Family: Question: Living with divorced parents throughout college?

Question: Living with divorced parents throughout college?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 01:59 PM PST

I m going to college next year, and my parents are split (they have been since I was 1 years old). My question has to do with college. They re wanting me to choose who I want to live with during the summers and whose house I go to during the holidays. I don t want to have to choose. To be honest I don t particularly enjoy living with either of them. My mom is a hoarder and my dad is super controlling, but they do support me so I feel like I can t complain. Can I stay on campus during the summers?? How should I work this out?? I d rather spend time with my mom than my dad, but my dad would get very mad if I said that and I feel like I have an obligation to see him since he did raise me. I don t want to have fight over each holiday and summer. And I ve already gotten the talk from both parents "you don t have to see the other parent if you don t want to!! It s your choice now!!" but it is really my choice?? Ughh. Any advice??

Question: Would you be willing to forgive and forget hard feelings between you and a sibling if it meant peace in the family?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 01:57 PM PST

My sister and I had a pretty bad argument a year ago but are now speaking again and trying to make amends. It feels awkward tho.

Question: How do I make my non-gifted child feel that he is special, too?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 01:49 PM PST

I have two sons; there is a five-year age gap between the two. The eldest has an IQ of 171. He is a confirmed genius and has skipped grades in school. He is an expert cellist, has mastered Sanskrit and three other languages; in addition, he entered a top university when he was only 15. The problem is his younger brother is not gifted. His IQ is 131, which is not dumb, but definitely not in the same league as his brother. I feel like my youngest son works hard to get my approval. I still love him even though he is not classified as gifted. He tries to compete with his brother. He joined MENSA and was admitted because his IQ was one point over the minimum. I told him not to go to meetings because he is at the lowest end of their spectrum and I don't want him humiliated. He takes Spanish and French at the same time and gets As, but those languages are not hard to master. I just feel like I don't know how to deal with him. I worry about his future because with his brother he showed so much promise that I never had to concern myself. I knew he was a genius and that he would go to the best schools. Youngest children are often the hardest to raise. A little difference between the two? There is a 40-point IQ difference. They have nothing in common as a result. As for telling him not to go to MENSA, that is because he is at the lowest level of MENSA members, therefore everyone in it is smarter than he is. He will be ridiculed and feel out of place.

Question: Did my dad accept that I’m going to call people old regardless of what he thinks?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 01:37 PM PST

He tried to "correct" me and said "if you want you can keep doing it" and just kept talking. I told him "you just said I can do it if I want to and that's what I'm going to keep doing"

Question: Guys, would you be embarrassed if this happened to you?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 01:27 PM PST

I am a high school guy with a 26 year old step mom. Dad married a much younger woman. She is the best mom EVER. I just adore her. Whenever I need help with ANYTHING she is always there to help me. She also has a great sense of humor and can find humor in almost any situation. One day I was just getting out of the shower and she walked in the bathroom. Was I ever embarrassed. However her good humor saved the day for me. She said, "I can sure tell you are your dad's son". I said how is that. She said, you are both hung like a horse. I could not stop laughing. Can you be embarrassed and proud a the same time. Do I have the coolest mom EVER?

Question: My mother talks and lies about me to my brother's gf? IS this normal?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 12:58 PM PST

She told her I accused her of breaking house rules or if I bring up something about her innocent, she turns it around into something malicious and to me it's like she's trying to stir the pot. She is making me look bad for no reason...One morning she said she "had to get something off her chest" and told her that I tried getting her in trouble. If my mother feels like I'm constantly attacking this poor girl, why not talk to me directly? instead of telling her that I am a bad guy. My brother, my mother and his gf always has these secrets late night, early conversations about me....and its nothing good.

Question: Why am I dismissed from zeel and cant get their services anymore?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 12:44 PM PST

It says on the email "we at zeel are glad you enjoyed our massage services. It has come to our attention that you are looking for services we don't provide, which fall outside of our terms of use. We are, therefore, dismissing you from our network. You will no longer to be able to book with zeel." Aren't they refusing for no part reason?! I nearly have done nothing or any offense to this company. I don't see all companies doing this to me which is this zeel is the only one refusing my orders of services. Zeel has been one of the most inconvenient and really big non meaningful of morally just refusing with me with their services! Anybody knows why this happened and I call the company and took me more than 15 calls and keep saying all customer service are busy. Please explain why this happened and there shouldn't be any kinds of reasons why am I'm out of this.

Question: What should I do with this complicated family situation?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 12:15 PM PST

Long story short, my husband and I got married and lived in his home state together for a year. Due to ongoing drama with my in-laws (especially his mother) and it was affecting our marriage, we decided to move out of state. That was 8 years ago. During these years, his family (especially his mother) would constantly call him with problems in no way he can help solve due to being thousands of miles far away. A little of his back story, he and along with his younger siblings were raised by his grandparents because his mother was and still is abusing drugs, and his father was never around. His grandfather is no longer around, now his grandmother's health condition has gotten worse that she is no longer able to care for his younger brother (29) with disability as his legal guardian. First problem is, his mother and aunt called my husband to see if his brother can move in with us. We are in no position to take anybody in financially, mentally, and emotionally. By financially, I mean we make just enough for two of us to survive and we live in a small apt. By mentally and emotionally, I mean once someone moves in with us who's not our own child, there wouldn't be an "us" like that anymore. And taking in his brother would be a life-long responsibility. So the only option for my brother-in-law would be to live in an independent living facility. My husband doesn't like this idea because it feels like we are giving him up to the government. Continue reading below. Not enough space

Question: Daughter wet herself at Birthday party and gets bullied how can I help her?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 12:14 PM PST

My 6yo daughter wet herself yesterday at her friend's birthday party. Her friend was understanding but the other kids were laughing at her and making fun of her in school today. She got some new clothes from her friend but some kids noticed and now every child in her class knows about it. My daughter also wet the bed three times last week and I'm just worried about something being wrong with her. My husband was diagnosed with cancer a couple months ago and maybe its a psychological problem that is causing the bedwetting. But most of all I just want to help her right now. She's dealing with so much and I feel so sorry for her, I just don't want her to feel bad. Yesterday, after the Birthday party she started crying and I told her that accidents happen and that it was okay but she's just really embarrassed, doesn't want to talk about it. Do you think there is a way I could help her? And how can we solve the bedwetting problem?

Question: Question for career minded women.Would you take a high paying job 60k if you are mentally, and emotionally unbalanced in your personal life?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 11:55 AM PST

Question for career minded women.Would you take a high paying job 60k if you are mentally, and emotionally unbalanced in your personal life? I ask because sometimes your personal life can be so stressful and emotionally unbalanced that you can't handle the stress of a job with a lot of responsibilities?

Question: How do I convince my family to travel this Winter?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 11:46 AM PST

I NEVER get to travel with my family in the Winter, in fact, I barely get to travel at all. I've been begging to go to Atlanta (Georgia) next month, but they show absolutely no interest in going. What do I need to do to make this possible?

Question: What do you think of a parent like this?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 11:07 AM PST

Has their kid homeschooled(have been for 8 years) but refuses to buy all the books they need for it. Works everyday yet gets mad when they come home because they don't like seeing you. Gets mad you never go anywhere and says you're retarded for not driving, yet you have no way of learning(parents won't teach you) and bus(public transport) is 16 miles from you. You don't live in a walkable town, there's a mile of road you can walk on(people's yards) then after the mile is over it leads into a highway with no sides to walk on and you could get hit. They won't let you have an ID either. What do you think of these parents? Both of the parents have a mental illness(yes both take medicene, but they both have anger alot) one has autisim and both have bipolar.

Question: I don't know who my dad is?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 10:26 AM PST

I'm currently 19, so I'm just going to repeat everything my Sister told me. just before christmas in 2002, I was 4, my sister was a bit older aged 12. I don;t remember much of my early childhood, but then again, no one really remembers much before age 4, do they? Anyway, to the point, By new years, 2003, they were officially divorced. i was told my mum wanted time alone, so me and my sister moved in with my uncle and auntie who are absolutely wonderful, they never attended the wedding because of an incident that happened before I was born, and before the wedding date, they hadnt made contact for a few years... My Mum died back in Summer 2012 from Liver Cirrhosis, I was 14 at the time, obviously I knew she was ill and I hadnt seen her for quite some time since the divorce, because she wanted to be alone so until 2016 ive been living with my aunt and uncle, I'm now in university of surrey england but since she died. it hit me today i never learned who my dad was, now that my mum's gone, how can i find out? my auntie and uncle dont talk to them, my mothers parents moved to Nebraska in the 1990's, and my mothers parents died in a car accident in 1974.. any advice would be hugely appreciated

Question: How to ruin my mothers marriage?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 10:20 AM PST

I hate my stepfather and the only way past this is if je were gone, not dead, just divorced with my mother, so then that my mother would be single for other guys to date, my stepfather shifts the blame onto me and my sisters, never takes any responsibilities for himself, always goes on and on about things from the past, always bullies my sister, never thinks he's in the wrong, the only reason I get along with him is for my mothers sake, but she could do better than him.

Question: Another night without my children. Another night I WILL be paying him back for?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 10:17 AM PST

Question: What is your cousin's child called in relation to you?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 10:16 AM PST

Question: Began dating my brothers friend and now he's being unreasonable?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 09:59 AM PST

Olay so me and my brother have been close up until recently, when I began dating his friend, my brother been supported me when I came out as gay. Me and his friend, my boyfriend, got close one night, after he came to my house, my brother wasn't home from work and our parents were out, which left us alone. We talked for a while, but then looked into each others eyes and he kissed me, I didn't stop him, but we were almost caught by my brother, who unlocked the door, right before we stopped kissing, he gave me his number and went on a few dates. Anyway we came out as a couple officially to our families and now my brother won't speak to me, but counties to speak with my boyfriend, my brother isn't homophobic and hasn't said anything that might suggest so, it's just his negative attitude towards me, so cold, I want to be happy, but at the end of the day I love them both and don't know what to do.

Question: Who's your dumbest relative?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 09:43 AM PST

Mine is a certain someone who's a Rivera, who think she's white and thinks Lopez isn't a white name LOL

Question: Why does my 2nd cousin's step-sister say she is more related to my cousin than me?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 08:57 AM PST

I have a cousin who I grew up with all my life. We are the same age (both 18) and we always had been close. Technically she is my 2nd cousin. She is the daughter of my mom's 1st cousin. Well, to make this long story short, my 2nd cousin's mom got remarried about six years ago. The man she married had a daughter and two sons. My cousin calls them her sister and brothers. I call them my cousins, even though they are my step-2nd cousins. Okay, fine. But one day I was at their house and the step-sister of my cousin started crap with me, I won't go into detail. But her ending argument was "She's my sister and blood is thicker than water!" and she said this because she calls herself my cousin's sister and she said that I am only a 2nd cousin. Wow. I known my cousin all my life, and this step-sister had known her for only 6 years but because her dad is married to my cousin's mom that makes her more related? By blood? How?

Question: What s the percentage chance of a women being taller than a man?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 08:45 AM PST

My sister is 5 11 aged 23 and I m 21 5 8 she absolutely loves that she towers over me. What s the statistical chance of this being so? And what s the odds of her being nearly 4 inches taller than me?

Question: Need some advice on family problems?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 08:23 AM PST

I am 15 years old and my parents have been married for 20+ years, but I don't think that they are in a good relationship. I 've never seen them being affectionate with each other, all I've seen them doing is throwing insults at each other. my dad is 50 this year and he goes clubbing every single week now if clubbing is the only thing, I would have no problem with it, but my mom says that my dad obviously had sex with other women and my mom recently said to me that my dad actually has a mistress once(!) My dad has done this ever since my mom was pregnant with me. I was told that he used to go clubbing every single day and it was so bad that he did not come to the hospital when my mom was giving birth to me.Well, 3 years ago my dad was baptized and stopped clubbing for 2 years,. However, he started doing it again last year and things are going really bad between my parents. My mom would always shout (reallyy loudly) at my dad for being like that, and my dad would just brush it off and pretend to be remorseful, only to go back to doing it the next day. At this point, I'm already used to them fighting that I just don't really care anymore, but I imagine how hard it is for my mom. I think that my mom is actually very lonely inside as she did not have that many friends. I am currently studying abroad and I think it will be hard for her if my dad keeps this up. I need some advice on how to tackle this problem. So sorry for the long post and thank you for listening to my problem :)

Question: What do you think of a mom who?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 07:52 AM PST

Makes her kids (ages 10 and 4) get up at 8am on weekends and vacations to help her with chores? She also makes them take a nap on weekends and school vacations from 2pm to 3pm even if the kids are not tired. They also have to make their beds every morning and are not allowed to watch tv after 8pm. The 10 yr old has to read for 45 minutes before bed every night.

Question: Can anyone offer me any advice on my teenage daughter's situation?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 06:10 AM PST

I will try to make this as short as possible! My daughter is 18, and this summer, she decided to move out of state with a boy she met once a year ago. I tried to stop her but legally nothing I could do. Fast forward 5 months, she is now pregnant. The people she is living with are trash. There are 13 people living in one house, various ages, and not one of them have a job or a vehicle. She is constantly calling me and asking for money to eat, saying there is no food there. I sent a little in the beginning, but have stopped because I feel her boyfriends mother is putting her up to this, just to scam me out of money. This mother has a long criminal record, stealing money from a business, other retail theft charges, and some others. Now my daughter has called and said she wants to come home for Christmas but her boyfriend won't let her, he is afraid she won't come back. She also has revealed to me how controlling he has become since she got pregnant. I have offered to drive down there to get her, but she said she won't come with me. She loves him and doesn't want her baby to grow up without a father. Is there anything I'm not aware of that I can do to help her. I have a hard time talking to her alone, when I call, she keeps it on speaker phone so he can hear everything, and he reads her texts. I would gladly jump in my vehicle and drive the 400 miles to get her and bring her home. But if she doesn't want to come with me, is there anything else I can do? Thanks for reading this, I know it was long!

Question: If I ask Santa to get my Mom and her sister talking again then can he make them?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 04:40 AM PST

I haven't been allowed to see my cousins in 3 years cause my Mom and her sister (their mother) hate each other.

Question: How do I soften my mother's anger at me when I go see my Dad over Christmas?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 04:26 AM PST

She always seems to find out and she resents that I have a relationship with him when she divorced him. She also says if he loved me he would have been better to her. As a kid she successfully poisoned my mind against him but as an adult I am close to him and working to make up lost time. So how do I soften my mother's wrath when she learns I see him and how do I soften my grandmother's wrath (my Mom's mother) as she to resents that I would be nice to him when they claim he is incapable of loving me.

Question: My sister is a bully. How do I deal with her when I have to see her over Christmas?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 04:22 AM PST

Question: Are people who cant find jobs are really lazy or choosy?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 04:10 AM PST

I'm sick of this dumbass of his excuses why he cant find a job to support his family. its the economy. blah blah blah

Question: How to get my mom to piss off?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 01:07 AM PST

I'm 14. She's stubborn and sho won't leave me alone, always wants to help me with almost everything i do, even tho i tell her i can do it myself, she gets angry and does so anyways. I just need some space, because i think i am at my rebellious period now, which often made me angry towards my mom. How should i get her to piss off?

Question: Me and my husband have decided not to have kids, how should we tell out imediate family?

Posted: 08 Dec 2017 12:20 AM PST

I think they'll be suprised as we've always loved kids, and babysitting and stuff but it's just not for us. I think my sister will be upset and our daughter will be devesatedd. We just have to do whats right for us. How can we explain without them trying to convince us otherwise? We've mentioned it ebfore and they laughed! Like we were joking! It was so hurtful they won't even consider our point of view.

Question: Rude exchange student?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 11:02 PM PST

We got an exchange student from Korea in November and she is so rude. She's some rude piece of trash named Hannah. Around my parents she is nice, but when me and her are alone she is so mean. She kicked me, she uses my laptop, she goes in my room and makes it dirty, she even tried choking me. And plus she is so annoying. She always sings, and she called me a whore. She doesn't even act korean. She is just a rude girl and she is obsessed with me. She always watches me and i even caught her watching me when i was sleeping. My parents love her though and she told me that she wants my parents to adopt her but i dont even know if that is possible .is it? What should i do? How can i get her to leave? she is ruining my life.

Question: Can my Uncle claim guardianship of his non-biological son?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 10:32 PM PST

So a couple years ago he started seeing this woman who had a son (2 turning 3 at the time). And a couple years passed or less. But long story short she was merely seeing him for his money and used her son as the bait, I think he knew but mostly did it for his new son. Things started heating up and aggravating her but in those couple years my uncle and his new-found son bonded very closely together and I guessed she didn't want anymore of it and decided to leave. Couple of months passed and apparently she found a new wealthy guy but every now and then my Uncle will see his son (In town or elsewhere) and every time the boy will want to see his dad trying to run to him crying daddy. It did hurt my heart a bit but I can't imagine what goes through my Uncles head. My Uncle cares not for that wicked woman and only wants to see his son but she won't let him. Is there anything he can do?

Question: Did my dad molest me when I was younger?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 10:24 PM PST

Question: My aunt is going to sneak me out to see my mom and 2 of my brothers, i have not seen in 5 years. Should i be my self or act like im popular.?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 09:24 PM PST

Question: Is it normal for a parent to say "shut up" to a child?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 09:16 PM PST

my mom hurt me :( but it seems like all mom's do this once in a while. I don't think she cares as both of my parents are depressed. Just wondering what is abuse & what's not abuse..They yell at me quite frequently (a couple times a day). My dad yelled to a point where he broke our relationship & I can't be with him without being a little afraid (said really hurtful things & that I am a nobody etc.). My mom just yells at everyone & so it's not personal but it hurts that she told me to shut up.. I'm actually well behaved & have never given my parents problems. They are very lucky..I recommended something she didn't like..They yell for no reason..It's been like this all my life. Very depressed parents are hard to grow up with..

Question: My parents make me depressed?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 09:09 PM PST

I'm 19 years old, in my second year of nursing and I still live with my parents. They have a lot of problems and it's starting to affect my life. My dad is 50 and my mom is 48, and I personally think they have a drinking problem, more so my dad than my mom. They always go out for "drinks", never answer my text messages, come home very late extremely drunk and begin to fight and yell. Because of this, I've had to send my boyfriend home early in fear of them coming home and fighting and him seeing this. I get severe anxiety whenever they don't come home after work because of many past incidents that have happened. I'm always on edge. I just don't know what to do, I would love to just move out but my significant other and I had thought of saving up money while we live at our parents so we can both get a house in the next couple of years. I just wish my parents didn't drink and they were normal and responsible like my friends parents. Thanks for everyone who replies. (by the way I've talked to them about getting help but they are very resistant and in denial)

Question: I ******* hate my parents?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 08:58 PM PST

Ok I'm Haitian American and I'm 15 and my boyfriend is Dominican- American and he's 16. When my parents found out I was dating a Dominican they kicked me out in the streets, but my boyfriend's family took me in. My older brother who's 17 got two girls pregnant and my parents welcomed them in the house with open arms and is taking good care of them. I'm their own daughter and they kicked me out for dating , but my older brother got two girls pregnant and my parents let him and the two girls stay in the house. I'm so freaking pissed off

Question: I am SO upset with my Expedia Hotel booking - what can I do?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 08:45 PM PST

I booked airport hotel as our young family had to get up early to catch a flight. I did my research and found a 'pretty' good hotel with free parking, free breakfast and wifi. The pictures look great and the reviews were good. We booked a two queen, non-smoking room. We checked in after 10:30pm (exhausted after a long day travelling) and I am pretty upset to say the least. The pictures are absolutely deceiving and this place is fully in need of repairs and Reno's...awful. Our room reeked of smoke (no smoking hotel supposedly...) plus the tv doesn't work....the carpets seem filthy and it's just feeling gross in general. We can hear noise from other guests out in the hall coming in and out of their room and conversing with each other, maybe they live here? Seems like such a dodgy place and I'm scared to leave the room or go to the front desk and inquired about the above items. Argh - I'm so mad for bringing my kids here and booking or family in to sleep here.

Question: My mom called me a dog and a ****** after finding a finishes joint which honestly is traumatizing me do you think she's wrong for it?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 08:39 PM PST

Question: Im very stressed out with anxiety and unsure if I want my family to visit me and my place for the first time?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 08:31 PM PST

I will be honest. I got away from people who wont cuange and I want to live my own life. I dont care if I go ten years without seeing them. Or never again. Only people who dealt with drama will understand.

Question: How can I access an old laptop if I forgot the password?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 07:13 PM PST

I set a password on my laptop when I was 10. My parents made me stop playing it after my eyesight got worse and thought I spent too much time on it. Five years later, I need it for schoolwork and my parents can't get me a new one. The laptop is somehow stuck in time (it shows the wrong time on the screen) so there might also be a mistake. I tried ALL the passwords that I would've used back then. I don't know how to change it or how to access settings. I didn't write it down because I thought my parents were gonna sell it and give it to someone else. All these years it's been sitting in my room.

Question: Everyday, my mom threatens to marry me off. what should i do?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 07:05 PM PST

she got married at 17. i'm 16. like every teenager, i've taken an interest in fashion and makeup. my mom is very traditional and strict and hates when i do anything that's not related to school. she hates it if i ever talk to guys (i can't even talk to my own guy cousins) and she will beat me if i come home 10 minutes late. since i have grown up in america and am attending an american school i tend to stay for afterschool clubs and my fashion taste has changed - i'm no longer wearing long dresses with jeans and sneakers, like my mom wants me to. now she's threatening to marry me off, she looks at me and says if you keep this up i'll marry you off, i'm looking for a guy for you, etc. it's frustrating, and it's scarring for my 16 year old mind, and i'm scared and terrified at my mother and at life. i want to live and grow in america, but my mom wants me to pretend im living in my home country. tl;dr my mom is a tiger mom and is serious about marrying me off and i dont know what to do.

Question: I m in eight grade. I met a nice girl and we ve hung out a few times. She doesn t know my mom. My aunt is hosting a Christmas Eve party.?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 07:04 PM PST

I wanna ask my mom if she can come. But I don t know how my mom, aunt or friend will handle it. Opinions?

Question: Should i have posted that comment? Was it bad? I’m so jealous of my dad for being able to get her and have a baby with her i want that?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 07:02 PM PST

So about 7 years ago i went on a few dates with a girl. She was a couple years older than me. I kind of liked her thought she was good looking etc. Neve went out again never communicated with her much after that. 7 years later, my 55 yr old dad says he's dating a younger girl named Rita. I think that reminds me of who i went out with years ago on a few dates. Well low and behold she just moved back after completing grad school works at my dads work and they're involved with each other. I told him that we had gone a couple of times like 7 years ago. He wa shocked and asked how i felt about it. I said i didn't care. He told her about it and she remembered me. She's obviously changed a little since then having matured and had more life experience. I still found myself very attracted to her and then when I found she was expecting it literally drove me crazy and i have a gf but Rita was all i could think about. So Rita had the baby last night and posted on Facebook that they just welcomed a baby girl.....people congratulated her and my dad and right away two women are posting "when is she going to have baby #2?" Of course i said something stupid! I posted "i can't believe I'm saying this but congrats to you and my dad!" Should i have said that? Does it make me look like I'm jealous which i am but still have something for her?

Question: Are my parents abusive?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 06:56 PM PST

i was joking with my friends about **** our parents tell us and i mentioned how my dad calls me an idiot and my mom gets angry with me if i don't get straight A's and they call me an ungrateful ***** and a mistake and then my friends got really quiet and were trying to tell me i'm being abused by my parents but like they never hit me so is it actually abusive?? they've always been like this

Question: My friends and family don't like my fiancee?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 06:47 PM PST

I grew up pretty rich and so did all my family and friends I think one of the main reasons they don't like her is cause she grew up poor. But I really love her and I think she is amazing. She works as a psychologist and likes to travel. My family thinks she's a gold digger and my friends thinks shes a b*tch. How can I get them to like her

Question: Why do i feel like this?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 06:33 PM PST

hi.. okay so i am 15 and just all of a sudden i feel weird and awkward around my parents. I hate this feeling cause me and my parents were close but it's just weird to be around them and i'm scared.. i dont know what's happenening... any advice?

Question: I'm a 16 y/o girl and my big bro who talks loud just screamed stop being a brat. Like 10 ppl looked at me I too old to be called a brat?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 06:30 PM PST

It was in public so it was embarrassing. And there was a kid from my school. HE TALKS SO LOUD So I kept my head down the rest of dinner and was just on my phone Bc I was annoyed. And he said it's so disrespectful to be on your phone. And I told him to shut up and he was like do you know how to respect your elders Bc he's like 30 something and blah blah blah. Then I told him to F off and he like ripped my phone out of his pocket and still hasn't given it back (I'm on my computer). And my mom did nothing. And I stated crying Bc he ripped it out of my hands. And then he screamed stop throwing a temper tantrum. Like wtf in way too old to be called a brat and the word temper tantrum. Is this weird to you?

Question: I regret not enjoying my vacation with my parents? How do I convince them to travel again?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 06:30 PM PST

My parents are from SE Asia and took me there two summers ago when I was out of school for break. I didn't know how to feel about it and did not try to enjoy the trip at all. All I could think about was going back to America, to be in my bedroom, and just play computer games. Now that I think about it, I've realized how fun it is to travel to places outside my own bubble, with lots of people around, and miss SE Asia a lot. I want to travel back there next summer but don't know how to convince my parents. Any ideas? Will they laugh at me for regretting not enjoying the vacation?

Question: Child custody - what can really happen? Please I know my mistakes , just positive answers.?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 06:19 PM PST

Long story short, my child father is mad that I'm going for child support so now he wants to find ways for him to take the kids from me. I will admit that it looks bad because I have been unstable but on the account of him. I had my own apartment, I moved out because he wanted his family to stay with him. Now he kicked me out and I have to live with my mom on an airbed. Which I know will look bad in court. But I really don't have nothing since he kicked me out. Their father is very spiteful and will do anything to get back at me. He tries to believe he's the better parent but he's really not. I know for a fact he will lose because it's a long list of domestic violence and he once gave my son a black eye by throwing a shoe at his eye. Even tho he has a house and they have their own, the environment won't be so safe. Honestly I hate that I have to even deal with the petty bull crap. When it is what it is. I don't be bitter. I cooperate and I let things be how they are. I only ask for support instead of begging him to give me something and tell me he don't got it when he got his car fixed and tinted windows. I just want a healthy relationship so our kids don't have to grow up in a negative situation but I see that won't happen. What do I do?

Question: Meus pais realmente gostam de mim?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 05:37 PM PST

Meus pais não me apoiam mesmo nos momentos de dificuldade, eles banalizam todos os meus problemas, se eu estou triste eles dizem que não tenho motivos para estar triste pois eu tenho tudo; eles também me tratam extremamente mal, além de chegarem bem tarde em casa, eles acabam brigando/discutindo por conta do trabalho. Porém ontem foi a gota d'água, eu estava indo dormir e sem querer escutei o meu pai resmungando algo para a minha mãe, ele disse que eu era uma das causas dos problemas dele e disse que eu era um mal agradecido. Estou pensando seriamente em ir morar em outro lugar, porém só tenho 15 anos..

Question: My dad basically spied on me...?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 05:32 PM PST

I'm a 17 year old girl. My dad went out of town for a few nights and left me home alone, and he told me I wasn't allowed to invite my boyfriend to spend the night while he was gone. I invited my bf over anyway (I know it was wrong, please don't lecture me) and when my dad came home he got mad at me and said he knew what I'd done. I asked him how he found out, and he took me outside and showed me a hidden camera he'd set up on the corner of the house facing the driveway. He'd been watching the driveway while he was away and he saw my boyfriend pull up and leave his car at our house all night. I think that was a huge invasion of privacy, but my dad says there's nothing wrong with it because he was just spying on the outside of the house...not the inside. I'm 17, I should be allowed to have privacy, right? Whose side are you on, mine or my dad's?

Question: My familycwants to come over for christmas but Im torn between feeling guilty or unsure about it?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 05:26 PM PST

They are controlling and have tempers with bi polar drama. Ive lived on my own and my place is a mess but they think Im avoiding them. At tge same time I dont want drama or judging me or just to check up on me why suddenlyvI dont need them in my life right now. But I hooe maybe it will work out but I dont know if I want my mom knowing my address too. Next year might be better for me but they want to deliver gifts too. I asked if we can meet at a restaurant instead but I got no reply. I miss the family dog too. Its really just an uncertainty they will look down on me or my place too. Or if everyones dogs will get along. Plus my mom saud she will never accept my girlfriend I live with because shes older. My mom wants me to move back in also but I am happier working and having my own place.

Question: Jealousy but holding it inside don’t know what else to do. Said something dumb on FB!?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 05:01 PM PST

So about 7 years ago i went on a few dates with a girl. She was a couple years older than me. I kind of liked her thought she was good looking etc. Neve went out again never communicated with her much after that. 7 years later, my 55 yr old dad says he's dating a younger girl named Rita. I think that reminds me of who i went out with years ago on a few dates. Well low and behold she just moved back after completing grad school works at my dads work and they're involved with each other. I told him that we had gone a couple of times like 7 years ago. He wa shocked and asked how i felt about it. I said i didn't care. He told her about it and she remembered me. She's obviously changed a little since then having matured and had more life experience. I still found myself very attracted to her and then when I found she was expecting it literally drove me crazy and i have a gf but Rita was all i could think about. So Rita had the baby last night and posted on Facebook that they just welcomed a baby girl.....people congratulated her and my dad and right away two women are posting "when is she going to have baby #2?" Of course i said something stupid! I posted "i can't believe I'm saying this but congrats to you and my dad!" Should i have said that? Does it make me look like I'm jealous which i am but still have something for her?

Question: Should I let my Mom live with me in my new home?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 05:01 PM PST

My mom wasn't the best Mom growing up. She tore my self esteem and brought me down in many ways. Im supposed to purchase a home and my mom lives in a hotel with her husband. She asked to live with me. Deep down I want freedom but hate seeing her live this way.

Question: How to set things right without being meddlesome?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 04:03 PM PST

I've been babysitting my goddaughter's eldest son (and then her twin toddlers) for a long time. Sadly, she passed away earlier this year after a pregnancy complication. I'm devastated and trying to help around as much as I can. Her widower (the twins' father) is broken-hearted and not coping very well. Now my own daughter is expecting her first baby (in France) and I need to be with her because of some urgent matters. I don't feel good leaving the family, though. The young man is completely alone with the three kids because his in-laws - his mother-in-law is my close friend - dislike him so much (and I actually (and quietly) side with him because the dislike is simply not well-founded and wrong; it's just because he comes from a broken family). Anyway he also said recently that it's finally better that his in-laws is staying out of the picture because they drive him crazy and only want to take the kids away. He loves them for sure, but recently he also often falls ill and is generally becoming rather scatterbrained. Would it be wrong of me to ask my friend to check on her son-in-law despite this? I'll be away for at least 4 months (and there will be only a part-time baby-sitter). I worry that whatever I'm doing is wrong.

Question: This doesn’t seem fair to me?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 03:56 PM PST

Im 19, work full time, go to college part time and I live with my mom and sister, who is 17, and still in high school. My mom informed me that she has to go to work early tomorrow morning and that, because she does and she won't be here, I need to wake my sister up tomorrow at 5:45am to catch the bus. (Backstory: somehow whenever my mom isn't home, and I am, my sister coincidentally misses the bus.) My mom then informed me that, if my sister misses the bus, that I have to take her to school. I don't think this is right and I can't ever voice my opinion to my mom because she shuns and yells at me, so I didn't say anything. I would like y'all opinion on this.

Question: How do I avoid being sad about losses in the family on Christmas this year (last two years have been bad)?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 03:29 PM PST

My grandmother died in 2014. We had Christmas that year and it was civil. Then the feuding started and now most her kids are distant and there is no Christmas celebration. It is my Mom's family and my Dad left when I was a baby so my Mom is all I have and her family. My Mom is the neutral party in the feuding but everyone resents her cause she is not taking their side. She says this will pass. I feel so sad with it not being a family Christmas. Cousins and extended family were the joy I had in Christmas. We tried to set something up the last two years and very few people came and it led to other conflicts. This year will be the year I see no one but my Mom. I am going to act cheery on December 25th and do good deeds at a soup kitchen and all that but how do I get over feeling so sad that I don't have the family connection I had for so long? Christmas is a time of loss I feel and I am sad it is coming. I am well into adulthood (31) but feel so sad. Marking anonymous to discuss family gossip

Question: How do I convince my Grandma to get me a phone?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 03:14 PM PST

My Grandma says I'm not ready for one, and I literally haven't done anything wrong! How can I earn money or convince her to buy me one? BTW I'm only 11

Question: I feel like my parents don t like me my grandad says you do nothing but I do, I take care of the horses, take care of my brother clean, HELP?

Posted: 07 Dec 2017 02:38 PM PST