My bf invited me to his brother's wedding, as a +1 (I didn't get a separate invitation). My bf and I been together almost 5 months. I haven't met his brother or any of his family yet, so this wedding will be the 1st time I'm meeting his family. I've never been to a wedding before so not sure of the etiquette. I asked him if I should bring anything and he said no. But is it bad to go to a wedding empty handed, especially if it's the first time I'm meeting his family? Should I bring a gift, if so, like what, and what price range?

Long story short I was engaged to man whose drinking got out of hand and he became very scary. Driving drunk, acting irrational and I felt that if I didn't leave he would eventually lay a hand on me as he had come close many times. I also have a child to think about and very recently lost a child in pregnancy. We had agreed to split the cost of the wedding since we made roughly the same amount of money. I paid the deposit on the venue since he didnt have it at the time. He agreed to pay for other things to make up the difference. He never did. I always had to fork over the funds. Red flag I know. He always had an excuse why he couldnt pay but promised to get me money. After a night heavy drinking night and him driving drunk to my house and scaring me and my child I called off the wedding and gave him his ring back. He tried many times to get back together and one of those times left the ring on my counter. I assume thinking I would just put it back on. Well that never happened and never will. Now I am out all the money for the deposit to the venue, still will have to pay a cancellation fee and I am out all the money for the wedding supplies/decor that he promised to pay half off. He continues to text me, sometimes saying keep the ring and sell it for the money I am out and other times asking for it back. What do I do? Can I sell the ring and recoup some of my money since he refuses to give me any money for the half of the expenses I paid out of pocket for?

My fiance and I our having a very small 50 guests wedding next year. We live in California and I will have family from Washington and Mexico coming to our wedding. My cousin wants to take advantage of our family being in town and I think that's a great idea but the problem is that she wants to have her baby's baptism at our wedding. I don't have any problem at all with it being the day before or after or anytime I'd actually love it just not on our wedding day. My fiance and I are paying for our wedding alone. I don't want to hurt her feelings at all and want to tell her but don't know how to even go around the topic. How would you go about touching the delicate subject? What do you think about the situation and do you think it's selfish of me to want my fiance and my wedding to be just that our wedding?