We were in the 2nd trimester and found out the baby would have a congenital birth defect. I said she should have an abortion and her doctor said that's the decision the majority of women make. Not only would this baby from the time it's born and onward suffer from limitations but it's incredibly expensive. We paid off both our student loans before marriage, paid for our wedding in cash. Right now we have a 2 year old daughter. There would be so much less to provide for our family if she had kept this baby. She still wanted to keep it and I said if she did, she'd be making that decision on her own. She could get pregnant again and we'd have a normal, healthy baby. I was bluffing but I just wanted her to understand how serious it was. She cries about it though like everyday for the past two weeks. Our daughter also cried about it because she likes to touch her mom's belly and my wife explained to her that the baby was in heaven and not in her belly anymore. I tried to tell her I understood and her and was here for her and she told me I don't understand, I don't know what it's like to be a mom. I'm upset too and I'm trying to help her and she's snapping at me and acting like she's the only one that's allowed to be upset. What do I do?

Because nowadays everyone is getting divorced and everyone is cheating on their girlfriend or boyfriend or husband or wife etc. and it just seems pointless to get married Should I stay in a relationship but not get married?

My husband has a 1 year old with his ex, we broke up for a week and he slept with her and she s pregnant, we have been married for 7 months with a lot of credit card debt and a new car bought for him all under my good credit, he wants to keep it separate but I already can not see his first daughter because she doesn t want him with me, as she has said verbatim, I don t want to push him away and I d never keep his children away but he does stupid things with her and wants to respect her but in the process is living separate lives by not allowing me in. His parents want him to deal and get back with her as they always have because they believe once a child is involved you must stay together for the kids even if it s an abusive relationship and unhealthy for kids

I'm a housewife. I don't have health insurance currently because when my husband enrolled us, he neglected to send them our marriage license and they dropped me. Now he has a sinus infection and wants me to schedule him a doctor's appointment. Inside, my feelings are, "I can't even make an appointment for myself to get a pap smear because of your negligence, but you want me to do something for you?" That's what I WANT to say, but so far I haven't said anything. Should I just go ahead and make him the appointment? Is it even worth it to voice me feelings or are my feelings petty? (Note: We enrolled in a new family plan in November, but it doesn't kick in until January 1, 2017. Of course, all the paperwork has been turned in so I'll be insured this time.)

My husband and I have been married only 5 months. We had our daughter before we got married. He works as an over the road truck driver, so I only see him once a month for a few days. A few weeks ago i had his phone fixed. When i picked it up i had an awful feeling in my gut and opened it to see inappropriate messages to other women as far back as he had the phone, when I had just given birth to our daughter. Messages trying to meet these women as well although I cannot be positive if he did or not. When confronted he apologized said he loved me and would stop. But I don't think he did. I saw some odd messages to a woman while we were on thanksgiving vacation that I think most of the conversation was simply deleted. But from what I understand they want to meet each other. It killed my self esteem. I'm too of that he is constantly screaming at me over everything even if I'm not responsible. I talked to him and he told me he would change but the feeling in my gut hasn't gone away. I know some people don't view sexting as cheating but if we were simply dating still I would have left him but since we are married it's more complicated. Any thoughts?

My ex-wife and I were married for 7 years but she got tired of me and never let me relax. She would start fights and kick me out the house. Then last time she kicked me she said she was going to trade for a better husband. She went online dating and found a guy who immediately moved and married her after we were only seperated for a couple months and divorce was through. He fell in very easily all my roles as father, basketball coach for the kids, etc. She just posts on facebook how she made her happiness happen and all this and how happy he makes her. He goes to all kids functions like I did and its like he is now me all of a sudden. I mean beside he's broke with nothing and relies on her financially. She also changed her last name for him which she did not do for me and she changed everything about her. Now she is all about football even though she hated football when I was there. If I even put on the superbowl she would have gotten pissed and got the kids all upset that I was stealing their TV time. With new guy she is a football superfan and makes the kids wear football jerseys, etc. It's ridiculous.

My husband and I like the idea. He's into spicing things up and I like to watch porn and it's fine if we're not identifiable. Would you do this with your spouse?

I'd like him to open up with me because I'd enjoy that, and feel for some reason he's redirecting his sexual energy away from me. He's not even into strokers or toys, etc. Is this worth trying to fix or should I let that stuff remain in fantasy land?

Does it take work, or does it come naturally when these solid pairings do happen? Is this just a myth to motivate romantics?

I'm a wife, been together 7 years. I am very attracted to the hub and would love it once a day. He's more of a once a week or twice a month guy. He has said he doesn't have as high of a sex drive as I do. He does his best to keep up as much as 3-4 times a week. I wonder if pushing himself will make him bored. I love to please him and often just massage and finish him so he doesn't always use a lot of energy. Should I just take care of myself and engage less to not suffocate him? Is there something wrong with ejaculating every day?

He's always watching netlfix or on PS4 He plays all night and day when he's off of work When he works he still plays then goes to sleep He won't even touch me or sleep with me I feel like he doesn't wanna be with me anymore. It's depressing He says he doesn't wanna lay or talk to me cuz I'm boring and annoying . What should I do? He makes me cry all the time but it's hard to leave because I'm so attached to him and it hurts so much that he pushes me away all the time

*He smokes cigars and has a beer or two each day *When he smokes, he always goes outside, but HATES to be watched. He takes an old smartphone with him that has internet, but no data services so he cant text or call with it. He deletes the history every day if not more often, and clears what he is looking at if i come outside. *He sometimes goes to his car while he smokes and one time when I "caught" him in his passenger side door, I asked what was wrong. He took FOREVER to answer, then finally said "I keep thinking my tire looks flat so I was just checking it" 🤔 He keeps his car locked and he had his keys with him. I didn t push it (as he gets defensive really quick) but he obviously had planned to go to his car before going outside. *He hates taking a shower any time of day other than in the morning yet last night he came in from his cigar, acted like he was cold (bad acting lol) and said he was going to take a shower to warm up. I told him to just wash up like he usually does (wash hands and beard) and come sit by me and id "warm him up"...he acts frustrated. I went back to check on him when it was taking him longer than usual to wash up. I knocked on the door and he didnt answer for several seconds...i opened the door and he jumped a little and got all mad saying he was just washing up and it wasnt taking him any longer than usual...he kept holding the towel out like he was trying to show me he was drying off. He was clothed, and not in any weird position Any ideas?

Fiance and I getting married soon and also excepting our first child together. Now, I don't have necessarily have a strong tie to my current maiden name other than it's my born name and the last name I share with my dad, which in the end does create some sort of sentimental values for me because I am my dad's only child. But, I also do want to carry my soon to be husband last name because it will be our family union name, I love his last name and it will be my son's last name too. I don't want a hyphen. The only thing at the moment that makes sense to me which I didn't know you can do, is to move my maiden name as a middle name (works perfect, because I don't have a middle name!) so I can always carry it even if it becomes an "initial" , or even if they don't ask for it..I know it will always be there, but my official last name will be my married name which will mean a lot to me too. Does that make sense? I am going to discuss this with my parents eventually and my parents are Spanish culture so just want to be sure it doesn't sound confusing. For example, My current name is (First Name) (My Dad's Last name) (My Mom's Last Name).. No hyphen, my mom's last name is just a second last name that is truly never really used, only on ss and birth certificate, or unless asked. That's how it's done in Spanish culture for the most part. After marriage, it will become (First name) (Maiden name) (Husband last name)

whoever is moving these questions is obviously jobless and womanless.

The other night I got wasted and came home drunk and H^^^^. I had sent her a text that said "Who is he and how long you been seeing him". She told me how dare I say something like this. She does a lot for me and my son. She goes on to remind me no one gives a **** but her. My mom and dad don't help and my son's mom is trash. Next, day same thing. (Remind you I been lighting it up but I take care my business) She comes with even more things that were on here mind assume, she says:she never thought her life turn out like this. She's so over this relationship, we have no romance, no passion, the sex is not the same. We just going through the motions. she say the only reason she stay is because of my son. (Remind you last time I heard this she ends up having sex with some guy she said was just her friend.) He made her happy. She stated she wasn't happy no more with. Man, She singing the same tone as last time all that **** went down. What's next? What should I do?

The night before she went up the coast with her parents and colleagues for one night, she was being nice to me. We have been trying for a baby and right now is the fertile window. I enjoyed it with everyone out of the house. Drank some beer and watched a couple of movies. I didn't have to start work until late the next day. I came home from work tonight with a nice bunch of flowers (daisies to represent the 5th wedding anniversary). She was happy and posting on her social media about me and how I always remember nice things for our aniversary. But when it came to sex, she wanted me to wait until midnight whilst she played on the phone. I told her I was feeling exhausted and really not in the mood. She still kept pushing me to try. I did try. For an hour and a half trying to please her and she started getting really nasty. Lying there saying she has no mood, asking if I had another woman in our bed last night, getting demanding etc. Eventually she just forced herself and asked me to get it over and done with. During the act, she said it was small and that she didn't care. I asked what she meant and she snapped at me in anger. Lots of angry outbursts and lack of interest this evening. It doesn't make any sense. I know women get angry if their partner doesn't satisfy them, but I didn't think they behaved so nasty? At least she didn't tell me to f...off this time. But she was still angry about the fact last month I also faced some performance anxiety. I don't understand. I'm her husband and trying for a baby should be out of love and not convenience. I was wondering why I should keep trying for a child if she is going to act disinterested in sex. Also, I have started to cope with her being nasty by hurting myself. I'm 33 years old and every time she starts getting demanding or nasty to me, it's like being slapped up the face. So that' what I have done to myself to cope. Tonight I used a can of soft drink to leave a bruise near my eye :( I don't understand. I'm her husband and trying for a baby should be out of love and not convenience. I was wondering why I should keep trying for a child if she is going to act disinterested in sex. Also, I have started to cope with her being nasty by hurting myself. I'm 33 years old and every time she starts getting demanding or nasty to me, it's like being slapped up the face. So that's what I have done to myself to cope. Just now I used a soda can to leave a bruise near my eye. We get along fine outside of the bedroom. It's just these occassions where she acts like she is superior and trying to put one over me. Behaves like I'm incompetent. Not loving when she gets in those moods. I don't know how to cope sometimes when she starts getting nasty. I have this idea in my mind that our interaction will be out of love and patience. But when it doesn't, I resort to hurting myself to cope. I would hit myself and say to myself I'm just rubbish. I understand that if she knew, it wouldn't do anything for her feeling attracted to me!! I have to go to the GP tomorrow for some results. I might have a confidential discussion with him.

Okay let me start off by saying my husband and I have a great relationship and have sex regularly. For about 2 years, sometimes I would halfway wake up to my husband touching me, and we would usually end up having sex. That was fine with me and sometimes I'd even initiate it. We had a baby 6 months ago and since then the touching has become progressively worse, and I am not okay with it anymore. I have told him I don't like it and asked him to stop but he hasn't. The other night I fell asleep on the couch and woke up to him kissing me and had the feeling I had been messed with "down there" but I didn't remember anything because I was asleep. In his defense he says I seem to enjoy it and I believe him but I told him that if I'm asleep, it doesn't matter how I'm acting, don't touch me in that way. I know that seems kind of harsh but it has gotten to the point that I'm getting angry at him for not listening to me. I just don't like the feeling of not knowing what has been done to me! But of course last night I woke up to him fondling my breast (while I was holding our baby nonetheless). I really just want to make him understand how violated I feel when he does this kind of stuff. And again we have sex regularly so he's not doing it because I don't "put out".

Hey guys I have a question regarding my relationship me and my wife live together work in the same field but work different schedules she works during the day I work from 11 to 11 making as much as possible to have our own little house one day and I'm trying my hardest to get the morning shift now my wife isint the type to be detailed sometimes she is kinda lazy I give her space but she won't like how do I say value time with me when we have it I'll text her on her lunch break to how she is she doesn't really do it or I'll call her on my break to hear her voice because I don't see her till late at night I would like for her to do the same I value emotional closeness for anything that happenes out side of the marriage she gets mad and that's it there goes her day love making is a problem two on the weekends I can't cuz her kid is there wich this does not bother me I love the child but I sometimes need my time with her what can I do

There are certain tasks that I have been trusted with. When I tell my wife I will get it completed by a certain time, my thoughts are I wont hear about it until its due. However she will ask me throughout the week if I did it yet. When I tell her I have not she begins to tell me everything on her plate that is stressing her and that this is one of them. I tell her I understand and I know better than to tell her to relax. But my calm demeanor she interprets that as it's not as important to me. So I hear things like "I'm the only one who seems worried here" I feel more accused like I am missing something. How can I provide assurance?

My husband has just informed me that he was offered a promotion in work which would require us to move to Japan, something that has taken me by absolute shock! Without my knowledge he put in for a transfer in work not expecting to get it but he has been offered the opportunity. We are Americans who moved to the UK 6yrs ago for his job, it was a big move but I settled in and I love it. We have been together since we were 14 and seventeen years later I have never once not had his back or given him my full support, He is living his dream & I'm proud of him and even though he can support us both I gave up my dreams to support him with his, it was a decision I made that I don't regret but this would-be move to Japan has really upset me, it's somewhere I don't want to go, the culture change would be too extreme for me but it would be a massive opportunity. He really wants me to agree to this he understands if I don't and he will turn it down. I feel torn because I know he wants to take this turn in his career and I fear he will resent me if he doesn't but I know I wouldn't be happy there. What do I do?

Okay so me and my girlfriend we are getting married but the problem is her parents are okay with it but the grand parents say wait till her older sister is married ;( I am convinced she likes girls she never talked to a guy she is 17 and wants to be like 98 when she gets married so I can't go forward with my life if she isn't married. Same for her brother they want the siblings to be married before her cause she's the younger one. It's pretty stupid. Let me know any ways to make them get married asap or something.

He's constantly on Xbox, laptop, or cell phone. Makes me sad.

Like if they have a family and only one works, how do you keep the one that works from being to controlling over the finances to the point where it's making the other suffer? Since it is both their money.

My boyfriend of 3 years said out of nowhere that he intends to marry me, but wants to make sure he does it right. What does that even mean? Does he think im expecting marriage? I have never even slightly hinted that I want marriage, so I was taken aback by this. Any insight? Thanks

My youngest son graduates this coming Fri with his associates degree. For more than a year since he flunked out of his first college his freshman year my husband has been on this bandwagon that he needs to start contributing financially to the household finances. "Since he couldn't just do the minimum in college he needs to start paying his own way." When ever my husband brought up the idea of him paying rent or taking over a bill I'd refuse to let that happen because he was till trying to go to school. Well, since then my son has re-enrolled into another school here at home and will be graduating this coming Friday. Last night my husband and I were talking and he mentioned that once he graduates he now needs to take over a bill in the house or set up an amt to pay monthly rent. Something like $200 a month. When I told my husband that I had already talked to my son about taking over a bill he went ballistic cause I didn't include him into that conversation. He feels I should have at least discussed it with him but instead I had a conversation with my son. He's my boy's step-dad and has been in their life some almost 15 years but I didn't think I was doing anything wrong by just talking to my son. Then my husband was upset that once I had the talk with my son that I didn't talk to him and tell him what had been discussed. Was I wrong? How do I smooth it over with my husband?