Obviously, everybody is going to say that their exes are crazy, but for me it's real. my first ex had an abusive alcoholic mom, and a dad in jail. She now is married with 2 kids, and she's younger than me (I'm 20). My second ex gaslighting me into feeling bad that SHE cheated on ME, and had a mentally unstable mom who threatened to take me to court for no reason. This girl had depression, anxiety, wasn't sure about her sexuality, and had a rough abusive sounding past. The current girl I am talking to has an abusive baby daddy, and she parties every night and drinks and drives all the time. She sends me mixed signals and has a whole messed up past. I've talked to maybe 100 different women and THESE THREE have been the only ones I've been attracted to. Why is this?

What can I do? Most people know the difference between an African (Senegalese, Ivorian, Cameroonian, Kenyan, Nigerian etc). As a black American woman, we are nothing like them culture wise. My people have fought for their people to live in America and most of the migrate here to look down ADOS (American descendants of slaves which are currently known as black Americans). This is beside my point. I told my children growing up that I want full black American grandchildren. My son attended Howard University which is an HBCU and he met this girl. She was born and raised here in America, she doesn't understand or speak her parents native tongue which is Igbo. Most of her friends are surprisingly black Americans, the ethnic group I and my son belong to. I just don't feel right about her. She's of Nigerian descent but my son can do better. He had so many beautiful, young and intelligent black American women to choose from but he decides to choose an African? I'm not xenophobic, I just don't  know what to do. My son is really in love with this girl, he brought her around often prior to the Covid 19. He said her family really likes him. He turned 29 in April and he wants to settle down with her. When I see her, I'm cordial but I just don't want half African grandchildren, only full ADOS. I'm divorced from his father. My other son is dating a white woman who I approve of, because the culture is similar. African culture is different. My daughters are dating black American men.

Why does he pay for sex from another women when all he has to do is ask me

Women innately want to have children, it's biologically imperative that they pair bond with babies and their own children. Yet women will be like "oh I need to focus on my career first", biggest load of BS i've ever heard. There's no "perfect time" to get married or "perfect time" to have children. You just do it and rise up to the challenge and provide for them. it's as simple as that. No one is ever ready to grow up, it just happens and you grow and mature and learn. Life is about the journey, not putting things off until the "perfect moment". You'll be waiting for the perfect moment forever and it'll never come. You just do it and you enjoy the process and you rise to occasion or you fail. That's life. Yes it's important to be financially stable, but there's no magic salary you need in order to have kids. There's people on welfare who have 8 kids with 4 different dads, and they still get things done and raise their children. There's immigrants who have children and move here to America with literally nothing, and they make it work. And then you have these 29 year old college graduate women making 80k a year saying they aren't ready yet because they need to be more financially secure.. lol. If a woman doesn't have kids by 35, she's probably never going to have them or is un-datable for some reason such as mental illness or unattractive. Most mentally stable women want to have children and do so when they meet the right man by age 32. They act like you can't focus on your career and have a family at the same time. You work 40 hours a week, focusing on your career doesn't mean you ignore every other aspect of your life. Every person in the world has a job, and they still have kids and raise a family all while working. You aren't special because you have a career and it doesn't need to be the focal point of your life. newsflash....99% of married couples have jobs, they don't get divorced because they got a new job

My husband Sam has been very lazy lately and will not do the garden bed for our little daughter that has recently passed away from the flu. (PS. This was not from the anti-vaxing) How should I divorce my husband of 26 years for this lousy effort. I am planing on taking our other two children with me, but I don't know how to divorce him without a fight. Please Help! I'm fed up with him.

Here my love. I castrated your favorite plant so you can have its genitals as proof of my love for you.

Do they get reminded about it? If yes, then what do they do when they meets them someday or gets reminded about all the things they did with them for first time like love, sex, kissing, cuddling, dating, etc creating permanent memories with them?

what can the wife do for her virgin husband who did'nt sleep around with multiple partners like for fun? Should the husband sleep around with other women so that he too can become equal with his wife as gender equalityis important for everyone?

I mean he has other daughter but she is with a different mom . He has seemed like a caring doting dad but he has been busted with escorts many times so I'm wondering about his true intention 

We have sex somewhat often, she lost her virginity to me. We are both 17. We slept on a trampoline together 2 nights in a row and on the second night/: she was acting really weird. Standing up talking in her sleep and then just plopping down. She then asked me to finger her and I started to and kept saying her name making sure she was awake. Then I stopped bc I wanted to do more and she turned on her side so I thought she wanted more too. I put it inside of her and went til I finished (outside of her) the next morning she was acting really weird. My bestfriend eventually told me she was saying I raped her. I confronted her about it sobbing and trying to get her to talk to me but she wouldn't. She was so mad and jumpy every time I got near and would not let me sit near her in the car. We went to her best friends grandmas house and I waited in the car for an hour and a half. She wanted to pay for a shuttle to bring me four hours home which didn't end up happening. Finally after talking to her bestfriend sobbing about it she came out to talk to me. I told her my whole story and she's still not really believing it. She finally left and said "you're being too hard on yourself over this, I'll forget it but I don't want to date you" and left. Now she's super sad and angry at me and we aren't really talking and I've sent her long messages and she responds sometimes with like 3 words. What do I do/: please I need help. I can't let go. That morning she left with my friends car to go get plan b bc she forgot to take her birth control that day too/:

me & my husband have been together since 2007, & finally got married in 2019. he hasn't worked since 2010. i pay everything. we have no marital property, only our separate property. we have no kids. currently we are in the process of buying a home, the contract has been signed in my name only, due to his no credit and no job. however, recently he started drinking a lot to the point that hes drunk & falls asleep, then wakes up & drinks more & smokes pot. he also recently started threatening separation when i refuse to give him money for alcohol or get him alcohol, & he started flirting with other guys online & attempted to cheat on me, he refuses intimacy. i don't know why i love him, but i do. he has severe anxiety & depression, he refuses to get help for alcoholism. i am tired of being treated like crap by him. i cant handle it anymore. as far as i know, i have to give him money. and when i try not to, he just gets it from his family & uses it on mainly alcohol. so my question is, is there a way out? can i just go ahead and leave him without worry & move into the new house after the closing? do i see if he will agree to sign a post nuptial agreement or separation form? how will it work? the current home we rent, is in his name, the utilities are in mine, if i leave, that means cutting the utilities off, which would be spousal abandonment since he has no income to pay any bills. so if i just leave, will he have a claim to the new house or alimony etc? whats my best option? talked to him, and hes agreed to sign a post nuptial and work on things or seperation agreement if neccessary, and if things dont get better. but which one do we do? he can have everything in the house we rent, as long as he cant come after me for money or the new house. also we cant afford a divorce attorney.

My stepkids mom recently had a baby and we all 4, including her husband, get along really well. I even held the baby because it just didn't feel weird to me. Anyway, my husband was telling me earlier about how he saw the step kids step dad and they were talking about how she couldn't breast feed so he was buying formula and my husband said to him, "I told you.", because he knew it was hard for her to breast feed before. He told all of this to me and idk if it should make me feel weird, but it did. I guess my husband didn't think anything of it, but I thought it was kind of weird. Does this seem a bit odd? 

My fiance began looking up women he works with when I am away and at home...we been together for 7 years and not married. In February after almost separating we promised to change. He promised he'd stop hiding away to watch porn...he promised he wasn't even doing it anymore. He said he was done done. I began to wonder if it was different this time as he made this promise before but more concerned about the women at work. We barely go without making love and we have had a pretty adventurous time doing it... seems like I will never be enough for him though and I don't want to marry someone I can't trust let alone be with him. He knew that it was the last straw for me when he began looking up females from work in February...it literally crushed me. We were supposed to be building a foundation of trust that we agreed to do so to heal. To overcome those things... found out this morning as I had suspected he never quit watching porn and who knows what else and how long. I feel so stupid for believing him once again and find myself not knowing what to do.  He said he is faithful and just has a porn issue since adult hood... I have done literally so much different stuff for him sexually and we even watch it together...it just feels like a betrayal now after all in the end of finding the stuff about women at work.  Feel like I don't want to wait around to see what the end result will be.  We have a whole life together with children. I feel at loss. 

What else can the wife do with her exes after marriage in the name of modernism? Can she still sleep with all her exes saying that she is only having sex with them without emotions and so its not a big thing?

Do they think they are losers and boring? Do they (non virgin wives) feels themselves more superior than their husbands as they have explored everything with many partners and knows everything about love, sex, break ups, relationships, dating, kissing, cuddling, different acts, etc but their husband does'nt know anything about it and are below compared to their experiences about it?

Or what is ? Themasons and usa and the queen of uk has violated our rights with a genovide and an unratified by people parliament and foreign parties and shouldn t have been allowed to vote without knowing the origins of these parties they therefore are nule also people don t know that the mariage is laicist and we are raped by laivist laws .

First things first - I love my wife.  When we got married 3 years ago she was drop dead gorgeous and had a fantastic figure. She looked great in a little dress or in tight jeans. A real head turner.  I can't help but feel that she's stopped making an effort now. Since she's been on maternity leave with our second child she's gone up a dress size and doesn't have that fantastic figure that I fell in love with.  I don't want to come across as mean, but what's the best way to tell her she needs to get back in shape for the good of her health?

We got married at Christmas and it was so romantic. We used to have a great sex life but recently it's dried up.  I'm 19 and my husband is 32. At new year his father was diagnosed with cancer and shortly after both of his grandparents died.  Since then he's had no interest in sex. We haven't done it for 9 days now.  Should I be re-evaluating my marriage? I feel it's gone stale