Friends: Question: My dad always tells his friend about me and my life? |
- Question: My dad always tells his friend about me and my life?
- Question: Why are my parents lying to me about talking behind my back?
- Question: Why would my friend (not best friend, but just a friend) would ask me what size pants I wear?
- Question: Why are people so mean to other people?
- Question: Will she be fired?
- Question: My best friend dumped me. What the hell?
- Question: Fun things to do with friends age 14?
- Question: Was what our boss told us correct?
- Question: How to make friends in a new school?
- Question: How to politely tell a co worker I don t want to be setup on a date?
- Question: Is it good or bad to acknowledge spirits? ?
- Question: When people don't even acknowledge you?
- Question: Me and a girl I thought was one of my really close friends, I even thought of her as one of my best friends are no longer friends.?
- Question: My good friend did not acknowledge my birthday. Should I ask her why?
- Question: I feel like my friends don't acknowledge me...?
- Question: Is it rude to not acknowledge an invitation?
- Question: What should I do with this essay I wrote about how much of an asshole my friend was?
- Question: Why can't I get over someone I use to be friends with?
- Question: So are we bestfriends on snapchat or not?
- Question: How do I rebuild my social life?
- Question: Why can't they understand we can't live anymore...?
- Question: Whats a nopper chicken?
- Question: What does it mean when someone says you don't look smart?
- Question: What should I do if my mom is gay?
- Question: My "best friend" chose a guy over me?
- Question: My friend is salty at me for showing my significant other my boobs but not her. Am I weird for not wanting to show her?
- Question: Would u use thank you instead of thanks when saying it to a friend or no? Please help???!!!!!?
- Question: Possible Boyfriend?
- Question: Do you think it is necessary to say 'sorry' and 'thank you' to your friends?
- Question: Should i go out with best friend that is also my brothers best friend?
- Question: PLEASE HELP ME PLS?!!!?
- Question: Do you know anyone who didn't have any friends for about 7 years then starts making friends again?
- Question: I dont know how to say thanks when i get a ride from my friend parents?
- Question: How are me and my best friend so much alike?
- Question: The hoppings- danger night?
- Question: Should I do something nice for her?
- Question: Is my mom ok looking.she feels plain?
- Question: Am I being paranoid?
- Question: How do I tell one of my closest friends that I can no longer hang out with her because she drinks too much?
- Question: Hard to make friends..?
- Question: If you haven't spoken to friends for quite some time... Does this mean you've grown apart?
- Question: Snapchat help??
- Question: Why do I shut people out of my life?
- Question: What are good combacks for being told to shut up?
- Question: Good comeback to "shut up?"?
- Question: My friends abandonned me when I needed them most?
- Question: What should i do to get my friend to like me again?
- Question: I want to find new friend she lives in canada?
- Question: Why do I struggle to make friends?
- Question: Do you struggle with interpersonal communication?
- Question: Social problem like talking and etc even though im socialable person and i can interact with everyone?
- Question: Why do I struggle so much to socially interact with others?
- Question: Do you think the friendship could ever be restored? Would it even be worth it?
- Question: First time smoking weed?
- Question: Female only best comments will get 10pt?
- Question: A group of people are trying to fight me?
- Question: Help ! What would you do girls in my place ?
- Question: I want to be someone else?
- Question: Is it dangerous to have a prisoner pen pal?
- Question: Do you have friends of all ages?
| Question: My dad always tells his friend about me and my life? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 05:45 PM PST Hes constantly on the phone,and every time I get mad or argue with him,or something happens in my life he blabs about it too his friend.I hate it...... |
| Question: Why are my parents lying to me about talking behind my back? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 05:29 PM PST I forgot an important project that was due tomorrow, and when I told them about it, they told me to go to my room. I sneaked out and listened to them cussing about me. I asked them why they were talking behind my back, and claimed they weren't. |
| Posted: 12 Dec 2016 05:20 PM PST So during math class, my friend asked me what size pants I wear but since I'm chubby, I got really uncomfortable responding therefore he just pivoted to a different topic instantly. But that keeped me wondering afterwards, why would he ask that? |
| Question: Why are people so mean to other people? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 05:18 PM PST So in my class, this girl gets teased everyday, and it is very annoying plus disturbing at some point. They keep on badmouthing her, but the teacher won't do anything about it. I want the principal involved to set things straight, but I'm afraid it will make things even worse and get the entire class in trouble or something like that. I know it is none of my business or anything like it's nothing that I should know about, but it's really annoying and needs to be stopped. I feel bad for her and she even sounded like me when I was in her shoes a year ago saying she should kill herself. I just feel so sorry for her. Idk what to do other than be a bystander. |
| Posted: 12 Dec 2016 05:02 PM PST Someone I know who works at a child care place was taking the kids inside with one other teacher and one kid got left outside for less then a minute they realized it right away and brought her inside. Another teacher saw and just said make sure the teacher the last one in. The boss wasn't in. I doubt they will tell the boss and the child was okay. Do you think she'll get fired? |
| Question: My best friend dumped me. What the hell? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 04:41 PM PST I got busy with work and life and other things and she dumped me because I didn't attend her daughters bday party and then told her I couldn't give her a ride somewhere because I was busy. Iv been friends with her for 8 years. I don't understand how she could do this. |
| Question: Fun things to do with friends age 14? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 04:36 PM PST Me and my friends always seem to get board at sleepovers and can't think of anything to do! So I decided to make a jar full of things to do, I have 29 but I need 50 soooooo please help! |
| Question: Was what our boss told us correct? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 04:27 PM PST I work in an office with 8 other women. We have the best boss ever. He is not only our boss, he is our good friend. If we knew how, we would nominate him for "Best boss of the year". He has a great sense of humor and it is fun to come to work each day. Some of us have turned down promotions just to stay with him. The company had a class on sexual harassment one morning that we all had to attend. They told us to ask our boss if we had any more questions. We had a staff meeting the next day and one my co workers ask our boss if in the employee break room, we talked about which guy is hung would that be sexual harassment? We all had a laugh at her question and no one laughed harder that our boss. He said "If no one was offended it is NOT sexual harassment". He also said "PLEASE DO NOT talk about sex a work". "It is my moral and legal obligation to provide you a work place free from sexual harassment" and that is what I plan to do. Was what he told us correct? |
| Question: How to make friends in a new school? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 04:12 PM PST Im in the sixth grade and I'm really anti social. In my old school it wasn't this bad. It's been a few months into the school year and it's been kinda rough with only one person to talk to. G is great but she has her own thing. I really don't want to be "that weirdo kid" with no friends. I try to talk to my parents about this but they bush it off and say "d, you can make friends just have... confidence." Well it's kinda hard to sum it up. And when I do talk to other people they try to get away from me (and no I'm hygienic NOT a brute and I know I'm not ugly either, at least I don't think) HELP ME |
| Question: How to politely tell a co worker I don t want to be setup on a date? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 04:07 PM PST I will start off by saying I try my best to separate my working life from personal life. I m a 28 gay male, and I feel that is something a don t need to share at the work place. But a female co worker I work with seems to think I need a girl friend. I have told her repeatedly no but she doesn t seem to know what that word means. What should I do without losing my temper? |
| Question: Is it good or bad to acknowledge spirits? ? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 03:49 PM PST I've seen this woman in my house and as far as I know, she doesn't mean any harm. I actually think she tries to be nice. One night I was the only one awake and I really needed to go to the bathroom. So I looked upstairs and the lights were off. Me being the scardy cat I am, darted up the stairs and ran into the bathroom. When I came out the hallway light was turned on. No one could have done it, I would have heard them from the bathroom. So I said thank you and walked back downstairs. Someone also likes to touch people in the kitchen and when I was cleaning dishes one day, I was touched. I asked them to please not do that. I was telling my friend about everything and she says it's best if you just ignore it.. But I don't know, I mean if they're nice and do nice things I think the least I can do is say thank you sometimes. I think that light thing was pretty cool because it's like I was so scared and I don't know maybe they felt that and turned it on for me.. |
| Question: When people don't even acknowledge you? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 03:48 PM PST I am in grad school, and when I started school in the fall, I really tried to make an effort to meet people in my class b/c I know that I can be shy and quiet. However, many people in my class don't even acknowledge me when they pass me in the hallway, and I'm really not sure why. I know I can be quiet, but I consider myself a friendly person (I smile, say "hi" to people). I notice that these people do talk to other people, but not to me. I sort of feel like an outsider at times. Any ideas as to why they can't even acknowledge me? Thanks. |
| Posted: 12 Dec 2016 03:46 PM PST Our friendship has been kinda off the last couple of months she's been giving me the cold shoulder and has been ignoring for a while. I've backed off and given her space because I know not to get involved or say anything if I don't feel wanted or welcomed somewhere and that's exactly what I did. But today she was really rude like I asked her what was wrong because she was off and she snapped at me and said "I just wanna get out of this class!" and I took that as my leave to go. We usually walk together but I didn't feel she wanted me around so I went ahead and walked on my own. I thought she would have been fine because she was talking and having a fun time with one of our other friends. But when I talked to someone in our mutual group of friends she's friends with she told me "She feels that you're ignoring her too" and all this bs that I found really dumb. I text her after apologizing saying "I don't wanna lose our friendship because you're one of my best friends" and I apologized for making her feel ignored or I was neglecting our friendship. I said other things too about how I felt about the situation and she texted me " I don't know why you felt like we were close. I don't mean to sound bitchy I was just saying." That really hurt because I thought we both felt the same about our friendship. Then she has the audacity to tell our mutual friend " I don't understand why she's getting butt hurt we were never good friends anyway" Any advice on what to do in this situation? |
| Question: My good friend did not acknowledge my birthday. Should I ask her why? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 03:40 PM PST I've had a friend that I've become close to over the last few years. She started off giving me gifts for my birthday and Christmas, every year since we met, so I did the same. We live close and didn't have any sort of fight, but lately she has been more distant except for a few emails here and there. She actually did email me on my birthday, but it was about something else altogether and she didn't even mention my birthday. I cannot believe she forgot because hers is in the same month. Should I ask her why she didn't even acknowledge my birthday and why she's been acting so aloof? I don't know if I should now mention her birthday at all...it's very awkward. |
| Question: I feel like my friends don't acknowledge me...? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 03:36 PM PST I'm sad about life. I'm popular (I don't mean to brag) and I have friends. We talk and laugh together at lunch and during class but they never ask me to do anything with them or go anywhere with them. Whenever they're making plans during lunch about what they're doing this Friday or this weekend, they never ask if I want to come along. I just want to feel like someone cares about me. I feel like I have no friends. I'm constantly alone. The people that I hang out with more in our clique are the girls who are mean to other people and I'm really not like that! I want to be best friends with the nice girls because that's how I am and want to be portrayed. How can I get them to include me? Ask me to do things? Etc. I pray every night things will get better and they will reach out to me but I feel like it's not going to happen. :( Please help. Thanks. |
| Question: Is it rude to not acknowledge an invitation? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 03:36 PM PST There's a couple of people I have befriended over the last year or so and while communicating through text message having normal conversation, I told them about a dinner I was having for my birthday. However, they did not respond to it or acknowledge the invite, but proceeded in discussing what we were talking about. From my perspective, because this is usually what I do myself, I think when a person gets an invite they should either A) Say sure, I'll be there or B) I won't be able to make it, but thanks for the invitation. I feel like it's so simple! I don't have a lot of parties or get togethers and when I do have them it's usually with family and people I'm close with so I don't use fancy invititions or even email. I just send texts or phone calls because that is the main form of communication I have with the people I want to invite. Isn't completely ignoring the invitation rude? Should I bother confronting the person why they didn't even acknowledge it? |
| Question: What should I do with this essay I wrote about how much of an asshole my friend was? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 03:35 PM PST So the essay was about how much of an asshole my friend was being/becoming. Personally I think it's really good writing. I don't know what to do with it. I want him to read it but I don't want to give it to him directly. What should I do. |
| Question: Why can't I get over someone I use to be friends with? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 03:08 PM PST I was friends with someone for over 10 years, he was my best friend, its been about 2 years now since we stop talking to each other because of my alcoholism, I keep thinking about him and try to stalk him on social media, whats wrong with me? What should I do? |
| Question: So are we bestfriends on snapchat or not? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 03:08 PM PST A friend of mine has the smirking emoji by his name for me on snapchat, which means I'm one of his bestfriends, but he's not one of mine. But another friend of mine who is actually one of my bestfriends on there doesn't see a sunglass emoji next to his name, which means they share a bestfriend on snapchat (me). So I'm confused on wether or not I am one of the guy's bestfriends?? AND YES I KNOW this is completely irrelevant to the important things in life and I usually don't care about this crap but I actually like this boy so it's bothering me :') THANK YOU IN ADVANCE! |
| Question: How do I rebuild my social life? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 02:43 PM PST Like the title suggest, I got barely anything of a social. I m a 20 year old man who has one good friend who I used to hang out with every night after work(we both work the night shift at the same safeway). But due to financial issues he had to pick up a second job and now I see him once or twice a month nowadays. Now that he s barely around I fully realized how dire my social life was. I used to have other good friends but over time I lost touch with them, went other directions that them, and basically lost them all without replacing them. I m a very shy timid person, and I really don t know where to start, for most of my life I been in school and I always friends there, now in community college I really have failed to connect with other students on campus. I think that is largely due to the lack of time I m there. Only there two days a week for 3 hours a go. Going to try to join a club or two next semester and see if that helps anything. But what should I do to help put my social life back together? |
| Question: Why can't they understand we can't live anymore...? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 02:21 PM PST I'm in love with my bestfriend and she's in love with me...but our parents won't let us be together they keep on splitting us apart and insisting we should be straight.I just really love her but I can't take this anymore...we can't live without each other.. |
| Question: Whats a nopper chicken? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 02:11 PM PST |
| Question: What does it mean when someone says you don't look smart? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 02:00 PM PST My friend told me today to not get offended but when he first met me he thought I didn't look smart. Should I feel some type of way about this? |
| Question: What should I do if my mom is gay? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 01:52 PM PST A close friend told me some time ago that my mom is gay and i'm starting to believe that he was right. What should I do then? |
| Question: My "best friend" chose a guy over me? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 01:46 PM PST she talked to this guy last year and every night she'd be pissed at him for something and say she was done with him but then go back to him, and eventually it got old I told her she deserved better and that she needs to stop going back to him. we got into so many fights about this until eventually she stopped talking to him. I always jokingly told her that if she ever went back to him, I'd stop talking to her. 2 weeks before she ended are friendship she asked me if I really would stop talking to & I told her of course I wouldn't that I support whatever she does I just don't want to see her get hurt. the next week I found out she was talking to a guy but she wouldn't tell me who she told me he was just a friend and made up some random name. a few days after that she told me she was done with me and didn't want to be my friend and we got into a huge fight & we haven't talked in a little over a month. just today I found out that she was talking to that a guy again, and that she started talking to him a month ago (right when we stopped being friends). did she choose this guy over me? & if she tries to reenter my life should I let her? |
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| Posted: 12 Dec 2016 01:43 PM PST so i asked my friend about the homework, and he replied with a sorry i don't know, and then he said sorry again, because he replied kind of late, he said that he was at a soccer game. And then i asked him how did it go, and he said that they won, and i was like yay, congratulations. and then he said "thank you" just wondering is he being polite or is it just me? Don't friends use the word thanks, i have heard use the word thanks with other people, but he did not use that with me if it makes a difference, i know him for 3 years now, we are kind of good friends |
| Posted: 12 Dec 2016 01:41 PM PST There's this boy he kinda has been known to be a player but I have faith in him so he liked this girl and then he liked me so he broke up with his ex, and were neutral but he showing signs that he likes me but I'm always the one to text first and he says he doesn't get annoyed by me or by me texting first but it shows no effort if I'm always texting first please help 😘 |
| Question: Do you think it is necessary to say 'sorry' and 'thank you' to your friends? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 01:39 PM PST When I say 'sorry' or when I thank my friends sometimes, they say "Why do you want to say sorry and thank me..After all, I am your friend. And dosti mein no sorry, no thank you.." But I strongly feel that, who ever it is, even if they are my close friends, I should thank my friend when he/she has helped me when I am in dire need of little help from my friends and I should say heart felt 'sorry' when I knowingly or unknowingly hurt my friends. I feel this way but my friends feel the other way.. Yeah! I can understand that they consider me as their bestie, and that's y they tell this, but still, I automatically utter the words 'thank you' and 'sorry', when I'm in a situation to tell.. And I strongly feel that I'm doing the right thing. I just want to know, how other people think on this. What's your view? Do you think its not necessary to say, or do you think it is necessary?? Please share your views. "Thanks" everybody for answering. :P Have a nice day!! :) |
| Question: Should i go out with best friend that is also my brothers best friend? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 01:39 PM PST |
| Question: PLEASE HELP ME PLS?!!!? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 01:39 PM PST ok so I was gone for a few days from school due to a concussion and bad anxiety. I have to present a Romeo and Juliet paper that my group of friends already presented but since I wasn't there I have to present THE WHOLE THING by myself. They said it took them 3 min for them to present the whole thing. I seriously do not know what to do. I really don't want to present because my anxiety is through the roof! And when I say it's bad..it's really bad. I start shaking and I feel very dizzy and nauseous and I throw up and my whole body feels numb. My mom emailed my teacher already to see if I can't do it but what if the teacher says no? PLEASE HELP!! thank you <3 |
| Posted: 12 Dec 2016 01:38 PM PST I was not fun to be around and constantly miserable during teenage years. I don't want to be alone forever. |
| Question: I dont know how to say thanks when i get a ride from my friend parents? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 01:36 PM PST like if they pick me up from my house and drive me and my friend to the mall, what do i say when i get out? do i just say thanks for the ride, or how can i be polite without being too polite cause my friends gonna look at me weird if im like, thank you, good sir, for this wonderful ride in this lovely car. whats just a nice way to say thanks? |
| Question: How are me and my best friend so much alike? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 01:23 PM PST Me and her have been best friends for like 5 years. I live in Texas and she lives in Idaho but we text each all day long for hours and we ll be like Wyd and a lot of the time we re doing the same exact thing (example) last night both of our phones fell and we were listening to music and dancing. Today I told her I haven t bought anyone anything for Christmas and I was having anxiety and she s doing the same. I don t know if it s me because when i was a lot younger me and my sister had the same dream at the same time. But me and my best friend are basically the same person. We look way different but we re literally the same person. How is this possible? |
| Question: The hoppings- danger night? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 01:06 PM PST Okay so its danger night on friday at the hoppings In newcastle. I don't understand how its legal to not test rides and let people ride them, ?? See im going on danger night, but Is this real? that they dont test the rides, and has anyone been killed? (it must be real, cos everything is half price) |
| Question: Should I do something nice for her? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 12:42 PM PST My friend came to work with her eyes crying. She's been sad lately because of how her life is. I went up to her and just started talking. I told her I was listening to what she was saying. She got angry and hit me in the chest. She quickly apologized, but I told her that I didn't care and that it didn't even hurt. I asked if she wanted to take a walk during lunch, but she said she wanted to be left alone. I was thinking of getting her her favorite food from McDonald's or from Wendy's. Also, I draw cartoons, so I wanted to draw a comic of what she and I do at work. Not sure if I should do that or if I should really just leave her alone. Maybe give her a hug?? |
| Question: Is my mom ok looking.she feels plain? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 12:32 PM PST http://imgur.com/a/UrdmV |
| Question: Am I being paranoid? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 12:23 PM PST I hang out with a group of friends. I found out they have a group text without me, even though we have a group text with me. That doesn't mean anything right? |
| Posted: 12 Dec 2016 12:21 PM PST Have discussed with her previously but she is in denial that she has a problem. |
| Question: Hard to make friends..? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 12:20 PM PST Too often I feel as if I meet people but we never become "close". We'd get along and talk for a bit but then things just fizzle into silence within a few weeks and things never last. How do I actually make friends instead of just passing by people? |
| Question: If you haven't spoken to friends for quite some time... Does this mean you've grown apart? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 12:09 PM PST I have some friends that I used to talk to a lot but not so much anymore. Would this mean the we've grown apart or that the friendship is ending? |
| Posted: 12 Dec 2016 12:08 PM PST Ok I just switched from my old account to my new one, and my score is SO low, since I just made it. HOW can I raise it up really fast? |
| Question: Why do I shut people out of my life? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 11:53 AM PST Why do I shut people out of my life? Every time a friend wants to hang out with me I always find an excuse not to. It bugs me because a part of me wants to hang out, but then a part of me says, "no I better not." Is this because I have trust issues? I'm just tired of feeling alone, but I am my worst enemy. I believe this conception because I have been let down too many times in my life so far. I find it hard to connect with people at a very close friendship level because I think everyone is just fake around me. I don't like what I see and I'm tired of always investing in a friendship that never lasts. I know this may sound crazy. If I can really trust someone I actually try and be friends with them at first. The fact is they always let me down. So the backlash to this is I stay away from making new friendship for awhile and then try it again only to be disappointed. I'm beginning to feel that finding a true friend is like finding a needle in a haystack. |
| Question: What are good combacks for being told to shut up? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 11:40 AM PST ok im good on all insults BUT shut up i allways end up saying something lame like why dont you or make me or stuff like that HELP please i got told to shut up and i had no idea what to say!!!!! so again HELP |
| Question: Good comeback to "shut up?"? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 11:37 AM PST Okay well this one girl is really annoying me cause she always tries to make me look bad or retarded in front of everyone. We used to be friends but I decided to stray away from her after she became too controlling and nasty and she's pissed at me for it. Well whenever I talk to a mutual friend or someone nearby and she's near by too so always goes "Shut up!" after single time i try to talk to someone or ask a question. It's really annoying! I called her out on it a few times but I wanted to say a really good comeback to make her just shut up herself!! Any ideas? thank in advance! |
| Question: My friends abandonned me when I needed them most? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 11:36 AM PST I got stalked by someone in our group of friends. He only stopped when our friends found out. After that he refused to apologize or admit that what he did was wrong. I couldn't see him until he could do so and ended up being excluded from our group. When I told my friends I felt excluded and wanted them to divide their time they told me this was my problem and they couldn't pick sides. I told them they were already picking sides by allowing him to exclude me after all that happened. The group was threathning to fall apart, so on of my friends arranged an intervention with all kinds of rules. If one of us would refuse to come we would both be expelled. I still didn't want to see him because I don't trust him and I had panic attacks by the idea of seeing him. They kicked me out of the group behind my back. I gave them the option to kick my stalker out too because I felt things weren't fair this way. They refused. They accepted he stalked me, they accepted he would never apologize (which would help me regain some trust), they forced me to get over my fear or get kicked out. I feel very abandonned and I feel like he keeps winning at his own twisted game. He managed to manipulate everyone, making me out to be crazy. Am I unreasonable for feeling abandonned and betrayed? I honestly don't even want to be friends with them anymore. |
| Question: What should i do to get my friend to like me again? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 11:32 AM PST I recently started in a new class this fall and got some really nice new friends. One of the girls is the best friend i ever had and she actually cared about me untill recently. Last week i noticed that something was off with her so i decided to ask her about it in the worst way possible. I went to speak to her when she was working in the weekend at a bakery. She asked me to leave and we could talk about It later. But as the stupid idiot i am, I stayed after she quit in hopes that she would speak to me. She did not as she was picked up by her father. That night we spoke and she said everything was fine. The next day in school she totally ignored me the entire day and when i asked her why she said that she thought the whole thing was weird and that she didn't like that i shower up at her work. What should i do to fix things? I tried to talk to her and ask for forgivness but she keeps saying that she didn't like what i did. |
| Question: I want to find new friend she lives in canada? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 11:29 AM PST |
| Question: Why do I struggle to make friends? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 10:45 AM PST All my life I have struggled to make friends. During secondary school I was bullied badly because of my ethnicity and was seen as weak. I suffered badly from acne which left scars on the left and right hand side of my face. I'm also very shy and feel as though I struggle to approach people in a personable manner. I've been told countless times that I look much younger than I actually am (late twenties when I look late teens to early twenties). I guess you could say I suffer from low self-esteem/confidence. I am a nice guy, recently moved to a new city to work in a full time job and rent a place with three other people. I feel as though I would make a good friend even the chance. I am desperate to make friends however I seem to run into the same problems where people just aren't interested. I feel as though once you're past your mid-twenties people don't tend to look for new friendships but work to manage the ones they currently have. Why do I struggle to make friends, and why is it so easy for other people? :-( Thanks for your time, |
| Question: Do you struggle with interpersonal communication? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 10:39 AM PST I'm 23 and for a long time since high school I've struggled with good interpersonal communication. Most of my friendships have been pretty shallow and not so fulfilling. I've met some nice people as well however throughout my life. Yet it's still tough to know how to respond. Usually I'm pretty shy. But even when I "speak out" I still feel empty inside. Even with my own family I don't feel the joyful and affectionate bond I desire. It gets pretty lonely at times since I don't have many friends and don't get out much. I don't remember any recent event where I felt I had truly shown the "real" me to people. Usually I feel afraid to come out of my shell out of fear of what others will say or think. Talking to girls is the most frightening part. They respond differently, they're usually not as proactive in approaching most guys (including myself) and hard to "break into". I feel that I must be cautious as they might get the "wrong" idea about me. Is there anyone here who struggles or has struggled with the same thing? |
| Posted: 12 Dec 2016 10:37 AM PST Im a 17 year old girl and i have a problem in talking . not that im unable to but that i never say things at the moment and then 5min later all the "best answers" which really should have been said should have been saided like at that moment it doesnt come and later its on my nerves. i'm a person who understands alot *not trying to showoff at all* just trying to confess things in order to get the best help. i understand people alot, those who are good to me, bad, backbite and etc. which actually i believe its the worst thing about me cuz thats the reason of my sadness cuz if i wouldnt understand then i wouldnt suffer much. I am sensitive but i believe im unlucky to. specially in friendships. i dont have friends but bunch of frenemies. how can i overcome this level understanding of mine? how can i stop caring and chnage my thought and everything even though i know the reality? any help? cuz im realy feddup of caring. I hate when people snide and say sarcastic remarks undirectly. and i have an terrific answer to those but at that moment im jus like "huh" "what u mean" and etc basically bunch of unuseful stuff and then the best things come up which's too late to say. I'm sorry if i sound weird cuz even here also I feel im not understandable cuz i have alot going on my brain but i hope i gave enough info. sorry for being weird but id appreciate of someone helped me |
| Question: Why do I struggle so much to socially interact with others? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 10:31 AM PST I would like to know people's opinions and professional advice on the subject. Maybe I have a genuine problem, or it's something that can be simply resolved by other means. Since growing up, I've never been able to socialise in groups of people that I don't know very well, I even struggle in groups of four or more with friends. I'm not too bad on a one to one basis, though...it could be better. I struggle to make even the slightest input in groups and meetings For example, during a team meeting at work there will be 10 people around a table and a question is raised in which we input our suggestions and ideas, I can't speak at all. I'm either too shy, or so self conscious I can't think of anything intelligent to respond with, esp. when asked direct. Fortunately this is not an essential part of my job role. It's not just work, house parties, dinner parties concerning friends and family, I would just sit there go for long periods of time without saying a word. People comment, and I know people are thinking either I'm weird or an idiot, but I just can't find anything to say. I would not say I'm the brightest person, but not dim either, and this has really held me back in life since school, i've struggled so much to make friends, and I know it hasn't been easy for past girl friends either.. Any help or thoughts would be greatly appreciated; (ps, I'm a reasonably healthy 24 year old male) |
| Question: Do you think the friendship could ever be restored? Would it even be worth it? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 10:14 AM PST I was best friends with this girl, lets call her Emma, for 7 years. (middle school-high school+) She replaced me with another girl, Beth. Beth seemingly had a perfect life and that's why I think she gravitated towards her so much. Well, Our friendship fell off when we were 19. I was (still am) in a relationship and she was weird about it all from the beginning. She didn't like him one bit, not that she out right said it, it was just obvious to me. We tried being friends again a couple years later, she hadn't changed, but I didn't fit in with her new crowd so it just didn't work out. Being upset i couldn't restore a friendship, i deleted her off social media again. It's been a year or so and I just feel guilty for doing that. I'm not sure if I should reach out, or leave it alone. Thoughts? |
| Question: First time smoking weed? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 10:13 AM PST I smoked weed for the first time a few days ago... at first it was fun everyone sped up like a cartoon i couldnt stop laughing then my friends looked at me like something was wrong i began to feel detatched from reality lost my sense of touch completely I then said i was both happy and scared and that reality seemed to be tearing apart i thought i made choice wether to live or not like there was a line between life and death and i was watching it eventually i realized i had never left the room and i couldnt think of other places i wasnt sure if the room was real but i loved my friends so i wanted it to be real and i fought to bring it back or some reason the more i moved and stronger i moved the more i felt connected back to the world the room was in So me and the strongest friend i had in the room began almost wrestling i didnt wanna hurt him and i never did but strong movements helped bring mme back it seemed I felt incredibly alone and i kept telling my cclosest friend to not leave me and he gave me my smash brothers game to try to nake me focus but i was shaking and i explained i couldnt control my body Eventually the shaking slowed down i still couldnt play my game but i could eat some and drink and i curled up next to my closest friend and told him to not leave as i fell asleep Days later im still tingly? Anyone else go through this? |
| Question: Female only best comments will get 10pt? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 09:57 AM PST Is this romantic enough. I brought my female Best friend a bracelet. I am going to lunch with her I am going to say put out your arm and put the bracelet on and give her the card. The card say Merry Christmas too the most important person to me and my favorite person ever and I love you irelynn |
| Question: A group of people are trying to fight me? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 09:25 AM PST I'm 18 years old. Female. 5Ft 8. And barely even 100lbs. This girl and I got into an argument about a week and a half ago. Because, she wouldn't give my friend her stuff back. Well, my friends a minor so I had to defend her. Which put me in a bad spot. Now this 19 year old female. About 5Ft 11. 150lbs is trying to fight me along with her MALE friends. They showed up to my house late last night and I had the door locked and called the police but they were gone before the police got there. My problem now is, cops can't do anything without evidence (i deleted everything because I thought it blew over.) I'm now scared to even leave my house. And I can't stay like this. I can't fight because, I've never had to. And I surely can't defend myself against many people alone. Also, I'm home alone a lot. Because, my mom works at night and shes the only person I live with. Please help I dont know what to do. |
| Question: Help ! What would you do girls in my place ? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 09:02 AM PST Hello everybody! I study in university and Since few months now, a guy stares at me a lot there, we have never talked and we don't have common friends .. I think I like him too.. But I don't know what should I do to show him I'm interested or just to make him talk to me? All he does is just staring at me, that's why I'm sure he likes me |
| Question: I want to be someone else? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 08:56 AM PST I recently realized that, my entire life, I've tried to be someone or something I'm not. I try to be the super shy girl in school even though I'm already quite shy, it's called off by my insane outbursts that make no sense to anyone. I try to be the popular girl but it doesn't work out because everyone in my school thinks I'm ugly, stupid, or they just hate me. I try to be the cool girl in school but I'm just lame and don't know about all the 'cool' things everyone talks about. I try to be the innocent, oblivious girl but I know too much about the world, I'm no longer innocent, my mind has been scarred by death and other things. I try to be the romantic type but I hate romance and I can't feel love, no matter how hard I try, nobody wants to be with me anyway so there isn't anything to worry about in the 'love' category. I try to be the girl that gets shown pity for being suicidal, which I am, for being bullied, which I am, but everyone hates me, they tell me they don't care or that I deserved it. I've tried to be someone else my whole life and I don't know who I originally was anymore. |
| Question: Is it dangerous to have a prisoner pen pal? Posted: 12 Dec 2016 08:50 AM PST I have normal pen pals but the thought of having a pen pal in prison interests me. I would not be interested in writing to a pedophile or some other freak but maybe someone who in in jail for a non-violent crime or is wrongly imprisoned (and there are a lot of people in jail who don't deserve to be). Thoughts on this? Is there any program that exists? I understand of course all letters would be read by the prison authorities or whatever and I'm fine with that, as I don't plan to share any personal information like I do with my normal long-term pen pals. Well, that never came to mind. It's an interesting thought. But do not assume that every prisoner is a criminal, because it's simply false. North Koreans are imprisoned for dissatisfying the government. Iranians are in jail for being homosexual or not Muslim, hardly criminals. Who even uses their personal address? Only use that for food deliveries PO Boxes, my friends |
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