Any suggestions?  I cant stand my wife anymore. Covid made me realize shes the last person I want to stay in quarantine with ever again. She does not change or she changed I did? I hate how we've become slobs. So I snapped out of it and shes not on board with me. More like baggage.  Is it wrong to want a hot sexy wife who does not nag at you constantly? Or yell? Our house needs bar rescue and a visit from hoarders. I'm discusted because most of it is her junk from her last divorce. She wont clean her bedroom. Yes we stay in separate rooms now lol. Mine is spotless.  I feel like her father comming down on her too much. 

She snaps at me, we fight every day now. I cant take it anymore. She looks like jabba the hut always laying on her bed on her phone or watching tv. She gets angry if I try to show her exercises, and tries to discourage me when I'm feeling confident or happy. I now demand personal space a lot. She gets high and I wish I could afford to leave. I really dont think she will change. Shes also a negative person and we used to have fun together but stopped. So I spend a lot of my time and energy trying g to keep the place clean and I exercise a lot, but it's not motivating around her. Like her energy is depressing. Is it wrong to want out?  Plus shes lazy. Her attitude stinks. I do so much work around here by myself. I decided to stop criticizing  her and I told her I cant stand a messy place. It's been  years now we've been together.  How can I be happy until I move out? I am tired of finishing the endless remoding her ex and sons left from a decade ago.   I'm a nice guy and feel taken advantage of.

My mentally ill aunt lives in a third world country. Nobody in that country really cares enough to take care of her and when people do try to help she refuses it. My mother, who lives in America, is the one who pays people to feed her. So lately I don't know what's going on. My aunt is just straight up refusing to eat... Someone sent my mom a picture of my aunt on Whatsapp and that woman was skin and bones...  It made my mother cry and I only saw her cry twice in my life. My mom is trying to look into mental institutions to put her in but she doesn't really know where any are.  Is there anything I can do to help? 

my parents bought a car a few years back and its been passed down through the family. it was finally given to Lauren and it broke down (total loss). a few months later, a family friend gave us another car because they were getting a new car. mind you, this car is older (2007). but even though it's older it still looks good and drives smooth. my parents originally gave me this car because they had given Lauren a car before she totaled it. SIDE NOTE: i don't have a license yet so they are allowing her to drive it until she gets her own car. i was and still am excited to get a car. i don't care if it's older because i can always get it fixed up and repainted. to this day i'm in love with the car. but my sister always criticizes and complains about my car. she says it's ugly and drives too slow. she knows that its mine but she'll still talks bad about it right to my face. i don't know if she's trying to be funny, if she is upset that they car was given to me instead of her, or if it makes her feel better about herself. THAT'S NOT ALL: she even hit a wall with MY car and left a huge scratch on the passenger side. i didn't even say anything about it because she probably would've said it was junk anyway. whenever i talk about fixing it up, she gets super quiet and doesn't seem happy for me. but when she talks about her getting a newer car, i'm always 1000% supportive. i've mentioned my plans to fix it up (new paint, radio, rims) but she still makes jokes. my family notices it too.

I'm only 14 but I've been recently trying to take care of my health and workout out. My dad has been a great source of anger and stress in my daily life. In fact I'm writing this after sitting and crying in the bathroom because of him. I always loved cooking but my dad always yelled at me for not cleaning up thoroughly enough. Since my mental and overall health has been improving I decided I would dedicate some time everyday to change and do what he said, wash all the dishes, clean the house and clean my room. My parents pretty much never clean but still yell at me for not doing enough. I was just cleaning the dishes when he started yelling into my ears about how I was causing all the mess. I didn't do any of it and it was my sisters. I explained only to get yelled at more. I got mad so I stopped washing the dishes and ran to the bathroom to calm down. I feel like I need to cut him out if I want to improve my own life. The plate thing was only 1/100th of the reason I want to cut him off. He throws my **** out, I can't have normal conversation without getting yelled at, he hit me plenty of times before when I was younger. Im also pretty sure my parents are going to divorce soon too. My mom has gathered up so much anger over the years about how she's making 90% of the houses income and he's wasting his time watching tv all day. Should I just stop talking to him. 

 my sons father texted me  today telling me to have my and his son ready at a certain time to get picked up, when he knows that I'm at work and I told him Sorry he would have to wait till I'm off since my sons father has never wanted to meet my partner hence he doesn't want my partner to hand off my son to him. (It's been six years) so my sons father told me to tell my partner to just leave my son at the door and that he'll pick him up at the door so he won't have to see my partner. I said no because my son is 6 and he notices everything and he'll start to ask why he's being handed off like that. Am I over reacting?

This morning before I left for work, I told my mom I want to go over to my bf's place for 2 days (going over tonight and coming back Sunday) and she immediately gave me attitude. Saying I'm always listening to what my bf says (which is not true), and that I'm a unfilial daughter. Instead of usual arguments I've had with her when something like this came up, I just calmly said to her "forget it, I'm not going over". And I didn't say anything to her afterwards, to which she then said since I already packed, to just go. I found her unreasonable and overreacted on this. She made it seem like I did something so wrong that I deserved to be yelled at. And to be clear, my bf told me to think about it and let him know later in the day, he is fine with whatever decision. It wasn't like I immediately agreed when he asked me to go over to his place. I have stayed at his place before, and sometimes my mom is fine, but most times, she'll give me attitudes like this, which always resulted in arguments. I didn't argue with her this time and just did what she wanted. But doesn't mean I agree with her reaction and what she said to me. Do I still need to apologize to her? Something so simple and normal, she made such a big issue out of it.

I was talking to my mom and aunt (my uncle's sisters) because after my aunt  got re-married they stopped talking to my aunt. My aunt got married 5 years after my uncle passed away not right away. Due to this my cousins started to shift away from the family. I was talking to my aunt and mom because they "claim" that they have no issue with my aunt. Yet I clearly remember one christmas when my aunt went to our  over after she got re married and no one talked to her, she sat in a couch by herself the whole night. HOW mean is that! My mom said that never happened, but I know it did. Anyways I did not like the fact that I personally know that they were upset at my aunt and are denying it. I asked my mom so if she comes to your house will you say hi, my mom said no. So how is that not having an issue? My mom went on to saying when my aunt went to speak with her to let her know she was getting married my aunt told her "your brother was my past and I have to move on" my mom said that is why she is hurt that she told my aunt "well if my brother was your past so am I" my mom has the right to be hurt by her comment at the end of the day she made the comment about her brother. I understand my mom, but I think its time to hash the drama and move on. I told her that my aunt was the woman my uncle chose and the mother of her nieces despite her comment I think they should try to mend the relationship.My mom got upset at me because she thinks im taking my aunts side in reality I'm not siding.

So today I had an online classes and I couldn't attend the class due to some family problem....so I didn't attend the class then Iater I send my teacher a msg telling him that I was sorry and that I couldn't attend the class due to my family problem(which was the truth)he didn't answer me....i'm scared that he might hate me for missing one of his class....i really like this teacher and I'm a good student

I ask this because my mom is not allowing me to do my daily walks to the shops everyday......shes afraid I m gonna catch covid 19 and give it to her. I live in Centeral Queensland, where there are no active cases of Covid 19. I ve tried to tell her that Centeral Queensland is a safe place but, she believes the virus is still out there and is still afraid I m gonna catch it. I m 27 and mom is 61.

My final year at uni was a bust because I spent so much time driving her around and doing her housework for her.  I had let my sister be my roommate because she had "too much anxiety " to find herself a roommate.  If I asked her to help out, she screams and breaks things.   She and our mom would blow up my phone when I went to my BF's house until I'd come home at night, because my sister was "too anxious " to be in the apartment by herself. She also did not want him coming back to our place because of her anxiety.    Now I can't see my BF even though I will be moving across country in 6 weeks and can only see him on the weekends, because my sister has health issues and cannot be exposed to the virus.  If I were living alone like I had been before, I could have still seen him because I'm at home the rest of the time.   Our parents pushed me into this from the start.  They forget that I have a life outside of tending to my sisters anxiety.  I haven't had a friend over in 2 years and can't stay out late because of her yet she has friends over all the time.  If I say anything to her she will become destructive 

I feel like my family doesn't understand me everything I say they say the opposite they tell me I'm just lucky my grandma says I need god my mom is judgmental and my Poppop is just plain stupid. Idk what to do I want to be happy but it seems impossible around this family 

My dad has been in a relationship with my stepmom for about 5 years now. They have only been living together during the last 3 years of the relationship. She has a son who is a couple of years younger than me. Both me and her son live at home (my dad doesn't mind me being here while I'm working to pay for school). In the beginning of my dad's relationship with her we all got along great and spent a lot of time together as a family. I thought she was great, she even helped me come out to my dad, which made me think highly of her in comparison to my dad's ex girlfriend who was homophobic and thought praying the gay away was the answer. But during the last couple of years my dad's girlfriend has changed drastically. I wouldn't say she's been rude to me any way, but that might also just be because I'm a grown woman and not a child who will put up with nonsense quietly. I am 22 years old and my dad and I have always been close, but our relationship suffered while I've been spending most of my time studying in my room or working. We just grew apart a little bit because I simply wasn't around even when I was home. However I've been trying to spend quality time with him during this quarantine because I'm out of work and not in school. But I only ever see his girlfriend spending time with him downstairs when I'm home unexpectedly and then she rushes up to their bedroom and dad stays with me. Why do you think my dad's girlfriend avoids being with my dad when I'm around?

I noticed that in USA people tell to 20 yo who say their parents are strict to move out.  In Italy people say to 30 yo who are complaining about their parents to move out. Why?

So my mom, grandma and uncle sometimes refer to me and my sister (and some others in the family) as mommas. Not sure I spelt it right, but does anyone know why or if there's a translation to it or anything? Dunno if this helps, but my family is Hispanic.

I hate my mother and her side of the family. My brother and my oldest cousin think i should be around the family but i hate them! I hate them so much that i can feel my heart burn, i hate them because ever since i was a child my grand mother and aunt would hunt me and my brother down like slaves they'd chased us scratched us and beat us for small **** that clumsy kids do like mistakenly hitting their friends kid with a jump rope or accidently dropping a baby (ok thats horrible but the baby was in the stroller and he or she fell on the grass ) but the point is i was wayy under ten when it happened and my auntie took her nails and dug into my leg and they chased brother for accidently hitting a girl with a jump rope the whole family chased him under the 🏠 and we use to get beaten with sticks and bats when she got drunk but she never beat her favorite grandkids one day i had to pull a knife out on her when i was 9 because i got tired of running from her i hate her she told my brother she knew we were in dcfs but she didnt care my mother neglected me because my friends stole her laptop but she through away their clothes beforehand all because i got tired of going to school in rags so i took 400 and spent it on me and my friend but that was in the 8th grade and my mother bothered the girl until we were teens but i was the one outside anorexic and sick at 15 sleeping on someones porch waiting until the hospital to take me in. I dont ever want to see family ever again

This hasn't happened yet, but it will eventually. My grandma is 83 years old. She is the only person willing to listen to my problems and provide protection and comfort to me. I don't like my parents or my brother at all, so I always saw her as the most important person in my life. I never really paid much mind to my grandpa either, but he died 4 years ago and it broke me. It still hurts today, but at least I don't cry every day over him. I don't want to lose her, but I know it's inevitable. How do I cope with it and continue living with no purpose? Typo in the title. *my life

My dad gets drunk a lot and yells at me. I already have depression but he makes me want to run away. He stopped yelling for a while and I thought everything was getting better but last night he started screaming and I don't know if I can take anymore. Telling the authorities could result in me and my siblings being separated in foster care cus my mom can't take care of us. 

I been on my own for two years and it's been difficult because I'm doing things on my own. I was living with family but they moved away. My son and his mom are here but she doesn't help me. I barely hear from them.

growing up my mother wud twist thingsup. she wud go topic to topic telling me what i did wrong such as a towel on the bathroom floor  causing mildew meaning i wanted her to lose her house , or saying howclothes on the floor meant i wanted her 2 rewash them 2 take her time up etc.she wud say how i want her 2 die of a heart attack n dance on her grave, how im the meaniest person she ever meant, nd how if i wasn't her daugther she wudnt want me, no1 else wants me but her,and how im a little wench, and selfish. i wud fight back by saying i hate her n she wud twist the story up saying she was only tellin me 2 clean nicely n how i just exploded. if i didnt agree with her twisted story she wud keep crtizing me n the more i wud cry r show anger r not agree with the fake story she wud do it more. then she wud bringup the fake story 2 my grandfather n family n they said how i shud b put away in a home. she wud say im goin 2 give my grandfather a heart attack 4 bein mean 2 her. yet she wud bring it up 2 him.she wud say how the fam said no1 else wud dealwit me n how she was a saint 4 it. she wud bring up the story to the pyschs that way n hey didnt believe me. her fake stories got me on ssi 4 her rent money. she told me no1 wanted me bc im slow. i asked 2 cook n do laundry n she wud yell i am lazy n then that im 2 slow. she said dnt get a job bc im 2 slow n will lose mi ssi. im 23 now have ptsd n she always says im sick n need 2 b put away how i am ssi bum advoids me(i go 2 college) why?

I think he's a little too old for him , and I don't want him seeing him. He's always at his place and is never home. He should be at home because of the lockdown.

My father is 50 years old and quit his job. I live with my spouse we live on our own. My father does some strange things. For example, when I am arriving home from work to my apartment I can see him chasing me in his car and runs in my house and expects to be fed, the problem is I had a long day at work and really wanted to come home to some ice cream and no social maybe a nap. He also has done this numerous times, where he asked me if he can sleep over my house, demands me to cook a breakfast. He even demanded once I leave my baby and spouse along so we can go to Vegas and get drunk. I felt quite offended, why would I leave my baby and wife alone? They are now a part of my trips, my trips are family trips. What is his problem and is this normal?

My sister is not really an extrovert, she stays in the house and plays video games all day with her online friends. I have no problem with this, but lately it's been problematic. She didn't want to get a job in the past, but has now gotten one, which is great! The problem is that she works very part time, and complains all the time. She is 25 years old, and refuses to help around the home. I end up doing a majority of the chores. She only does something when you tell her to. Today, my family wanted to have dinner, so I decided to cook and asked my sister to help out. She just went up to her room and played video games, came back down, then asked if I needed help when I was all done. My mother and I sat down, and she wanted to take her food up to her room, and my mother refused this and told her to eat with the family. She went back up to her room, and my mother and I finished eating. She then came down after 20 minutes and my mother was not pleased. My mother told her that she couldn't even spend family time together for 20 minutes. My sister said she was busy (playing video games with her friends.) My sister got angry and marched back up to her room and is now playing games again. She doesn't have a clue that leading this lifestyle will come back and bite you in the ***. I am moving out in a year once I join the military, and will live my own life from them. My sister is not appreciative at all, never says thank you, and doesn't understand the burden she puts on others.

My graduation is on saturday and it's being done differently due to the virus. But tomorrow they're having a bonfire near a beach for seniors, no parents, obviously there will be precautions taken. Originally my mom was going to take me, but we've never been to this beach before. Then my friend offered to give me a ride there, since she knows where the place is. And my parents know my friend very well too. So I told my parents about her taking me instead. But then my parents both got this attitude as if they didn't want me to go anymore. Saying that I would get sick from the virus and that it's "dangerous" to get a ride from someone right now. Then my mom insisted that she wanted to go with me but I told her no because no one else parents will be there. About a week ago they had fireworks as another celebration for us, and they made me miss that. Even though I'm allowed to go to the store in an enclosed space... They're still letting me go, but we're they unreasonable or was I wrong? It would just be me and my friend in her car, and it's not a very far drive either

My brother doesn't know how to piss I swear he always go for the seat thing idk what is called and everytime I want to sit and take a piss there piss everywhere I talked him about this and just says that he doesn't care or he'll clean it later or but this idiot doesn't understand that I need to piss now not later and my mom doesn't give a crap she just tell him to stop which is clearly not working because he keeps doing it I really need help on how to make him stop he never have done this before why now? 

My younger brothers graduation is coming up and my parents are throwing him a backyard party. Our backyard was just sand so within a week we worked hard and got it party ready. Now they want me to dress up in fancy clothes for him and his party. I have a problem with this since for my graduation a couple years ago they didn't dress up and we just went out for Mexican food for dinner that's it. It hurts that they are putting so much thought into his but not mine. They're good parents and try hard. I want to tell them but idk. Should I and how? She thinks I'm mad about wearing a skirt, which I'm not thrilled about, but I can deal with that. I'm upset at the difference between graduations

My younger brothers graduation is coming up and my parents are throwing him a backyard party. Our backyard was just sand so within a week we worked hard and got it party ready. Now they want me to dress up in fancy clothes for him and his party. I have a problem with this since for my graduation a couple years ago they didn't dress up and we just went out for Mexican food for dinner that's it. It hurts that they are putting so much thought into his but not mine. They're good parents and try hard. I want to tell them but idk. Should I and how?

She is like Donald Trump and / or Adolf Hitler. 

I don't see my dad and stepmom that often but today I arrived at their place for a week of visit. After having dinner we chilled but we just went to our own rooms because it's late and everyone wants to be alone before going to sleep.  Well it's 1.24am now and I can obviously hearing them having sex. It's really weird and I really wanna go knock on their door but at the same time I don't wanna ruin their moment. Any advice on what to do? They are 37 and 29*