My brother has 3 kids doesn't work does drugs and sells. He's 32 doesn't want to work and wants my parents to provide everything . My parents don't talk to them for that reason . Are my parents correct ? They helped the first child at first but once he started popping out more than two they stopped talking because of his entitlement attitude. Some say my parents are cruel others say they did the right thing . What about you

So I'm almost 20, out of school, with my own car that's paid off, my own job, and I am rarely home anymore. I live with my parents btw. But when I am, it's kind of tense. My thirteen year old sis wants to be like me, able to come and go whenever I want. She constantly says things like "but she can!" "if she can I should be able to!" etc. She's bent on the fact that there's no difference between 13 and 20, despite the fact that there is a big difference. Mom has tried time and time again to explain that I'm an adult, she's a child and our lives are two totally different things. But it just doesn't work. So mom has asked me to see if maybe I can get through to her, as I have been able to in the past. But this is uncharted territory for me. What can I do to help her understand that I'm grown, and these aren't privileges, they're just what being an adult is like?

so over thanksgiving break my parents did not like that i was hanging out with my boyfriend so much. but then my mom kept apologizing that she remembers what it is like when she was my age. i usually like to spend the night with my bf sometimes as well. (im in college btw) so I am not allowed to stay in the dorm over christmas break but my mom said that besides the holiday days, it is free will but i am scared that she will go back on her word and get mad at me for always being out. like im their daughter and im not going anywhere. how can i let them to do whatever i want by being polite about it?

My grandmother just died and I have to say something at her funeral. The example that was given to me is: "My grandma was a good example of the selfless love of family, she was always there for her kids when they needed her." She suffered from Alzheimer's, and it has been many years since she knew her own childrens' names, let alone recognized her grandchildren. I don't have any memories of her before the disease set in, so what do I say? I hate gushy emotional stuff, so it is hard for me to think of something sincere.

Okay so, I feel like my parents hate me, alot. I had four older siblings and they used to always kind of "protect" me from my parents but they ended up being kicked out for stabbing us in the back (they were stealing money from us and crap like that). So now I don't have anyone there for me really. I'm 14 years old and I have a 10 year old brother, and anyone can see they like him better. They believe whatever he says that gets me in trouble, they get him whatever he wants, they basically treat him like a prince. Me on the other hand, I get yelled at for dumb reasons, if I ask for anything (which is rarely because I don't want to anger my parents) they say that I'm spoiled and that I have to be thankful for what I have, and I am, but when I ask for stuff, it's stuff that I need, like clothing. I can also tell by the way they talk to me, the tone of their voice is full of hate and disgust. I'm actually writing this on the laptop that my school gave me because my parents refuse to get me any of that kind of stuff. I have all A's in school and never get in trouble. I have really bad depression but I try to not let it affect my attitude toward people, I really do, but sometimes I hear my parents talking about how I'm not "normal" or "stable". So, I don't know. Do I deserve how my parents treat me or not?

So I'm ready to move out of my house because my dad just threatened he was going to beat me naked if I left my room unclean again. I don't have anywhere else to go, and I don't know what to do anymore. Im just hoping I can find something to do before I lose hope and kill myself as a last resort because im tired of living with two psychos. If you need me to elaborate on the two psychos just ask.

I might have a C on my progress report (Remember, progress reports don't count for anything they just show progress) Do you think that for my mom to get really angry at me? I always get my grades up in time for report cards but she scares me so I'm wondering, is she overreacting or is this normal?

So he just told me if I do stupid **** again, and by stupid **** I mean accidentally leaving a shirt on my floor, he said I was to pull my pants down butt naked and he was going to hit me 10 times with a belt. honestly I don t really care if he beats me, I just am a bit uncomfortable with him seeing me naked because im 17 years old.

My new born twin cousins are more than 14 years younger than me and I am sometimes looking after them, buying lots of presents for them and am very protective of them. Taking the above into account, I really want to call them my nephew and be an uncle figure to them, and being an only child I will never get to be an uncle, and I want to really call them my nephews. AM I RIGHT? SHOULD I APPROACH THE FAMILY ABOUT THIS?

well i met my fiance 2 years ago. i was a whole year with him without meeting his mother in person which was kind of weird for me cuz we were living together. i was kind of dessapointed cuz he showed me he loves me too but he didnt wanna introduce me to his mom. one day finally it happened we went to her house, she was sweet, kind , the best mother in law ever. we started calling each other on the phone everyday, she was great to me. after 3 months we decided to buy a house,once we got the house, same day we got the keys of our home she started being mean and rude to me. after that every day have been a nightmare, she wanna runs my house, she gets to my house everytime checking everything to find a reason to start yelling at me. my fiance is deploy so he is not here to see whats going on . things are getting worse and worse . i have try everything with her. do a birthday party for her, got her friends and family together and she never said even thanks for instead she ended trowing the plates on the floor and mad . i decided to put her out or lifes and tell her not come to my house anymore but i feel bad for him cuz he loves her and is not fair to put him in that situation, but in the other hand im tired of her . she is lying everyday to me in my face, making scenes, and on top of that now call everyone and talk **** about me . please what i should do he is coming home soon and i just wanna fix this before he get here and see how bad things are between me and his mom.

My family memeber always talks on the phone with me for like hours almost everyday and when I see her its the same deal and I try to find excuses to get out of it but I feel like shes about to catch on. How can I get her to stop oversharing without making her upset?

My sister is 4 months pregnant she's been really depressed and tired lately. She gets upset almost everyday over every little thing or over nothing. She gets really tired at night when she gets home from work she goes to bed at 9 or 10 earlier than she's use to. She use to stay up till 1 or 2 in the morning and sleep half the day. Now that she's working 9 hours she can't do that. She misses it. She said it makes her feel sad. She even cries herself to sleep. She's also really scared about having a baby. Our parents died a few years ago she doesn't have a boyfriend she only has me and her best friend. How can I help her ?

I am age 14

My parents have always been supportive my every thing I wanted to pursue in life. At 2 years old, I mom had found my passion for music when she put 2 cooking pots in front of me to bang beats on. From that point, she encouraged me on the path of music, she filmed me when I was about 8 years old playing on my dads tablas, playing on this baby keyboard that i had, and singing songs. When I grew older, she bought me a regular keyboard, and I've learned so much, friends and family ask me to play at parties. My education is a different story. I'm being forced to take a path i dont want to take. The major I want to get into is for university only. They are forcing me to go to college. I got kicked out of high school after failing the academic level, because I have my diploma. I feel so angry that I'm forced to something I'm spending a lot of money on. My school hasn't given me the chance to take college level courses so taking the academic courses was hard. I jumped levels from locally developed. I feel like a loser, have low self-esteem. Academically driven, but feel like I'm not the accomplished person I want to be. My parents are forcing me to college, I feel treated like a child already, but I feel like a sore loser. My sis who is uni grad, makes me look and feel uncapable by telling her friends I'm lazy and have a learning disability. I feel depressed. I feel like I shouldn't bother inviting my family. I honestly dont care about college and grad or if I should even go myself

I recently came out to my family as being snowgender and they refuse to accept this or use my pronouns (snow, snows, snowself). They won't let me be who I really am. What do I do??

What to get for a child who's parents pawn anything of value? I have a nephew and unfortunately my sister and her boyfriend over the years have pawned most anything of value in their home including his PS3. All he wants for Christmas is an Xbox One S and my family would get it for him but we are afraid it will end up in the pawn shop 'broken'. I know I could get him something they cannot pawn like Lego or something but it seems unfair to him. Any suggestions?

I already have a really bad self esteem from years of emotional and slight physical abuse. I'm 21 years old. But I live with my grandmother and she is the person who has greatly influenced my low self esteem. She is the reason I watch what I eat and always suck and tuck my fat even though I'm quite skinny. She has throughout the years made me feel like a burden because she took me in because my mother was already working and taking care of my other two older siblings. Today it just really got to me and I'm tired of her because she bad-mouthed me on the phone and called me a 'sorry' granddaughter. I do what I can for this woman such as grooming her dog ( I even cleaned **** out her dog's *** because the poor thing was constipated and had poo stuck to her bottom ), I do handy work that she can't do. I wash her back because she can't. I cook for her. And all she does is belittle me and compare me to others for things I can't control. I take care of her more than anyone else would do even more than her own son. I really don't know what to do and I feel very depressed and unappreciated.

So im a male 17, my sister is 16, and my other brother is 18, his profoundly Deaf and wears 2 hearing aids, we use sign language with him to communicate (he can speak but not clearly) Anyway the truth is my sister is a bi*^h to him constantly, she never helps him when he needs it (like help him order food, or communicate with people etcc) She never signs when she talks so he cant understand and he gets upset/fustrated and my sister just says "well not everyone knows sign language u know?" And she broke his hearing aid a few weeks ago bcuz she was angry with him, when we are watching tv and she tunes off the captions so he can't understand and says "no its annoying!", she always calls him a retard and stupid and all these names (my brother tries to say somthing back but she can just look away or pretend not to understand him- but even when he tries she always has the upper hand because his deaf) He also has type 1 diabetes and she hid his insulin injection pen once and he was on border of passing out because she forgot where she put it (out parents were sooo angry with her, lets say shell never do that again) I always stick up for him because his life is hard enough and i feel bad for him, his really nice to everyone everyone loves him But the thing is, he does everything for her, she lazy sitting on the couch and wants a juice she sign to him get me a juice and STRAIGHT AWAY he get up and gets her it, when ever she needs money he gives her his money etc what do u think?:/

My daughter has always been a troublemaker, since she started school there were always problems with other peers. In her middle school days she did not have many friends I don't think any at all. She was suspended constantly also in an incident where she threw scissors at another student. She always throws tantrum at the age of 18. She gets very angry at me and yells at me even if I step one foot in her room. As a child and teen she always hit our pets, she has kind of stopped now. She's always isolates her and she won't even have dinner with us. There are some good days she comes to me if she has anxiety I try to help her the best I can. She's in college now and this behavior still continues. How can I help her? I know therapy but she's been having that for years and she never changes.

Her parents are both big, weight wise, and she's only 6, but, already about 70 pounds. Every time I see her she's bigger than when i last saw her. I'd buy her clothes for christmas but, they won't fit long. Do I just ignore it or talk to her parents?

i live in the ghetto,and my cousins are ghetto. Plus im not a fighter, i never liked physical conflict because its not something ive ever enjoyed. Recently my cousin got into a serious relationship with a guy whos gang affiliated. And my cousins are really close to us because they live nearby and they frequently come over to eat and have family time. The guy shes dating is not reasonable, i fact hes been expelled from multiple schools because he takes all his problems to fighting. He also recently posted a video on social media with him showing off a gun. I really dont know what to do. I dont mind him but i dont want him to cause problems with my mother, my grandma and my siblings, he always is trying to fight and cause trouble. I also have multiple friends who can hook me up with guns and do you think i should get one just in case? I know having one wont solve anything but atleast I have something to defend my family with. Please help!

My family never lets me be. alone . the only peace i get away from them is at work. Wheneer im going somewhere they always want to tag along. Whether im going tk the store or today im going to school for my final and my brother wants to go too. Says hell wait for me in the car. They treat me like im 5 years old. I always have to have someone going with me. I actually like being alone. Its like they dont understand i need some time fpr myself too. Does anyone else deal with this?

My mother has recently filled for full custody of my 15 year-old son. the court has decided to entertain this idea due to some cps visits in the past, whom my mother had sent claiming that his father and i have been abusing him. when they came we were honest every time and admitted to using old school discipline, then they examined him.. now the kid always has some new scrape or bruise and they claimed in the report it was evidence of abuse and that we admitted to abusing him. As parents we should be allowed to discipline our children in a way that works for us, he needs to learn structure, rules and consequences. i firmly believe that if my mother didnt get involved and blow things out of proportion, it would be a non- issue.

my father was never a very emotionally stable man, always got angry over the small trivial stuff. He also didn't really plan on having me and only married my mom a year later out of pressure. Growing up he would never abuse us, but sufficiently scared me into corners of the house with threats of "beating the good grades into me"/made my mom bawl her eyes out when I wasnt doing well in 6th grade. My mom divorced him due to his anger issues and the basically fake from the getgo marriage. But 2 years ago I had just gotten out of the military,(at this point I dont hate him but I wouldn't use the word love) my dad had asked me to be his best man at his wedding and I agreed although I did blame him for the unloving childhood I had. The night before the rehearsal he and his fiancé get into a screaming match. All I heard is "fine, you dont want my son in the family then ill kick him out!" no idea why this was said, I know youre probably skeptical but she is honestly just a very controlling woman, immediately left with my stuff, passed them in the kitchen and they said nothing. I apologized that I wound not be coming to the wedding and left. 2 years later and I haven't heard a word or explanation from anyone, and neither has my sister who still talks to him. How would you deal with this? Am I being petty by not initiating conversation and changing my last name?

I am 53. I never drive my son and daughter places, I am rarely around them. I have had them in online schooling for 11 years. I never got them a drivers permit, or license or car. I never taught them to drive at 15 and 16, and I am sure not going to start now. My parents taught me at 16 and got me driving lessons at 16, I do not want to do either for my son and daughter. They're 17 and 18. They have no job and never had one as I never got them an I.D and I refuse to drive them and every time they apply for job the places tell them they're unhirable as they have no transportation. We live in the south and public transportation is an hour away which I will not take them to. We live on an interstate/highway. There are cars everywhere and no side walks or areas on the road for walkers. You cannot go into town without using the interstate/highway. Why are my son and daughter so scared to walk in the road behind cars as if they were driving but they'd be walking? Come on! I've been beating them with belts for 12 years daily yet they're still entilted and spolied brats! They have not been around peers for 10 years yet they're still spolied! I have not bought them a gift for 12 years either why are they like this? I'm not in the wrong

They are both at fault and the other three kids in the family are the ones to miss out as my aunt won't pumped to our hometown because her daughter is here.

He rages at my mom and called her a ******* *****. He has broken stuff and stolen stuff from her and he's also smokes marijuana for which he was just arrested. She threatens to send them away but of course you never dies they both scream at each other. He is 15 and I'm 14 and I'm scared of him. Or dad doesn't know it so my mom says he's angry about that. What do I do. I'm a girl and 14

My mother informed me about two hours ago that my grandfather is in the hospital dying due to lung being in his fluids and a bunch of other reasons. He's had cancer twice but things really arent looking good. Ive been a wreck and so stressed because my hardest final is tomorrow. I planned on studying all night but I obviously need to be with my family at the hospital because I'm not even sure if he will make it overnight. I'm so stressed, would it be acceptable to email my professor explaining the situation or should I just suck it up and most likely do poorly on it? I just need some advice, if anyone is a professor I would like your opinion. Thanks so much fluid being in his lungs sorry I'm obviously not with it today

So my sister said a girl from our work came and asked her if it was true if my dad was my cousin. We were really confused. Turns out the guys I work with have thought this way for months and that they talk about it all the time. What's scary is, he is. So I'm really confused on how they found that out....and scared. I never tell anyone that. You dont just openly admit that. Anyway, I still went to work and pretended I never knew they were thinking that. I'm kind of proud of myself though. It takes a certain kind of strength to go in to a place full of people who secretly think you're disgusting etc. I didnt choose this....I'm honestly so confused about this. I bawled my eyes out before going into work and my aunt and sister cheered me on. Idk what to do....should I quit though?

ITS SO ******* ANNOYING!!!!!!! She's the type of person who will twists the songs, like twists the meanings into something that it doesn't mean what she honks and it's so ******* annoying. She will listen to them and turn them into a "depressing" or a "I want everyone to hear what I listen to so you know what I'm thinking" or something. She's also the type of person who is jealous of everything and is a ***** when someone does or finds something good. She purposely takes listens to he songs JUST To piss me off and try to get me to ask about or bring up the past when I don't give a SHIIIIT!! I'm moving the **** on and if she wants to continue to be immature and stupid then so be it. This may make no sense at all but it does to me and is hard to explain in typing. But anyways yeah...BYEEEEE -_-

Hello. I'm not sure what to do here. I'm twenty years old, and I am in a current relationship for almost two years now (he's 23). We met online, he lived three states away in Illinois. He moved here a year ago and he has been living with my mom, sister, and I the entire time. He recently has a job offer open up in Illinois where he could be making over $33 an hour and he is very likely to get the job if he put in an application. The problem is... my mom is very dependent on my sister and I, and can be very manipulative. My boyfriend and I tried moving out back in May (not to a different state though), and she freaked out badly. She always makes comments about me never moving away and being with her forever. I also don't know how to drive, so I don't know how living away from my family would be. My brother moved away a few years back to California, she didnt take it well, and plus he is in his thirties. This job offer is limited and will be gone soon. My boyfriend is excited for it. What do I do? Forgot to add I do have a car... just don't have license.

Every year we have our family gathering at my grandparents' house, which is an arduous six or seven hour drive. Usually I have a few people there I enjoy meeting, but I've grown distant with my relatives and the few I wanted to see aren't even going to be there. Everyone expects me to go simply to be the token grandson, but honestly my grandparents barely interact with me. They aren't rude to me, but they're distant for the most part. Now, because I've stated to my family that I do not want to go, they are all up in arms about me being a horrible person. My sister has arranged a lot of this conflict because she has an ulterior motive to get the house to herself for the weekend, whereas I'm the one always expected to be the dutiful son. (I'm in college and live at home) I also have a chronic health problem that makes it difficult for me to travel, but no one seems to acknowledge this and they make out as if I had a choice in the matter to not be sick. Now, my grandfather was recently diagnosed with cancer again, which makes it possible that this could be his last Christmas. I am torn between going or not going, because on one hand it is very difficult for me to go and they barely interact with me, and on the other hand I may not see him if the cancer that they just recently removed via surgery comes back. Am I obligated to go to this in your opinion?

This morning, my little sister left orange peels in her car seat, in the cup holder parts of it. My mom got really mad at her and told her to clean it up and that she is never allowed in our truck again. Is this fair to my sister? Especially since she only left it once, and it's not like she purposely did it. My mom can be pretty unfair at times and I am just asking to see if anyone agrees with me that she isn't the best person to mother us. If you think I am just being a little girl who cares for her sister, I can tell you that it isn't only that. I love my sister to death, but she is really mean to me sometimes, so it isn't only her I'm looking out for. It's also me because I am tired of the way my mother is treating us. So, with that being said, should my mom be a mom?

She's mad because I've never taken her side and her divorce from him 12 years ago. I'm not on his side either but I support him more because he's the one is not trying to brainwash me. Or alienate me from other family.

My mom says that me and my brother are supposed to have 50 bucks for our birthdays mom went way over that with my brother which caused me to get a shitty gift that im not gonna mention so his stuff was 180 bucks in all mine averaged out at 20 he got a game that was 59.99 a gift card that was 25.00 and a toy that was 19.99 and she wonder why she has no money when my birthday comes around because she spends it on stupid stuff for my brother mom asked me what I wanted for my birthday i said a skateboard but i rethought that then I said Id kinda like a new controller she was likse I can bring you ond from the house yeah one my brother ****** up a handme down so i was basically **** it mom you wanna turn down everything I ask for but make sure to get my brothers **** so is it favoritism

My older sister is 16 and she has a 5 month old baby. She's always out with her friends, leaving her baby with her friends mom, whom they live with, smoking, having sex, etc. She is capable of being a very good mom, only when she is actually with him, with is only 3-4 days out of the week. She'll stay with guys, party, go out of town, or even the state for weeks, leaving her baby. She was recently pulled over for driving without a license and speeding and she feels bad for him (the baby) when she's the one doing bad things. She makes people feel bad for her and him when she's causing this. She felt bad for him because she had to go to jail for a few days because "I won't get to be with him"when she puts herself in these situations. She always has friends over and they scream and smoke and drink with the baby in the next room. She lives in another state so I can't psychically do anything but I don't know what to do. I'm not going to call CPS because shes not putting him in danger but I feel like she needs to step up. What do I do?

For some reason, my dad suddenly became super strict with me once I started college. I still live at home, which is probably why he isn't lenient with me, but I think it's a little too extreme for him to STILL not let me spend the night at my best friends house. He knows I don't have a boyfriend and that I know how to stay safe, so I don't understand his point of view. He's always feared that my friend's family members will sexually assault me or something and doesn't let me go and also thinks I'll get in some sort of legal trouble if stay the night away from home. He never gives me his point of view, he tells my mom all these things. What he tells me is "It's a no because I said so and you must obey me" and refuses to give me any further explanations. What should I do? If he doesn't let me go, should I still go either way? I've never rebelled against him and I don't see what's holding me back anymore, but I don't know....I just don't want him holding me back from my fun especially while I'm still young, but obviously old enough to know right from wrong...I don't want to be 30 and not have any fun memories from my younger years....

So our house is tiny. Two bedrooms, one living room/kitchen and a bathroom right in the middle of the kitchen/living room!! I'm 17 year old girl and have been sharing a room with my 14 year old brother ever since he was born. We have a tiny room with a bunk bed (we can't fit in two beds) a desk, and a wardrobe that you can't open without being squished into the bed opposite. My mum also hangs all the washing in our room cause apparently it dries better so we have no space to beathe or be alone. AND she hangs washing on the door so we can't close it and she comes in whenever she wants to check on it! Especially with both of us being teens and not wanting to be around eachother that much it's so claustrophobic I don't know what to do please help xx

I moved up north about 5 months ago, and everything is going great really far. Around the second month of living here, I met a really great guy. We went on a lot of great dates, shared same interests, and just really liked each other so we become exclusive. Now the thing is, (a good thing) my boyfriend is very conservative. He doesn't necessarily believe to wait until marriage to have sex but he wants to be in a long committed relationship before doing that kind of stuff, so having sex isn't something he wants to do anytime soon. Well my family up here (like aunts, cousins, etc) found out I'm dating someone and they're happy for me, but ever since they found out all they say is "She needs to go on birth control" Its literally every time I see them. My cousin who's a lot older than me (I'm 19 and she's 31) came over the other day and said "Please please don't get pregnant, I made that mistake when I was younger and it's a hard thing to handle at that age" And whenever my aunts see me they say "We're taking you to get birth control as soon as you get health insurance" I completely understand why they want me on birth control but it kinda makes me feel weird when they say it every single time they see me. I over heard my aunt say this to my mom recently, she said "Someone needs to have a talk with your daughter about the birds and the bee's" I feel like they still think I'm a little child in a way. What do you think? Maybe I'm over reacting a bit

My 6yr old sister apparently didn't clean up her orange mess that she left after eating an orange in our Chevy Avalanche Truck, so she is never allowed in it again. She she really be a parent? I meant, should my mom be a parent. Sorry if that was confusing.......

I'm just not very fond of my neice(17) and my nephew(19) they're my brothers "kids"(obviously 17 and 19 are not kids anymore). I want to uninvite them over for Christmas. Neither of them know how to drive, so they'd be coming along with my brother. I don't want them coming. I like my sister's daughter(24) and that is all. I personally believe "young" family members should be kicked out right at 18, and have no contact with parents, siblings, aunts and uncles. Because 18 is a legal adult and it's childish immature to be seen with family at that age. What is a polite way to uninvite my neice and nephew over but tell my sibling to still come? Our family has been excluding neice and nephew since they were 8 and 10 year olds.

My wifes sister and I are pretty heavy drinkers and usually stay up late catching up. It generally always ends up with us having sex. She became sober this past year and im worried our tradition will not hold up. Should I try to convince her to drink?

When the grandparents were alive we all got together with extended family at Christmas. It was Christmas afternoon on dad side and Christmas Eve on mom side. Now that the grandparents have died all we see is one amp and that's cause she doesn't have any kids. My dad says all families did this after the grandparents die or would be too many people. How do I get over this loss? I don't have the ability to host something myself. We see them throughout the rest of the year but never on holidays anymore other than Fourth of July reunion. Christmas is just another day now no more special than Father's Day or Labor Day.

Like I know I do have good hygiene and always take care of my self. She just thinks she's better then everyone just because she's older. And just because I don't cake on pounds of makeup on my face like her she's always thinking I'm ugly. Like my mom played a prank on her last night because my sister likes to be nosy. So she lied saying I was pregnant just as a joke. And my sister fell for it but then afterwards she said "Out of all people who the hell would pick her?" "Just look at her it's self explanatory" That really brought my self esteem down. I've always been bullied since I was six it only stopped when I was 18. I'm 24 now. And every time my sister get's a boyfriend she always make sure to rub it in and there always the same age as me but she is 29 and dates people my age but always has to compare me to them how much more money they have, Or what better they car they drive and just so sick of it. Like I know I'm not the best of looking people but I don't like her saying those things about me I'm fed up. That's her on the left and that's me in the right with the red hair. What do you think of me? Please and do you have any advice I can tell my sister next time she'd like to treat me bad.. Thanks so much..

My mom blames me for everything. If something goes wrong financially, she blames me, if God doesn't bless us, she blames me, when we argue, she blames me. I'm 18 years old and I know I sometimes I have a smart mouth, but everything that goes wrong can't possibly be my fault. When I express my feelings to her, she says that I'm being rebellious and that's why God isn't blessing us. I'm really sick of going through this. I'm at the point where when I go to college, I will never go back to my mom. I love her, but I'm sick of getting blamed for everything.

Is my cousin off limits? Second cousin?

I just recently moved down to florida to be with my mom and step father. I lived with my biological for pretty much my whole life and it is very hard to live with him. I would say and not the only one to say this is he is a control freak and did not treat me very nicely either. He was emotionally and mentally abusive and in my head if i had a very heated argument with him ever i believe he had the potential to possibly be physically abusive. Direct confrontation or showing the sligthest sign of aggression towards him would go anything but well. I am not going to go into details about this but my mom and step dad came up and got me and since i left he has sent me all these text messages and anyone i have talked said it is a massive guilt trip or manipulation and are indeed abusive. To me when i read these texts they seem very normal and thats sad but i want your opinions on them. Here they are. these are from the day i left and these messages are not included with my response. wtf u talking about your gonna put your grandparents in a grave leaving dog all alone every day. Im at work and your drop this on me. Im sitting here crying all the years i took of you this wasny the way to do this. Just talked to pap. Not happy. Your grown and everything but not the way to do it. You've hurt alot of people. Honestly didn't think you could be this mean. wtf won't u call me u devastated me pap nana and probably getting rid of dog. Can not stay alone 13 hrs thx. there idea. Did u ever stop and think what you were doing to everyone. Your pap loved you. You were extremely helpful to him now he doesn't even wanna talk to you. You'll probably never see him again. You were loved dearly by everyone why did u throw it away. I'm heartbroken can't eat called off work today. U can't loved me or you wouldn't have done this. I told you u keep going DON'T CALL ME!!! You absolutley crushed me. Wow. U couldnt be independet or have freedom u never tried. A man would have talked to me bout it. I would of jumped in front of a car to save you I gave u everything I could. I'm very sorry im not perfect I loved you more than anybody in this world. You may not liked everything here BUT IN NO WAY DID I DESERVE THIS. Seen your face book post if you love me so much why you hurt me so bad. Your pap loved you like a son how'd u walk out on him and your entire family and dog. Your letting those people fill your head with nonsense. get back home get in school your future would be brighter here Tim. I don't know how u walked out on pap u know how bad things are. What u were doing to help was very mature running off wasn't. Do u really have any idea how badly u hurt us. PLEASE come back. I've never been disappointed in you ever you were kind considerate caring helpful great person ( never heard him say anything like that to me in my life.). Just walk away from everyone ignore everyone was horrible thing to do. You act like you could care less( which I don't) It doesn't bother you you devastated your family know u down there with them the people who were no were to be found for past 15 years. allen and me have a date only a few hour flight away. Allen my step dad gee your sorry maybe everyone will stop crying now. U have no idea how bad u messed everyone up. You outa be ashamed of yourself. THOSE PEOPLE wanted no part of you til now. There going to ruin your future. And I will have my day with that asshole. Your mom signed all her parental rights away. That's love. Walking out on your family, dog, elderly grandparents was not a grown up thing at all. you've ruined everybody. Living in a trailer in a goat town great future. Put time on it then. I loved you to death proud of you demeanor the way you helped your pap. To call here and say u always liked it with them more was the worst thing anyone has ever said to me I didnt think i could feel this worse but you did it. I took care of you forever never touched you. doctors school sick got u a house dog hardly made you pay anything. i know you dont care but you dissapointed me greatly. Your not that kind gentle caring man i thought u were. this was after we spok Thers no taling to you there pros at leaving hurting people lying they got u brainwashed cant even talk to text someone without discussing with them. Still cant believe u crushed everyone amazing how great of a person you were before they got involved. U say u made decision took 8 months of them talking u into it. Shutting off phone going to bed. You really let everybody down. Dont you understand how bad everyone hurts why did u do this. that is not all of them but i think i showed enough for you to understand my issue what do you guys think everyone i talk to seem to think my dad is being self centered and immature but also think that his messages and motives are very toxic.

Okay, so here's what happened for the last eight months: I'm a Korean student living under loads of academy and studying. Most students here prefer to be either lawyers or doctors since they are profitable. But somehow I realized they're not mine. Instead, I wanna be a writer. And I have tons of ideas and revolutionary genres and so on swirling in my head, waiting to be known... Some of my friends say I should take time but I'm in a rush to finish a book before it's too late. And like I've said, I live under the pressure of studying, and thus I should wake up early to write if I really want to (I don't have time in the afternoon.) Then, considering that I usually sleep at 12:30 p.m, it is nearly impossible that my mother would allow me. Well, sleeping less than 7 hours is bad for my health, and I can get lower grades if I'm feeling sleepy like all the time, so maybe that kind of response is understandable. I won't feel bitter about them... I have good purposes for writing a book, and I don't even want money as a teenager, but I've been hesitating for 8 months and I can't stand it anymore! I've thought enough about this. How and when should I talk to my mom (my dad already approved me. he said I should ask our mighty mom.)? When I think that I found the best time to talk about it with her, somehow I become terrified and just go to sleep... Please, when should I talk to her? Give me frank responses, folks... I can understand you even if you say something discouraging.