I want to talk to my girlfriend about the fantasies I have but I don't want to weird her out how can I do this

My husband left me for his mistress a year ago. Our divorce was just finalized and all he keeps doing now is flaunting him mistress in my face. I don't care anymore?? Why does the two of them have to do that. She doesn't need to be at pick ups for our children?? I gave him his divorce that he wanted when he walked out why flaunt it in my face when I don't care????

When I heard the results, I started to question does my husband truly care about what happens to me, he is not affectionate towards me, nor am I to him. I was saying I would trade everything I have to be with someone that cares and puts it out. I asked him if he cares and he says he wouldn't try to appease me if he did not. He gets me everything I want, I feel as if I'm lacking affection it makes me feel uncomfortable at times.

I have been married for 6 years now and my husband and I are still madly in love, is it normal?

Why don't they just sit down and discuss their problems with their spouse like civilised people... This is the most cowardish, disgusting and immoral thing to do I've just discovered something that completely shocked me and disgusted me and I had to share with someone.. I am a 22 y.old girl who has never been in a relationship in her life. For all my life I've been facing self esteem issues.. So I decided to create an account on some dating site.. There I met a guy.. He was 25 y.old, very handsome and generally I liked him a lot so I gave him my kik id and we've been chatting there for quite a while. From the beginning I observed sth weird about him.. In one of the pics he sent me, he forgot to take off his (wedding!!) ring. When I asked him if this is a wedding ring, he said it's his grandfather ring who recently passed away... Just because not many guys are married at 25 I believed him... We were talking about meeting but I quitted all contact when the guy started sending me nude pics and asking me to send him back nude pics (obviously he tried to take advantage of now vulnerable I was) Suddenly today on a pic at a friend's instagram account I saw the same guy at the background in her workplace so I discovered his real id from a comment as well as the fact he's married!! (Don't blame me for googling him, the kind of messages he had been sending me were really sick) What is your opinion, advice or anything? I can't tell anyone in real life so I had to share with someone

i had an affair in the past with a man i worked with for about a year and then took 3 months to break up. and we are currently friends. we still work together and talk and go to lunch together once a week. we exchanged innocent non romantic xmas presents. is it wrong that we are friends ?

i had an affair and with a man i worked with. and we are now friends. we still work together and talk and go to lunch together once a week. we exchanged innocent non romantic xmas presents. is it wrong that we are friends ?

My husband and I are married for 5yrs and have a 3yo son, we are both from Brooklyn, it's the only place I've ever lived and I absolutely love it, my husband however is a musician and had only moved back from LA before we met. He had been a few months drug free when we met, he had a very bad addict living in LA, From what he has told me and what others have said he should be dead but he says he was given a second chance and realised what that chance was when he met me. He and I have a very intense relationship, I honestly don't know what I would do without him. He now wants us to move out to LA so he can be closer to were he needs to be for recording etc, he already travels across county and Europe but the thoughts of living in LA freaks me for some reason. He says our son and I are his anchor and we keep him together but despite me not wanting to pack up and leave NY I'm afraid of him slipping back into his old ways when we are out there and he's around that old life again, I've said this to him and he said it kills him knowing I don't have faith or trust in him but I cant help it, I love him so much I'm terrified i'll lose the him I'm in love it. I know he needs to move there because his music is more than his career its his passion. Any advice guys?

And let's say at this point I have no real interest in keeping the marriage because he has proven himself time and time again that he continues to lie, hide stuff, flirt, and arrange hookups, even after I paid for months of marital counseling and tried to forgive his past indiscretions. So please don't give me any platitudes about how a revenge affair will make it that much harder to "work through" a marriage (when it obviously cannot be "worked through" if he keeps doing the same ****). Because sorry not sorry, I don't care about being the "bigger person" or carrying any moral superiority. I don't think saying "I was a foolish chump who got cheated on but always gave him my loyalty even when the jerk didn't deserve it" has any bragging rights whatsoever. That's the bragging rights of a doormat. I'd rather say that I didn't tolerate **** from an insignificant jerk and stood up for myself by moving on to a hotter nicer better person I'd be hypothetically capable of attracting "What's the point of cheating if you could get a divorce instead?" I can't have both?...a fling and then a divorce? (esp if I know it'll take a while to save up for the divorce fees + alimony I'd have to pay the cheating bastard, talk about punishing the victim here) And do you really think I'd even want a relationship right after a divorce and dealing with a cheater? Newsflash, the "hotter nicer better person" would be just a fling...

I ruined things with him. I never cheated or anything but I still did him wrong. I was with him for 2 and a half years. He has a lot of hatred and anger towards me now but everyone keeps telling me that if he was truly over me and didn't care anymore then he wouldn't still have hatred towards me.

I am beyond love in my marriage and I am to the point to acdepting whether it's gonna work or not so I'm not even upset or going to fight over it. My wife said that "it's not fair that you are happy as long as I do what you want me to do." What she means by that is that it's not fair that I am in a better mood, happier, and willing as long as she is actively trying to improve our lives. Ive asked her to be persistent in looking for a job while giving her her space (she has no job). I've asked her to consider staying home and focusing on online school while I focus on finances (she's not in school and has dropped out a few times). She procrastinates and or does things with her family and what no problem but its not fair that I ask her to call her creditors to see if we can pay a portion of the debts she's had since before we met since her score is a 540. It's not fair that I ask her to call Verizon so that I can pay her deductible to get a new phone so we can sell it (I got her a new one). Things like this is all I ask. I've never asked anthing of her that was unfair and I also asked her to do things she needs to do without me having to bring it up but it wouldn't get done for weeks and she has no excuse. Why does she feel like I'm bossing her around? Is it too much to ask of her to put in effort and help us both out. People can't guarantee results but at least she can do it try ya know? Now that she is doing simple life things it's not fair that I'm happy bc of it. Wtf

We have two medium-large sized dogs already and they are growing up now so they are more calm and have less energy and I would like a dog that I can take out on adventures. I have saved up money for this because I would want the new puppy I do decide to get to go through training so I can do things such as off-leash with him/her. I know I am ready for it and I have everything planned out. Before anyone makes any rude comments I would like to mention that we do have a large fenced in yard and I am financially stable to care for a new dog. Plus the dog would never be alone because I work from home. Our second dog came into our family to help with my anxiety and depression and I never trained her how I should have so now she is not social. She's only 2 years old but she has such a laid back personality and I can tell she dislikes long adventures that we take. (Ex. Hiking) I want a dog to complete our family and also I want to do everything right this time around. I just want a new companion that I can take out in public with no issue and I know this whole question sounds like I just want to neglect my other two dogs but that is not it. They would all get the same amount of attention and love. I would just be training my dog to be more of an outgoing and adventurous dog. My husband says the reason he thinks it is a bad idea is because "The normal house-hold only has 2 dogs" which I think is not a very great legit excuse. Also I would like to add that I don't want to get a new puppy anytime soon. I still think this needs to be planned out and money saved and of course find the right breeder but it just makes me upset that he don't even want to compromise with me and at least think of pros and cons. I understand thinks like this need to be talked about but he's pretty much saying it's his way.

We have been living with my brother and his girlfriend for about 4 years, my brother is a crazy ocd-bi polar maniac and he often (every other day) comes in mumbling ugly things under his breath- slamming doors, complaining about a "mess" (his OCD is out of control). Last night my husband and I were home and we hear him walk in and he is slamming every thing in the house and he makes me anxious and frustrated-but he reminds me of my father so I stear clear of confrontation. My husband on the other hand has had enough and this morning my brother was slamming doors again and my husband flew off the handle yelling at him-& slamming doors to show him how obnoxious it is. I told him he acted immaturely and that wasnt necessary but he said that he wasnt going to stand another moment of living in misery in his own house. Is he wrong for acting this way? I feel so caught inbetween

My parents were beyond overprotective and I paid the price by wasting my early to mid 20s staying with them. We lived in the middle of nowhere without public transportation. I wasn't allowed to drive, work or go to college and believe me dating was out of the question. I would occasionally have a friend or two drive me for part time jobs or classes but my dad would chase them with a gun and physically hold me back from walking out the door until I was 25. I didn't get far in life. I should've joined the military or something to get away from them and I'm angry at them and myself for letting it be this bad this long. I am now married and have moved out but I feel my younger years were wasted. I'm free now but I can't seem to leave the house. My husband is very worried about me. What can I do to heal from this?

Gemini man here. We used to fight a lot about small things (no cheating, no lies and such things), just stupid everyday things and I left. I needed a break. Now she is in a relationship with another Capricorn. How can I win her back? I heard from mutual friends they had some problems and she was sad. This woman is the best thing that ever happened to me.

Eve if the truth will hurt her feelings?

Before our relationship was adventurous and fun. Don't get me wrong he is a loving caring husband, but man his personality has taken on the form of a wet lettuce! He is practically glued onto his phone 24/7 and never wants to go out anymore. We just dont have that spark anymore, but I dont want to be the one that cuts off our relationship. Lately I have been purposefully moody, snapping back, not talking to him as frequent, but he just seems apathetic. I really want to get away from this marriage before I waste valuable years!

Our yard boy is 19. He cuts grass in summer, shovels & uses snowblower in winter etc. He started at 18 nearly 2 years ago. He's a tall young man & very handsome. I say boy since he is a teen even if he is legal age here in Canada which is 16 for consent. I actually cheated on my husband last weekend with this young man. It is my fault not the young man. The problem I hate worst to admit is I have trouble getting orgasms with my husband but had two with this young man. I was so turned on sexually but it was wrong. I will never do it again. My husband probably can't find out. Should I tell my husband & be ready to risk losing him or say nothing & never cheat again? Only time ever cheated & really won't again but I feel terrible over it. I love my husband more than anything so I messed up. The young man has always noticed me but I invited him in & then I felt his crotch so he took his jeans off from there thus; I started it. BTW, I was a virgin when we married so now it is two males have had sex with but I feel like a bad person. Maybe I am now a bad person. What do I do. Thanks & please at least pray for me & my husband. Should I tell my minister? I am so embarrassed.

I'm shocking. I always nice to be my friends but They talk **** to me because of my girlfriend

So my husband had been sleeping with prositutes and random women. I have all the evidence in the world. He's also a foreigner and it could be a scam. Tonight I hung out with a ex and we messed around. I feel horrible! I know it's messy but damn. Feel like I cheated on my "husband" who has been doing this for a while behind my back.

I've have been married for 4 years and only recently have I discovered that my wife had a ' Handfasting Commitment Ceremony' with her previous partner. My wife is a Pagan and her previous relationship was meant so much to her that she 'binded' herself to him, Granted it was not a legal marriage and they vowed " as long as love shall last ", instead of rings they exchanged necklaces, They obviously parted ways, We met and married officially/legally. When she mentioned this to me the other day I was taken aback, four years and never once did she mention it to me and her ex, who is an acquaintance of mine, I've noticed still wears that necklace she gave him. I am aware people will tell me to grow up and that she had a life before me, I am aware of that but this hurts me that not once has she nor anyone else told me this! She keeps telling me its not a big deal and is annoyed that I wont let it go but I think its a pretty big secret to keep from me, Would this bother anyone else?

why is it that when a woman gets married she takes her husbands last name, why is it never the other way around. I know some people who didn't take her husband's last name and it was all a choice she made. Practically everyone I know took their husbands last name when they got married and I've always wondered why they did that and when it all started. Is there a law that says the wife has to take the husbands last name and not the other way around. Is this all a choice for someone getting married or is this something you just have to automatically do. how exactly do you change your last name and what ends up happening if you get a divorce, do you go back to your maiden name or do you keep the husbands. I'm not married, I just gots to know how this all works out!!

She's married with 3 kids but she insists on not making it a big deal and that we should get intimate in bed etc. Im single so i really dont care about her husband and / or kids since she wants it as much as i do. And she got the mommy type of body that i adore. So why should a man refrain from fornicating with a married woman ? Bonus question: why would a married woman with kids choose to have a sexual relation with another man .