himself out of his PS3 account and forgot his own password and couldnt retrieve it. He told my parents, and they asked me if I could do something and I suggested to simply contact the support team and ask them if they could somehow help. I ended up falling asleep after that because I was up until 5am working on school things. I woke up at 5:30pm to my brother screaming at me through my door, and as soon as I opened it my parents chose to join in at yelling at me because the support center number in our area is out of order at 6pm. They said I was lazy and egoistical and that I had a terrible personality because I didn t wake up and call sooner. I tried to explain to them that if they thought that this matter was THAT urgent, and saw that I wasn t available to solve the matter for them, why couldnt they have just done it themselves? After I said that, they called me disrespectful because how DARE I ask them to do something when they asked me to do it first, and said that I never do anything for them. Everything I do is for them. They said they wanted me to become a doctor, so I work my a** off every day and based all of my subject choices on that career path. I do everything for them, I m basing my whole life on their wants over mine, and I m still the selfish one. They would never yell at my brother the way they do at me, and I m always the bad one. It makes me want to just drop dead, help?

We we're always close, but I ran into some hard times. No drugs, drama or crime. Just made a bad business decision that left me without much. I even slept in my car for a while. I never asked for help and wouldn't have accepted it if offered. For 20 years we always called each other on holidays and birthdays. But, since my downturn, I sensed a distance in her voice, like she is just humoring me, like I was a loser.. She stopped calling and will wait 2-3 days to return my call on holidays sounding annoyed. So, this year I took the hint and didn't call. We didn't speak on Thanksgiving or Christmas. She always used to call if I didn't. Her family is well to do and always made a point of looking down on others less successful, so I think this coupled with my bad times may have turned her. Part of me wants to call and air it out so as not lose my sister. But she is not the kind to appreciate that sort of direct talk. I should respect her feelings and if she feels that way, she probably wasn't really a true sister anyway. What should I do? Just let it be?

I've been playing basketball for ten years or so, have always been affiliated with a certain club (how it works in Europe). The last few years I'm getting increasingly dedicated hence I realise your play/commitment at 18-21 sort of determine what level you'd likely plateau at (not that I'll ever be professional but considering personal satisfaction). A year ago I had a severe injury, resulting in ten difficult months, but thankfully I completely recovered. This season I still received some opportunities at the club. However, my mother (father out of the picture), got into bad relations with certain staff members. This all followed into a "you either have to stop playing for that club, or go your own way but then also live on your own.". The league doesn't allow mid season transfers, so now I'm being forced to quit basketball this year. (btw. I often get threatened to be kicked out of the house, which would make it more difficult to attain my economics degree, but that's another bothersomepart of my story.) When bad things happen I can usually attribute it to 'bad luck' or 'consequence of a mistake made earlier'. I just can't cope how someone else can do this to me, let alone my own mother who knows how much it all means to me. She's very impulsive, constantly making awful decisions because of emotional mood swings. How can I explain her that whatever issues she mentally has, must not affect her rationality, because such decisions often have long term consequences? @Patterson: You might have misread the details, no clue from where you get the 'head injury' thing. Not that it necessarily matters, but it was a ruptured achilles tendon.

I'm turining 17 in a month. My parents got divorced when my mum fell pregnant with me and I have to go to my dads every Saturday. My dad preferres if I go on Friday and sleep over and spend the whole day on Saturday as well. If I try and tell him that I only have to go on Saturdays he makes me feel super guilty for not spending enough time with that side of the family (he found a new wife and has 2 more kids). He also is a major dick head to me most of the time iam with him as well. Iam pretty much not allowed to do anything except watch him varnish his cabinet collection and help him with the gardening or building. I'm sick of it. Just sick of it. I know two days isnt much but when you have school, 1 day of your weekend is too precious to be wasted. I feel super depressed when Friday comes as oppose to my classmates who cannot wait till Friday. I don't know what to do anymore.

Ok. So my mom just told me she's getting remarried yesterday( On Christmas I know) and im really upset. It's not that I dont like the guy it's just i dont want someone replacing my father. I don't want a stepdad. My dad is divorced and I decided that for now on I'm going to live with him because I can't be in the same house with them anymore. I just cant handle it. It's devastating. He's also moving in next month which makes it even worse. I know it's gonna be hard since Ive lived with my mom for the past 16 years. (I'm 16 btw) but I don't even want to live there anymore. I just don't know what to do..😕

He is an alcoholic but my grandparents of offered to go with me so it's not like I'd be alone and I am 16 so I'm not a little kid as I can see how it might be scary to a five-year-old but I'm 16. He gets quiet and kind of grouchy when drunk a few times I saw him up until age 9 he's never violent though. My mother cut some down even 11 years after the divorce nonstop in fact part of Christmas was spent putting them down.

They threw rocks at me when I arrived for Christmas yesterday so my mom played with me we stayed safe under the house she's the only one that wants to keep me safe the rest are trying to turn on me what do we do they're out to get us I am only 13

I'm 22.