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When I was 10 my uncle in law tackled me onto a sofa and lay on top of me making a small grinding motion along with a noise my reaction went from laughing to freezing and feeling like something wasnt right. I alway remember it, its never left my memory. He once threw me against a flight of stairs when he was drunk and angry. when my mother died they where putting the lid on the coffin, I touched her shoulder on last time, he then approached me and said "I thought I d be the last one to touch her" along with beating his son. I live each day with this nagging guilt that I am taking it the wrong way or I m just over reacting. Since I can remember I ve struggled with various issues like sevire self harm, one suicide attempt and other things like ocd and anxiety

My girlfriends grandma lives with her, and more and more my girlfriend is in a mad mood Her grandma a lot of times stressed her out, and I'm getting worried about her. She never seems happy anymore. She hardly never get a break from taking her of her grandma. I guess her grandma is always making noises. She will be standing, and eating and just keep saying loudly ah, ah. She will be looking out the window, and say yahoo, Yahoo. And other noises as such. It's all the time. My girlfriend always had to stop what she is doing to help her, and clean after her. She will leave a mess, and just walk away. She got sugar all over the counter top, and left it. She spill soup, and left it. She's always dropping food. My girlfriend gets yelled at all the time. Her grandma is always losing things, and half the time My girlfriend gets the blame. My gf has to watch what she says. E.g. her grandma took money out of the bank and my gf said put that some place safe. (Grandma left it on bed) her grandma said stop treating her like a baby. My girlfriend made food inn a crock pot, grandma wont eat it. So she has to run out and buy food. And the list goes on...

I have bad news but it isn't serious or anything it's just I wanna tell my parents I'd like to quit dance even tho I've done it for 8 yrs now, I just don't like ballet. I'm sure they'll allow me to do it, cause they're not making me but I know they'll be a little upset because I think it's not refundable. I KNOW it's gonna be a waste throwing my dads money away like that but I honestly can't take it anymore I just don't enjoy the classes. This WAS supposed to be my last year and my parents knew they just don't think I'm gonna call it quits halfway, but I just want more studying and free time. Anyways, my dad is in a bad mood because he needs to catch up on work( he works at home ) but idk if I should tell him now while he's already in a bad mood or when he's in a good mood? I have dance in like 2 hours sooo should I wait and just go or what.

So im in a relationship with a guy whom I love to pieces. We are both 20 years old and I was working and living with him and his family because I didnt have anywhere to go at the time. We argued every now and then but i seem to notice that everytime we do argue, his mom or his family gets in it and when they do, it seems to me like his mom puts blame on me for every single one of his actions. She just thinks he doesnt do anything wrong. one time he was drunk and we argued and it got bad,physically bad so I called the cops and they took him to jail, now all of a sudden his mom decided to put me out and actually put a restraining order on me to where i cant even come back to that address. Like me and her son have been together for 2 years and she doesnt like me because she thinks im the reason he went to jail and is facing serious time. His grandpa doesnt want him talking to me and they just wont allow me around the house where he lives at and i cant do anything about it because its his mom's house but its definitely not fair the way they treat me. Its like they blame me for him going to jail but fail to see the actions behind it. Her son does something to get himself in these situations and she instantly blames the other person. He doesnt stand up to her If me and him want a future together, whats the best way to go about the situation because i definitely do not wanna be married to man knowing his family is going to forever hate me and continue to blame me.

This is something I've been wondering for a while. I've read many stories about people meeting their parents who gave them up for adoption years ago. I'm legitimately curious about why adopted children want to meet their biological parents so badly. Are the parents that raised them just not good enough for them? Why do they care so much about meeting people that were never part of their lives?

Moms a gambler that literally has no emotions, havent even messaged her in 2 years because i denied helping her financially. My dads an over emotional alcoholic that puts his friends before his family, used to hit his children and is constantly two faced. My sisters are either junkies, or honestly so stupid to the extent that their existence harms the family. For an example, my sister almost got hit by her ex with a truck, after i told her she needed to stop talking to the guy after the 7th incident. I dont get it, why are they all so ******* stupid. I just want to leave, yet i have no license, no way of leaving this shitty *** family. Why are they like this mentally?

So this is confusing me, my dad was married once before my mom and his ex wife had a son from a marriage before my father. My father raised the boy as his own. My question is what does that make that man to me ? A step brother? This is confusing because he is much much much older than me who is 21 at this moment. Like I always thought of the man as an uncle but obviously he is not. Is there a correct term like step brother twice removed or something?

I have been married for 3 years now and my husband and i have been separated for one and a half years. I kicked him out because he dint want to work and just wanted to drink and i guess play house dad.we have been rocky ever since cause hes an angry drunk on top of it all...one day we went to a family wedding together and of course his sister went and when his parents took the baby for the evening he started taking shots keep in mind he cant drink hard alcohol because he cant hang..so i tell him to take it easy and his sister come in telling me to stop bossing him around and the im being a drag and i was like this is a conversation between husband and wife you need to step back and she got all heated and i started to leave and she ran out front and was in my face telling me to leave and to walk away just like i was from my family and at this point we are outside when he pushed me to the ground sat on my chest and started to hit my head multiple times....only person around was my husband who took her off me but not after her fat *** got 6 hits in ,the holidays are here and i find myself being more excluded from his life then before .I grew up in the foster system and i really cant under stand family unity like this...like she beat up you wife you baby mama wtf how are you going to not even try to distant yourself from them.i never got a sorry from her or anything.shes a felon and i could have sent her back to prison not only for smoking my blunt hrs before but for hitting me.

My father passed away when I was 13. This was 17 years ago. I still to this day can't look at a picture of him without crying. I have no idea why. It's been 17 years. I don't think about him all that much or at least I try not to and I'm not "sad" or "depressed" about his passing like I was but every time I look at a photo I get emotional. It's been suggested that I never fully felt with my fathers passing. Not exactly sure that's true as I've said I don't really get sad just can't look at any photo of him. Is this normal??

I was out at lunch with my dad the other day (I'm a 20 year old female), and our waitress was very pretty. My dad was extra-nice to her, and when she walked away commented, "Now that's a pretty woman. Notice how she's covered up as well - she doesn't need to get her **** out to get attention like that other one over there" (and points to another, less attractive waitress in a low-cut shirt). As a woman myself this unsolicited commentary made me extremely uncomfortable, as it felt like my own dad might be judging me in that way too. Why does he do that when I'm around?!

I was adopted out as a baby and so was my older sister, I found her through AncestryDNA in March and met her in May. She moved from NC to SC where I live and fell in love with a man who coincidentally lives less than a mile from me. She is now 6 weeks pregnant and we have spent every day we can together. I want to get her something really special for Christmas and I've been trying to find something for her for a month. Any ideas?

my dad has never been mean to me, in fact he always gives me money and he likes me a lot. but he misunderstands my mom a lot and hurts her (i think unintentionally) and it makes me angry at him, because she tries so hard to make a peaceful home and he never appreciates that. also he's never home and always on business trips. so i feel angry and don't want to talk to him nowadays. am i being ungrateful

My parents are divorced and my mom lives in america and my dad lives in germany. My dad has no rights over me so ive been living with my mom all my life. In september i decided to live with my dad just so see how it was like. My mom had to sign a paper saying im allowed to live with him. Does this give him rights over me and if i want to move back (which im planning to do) does he have to pay for the plane ticket. Thanks

Hey so my brother got his phone taken away, he lives in a different house but it's close to christmas and I'm thinking is sending a burner phone to him. I was thinking putting it into a speaker and sending it to him in fear of his parents opening the box. What's a good item to hide the phone in, or do you have any other ideas for me. Thank you

I met my boyfriend 2.5 years ago. A year before, I left a good paying but miserable job for another job that didn't work out. I worked temp agencies, low pay & sometimes weeks waiting on new assignment. Slowly lost everything including my apartment. About a year ago, I started staying at my boyfriend's house full time. He's never let me move in, most of my stuff is still in storage. Instead of paying rent, I do all housework, laundry, trash, cooking & grocery shopping. He pays for half of the groceries, he weighs over 400 pounds. I weigh less & eat a normal quantity of food. He makes about 100k per year, has no kids. He drives a new $65,000 truck & spoils himself constantly with online purchases. My biggest problem has been that my car is literally falling apart & I can't afford to fix it. Additionally, I got behind in payments when it was close to being paid off. The lender shut off my account where I could no longer make payments, they wanted all $1,500. Nobody knows his address, so I have been able to keep it from being repossessed. I've begged him for help but he will not help me with my car. I think he feels like he's doing enough just letting me live with him for "free". I've finally arranged for a loan from my mother so I can pay my car off & get it out of danger of being repo'd. I still have a lot of expense ahead to get it back to decent condition. My fear is: am I going to resent my boyfriend for not helping me?

so no matter what I say or do my dad thinks I'm up to sorting and he thinks I turned my location services off on my phone I don't even know how to do it and he won't believe me now I'm grounded and he always thinks he knows everything this is just one of the many times he thinks he knows the I do things

I'm 19 from Ireland and I've never meet my dad. My mam and him dated for a few weeks when my mam was 21 he was also the same age then I was conceived. My dad wasn't ready for such a responsibility so he left and never to be heard from again. I'm 19 I want to meet him and get some unanswered questions. Myself and my mom looked up facebook and there is no profiles that match my dad . My mam only knows he's first and surname and the town he lives in he's not on my birth certificate I'm working with very little information she can't remember any of he's family's names is there any other steps I can take to find him ? Thank you

Me and my fiance have been staying with his grandmother for almost four weeks now after almost getting evicted from our apartment. We could no longer afford where we were staying anymore because I left my job. I only left my job because traveling to and from work became to much as I was taking three buses and walking 50 minutes to get to work everyday. So my fiance decided we should stay with his grandmother until I can find a closer job and save up. My fiance is physically disabled and has a disability that enables him from standing or walking for more than four hours and has ADHD on top of it which makes it hard for him to find work. He does receive SSI which is 750.00 a month but his grandmother is his payee and has been for a decade. Out of the 750.00 my fiance gets he gives 555.00 of that money to his grandmother to help pay her bills in her house and 160.00 to his mother which doesn't leave him with much. I don't know if that's right but I'm glad to know that he's looking after his mom and grandmother. His grandmother is getting up in age in her 70's and she only receives 1000 a month from her deceased husband. I love my fiances family but I miss having my own space and some privacy we don't get one on one quality time like we use to that much. I feel his family is trying to control us and butt into our relationship way too much and they don't agree with us getting married except for his grandmother. I've only known my in laws three months which is why it's also hard.

So my friends and I (and my fiancé) had a proper falling out about two months ago, all because we couldn't afford to do something every night were busy saving for our future, holidays and so on and they always want to do something involving money, when we do have money ourselves we like to go out with our families for meals... they didn't understand so we had a massive row and didn't speak, (they are really immature too, call themselves the fam squad) so recently me and my fiancé went round my brothers for drinks, they asked me about my friends I explained we had a bit to drink, probably shouldn't have took a selfie and named it "fam squad" it was a drunken mistake.. anyway now one of the group (male) tagged me and fiancé in insta of the group saying it's a shame you can't make time for us lovely people So I commented.. things got heated again and he basically said "without them I have no plans (untrue) and all I do is spend time with family friends which consists of my brother and his wife who I don't like.." do you think this is uncalled for.. me and my brothers wife have had riffs same as my parents and her, I've probably mentioned it in the past, she knows we've had phases where me and her didn't get along but don't you think it's disrespectful for him to call out my family when it has nothing to do with them? Also I could be childish (I'm not that way in nature) and let hell loose as I know all of them have slagged each other off and have proof... I need help please...

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How can I pretend to be okay with what my mum does, she wants me to do everything for her, but when I stand up for my self and say no she thinks that I never do **** for her. Unlike my sister who says no to her but she thinks she does more then I do. I get that I'm the older daughter and that I have to do some things but not everything, my mother spoils my sister she always says "oh leave it she's little" she's ******* 17 and I'm ******* 18 I'm one year older hen her, I started helping my mom when I was little and she started when she was 16. My mom doesn't care what I say or how many times I say, she doesn't wanna believe it or listen to me, but she expects me to listen and do everything. No wonder why my dad is my favourite. And if I don't do no cleaning, my mother forgets to ask my sister to do things, But asks me to do things. And what's worst is that she has a kidney problem and I hate seeing her clean when I say no, even though she can ask my sister do it , she likes to take the piss and do it herself?

I have two female siblings. I'm the only son in the family. We are all above 30 years old. They are both married and I'm single. My older sister: she is a lawyer and she likes to be angry with me for no apparent reason. two weeks ago, I was trying to tell her that her babysitter is teacher her son some "sex sign". She was trying to run away from my home office (which I think is weird). Then when I was trying to keep her running away (I stood in front of her), suddenly she was shouting and yelling and move her head like a chicken when they are eating. she was acting like a mad person in an asylum. Then I tried to calm her down and talk that I was not going to hurt her. I told her some stories and we talked for about 15 minutes.... she got a really weird face when we are talking. Update: After she was calm, I let her go. Luckily, our mom saw this and we talked that she has some kind of depression or mental illness. My younger sister: she went to law school and she has two boys. She never really practiced her law degree and she has been married for 10 years. She is very insecured and a drama queen. Once she told her school friends that I was unemployed. In reality, I was the most successful children among us, I had a computer shop and my business was doing very good . While she was doing nothing except going out with her boyfriends when I was making money. Kinda a drama queen. Last year, on her son birthday, I brought a pizza to her son. When I handed the pizza to my nephew, he did not say thank you. When I complained, she simply said "he did say thank you!". Kinda delusional. Then when I shared a story that some parking attendance is trying to pick a fight because he kept some trucks park at the entrance of my office. She said I was... pushing the poor people (huh? kinda weird she blamed me for some a#$hole). I was trying to be nice and brought her pizza for her son birthday and the next thing, she was acting like an enemy. Is she mad? I left her house with a bad mood and I have not visited her house for about a year now. I think she is mentally ill. My older sister is never home when we (my mom and I) visited her house at 9 PM at night. She is a workaholic. While my younger is home all the time taking care of her 3 year old son. She had a baby blues when she gave birth to the 3 year old. Her first son is now 11 years old. This is serious... our parents are old (they are both 70 years old) and when we meet (my sisters and I), there is always a fight between us which was started by them..... My mom is old and she is kinda "confused" and "clueless" how to deal with both of them...

My aunt resents that her siblings and mother embrace her daughter who is a young adult with some trust issues. The daughter, who was bullied as a kid and has divorced parents, sometimes has trust issues and distorts things. She also is not the most motivated because of these issues. As a result her mother despises her like she despises her ex-husband. My mother says it is narcissism. My aunt has another daughter she worships and then an autistic son she is good to but not to the extreme (she treats him normal and he is in a group home). She also brought her kids into her hatred of her ex-husband who left her and is not the most involved father. So how do I make up to my aunt so I am not on her hate list? I won't be seeing her anytime soon as she refuses to come to Christmas cause her daughter is there. I don't want to be on her hate list even though she is not nice to the family. She is one of those people who can be super nice and at other times super cruel like hating her own daughter. She has a brother with mental illness (Bipolar) she has gone after before in a very cruel way.

I don;t want to offend his kids by being honest. He died Saturday at age 57.

my mom always used to stalk me on Facebook and sometimes go through my friends list and message them asking about me, i blocked her after that but for months she s been begging me to add her back so I did. As soon as I added her back the stalking started again, she see s EACH post I tag my friends in and also starts asking personal questions about my Facebook friends (also people I ve just met once) such as "do they have a job?" "what do they do in life?" and it s just so annoying. I can t delete her because she ll be sad, what do i do?! I'm 19 years old btw

I m wondering if that would work or just make things worse. Btw I don t care about me as long as she s better, i can t be safe how she wants me and then watch her die. That is not fair. So no saying I might die cos if she dies I ll die anyway.

I ve gotten involved in a toxic environment on campus. The environment makes it impossible for me to do my work, and I already had trouble managing my academics in the first place .I have a handful of trustworthy people in my corner, but the majority of them are graduating, and none of them can help me. I can t go home because my father is abusive and manipulative, and my mother says she can t help me until I am emotionally stable. I have less than 2 weeks to find a place to live and a job so I can pay for rent and basic necessities. Unfortunately, I do not own a car or even currently hold a driver s license. I need suggestions on what I can do to make it through this situation as soon as possible. The campus closes on December 17th, and I am not allowed to stay during that time period.

Invited 5 families who live out of town to a party..3 asked if they could stay..sure..the 4th brought their rv..the 5th showed up assuming they could stay with us but all rooms are full & have nowhere to put them..i told them sorry but they told me I should have called to let them know that they could not stay with us..they didn't call to ask if they can stay..hell I assumed they were gonna get a hotel..now I feel like the bad guy..im asking what did I do wrong???

I want to go down for Christmas to see my grandparents and my extended family. However my parents are also travelling to this gathering, as they do for most holidays. (I neither live with then nor receive support from them.) I want to be able to see everyone, as my family is scattered across the country and it would be impossible for me to travel to visit everyone. However, my mother tends to still treat me like a disobedient child. At these kinds of gatherings previously, she'll often corner me and deliver hour+ lectures on how I'm ruining my life and all that. Stuff about my dating life or how I should be managing my career or whatnot - stuff that's my business as an adult. I've heard her out on these topics before, but she still insists that I'm "not listening" if I don't do it her way, and at this point I'm tired of repeated lectures on the same things. She'll also spend time we're with family trying to ask leading questions; e.g. probing me to find out the Deep Psychological Reason why I'm still single. I want to see my family, but in the past she's tended to monopolize my time by trying to harass me into living my life her way. She will also complain to family about my behavior if I interrupt a lecture or don't answer the question and get other people to try to talk to me for her. I really just want to see my family, and I don't want to draw them into a fight. I even like spending time with my mother when she's not trying to run my life? What can I do? In case anyone's wondering: I have a decent job that pays my bills, although I'm not progressing in my career as quickly as she thinks I should be. I'm happily single and have never wanted kids in my life. I'm not getting drunk or doing drugs or deep in debt (I have some student loans that I'm paying off, that's it), or any of the things people generally think of as "ruining your life." I do take an antidepressant as prescribed by a doctor, which is her main proof that I'm not capable. Telling her I'm an adult just gets her to point to all my supposed immaturity (including how I talk to her!) as a reason why I just can't be taken seriously as an adult. Because if I were really such an adult I'd obviously be doing things her way. A lot of the problem I'm having is she'll enlist other family members, and then she'll tell them stuff that's not really accurate. And then I either accept what she's saying and I look like I'm being mean and awful, or I push back and then I'm the one starting family drama at the holidays.

HI. Me, my mom and my sister have moved to Sweden 4 years ago. We lived in the biggest city/the capital in Poland. I miss that city so much it's unbelievable. Now I live in a small town, like really small. It's possible for us to move because my mom has a job offer there so money isn't really a problem. I'm 15 and I haven't made any friends in Sweden at all. They're just so much different than everyone back home. I don't know if this is a question that can get an exact answer but I just feel like writing my concerns down. I know some people in Warsaw and my best friend lives there too. I just want to be happy again... I really dislike this depressed and sad place because I'm simply used to something else. I also know that my future seems brighter here, even my mom says "something for something" but I've already wasted 4 years of my life and I don't like the idea of wasting 3 more. I want to talk to my mom because I'm really unhappy and so is my sister. I just don't know how or if it's going to change anything. Sorry for any misspellings and thank you for reading the whole thing :).

My parents recently have gotten a divorce , and so I feel obligated to spend time with each one , as I am a teen still living at home. My parents seem to be making me choose sides and make important decisions that effect the rest of my family and I don t know what to do

We have been together for 3 years, I have 6 kids. He gets along great with my youngest 3 that still live at home. They are very close. But he constantly fights with me about my oldest son (21) who moved back in to help with the bills. He says I treat him better, I let him do more and get away with less. My son give me rent which we really need. Every chance he gets he finds something that my son did wrong to complain about. It is almost like he is jealous of my son. What can I possibly do?

I am a 25-year-old female. My mom has no money or any job. She doesn't really want to work. I still live at home but I am working at the moment. I live in my dad's place, my mom had to move back in with my dad, brother, and I even though they are exes. She needed a place to live so she lived with us due to financial issues. She is miserable and, reasonably, does not like living with her ex. Due to being unhappy, she has told me in the past that she wants to go do things like go on vacations and such. She is frustrated and says she desperately wants to find a man to date (which she is trying to do) but I always feel like she needs constant entertainment. I pitch in with my brother sometimes to go out to eat or go to the movies with us. I feel sometimes when she tells me about vacations that she is blaming me in a way for not being able to afford one. What should my mom do if she wants to do more things?

I have been married to my husband for many years. Since day 1, his mother (who looks very young for her age) has tried to draw attention to herself for things I have done first or features I have. For instance: She is always talking about her large boobs, when we go shopping she talks about them as if they are humongous (as she says). I am known as a great cook in my family and her husband once raved about some pies I have made. One in particular was one she had never made. Since her man made such a big deal about how great it was, she now makes a point to make one (badly I might add and not anything like mine). When she makes it she tries to show off and ask everyone to eat hers. When I try to bring food to her house, she gets upset and insists I don't. She makes digs about my family having money and tries to treat me like a spoiled brat or make digs about my mom paying for stuff "our family never had money, we didnt just buy gifts for our kids". Why is she like this? She claims she is not insecure and she claims she is not jealous. Also, when she has gone in the pool she wears a tankini that leaves little to the imagination, then struts all over the house to get attention I think. Why does she try to one up everything I do? Her food is really bad, no seasoning, usually dry, burnt, and lacking flavor. I bite my tongue because she claims I have "made digs about her food". But its usually HER making digs about mine.

I love my nieces so much. I see them weekly and it's the highlight of my week. My SIL has the tendency to completely cut me off for weeks, one time for 2 months, because she's mad at my husband. It is incredibly painful for me. We become close as friends and then she does it again.. about once a year. My husband works crazy hours and isn't around much. I am with the family always. I have no family of my blood here. I was also abandoned by my parents as a child... so being cut off by my SIL also means losing all contact with my in laws at her whim. I feel broken right now... all over again. I'm a great aunt. I bring her kids presents every week and I'm around for everything. She gets mad at my husband for not being around to care for their parents... although I do in his stead.. as his dad has an illness in a nursing home. Also my SIL's husband is a millionaire and pays for all of their parents care. We're middle class putting a daughter through college and just can't help. So she gets resentful with him. In my opinion, we aren't financially obligated to help. His parents saved $0 for retirement. My SIL pays for a penthouse apartment, a Mercedes, and the top nursing home in the city for their parents. But they're rich. She gets fed up and takes it out on my husband. I'm completely at a loss. I know I don't deserve to be cut off. She randomly stops taking my calls and responding to my texts and emails. I get scared someone is hurt. Please. Any advice. I'm really struggling.

We just found our that our oldest son, who is 16, has been smoking weed. I searched his whole room to find the stuff, but I think he's hiding it somewhere else, and I can't find it. Last week, our youngest son (12) got into a fight at school, and I had to go in to pick him up early, and he was suspended for the rest of the week. And tonight, my daughter (14) asked me to sign her math test, which she failed, even after she claimed for the past few weeks that all her homework was done, and she purposefully waited until Sunday night to tell me because she didn't want to be grounded over the weekend. When I saw that, I just kind of blew up, I was so mad at all of them, I'm at my wit's end, I don't know what to do! I feel like such a failure as a parent, and I feel so lost! My partner and I are trying to talk to the kids, one on one. It's usually easier to do when just one or two of them are acting up, but now all three of them are giving us a hard time. Now, all three of them are grounded, which is going to drive us up the walls. What should we do?

So I'm 19 years old, and I have never seen or met my father. He and my mother dated for a very short while 20ish years ago, then she got pregnant with me. He was in the army somewhere near Dallas, and before she found out she was pregnant, he left and they ended their relationship. He was only here where I am because he was stationed here. She sent him a letter saying that she was pregnant with me, but never even heard back, and that is literally the whole story. I know his name, and the fact that he was in the army near Dallas. I have really been wanting to find more out about this guy, or at least learn who he is. I have no idea how to do that, though, as social media isn't doing much for the situation, and I just don't know if I would need to hire someone to track him down, or how to, assuming he is still alive. Thanks.

26 years old mother of two. Pregnant with my third. Just now being able to get out of an abusive relationship. It was unhealthy, my kids seen every bit of it. He is the father of all three. I was stupid for staying and I hate myself for it. Now I think I'm practically hated by his family because he got locked up for it. But it doesn't bother me because he was wrong not me. I'm mad at myself for dealing with it. On top of that, my job sucks an I can't find a better job. It's so hard out here. I know ruthless people told me I shouldn't have been reproducing but I DID. I don't regret my children. I love them dearly. We aren't doing bad for me to be a single parent and having my children. I hate my job so bad. I really have no friends and I'm starting to wonder am I such a bad person? Did I deserve this? I can never find genuine friends. I don't have no one to confide in. My mom feels I need to be as strong as her. Which I'm not. I'm just tired of alot of things. I want to get right. But how?I'm so stressed. Sometimes I want to give up and just disappear. From everything. The best thing I have is my children. They keep me motivated. I'm just over everything

So I am having a very hard time and everyone keeps on putting me down. I am trying to get set up to a vietnamese woman in vietnam by my relatives in vietnam and these women are giving me a hard time. They won't give me a straight answer as to whether they want to marry me or not. They said they are not even sure if they want to meet me.They said they will decide when they meet me. One even said that she isn't even thinking about marriage right now and wants to focus on my career. I told people about my frustrations and people put me down. Everyone is telling me that I am being controlling and says that is why none of these women want to marry me because I am a jerk and is unconsiderate and forcing them to marry me. They said just face it no woman in vietnam wants to marry you and your going to be forever alone. I am so angry as I want some support from people and no one is giving it to me. Everyone is just making me more and more miserable instead. Why do people think that no woman in vietnam wants to marry me based on what I have said about the situation ? Why do people think that I am being unconsiderate and controlling ? Would any of these women meet me ?

I honestly just want to beat the living **** out of him, he walks around coming in my room to only yell at me and threatens to smash or takes my things. I dont argue back because its like a brick wall but I said if he touches any of my things im smashing his things. Then he has the audacity to scream at my mom punching walls, screaming **** you to her, cursing her out saying she is ruining the kid's lives when in reality he is the one who caused my bipolar depression and anxiety, and both my siblings are scared of him byt act like they are not because they are afriad he will do something sicne they see how he treated me when I refused to listen to him...My mom is amazing, she cares for me and the other kids, she works 11 hours a day to pay for 3/4 of the bills when my step dad doesn't pay for jack ****. My mom makes sure that we are happy and my step dad just scares them. But he makes my mom feel like she is the one ruining everyone lives and making her feel horrible. I dont want to go to jail but next time im not letting this horrible excuse of a person trash talk my family like that...but i dont want that to come, what can me and my mom do in this situation to ensure my brother and sister dont have to deal with him and can be safe along with me and my mom. FYI he never signed any adoption papers for me so in reality he is some random fatass cursing out my mom.

I haven't seen my family in 3 years and I live in a different state. Also we don't get along so I'm no invited back.

So I'm 22 and I live with my brothers in my mom's house. They are 27 and 28. They moved in a few years back after they graduated from college and a re e trying to find jobs/pay off student loans. It's a pretty small house for the 3 of us to live in. In fact I share a room with one of them. Anyway, they are very verbally abusive to me and extremely hard on me. I try talking to them but they just don't listen. Even my mom won't say anything. She's too passive about everything. I can't move out and they can't either. They make me feel like **** and I can't do anything about it. I'm growing more and more helpless. Any advice would be appreciated

My dad constantly bitches about being tired. He works 6 hours in a fairly simple job and gets paid well. he also has a 30 minute commute. I try to talk to him and he just starts complaining and whining over little things. It doesn't make sense to me. I'm 16 and haven't had a job before but I look at my mom who never complains and works 9 hours. I don't ask my dad for **** neither does my mom. And it's funny that he gets even more kissed when I tell him that he wouldn't be tired if he just went to bed at the same time as everyone else. He goes to sleep at like 12:00 or 1:00 am every night.

I m am 13 years old and my mom is from Romania which means she is strict and it can get out of hand. Sometimes when I do small things she ll hit me and I don t think that it is ok. I tried to tell her that it is wrong for her to still be hitting me but she just got mad. My father is not in my household should I call someone about it?

Lately my dad has been acting very strange.. He's been getting mad at my mom for the tiniest most irrelevant reasons in existence. When he gets mad he repeatedly calls my mom a ***** and an assortment of other words, and then breaks cups and bowls on the floor, makes my mom clean it, then he goes and drives away somewhere. For the past 2 months or so, its been happening more and more frequently. My mom would never leave him because we need his money to raise us, but its getting to the point where its becoming completely ridiculous. And then a day later he takes her to his room to "take a nap" (sex) and then a couple of hours later he just repeats the cycle again. What should I do.. its starting to become extremely unhealthy considering what he calls my mom when me and my 8 year old sister are in a very close proximity.

The world is a dark dark cruel place. Its not up to me to make it a better place to live in. A lot of my family are gone and its myself my older brother my mom my uncle my aunt who matried my uncle and my grandmom in a home. She used to be with us every Christmas. When the time comes ima do myself in. When the time comes. Just waiting for the moment when the big hand hits and the passing comes.

The few guys I've found attractive didn't seem to notice me although not to brag I've been told i'm pretty/beautiful/gorgeous by strangers and asked out by guys. For example, I think britney spears bf is my type lookswise. Would his type of guys be out of my league? this is me https://www.instagram.com/mikkimes/ what would you rank me 1-10 and britney's bf?

So I'm 17 and 18 in March. I want move out and move to Arizona to work full time at the Grand Canyon and room with my friend and then go to school.. so I have some problems. I am a junior in high school either way I know I have to move out because my mom is CRAZY like when I was 6 I knew I needed to get out. I've been in and out of her house Bc of abuse and drug problems so now I'm just putting up w it.. I want to drop out and get my ged. I've been working sense I was 15 and saved movneh sense I was 10 so I have enough for a plane ticket and a bunch of rent at the resort which is so cheap and good.. another thing is I can't tell my mom which sucks but not rlly Bc I know it would be better that way.. she works nights like she works on the planes as a flight attendant and so I could just leave .. we've never had a relationship and I've accepted it we won't ever see eye to eye. But how do I do this? Is this even legal? I'll be 18 when I drop out tho will they immediately call my mom or Can I just get my transcript and the. Just never show to school again and call and day I dropped out! Lol I'm so confused

i feel she has jealousy i even told her and she laughed which means its true. she tells me to do chores and I listen since I am living with her but now when i do any of the chores she whines sooooo much and then we argue since she has to treat me like a baby and tells me how to do it . Like i tell her i dont need instruction on how to put the food back in the fridge i been taking care of the chores all my life and I really dont need someone whining. she literally just stands next to me and whines and tells what are you doing ??! your stupid your doing it wrong thats wrong. Wrong wrong like damn anythig i do she disagrees on like am some dam kinda kid or a cinderella and she has to boss me around. The only reason am mad is she doesnt treat my sister like that she just gives her responisibility eventhough she is younger am 21 i dont need help i always tell her she needs to stop treating me that way even my ex noticed it too. I dont do anythinng to make her feel that way i literally stay in my room and clean.. she doesnt understand ppl raise a family my age she doesnt get that I need to have my own life and not her controlling it really frustrates me and i know when i do any of the chore by myself ppl outside would compliment the house but she wants to forget all the thigs am doing and remmber only what my sisters doing when has done nothing she hates me so much and has some jealousy towards me and i feel she tries to put me down about my looks or make me look unattractive

I am the 15 year old daughter of a father who ignores me constantly, always makes up an excuse to not spend time with me. I lost my mother at a very young age and have been raised by grandparents most of my life, so ill admit, i do look for validation in my dad, but i always feel worthless around him. Its been even worse since he got a new girlfriend. is it me? Should i suck it up? Please help

I don't know what she's into really. She's married and has 3 kids and they do pretty well for themselves. As far as interests, I really don't know. What's something that most girls would like to get as a gift from their brother in law

My boyfriend was diagnosed with lymphoma amd leukemia, how can I be supportive to him? Edit My boyfriends family live in another state and are coming to see him but I knew something was wrong with him when he came home from the doctor and started crying and couldn't stop crying so I just held him and cried with him. After we,had our break down when just took a bath and shower together and I washed him. We talked about our future together and watched a couple of movies and didn't go to bed until 4:00 am. I let him sleep in but I'm afraid to lose him. He confessed to me when We were crying that he was going to propose and he showed me the ring. Now I don't know the status of us but I know I love him and I will stick by him through thick and thin but I don't know what to tell him other than I love him amd I won't go anywhere. We're scheduled to go get treatment options. My boyfriends estranged dad who lives in state offered financial help to his son but his son my boyfriend doesn't want help from his dad who abused him as a child. I know this is a lot but I need advice. I bought him some bubble bath and some books to read to get his mind off it. I love him and our families are devastated. His mom is flying down and my family has surrounded us in love.

My house is disgusting. People cut their toenails at the dinner table. They leave package trash and used napkins everywhere. I'm not even sure when the last time towels or sheets were washed. Etc. overall it generally goes on until I or my mom get majorly grossed out and clean it. That being said, my dad is a cheap-sake. He doesn't like flushing the toilet because it wastes money on the water bill (note: financially we are fine and certainly do not have to worry about flushing the toilet breaking the budget). He made a rule in our house that you do not flush the toilet until after 2-3 uses at least! He gets upset with me when I flush after I use the bathroom! And will try to "catch me before I flush" to "break me out of the habit". I am living in a house full of teenagers and adults, and I am the only one who seems bothered by this rule, people just go and don't flush, and the piss and **** just gets left there for hours at a time, overnight, whatever! And it starts to smell so bad!! But if I flush it then he gets mad! I tried to talk to him today about it but he wasn't having it. He told me he wasn't going to change and he was going to save money this way. I really can't put up with this anymore! It honestly so disgusting and embarrassing! I can't have anyone over at my house because of this! It there any way I can get him to flush a damn toilet without getting grounded for backtalk? The nice complaint approach didn't work. Thanks!

So recently my dad has been on a cleaning craze. It was really sudden; he just decided the house was too messy and that we all had to start cleaning. He told everyone which rooms to clean and said it was our job to maintain them. It's a reasonable expectation to simply maintain a room but my dad keeps freaking out over the littlest things. He came up to me while I was doing homework and told me my mom had been vacuuming the rooms I was assigned to. I told him I wasn't aware she did that- she decided to on her own. But he kept screaming and cursing at me. It made me really upset. I had been cleaning the rooms and maintaining them and I thought doing a good job. He went on to tell me how hard he worked for this house and I need to do more. I am grateful but I am doing my best. I don't think he should treat me this way. He called me a "f*cking a**hole" and told me how horrible I am. I am trying to do more but I think he is overreacting. What should I do to tell him he is being unreasonable when he'll just call be stupid and ungrateful again?