The only friends I have are 1) people who live far away and rarely put in effort to maintain the friendship, so I let it slip away. I hear from them maybe twice a year on messenger. 2) my SO's group of friends mostly made up of couples, 4 couples not including us, one guy and one girl, we hang out as a group every couple of months. I guess technically some of my co workers could be friends, but I dont count them because I rarely see them outside of work.

I was not with my friend group at this time, but I found out later that they were being stupid and were having a competition of who could yell an insensitive swear word the loudest. Some other kid knocked on their dorm room and told them to stfu. This was a couple years ago. Do I hold a responsibility by having these friends? I had a hard time finding friends when I first started college and I kept them in my life because I figured people make mistakes. At first I didn't think i had any duty to be a babysitter for them but I also realize there is something known as guilty by association.

Hello there. I know this sounds weird, but I really want to talk to some British people. Since I don't live in the UK, I'm having some trouble finding some. Any idea how I can find some?

Suppose you are 33 right now and you met a lot of people and made friends in the past during high school and college years.   But eventually they became toxic and annoying.   They wasted your mental health and time by being a jerk.   have you done that?  how many?

I'm 24 and my friends are never there for me. I only really see them to get drunk and that's the only time we all see each other. I don't have friends I see in the daytime really, they are all in relationships so see their other halves day time and just get drunk with friends. Pretty lonely for me and really they're terrible friends. I live in London, so how do I make new friends. I have lots of interests: art, film, cooking, etc! I went on a short course earlier in the year, but didn't make friends, it was a mixture and not too friendly. Please help!

I went to my class reunion and a classmate Judy was there. Judy was the person that tutored me in high school. Without her help I would have NEVER passed math and if I didn't pass math, I didn't graduate. I went on to a successful career after college. I told Judy I was VERY grateful for her tutoring help in high school and I wanted to show her how much I appreciated it. I invited her and her husband to join me for dinner at Ruth's Chris. She told me her husband would not let her go on a date with a guy. I though how could it be a date if he was with her. I thought her husband must be a nut job so I forgot about it. A few months later Judy called and asked it the dinner invitation was still good? I said sure. She told me she had divorced her control freak jerk of a husband and wanted to do something that was fun for her for a change. After dinner she told me that was the most fun she had had in years and asked if we could do it again. I am sorry she has been treated so badly by her ex husband but I am not interested in a serious relation with her. Should I tell her up front that I am not interested in a serious relationship but I would be happy to take her on a FEW just for fun dates? Gals, please give me your advice. I don't want to hurt her or make her feel bad in any way. She has had enough problems in her past life and I don't want to add to her problems.

So I vibe the most with this friend of mine I met online;-;; we're so close but lately she's not even active on social media she repliess really latee and it really saddens me bc I feel very lonely. How do I get rid of this attachment so it will hurt less?

He is the best roommate, friend and business partner Sometimes he will limit communication with me in a weird way and he will invest deeply in phone conversations, and text messages. I understand that sometimes we need space, but i know the difference between us needing space and when something is wrong. He got really defensive the other day because I asked him too many questions about the plan for the day, this is because we were running errands together, but he was being so discreet with me. I am confused because I'm damned for talking to him, but he'll go and fix my car. He'll do something nice for me, but he'll be cold emotionally and unavailable.Side note: I'm a selective mute and an introvert. I am usually quiet. Even with him. And I was doing well just sitting in silence until i got tired of being quiet. Am I ungrateful because this upsets me? I love that he is amazing in making sure everything is good for us, but I'm hurting because I cant even talk to the closest person to me, someone that's way more than a friend to me. I told how i felt and it upset him. He thinks that I don't recognize all that he does for me. I always express gratitude. However every time there is a problem between us, he always mentions all that he has done for me, even when that is irrelevant to the problem. Am I wrong for wanting to be in his world after he's done good things for me? Am I wrong for being upset?Am I wrong for trying to have basic communication? Am I being ungrateful?  He's turned me into an enemy in his head. When I expressed my emotions he thought I was trying to stress him out and get a rise out of him. Now he attacks me for everything i do and say towards him because he thinks I'm purposely trying to upset him in a backhanded way. 

Alright so there is this really toxic person in my friend group who nobody really likes in our school. She has lied about a ton of things including being transgender(!) and is a really mean, manipulative person.  I broke friends with her around last September and I was scared because my other friend Gemma did the same earlier and the toxic friend made it really hard for her. However it wasn't so bad with me and we were more or less civil. But there is this thing she does where after a while she starts to be overly friendly again and calls us her friend. It's really irritating and my friend Gemma has fallen into the trap of becoming her friend again and after realising she breaks it off again (NOT a healthy cycle for both of them).Does anybody know ways of being civil but not too civil to the point where she thinks we're her friend again? Thanks 💕

I feel like I'm certainly well rounded. I have my good qualities and my bad qualities like everyone. But I do this thing about every 2 weeks (but it's been coming up more recently) where I go full anti. I've had a boyfriend for a year and when I get these "mood swings" I feel like he's the most annoying, clingy, obnoxious person on this planet. I want to breakup with him, I don't want to talk to him, I don't even want to look at him... for no reason.... everything he does just pisses me off. And then a couple days later I'm fine. This has been happening so often, that I can ignore him for days and he texts me and says "are you doing the thing again?"... he knows I get the mood swings, but I didn't tell him how they make me feel towards him. This has affected all my friendships too. Every friend I ever had I stopped talking to. And it didn't even phase me. People I've known for years, that I was fine with yesterday, and just got rid of them for no reason. I had this one best friend (we were friends my sophomore and junior year of high school) that I had the best bond with, shared everything with, and spent so much time and energy with, and loved like she was my own family. One day I said "I don't really like her anymore" and just never talked to her again and didn't even tell her about it. I just decided we weren't friends anymore and she didn't know what happened. I'm scared this is gonna get worse. Is there a term for this or am I just antisocial or bipolar? Or overreacting 

My friend and I both like to fish, and we know guns, so we are decent with outdoors. We are also both young and in decent shape so we could probably get away easier the average lazy or older people. To be honest, we do not know much about dinosaurs though, but we have common sense which should prevail. We also both are in shape and do not have huge body fat, so we have better than average mobility. We would stick together and have each others back. We also would likely be less than good guys, and more like the guys trying to steal embryos or something to make some cash. Our real goal is to make enough money so we don't have to work anymore and can be free for the rest of our lives. So what would happen to us? Would we survive, be eaten, or die in another way? Answer honestly and write what would happen to us, please.

We were at a point where she considered me her best friend, we hung out often, texted everyday for two months and ate together a lot, we both confessed our feelings to each other, but she already had a boyfriend, we agreed to stay as friends, but then she began to change after a few weeks. Me being insecure, started feeling bad inside and asked her why she wasn't talking to me much, in short, I annoyed her and she began avoiding me at work, I asked her if I messed up and she said I didn't do anything that it was all on her, I caught her looking at me often, but she continues to avoid me, she talks about me with other workers but never talks to me about anything, I began feeling hurt because I feel like she isn't my friend anymore, she looks like she wanted to talk to me again yesterday, so we did and she went back to being friendly for a day, but after all the insecurity and uncertainty I don't really know whether to continue giving her space and leaving her alone or to try and talk to her again. I just want to have control of my life again She seemed torn about talking to me, but anytime I do anything it just makes things worse, so I leave her alone but it makes me feel bad inside because I actually do want to talk to her and continue being friends At some point I felt like just giving up, switching my schedule or even getting a new job

I have a close friend who I just happened to be roommates with my freshman year of college. We grew extremely close over the year and became like best friends. She annoyed me like hell sometimes but we always came back together. Its summer now and we text every now and then. We are rooming again together in the fall so its mostly about that or memes or something and she brought me one of my favorite movies last month and told me how excited she was to give it to me. So in the past month everything has been going crazy with the blm things and the riots going on and there has been kind of a separation with the races. Today I was at the dinner with my dad and my cousin and they were both saying how there coworkers texted them and asked how they were doing during all of this. (Im black btw) This kinda hurt because I didnt get a text from any of my white friends including her  In fact I text her a week ago and it took her 2 days to answer which isnt really like her and then when she finally answered she was acting kinda weird and was just like "Great! Thank you! Sorry I didnt answer" which normally isnt how she talks to me it sounded like she was talking to a stranger. Idk i always assume the worst but it makes me think she was doing something shady or something that weve had discussions about earlier and i told her not to do. Im nervous or is this whole thing about the protests and race thing going on and maybe she feels weird? Idk is she being shady?!